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[00:00] You can win or lose a sale at a low.
[00:03] You can win or lose a sale at a low.
[00:05] Most salespeople believe that you actually win or lose a deal when you try to close and either say yes or no.
[00:10] I'm going to make a suggestion that it actually starts from the very beginning of that conversation.
[00:13] And I'm going to show you why I mean what I mean here.
[00:28] Okay.
[00:31] So, most salespeople have been taught to ask questions that most sales people ask.
[00:34] We call those, watch right here, predictable questions.
[00:39] Okay.
[00:42] Now, what do I mean by predictable questions?
[00:44] Think about questions that sales people that have tried to sell you anything typically ask you.
[00:48] What would be some common ones?
[00:50] Hey, how's it going today?
[00:51] That would be one, right?
[00:53] So, that's a very predictable question.
[00:57] How's it going? or how's your day going today?
[00:59] How many times do you walk into Best Buy or you
[01:01] times do you walk into Best Buy or you walk in anywhere and a salesperson first comes up to you, what's the first words?
[01:05] comes up to you, what's the first words? Hey, how's it going? How's your day?
[01:06] Hey, how's it going? How's your day? Now, as a consumer, do you genuinely believe that that person gives a damn about how your day is going?
[01:11] believe that that person gives a damn about how your day is going? No, you don't.
[01:12] don't. You just either ignore it, you brush it aside, or your brain says, "Oh, he or she's just trying to get me to like them so they can sell me their thing."
[01:17] he or she's just trying to get me to like them so they can sell me their thing. And instantly, the guard goes up.
[01:20] thing." And instantly, the guard goes up. And when that guard goes up, that's sales resistance.
[01:22] up. And when that guard goes up, that's sales resistance. And now, unfortunately, you have to compete against that sales resistance to get the guard down the rest of the conversation.
[01:26] sales resistance. And now, unfortunately, you have to compete against that sales resistance to get the guard down the rest of the conversation.
[01:29] against that sales resistance to get the guard down the rest of the conversation. I'm going to show you how to get the guard down from the first words out of your mouth.
[01:31] I'm going to show you how to get the guard down from the first words out of your mouth. So, you don't have to compete against that wall resistance.
[01:33] guard down from the first words out of your mouth. So, you don't have to compete against that wall resistance. It makes selling way easier.
[01:36] compete against that wall resistance. It makes selling way easier. You sell way more and your prospects way happier.
[01:37] It makes selling way easier. You sell way more and your prospects way happier. It's really good.
[01:40] more and your prospects way happier. It's really good. What are some other predictable questions?
[01:42] It's really good. What are some other predictable questions? How's the weather?
[01:43] What are some other predictable questions? How's the weather? So, especially if you sell virtually and you're selling to prospects or you could be selling to prospects over the phone, you're calling leads all over the world or whatever.
[01:45] How's the weather? So, especially if you sell virtually and you're selling to prospects or you could be selling to prospects over the phone, you're calling leads all over the world or whatever.
[01:47] So, especially if you sell virtually and you're selling to prospects or you could be selling to prospects over the phone, you're calling leads all over the world or whatever. They go, "How's the weather over there?"
[01:49] selling to prospects or you could be selling to prospects over the phone, you're calling leads all over the world or whatever. They go, "How's the weather over there?"
[01:50] selling to prospects over the phone, you're calling leads all over the world or whatever. They go, "How's the weather over there?"
[01:51] you're calling leads all over the world or whatever. They go, "How's the weather over there?"
[01:53] leads all over the world or whatever. They go, "How's the weather over there?" Okay.
[01:55] They go, "How's the weather over there?" Okay. Would that be a predictable question that that prospect is probably used to every salesperson that's ever tried to sell them ask?
[01:56] Okay. Would that be a predictable question that that prospect is probably used to every salesperson that's ever tried to sell them ask? Yes.
[01:58] question that that prospect is probably used to every salesperson that's ever tried to sell them ask? Yes. We want to
[02:02] tried to sell them ask?
[02:02] Yes.
[02:02] We want to stay away from that because how are sales people viewed in society in general?
[02:06] High status or low status.
[02:08] Low status.
[02:10] Right now that we're changing that.
[02:10] We want to be viewed as high status because if nothing is sold, there's no such thing as an economy.
[02:15] So, you're pretty damn important.
[02:16] That's why I started this company because you are important.
[02:18] Things need to be sold.
[02:19] People need to be helped.
[02:21] Okay?
[02:21] We don't want to ask those particular questions or questions like if you're on virtually or you over the phone as well like where do you live?
[02:26] Okay.
[02:26] Now it doesn't mean you can't ask these questions as you get into the conversation and you build trust and credibility after you build a gap.
[02:35] But right out of the go like knocking on somebody's door if you sell door to door like hey are you the homeowner here?
[02:40] Great.
[02:40] Uh nice to nice to meet you.
[02:42] How are you doing today?
[02:43] Uh what's this about?
[02:45] Instantly because they know you're not genuinely interested in how their day is going.
[02:48] Even if you are, I'd be highly skeptical that you were generally interested in every single prospect's day that you've ever talked to.
[02:53] Let's be real.
[02:55] We all know that.
[02:55] Okay?
[02:56] So, I want to stay away.
[02:56] There's other predictable questions, but I want to stay away from predictable questions because that causes what we call sales
[03:05] causes what we call sales resistance.
[03:07] resistance.
[03:07] Okay?
[03:09] Sales resistance is not your friend if you want to sell a lot.
[03:11] Now, if you're a spelling bee champ, excuse my writing.
[03:14] I'm just writing fast here.
[03:15] So, I apologize to you if you're Jeremy, you didn't spell that right.
[03:17] Sales resistance is not your friend.
[03:19] Disarming the prospect is your friend.
[03:21] So, how do I right here disarm the prospect to let their guard down?
[03:28] to let their guard down?
[03:32] Okay.
[03:36] Now, why is it important for you to get their guard down?
[03:37] Because do human beings buy on logic or emotion?
[03:39] Well, 100% emotion.
[03:41] Brain studies prove that there's no debate in behavioral science.
[03:44] You buy 100% on emotion.
[03:45] You just justify it with logic later.
[03:47] So if the guard goes up when you ask them questions, even if they're the best questions in the world, what type of answers do you typically get back?
[03:49] Vague, generalized, surface level answers because there was something you said or how you said it, how you asked
[04:06] said or how you said it, how you asked it, which we're going to talk about in a second, that triggered that prospect.
[04:09] second, that triggered that prospect. Now the guard's up sales resistance. So, I need to learn how to disarm them where the guard comes down.
[04:15] And how do I keep them disarmed the entire time? What I mean like psychology-wise is you're learning how to calm their nervous system.
[04:20] That's what I mean by disarm the prospect. Okay. I went to school to become a psychologist.
[04:25] I specialize in neurossychology. Boring stuff, but it's the study of the brain and how it works in conjunction with the nervous system.
[04:31] That gave me an advantage among other sales people.
[04:34] They just didn't understand how this stuff worked. Now, I struggled in this in the very beginning because I didn't have it down.
[04:37] took me a while to obviously get this down and uh you know some would say had a very successful sales grow at least grandma tells me that.
[04:44] Now, other reasons why you trigger sales resistance right in the very beginning.
[04:49] That's why I always say you can win or lose a sale at hello because how many times like let's say if you sell door to door, you knocked on the door and you do like your little 30-cond thing.
[04:57] They're like not interested or no, we're good or we're enough or you cold call.
[05:01] Maybe you're cold calling a company, okay? If that's what you saw, if you're in B2B sales, okay, and after like 10 seconds, you're like, "Is this a sales call?" Or, "How
[05:08] like, "Is this a sales call?"
[05:08] Or, "How did you get my number?"
[05:09] Or, "We're not interested or we already have somebody for that."
[05:13] See, that is a triggered reaction based off what you're saying or how you're saying it.
[05:17] So, that's what we're going to talk about next.
[05:19] So, how you're saying it is just actually it's more important.
[05:27] How you're saying it.
[05:30] Okay. Now, what do I mean by that?
[05:32] That represents, let's get this mark over here.
[05:36] That represents your tonality.
[05:40] Okay. Now, if you're like most sales people, you've probably read a lot of sales books that say that 93% of your communication is your non-verbal.
[05:47] Now, what is non-verbal?
[05:48] That means your tonality, your voice, like how you say things, how you ask questions, and your body language.
[05:55] 7% is the words.
[05:58] Now, that's an old study. Okay?
[06:00] Uh most experts now believe with new studies, it's actually about 70% is your nonverbal.
[06:02] So 70% is the actual tonality, how you say it, and your body
[06:08] tonality, how you say it, and your body language.
[06:10] 30% is your word.
[06:10] So words do matter.
[06:12] Questions do matter, but it's how I ask them that matters the most.
[06:14] What are some patterns that most prospects would be used to from most salespeople?
[06:18] How they sound?
[06:18] Okay.
[06:20] Most sales people when they first talk to the prospect, they come across sounding what?
[06:25] Way too excited.
[06:29] Now I don't mean be boring.
[06:33] There is a middle ground.
[06:35] You don't want to come across way.
[06:37] Hey, hey, John.
[06:37] I'm so happy that you're here today.
[06:38] That's obnoxious.
[06:40] It It reminds people of like the old slickbacked used car salesperson.
[06:45] And no offense to my used car salespeople.
[06:45] We love you.
[06:47] We train a ton of dealerships that crush it.
[06:48] But you want to settle that excitement back.
[06:50] Like I said, you're not going to be up here, but you don't want to be way down here where you're boring.
[06:56] Okay?
[06:56] There's a middle ground.
[06:57] I'll show you what that means in a second.
[06:59] The second way most sales people come across in their tone when they first start talking to a prospect and that could be inbound leads who book on the calendar that maybe you meet virtually or maybe you meet them at their home or maybe you meet in an
[07:08] Their home or maybe you meet in an office if you sell to companies.
[07:10] That could be you calling on the phone.
[07:13] Okay, that could be you knocking on the door.
[07:14] It it doesn't really matter.
[07:16] We can come across that way.
[07:17] Anyways, the second way most sales people come across that you want to avoid is you come across timid or nervous.
[07:26] Would I be right?
[07:29] Okay. Oh, uh, yeah, John.
[07:31] Uh, I'm so sorry to bother you.
[07:33] Like, when can I call back?
[07:36] That's a timid and nervous tone.
[07:37] That represents what?
[07:38] That you don't know really you're talking.
[07:41] You're not an expert.
[07:43] Because would an expert come across as timid and nervous?
[07:46] No.
[07:49] Would an expert also come across way too excited like a, you know, no pun intended, a used car salesperson from 30 years ago?
[07:50] They wouldn't, right?
[07:52] An expert doesn't talk like that.
[07:53] They don't need to talk like that.
[07:55] The third way that most sales people come across that triggers sales resistance is they come across monotone.
[07:59] Okay, monotone like a what?
[08:03] Like a telemarketer.
[08:05] How many of you have ever answered a phone call from a telemarketer?
[08:07] What do they
[08:08] Call from a telemarketer?
[08:08] What do they sound like?
[08:08] Hey Judy, it's James Miller.
[08:10] Hey Judy, it's James Miller with XYZ company.
[08:12] The reason why I was calling you was and it sounds like they're reading a script.
[08:13] They're reading a script.
[08:14] They're monotone.
[08:17] They talk in one voice like this.
[08:17] And that triggers what?
[08:19] Sales resistance.
[08:19] Because sales people or prospects are used to what?
[08:21] They're our brains pick up patterns and if we sound like all these other sales people they always talk to that they've had negative experiences with for the most part they're probably going to have their guard up.
[08:23] Okay.
[08:23] So we want to come across a lot differently.
[08:25] So with our tone there's different ways.
[08:27] So what is the right tone?
[08:29] Okay.
[08:31] Now why is tonality so important?
[08:33] Write this down.
[08:35] Your tone is how the prospect interprets your intention behind everything you say.
[08:37] And ask.
[08:39] That's how interpret the meaning behind what you're asking, the meaning behind your questions.
[08:42] Because when I'll give you an example of this, okay, let's say that you're going across the street and you hear somebody scream like yelling like just you they just yell.
[08:45] What instantly do you do?
[08:47] You're like this.
[09:09] Instantly do you do? You're like this.
[09:09] You you instantly move, right?
[09:12] That's fight or flight response.
[09:13] You're instantly reacting.
[09:15] That's your survival part of your brain.
[09:16] You don't even know what was said.
[09:19] You just heard the sound.
[09:19] The tone sounded bad.
[09:22] like something bad was happened.
[09:25] Okay.
[09:25] Now, instantly your body does this because your brain is reacting survival part of your brain.
[09:27] and then very quickly the words start going up to scientists have different names for this.
[09:29] Let's call it the midbrain area.
[09:32] Your words go that the words of that person who scream go into your midbrain area that starts to interpret what the words mean.
[09:34] And by the time it gets to your neoortex, which is your problem solving part of your brain that says, "Oh yeah, that lady, this is not a big deal.
[09:35] That lady was just yelling at her kid to be safe cross crossing the street.
[09:37] I'm okay.
[09:39] But first, your body, your nervous system reacted to what?
[09:41] The tonality, not the words.
[09:43] The words came second.
[09:45] That's why tone how you say something.
[09:47] Because I'll ask you this.
[09:50] Have you ever wondered why salespeople selling the same thing to the same prospects, same
[10:10] same thing to the same prospects, same type of prospects, using the same type of prospects, using the same script, using the same price points, how script, using the same price points, how do those sales people get completely do those sales people get completely different results?
[10:19] It's how they say things. It's how they ask questions.
[10:22] The tonality. Okay. So important. All right.
[10:24] If anybody tells you tonality is not important, that just means they have no they just never sold at a high level.
[10:28] They just don't have the experience. You can go to acting school and the best acting trainers will tell you tonality.
[10:36] Body language like keeps people engaged or has them turn off the show if it's not there.
[10:40] Ask them how many advanced tonality courses have they taken.
[10:43] Probably none. The experts all agree. your tone, body language, non-verbal tonality, body language that represents 70% of you making that deal.
[10:53] It's kind of important. So, there's five types of tone that you definitely want to master.
[10:56] I'll write down a few of these here. The first one is more of a curious tone.
[11:00] Okay? Now, you don't want to come across like fake. You know, when you're learning something new, it takes a while.
[11:06] You have to really rehearse it. It's like you're like a a young actor or actress. You go out to Hollywood and
[11:11] Actress. You go out to Hollywood and your first auditions kind of sound what?
[11:13] Your first auditions kind of sound what? Kind of rehearsed, kind of fake.
[11:15] So you you have to really practice these tones.
[11:17] You have to really be trained by somebody who's mastered it themselves, right?
[11:20] Because if it comes across like you're like it's a technique, it seems kind of weird, right?
[11:24] Number two. So curious tone is and let's go back to curious tone is more used to like find out information.
[11:30] Oh, walk me through what what do you have now for XYZ?
[11:33] That's just a curious tone. I'm curious. I sound curious.
[11:37] Remember the tone is how they interpret your intention behind everything you say and ask.
[11:41] If you come across curious, they interpret that you are curious about that.
[11:45] That's why they're more than likely to open up.
[11:47] Okay. Another context, I might need to use a confused tone.
[11:51] Now, it's funny because when clients come into our training program sometimes ask me like, "Well, Jeremy, what do you mean by confused tone?
[11:59] Like, I got to be sure about what I sell." 100%.
[12:01] I don't mean you're confused like you're 106 and you have dementia confused like, "Oh, I don't know how it works."
[12:07] Confused in certain context.
[12:11] So let's say if a
[12:12] Certain context.
[12:12] So let's say if a prospect says, "Oh man, this problem has caused us so much frustration."
[12:18] Hold on.
[12:18] How how do you mean by frustration?
[12:22] See, I'm confused.
[12:22] I don't understand.
[12:25] I'm asking for clarity.
[12:25] See, that's what I would use a confused tone.
[12:27] Okay.
[12:27] When I'm asking for clarity, like I don't quite understand something.
[12:31] Now, even if you do understand 100%.
[12:33] I want them to open up emotionally and tell me more about that.
[12:38] Hold on.
[12:38] when you say XYZ problem, how long has that been going on?
[12:41] See, I say I'm confused, a little bit concerned there as well.
[12:43] Okay?
[12:43] And that causes the prospect's brain to like, oh, he didn't understand what I meant by that.
[12:48] I need to explain that better.
[12:49] And that's when they start to open up.
[12:52] Okay?
[12:52] But if I didn't use a confused tone in that context, unless they were lay down, unlikely they would ever open up to that.
[12:58] That one little thing right there, confused tone in that context, can make you a ton of sales that you might not be aware you're losing right now.
[13:03] Okay?
[13:03] There's other examples I could give you.
[13:07] Number three, challenging tone.
[13:11] Okay, now you can't use a challenging tone at the beginning
[13:13] Use a challenging tone at the beginning of a conversation.
[13:15] That doesn't make any sense.
[13:16] Okay, you can't challenge somebody because how much trust or credibility do you have in the first couple of minutes of a conversation?
[13:21] Not very much.
[13:23] But let's say I get three-fourths of the way in.
[13:25] I build a gap from where they are to where they want to be.
[13:27] That causes them to emotionally attach because they feel pain.
[13:29] Okay?
[13:31] And they feel like, hey, this could keep going or it could get worse or it could happen in the future.
[13:35] Maybe they don't have pain now, but it could happen in the future.
[13:36] So, they start to feel that pain.
[13:38] There's more trust there.
[13:40] There's most more emotional bonding.
[13:42] And so, I can challenge them more because there's more trust there.
[13:44] I can say, "What happens if you don't do anything about this?"
[13:48] And this actually gets worse.
[13:50] See, there's a little bit of a challenging tone at the very beginning.
[13:51] See, I do that.
[13:53] A lot more to that.
[13:55] Uh, this is so fun.
[13:59] Number four, this is a big one.
[14:01] A concern tone.
[14:03] A tone that shows empathy.
[14:06] Now, not everything you say or question should sound concerned, but you want the prospect in certain circumstances to feel like you are generally concerned for them because you should be.
[14:09] Let's say if you sold life insurance, for
[14:13] Say if you sold life insurance, for example, okay, and I might ask a question like, so let's say that you you know you pass away years before you you thought you would because I mean you're smart.
[14:21] We none of us know our day and hour.
[14:23] It's just with death. There's no if, it's just when.
[14:28] How many months would Cindy be able to pay for the mortgage, the cars, and the expenses without your income?
[14:35] See the shift? Sounded concerned. I'm concerned for this consequence happening.
[14:40] Now, when the prospect feels like you're concerned for this, the consequences, you're concerned uh if they don't do anything, you're showing empathy to them.
[14:49] Do you feel like that lowers your trust or builds trust compared to like, well, how many months are you is she going to be able to pay things without your income, man?
[14:58] Now you're defensive. Now the prospect's guard goes up. Okay?
[15:00] So tonality matters a lot if you want to get to the top in sales.
[15:05] People who say tonality doesn't matter never got to the top yet.
[15:08] They just haven't got to the top. They don't have the experience. They've never taken
[15:14] Have the experience.
[15:15] They've never taken advanced tonality because they just advanced tonality because they just don't know about it.
[15:17] Like if you you don't know about it.
[15:18] Like if you you always down something, you always criticize something that you don't have.
[15:19] Criticize something that you don't have any background in, that you don't have any understanding of, that you don't have any knowledge of.
[15:23] People are always going to criticize that until they learn it.
[15:26] Okay? And number five, this is a really important one.
[15:29] A playful tone.
[15:32] Playful. Let me write that here so you guys can see it.
[15:34] Playful tone. Okay. So, give me an example.
[15:37] So, instead of saying like, "How's it going today?"
[15:41] Or something. You could come in and you could say like if if you're a person that's like man Jeremy like we we get clients our advance inner circle program.
[15:47] They're like man I don't know I've been saying how's it going today for 12 years.
[15:51] I I it's weird if I don't say it to start a conversation.
[15:53] I was like okay if you really have to say it cuz once again we all know the prospects don't genuinely believe that you really give a damn about how their days go and let's be real.
[16:03] I can relanguage it because I want to break the pattern.
[16:05] Okay that's called write this down.
[16:07] It's called a pattern interrupt.
[16:17] Pattern interrupt. Okay. So, I can say pattern interrupt. Okay. So, I can say let's say if I got on Zoom. All right.
[16:22] Let's say if I got on Zoom. All right. Uh let's see. I think you booked looks like you just reading what you you you put here in this application.
[16:25] Looks like you booked on the counter today about I guess Hey, crazy idea. Maybe losing some weight so you get healthier, right?
[16:33] Let's say if I sold a fitness package or I'm some type of fitness trainer. I'm just throwing out a random example.
[16:40] So, I'm getting them into results-based thinking and then they're like, "Yeah, yeah, right."
[16:44] And then the conversation starts going and then let's say they ask you how you're doing. Well, how are you doing over there?
[16:49] Let's say they ask you that first. What would most sales people say? Oh, I'm doing good. Just working away, just drinking coffee. Oh, it's you know, that doesn't really it doesn't really help you to say that, but it doesn't really hurt you to say that either.
[17:00] That's more middle ground. Instead, I want to interrupt the pattern. I'm gonna use in that example more of a playful tone.
[17:09] And I'll tell you why that's important for you in a second. So they say, "How how you doing today, Jeremy?"
[17:13] "Oh, you know, just hanging out, being boring. What about you? What have you been up to today?"
[17:17] you? What have you been up to today?
[17:17] Oh, I'm sure you're not boring.
[17:20] Oh, I'm sure you're not boring.
[17:20] Now, I'm not using a playful tone there to be the class clown.
[17:24] I'm not using a playful tone there to be the class clown.
[17:24] I'm using that skillfully.
[17:27] the class clown. I'm using that skillfully.
[17:27] Do you know why?
[17:30] skillfully. Do you know why?
[17:30] Because when the prospect laughs, that releases what's called dopamine in the brain.
[17:34] when the prospect laughs, that releases what's called dopamine in the brain.
[17:34] Dopamine calms the nervous system.
[17:36] what's called dopamine in the brain. Dopamine calms the nervous system.
[17:36] That's disarming the prospect.
[17:38] Dopamine calms the nervous system. That's disarming the prospect.
[17:38] So, I'm using a playful tone there when they like, "Oh, sure, Jere. I'm sure you're not boring."
[17:40] That's disarming the prospect. So, I'm using a playful tone there when they
[17:42] using a playful tone there when they like, "Oh, sure, Jere. I'm sure you're not boring."
[17:42] Okay. To lower their guard, to let their guard down.
[17:44] like, "Oh, sure, Jere. I'm sure you're not boring." Okay. To lower their guard, to let their guard down.
[17:47] not boring." Okay. To lower their guard, to let their guard down. Or they could say, "How you doing today, Jeremy?"
[17:47] Or they could say, "How you doing today, Jeremy?"
[17:48] say, "How you doing today, Jeremy?" I could I just There's different things.
[17:49] I could I just There's different things. I I could tell you a hundred different things.
[17:51] different things. I I could tell you a hundred different things.
[17:51] We teach all this in our inner circle mastery courses for clients.
[17:52] things. We teach all this in our inner circle mastery courses for clients.
[17:54] circle mastery courses for clients. I could say like, "Oh, you know, just trying to stay out of trouble."
[17:54] I could say like, "Oh, you know, just trying to stay out of trouble."
[17:56] clients. I could say like, "Oh, you know, just trying to stay out of trouble. What about you? You've been getting in trouble over there."
[17:56] I could say like, "Oh, you know, just trying to stay out of trouble."
[17:57] "Oh, you know, just trying to stay out of trouble. What about you? You've been getting in trouble over there."
[17:57] What about you? You've been getting in trouble over there.
[17:59] you? You've been getting in trouble over there. Oh, no. I've been good.
[17:59] Oh, no. I've been good.
[17:59] trouble over there. Oh, no. I've been good. See, it's the same thing, but I'm using a playful tone.
[17:59] See, it's the same thing, but I'm using a playful tone.
[18:01] good. See, it's the same thing, but I'm using a playful tone. Cuz what if I said this?
[18:01] Cuz what if I said this?
[18:02] using a playful tone. Cuz what if I said this? How you doing today, Jeremy?
[18:02] How you doing today, Jeremy?
[18:04] this? How you doing today, Jeremy? Oh, yeah. Just uh being boring today.
[18:04] Oh, yeah. Just uh being boring today.
[18:07] today, Jeremy? Oh, yeah. Just uh being boring today. How about you?
[18:07] How about you?
[18:09] today. How about you? Whoa, that is boring. Sounds kind of weird.
[18:09] Whoa, that is boring. Sounds kind of weird.
[18:12] boring. Sounds kind of weird. Oh, uh just trying to stay out of trouble.
[18:12] Oh, uh just trying to stay out of trouble.
[18:15] kind of weird. Oh, uh just trying to stay out of trouble. Are you getting any trouble over there?
[18:15] Are you getting any trouble over there?
[18:16] stay out of trouble. Are you getting any trouble over there? Weird. See, that
[18:19] Trouble over there? Weird.
[18:19] See, that doesn't that makes no sense.
[18:21] Okay, so I doesn't that makes no sense.
[18:23] Okay, so I have to use a playful tone there for them to open up.
[18:25] You starting to get this? Okay.
[18:27] Uh this is just lots of fun stuff. Okay.
[18:29] So remember, we want to focus on we want to stay away from predictable questions that everybody asks.
[18:33] Okay. We want to work on mastering our tonality, not being a dabbler or a winger in tonality.
[18:40] We want to master this because your tone, that's how they interpret your intention behind everything you say and ask.
[18:47] Okay? Always remember this, and I learned this the hard way.
[18:51] When I got my first sales job, so I'm taking you back what this is, I'm taking you back like 24 years.
[18:57] I got my first sales job going into my senior year in college.
[18:59] I was studying to become a psychologist.
[19:01] This was out in the state of Utah, Utah Valley uh University.
[19:05] And uh had to get my first job.
[19:08] I was about to get married, had a kid on the way, my beautiful daughter Cammy, and had no choice.
[19:12] You had to get a job.
[19:14] And since I didn't have a degree or anything, what's the option? Sales.
[19:19] or anything, what's the option? Sales.
[19:21] So I got this job selling home security systems.
[19:23] And I still remember the manager today.
[19:24] They told us in the meeting, hey, you got to knock on a 100 doors.
[19:26] You're going to talk to 30 people.
[19:28] 70 of them aren't going to be home or they don't come or whatever.
[19:30] So, you're going to talk to 30 people, and your goal is to sell one of those 30.
[19:35] Well, in my mind, I'm like, well, why do I want to sell one out of 30?
[19:37] I can help all 30 of those people.
[19:39] That doesn't make any sense.
[19:41] Why do I want to sell one out of 30?
[19:42] Like, they could have a breakin.
[19:44] They have problems, right?
[19:46] I need to solve these problems.
[19:47] I need to prevent stuff from happening to them.
[19:49] Nobody knows if they're going to have a breakin till it happens.
[19:50] Okay?
[19:52] It's like an insurance policy.
[19:54] So anyways, we go out there, start knocking on the doors.
[19:56] Well, I'm just following the script they gave us, all that kind of stuff.
[19:57] I didn't know all this obviously stuff I know now.
[19:59] Okay.
[20:01] And you know, the first couple weeks I'm like, "Wow, lots of doors slamming in my face, not hardly making any sales."
[20:04] But what what would most sales people do when they get hung up on or the prospect says no or they if you sell door to door, they slam the door in the face?
[20:06] Who do they blame?
[20:08] Do they blame themselves or the prospects?
[20:21] they blame themselves or the prospects? Most blame the prospects, right? And
[20:23] Most blame the prospects, right? And most sales people say like, "Oh, you
[20:25] most sales people say like, "Oh, you know, if you sold door, oh, this
[20:26] know, if you sold door, oh, this neighborhood's bad." Okay? Or you sell
[20:29] neighborhood's bad." Okay? Or you sell other things like, "Oh, all my prospects
[20:30] other things like, "Oh, all my prospects are broke." Or, "The leads are duds."
[20:32] are broke." Or, "The leads are duds." Okay? We never blame our lack of what?
[20:34] Okay? We never blame our lack of what? Skill level. Okay? I didn't do that just
[20:37] Skill level. Okay? I didn't do that just because I'm studying human psychology,
[20:40] because I'm studying human psychology, human behavior in university at that
[20:42] human behavior in university at that time. Specialized in neurosychology,
[20:44] time. Specialized in neurosychology, studied the brain, how it works with the
[20:45] studied the brain, how it works with the nervous system like I mentioned. And I
[20:48] nervous system like I mentioned. And I start reverse engineering. I'm like,
[20:49] start reverse engineering. I'm like, "Oh, I didn't I didn't blame the person.
[20:51] "Oh, I didn't I didn't blame the person. I'm like, "Oh, what did I like after
[20:53] I'm like, "Oh, what did I like after they slam the door be like, "Oh, what
[20:54] they slam the door be like, "Oh, what did I say or what did I ask or how did I
[20:57] did I say or what did I ask or how did I ask that that triggered that reaction in
[20:59] ask that that triggered that reaction in their nervous system?" So, I'm reverse
[21:00] their nervous system?" So, I'm reverse engineering all this. Okay. Now, it took
[21:02] engineering all this. Okay. Now, it took me two or three months to kind of figure
[21:04] me two or three months to kind of figure it out. And obviously after that, I got
[21:06] it out. And obviously after that, I got way better every month, every year, all
[21:08] way better every month, every year, all that stuff. Like, you should if you're
[21:09] that stuff. Like, you should if you're if you're mastering sales and
[21:10] if you're mastering sales and persuasion, which I know that's probably
[21:11] persuasion, which I know that's probably why you're here, and that's smart of you
[21:13] why you're here, and that's smart of you to be here. Okay? But the point is is
[21:16] to be here. Okay? But the point is is never blame the prospects. Reverse
[21:18] never blame the prospects. Reverse engineer it. like, "Oh, what am I
[21:19] engineer it. like, "Oh, what am I saying? What am I asking? What what how
[21:21] saying? What am I asking? What what how did I cause that objection?" It's not
[21:23] did I cause that objection?" It's not like the prospect like woke up that
[21:25] like the prospect like woke up that morning and said, "You know what? When
[21:27] morning and said, "You know what? When that salesperson calls me at 3:35 or
[21:29] that salesperson calls me at 3:35 or when that salesperson comes over the
[21:31] when that salesperson comes over the house, or you know, when I meet that
[21:32] house, or you know, when I meet that salesperson virtually at 4 to XYZ, I
[21:35] salesperson virtually at 4 to XYZ, I think I'm going to go into fight
[21:36] think I'm going to go into fight orflight mode 2 minutes in and say,
[21:38] orflight mode 2 minutes in and say, "Enough with the questions. Just tell me
[21:40] "Enough with the questions. Just tell me how much it's going to cost. I'll tell
[21:41] how much it's going to cost. I'll tell you if I'm interested." Is that a
[21:43] you if I'm interested." Is that a planned objection or was there something
[21:45] planned objection or was there something you said or maybe how you said it?
[21:48] you said or maybe how you said it? tonality that triggered that reaction in
[21:51] tonality that triggered that reaction in their nervous system to go into fight or
[21:53] their nervous system to go into fight or flight mode. I think you're starting to
[21:54] flight mode. I think you're starting to get this now. Okay. Now, you probably
[21:56] get this now. Okay. Now, you probably have some questions about You're
[21:57] have some questions about You're probably asking yourself like, "Hey, how
[21:58] probably asking yourself like, "Hey, how because this this is pretty basic what I
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[22:06] use this for what I sell? How do I tie this into my industry?" And that's smart
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