# Wayne Dyer - How to Be a No-Limit Person

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Translation: zh-CN

[00:01] [Music]

[00:05] the first 10 years of my life I spent uh

[00:08] in a series of foster homes and

[00:11] orphanages my mother had

[00:13] um Three Boys by the time she was very

[00:16] young in her early

[00:18] 20s and my father abandoned his family

[00:21] he just left he took off one day well I

[00:24] was born in

[00:25] 1940 and uh there was a depression in

[00:27] the world there was a war

[00:30] getting going um there was no

[00:33] welfare there were no food stamps things

[00:36] like that so my brother Dave and I uh my

[00:40] next oldest brother uh went into a

[00:42] series of homes and ended up in a uh

[00:45] orphanage kind of place out in Mount

[00:47] Clemens Michigan and my oldest brother

[00:49] went with my grandmother N9 or 10 and

[00:52] then and got us back

[00:53] [Music]

[00:58] together but being poor means you think

[01:02] poor selfworth comes from one thing a

[01:06] belief that you are

[01:09] worthy teacher therapist Consulting

[01:13] psychologist and best-selling author

[01:16] Wayne

[01:18] [Music]

[01:26] Dyer thank

[01:28] you

[01:32] thank you so

[01:34] much enough enough thank you thank you I

[01:38] appreciate it so much the

[01:41] uh topic if there is such a thing for

[01:45] today is uh choosing your own greatness

[01:49] or uh being a No Limit person taking

[01:53] charge of your own life something I

[01:55] really believe that you are the sum

[01:58] total of all of the the choices that

[02:00] you've made up until now and anything

[02:03] about yourself or your life that you

[02:04] don't like or isn't working or is

[02:06] mobilizing you is to be looked at in

[02:10] terms of can I

[02:13] grow rather than why did I do it or

[02:16] isn't this

[02:17] wrong see the two ways to motivate

[02:20] yourself are deficiency motivation which

[02:22] says where I am I don't like I don't

[02:25] like what I've done I don't like the

[02:27] fact that I can't do this well or I

[02:29] can't do that well so I will list these

[02:32] things in my own repertoire and then I

[02:34] will be constantly trying to repair

[02:36] those deficiencies always assuming that

[02:39] I'm deficient that there's something

[02:40] wrong with me and I'm trying to fix it

[02:43] and when you do that you spend your

[02:44] whole life doing

[02:46] that and you never arrive because your

[02:49] life becomes a series of trying to get

[02:52] someplace

[02:54] else and it

[02:56] is if you follow that if you live that

[02:59] if you behave that then what you what

[03:01] happens to you is you become a person

[03:04] who will always suffer from this disease

[03:07] called

[03:09] more you always have to have more

[03:12] because whenever you are getting where

[03:14] you want to go let's say you want

[03:15] $100,000 in the bank and you work and

[03:18] you struggle and you deny yourself and

[03:20] you do all of those things and you

[03:21] finally finally you get there and here

[03:23] you are you got $100,000 in the bank all

[03:26] of this stuff over here is a course your

[03:29] life and that is all you know that's

[03:31] what you know how to that's how you are

[03:33] that is your being that is your way of

[03:35] being so that when you do get here what

[03:38] you will do is say this is not

[03:41] enough you must a No Limit

[03:44] person is never operating from

[03:48] deficiency or from lack in their life

[03:51] they're never saying I don't have

[03:58] enough you see you're never going to get

[04:03] enough you already are

[04:06] everything you're everything that you

[04:09] need think of it for just a moment

[04:10] everything that you need to have total

[04:13] Bliss Perfection of your life you

[04:16] already are you already have it you came

[04:19] into this world with nothing that's how

[04:21] you're going out and the time that you

[04:24] have here it what you have is your

[04:27] uniqueness your specialness and you

[04:29] don't need anything else now think on

[04:32] this if you don't know how to appreciate

[04:36] what you have and where you are in your

[04:39] life you don't need anything

[04:42] else because if you do get something

[04:45] else you won't know how to appreciate

[04:48] that either you'll just want more or

[04:52] you'll want it to be different or you

[04:55] want it to be the way it used to be or

[04:58] you'll want someone else to be the way

[05:00] you think they should be successful

[05:02] people or No Limit people or

[05:04] self-actualizing people or

[05:06] inner-directed people however you

[05:08] whatever labels that have been put on

[05:09] them by great thinkers and philosophers

[05:11] and therapists and people uh that have

[05:14] looked at human beings these kinds of

[05:17] people are people who always have

[05:20] enough there are some people if you

[05:22] invite them over and you say um you know

[05:25] uh I'd like you to come over tonight and

[05:28] i' I'd like you just stay over if you

[05:30] can instead of having to drive back and

[05:31] they'll say well can you say can you

[05:33] stay and I say well I don't know if I

[05:35] can stay or not um well you could sleep

[05:38] on the cot oh no no I could never sleep

[05:40] on the c i I can't sleep on

[05:43] cats I got a sciatica don't you know

[05:45] that I have I have back pain and I the

[05:47] cats no that's out of the question I

[05:48] couldn't sleep on a cat uh and what

[05:51] about breakfast well we don't have any

[05:52] food but um we have some old grapefruit

[05:55] that are in the uh in the uh

[05:57] refrigerator they have a few spots on

[05:59] them oh no I could never eat grapefruit

[06:01] spots no thanks I can't eat grapefruit

[06:03] spots I just couldn't do that you know

[06:06] uh and these are people who uh never

[06:08] have enough they are are not able to be

[06:12] flexible and to change and there are

[06:14] other people if you say would you like

[06:15] to sleep over we got a place in the

[06:18] sewer hey that'd be great I can handle

[06:20] that no problem I slept there before

[06:22] it's all and all we have is grapefruit

[06:25] oh I love grapefruit well we got this

[06:27] got spots I'm oh I really like

[06:28] grapefruits SPS those are terrific I'll

[06:30] I'll go for those there are some people

[06:33] who can handle anything not because

[06:37] their circumstances are different you

[06:39] see your circumstances have very little

[06:41] to do with your fulfillment in life very

[06:44] little it's it's how you're approaching

[06:48] your circumstances it's your attitude

[06:50] towards your circumstances that make all

[06:52] the difference in the world and taking

[06:56] what you are and accepting it I got to

[06:59] show you

[07:01] this I don't know if the camera can get

[07:04] this this is a little uh advertisement

[07:07] that was in the Detroit Free Press uh

[07:10] for uh last September I was giving a

[07:13] speech at the Unity Church of today in

[07:15] Detroit and it says uh Dr Wayne Dyer

[07:18] will talk about your inner child and how

[07:21] to deal effectively with problems in all

[07:23] relationships and it was a real nice ad

[07:24] you can see that then on top of the ad

[07:27] in the same paper

[07:29] there's another

[07:31] ad and the ad says face

[07:34] [Laughter]

[07:40] it right on top of my

[07:42] head there's no hiding from hair

[07:47] loss and they got a picture of a

[07:50] guy with a box over his

[07:55] head and they have a before and after

[07:57] guy there and they after guy looks like

[08:01] he's just found fulfillment and it says

[08:03] you can't run and you can't hide hair

[08:05] loss is a problem and unless you take

[08:08] action it will

[08:11] continue now we've got to look at this

[08:16] uh in terms of uh what I can do with

[08:20] this and how I can handle this see my

[08:21] daughter helped me with being bald a

[08:24] long time ago she said dad you're not

[08:25] really bald don't think of yourself that

[08:27] way she said you're just about this much

[08:29] taller than your hair that's

[08:31] all which is sort of a nice way to look

[08:34] at it too I just sort of outgrew my hair

[08:35] I sort of transcended my hair if you

[08:38] will

[08:39] right no limit people are human beings

[08:43] who take what they are and accept it and

[08:48] don't tell themselves that somehow

[08:50] they're deficient because of anything

[08:53] about

[08:58] themselves

[09:00] this is a very

[09:02] crucial uh concept for for me and for

[09:05] virtually all of us it's this idea of

[09:08] taking your life in your own hands and

[09:12] being the kind of person that you choose

[09:15] to be and understanding that everything

[09:18] that comes your

[09:20] way is an

[09:22] opportunity is a

[09:24] blessing and it wasn't

[09:27] until I learned how to celebrate

[09:31] virtually everything that came my way

[09:34] that I was able to transcend it you see

[09:38] everything that was given to us by

[09:41] God whatever that is is perfect no one

[09:45] can deny the mountains are perfect and

[09:47] the rivers are perfect and the birds are

[09:49] perfect and the hippopotamuses are

[09:51] perfect and and and so on this is just

[09:53] what was given to us everything else

[09:57] that you have on our planet planet that

[09:59] we have on our planet comes about as a

[10:02] result

[10:03] of thinking thinking thought makes it so

[10:09] all right this microphone comes about as

[10:11] a result of thinking somebody imagines

[10:15] it somebody then tells somebody else

[10:17] about and it's and it creates it the

[10:18] dress that you're wearing the shirt that

[10:20] I'm the shoes that you have the stage

[10:22] these cameras everything that you see

[10:24] that wasn't given to us was created by

[10:27] man as a result of the way that we think

[10:32] think so what gets inside of us as a

[10:35] cell comes about as a result of the way

[10:38] that we choose to think in our lives

[10:40] very important principle to understand

[10:42] because once you get a hold of

[10:45] thinking and that it creates everything

[10:47] that you have in your life you can

[10:50] change and make it as absolutely perfect

[10:52] as you want it to be because thought

[10:54] makes it so creative visualization is

[10:57] what we're talking about here you you

[10:59] the imagery or the image that you have

[11:03] of anything in your life is really like

[11:04] mental Behavior it's like going out and

[11:06] practicing if you go out and practice

[11:07] with a basketball shooting uh free

[11:09] throws over and over again that's

[11:11] physical practice imagery is mental

[11:13] practice it's mental behavior when you

[11:16] have an image that you can succeed at at

[11:18] something when you have an image that

[11:19] you can do it rather than that you can't

[11:21] do it when you get into your car and you

[11:22] have an image that you're going to find

[11:24] a parking place rather than that

[11:25] there'll be no place to park so you're

[11:27] not looking for no place to park you

[11:29] will start acting on the image that you

[11:30] have very much like you will start

[11:32] acting on the practice that you have

[11:33] when you're shooting baskets or when

[11:35] you're hitting a forehand or or working

[11:37] on your soup or anything else that

[11:38] you're doing Bucky Fuller who I served

[11:41] with on the hunger project advisory

[11:42] Council for nine years who died not too

[11:45] long ago said that

[11:48] 99% of who you are you can't touch you

[11:51] can't see you can't smell 99% of you is

[11:57] untouchable unsellable

[12:00] invisible it is what Ken kaai has called

[12:03] your your conscious awareness it's your

[12:06] it's what looks out behind those

[12:09] eyeballs what is that it isn't it isn't

[12:12] cells it's some kind of conscious

[12:14] awareness that you are and make no

[12:17] mistake about it you've occupied a whole

[12:18] lot of bodies already now this is not

[12:21] reincarnation people ask me if I believe

[12:22] talk although I don't know about this

[12:27] in it I said well I taught in a junior

[12:30] high school in the inner city of Detroit

[12:32] for four years and I saw those dead

[12:35] bodies come to life every day at

[12:38] 3:00 so I

[12:40] believe in reincarnation all

[12:45] right now if what you if 99% of who you

[12:49] are you can't touch and you can't feel

[12:50] and you can't smell then where what is

[12:53] it who is it where are you what is this

[12:56] thing called your essence or who you are

[12:59] and where does it go now think of this

[13:02] you were in a body I have a little baby

[13:03] girl who's 11 months old and she and we

[13:06] were all in a body that size well it's

[13:08] only a body about this big got fingers

[13:10] only this long you know got uh tiny tiny

[13:14] little Parts all over the place I mean

[13:15] she's only this tall now is that her is

[13:20] that her

[13:21] Essence because I have other children

[13:24] who are much older and I am much older

[13:28] than that and I can remember being three

[13:31] and being in a different body still me

[13:33] still my Essence there different body

[13:34] totally different doesn't even look

[13:35] anything like when I was 11 months old

[13:38] and then I was 13 and I had a funny body

[13:41] at 13 but still my Essence was there in

[13:44] a whole new body hairs growing all over

[13:46] the place that I didn't understand all

[13:48] kinds of things happening to it you know

[13:50] then hairs falling out of it later on

[13:52] you know looking at those hairs that

[13:54] fall out and say what held it in

[13:55] yesterday you know what I don't know I

[13:57] don't even understand that that okay and

[14:01] so it's like who I am has been in many

[14:04] many bodies already all right and that

[14:07] essence you see everything on our planet

[14:10] that is alive can never die it can never

[14:13] die life doesn't die it just transforms

[14:17] it just moves on to new places and new

[14:19] ways of being new ways of being and the

[14:22] way of being that is the most

[14:24] Transcendent of all is this way that

[14:28] comes

[14:29] from seeing yourself as love and only

[14:33] having that to give away only having

[14:36] that to give away let's say I would to

[14:38] stand up here in front of you and just

[14:40] visualize for a moment that I have an

[14:43] orange and I take this orange and I

[14:46] squeeze it as hard as I can squeeze it

[14:49] okay what's going to come

[14:51] out juice what kind of juice orange

[14:54] juice orange apple juice any

[14:57] chance once in a while while come on now

[15:00] and then little mango juice come out of

[15:01] an orange once in a while no mistakes

[15:04] right never no matter what next question

[15:06] everybody passes these are easy okay why

[15:10] when you squeeze an orange as hard as

[15:12] you can squeeze it does orange juice

[15:14] come

[15:15] out cuz that's not because it's an

[15:17] orange because that's what's inside

[15:22] isn't it on our planet when you squeeze

[15:24] something what comes out of it is what's

[15:26] inside not too difficult on

[15:30] right does it

[15:32] matter if your mother squeezes the

[15:36] orange does it matter what instrument

[15:38] she

[15:39] uses does it matter if you just had your

[15:41] period and then you squeeze an orange

[15:45] does it matter if your boss squeezes it

[15:48] how about if your kids do it your kids

[15:49] squeeze it on does it matter does it

[15:51] matter what time of day suppose they do

[15:52] it at noon all right how about at 4 in

[15:55] the morning does that matter whenever

[15:57] you squeeze in an orange the only thing

[16:00] you get out is what's inside right no

[16:05] arguments same thing works for you same

[16:08] principle works for you it's a principle

[16:10] of the universe all right someone

[16:12] squeezes you that is someone puts

[16:15] pressure on you someone says things

[16:17] about you that you don't like someone

[16:19] puts uh attention on you whatever your

[16:23] boss says something to you that you

[16:24] don't like and out of you comes anger

[16:32] hatred and out of you comes fear or out

[16:37] of you comes stress or out of you comes

[16:40] tension why is it because of your boss

[16:44] the way they squeeze never is it because

[16:46] of your mother I mean she really can be

[16:49] a pain sometimes right is it because of

[16:52] your children no what comes out of you

[16:55] always when someone squeezes you is

[16:58] what's inside this is the the vital

[17:01] principle of being a No Limit person

[17:03] it's so crucial to get this and

[17:05] understand that that if you have any

[17:08] hatred in your heart for anyone in this

[17:11] world or any anger or any fear or any of

[17:13] those things it has nothing to do with

[17:15] the rest of the world it only has to do

[17:18] with what you put inside now how does

[17:22] what gets inside of you get there that's

[17:26] the key how does it get there

[17:29] as you think only as you think you see

[17:33] there's no anger in the world there's no

[17:35] stress in the world there's no tension

[17:37] it's perfect we've already esta it's

[17:39] perfect place it works just fine it's

[17:42] all flowing the way it's supposed to

[17:45] flow the evidence for it is it is that's

[17:49] all the evidence you need just look

[17:51] around you everything out there is a

[17:53] miracle everything including you there

[17:56] are no mistakes it's all perfect and

[17:59] everything that happens to you in your

[18:03] life whether it's a trauma whether it's

[18:06] a disease whether it's somebody treating

[18:08] you in a certain way there's a lesson in

[18:11] all of it no limit people understand the

[18:15] lesson in life and therefore celebrate

[18:18] the

[18:23] lessons it's true and when you get to

[18:26] that point in your life where you're not

[18:30] cursing the things that come your way

[18:32] and blaming the things that come your

[18:35] way and particularly blaming it on

[18:37] somebody else and you hear it all the

[18:39] time she hurt my

[18:41] feelings how's that possible how can

[18:44] anybody hurt your feelings your feelings

[18:46] come from your thoughts no one can hurt

[18:50] your feelings without your consent no

[18:52] one can make a fool of you without your

[18:53] consent no one can embarrass you without

[18:56] your consent these are choices that you

[18:58] have that come from the way that you

[19:00] think someone calls you a name hey

[19:03] stupid and you turn

[19:08] around I didn't even tell anybody I was

[19:11] coming how did they know that H and then

[19:13] you blame the person who called you a

[19:15] name instead of saying that's just their

[19:19] opinion that's just where they are

[19:21] that's where they are on the path and

[19:23] it's okay all of you are in

[19:25] relationships right everybody has a

[19:26] relationship of some kind or

[19:30] another in your relationship you have

[19:33] any

[19:35] problems any of you have relationship

[19:37] you don't have any

[19:38] problems I'd like you to take this

[19:40] microphone I want to sit down and listen

[19:41] to

[19:42] you everybody in a relationship has

[19:45] problems don't they right now when you

[19:47] say I'm in a

[19:49] relationship I got

[19:51] problems therefore there's something

[19:54] wrong something's really wrong right now

[19:58] if you're in a relationship and you have

[20:00] problems and something is wrong you got

[20:03] to call in a consultant right you got to

[20:05] call in somebody to help you with the

[20:07] problems you don't want the problems to

[20:08] go on who you going to call in you only

[20:11] got yourself it's all you got you might

[20:13] get a therapist once in a while but they

[20:15] got worse problems than you

[20:16] do the only consultant who can help you

[20:19] with your problems is you and who is

[20:21] that consultant that you're calling in

[20:22] we've already established that there's

[20:24] something wrong with that person

[20:27] right something wrong so now you're

[20:30] going to call in a disabled

[20:32] person to deal with your problems in

[20:35] your relationship right now this is a

[20:38] really sick approach to clearing your

[20:40] problems you got somebody who says we

[20:41] got a problem you don't talk to me and I

[20:43] don't talk to you and you came home week

[20:44] last week and this week I called you and

[20:46] you didn't call and I was supposed to

[20:47] call you and then you didn't do it and

[20:49] how can you do that now this is the

[20:50] consultant you're calling excuse me

[20:51] would you come in and help us I don't

[20:52] know if I can help you or not I didn't

[20:54] come home I that's the person you got to

[20:57] deal with your problems

[20:59] all right now what you can do is you can

[21:00] change all of that around you can say

[21:03] I'm in a relationship we got

[21:06] problems there's nothing wrong with that

[21:09] that's the way things are you know my

[21:12] problem is that you are different than I

[21:15] am and you think differently than I do

[21:19] and you behave differently than I do and

[21:21] you smell different than I do and you

[21:23] have all of these attitudes over here

[21:24] that I don't have nothing wrong with

[21:26] that that's the way it is when two

[21:28] people get together in a relationship

[21:30] you don't have two people becoming one

[21:33] if you do that then what you end up with

[21:35] are two half persons who wants a half a

[21:37] person in a relationship you always are

[21:39] single even if you're married and for

[21:42] you know and involved in relationship

[21:43] for you're still always single you're

[21:46] still always you your unique special

[21:49] perfect self that is not trying to

[21:54] love but who is love who lives love who

[21:59] is being

[22:02] love the same as if you pray to God and

[22:05] say God will you please help me with my

[22:07] problems and want God to do it for you

[22:10] never happen you've got to be God not be

[22:14] afraid to carry God around inside of you

[22:17] if you want to get healed you have got

[22:19] to understand that you're not going to

[22:21] get

[22:22] healed if you are asking someone else to

[22:25] heal you and ask any doctor if you know

[22:28] any surgeon particularly who's taking

[22:29] somebody into surgery and ask them which

[22:32] person has a better chance of living and

[22:35] surviving say serious surgery is it the

[22:37] one who has a will to live or is it the

[22:39] one who's just given up and the surgery

[22:41] and the cases are exactly the same all

[22:43] right but the person who has that will

[22:44] which we can't Define you can't go out

[22:46] and get a bucket full of Will and bring

[22:48] it in there it's an attitude it's an

[22:50] approach it's a belief all right that

[22:52] you can do something and when you have

[22:54] that belief about yourself then you know

[22:57] you've got a so much better uh

[22:58] opportunity to be well in your life and

[23:00] a belief is everything I don't know if

[23:02] you've ever thought of that uh I watch a

[23:04] little girl 5 years old learning how to

[23:06] swim and she's holding on to the edge of

[23:09] the pool and she wants to get over here

[23:11] to the steps and it's just uh 5T or six

[23:14] feet and she'll let go and then she'll

[23:15] hold on again and she'll let go and

[23:17] she'll hold on again and finally there

[23:19] comes a time when she lets go and goes

[23:22] for it okay you've all SE you've seen

[23:24] this with your children you've seen and

[23:27] what you're asking yourself is in the

[23:28] moment before that when she was holding

[23:30] on and then look at the moment

[23:32] afterwards does she have any different

[23:34] skills what's changed yeah the skills

[23:36] are she didn't have any new skills she

[23:37] didn't learn any skills in that second

[23:39] what she has is a belief that she can do

[23:41] it and when you believe it when you

[23:43] really just believe that you can do it

[23:45] that's what allows you to swim and when

[23:46] you think about it now do you know how

[23:48] to swim so when you dive into the water

[23:50] you don't think about that you just know

[23:51] when you dive into the water you can

[23:53] swim you don't have any necessary

[23:54] swimming skills or anything like that or

[23:57] when you get on a bicycle you get on you

[23:58] know that you're going to unless you

[24:00] believe you can't because you've never

[24:02] gone out there and tried it and worked

[24:03] on it and done it told a story of a

[24:05] patient of yours who had that very

[24:06] problem who said she didn't know how to

[24:07] ride a bicycle yeah Gail who came to me

[24:10] many years ago and you know why she said

[24:11] she couldn't ride a bicycle because her

[24:13] mother wouldn't let her get on One Cop

[24:14] Out yeah absolutely and she had these

[24:17] beautiful big white teeth and her uh

[24:19] mother had always told her you could

[24:20] fall and break your teeth and I wouldn't

[24:22] want that to happen to you so here she

[24:23] was now in her 30s and uh telling me

[24:25] that she couldn't ride a bike and she

[24:26] was in therapy

[24:28] and um I said to her okay let's go she

[24:31] said go where are we going I said well

[24:34] I've got a bicycle downstairs and I'm

[24:36] going to uh show you how to ride a bike

[24:38] I'm going to have you teach yourself how

[24:39] to do this and she said look I didn't

[24:40] come here to pay you the kind of money

[24:42] that I'm paying you to have you teach me

[24:44] how to ride a bicycle I came here to

[24:47] find out why I can't I said oh well

[24:49] you're going to need another 30 seconds

[24:50] of therapy easy Okay the reason you

[24:53] can't is because you never got yourself

[24:54] on a bicycle and until you do you never

[24:56] will know how and you just believe that

[24:58] you can't oh that's the end of that

[24:59] there's no more to talk about that now

[25:02] what we have to do is get you to get out

[25:04] there and we went downstairs and I had

[25:05] it was a woman's bike and I've helped a

[25:07] lot of people to teach themselves how to

[25:09] ride a bike and what you do when you

[25:11] teach you help someone to teach

[25:13] themselves how to ride a bike because

[25:14] you don't teach anybody how to ride a

[25:15] bike okay uh is you let them do it all

[25:18] themselves you let them hold it you let

[25:19] them balance it you let them move with

[25:21] it you let them put the pedal down and

[25:23] and and move it themselves and you stand

[25:25] back you say no when you're ready you

[25:26] know and then you move it and you hold

[25:27] on for a second then you put your foot

[25:29] back down and you you practice it and

[25:31] practice and practice that all yourself

[25:33] you know with just someone encouraging

[25:35] you and before long in just a matter of

[25:37] minutes when I tell you it was minutes

[25:39] and this woman had never been on a

[25:41] bicycle before she rode like two blocks

[25:43] on a bicycle she couldn't believe that

[25:45] she she now had a belief being to me

[25:50] means seeing the greatness and the

[25:52] uniqueness in you and never letting

[25:55] anybody else convince you to the

[25:57] contrary when people ask me come on

[25:59] you're always talking about being up and

[26:00] you're always positive and so on you

[26:01] mean to tell me that you're always that

[26:03] way this is I say yeah yeah I really am

[26:06] and it isn't because I'm out there doing

[26:09] something in an artificial way it's an

[26:12] authentic response to my having having

[26:16] gotten the junk out of me and the junk

[26:20] is the way that I used to think the way

[26:23] that I used to think think for a moment

[26:26] if you can visualize right here a clock

[26:28] a big

[26:30] clock and the hands on the clock go from

[26:32] 1 to

[26:34] 12 the clock starts right out here with

[26:36] the minute hand and it goes over towards

[26:38] the three the uh hour hand minute

[26:42] hand and that's the time in your life

[26:45] when you are moving away from yourself

[26:47] from your true self that's the time when

[26:50] you are trying to put other people down

[26:52] trying to prove that you're bigger and

[26:54] better than somebody else trying to make

[26:56] yourself right all the time time as

[26:58] opposed to uh being with somebody else

[27:02] it's like you're moving away and a lot

[27:03] of people spend a lot of time moving

[27:05] away from their true self because your

[27:06] true self is this little child is this

[27:09] beautiful little child inside of

[27:11] you that has only love and acceptance

[27:14] for everything in the world and no

[27:16] disease no absence of ease you move away

[27:19] towards the three and then you move down

[27:21] here this way and you're still moving

[27:22] away from yourself until you hit the six

[27:25] the six is the point in your life

[27:27] symbolically metaphorically here when

[27:30] you are the furthest away from yourself

[27:32] that you can be it's the low point in

[27:33] your life it's the point where many

[27:36] people break down or many people break

[27:38] down their relationships or they they

[27:40] feel full of Despair they feel full of

[27:43] hatred whatever it may be and a lot of

[27:46] people die then a lot of people are put

[27:48] into hospitals then a lot of people have

[27:50] to really seek out therapy then and so

[27:52] on and when you're at that sick there's

[27:55] another part of the clock that goes from

[27:56] 600 to 12 that I think of as uh living

[27:59] in the

[28:01] light and this is when and see this

[28:04] clock hand never can go back it can't go

[28:07] back it can only go this way it only

[28:09] goes this way as does life it only goes

[28:12] this way forward in this period This

[28:15] Place between 6 and

[28:18] 12 that's when you start coming back to

[28:21] yourself that's when that's what

[28:24] enlightenment is that's what that's the

[28:26] pathway to enlight

[28:28] when you send out that stuff that is

[28:31] destroying you that is killing you in

[28:33] one way or another and you move yourself

[28:35] back over here and eventually you get

[28:38] yourself all the way back this is the

[28:39] light over here this is the place where

[28:41] you can't go

[28:43] back you be tempted you might be tempted

[28:47] to steal you might be tempted to to to

[28:50] use anger you might even slip a little

[28:52] bit and you catch yourself I can just

[28:55] not too long ago it was uh we we we got

[28:57] a problem with our sprinkler at at the

[29:00] in my home one of the sprinkler heads is

[29:01] off and if you ever seen that happen you

[29:02] get a gusher going up there and I've

[29:04] been wanting to get that thing replaced

[29:06] for the longest time and I'm walking out

[29:08] of the bank and there's a sprinkler head

[29:10] right there in front of the bank now I

[29:13] practically own this Bank okay so I

[29:16] going to go there every day and I do a

[29:17] lot of business with this bank and I'm

[29:19] looking at this sprinkler head and I

[29:20] think you know all I have to do is just

[29:22] unscrew this thing I wasn't honoring

[29:24] they'll replace it tomorrow morning it's

[29:25] it's 98 cents or whatever so I actually

[29:28] get down there and I look and I start

[29:30] turning the sprinkler and then I start

[29:32] thinking do I want this Karma do you

[29:35] know do I want the do I want to steal do

[29:37] I want to take I know it's only a 99 and

[29:39] if I went into the bank they'd probably

[29:40] give me one anyway if I asked them and I

[29:42] turn and I just turned it back and I

[29:45] said if I want to sprinkle her head I'll

[29:46] go and buy one for myself this doesn't

[29:48] belong to me it it was just like a split

[29:50] second of weakness there or whatever but

[29:52] it Illustrated to me that I can't go

[29:54] back there I could never and there was a

[29:56] time in my life when I could have done

[29:57] that I can be absolutely Frank with that

[29:59] I could do that uh I can't go back there

[30:02] anymore that's where you start that's

[30:04] the place to St because when you get all

[30:06] of that out when that's all gone and I

[30:08] mean gone and it only comes about as a

[30:11] result of the way that you think so it's

[30:13] just changing around your approach to

[30:15] life the way that you think in life when

[30:17] that starts to go

[30:18] away what you've become filled up with

[30:21] is what your natural self is which is

[30:24] this loving accepting uh not not

[30:27] fighting the universe but instead living

[30:30] in it and going with the flow and all of

[30:33] the kinds of cliches that you've heard a

[30:35] thousand times it is that's the metaphor

[30:38] there and you see every time you try to

[30:40] go back can't do it you can't do it and

[30:43] the

[30:44] ingredients that make for a No Limit

[30:47] life are five in my opinion the first is

[30:51] quality rather than appearances you

[30:53] begin to change your thinking from

[30:58] appearances and how things look and how

[31:01] other people view me okay because every

[31:04] time you find yourself upset in life

[31:07] about anything that anyone else has said

[31:09] what you're really saying is what you

[31:11] think of me is more important than what

[31:13] I think of me all right so you change

[31:16] from appearances to what I call Quality

[31:19] thinking quality what is the quality of

[31:22] my life rather than how does it appear

[31:25] to others now do you tell yourself that

[31:29] because my friends don't like me that

[31:32] that means there's something wrong with

[31:33] me now that's see that's what you have

[31:35] to learn that another person's opinion

[31:37] is just that it's their opinion and

[31:39] that's all it is every time you are

[31:43] upset or your children are upset because

[31:46] of what somebody else says about them

[31:48] including their peers what you are

[31:50] really saying in that moment and this is

[31:52] really important what you're saying is

[31:54] what you think of me is more important

[31:57] than what I think of myself and you must

[32:00] never give anybody that kind of power

[32:02] and control over you because they will

[32:04] always have it the funny part about

[32:06] approval for those of you who really

[32:08] want it and re now I'm here to tell you

[32:11] that I like approval I enjoy it I find

[32:13] it one of the most exciting things in

[32:15] the world I like it when people read my

[32:16] books I love it when people applaud I

[32:18] like it when people uh tell me nice

[32:20] things and all I like approval I'm the

[32:22] first one to admit it what I don't do is

[32:25] I don't need

[32:28] approval there's a big difference

[32:30] between wanting approval and needing

[32:32] approval when you need approval it means

[32:35] you become immobilized when you don't

[32:37] get it from making other people's

[32:40] opinions more important now for those of

[32:41] you who say yeah but I want approval and

[32:43] I need it and if I don't get it and so

[32:45] on then understand this the people who

[32:48] get the most approval in life are the

[32:51] ones who care the least about it and the

[32:54] ones who get the least approval are the

[32:56] ones who are are always going after it

[32:58] so if you want approval in this

[33:00] paradoxical way that I'm talking about

[33:03] it stop needing it stop concerning

[33:06] yourself about ask yourself who gets the

[33:08] most approval in life think of the

[33:10] person that gets the most approval and

[33:12] you'll see that that person couldn't

[33:14] care less what other people are thinking

[33:17] they're so busy being they don't have

[33:20] time to notice what their neighbors are

[33:21] doing the RO said this he said if you

[33:24] advance confidently in the direction of

[33:27] your own

[33:28] dreams and Endeavor to live the life

[33:31] which you have

[33:33] imagined you will meet with a success

[33:37] unexpected in common

[33:39] hours what that means is that success is

[33:44] not something that you can get in life

[33:48] success is an inner process success is

[33:52] something that you bring to everything

[33:55] you do in your life it is isn't

[33:57] something you get out of what you do and

[33:59] when you get that and you learn how to

[34:02] get the junk out and Advance confidently

[34:05] doing what makes the most amount of

[34:07] sense to you based on your inner signals

[34:09] and the one issue of morality which is

[34:12] you never interfere with anybody else's

[34:14] right to do the same each person has

[34:16] their own right to advance confidently

[34:18] in the direction of their own dreams and

[34:21] when you violate that you're violating

[34:22] the principle of the universe the

[34:23] essence of the universe which is

[34:25] cooperation and

[34:27] Harmony then success will begin to chase

[34:30] you and it will come into your life and

[34:32] arrive in your life in amounts that you

[34:35] never dreamt of before that you never

[34:38] dreamt of things will start happening to

[34:40] you that you would never imagine before

[34:44] I'm working on a book right now that's

[34:45] going to be called you'll see it when

[34:46] you believe it when you start

[34:50] believing in some of these principles

[34:52] you'll start seeing things that you were

[34:54] blind to for so long when you were back

[34:56] here and the two and the three and the

[34:58] four and the five when you are moving

[35:00] away from yourself as long as you're

[35:01] moving back towards your Universal

[35:04] Essence your harmony with yourself your

[35:07] cooperation with the rest things will

[35:10] start happening in ways that you never

[35:12] dreamt of Yung called it uh

[35:17] synchronicity and we it's it's a term

[35:19] that we use to to explain how

[35:21] unexplainable coincidences sort of

[35:23] happen in our life and how come these

[35:25] things happen I'm going to share a

[35:26] couple of those with you before we

[35:28] leave

[35:30] the the quality versus appearance in

[35:33] your life means that you get that inner

[35:36] candle flame working in a way that gives

[35:39] you quality independent of what other

[35:42] people think of you maslo in defining

[35:44] self-actualizing No Limit people said

[35:47] they are independent of the good opinion

[35:50] of other people of the good opinion of

[35:53] other people independent of it they're

[35:55] so busy at advancing confidently doing

[35:58] the things that make sense and bringing

[36:00] success to changing their baby's diaper

[36:03] and bringing success to weeding their

[36:05] garden and bringing it to the job they

[36:08] bring it on the airplane so that when

[36:09] they run into somebody who is who is

[36:11] rude to them a steart is that is rude

[36:13] they don't see it as an attack on them

[36:16] it's just where they are and they send

[36:18] them love help them a little bit you

[36:20] know they're kind to when somebody wants

[36:22] to get in on the

[36:23] freeway and they're uh one old

[36:28] Temptation when they were on the one to

[36:29] the six side was to say oh yeah nobody's

[36:32] getting in front of me I'm getting there

[36:33] first it's like they slow down a little

[36:36] bit they don't have all that typ a stuff

[36:37] of having to beat somebody else and

[36:39] having to defeat somebody it is it's a

[36:41] new way of being it's a way of quality

[36:44] where your Harmony allows you to

[36:47] cooperate and you are a part of what

[36:50] this whole thing is

[36:52] about new way of being quality rather

[36:55] than appearances another new way of

[36:57] being very important living your life on

[37:00] ethics rather than rules ethics rather

[37:04] than rules all these rules all these

[37:07] ways of having to do things somebody

[37:09] else dictates to them do you know that

[37:11] some of the most immoral acts in the

[37:13] world have been perpetrated in the name

[37:15] of the rules these are the laws what do

[37:18] you think Nazi Germany was all about

[37:21] everybody doing all these horrible

[37:23] things to other people I'm only doing my

[37:25] job was the defense we all heard at

[37:27] nberg I was just doing my job if it's an

[37:30] immoral rule it's immoral to obey it and

[37:34] self-actualizing people as maslo tells

[37:36] us have rules inside of them that they

[37:38] could never o never disobey ever and

[37:41] they have to do with ethics how you

[37:43] treat people how do you think we get to

[37:45] where we are now you know who Rosa Parks

[37:48] was the woman in the South the black

[37:51] woman in the South who said not today

[37:53] I'm not going to the back today no way I

[37:56] know what the the rules are the rules

[37:57] were all over the place if you didn't

[37:58] need if you needed a reminder there were

[38:00] signs every place colored in the back

[38:03] white in the front and she said no I'm

[38:06] sitting

[38:07] here and that made all the difference

[38:11] ethics not rules when your children

[38:14] start disobeying rules that need to be

[38:17] disobeyed don't be surprised when I was

[38:20] in the

[38:22] service they had a policy on Guam where

[38:24] I was stationed which would not allow

[38:27] the guadian civilians to shop in the pxs

[38:30] in the Navy exchanges but they did allow

[38:33] all other civilians to shop in the Navy

[38:35] exchanges and

[38:36] pxs but if you were Guamanian that is if

[38:39] your skin was dark and your eyes were

[38:41] shaped a little different then you

[38:43] couldn't a clear outright violation I

[38:46] was a serviceman I was in the Navy I was

[38:49] a Communications

[38:51] cryptographer they had a a a newspaper

[38:53] on the Guam daily news and it said an

[38:55] invitation to speak your

[38:59] mind and it was a letter writing

[39:03] contest and they offered $75 to the

[39:06] first prize winner $75 this was

[39:10] 1961 that was a fortune to me that was a

[39:13] month's pay in the Navy at that time

[39:15] almost So I entered the contest and I

[39:18] knew I would win it I had already

[39:19] written a novel at that time a whole

[39:21] novel I'd written while I was on Guam I

[39:24] knew it wasn't going to be a contest I

[39:26] felt sorry for the other people entering

[39:28] it I knew I was going to win this

[39:30] unfortunately I didn't realize that when

[39:32] you're in the service and you have an

[39:35] opinion and you don't submit it to the

[39:37] chain of

[39:38] command that you can be Court marshal

[39:40] for

[39:42] that so the headlines on next week's

[39:44] Guam Daily News were US Sailor a sales

[39:48] policy of

[39:50] discrimination big hot stuff all right

[39:54] and I was called before a vice admiral

[39:55] Commander naal forces Marana

[39:58] Island and threatened with a court

[40:00] Marshal because I had disobeyed the

[40:03] rules even though the rule was immoral

[40:07] there are lots of them like that and

[40:09] when I went in and they threatened me

[40:10] with the court

[40:12] Marshal I told them this was my battle

[40:15] plan they didn't have Xerox machines in

[40:18] those days so I had to get a lot of

[40:19] carbon paper I wrote a letter to the

[40:21] president John F Kennedy and I wrote a

[40:24] letter to the Secretary of the Navy and

[40:26] I wrote a letter I was my hometown was

[40:28] Detroit I wrote a letter to the Detroit

[40:29] news and a letter to the Detroit Free

[40:31] Press telling them what was happening to

[40:34] me as a result of just expressing my

[40:36] opinion about an immoral act that was

[40:38] going on over here on Guang and I showed

[40:41] the naval uh uh vice admiral my letters

[40:45] right there I said I've only sent the

[40:47] one to the president and the secretary

[40:49] of the

[40:51] Navy these letters go to the newspapers

[40:53] across the country there's one there to

[40:54] the New York Times as well in the Los

[40:56] Angeles it was uh and I just spread them

[40:59] out before him I said if you Court

[41:00] Marshal me or punish me in any way for

[41:03] this then what's going to happen is the

[41:06] world is going to find out about this

[41:07] policy and I'm prepared I'm ready I can

[41:10] handle it and I was 20 years old at the

[41:13] time or

[41:14] 21 not only did I get a blessing from

[41:18] that because all things come in

[41:19] blessings for you I got out 90 days

[41:25] early

[41:26] and they stamped on my record Pi because

[41:30] the president took it up and sent it to

[41:32] the secretary must have and I never

[41:34] heard from him but I uh the pi on your

[41:37] record means political

[41:39] influence and they don't like anybody

[41:41] with political influence in the military

[41:43] and as soon as they saw that they said

[41:44] this is somebody we probably will be uh

[41:47] giving a discharge real soon there was

[41:49] no there was no court Marshal and in

[41:51] September of 1962 a brand new policy was

[41:54] initiated on Guam which allowed any

[41:57] civilian to shop in the Navy exchanges

[42:00] and it came

[42:02] about as a result of someone saying

[42:05] these rules are immoral and therefore

[42:09] it's immoral to obey them new ways of

[42:12] being ethics rather than rules and when

[42:16] your kids want to know why how come

[42:18] these rules are so stupid how come we

[42:19] have to do this encourage them to change

[42:22] them my mother always did that she would

[42:24] have to help me get out of the out of

[42:25] the messes that I got myself into

[42:27] because I I I did it in my impetuous

[42:29] youth I would just when they would say

[42:31] to me what's more important your job or

[42:32] school I was just

[42:34] honest I said my job of course that's

[42:38] how I felt in those days but what you do

[42:41] put out in the world is exactly what's

[42:43] coming back to you and if you find

[42:45] things coming back to you that you don't

[42:47] like and don't understand don't ask

[42:49] yourself why these things are coming to

[42:51] you ask yourself what you're doing to

[42:53] make them come back to you and when you

[42:56] start putting the responsibility on

[42:57] yourself you'll start seeing dramatic

[42:58] changes dramatic changes a new way of

[43:03] being instead of Ethics instead of rules

[43:07] ethics a new another new way of being

[43:09] instead of looking all your life for

[43:14] achievements and

[43:16] externals try living your life on

[43:19] knowledge for the sake of knowledge

[43:21] knowledge instead of achievement for the

[43:25] sake of knowledge

[43:26] being in a in a context in which you

[43:31] don't have to collect a lot of merit

[43:33] badges you don't have to collect a lot

[43:35] of a lot of uh Awards and other people's

[43:38] uh value judgments that you go to school

[43:41] or you go out into the world or you read

[43:43] or whatever it is you do because it

[43:44] makes sense to you not because of what

[43:48] somebody else is going to put on a

[43:50] transcript or where you're going to

[43:52] appear in a class list we need to help

[43:55] our children to understand and value the

[43:59] importance of knowledge for the sake of

[44:01] knowledge and doing things that make

[44:03] sense rather than taking the easy

[44:05] way knowledge rather than always trying

[44:09] to achieve we are in an achievement

[44:11] oriented society which tells us that we

[44:14] evaluate and judge a human being based

[44:17] upon how many achie achievements he has

[44:19] but most of the people who get caught up

[44:20] in that trap and are always in this

[44:22] circle of trying to get ahead trying to

[44:25] always get ahead their reward for that

[44:27] almost always is higher blood

[44:29] pressure

[44:31] ulcers early deaths and even things like

[44:34] cancer we're beginning to find out are

[44:36] related to the kinds of stresses that we

[44:39] have and remember it's a perfect

[44:41] Universe there's no stress in it there's

[44:44] only people thinking stressful

[44:46] thoughts and when you put that pressure

[44:48] on yourself to always achieve and get

[44:50] ahead of the other guy you miss what

[44:52] it's really all about there's nothing

[44:54] wrong with goals it's falling in love

[44:57] with them that's the problem it's not

[44:59] being able to be flexible and be alter

[45:01] them if you have a goal to get here to

[45:03] get $100,000 in the bank to get to this

[45:06] promotion to get two cars in your garage

[45:08] to whatever it is that your goal is and

[45:10] you're on your way to that and you're

[45:12] always working at the goal all of this

[45:13] stuff on your way to the goal is called

[45:16] striving and that's what you learn

[45:17] striving striving is a very lowlevel

[45:19] place to be when you get to your goal

[45:21] because all you've ever known is

[45:22] striving you will just always suffer

[45:24] from this disease called Mo you will

[45:26] just upgrade your goal to $200,000 four

[45:28] cars and two houses and another wife and

[45:30] a younger one and and all of these kinds

[45:32] of things if you have a goal and you

[45:35] understand that every step along the way

[45:37] is a present moment to enjoy and to live

[45:40] then the goal won't become any Obsession

[45:43] I don't have any goals in my life people

[45:44] ask me where you going to be 5 years

[45:46] from now what are you going to be doing

[45:47] what's next for you I just uh I remember

[45:50] what Lincoln said who to me was like the

[45:52] greatest person who ever sat in that

[45:54] white

[45:54] house he said i' never had a policy he

[45:57] said I just tried to do what made the

[46:00] greatest amount of sense each and every

[46:02] day of my life as I sat there as the

[46:04] President of the United States and I

[46:06] think there's there's something really

[46:08] significant in that that you don't have

[46:10] to get it all planned out and follow a

[46:12] certain pattern and do it a certain way

[46:14] if you just sort of trust your inner

[46:16] instincts and go with that and live each

[46:18] moment the goal stuff will all take care

[46:20] of itself but if you're sacrificing and

[46:22] pushing your life aside and and uh

[46:24] suffering on your way to trying to get

[46:27] someplace you'll never get there it will

[46:29] always elude you because once you get

[46:30] there you'll just have to upgrade it and

[46:32] that's because that's all you'll know

[46:34] nness is that purest form of Sanity

[46:37] living in this moment and enjoying it

[46:39] and all the rest of it will sort of work

[46:41] its way

[46:42] out another new way of being for

[46:46] me is to think of yourself in terms of

[46:49] personal Authority rather than being an

[46:53] authoritarian personal Authority

[46:56] a person who has authority never needs

[46:59] to dominate anyone else ever dominating

[47:03] doesn't become necessary in business you

[47:07] can have authority the people who have

[47:09] the most Authority are the ones who

[47:10] listen the most and the ones who are the

[47:12] most conscientious about what do other

[47:15] people have to say a person in a

[47:17] relationship who has to dominate

[47:19] somebody else and has to make the other

[47:21] person submissive shows that they don't

[47:23] have authority because they're getting

[47:25] their power not from within for

[47:27] themselves but on the basis of who they

[47:28] can control and that never lasts that

[47:32] never lasts the only thing that lasts is

[47:34] having inner power if you will know

[47:37] thyself that's what Shakespeare said

[47:39] know thyself the more you know yourself

[47:42] the more you the more you become honest

[47:45] with yourself uh honesty becomes just a

[47:47] way of life no I don't think the world

[47:50] necessarily does but you can't run your

[47:51] world you can't run your world based

[47:53] upon what the rest of the people in the

[47:54] world want or don't want to me honesty

[47:57] is like it's a Karma that goes out into

[47:59] the world how people treat you in the

[48:01] world is their karma how you react is

[48:04] yours and what when you react to it with

[48:08] dishonesty that's what you're putting

[48:10] out into the world dishonesty and when

[48:11] you put this honesty out into the world

[48:14] that's what's going to come back to you

[48:15] because what goes out is what comes back

[48:16] that all as you sow so shall you reap I

[48:19] mean it's it's in every great uh

[48:21] institution that there is in the world

[48:23] whe whether it's a religion or a

[48:24] philosophy or whatever what you put out

[48:26] is what comes back whatever you plant is

[48:28] what you're going to get back and the

[48:30] more that you put out honesty just

[48:33] because it's what you are because you

[48:35] are being honesty you're not trying to

[48:37] be honest you are just being honesty

[48:39] then that's what will come back to you

[48:41] on a regular basis and when it doesn't

[48:43] you'll just see that as another test for

[48:45] you to

[48:46] pass and finally a fifth way of being

[48:51] that is

[48:52] new for me it be has become a way of

[48:56] life it's called

[48:59] Serenity instead of

[49:01] Acquisitions the more you try to acquire

[49:04] the more you try to get the more you try

[49:06] to collect in your life and evaluate

[49:09] yourself on the basis of that the less

[49:11] Serenity you're going to have more is

[49:14] less it's almost a secret of the

[49:16] universe Serenity means inner

[49:20] peace means that you can uh find joy in

[49:23] every moment that you have in your life

[49:25] instead of always looking for it it

[49:27] means that um while you are uh uh

[49:31] driving along the countryside you know

[49:34] and seeing uh instead of saying this is

[49:37] I'm on my way to this point that you can

[49:40] open your eyes and see it with new eyes

[49:43] see see the rolling mountains see the

[49:45] grass see the deer see the sky see you

[49:48] can just stop wherever you are in this

[49:49] second wherever you are and just look

[49:51] around you and you can begin to

[49:52] appreciate just your your surroundings

[49:55] and your environment then you can begin

[49:56] to appreciate the people that are in

[49:58] your life and even the ones that are

[50:00] negative and and that you're having the

[50:02] most difficulty with you can practice a

[50:04] new way of being with them which is

[50:06] sending them love sending them flowers

[50:07] send them book send them a tape send

[50:09] them something and just see what kind of

[50:11] reaction that you get super emotional

[50:13] health is just an attitude an attitude

[50:16] is

[50:18] everything I want to uh summarize these

[50:21] new ways of being and and give you the

[50:23] most important uh ingredient on the path

[50:25] as we

[50:27] leave I said that uh it's quality in

[50:30] your life to be focusing on rather than

[50:32] appearances and it's ethics rather than

[50:34] rules and it's knowledge rather than

[50:36] achievement all the time and it's being

[50:38] personally an authority on yourself

[50:41] rather than authoritarian and trying to

[50:43] be Domin dominating someone else or to

[50:45] be dominated and serenity which is the

[50:48] name of my little go girl my youngest

[50:50] daughter

[50:51] Serena um rather than acquisition and

[50:55] accumulations and trying to prove

[50:57] yourself that way and when you get that

[50:58] Serenity which comes from the way that

[51:00] you think

[51:02] always then you will replace all of the

[51:06] other junk that keeps you back here

[51:08] between 600 and one on that clock and

[51:11] once you pass it once you get past it

[51:13] you'll never ever be able to go back

[51:15] because the light living in the light is

[51:18] a way of it's a way of being that if

[51:21] you're not there you don't get it yet

[51:23] but once you see it and once it begins

[51:25] to and take over your life you can never

[51:27] go back that be that is your purpose it

[51:29] isn't your purpose isn't to try to be

[51:32] loving your purpose is to be loved and

[51:35] only have that to give away well but

[51:38] there's one other ingredient and it's

[51:40] really crucial

[51:42] forgiveness is the vital ingredient on

[51:46] the path of

[51:48] Enlightenment and if you don't know how

[51:50] to do it then practice sending out love

[51:53] take the person or the people that that

[51:55] you're having conflict with any place in

[51:57] your life send them something you don't

[51:59] have to even do it

[52:01] physically just send them

[52:05] something that comes from inside and

[52:08] what's inside is how you choose to think

[52:11] and if you can make that love and do

[52:13] that and that is to me the

[52:16] test not whether you can love someone

[52:18] when they smell good when they do

[52:20] everything that you're supposed to but

[52:22] whether you can love someone who has

[52:23] sent you hate or anguish in your life

[52:25] and send it back you don't have to

[52:27] forget you don't have to go back but you

[52:30] got to get it out of you because it is

[52:32] blocking you and holding you back and

[52:34] when I said you'll see it when you

[52:36] believe

[52:37] it all my life I had wanted to write

[52:40] fiction a

[52:43] parable three four years ago I decided

[52:46] to go off to Hawaii to Maui to kopali

[52:48] Beach and to write now the books that

[52:50] had met the most difference in my life

[52:53] were The Little Prince

[52:57] candid

[52:58] sedara Jonathan Livingston seigo

[53:02] Illusions Alice Through the Looking

[53:04] Glass Gulliver's Travels Parables

[53:08] teaching Parables stories that can tell

[53:11] a message I went over to

[53:15] Maui and I sat down on the beach and I'd

[53:18] been talking about writing this I've

[53:19] been talking about doing this and it was

[53:21] something that and I have a little girl

[53:24] and her name is Sky

[53:26] SK K

[53:30] ye I decided to reverse the letters in

[53:32] her name e y k s and put an i in there

[53:38] which symbolizes the self

[53:40] IUS and I just created this parable of a

[53:43] woman whose name is IUS who lives on

[53:44] another planet the planet is

[53:46] Uranus and it's a duplicate mirror image

[53:49] of Earth only IAS can only see things as

[53:51] they are not as we would like them to be

[53:54] and therefore people are neurotic on

[53:55] Uranus because they have to be she gives

[53:57] the anxiety attack report if you will

[54:00] because anxiety really does attack over

[54:03] there and tells about anxiety coming in

[54:05] on the weekends and so on well my

[54:07] visitor in my Parable goes to Uranus

[54:11] meets IUS she cannot understand as he

[54:13] describes Earth why people would be

[54:15] neurotic by choice on Earth why would

[54:18] anybody be unhappy or depressed or

[54:19] miserable when they don't have when

[54:20] anxiety doesn't attack and when

[54:22] elevators really don't scare you and

[54:23] when if you want a complex on Uranus if

[54:25] you want to give a complex to your wife

[54:27] you go to the store and buy one and she

[54:28] what happened well my husband gave me a

[54:30] complex you know and it's true whereas

[54:32] on Earth if you have a complex is

[54:33] because you've chosen to have one she

[54:34] can't figure it out okay so she comes

[54:36] here observes our people and begins to

[54:39] see the secrets of the universe and

[54:42] gives us these secrets talks to the top

[54:44] leaders in our field and that was my

[54:46] Parable and I wrote it and she gives all

[54:48] of these wonderful Secrets some of which

[54:49] I've been talking about here today but

[54:52] what I want to tell you is that my wife

[54:54] gave me a license plate and the license

[54:56] plate says IUS okay it's a vanity plate

[54:59] and I was pumping gas on Federal Highway

[55:01] in Fort Lauderdale Florida and a little

[55:03] man from Greece came up to me and he

[55:06] said what means this FAS uh which is how

[55:09] you say that in Greek and I said well

[55:11] that's just a word it's my daughter's

[55:12] name spelled backward it's a parable

[55:13] that I wrote he said no he said in Greek

[55:16] that's a word I said what could that

[55:19] word be he said it means best wishes for

[55:24] all

[55:26] you'll see

[55:27] it when you believe it the great big

[55:32] erroneous Zone The Cosmic erroneous Zone

[55:34] if you get this one you'll have it and

[55:35] understand it

[55:36] all there is no

[55:40] way to

[55:42] happiness

[55:45] happiness is the

[55:47] way God bless you thank you

[55:54] for

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