# Wayne Dyer - How to Be a No-Limit Person

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjhTlYfLQGk
Translation: zh-CN

[00:06] The first 10 years of my life I spent uh in a series of foster homes and orphanages.
  我生命中的头十年，嗯，是在一系列寄养家庭和孤儿院度过的。

[00:13] My mother had um three boys by the time she was very young in her early 20s and my father abandoned his family.
  我母亲在她很年轻的时候，二十出头的时候，嗯，有了三个儿子，而我的父亲抛弃了他的家庭。

[00:21] He just left, he took off one day.
  他就离开了，有一天就走了。

[00:24] Well, I was born in 1940 and uh there was a depression in the world.
  嗯，我出生于1940年，嗯，当时世界上有经济萧条。

[00:27] There was a war getting going, um, there was no welfare, there were no food stamps, things like that.
  战争正在进行，嗯，没有福利，没有食品券，诸如此类的事情。

[00:36] So my brother Dave and I, uh, my next oldest brother, uh, went into a series of homes and ended up in a uh orphanage kind of place out in Mount Clemens, Michigan.
  所以我和我的兄弟戴夫，嗯，我次大的兄弟，嗯，经历了一系列家庭，最后去了密歇根州芒特克莱门斯的一个孤儿院一样的地方。

[00:47] And my oldest brother went with my grandmother N9 or 10 and then and got us back together.
  我最大的兄弟和我祖母一起去了，九岁或十岁，然后，然后把我们聚在了一起。

[00:58] But being poor means you think
  但贫穷意味着你认为

[01:02] Poor self-worth comes from one thing, a belief that you are worthy.
  低自尊源于一件事，那就是你认为自己是有价值的。

[01:09] Teacher, therapist, consulting psychologist, and best-selling author Wayne.
  老师、治疗师、咨询心理学家和畅销书作家韦恩。

[01:26] Dyer, thank you.
  戴尔，谢谢你。

[01:32] Thank you so much.
  非常感谢。

[01:34] Enough, enough, thank you, thank you.
  够了，够了，谢谢，谢谢。

[01:38] I appreciate it so much.
  我非常感激。

[01:41] The uh topic, if there is such a thing for today, is uh choosing your own greatness.
  今天的议题，如果非要说有什么议题的话，那就是选择你自己的伟大。

[01:50] Or uh being a no-limit person, taking charge of your own life.
  或者说成为一个没有限制的人，掌控你自己的生活。

[01:55] Something I really believe that you are the sum total of all of the the choices that you've made up until now, and anything.
  我坚信你就是你迄今为止所做的所有选择的总和，以及任何事物。

[02:04] about yourself or your life that you don't like or isn't working or is mobilizing you is to be looked at in terms of can I grow rather than why did I do it or isn't this wrong.
  关于你自己或你的生活，你不喜欢或不奏效或正在激励你的事情，应该从“我能否成长”的角度来看待，而不是“我为什么要这样做”或“这难道不对吗”。

[02:20] see the two ways to motivate yourself are deficiency motivation which says where I am I don't like I don't like what I've done I don't like the fact that I can't do this well or I can't do that well so I will list these things in my own repertoire and then I will be constantly trying to repair those deficiencies always assuming that I'm deficient that there's something wrong with me and I'm trying to fix it.
  你看，激励自己的两种方式是匮乏型动机，它说我现在的状态我不喜欢，我不喜欢我所做的，我不喜欢我做不好这件事，或者我做不好那件事，所以我会列出我自己的这些东西，然后我会不断地试图修复这些缺陷，总是假设我有所欠缺，我有什么不对，我正在努力解决它。

[02:43] and when you do that you spend your whole life doing that and you never arrive because your life becomes a series of trying to get someplace else and it is if you follow that if you live that if you behave that then what you what happens to you is you become a person.
  当你这样做时，你的一生都在做这件事，你永远无法到达目的地，因为你的生活变成了一系列试图到达别处的努力，如果你遵循它，如果你那样生活，如果你那样做，那么你就会变成一个这样的人。

[03:04] who will always suffer from this disease called more you always have to have more
  谁将永远遭受这种被称为更多的疾病的折磨，你总是想要更多

[03:12] because whenever you are getting where you want to go let's say you want $100,000 in the bank and you work and you struggle and you deny yourself and you do all of those things and you finally finally you get there and here you are you got $100,000 in the bank
  因为每当你到达你想去的地方，比如说你想在银行里有十万美元，你努力工作，你挣扎，你克制自己，你做所有那些事情，你终于，终于到达了那里，你就在那里了，你在银行里有十万美元

[03:26] all of this stuff over here is a course your life and that is all you know that's what you know how to that's how you are that is your being that is your way of being
  所有这些东西都是你生活的课程，这就是你所知道的一切，这就是你知道的，这就是你的存在，这就是你的存在方式

[03:35] so that when you do get here what you will do is say this is not enough
  所以当你到达那里时，你会说这还不够

[03:41] you must a No Limit person is never operating from deficiency or from lack in their life
  你必须是一个没有限制的人，永远不要在生活中处于匮乏或不足的状态

[03:51] they're never saying I don't have enough you see you're never going to get enough you already are
  他们从不说我没有足够的，你看，你永远不会得到足够的，你已经拥有了

[04:06] Everything you're everything that you need.
  你所拥有的一切，你所需要的一切。

[04:09] Think of it for just a moment.
  想一想，就一小会儿。

[04:11] Everything that you need to have total bliss, perfection of your life.
  你拥有你生命中获得全然的幸福和完美的全部所需。

[04:16] You already are, you already have it.
  你已经拥有了，你已经得到了。

[04:19] You came into this world with nothing, that's how you're going out.
  你来到这个世界时一无所有，你也将这样离开。

[04:24] And the time that you have here, it what you have is your uniqueness, your specialness.
  而你在这里拥有的时间，你所拥有的就是你的独特性，你的特别之处。

[04:29] And you don't need anything else.
  而你不需要其他任何东西。

[04:32] Now think on this: if you don't know how to appreciate what you have and where you are in your life, you don't need anything else.
  现在想一想：如果你不知道如何欣赏你所拥有的和你生命中所处的位置，你就不需要其他任何东西。

[04:43] Because if you do get something else, you won't know how to appreciate that either.
  因为如果你得到了别的东西，你也不会知道如何欣赏它。

[04:48] You'll just want more, or you'll want it to be different, or you want it to be the way it used to be.
  你只会想要更多，或者你希望它有所不同，或者你希望它回到过去的样子。

[04:58] Or you'll want someone else to be the way you think they should be.
  或者你希望别人能成为你认为他们应该成为的样子。

[05:00] Successful people, or no-limit people, or self-actualizing people, or inner-directed people, however you
  成功人士，或者无极限人士，或者自我实现的人，或者内心导向的人，无论你

[05:08] Whatever labels that have been put on them by great thinkers and philosophers and therapists and people uh that have looked at human beings.
  无论伟大的思想家、哲学家、治疗师以及研究人类的那些人给他们贴上什么标签。

[05:17] These kinds of people are people who always have enough.
  这类人总是拥有足够的资源。

[05:20] There are some people if you invite them over and you say um you know I'd like you to uh I'd like you to come over tonight and i' I'd like you just stay over if you can instead of having to drive back.
  有些人，如果你邀请他们过来，然后你说，嗯，你知道，我想让你，呃，我想让你今晚过来，而且，我想让你今晚就住下，如果你可以的话，不用再开车回去了。

[05:31] And they'll say well can you say can you stay and I say well I don't know if I can stay or not.
  他们会说，嗯，你能说你能留下来吗？我说，嗯，我不知道我能不能留下来。

[05:35] Um well you could sleep on the cot.
  嗯，你可以在折叠床上睡。

[05:38] Oh no no I could never sleep on the c i I can't sleep on cats.
  哦，不，不，我从来不能睡在折叠床上，我不能睡在猫身上。

[05:43] I got a sciatica don't you know that I have I have back pain and I the cats no that's out of the question.
  我得了坐骨神经痛，你不知道吗？我有背痛，而且我不能睡在猫身上，那是不可能的。

[05:47] I couldn't sleep on a cat uh and what about breakfast.
  我不能睡在猫身上，呃，那早餐呢？

[05:51] Well we don't have any food but um we have some old grapefruit that are in the uh in the uh refrigerator.
  嗯，我们没有食物，但是，嗯，我们有一些放在冰箱里的旧葡萄柚。

[05:57] They have a few spots on them.
  它们上面有一些斑点。

[05:59] Oh no I could never eat grapefruit spots no thanks.
  哦，不，我从来不能吃有斑点的葡萄柚，不了，谢谢。

[06:01] I can't eat grapefruit spots I just couldn't do that you know.
  我不能吃有斑点的葡萄柚，我就是做不到，你知道的。

[06:06] Uh and these are people who uh never
  呃，这些人就是，呃，从不

[06:08] have enough they are are not able to be flexible and to change and there are other people
  他们有足够的，他们无法灵活变通和改变，还有其他人

[06:14] if you say would you like to sleep over we got a place in the sewer
  如果你说你想留宿，我们在下水道有个地方

[06:18] hey that'd be great I can handle that no problem I slept there before
  嘿，那太好了，我能应付，没问题，我以前睡过那里

[06:23] it's all and all we have is grapefruit
  总而言之，我们只有葡萄柚

[06:25] oh I love grapefruit well we got this got spots
  哦，我爱葡萄柚，嗯，我们有这个，有斑点

[06:27] I'm oh I really like grapefruits SPS those are terrific I'll I'll go for those
  我，哦，我真的很喜欢葡萄柚，SPS，那些太棒了，我，我选那些

[06:30] there are some people who can handle anything not because their circumstances are different
  有些人可以应付任何事情，不是因为他们的处境不同

[06:37] you see your circumstances have very little to do with your fulfillment in life
  你看，你的处境与你的人生满足感关系不大

[06:41] very little it's it's how you're approaching your circumstances it's your attitude towards your circumstances that make all the difference in the world
  关系甚微，这是你如何看待你的处境，你对你的处境的态度，这让世界大不相同

[06:52] and taking what you are and accepting it
  并且接受你本来的样子

[06:56] I got to show you this
  我得给你看这个

[07:01] I don't know if the camera can get this
  我不知道相机能不能拍到这个

[07:04] this is a little uh advertisement that was in the Detroit Free Press uh
  这是一个小小的广告，刊登在底特律自由新闻报上

[07:10] For uh last September I was giving a speech at the Unity Church of today in Detroit and it says uh Dr Wayne Dyer will talk about your inner child and how to deal effectively with problems in all relationships and it was a real nice ad you can see that then on top of the ad in the same paper there's another ad and the ad says face
  去年九月，我在底特律的今日联合教会发表演讲，上面写着韦恩·戴尔博士将谈论你的内在小孩以及如何有效地处理所有关系中的问题，这是一个非常好的广告，你可以看到，然后广告的顶部，在同一张报纸上，有另一个广告，广告上写着面对

[07:40] it right on top of my head there's no hiding from hair loss and they got a picture of a guy with a box over his head and they have a before and after guy there and they after guy looks like he's just found fulfillment and it says you can't run and you can't hide hair loss is a problem and unless you take action it will
  它就在我的头顶上，无法隐藏脱发，他们还拍了一张一个男人头顶上戴着盒子的照片，还有一个前后对比图，那个之后的人看起来就像找到了满足感，上面写着你无法逃避，也无法隐藏，脱发是一个问题，除非你采取行动，否则它会

[08:11] Continue. Now we've got to look at this in terms of, uh, what I can do with this and how I can handle this.
  继续。现在我们得看看，呃，我能用这个做什么，以及我该如何处理这件事。

[08:21] See, my daughter helped me with being bald a long time ago.
  你看，我女儿很久以前帮我接受了秃顶这件事。

[08:25] She said, "Dad, you're not really bald. Don't think of yourself that way."
  她说：“爸爸，你不是真的秃顶。别这么想。”

[08:27] She said, "You're just about this much taller than your hair, that's all."
  她说：“你只是比你的头发高出这么一点点，仅此而已。”

[08:31] Which is sort of a nice way to look at it, too.
  这也是一种看待它的好方式。

[08:34] I just sort of outgrew my hair.
  我只是好像长大了，不再需要我的头发了。

[08:35] I sort of transcended my hair, if you will.
  可以说，我好像超越了我的头发。

[08:39] Right. No limit. People are human beings who take what they are and accept it and don't tell themselves that somehow they're deficient because of anything about themselves.
  对。没有限制。人们是人类，他们接受自己本来的样子，并且不告诉自己因为自身任何原因而有所欠缺。

[09:00] This is a very crucial, uh, concept for for me and for virtually all of us.
  这对我和几乎所有人来说，都是一个非常关键的，呃，概念。

[09:05] It's this idea of taking your life in your own hands and
  就是这个将生活掌握在自己手中的想法，并且

[09:12] being the kind of person that you choose to be and understanding that everything that comes your way is an opportunity is a blessing and it wasn't until I learned how to celebrate virtually everything that came my way that I was able to transcend it you see
  成为你选择成为的那种人，并理解你所遇到的一切都是一个机会，是一种祝福，直到我学会了拥抱我所遇到的一切，我才能超越它，你看

[09:38] everything that was given to us by God whatever that is is perfect no one can deny the mountains are perfect and the rivers are perfect and the birds are perfect and the hippopotamuses are perfect and and and so on this is just what was given to us
  上帝赐予我们的一切，无论那是什么，都是完美的，没有人能否认，山是完美的，河流是完美的，鸟儿是完美的，河马是完美的，等等，这只是赐予我们的一切

[09:57] everything else that you have on our planet planet that we have on our planet comes about as a result of thinking thinking thought makes it so
  我们星球上拥有的一切，我们星球上拥有的一切，都是思维的结果，思维，思想成就一切

[10:09] all right this microphone comes about as a result of thinking somebody imagines
  好的，这个麦克风是思维的结果，有人想象出来的

[10:15] it somebody then tells somebody else about and it's and it creates it the dress that you're wearing the shirt that I'm the shoes that you have the stage these cameras everything that you see that wasn't given to us was created by man as a result of the way that we think the way that we think so what gets inside of us as a cell comes about as a result of the way that we choose to think in our lives very important principle to understand because once you get a hold of thinking and that it creates everything that you have in your life you can change and make it as absolutely perfect as you want it to be because thought makes it so creative visualization is what we're talking about here you you the imagery or the image that you have of anything in your life is really like mental Behavior it's like going out and practicing if you go out and practice with a basketball shooting uh free throws over and over again that's physical practice imagery is mental practice it's mental behavior when you
  有人告诉别人，然后告诉另一个人，它创造了你穿的裙子，我穿的衬衫，你穿的鞋子，舞台，这些相机，你看到的一切，都不是赐予我们的，而是人类根据我们的思维方式创造的，我们的思维方式，所以进入我们体内的东西，就像细胞一样，是我们选择如何思考我们生活的结果，一个非常重要的原则是理解，因为一旦你掌握了思维，并且它创造了你在生活中拥有的一切，你就可以改变它，并使其达到你想要的绝对完美，因为思想使之如此，创造性想象就是我们在这里谈论的，你，你对生活中任何事物的意象或形象，就像一种精神行为，就像出去练习一样，如果你出去练习投篮，罚球，一遍又一遍，那就是身体练习，想象是精神练习，是精神行为，当你

[11:16] have an image that you can succeed at at something
  拥有一个你能成功的形象，在某事上

[11:18] when you have an image that you can do it rather than that you can't do it
  当你拥有一个你能做到的形象，而不是你做不到的形象时

[11:21] when you get into your car and you have an image that you're going to find a parking place rather than that there'll be no place to park
  当你开车时，你有一个你会找到停车位的形象，而不是没有停车位

[11:25] so you're not looking for no place to park
  所以你不是在寻找没有停车位

[11:27] you will start acting on the image that you have very much like you will start acting on the practice that you have
  你将开始按照你所拥有的形象行事，就像你将开始按照你所拥有的练习行事一样

[11:32] when you're shooting baskets or when you're hitting a forehand or or working on your soup or anything else that you're doing
  当你投篮或打正手球或练习你的汤或你正在做的任何其他事情时

[11:38] Bucky Fuller who I served with on the hunger project advisory Council for nine years who died not too long ago said that
  巴克·富勒，我曾与他一起在饥饿项目咨询委员会服务了九年，他不久前去世了，他说

[11:48] 99% of who you are you can't touch you can't see you can't smell
  你99%的你是你无法触碰、无法看见、无法闻到的

[11:51] 99% of you is untouchable unsellable invisible
  你99%是无法触碰、无法出售、无法看见的

[12:00] it is what Ken kaai has called your your conscious awareness
  这就是肯·凯所说的你的意识

[12:03] it's your it's what looks out behind those eyeballs
  它是你的，它是从那些眼球后面看出去的东西

[12:06] what is that it isn't it isn't cells
  那是什么？它不是细胞

[12:12] it's some kind of conscious awareness that you are and make no
  它是一种你所拥有的意识，并且不要

[12:17] mistake about it you've occupied a whole lot of bodies already.
  关于这一点我错了，你已经占据了很多身体。

[12:18] now this is not reincarnation talk.
  现在这不是转世的说法。

[12:21] although I don't know about this reincarnation.
  虽然我不知道这个转世。

[12:23] people ask me if I believe in it.
  人们问我是否相信它。

[12:25] I said well I taught in a junior high school in the inner city of Detroit for four years and I saw those dead bodies come to life every day at 3:00.
  我说，嗯，我在底特律市中心的一所初中教了四年书，我每天下午3点看到那些死去的身体复活。

[12:35] so I believe in reincarnation.
  所以我相信转世。

[12:40] all right now if what you if 99% of who you are you can't touch and you can't feel and you can't smell then where what is it.
  好的，现在如果你是你身份的99%你无法触摸，无法感受，无法闻到，那么它在哪里，它是什么？

[12:50] who is it where are you what is this thing called your essence or who you are and where does it go.
  是谁，你在哪里，这个叫做你的本质的东西是什么，或者说你是谁，它又去哪里了？

[12:56] now think of this you were in a body.
  现在想想这个，你曾经在一个身体里。

[12:59] I have a little baby girl who's 11 months old and she and we were all in a body that size.
  我有一个11个月大的小女婴，她和我们都曾经在一个那样大小的身体里。

[13:02] well it's only a body about this big.
  嗯，那只是一个大约这么大的身体。

[13:03] got fingers only this long you know.
  有这么长的手指，你知道。

[13:08] got uh tiny tiny little Parts all over the place.
  到处都是微小的部分。

[13:10] I mean she's only this tall now is that her.
  我的意思是她才这么高，现在是她吗？

[13:20] that her Essence because I have other children who are much older and I am much older than that and I can remember being three and being in a different body still me still my Essence there different body totally different doesn't even look anything like when I was 11 months old and then I was 13 and I had a funny body at 13 but still my Essence was there in a whole new body hairs growing all over the place that I didn't understand all kinds of things happening to it you know then hairs falling out of it later on you know looking at those hairs that fall out and say what held it in yesterday you know what I don't know I don't even understand that that okay and so it's like who I am has been in many many bodies already all right and that essence you see everything on our planet that is alive can never die it can never die life doesn't die it just transforms it just moves on to new places and new ways of being new ways of being and the
  那是她的本质，因为我有其他孩子，他们年纪大得多，我也比那大得多，我能记得三岁时，身体不一样，但还是我，还是我的本质在那里，身体不一样，完全不一样，和我11个月大的时候完全不像，然后我13岁了，我13岁时身体有点奇怪，但我的本质还在一个全新的身体里，全身长满了毛，我不明白，你知道，各种各样的事情发生在上面，你知道，然后头发脱落，你知道，看着那些脱落的头发说，昨天是什么把它固定住的，你知道吗，我不知道，我甚至不明白，好的，所以就像我已经在很多很多身体里了，好吧，你看，我们星球上所有活着的东西永远不会死，它永远不会死，生命不会死，它只会转化，它只会转移到新的地方和新的存在方式，新的存在方式，然后

[14:22] Way of being that is the most transcendent of all is this way that comes from seeing yourself as love and only having that to give away, only having that to give away.
  所有存在方式中最超然的方式，就是这种源于将自己视为爱，并且只拥有爱去给予的方式，只拥有爱去给予。

[14:36] Let's say I would to stand up here in front of you and just visualize for a moment that I have an orange and I take this orange and I squeeze it as hard as I can, squeeze it.
  假设我站在这里，在你面前，并想象一下，我有一个橙子，我拿起这个橙子，并尽我所能地挤压它，挤压它。

[14:49] Okay, what's going to come out? Juice.
  好的，会出来什么？果汁。

[14:51] What kind of juice? Orange juice.
  什么果汁？橙汁。

[14:54] Orange apple juice? Any chance once in a while? While come on now, and then little mango juice come out of an orange once in a while? No.
  橙子苹果汁？偶尔有机会吗？来吧，然后偶尔从橙子里挤出一点芒果汁？不。

[15:00] Mistakes, right? Never.
  错误，对吗？从不。

[15:01] No matter what, next question.
  无论如何，下一个问题。

[15:04] Everybody passes these are easy, okay?
  每个人都通过这些很容易，好吗？

[15:06] Why when you squeeze an orange as hard as you can squeeze it, does orange juice come out?
  为什么当你尽力挤压一个橙子时，会流出橙汁？

[15:15] Cuz that's not because it's an orange, because that's what's inside, isn't it?
  因为那不是因为它是一个橙子，而是因为它里面是什么，不是吗？

[15:22] On our planet when you squeeze.
  在我们的星球上，当你挤压。

[15:24] Something what comes out of it is what's inside.
  从中出来的东西就是里面的东西。

[15:26] Not too difficult on right.
  不是很困难，对吧。

[15:30] Does it matter if your mother squeezes the orange?
  你母亲挤橙子有什么关系吗？

[15:36] Does it matter what instrument she uses?
  她用什么工具挤有什么关系吗？

[15:39] Does it matter if you just had your period and then you squeeze an orange?
  你刚来月经然后挤橙子有什么关系吗？

[15:45] Does it matter if your boss squeezes it?
  你的老板挤它有什么关系吗？

[15:48] How about if your kids do it?
  如果你的孩子这样做呢？

[15:49] Your kids squeeze it on.
  你的孩子挤它。

[15:51] Does it matter? Does it matter what time of day?
  有关系吗？一天中的什么时间有关系吗？

[15:52] Suppose they do it at noon.
  假设他们在中午做。

[15:55] All right, how about at 4 in the morning?
  好吧，早上4点呢？

[15:57] Does that matter?
  那有关系吗？

[16:00] Whenever you squeeze in an orange, the only thing you get out is what's inside, right?
  无论何时挤橙子，你得到的东西就是里面的东西，对吧？

[16:05] No arguments.
  没有争论。

[16:08] Same thing works for you.
  同样的事情对你有效。

[16:10] Same principle works for you.
  同样的原则对你有效。

[16:12] It's a principle of the universe.
  这是宇宙的原则。

[16:15] All right, someone squeezes you.
  好吧，有人挤压你。

[16:17] That is someone puts pressure on you.
  也就是说有人给你施加压力。

[16:19] Someone says things about you that you don't like.
  有人说你不喜欢你的事情。

[16:23] Someone puts uh attention on you.
  有人给你关注。

[16:24] Whatever your boss says something to you that you don't like and out of you comes anger.
  无论你的老板对你说什么你不喜欢的话，你就会生气。

[16:30] And out of you comes hatred.
  并且你内心会滋生仇恨。

[16:32] And out of you comes fear or out of you comes stress or out of you comes tension.
  并且你内心会滋生恐惧，或者滋生压力，或者滋生紧张。

[16:40] Why is it because of your boss?
  这是因为你的老板吗？

[16:44] The way they squeeze.
  他们压榨的方式。

[16:46] Never is it because of your mother?
  难道是因为你的母亲？

[16:49] I mean she really can be a pain sometimes, right?
  我是说她有时候确实很烦人，对吧？

[16:52] Is it because of your children?
  是因为你的孩子吗？

[16:55] No, what comes out of you always when someone squeezes you is what's inside.
  不，当有人压榨你时，你内心总是会流露出你内在的东西。

[16:58] This is the the vital principle of being a No Limit person.
  这是成为一个无极限的人的关键原则。

[17:01] It's so crucial to get this and understand that that if you have any hatred in your heart for anyone in this world or any anger or any fear or any of those things, it has nothing to do with the rest of the world.
  理解这一点至关重要，要明白，如果你心中对世界上任何一个人怀有仇恨、愤怒、恐惧或任何这些东西，这与世界上的其他人无关。

[17:15] It only has to do with what you put inside.
  它只与你内心所容纳的东西有关。

[17:18] Now how does what gets inside of you get there?
  那么，你内心所容纳的东西是如何进入的呢？

[17:22] That's the key.
  这就是关键。

[17:26] How does it get there?
  它是如何进入的？

[17:29] As you think, only as you think you see.
  正如你所想，只有如你所想，你才能看到。

[17:33] there's no anger in the world.
  世界上没有愤怒。

[17:35] there's no stress in the world.
  世界上没有压力。

[17:37] there's no tension.
  没有紧张。

[17:39] it's perfect.
  它是完美的。

[17:39] we've already esta it's perfect place.
  我们已经建立了一个完美的地方。

[17:42] it works just fine.
  它运行得很好。

[17:45] it's all flowing the way it's supposed to flow.
  一切都在按应有的方式流动。

[17:49] the evidence for it is it is that's all the evidence you need.
  它的证据就是你所需要的所有证据。

[17:51] just look around you.
  看看你周围。

[17:53] everything out there is a miracle.
  外面的一切都是奇迹。

[17:53] everything including you.
  包括你的一切。

[17:56] there are no mistakes.
  没有错误。

[17:56] it's all perfect.
  一切都是完美的。

[17:59] and everything that happens to you in your life.
  以及你生活中发生的一切。

[18:03] whether it's a trauma.
  无论是创伤。

[18:06] whether it's a disease.
  无论是疾病。

[18:08] whether it's somebody treating you in a certain way.
  无论是有人以某种方式对待你。

[18:11] there's a lesson in all of it.
  这一切都有一个教训。

[18:11] no limit.
  没有限制。

[18:15] people understand the lesson in life.
  人们理解生活的教训。

[18:18] and therefore celebrate the lessons.
  因此庆祝这些教训。

[18:23] it's true.
  这是真的。

[18:26] and when you get to that point in your life where you're not cursing the things that come your way.
  当你达到人生的那个点，你不再诅咒那些来到你身边的事情。

[18:32] and blaming the things that come your
  并责怪那些来到你身边的事情

[18:35] way and particularly blaming it on somebody else and you hear it all the time.
  方式，特别是将其归咎于他人，而且你经常听到这一点。

[18:39] She hurt my feelings.
  她伤害了我的感情。

[18:41] How's that possible?
  这怎么可能？

[18:44] How can anybody hurt your feelings?
  怎么会有人伤害你的感情呢？

[18:47] Your feelings come from your thoughts.
  你的感情源于你的想法。

[18:50] No one can hurt your feelings without your consent.
  没有人能在未经你同意的情况下伤害你的感情。

[18:52] No one can make a fool of you without your consent.
  没有人能在未经你同意的情况下让你出丑。

[18:54] No one can embarrass you without your consent.
  没有人能在未经你同意的情况下让你难堪。

[18:56] These are choices that you have that come from the way that you think.
  这些是你拥有的选择，它们源于你的思维方式。

[19:00] Someone calls you a name, hey stupid, and you turn around.
  有人骂你，嘿，笨蛋，然后你转过身来。

[19:08] I didn't even tell anybody I was coming.
  我甚至没有告诉任何人我要来。

[19:11] How did they know that?
  他们怎么会知道呢？

[19:13] And then you blame the person who called you a name instead of saying that's just their opinion, that's just where they are.
  然后你责怪那个骂你的人，而不是说这只是他们的看法，这只是他们所处的位置。

[19:21] That's where they are on the path and it's okay.
  这就是他们在道路上的位置，而且没关系。

[19:23] All of you are in relationships, right?
  你们都在恋爱关系中，对吗？

[19:25] Everybody has a relationship of some kind or another.
  每个人都有某种形式的恋爱关系。

[19:30] In your relationship you have any
  在你的恋爱关系中，你有任何

[19:35] problems any of you have relationship.
  你们中的任何人有关系问题吗？

[19:37] you don't have any problems.
  你没有任何问题。

[19:38] I'd like you to take this microphone.
  我想请你拿一下这个麦克风。

[19:40] I want to sit down and listen to you.
  我想坐下来听你说话。

[19:42] Everybody in a relationship has problems, don't they?
  每个人在恋爱关系中都会有问题，不是吗？

[19:47] Right now when you say I'm in a relationship, I got problems.
  现在当你你说我在一段关系中，我有问题。

[19:51] Therefore there's something wrong, something's really wrong.
  因此有什么不对劲，有什么真的不对劲。

[19:59] If you're in a relationship and you have problems and something is wrong, you got to call in a consultant, right?
  如果你在一段关系中，你有问题，而且有什么不对劲，你得请个顾问，对吧？

[20:03] You got to call in somebody to help you with the problems.
  你得请个人来帮你解决问题。

[20:07] You don't want the problems to go on.
  你不想让问题继续下去。

[20:08] Who you going to call in?
  你要请谁来？

[20:11] You only got yourself, it's all you got.
  你只有你自己，你只有你自己。

[20:13] You might get a therapist once in a while, but they got worse problems than you do.
  你可能偶尔会找个治疗师，但他们的问题比你还严重。

[20:16] The only consultant who can help you with your problems is you.
  唯一能帮助你解决问题的人就是你自己。

[20:19] And who is that consultant that you're calling in?
  你正在请的那位顾问是谁？

[20:22] We've already established that there's something wrong with that person, right?
  我们已经确定那个人有问题，对吧？

[20:27] Something wrong.
  有问题。

[20:30] So now you're going to call in a disabled person to deal with your problems?
  所以现在你要请一个残疾人来处理你的问题？

[20:35] your relationship right now this is a

[20:38] really sick approach to clearing your

[20:40] problems you got somebody who says we

[20:41] got a problem you don't talk to me and I

[20:43] don't talk to you and you came home week

[20:44] last week and this week I called you and

[20:46] you didn't call and I was supposed to

[20:47] call you and then you didn't do it and

[20:49] how can you do that now this is the

[20:50] consultant you're calling excuse me

[20:51] would you come in and help us I don't

[20:52] know if I can help you or not I didn't

[20:54] come home I that's the person you got to

[20:57] deal with your problems

[20:59] all right now what you can do is you can

[21:00] change all of that around you can say

[21:03] I'm in a relationship we got

[21:06] problems there's nothing wrong with that

[21:09] that's the way things are you know my

[21:12] problem is that you are different than I

[21:15] am and you think differently than I do

[21:19] and you behave differently than I do and

[21:21] you smell different than I do and you

[21:23] have all of these attitudes over here

[21:24] that I don't have nothing wrong with

[21:26] that that's the way it is when two

[21:28] people get together in a relationship

[21:30] you don't have two people becoming one

[21:33] if you do that then what you end up with

[21:35] are two half persons who wants a half a

[21:37] person in a relationship you always are

[21:39] single even if you're married and for

[21:42] you know and involved in relationship

[21:43] for you're still always single you're

[21:46] still always you your unique special

[21:49] perfect self that is not trying to

[21:54] love but who is love who lives love who

[21:59] is being

[22:02] love the same as if you pray to God and

[22:05] say God will you please help me with my

[22:07] problems and want God to do it for you

[22:10] never happen you've got to be God not be

[22:14] afraid to carry God around inside of you

[22:17] if you want to get healed you have got

[22:19] to understand that you're not going to

[22:21] get

[22:22] healed if you are asking someone else to

[22:25] heal you and ask any doctor if you know

[22:28] any surgeon particularly who's taking

[22:29] somebody into surgery and ask them which

[22:32] person has a better chance of living and

[22:35] surviving say serious surgery is it the

[22:37] one who has a will to live or is it the

[22:39] one who's just given up and the surgery

[22:41] and the cases are exactly the same all

[22:43] right but the person who has that will

[22:44] which we can't Define you can't go out

[22:46] and get a bucket full of Will and bring

[22:48] it in there it's an attitude it's an

[22:50] approach it's a belief all right that

[22:52] you can do something and when you have

[22:54] that belief about yourself then you know

[22:57] you've got a so much better uh

[22:58] opportunity to be well in your life and

[23:00] a belief is everything I don't know if

[23:02] you've ever thought of that uh I watch a

[23:04] little girl 5 years old learning how to

[23:06] swim and she's holding on to the edge of

[23:09] the pool and she wants to get over here

[23:11] to the steps and it's just uh 5T or six

[23:14] feet and she'll let go and then she'll

[23:15] hold on again and she'll let go and

[23:17] she'll hold on again and finally there

[23:19] comes a time when she lets go and goes

[23:22] for it okay you've all SE you've seen

[23:24] this with your children you've seen and

[23:27] what you're asking yourself is in the

[23:28] moment before that when she was holding

[23:30] on and then look at the moment

[23:32] afterwards does she have any different

[23:34] skills what's changed yeah the skills

[23:36] are she didn't have any new skills she

[23:37] didn't learn any skills in that second

[23:39] what she has is a belief that she can do

[23:41] it and when you believe it when you

[23:43] really just believe that you can do it

[23:45] that's what allows you to swim and when

[23:46] you think about it now do you know how

[23:48] to swim so when you dive into the water

[23:50] you don't think about that you just know

[23:51] when you dive into the water you can

[23:53] swim you don't have any necessary

[23:54] swimming skills or anything like that or

[23:57] when you get on a bicycle you get on you

[23:58] know that you're going to unless you

[24:00] believe you can't because you've never

[24:02] gone out there and tried it and worked

[24:03] on it and done it told a story of a

[24:05] patient of yours who had that very

[24:06] problem who said she didn't know how to

[24:07] ride a bicycle yeah Gail who came to me

[24:10] many years ago and you know why she said

[24:11] she couldn't ride a bicycle because her

[24:13] mother wouldn't let her get on One Cop

[24:14] Out yeah absolutely and she had these

[24:17] beautiful big white teeth and her uh

[24:19] mother had always told her you could

[24:20] fall and break your teeth and I wouldn't

[24:22] want that to happen to you so here she

[24:23] was now in her 30s and uh telling me

[24:25] that she couldn't ride a bike and she

[24:26] was in therapy

[24:28] and um I said to her okay let's go she

[24:31] said go where are we going I said well

[24:34] I've got a bicycle downstairs and I'm

[24:36] going to uh show you how to ride a bike

[24:38] I'm going to have you teach yourself how

[24:39] to do this and she said look I didn't

[24:40] come here to pay you the kind of money

[24:42] that I'm paying you to have you teach me

[24:44] how to ride a bicycle I came here to

[24:47] find out why I can't I said oh well

[24:49] you're going to need another 30 seconds

[24:50] of therapy easy Okay the reason you

[24:53] can't is because you never got yourself

[24:54] on a bicycle and until you do you never

[24:56] will know how and you just believe that

[24:58] you can't oh that's the end of that

[24:59] there's no more to talk about that now

[25:02] what we have to do is get you to get out

[25:04] there and we went downstairs and I had

[25:05] it was a woman's bike and I've helped a

[25:07] lot of people to teach themselves how to

[25:09] ride a bike and what you do when you

[25:11] teach you help someone to teach

[25:13] themselves how to ride a bike because

[25:14] you don't teach anybody how to ride a

[25:15] bike okay uh is you let them do it all

[25:18] themselves you let them hold it you let

[25:19] them balance it you let them move with

[25:21] it you let them put the pedal down and

[25:23] and and move it themselves and you stand

[25:25] back you say no when you're ready you

[25:26] know and then you move it and you hold

[25:27] on for a second then you put your foot

[25:29] back down and you you practice it and

[25:31] practice and practice that all yourself

[25:33] you know with just someone encouraging

[25:35] you and before long in just a matter of

[25:37] minutes when I tell you it was minutes

[25:39] and this woman had never been on a

[25:41] bicycle before she rode like two blocks

[25:43] on a bicycle she couldn't believe that

[25:45] she she now had a belief being to me

[25:50] means seeing the greatness and the

[25:52] uniqueness in you and never letting

[25:55] anybody else convince you to the

[25:57] contrary when people ask me come on

[25:59] you're always talking about being up and

[26:00] you're always positive and so on you

[26:01] mean to tell me that you're always that

[26:03] way this is I say yeah yeah I really am

[26:06] and it isn't because I'm out there doing

[26:09] something in an artificial way it's an

[26:12] authentic response to my having having

[26:16] gotten the junk out of me and the junk

[26:20] is the way that I used to think the way

[26:23] that I used to think think for a moment

[26:26] if you can visualize right here a clock

[26:28] a big

[26:30] clock and the hands on the clock go from

[26:32] 1 to

[26:34] 12 the clock starts right out here with

[26:36] the minute hand and it goes over towards

[26:38] the three the uh hour hand minute

[26:42] hand and that's the time in your life

[26:45] when you are moving away from yourself

[26:47] from your true self that's the time when

[26:50] you are trying to put other people down

[26:52] trying to prove that you're bigger and

[26:54] better than somebody else trying to make

[26:56] yourself right all the time time as

[26:58] opposed to uh being with somebody else

[27:02] it's like you're moving away and a lot

[27:03] of people spend a lot of time moving

[27:05] away from their true self because your

[27:06] true self is this little child is this

[27:09] beautiful little child inside of

[27:11] you that has only love and acceptance

[27:14] for everything in the world and no

[27:16] disease no absence of ease you move away

[27:19] towards the three and then you move down

[27:21] here this way and you're still moving

[27:22] away from yourself until you hit the six

[27:25] the six is the point in your life

[27:27] symbolically metaphorically here when

[27:30] you are the furthest away from yourself

[27:32] that you can be it's the low point in

[27:33] your life it's the point where many

[27:36] people break down or many people break

[27:38] down their relationships or they they

[27:40] feel full of Despair they feel full of

[27:43] hatred whatever it may be and a lot of

[27:46] people die then a lot of people are put

[27:48] into hospitals then a lot of people have

[27:50] to really seek out therapy then and so

[27:52] on and when you're at that sick there's

[27:55] another part of the clock that goes from

[27:56] 600 to 12 that I think of as uh living

[27:59] in the

[28:01] light and this is when and see this

[28:04] clock hand never can go back it can't go

[28:07] back it can only go this way it only

[28:09] goes this way as does life it only goes

[28:12] this way forward in this period This

[28:15] Place between 6 and

[28:18] 12 that's when you start coming back to

[28:21] yourself that's when that's what

[28:24] enlightenment is that's what that's the

[28:26] pathway to enlight

[28:28] when you send out that stuff that is

[28:31] destroying you that is killing you in

[28:33] one way or another and you move yourself

[28:35] back over here and eventually you get

[28:38] yourself all the way back this is the

[28:39] light over here this is the place where

[28:41] you can't go

[28:43] back you be tempted you might be tempted

[28:47] to steal you might be tempted to to to

[28:50] use anger you might even slip a little

[28:52] bit and you catch yourself I can just

[28:55] not too long ago it was uh we we we got

[28:57] a problem with our sprinkler at at the

[29:00] in my home one of the sprinkler heads is

[29:01] off and if you ever seen that happen you

[29:02] get a gusher going up there and I've

[29:04] been wanting to get that thing replaced

[29:06] for the longest time and I'm walking out

[29:08] of the bank and there's a sprinkler head

[29:10] right there in front of the bank now I

[29:13] practically own this Bank okay so I

[29:16] going to go there every day and I do a

[29:17] lot of business with this bank and I'm

[29:19] looking at this sprinkler head and I

[29:20] think you know all I have to do is just

[29:22] unscrew this thing I wasn't honoring

[29:24] they'll replace it tomorrow morning it's

[29:25] it's 98 cents or whatever so I actually

[29:28] get down there and I look and I start

[29:30] turning the sprinkler and then I start

[29:32] thinking do I want this Karma do you

[29:35] know do I want the do I want to steal do

[29:37] I want to take I know it's only a 99 and

[29:39] if I went into the bank they'd probably

[29:40] give me one anyway if I asked them and I

[29:42] turn and I just turned it back and I

[29:45] said if I want to sprinkle her head I'll

[29:46] go and buy one for myself this doesn't

[29:48] belong to me it it was just like a split

[29:50] second of weakness there or whatever but

[29:52] it Illustrated to me that I can't go

[29:54] back there I could never and there was a

[29:56] time in my life when I could have done

[29:57] that I can be absolutely Frank with that

[29:59] I could do that uh I can't go back there

[30:02] anymore that's where you start that's

[30:04] the place to St because when you get all

[30:06] of that out when that's all gone and I

[30:08] mean gone and it only comes about as a

[30:11] result of the way that you think so it's

[30:13] just changing around your approach to

[30:15] life the way that you think in life when

[30:17] that starts to go

[30:18] away what you've become filled up with

[30:21] is what your natural self is which is

[30:24] this loving accepting uh not not

[30:27] fighting the universe but instead living

[30:30] in it and going with the flow and all of

[30:33] the kinds of cliches that you've heard a

[30:35] thousand times it is that's the metaphor

[30:38] there and you see every time you try to

[30:40] go back can't do it you can't do it and

[30:43] the

[30:44] ingredients that make for a No Limit

[30:47] life are five in my opinion the first is

[30:51] quality rather than appearances you

[30:53] begin to change your thinking from

[30:58] appearances and how things look and how

[31:01] other people view me okay because every

[31:04] time you find yourself upset in life

[31:07] about anything that anyone else has said

[31:09] what you're really saying is what you

[31:11] think of me is more important than what

[31:13] I think of me all right so you change

[31:16] from appearances to what I call Quality

[31:19] thinking quality what is the quality of

[31:22] my life rather than how does it appear

[31:25] to others now do you tell yourself that

[31:29] because my friends don't like me that

[31:32] that means there's something wrong with

[31:33] me now that's see that's what you have

[31:35] to learn that another person's opinion

[31:37] is just that it's their opinion and

[31:39] that's all it is every time you are

[31:43] upset or your children are upset because

[31:46] of what somebody else says about them

[31:48] including their peers what you are

[31:50] really saying in that moment and this is

[31:52] really important what you're saying is

[31:54] what you think of me is more important

[31:57] than what I think of myself and you must

[32:00] never give anybody that kind of power

[32:02] and control over you because they will

[32:04] always have it the funny part about

[32:06] approval for those of you who really

[32:08] want it and re now I'm here to tell you

[32:11] that I like approval I enjoy it I find

[32:13] it one of the most exciting things in

[32:15] the world I like it when people read my

[32:16] books I love it when people applaud I

[32:18] like it when people uh tell me nice

[32:20] things and all I like approval I'm the

[32:22] first one to admit it what I don't do is

[32:25] I don't need

[32:28] approval there's a big difference

[32:30] between wanting approval and needing

[32:32] approval when you need approval it means

[32:35] you become immobilized when you don't

[32:37] get it from making other people's

[32:40] opinions more important now for those of

[32:41] you who say yeah but I want approval and

[32:43] I need it and if I don't get it and so

[32:45] on then understand this the people who

[32:48] get the most approval in life are the

[32:51] ones who care the least about it and the

[32:54] ones who get the least approval are the

[32:56] ones who are are always going after it

[32:58] so if you want approval in this

[33:00] paradoxical way that I'm talking about

[33:03] it stop needing it stop concerning

[33:06] yourself about ask yourself who gets the

[33:08] most approval in life think of the

[33:10] person that gets the most approval and

[33:12] you'll see that that person couldn't

[33:14] care less what other people are thinking

[33:17] they're so busy being they don't have

[33:20] time to notice what their neighbors are

[33:21] doing the RO said this he said if you

[33:24] advance confidently in the direction of

[33:27] your own

[33:28] dreams and Endeavor to live the life

[33:31] which you have

[33:33] imagined you will meet with a success

[33:37] unexpected in common

[33:39] hours what that means is that success is

[33:44] not something that you can get in life

[33:48] success is an inner process success is

[33:52] something that you bring to everything

[33:55] you do in your life it is isn't

[33:57] something you get out of what you do and

[33:59] when you get that and you learn how to

[34:02] get the junk out and Advance confidently

[34:05] doing what makes the most amount of

[34:07] sense to you based on your inner signals

[34:09] and the one issue of morality which is

[34:12] you never interfere with anybody else's

[34:14] right to do the same each person has

[34:16] their own right to advance confidently

[34:18] in the direction of their own dreams and

[34:21] when you violate that you're violating

[34:22] the principle of the universe the

[34:23] essence of the universe which is

[34:25] cooperation and

[34:27] Harmony then success will begin to chase

[34:30] you and it will come into your life and

[34:32] arrive in your life in amounts that you

[34:35] never dreamt of before that you never

[34:38] dreamt of things will start happening to

[34:40] you that you would never imagine before

[34:44] I'm working on a book right now that's

[34:45] going to be called you'll see it when

[34:46] you believe it when you start

[34:50] believing in some of these principles

[34:52] you'll start seeing things that you were

[34:54] blind to for so long when you were back

[34:56] here and the two and the three and the

[34:58] four and the five when you are moving

[35:00] away from yourself as long as you're

[35:01] moving back towards your Universal

[35:04] Essence your harmony with yourself your

[35:07] cooperation with the rest things will

[35:10] start happening in ways that you never

[35:12] dreamt of Yung called it uh

[35:17] synchronicity and we it's it's a term

[35:19] that we use to to explain how

[35:21] unexplainable coincidences sort of

[35:23] happen in our life and how come these

[35:25] things happen I'm going to share a

[35:26] couple of those with you before we

[35:28] leave

[35:30] the the quality versus appearance in

[35:33] your life means that you get that inner

[35:36] candle flame working in a way that gives

[35:39] you quality independent of what other

[35:42] people think of you maslo in defining

[35:44] self-actualizing No Limit people said

[35:47] they are independent of the good opinion

[35:50] of other people of the good opinion of

[35:53] other people independent of it they're

[35:55] so busy at advancing confidently doing

[35:58] the things that make sense and bringing

[36:00] success to changing their baby's diaper

[36:03] and bringing success to weeding their

[36:05] garden and bringing it to the job they

[36:08] bring it on the airplane so that when

[36:09] they run into somebody who is who is

[36:11] rude to them a steart is that is rude

[36:13] they don't see it as an attack on them

[36:16] it's just where they are and they send

[36:18] them love help them a little bit you

[36:20] know they're kind to when somebody wants

[36:22] to get in on the

[36:23] freeway and they're uh one old

[36:28] Temptation when they were on the one to

[36:29] the six side was to say oh yeah nobody's

[36:32] getting in front of me I'm getting there

[36:33] first it's like they slow down a little

[36:36] bit they don't have all that typ a stuff

[36:37] of having to beat somebody else and

[36:39] having to defeat somebody it is it's a

[36:41] new way of being it's a way of quality

[36:44] where your Harmony allows you to

[36:47] cooperate and you are a part of what

[36:50] this whole thing is

[36:52] about new way of being quality rather

[36:55] than appearances another new way of

[36:57] being very important living your life on

[37:00] ethics rather than rules ethics rather

[37:04] than rules all these rules all these

[37:07] ways of having to do things somebody

[37:09] else dictates to them do you know that

[37:11] some of the most immoral acts in the

[37:13] world have been perpetrated in the name

[37:15] of the rules these are the laws what do

[37:18] you think Nazi Germany was all about

[37:21] everybody doing all these horrible

[37:23] things to other people I'm only doing my

[37:25] job was the defense we all heard at

[37:27] nberg I was just doing my job if it's an

[37:30] immoral rule it's immoral to obey it and

[37:34] self-actualizing people as maslo tells

[37:36] us have rules inside of them that they

[37:38] could never o never disobey ever and

[37:41] they have to do with ethics how you

[37:43] treat people how do you think we get to

[37:45] where we are now you know who Rosa Parks

[37:48] was the woman in the South the black

[37:51] woman in the South who said not today

[37:53] I'm not going to the back today no way I

[37:56] know what the the rules are the rules

[37:57] were all over the place if you didn't

[37:58] need if you needed a reminder there were

[38:00] signs every place colored in the back

[38:03] white in the front and she said no I'm

[38:06] sitting

[38:07] here and that made all the difference

[38:11] ethics not rules when your children

[38:14] start disobeying rules that need to be

[38:17] disobeyed don't be surprised when I was

[38:20] in the

[38:22] service they had a policy on Guam where

[38:24] I was stationed which would not allow

[38:27] the guadian civilians to shop in the pxs

[38:30] in the Navy exchanges but they did allow

[38:33] all other civilians to shop in the Navy

[38:35] exchanges and

[38:36] pxs but if you were Guamanian that is if

[38:39] your skin was dark and your eyes were

[38:41] shaped a little different then you

[38:43] couldn't a clear outright violation I

[38:46] was a serviceman I was in the Navy I was

[38:49] a Communications

[38:51] cryptographer they had a a a newspaper

[38:53] on the Guam daily news and it said an

[38:55] invitation to speak your

[38:59] mind and it was a letter writing

[39:03] contest and they offered $75 to the

[39:06] first prize winner $75 this was

[39:10] 1961 that was a fortune to me that was a

[39:13] month's pay in the Navy at that time

[39:15] almost So I entered the contest and I

[39:18] knew I would win it I had already

[39:19] written a novel at that time a whole

[39:21] novel I'd written while I was on Guam I

[39:24] knew it wasn't going to be a contest I

[39:26] felt sorry for the other people entering

[39:28] it I knew I was going to win this

[39:30] unfortunately I didn't realize that when

[39:32] you're in the service and you have an

[39:35] opinion and you don't submit it to the

[39:37] chain of

[39:38] command that you can be Court marshal

[39:40] for

[39:42] that so the headlines on next week's

[39:44] Guam Daily News were US Sailor a sales

[39:48] policy of

[39:50] discrimination big hot stuff all right

[39:54] and I was called before a vice admiral

[39:55] Commander naal forces Marana

[39:58] Island and threatened with a court

[40:00] Marshal because I had disobeyed the

[40:03] rules even though the rule was immoral

[40:07] there are lots of them like that and

[40:09] when I went in and they threatened me

[40:10] with the court

[40:12] Marshal I told them this was my battle

[40:15] plan they didn't have Xerox machines in

[40:18] those days so I had to get a lot of

[40:19] carbon paper I wrote a letter to the

[40:21] president John F Kennedy and I wrote a

[40:24] letter to the Secretary of the Navy and

[40:26] I wrote a letter I was my hometown was

[40:28] Detroit I wrote a letter to the Detroit

[40:29] news and a letter to the Detroit Free

[40:31] Press telling them what was happening to

[40:34] me as a result of just expressing my

[40:36] opinion about an immoral act that was

[40:38] going on over here on Guang and I showed

[40:41] the naval uh uh vice admiral my letters

[40:45] right there I said I've only sent the

[40:47] one to the president and the secretary

[40:49] of the

[40:51] Navy these letters go to the newspapers

[40:53] across the country there's one there to

[40:54] the New York Times as well in the Los

[40:56] Angeles it was uh and I just spread them

[40:59] out before him I said if you Court

[41:00] Marshal me or punish me in any way for

[41:03] this then what's going to happen is the

[41:06] world is going to find out about this

[41:07] policy and I'm prepared I'm ready I can

[41:10] handle it and I was 20 years old at the

[41:13] time or

[41:14] 21 not only did I get a blessing from

[41:18] that because all things come in

[41:19] blessings for you I got out 90 days

[41:25] early

[41:26] and they stamped on my record Pi because

[41:30] the president took it up and sent it to

[41:32] the secretary must have and I never

[41:34] heard from him but I uh the pi on your

[41:37] record means political

[41:39] influence and they don't like anybody

[41:41] with political influence in the military

[41:43] and as soon as they saw that they said

[41:44] this is somebody we probably will be uh

[41:47] giving a discharge real soon there was

[41:49] no there was no court Marshal and in

[41:51] September of 1962 a brand new policy was

[41:54] initiated on Guam which allowed any

[41:57] civilian to shop in the Navy exchanges

[42:00] and it came

[42:02] about as a result of someone saying

[42:05] these rules are immoral and therefore

[42:09] it's immoral to obey them new ways of

[42:12] being ethics rather than rules and when

[42:16] your kids want to know why how come

[42:18] these rules are so stupid how come we

[42:19] have to do this encourage them to change

[42:22] them my mother always did that she would

[42:24] have to help me get out of the out of

[42:25] the messes that I got myself into

[42:27] because I I I did it in my impetuous

[42:29] youth I would just when they would say

[42:31] to me what's more important your job or

[42:32] school I was just

[42:34] honest I said my job of course that's

[42:38] how I felt in those days but what you do

[42:41] put out in the world is exactly what's

[42:43] coming back to you and if you find

[42:45] things coming back to you that you don't

[42:47] like and don't understand don't ask

[42:49] yourself why these things are coming to

[42:51] you ask yourself what you're doing to

[42:53] make them come back to you and when you

[42:56] start putting the responsibility on

[42:57] yourself you'll start seeing dramatic

[42:58] changes dramatic changes a new way of

[43:03] being instead of Ethics instead of rules

[43:07] ethics a new another new way of being

[43:09] instead of looking all your life for

[43:14] achievements and

[43:16] externals try living your life on

[43:19] knowledge for the sake of knowledge

[43:21] knowledge instead of achievement for the

[43:25] sake of knowledge

[43:26] being in a in a context in which you

[43:31] don't have to collect a lot of merit

[43:33] badges you don't have to collect a lot

[43:35] of a lot of uh Awards and other people's

[43:38] uh value judgments that you go to school

[43:41] or you go out into the world or you read

[43:43] or whatever it is you do because it

[43:44] makes sense to you not because of what

[43:48] somebody else is going to put on a

[43:50] transcript or where you're going to

[43:52] appear in a class list we need to help

[43:55] our children to understand and value the

[43:59] importance of knowledge for the sake of

[44:01] knowledge and doing things that make

[44:03] sense rather than taking the easy

[44:05] way knowledge rather than always trying

[44:09] to achieve we are in an achievement

[44:11] oriented society which tells us that we

[44:14] evaluate and judge a human being based

[44:17] upon how many achie achievements he has

[44:19] but most of the people who get caught up

[44:20] in that trap and are always in this

[44:22] circle of trying to get ahead trying to

[44:25] always get ahead their reward for that

[44:27] almost always is higher blood

[44:29] pressure

[44:31] ulcers early deaths and even things like

[44:34] cancer we're beginning to find out are

[44:36] related to the kinds of stresses that we

[44:39] have and remember it's a perfect

[44:41] Universe there's no stress in it there's

[44:44] only people thinking stressful

[44:46] thoughts and when you put that pressure

[44:48] on yourself to always achieve and get

[44:50] ahead of the other guy you miss what

[44:52] it's really all about there's nothing

[44:54] wrong with goals it's falling in love

[44:57] with them that's the problem it's not

[44:59] being able to be flexible and be alter

[45:01] them if you have a goal to get here to

[45:03] get $100,000 in the bank to get to this

[45:06] promotion to get two cars in your garage

[45:08] to whatever it is that your goal is and

[45:10] you're on your way to that and you're

[45:12] always working at the goal all of this

[45:13] stuff on your way to the goal is called

[45:16] striving and that's what you learn

[45:17] striving striving is a very lowlevel

[45:19] place to be when you get to your goal

[45:21] because all you've ever known is

[45:22] striving you will just always suffer

[45:24] from this disease called Mo you will

[45:26] just upgrade your goal to $200,000 four

[45:28] cars and two houses and another wife and

[45:30] a younger one and and all of these kinds

[45:32] of things if you have a goal and you

[45:35] understand that every step along the way

[45:37] is a present moment to enjoy and to live

[45:40] then the goal won't become any Obsession

[45:43] I don't have any goals in my life people

[45:44] ask me where you going to be 5 years

[45:46] from now what are you going to be doing

[45:47] what's next for you I just uh I remember

[45:50] what Lincoln said who to me was like the

[45:52] greatest person who ever sat in that

[45:54] white

[45:54] house he said i' never had a policy he

[45:57] said I just tried to do what made the

[46:00] greatest amount of sense each and every

[46:02] day of my life as I sat there as the

[46:04] President of the United States and I

[46:06] think there's there's something really

[46:08] significant in that that you don't have

[46:10] to get it all planned out and follow a

[46:12] certain pattern and do it a certain way

[46:14] if you just sort of trust your inner

[46:16] instincts and go with that and live each

[46:18] moment the goal stuff will all take care

[46:20] of itself but if you're sacrificing and

[46:22] pushing your life aside and and uh

[46:24] suffering on your way to trying to get

[46:27] someplace you'll never get there it will

[46:29] always elude you because once you get

[46:30] there you'll just have to upgrade it and

[46:32] that's because that's all you'll know

[46:34] nness is that purest form of Sanity

[46:37] living in this moment and enjoying it

[46:39] and all the rest of it will sort of work

[46:41] its way

[46:42] out another new way of being for

[46:46] me is to think of yourself in terms of

[46:49] personal Authority rather than being an

[46:53] authoritarian personal Authority

[46:56] a person who has authority never needs

[46:59] to dominate anyone else ever dominating

[47:03] doesn't become necessary in business you

[47:07] can have authority the people who have

[47:09] the most Authority are the ones who

[47:10] listen the most and the ones who are the

[47:12] most conscientious about what do other

[47:15] people have to say a person in a

[47:17] relationship who has to dominate

[47:19] somebody else and has to make the other

[47:21] person submissive shows that they don't

[47:23] have authority because they're getting

[47:25] their power not from within for

[47:27] themselves but on the basis of who they

[47:28] can control and that never lasts that

[47:32] never lasts the only thing that lasts is

[47:34] having inner power if you will know

[47:37] thyself that's what Shakespeare said

[47:39] know thyself the more you know yourself

[47:42] the more you the more you become honest

[47:45] with yourself uh honesty becomes just a

[47:47] way of life no I don't think the world

[47:50] necessarily does but you can't run your

[47:51] world you can't run your world based

[47:53] upon what the rest of the people in the

[47:54] world want or don't want to me honesty

[47:57] is like it's a Karma that goes out into

[47:59] the world how people treat you in the

[48:01] world is their karma how you react is

[48:04] yours and what when you react to it with

[48:08] dishonesty that's what you're putting

[48:10] out into the world dishonesty and when

[48:11] you put this honesty out into the world

[48:14] that's what's going to come back to you

[48:15] because what goes out is what comes back

[48:16] that all as you sow so shall you reap I

[48:19] mean it's it's in every great uh

[48:21] institution that there is in the world

[48:23] whe whether it's a religion or a

[48:24] philosophy or whatever what you put out

[48:26] is what comes back whatever you plant is

[48:28] what you're going to get back and the

[48:30] more that you put out honesty just

[48:33] because it's what you are because you

[48:35] are being honesty you're not trying to

[48:37] be honest you are just being honesty

[48:39] then that's what will come back to you

[48:41] on a regular basis and when it doesn't

[48:43] you'll just see that as another test for

[48:45] you to

[48:46] pass and finally a fifth way of being

[48:51] that is

[48:52] new for me it be has become a way of

[48:56] life it's called

[48:59] Serenity instead of

[49:01] Acquisitions the more you try to acquire

[49:04] the more you try to get the more you try

[49:06] to collect in your life and evaluate

[49:09] yourself on the basis of that the less

[49:11] Serenity you're going to have more is

[49:14] less it's almost a secret of the

[49:16] universe Serenity means inner

[49:20] peace means that you can uh find joy in

[49:23] every moment that you have in your life

[49:25] instead of always looking for it it

[49:27] means that um while you are uh uh

[49:31] driving along the countryside you know

[49:34] and seeing uh instead of saying this is

[49:37] I'm on my way to this point that you can

[49:40] open your eyes and see it with new eyes

[49:43] see see the rolling mountains see the

[49:45] grass see the deer see the sky see you

[49:48] can just stop wherever you are in this

[49:49] second wherever you are and just look

[49:51] around you and you can begin to

[49:52] appreciate just your your surroundings

[49:55] and your environment then you can begin

[49:56] to appreciate the people that are in

[49:58] your life and even the ones that are

[50:00] negative and and that you're having the

[50:02] most difficulty with you can practice a

[50:04] new way of being with them which is

[50:06] sending them love sending them flowers

[50:07] send them book send them a tape send

[50:09] them something and just see what kind of

[50:11] reaction that you get super emotional

[50:13] health is just an attitude an attitude

[50:16] is

[50:18] everything I want to uh summarize these

[50:21] new ways of being and and give you the

[50:23] most important uh ingredient on the path

[50:25] as we

[50:27] leave I said that uh it's quality in

[50:30] your life to be focusing on rather than

[50:32] appearances and it's ethics rather than

[50:34] rules and it's knowledge rather than

[50:36] achievement all the time and it's being

[50:38] personally an authority on yourself

[50:41] rather than authoritarian and trying to

[50:43] be Domin dominating someone else or to

[50:45] be dominated and serenity which is the

[50:48] name of my little go girl my youngest

[50:50] daughter

[50:51] Serena um rather than acquisition and

[50:55] accumulations and trying to prove

[50:57] yourself that way and when you get that

[50:58] Serenity which comes from the way that

[51:00] you think

[51:02] always then you will replace all of the

[51:06] other junk that keeps you back here

[51:08] between 600 and one on that clock and

[51:11] once you pass it once you get past it

[51:13] you'll never ever be able to go back

[51:15] because the light living in the light is

[51:18] a way of it's a way of being that if

[51:21] you're not there you don't get it yet

[51:23] but once you see it and once it begins

[51:25] to and take over your life you can never

[51:27] go back that be that is your purpose it

[51:29] isn't your purpose isn't to try to be

[51:32] loving your purpose is to be loved and

[51:35] only have that to give away well but

[51:38] there's one other ingredient and it's

[51:40] really crucial

[51:42] forgiveness is the vital ingredient on

[51:46] the path of

[51:48] Enlightenment and if you don't know how

[51:50] to do it then practice sending out love

[51:53] take the person or the people that that

[51:55] you're having conflict with any place in

[51:57] your life send them something you don't

[51:59] have to even do it

[52:01] physically just send them

[52:05] something that comes from inside and

[52:08] what's inside is how you choose to think

[52:11] and if you can make that love and do

[52:13] that and that is to me the

[52:16] test not whether you can love someone

[52:18] when they smell good when they do

[52:20] everything that you're supposed to but

[52:22] whether you can love someone who has

[52:23] sent you hate or anguish in your life

[52:25] and send it back you don't have to

[52:27] forget you don't have to go back but you

[52:30] got to get it out of you because it is

[52:32] blocking you and holding you back and

[52:34] when I said you'll see it when you

[52:36] believe

[52:37] it all my life I had wanted to write

[52:40] fiction a

[52:43] parable three four years ago I decided

[52:46] to go off to Hawaii to Maui to kopali

[52:48] Beach and to write now the books that

[52:50] had met the most difference in my life

[52:53] were The Little Prince

[52:57] candid

[52:58] sedara Jonathan Livingston seigo

[53:02] Illusions Alice Through the Looking

[53:04] Glass Gulliver's Travels Parables

[53:08] teaching Parables stories that can tell

[53:11] a message I went over to

[53:15] Maui and I sat down on the beach and I'd

[53:18] been talking about writing this I've

[53:19] been talking about doing this and it was

[53:21] something that and I have a little girl

[53:24] and her name is Sky

[53:26] SK K

[53:30] ye I decided to reverse the letters in

[53:32] her name e y k s and put an i in there

[53:38] which symbolizes the self

[53:40] IUS and I just created this parable of a

[53:43] woman whose name is IUS who lives on

[53:44] another planet the planet is

[53:46] Uranus and it's a duplicate mirror image

[53:49] of Earth only IAS can only see things as

[53:51] they are not as we would like them to be

[53:54] and therefore people are neurotic on

[53:55] Uranus because they have to be she gives

[53:57] the anxiety attack report if you will

[54:00] because anxiety really does attack over

[54:03] there and tells about anxiety coming in

[54:05] on the weekends and so on well my

[54:07] visitor in my Parable goes to Uranus

[54:11] meets IUS she cannot understand as he

[54:13] describes Earth why people would be

[54:15] neurotic by choice on Earth why would

[54:18] anybody be unhappy or depressed or

[54:19] miserable when they don't have when

[54:20] anxiety doesn't attack and when

[54:22] elevators really don't scare you and

[54:23] when if you want a complex on Uranus if

[54:25] you want to give a complex to your wife

[54:27] you go to the store and buy one and she

[54:28] what happened well my husband gave me a

[54:30] complex you know and it's true whereas

[54:32] on Earth if you have a complex is

[54:33] because you've chosen to have one she

[54:34] can't figure it out okay so she comes

[54:36] here observes our people and begins to

[54:39] see the secrets of the universe and

[54:42] gives us these secrets talks to the top

[54:44] leaders in our field and that was my

[54:46] Parable and I wrote it and she gives all

[54:48] of these wonderful Secrets some of which

[54:49] I've been talking about here today but

[54:52] what I want to tell you is that my wife

[54:54] gave me a license plate and the license

[54:56] plate says IUS okay it's a vanity plate

[54:59] and I was pumping gas on Federal Highway

[55:01] in Fort Lauderdale Florida and a little

[55:03] man from Greece came up to me and he

[55:06] said what means this FAS uh which is how

[55:09] you say that in Greek and I said well

[55:11] that's just a word it's my daughter's

[55:12] name spelled backward it's a parable

[55:13] that I wrote he said no he said in Greek

[55:16] that's a word I said what could that

[55:19] word be he said it means best wishes for

[55:24] all

[55:26] you'll see

[55:27] it when you believe it the great big

[55:32] erroneous Zone The Cosmic erroneous Zone

[55:34] if you get this one you'll have it and

[55:35] understand it

[55:36] all there is no

[55:40] way to

[55:42] happiness

[55:45] happiness is the

[55:47] way God bless you thank you

[55:54] for

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