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[00:00] Here's the thing.
[00:03] Here's the thing.
[00:05] Most people will never stop long enough to ask themselves the questions that could set them free.
[00:09] questions that could set them free.
[00:13] I did. And what came out of me changed everything.
[00:15] everything. This isn't just a conversation.
[00:18] It is a mirror, a mic drop, and a wakeup call.
[00:21] If you're the woman who's been everything for everybody and nothing for yourself,
[00:23] woman who's been everything for everybody and nothing for yourself,
[00:28] pull up. Come a little bit closer. Tune in because this one is definitely for you.
[00:31] in because this one is definitely for you.
[00:33] you.
[00:35] You know why? Because I'm her. I'm you.
[00:40] We are divine reflections of one another.
[00:43] another. And let me tell you what's going to happen today.
[00:45] going to happen today. I'm Selena, known as the transformational teacher and disruptor coach.
[00:47] as the transformational teacher and disruptor coach.
[00:51] I am pulling up the chair and getting in my own seat so that I can interview myself.
[00:56] chair and getting in my own seat so that I can interview myself.
[01:04] seat so that I can interview myself.
[01:07] I am about more than a hundred episodes in of interviews that I've done in other platforms.
[01:13] Over on this platform, I've done about 60 plus or so.
[01:16] You can figure that out.
[01:19] And I'm turning the table, right?
[01:23] I am miss. I got time for everything except myself.
[01:29] I am recovering her. And so if that resonates with you, come on in the room.
[01:37] All right. So, here we go.
[01:40] My first and I I don't know what I'm gonna say.
[01:44] I let chat GBT um pull up questions for me and um I my signature question that I always ask on the show is how do you show up in the world?
[01:57] So I know that I'm going to start with that one and this is going to just be the raw honest truth.
[02:03] You and I have a having a conversation. Okay?
[02:03] And so I show up in
[02:08] conversation. Okay?
[02:08] And so I show up in the world.
[02:08] I am a connector.
[02:12] the world.
[02:12] I am a connector.
[02:12] I liken myself to a bridge.
[02:17] If I know if I know someone or I know of someone and they're in need and they need help,
[02:20] then I'm going to connect them with whom I know that might be able to help.
[02:29] And a lot of times the ways that that happens and shows up is I'll be having a conversation with someone.
[02:34] I could meet someone in the restroom or what have you and I would have had a conversation maybe a day or two before, sometimes even that same day.
[02:50] And what happens is something comes up where I can use that information.
[02:53] So I'm a connector.
[02:56] I'm a healer.
[02:56] I've learned how to heal myself.
[02:58] I've helped others heal themsel.
[03:02] Um, and that that happened innately as well.
[03:05] I I I recall uh with my son, and I
[03:10] Well, I I I recall, uh, with my son, and I don't know how long this is going to go.
[03:11] Don't know how long this is going to go, y'all.
[03:11] Hey, we on YouTube long form.
[03:15] So, y'all.
[03:15] Hey, we on YouTube long form.
[03:15] So, just if you ain't got nothing going on,
[03:18] Just if you ain't got nothing going on, come along for the ride.
[03:21] Come along for the ride.
[03:21] And my son,
[03:24] And my son and being a mother that had no idea of
[03:27] And being a mother that had no idea of what I was doing and scared out of my
[03:29] What I was doing and scared out of my mind, I would innately know things to do
[03:33] For him to care for him and not um you know just not normal things that they
[03:37] Know just not normal things that they would just come to me these downloads.
[03:39] I feel like it was the time that I was
[03:41] Feel like it was the time that I was most spiritually in uh in tune in my
[03:43] Most spiritually in uh in tune in my life.
[03:46] Like me and God had had a thing going on for real.
[03:50] For real.
[03:50] Cuz raising him and being his mother, uh it was one
[03:53] Of the most wonderful things that ever happened to me in my life.
[03:57] And so I'm a healer.
[03:59] I'm also very much a teacher.
[04:02] I show up as a teacher.
[04:03] I show up even when I don't know that I'm showing up as a
[04:11] don't know that I'm showing up as a teacher.
[04:14] I have had people stop me that don't even know me.
[04:16] One time I was in a shoe store down in Florida when my son was graduating and I was just in there shopping and two women up walked up and asked me if I was a teacher and I had no idea where that came from and that was more than that probably was about 15 years ago that happened.
[04:33] um people that have known me for a very very long time and I haven't seen them in a while.
[04:42] Something would come up and they were asking me if I was a teacher.
[04:46] And one person I remember asking them why why are you asking me that?
[04:49] Is it because of my glasses?
[04:53] Like what's going on there?
[04:57] And then uh my best friend's son, who was like my son, um came to visit me when I lived in Las Vegas.
[05:05] And he uh uh he brought his children.
[05:07] I'm just grateful that um he came to see me.
[05:09] That always warms my heart.
[05:09] And he said his daughter
[05:14] warms my heart.
[05:14] And he said his daughter asked him if I was a teacher.
[05:17] asked him if I was a teacher.
[05:17] And I asked her,
[05:22] And I asked her, "Why did you ask that?
[05:22] Why why why would you wonder if I'm a teacher?"
[05:28] And she said, "Because you're Miss Selena."
[05:33] Out of the mouths of babes, I have always growing up, we did not call adults by their first name.
[05:40] And so when I was raising my son, he had to say Miss Daisy, Miss Ruby, whatever that name was.
[05:50] And people, you know, by this time were allowing kids to call them by their first name.
[05:57] Well, I I don't I don't believe in that.
[05:59] And I still call adults when I meet them.
[06:03] Even if they're a peer or what have you, they are miss.
[06:07] Hey, my ideal client, she is miss.
[06:09] I got time for everything except myself.
[06:12] And that's one of the reasons why.
[06:12] And um and so it
[06:16] of the reasons why.
[06:18] And um and so it never dawned on me because all of my f son's friends call me Miss Selena.
[06:21] They do not get to call me by my first name without that miss on it.
[06:23] And I'm actually Miss Selena Mrs. because I identify as a wi widow.
[06:25] I was wid widowed at the age of 23.
[06:29] Uh my second husband died seven months after we got married.
[06:32] And so it was quite a bit.
[06:35] So, I show up as a widow.
[06:38] I show up as a divorcee.
[06:39] I show up uh as a single mother.
[06:41] And I'm certain that I've lived four lives at least so far.
[06:46] Um and uh and and that centers around motherhood.
[06:48] It centers around grief, trauma, loss, uh and more than just one loss in so many ways.
[06:51] And um so that stage of my uh seasons that I was in and then there is
[07:20] seasons that I was in and then there is um when I lost myself and fully didn't.
[07:24] um when I lost myself and fully didn't even know who I was uh in that season.
[07:28] even know who I was uh in that season.
[07:34] And what I found in that season of loss and trauma and seeking.
[07:40] I found that hm I needed me a me.
[07:45] I found that hm I needed me a me and that's how I became the disruptor coach.
[07:47] I went in search of my own me and at the time I did not know it was a coach.
[07:51] at the time I did not know it was a coach and when I found her I want to speak her name because she saved my life.
[07:53] coach and when I found her I want to speak her name because she saved my life.
[07:57] she saved my life.
[08:00] She changed my life.
[08:03] Um and it sent me down a different path and I've always like followed the path.
[08:05] I I didn't grow up knowing who I would be when I who I wanted to be when I grew up.
[08:08] I I didn't grow up knowing who I would be when I who I wanted to be when I grew up.
[08:10] when I who I wanted to be when I grew up.
[08:13] I I didn't even think about my future at all.
[08:17] I only thought about
[08:21] My future at all.
[08:23] I only thought about um um I don't think I thought about anything.
[08:24] I don't think I thought about anything.
[08:24] I I just lived each day actually.
[08:27] I I just lived each day actually.
[08:27] I didn't think about the future.
[08:29] I didn't think about the future.
[08:29] I didn't plan to save money.
[08:31] I didn't plan to save money.
[08:31] I didn't plan to have kids because honestly, I didn't want any children.
[08:34] I didn't want any children.
[08:34] I had no idea that I would be somebody's mama.
[08:37] I had no idea that I would be somebody's mama.
[08:39] Let me tell you that.
[08:39] Um, and look at God.
[08:42] It's it it's the best and the worst thing.
[08:45] I feel like at times that happened to me because kids feel your heart and then they can break it all at the same time.
[08:48] I know I did that for my mama.
[08:51] Her and I lately have been having some conversations about how I shattered some things that she had so much high hopes for me.
[08:53] So, I don't want to digress on that cuz I've got stories for days and lifetime a lifetime of life than most have had.
[08:55] Um, and uh yeah, so I show up uh in that way.
[08:57] I'm also uh show up as a
[09:23] uh in that way.
[09:23] I'm also uh show up as a food entrepreneur.
[09:25] I make my own gourmet sauce.
[09:30] I show up as u uh an entrepreneur.
[09:35] I have founded four businesses
[09:37] and uh currently in the midst of two of them that you're experiencing disruptor coaching.
[09:46] So when I found my life coach and let me just circle back to make sure I close the loop on that.
[09:52] Um and I realized that it was a profession.
[09:56] I realized that I had been showing up my entire life.
[10:03] What I believed at the time was as a coach
[10:07] because I'm thinking this is what I would do for free.
[10:12] So, while I was going through, and this happened during the pandemic, going through my own life coaching and getting the support that I need and figuring out who I was, getting to know like
[10:25] like getting to know myself, getting to getting to know myself, getting to become myself, and then getting to become myself, and then getting to be myself.
[10:31] I also realized my calling because it was what I would do for free.
[10:38] And so I got certified as a holistic life coach, my Yaya Smith of feminine success.
[10:45] And she was like the younger version of me.
[10:48] I could see myself in her and fiery.
[10:51] She taught us holistic practices.
[10:53] She taught us how to care for oursel.
[10:56] Um, and I'm not going to remember everything, but uh the the pillars were home, life, business, and relationships, I believe.
[11:04] and y'all drop in the chat.
[11:06] Now, I'm I'm out here interviewing myself.
[11:09] So, I am gonna pull up and you know, class is just in session.
[11:15] So, let me know what you want to hear.
[11:17] Um all of the things and all that.
[11:23] So, drop it in the chat.
[11:25] and all that.
[11:25] So, drop it in the chat.
[11:25] Let me know you're here because yeah, this is new and I want to have some fun.
[11:31] this is new and I want to have some fun.
[11:31] I want you to have some fun, too.
[11:32] if you've pulled up and you want to be part of the conversation.
[11:34] So, let's do it.
[11:39] And how else do I show up?
[11:39] I show up as Richard's mama for sure.
[11:41] So, that was definitely a lifetime uh of one of the lives in in us getting to know each other and birthing that human and shaping how he shows up in the world and who who he is.
[11:46] And he is my life's greatest accomplishment.
[11:49] I stand 10 toes down on that.
[11:51] all day, every day.
[11:55] And anybody knows me know that's true.
[11:57] Now, I'm not I'm not one of them my child can do no wrong kind of mamas, but um I don't play by that one.
[12:00] Let's just say that.
[12:03] And he gets it uh if he ain't doing what he's supposed to do.
[12:05] All right.
[12:08] And so, how else do I show up at the world?
[12:09] See, I'm layered, y'all.
[12:12] So, it's not just one.
[12:16] It's not like a
[12:25] So, it's not just one.
[12:25] It's not like a one and done and quick and all of that.
[12:28] one and done and quick and all of that.
[12:28] And this is one of the reasons why I love being here over on YouTube because we can take our time and I can take my time.
[12:34] So that's why I have a whole channel called disrupt her conversations because uh we're going to get into it.
[12:43] And what I learned about that is the things that got me here were maintaining the status quo, showing up the way that I believed um I was supposed to show up because that's what the world put on me, you know, um from a very young age, I believe, and I just didn't know it.
[13:03] I was just acting it out um unknowingly like religious spaces um and and what that dynamic looked like uh all of the things.
[13:14] Okay. And so yeah, it was a lot.
[13:18] Is there other ways that I show up?
[13:21] I'm a I'm a sister friend for sure.
[13:25] I've got a really beautiful
[13:28] for sure.
[13:30] I've got a really beautiful circle of girlfriends that I've known since I was 13.
[13:34] Um, and we still get together and hang out.
[13:37] Graduating class of 1985.
[13:39] I actually attended two high schools, really three.
[13:44] Um, and I claimed two of them.
[13:46] South High School.
[13:46] Hey, hey, flyers, where y'all at?
[13:48] And then Warnsville Heights High School.
[13:51] And I want to really I'm going to get in depth, right?
[13:52] Because this my interview.
[13:54] I'm the host and I'm the guest.
[13:58] So, we're going to go deep.
[14:00] Like I just said, I love having deep conversations.
[14:02] And so if you've got questions at anything that I say that pops up, let me know because I've been I've been holding it in and wanting to get it out.
[14:07] And I need to do it in a way that's comfortable for me.
[14:13] And part of that is um by having a conversation.
[14:20] I have been flailing around on social media trying to figure it out for a while.
[14:25] And now I believe I found my
[14:28] And now I believe I found my rhythm.
[14:31] And one of the reasons I'm here too, I just need to tell on myself.
[14:34] Um, my coach, we were we were uh having a conversation today.
[14:38] I'm gonna call her name into the circle too.
[14:39] Courtney Teasley.
[14:41] Shout out.
[14:44] She is one of my Hello Seven coaching sisters.
[14:46] We went through the Hello Seven certification together.
[14:47] And um she she asked me because I've been toying and um toiling is the probably a better word, not toying, but toiling over and pondering over for quite some time now that I've been in this coaching space.
[15:09] Like who is it that I really serve?
[15:11] Who do I want to serve?
[15:13] Why do I want to serve her?
[15:17] And I never could.
[15:19] I came up with things but they didn't fit, you know.
[15:21] So, I tried it.
[15:23] If if you all remember, I showed up um serving Christian women that that had been impacted by narcissistic or toxic
[15:29] impacted by narcissistic or toxic dynamics in their relationships because
[15:31] dynamics in their relationships because that is what I had been through had been
[15:33] that is what I had been through had been through.
[15:36] And it was the closest thing to why I had lost myself and was coming
[15:39] starting to come out and and show up and coach while still experiencing my trauma
[15:42] and healing at the same time.
[15:46] But I have always had this call to coach.
[15:49] And I recently had an aha moment actually on Saturday.
[15:53] I went to a business conference.
[15:56] Uh the National Urban League conference 2025 was here in my hometown, Cleveland, Ohio.
[15:59] And they they hosted a small business matters enterprise summit.
[16:02] And I got the pleasure to be able to go to that.
[16:05] And in one of the sessions, it was called uh pitch moves or pitch power.
[16:07] Forgive me if I get that wrong, but I can correct it and put put the link down there below.
[16:09] Um, uh, my Zoom is taking notes.
[16:12] So, put
[16:31] Uh, my Zoom is taking notes.
[16:31] So, put that as an action item for me.
[16:33] And I'm that as an action item for me.
[16:33] And I'm going to I'm going to give you some cheat codes, how I save time and what I'm doing and things like that because the woman that I'm called to serve, miss, I got time for everything except myself.
[16:46] I know one of your biggest pain points is time, right?
[16:49] Having enough time.
[16:49] Having enough time for you.
[16:52] Not just having time, but time for yourself.
[16:56] Time to put you first.
[16:56] Time to show up and do the things that you want to do.
[17:00] So, I'm going to share with you and talk about how I do that as well because like I said, classes in session and so that is the other way I show up, right?
[17:11] I show up as a teacher.
[17:11] I'm always um wanting to share what I have learned and call other people in to the know.
[17:22] I grew up having this knowing about others and and uh in that knowing I could just see
[17:33] and uh in that knowing I could just see things about people like know what they needed to hear, know what I needed to say to them to give them um give them some hope, give them some direction, some clarity um how to move forward to witness them to know I didn't know that all that this was happening at the I'm just telling you uh more cuz I know now um for them to feel seen and heard, you know, I didn't know that at the time.
[18:03] And so that's what would happen.
[18:06] Then I later on in life got some more language when we did our Clifton Strengths.
[18:10] Um I worked with my best friend Andrea who I've been friends with since I was 13.
[18:17] Also, we met at Warrenville High School and then we end up working together for 16 and a half years at National City PNC Bank and we were in we ended up in the same team.
[18:29] We did great work for National City standing up their disaster recovery
[18:34] City standing up their disaster recovery um and business continuity for their um and business continuity for their business continuity.
[18:38] Business continuity and disaster recovery program because and disaster recovery program because disaster recovery is a part of business continuity.
[18:41] Sometimes I know I'm using words that others may or may not know.
[18:46] So that part of my brain wants to be like, "Hey, let's bring everybody in."
[18:52] Cuz you know me, I'm recovering, miss. I got time for everything except myself.
[18:57] Um, and so when we did our Clifton strengths, one of my top five strengths is probably number one is woo.
[19:07] And I don't remember all the definition of it. Um, however, if you hear it, you probably can relate. and believe that that's me.
[19:19] And so, uh, definitely I feel like am I on the right page? Let me just let me just check something out and make sure I showed up in the right place because I think I'm over here.
[19:35] place because I think I'm over here having the conversation.
[19:37] Okay, I'm on the right YouTube because that'll get crazy, too.
[19:41] Two of my emails are close together.
[19:44] So, help me come back in the circle if I veer off because I can easily be distracted by shiny things.
[19:49] So, hopefully some of this is helpful.
[19:53] Um, and uh, one of the things that just crossed my heart is to text my cousin and tell her to uh, kind of pop on.
[20:06] I believe that she would find some value from from this as well.
[20:16] And so I am uh I'm going to take a minute to do that as I would want somebody to do for me if they if they find something that I'm doing uh valuable and share it with share it with the person that could use it because y'all we all know when you hear that miss I got time for everything except myself.
[20:34] We already somebody pops
[20:37] except myself. We already somebody pops in our head who that is, right? And so I
[20:41] in our head who that is, right? And so I show up as a teacher. I show up as a
[20:43] show up as a teacher. I show up as a teacher for her. I show up as a teacher
[20:45] teacher for her. I show up as a teacher for my community. I show up as a teacher
[20:48] for my community. I show up as a teacher for my friends. I show up as a teacher
[20:51] for my friends. I show up as a teacher for my family. Um I know um and that's
[20:55] for my family. Um I know um and that's why my cousin Angie comes to mind um as
[20:59] why my cousin Angie comes to mind um as I do this because
[21:03] I do this because she believes that I can do anything. She
[21:06] she believes that I can do anything. She says whatever I put my mind to, she
[21:08] says whatever I put my mind to, she knows that I am going to do it and I'm
[21:11] knows that I am going to do it and I'm going to get it done. She is my sister
[21:12] going to get it done. She is my sister cousin
[21:14] cousin and um
[21:18] and um and I I love her for that.
[21:24] and
[21:26] and and um she is also miss I got time for
[21:31] and um she is also miss I got time for everything except myself and I have um I
[21:35] everything except myself and I have um I love her so much and I've watched her go
[21:38] love her so much and I've watched her go through so much so much pain and anguish
[21:41] through so much so much pain and anguish more than anybody deserves
[21:44] more than anybody deserves and so um
[21:48] and so um yeah Angie no matter what I'm doing what
[21:50] yeah Angie no matter what I'm doing what I need. She's gonna drop what she's got
[21:53] I need. She's gonna drop what she's got going on and she gonna come see about
[21:54] going on and she gonna come see about me.
[21:56] me. And so
[22:02] I don't take that lightly.
[22:04] I don't take that lightly. Uh that is beautiful when you know you
[22:07] Uh that is beautiful when you know you need somebody to show up for you.
[22:10] need somebody to show up for you. And um
[22:14] And um what that just took my breath away. took
[22:16] what that just took my breath away. took my breath away for so many reasons
[22:17] my breath away for so many reasons because I'm a reflecting on how many
[22:19] because I'm a reflecting on how many times she has done that for me in in in
[22:22] times she has done that for me in in in so many different seasons
[22:25] so many different seasons and um
[22:28] and um yeah
[22:30] yeah that part
[22:32] that part okay let me focus
[22:36] okay let me focus so we can get back to the questions
[22:40] so we can get back to the questions because my life has layered it has depth
[22:44] because my life has layered it has depth so I can easily go deep on that. So, how
[22:47] so I can easily go deep on that. So, how do I show up in the world? Um, yeah. And
[22:52] do I show up in the world? Um, yeah. And I I show up as a teacher and I had been
[22:55] I I show up as a teacher and I had been uh
[22:57] uh that is really my identity, a teacher.
[22:59] that is really my identity, a teacher. And where I want to go with that is
[23:01] And where I want to go with that is because I was showing up as an
[23:03] because I was showing up as an empowerment coach. I was showing up as a
[23:06] empowerment coach. I was showing up as a life coach. I was showing up as a
[23:08] life coach. I was showing up as a business coach. I was showing up as a
[23:12] business coach. I was showing up as a mindset coach. I was showing up as a
[23:15] mindset coach. I was showing up as a money coach and I'm still all of those
[23:17] money coach and I'm still all of those things because I am a certified coach
[23:19] things because I am a certified coach and all of those things at my core and
[23:23] and all of those things at my core and how I show up and how I truly serve is I
[23:27] how I show up and how I truly serve is I teach I teach Miss I Got Time for
[23:30] teach I teach Miss I Got Time for everything except myself how to fish.
[23:35] everything except myself how to fish. How to take her life back. how to feel
[23:39] How to take her life back. how to feel safe in her life
[23:43] safe in her life and live her own life because she's
[23:45] and live her own life because she's lived it for everyone except herself.
[23:49] lived it for everyone except herself. And so I'm talking directly to you. This
[23:51] And so I'm talking directly to you. This this conversation is really for you. And
[23:54] this conversation is really for you. And I I my hope is through me and and my
[24:00] I I my hope is through me and and my life, that you get to see yourself,
[24:06] that you get to see that I am called to
[24:08] that you get to see that I am called to serve you, that you hear my voice and
[24:11] serve you, that you hear my voice and know that I'm the teacher for you.
[24:14] know that I'm the teacher for you. Because you probably don't need another
[24:15] Because you probably don't need another coach, you don't need another program
[24:17] coach, you don't need another program and all of that. You need you need
[24:21] and all of that. You need you need teachings in a way that is going to
[24:24] teachings in a way that is going to allow you to fully be yourself and step
[24:27] allow you to fully be yourself and step into your essence. And I am here for it.
[24:30] into your essence. And I am here for it. That's that's what coaching and teaching
[24:34] That's that's what coaching and teaching did for me.
[24:36] did for me. And I lived and walked it every truth
[24:42] And I lived and walked it every truth just like you are doing in your life.
[24:45] just like you are doing in your life. And so I want you to I want you to
[24:48] And so I want you to I want you to witness and see me also, right? That I'm
[24:51] witness and see me also, right? That I'm human and and I'm gonna be showing up
[24:54] human and and I'm gonna be showing up here probably all kind of ways because
[24:56] here probably all kind of ways because it depend on the day.
[24:59] it depend on the day. It depends on the day because uh the
[25:02] It depends on the day because uh the other thing that I I would say and that
[25:04] other thing that I I would say and that I want to say about this is I was also
[25:07] I want to say about this is I was also struggling because
[25:10] struggling because I know how sacred it is the call on my
[25:13] I know how sacred it is the call on my life and I know how sacred it is to be
[25:17] life and I know how sacred it is to be called to serve you.
[25:20] called to serve you. And so I I know you need the safety. I
[25:23] And so I I know you need the safety. I know you need the trust. And so I felt
[25:26] know you need the trust. And so I felt like when I'm at not at my best and I
[25:30] like when I'm at not at my best and I don't have the energy and the capacity
[25:32] don't have the energy and the capacity to do the things that I want to do
[25:35] to do the things that I want to do showing up here is hard
[25:39] showing up here is hard and I don't I don't want to mislead you
[25:42] and I don't I don't want to mislead you down, you know, a path cuz my energy is
[25:45] down, you know, a path cuz my energy is off and energy is very very important.
[25:48] off and energy is very very important. capacity is important and and and we're
[25:51] capacity is important and and and we're gonna we're going to talk all about that
[25:53] gonna we're going to talk all about that because you need that also to show up in
[25:55] because you need that also to show up in your own life for you,
[25:58] your own life for you, right? And so
[26:02] right? And so help me help me because I will lean in
[26:06] help me help me because I will lean in to you honey because
[26:09] to you honey because I know what's required. I know the
[26:12] I know what's required. I know the strength that it's going to take uh for
[26:15] strength that it's going to take uh for you to get where you need to be because
[26:17] you to get where you need to be because you ain't practiced these muscles at
[26:20] you ain't practiced these muscles at all. And that's why it it took me this
[26:24] all. And that's why it it took me this my life didn't change and me focusing on
[26:26] my life didn't change and me focusing on me till I was in my 50s
[26:29] me till I was in my 50s honestly,
[26:31] honestly, you know, like really focusing on me. I
[26:33] you know, like really focusing on me. I thought I was, but I wasn't cuz I was
[26:35] thought I was, but I wasn't cuz I was showing up at all the coach uh the the
[26:38] showing up at all the coach uh the the church functions, volunteering for every
[26:40] church functions, volunteering for every community and activity
[26:43] community and activity and all of the things, right? So, yeah.
[26:48] and all of the things, right? So, yeah. So, that's how I show up. I also show up
[26:50] So, that's how I show up. I also show up as a warrior. W A R I O R. Because I
[26:57] as a warrior. W A R I O R. Because I I will fight for what I believe in. I
[27:00] I will fight for what I believe in. I will fight for who I believe in. I will
[27:02] will fight for who I believe in. I will fight with you. If you in a fight, I'm
[27:07] fight with you. If you in a fight, I'm the dog you need in a fight at the same
[27:10] the dog you need in a fight at the same time, too.
[27:12] time, too. So, please trust and believe that that I
[27:15] So, please trust and believe that that I am not going to leave you out on
[27:17] am not going to leave you out on anybody's limb by yourself. And I grew
[27:21] anybody's limb by yourself. And I grew up that way. I used to beat up boys when
[27:23] up that way. I used to beat up boys when my me and my brother would be going to
[27:25] my me and my brother would be going to school. And I can remember as as young
[27:27] school. And I can remember as as young as I was seven cuz I was in the second
[27:30] as I was seven cuz I was in the second grade as and uh some boy um you know was
[27:35] grade as and uh some boy um you know was messing with my brother. I will get you
[27:38] messing with my brother. I will get you get your whole life together
[27:41] get your whole life together with no problem. Now thank God
[27:45] with no problem. Now thank God the Lord done curb that u but don't get
[27:50] the Lord done curb that u but don't get it twisted. Okay. And uh so I I I want I
[27:56] it twisted. Okay. And uh so I I I want I want you to understand that because I
[27:58] want you to understand that because I know what is required because sometimes
[28:00] know what is required because sometimes you aren't strong enough to do it for
[28:02] you aren't strong enough to do it for yourself. And so somebody got to hold
[28:05] yourself. And so somebody got to hold your hand and and hold you up
[28:09] your hand and and hold you up for that to happen cuz I needed that
[28:11] for that to happen cuz I needed that too. I needed to be seen. I needed to
[28:14] too. I needed to be seen. I needed to fully be seen. Um that reminds me um
[28:18] fully be seen. Um that reminds me um last week, I think it was last week. So,
[28:21] last week, I think it was last week. So, I've been in a struggle also with mental
[28:24] I've been in a struggle also with mental health, physical health challen
[28:26] health, physical health challen challenges, chronic pain, and I was
[28:29] challenges, chronic pain, and I was talking to um
[28:33] talking to um I don't even what do I call Mother Joy?
[28:35] I don't even what do I call Mother Joy? Mother Joy is such a lifeline. Um
[28:40] Mother Joy is such a lifeline. Um she's a woman that I met in Sedona, one
[28:42] she's a woman that I met in Sedona, one of my favorite places on earth. It's
[28:44] of my favorite places on earth. It's magical if you've ever been there. And
[28:49] magical if you've ever been there. And this was right after going through the
[28:52] this was right after going through the storm of my life and really I was raw. I
[28:57] storm of my life and really I was raw. I was getting the life coaching at this
[29:00] was getting the life coaching at this time and um my cousin, another cousin
[29:05] time and um my cousin, another cousin Myra and a girlfriend of mine, Nataline,
[29:09] Myra and a girlfriend of mine, Nataline, uh I should text her too. Um, and she um
[29:16] uh I should text her too. Um, and she um we were hanging out in Sedona and she uh
[29:22] we were hanging out in Sedona and she uh she walked into the restaurant we were
[29:24] she walked into the restaurant we were in
[29:26] in and she's the only black woman
[29:28] and she's the only black woman that I had seen at this point I think
[29:32] that I had seen at this point I think while we were hanging out there and we
[29:33] while we were hanging out there and we were three black women sitting in the
[29:35] were three black women sitting in the table. But what got my attention was her
[29:38] table. But what got my attention was her aura. It was just white and glowing. And
[29:42] aura. It was just white and glowing. And I said, "Hey, are you here by yourself?
[29:45] I said, "Hey, are you here by yourself? Come sit with us."
[29:47] Come sit with us." And I don't know what was going on, but
[29:49] And I don't know what was going on, but the people in the restaurant started
[29:51] the people in the restaurant started moving furniture. And like I was like,
[29:53] moving furniture. And like I was like, "Well, who is she? Like what is going
[29:56] "Well, who is she? Like what is going on?" Like they moved heaven and earth to
[29:58] on?" Like they moved heaven and earth to and they and her food was already ready.
[30:01] and they and her food was already ready. They brought her plate. They sat her
[30:02] They brought her plate. They sat her down at the table in front of me. I'm
[30:05] down at the table in front of me. I'm sitting here. She's sitting there across
[30:07] sitting here. She's sitting there across from me. My cousin Mara sitting here.
[30:09] from me. My cousin Mara sitting here. Nataline was sitting there and um and we
[30:12] Nataline was sitting there and um and we just had a good old time. That sister
[30:14] just had a good old time. That sister started reading us for life. She told my
[30:18] started reading us for life. She told my cousin, "I see you got your crystals
[30:19] cousin, "I see you got your crystals out." All of that. But let me make a a
[30:22] out." All of that. But let me make a a long story short cuz I can go.
[30:26] long story short cuz I can go. She invited us back to her house the
[30:28] She invited us back to her house the next day ultimately what happened. And
[30:30] next day ultimately what happened. And and the moment I met her, I felt this uh
[30:33] and the moment I met her, I felt this uh connection that I'm going to I'm going
[30:36] connection that I'm going to I'm going to like cover her.
[30:40] to like cover her. But honestly, she'd been covering me. We
[30:43] But honestly, she'd been covering me. We get to her house the next day
[30:46] get to her house the next day and we go inside. They all go in first
[30:50] and we go inside. They all go in first cuz I drove. We're in my car and I have
[30:53] cuz I drove. We're in my car and I have a habit when I go into people's houses,
[30:54] a habit when I go into people's houses, I take my shoes off cuz I I have a lot
[30:57] I take my shoes off cuz I I have a lot of allergies environmentally. the whole
[31:00] of allergies environmentally. the whole nine yards. And I did not uh want I
[31:05] nine yards. And I did not uh want I don't like brea believe bringing the
[31:07] don't like brea believe bringing the outside in the house, right? There's all
[31:09] outside in the house, right? There's all kind of stuff on your shoes. And so
[31:12] kind of stuff on your shoes. And so I go inside and when I go in, I just go
[31:15] I go inside and when I go in, I just go right in and I, you know, turn to go
[31:17] right in and I, you know, turn to go under the door
[31:19] under the door and uh it is
[31:23] and uh it is there's this music playing, Michael
[31:25] there's this music playing, Michael Jackson. I'll never forget it. I don't
[31:26] Jackson. I'll never forget it. I don't remember the song. Um, but it had to be
[31:28] remember the song. Um, but it had to be one of my favorites. And when I turned
[31:30] one of my favorites. And when I turned around,
[31:33] around, I just dropped to my knees and started
[31:35] I just dropped to my knees and started crying and crying because I had been in
[31:37] crying and crying because I had been in that house before. I knew everything in
[31:40] that house before. I knew everything in in in that house like like in proximity
[31:43] in in that house like like in proximity and everything. And I couldn't believe
[31:45] and everything. And I couldn't believe it. And I'm trying to get myself
[31:47] it. And I'm trying to get myself together because I had been praying that
[31:50] together because I had been praying that I would um that I that uh
[31:54] I would um that I that uh reveal whatever is there for me when I
[31:57] reveal whatever is there for me when I go. And I had even brought a jar of
[32:00] go. And I had even brought a jar of sauce because I realized um I was going
[32:03] sauce because I realized um I was going to need to give it to somebody that I
[32:05] to need to give it to somebody that I had made my gourmet sauce, my all
[32:07] had made my gourmet sauce, my all organic gourmet sauce. By the way,
[32:09] organic gourmet sauce. By the way, that's the food entrepreneur part. We
[32:10] that's the food entrepreneur part. We didn't talk about that yet. And turns
[32:14] didn't talk about that yet. And turns out, long story short, it was for her. I
[32:16] out, long story short, it was for her. I end up spending, we got there about 1:00
[32:20] end up spending, we got there about 1:00 in the afternoon. I didn't leave her
[32:21] in the afternoon. I didn't leave her house till 1:00 in the morning. Now, my
[32:24] house till 1:00 in the morning. Now, my cousin and my friend left, but I did
[32:26] cousin and my friend left, but I did not. I was still there. We was hanging
[32:28] not. I was still there. We was hanging out, having a good old time, and she'd
[32:30] out, having a good old time, and she'd been with me ever since. But the other
[32:32] been with me ever since. But the other day, I talked to her last week, and I
[32:35] day, I talked to her last week, and I she said I kept saying the word, "I
[32:37] she said I kept saying the word, "I don't remember. I don't remember. I
[32:38] don't remember. I don't remember. I don't remember." And so she called me to
[32:40] don't remember." And so she called me to tell me about myself that I was playing
[32:43] tell me about myself that I was playing a dangerous game in saying that because
[32:45] a dangerous game in saying that because the mind is so powerful.
[32:49] the mind is so powerful. And so it does not know the difference
[32:51] And so it does not know the difference between whether something is true or
[32:54] between whether something is true or not.
[32:56] not. Right? It just it it's taking in the
[32:59] Right? It just it it's taking in the information that we say that that I was
[33:02] information that we say that that I was saying to myself and that you probably
[33:04] saying to myself and that you probably say to yourself.
[33:07] say to yourself. And if you're not being kind to
[33:08] And if you're not being kind to yourself,
[33:10] yourself, miss, I got time for everything and
[33:13] miss, I got time for everything and everybody. I want you to flip that. I
[33:15] everybody. I want you to flip that. I want you to be thinking about that. I
[33:17] want you to be thinking about that. I want you to reframe that. Like, how do
[33:19] want you to reframe that. Like, how do you want others to talk to you and to
[33:21] you want others to talk to you and to show up? That's how I want you to start
[33:23] show up? That's how I want you to start showing up and talking to yourself
[33:25] showing up and talking to yourself because you've got to witness your own
[33:27] because you've got to witness your own self, right? And I I I had to learn
[33:30] self, right? And I I I had to learn that. I never fully talk bad to myself,
[33:33] that. I never fully talk bad to myself, but I I I was having some whole lot of
[33:35] but I I I was having some whole lot of interesting conversations. Let me tell
[33:37] interesting conversations. Let me tell you, um, and and, uh, and I don't want
[33:40] you, um, and and, uh, and I don't want that for you.
[33:42] that for you. Okay? So,
[33:45] Okay? So, um, I show up as a warrior, and that's a
[33:47] um, I show up as a warrior, and that's a warrior part of me. And I I hope that's
[33:49] warrior part of me. And I I hope that's what I was trying to say. So, we're
[33:51] what I was trying to say. So, we're still on question one because I'm
[33:53] still on question one because I'm layered, y'all. There's more, but we'll
[33:56] layered, y'all. There's more, but we'll get to it. Okay. So, what's the next
[33:59] get to it. Okay. So, what's the next question? I'm on question two now. It
[34:01] question? I'm on question two now. It says, "Who is Selena?" So, this these
[34:03] says, "Who is Selena?" So, this these are questions about who I am. What's
[34:06] are questions about who I am. What's something people often misunderstood
[34:08] something people often misunderstood about you?
[34:12] Um, I don't know. I I I'm not sure. I do
[34:16] Um, I don't know. I I I'm not sure. I do know that sometimes people are
[34:17] know that sometimes people are intimidated by me. Um, for whatever
[34:21] intimidated by me. Um, for whatever reason, I've had I've had I'm going just
[34:23] reason, I've had I've had I'm going just call it out because we getting we
[34:25] call it out because we getting we getting real here. This is my interview.
[34:28] getting real here. This is my interview. I've had white women that I have worked
[34:31] I've had white women that I have worked with or worked for or worked in the same
[34:36] with or worked for or worked in the same organization
[34:37] organization um that maybe I didn't even work with.
[34:40] um that maybe I didn't even work with. Um I'm certain that they have been
[34:42] Um I'm certain that they have been intimidated by me because I've heard
[34:44] intimidated by me because I've heard things I've seen things said and things
[34:47] things I've seen things said and things have happened um that absolutely make no
[34:50] have happened um that absolutely make no sense
[34:53] sense and I'm not sure why. Um, I also believe
[34:58] and I'm not sure why. Um, I also believe my tone sometimes um m may intimidate
[35:03] my tone sometimes um m may intimidate folks or make make people believe that
[35:07] folks or make make people believe that I'm probably angry or upset.
[35:12] I'm probably angry or upset. And sometimes I probably am and
[35:15] And sometimes I probably am and sometimes I'm not. I'm just excited and
[35:17] sometimes I'm not. I'm just excited and I'm I'm I'm I'm um emotional and
[35:22] I'm I'm I'm I'm um emotional and passionate about what I share because
[35:24] passionate about what I share because sometimes it's passion but sometimes
[35:25] sometimes it's passion but sometimes it's deeper than the passion, right? I'm
[35:28] it's deeper than the passion, right? I'm like cuz I'm a warrior and I'm in it.
[35:30] like cuz I'm a warrior and I'm in it. I'm in it. Um and so
[35:35] I'm in it. Um and so um let me see if there what's something
[35:40] um let me see if there what's something people often misunderstand about you. I
[35:42] people often misunderstand about you. I don't believe that I am misunderstood
[35:45] don't believe that I am misunderstood too often though um of by by people that
[35:51] too often though um of by by people that look like me. Um because what tends to
[35:54] look like me. Um because what tends to happen is when I go into restrooms, like
[35:57] happen is when I go into restrooms, like I said, people tell me all their
[35:59] I said, people tell me all their business and I've only been I only said
[36:02] business and I've only been I only said hello
[36:03] hello and and they tell me
[36:06] and and they tell me um all of their business. And that's
[36:09] um all of their business. And that's where Andrea says my woo comes in. I be
[36:11] where Andrea says my woo comes in. I be in there wooing
[36:14] in there wooing and um
[36:17] and um yeah and so that part and um this just
[36:24] yeah and so that part and um this just makes me think about just calling all my
[36:26] makes me think about just calling all my friends and telling them to hop on um my
[36:28] friends and telling them to hop on um my live because I uh could use their
[36:32] live because I uh could use their support because I just hopped on because
[36:33] support because I just hopped on because my coach told me to and it took me a
[36:36] my coach told me to and it took me a minute. I wanted to go look for all this
[36:37] minute. I wanted to go look for all this information and all of that and and I
[36:40] information and all of that and and I was but then I stopped right and um
[36:46] was but then I stopped right and um what am I saying the uh
[36:52] yeah so that's probably how I get
[36:55] yeah so that's probably how I get misunderstood. I'm gonna I'm gonna also
[36:58] misunderstood. I'm gonna I'm gonna also strike out my questions so I don't lose
[37:00] strike out my questions so I don't lose my place because I don't want to uh
[37:05] my place because I don't want to uh cheat anybody on that. So, let me know
[37:08] cheat anybody on that. So, let me know if you got questions around that, my
[37:10] if you got questions around that, my misunderstanding and how maybe you've
[37:12] misunderstanding and how maybe you've experienced me and what you thought
[37:14] experienced me and what you thought about me, right? Um I know that I'm very
[37:17] about me, right? Um I know that I'm very clear. I know that I'm a grown ass woman
[37:20] clear. I know that I'm a grown ass woman and I have no problem asking for what I
[37:23] and I have no problem asking for what I want. I believe that I am supposed to
[37:26] want. I believe that I am supposed to have everything that God told me that I
[37:28] have everything that God told me that I could have. Anything that comes in my
[37:31] could have. Anything that comes in my heart um and and the vision that's been
[37:34] heart um and and the vision that's been placed in it, I believe the Lord is
[37:35] placed in it, I believe the Lord is going to make a way for me to be able to
[37:38] going to make a way for me to be able to do that. So, um and I show up like that.
[37:42] do that. So, um and I show up like that. I show up like God sent me in the room.
[37:45] I show up like God sent me in the room. And when I'm shrinking and it looks like
[37:47] And when I'm shrinking and it looks like I'm not, believe me, I'm thinking. I'm
[37:50] I'm not, believe me, I'm thinking. I'm taking it in because I love being in the
[37:52] taking it in because I love being in the room. I love learning. Um, I love, as
[37:55] room. I love learning. Um, I love, as y'all know, if you've ever experienced
[37:57] y'all know, if you've ever experienced me, I love asking questions. I love
[38:00] me, I love asking questions. I love asking questions. And I used to think it
[38:02] asking questions. And I used to think it was because I was being nosy because I
[38:05] was because I was being nosy because I used to feel like my grandmother was
[38:06] used to feel like my grandmother was like that. And I watched that. And so
[38:08] like that. And I watched that. And so that was a habit I picked up. But what I
[38:10] that was a habit I picked up. But what I really
[38:12] really realized is
[38:14] realized is it is I'm curious. I have a heart for
[38:18] it is I'm curious. I have a heart for people
[38:20] people just naturally. I always have I have a
[38:23] just naturally. I always have I have a knowing that God gave me. I I learned
[38:25] knowing that God gave me. I I learned that a couple years ago from one of my
[38:27] that a couple years ago from one of my spiritual counselors um that the gift of
[38:30] spiritual counselors um that the gift of knowing and I've read the Bible, the
[38:33] knowing and I've read the Bible, the entire Bible probably five times. I'm
[38:36] entire Bible probably five times. I'm not going to tell you I know it cuz I
[38:39] not going to tell you I know it cuz I don't. And I um and I don't know I the
[38:44] don't. And I um and I don't know I the Bible that is in our western culture.
[38:47] Bible that is in our western culture. I'm I'm wrestling with it. I don't I
[38:49] I'm I'm wrestling with it. I don't I don't believe everything in it. And I do
[38:52] don't believe everything in it. And I do know you will find the longer you stay
[38:57] know you will find the longer you stay in relationship with yourself and truly
[39:00] in relationship with yourself and truly get to know yourself,
[39:02] get to know yourself, then you may you may question it too.
[39:06] then you may you may question it too. Especially women,
[39:08] Especially women, right? Especially women because it's
[39:10] right? Especially women because it's it's it's got a male patriarchy focus.
[39:17] like it doesn't honor who we are as
[39:20] like it doesn't honor who we are as women and the goddess in us, our divine
[39:24] women and the goddess in us, our divine essence and who we were designed to be.
[39:26] essence and who we were designed to be. We are definitely if if we're if we're
[39:29] We are definitely if if we're if we're tracking on that one
[39:32] tracking on that one made in God's image and we are the only
[39:35] made in God's image and we are the only one that he has given us the gift of
[39:37] one that he has given us the gift of creating life.
[39:39] creating life. The only one,
[39:43] right?
[39:45] right? feminine energy, not masculine.
[39:49] feminine energy, not masculine. If if we're going by what goes on in
[39:52] If if we're going by what goes on in those times, that's that's that's what I
[39:55] those times, that's that's that's what I believe.
[39:57] believe. That's what I believe. And so, um, so
[40:01] That's what I believe. And so, um, so maybe there can be some
[40:02] maybe there can be some misunderstandings there. I'm not sure.
[40:05] misunderstandings there. I'm not sure. Okay. So, number three, what's a truth
[40:07] Okay. So, number three, what's a truth about you that most people don't know?
[40:10] about you that most people don't know? Uh, probably that one. Uh, oh, probably
[40:15] Uh, probably that one. Uh, oh, probably also I believe God is a woman.
[40:18] also I believe God is a woman. I don't believe God was a man. And when
[40:21] I don't believe God was a man. And when we say God, uh, when we say things about
[40:25] we say God, uh, when we say things about God, we say him.
[40:27] God, we say him. But I also know in that in that Bible,
[40:31] But I also know in that in that Bible, they say women is wisdom was she.
[40:35] they say women is wisdom was she. I agree with that.
[40:38] I agree with that. I agree with that. Um, what's a truth
[40:41] I agree with that. Um, what's a truth about you that most people don't know?
[40:44] about you that most people don't know? Yeah, I I would say I haven't I I've
[40:48] Yeah, I I would say I haven't I I've said it in different places and spaces,
[40:51] said it in different places and spaces, but not like
[40:54] but not like not often, I would say.
[40:57] not often, I would say. Let me see if there's another that might
[41:01] Let me see if there's another that might surprise people. Oh, I believe
[41:03] surprise people. Oh, I believe maintaining the status quo is what's
[41:07] maintaining the status quo is what's what creates most women's pain,
[41:11] what creates most women's pain, right? Because you showing up like I was
[41:12] right? Because you showing up like I was showing up like you like, you know, you
[41:15] showing up like you like, you know, you don't even know who you are at yet. You
[41:17] don't even know who you are at yet. You don't know your essence, your core of
[41:20] don't know your essence, your core of who you are. You didn't you didn't get
[41:21] who you are. You didn't you didn't get to to do that,
[41:24] to to do that, right? Especially, Miss I got time for
[41:26] right? Especially, Miss I got time for everything and everybody else. Um,
[41:30] everything and everybody else. Um, and and just for the record, miss, I got
[41:34] and and just for the record, miss, I got time for everything except myself.
[41:38] time for everything except myself. I call your name is Miss Denise.
[41:42] I call your name is Miss Denise. Denise Walker internally in my team when
[41:45] Denise Walker internally in my team when we talk about you because we're thinking
[41:47] we talk about you because we're thinking about you all the time and wanting to
[41:49] about you all the time and wanting to serve you. Your name is Miss Denise
[41:53] serve you. Your name is Miss Denise Walker.
[41:55] Walker. So, we're going to have another
[41:56] So, we're going to have another conversation about that. Okay. So, we'll
[41:59] conversation about that. Okay. So, we'll come back. That'll be a whole episode
[42:01] come back. That'll be a whole episode dedicated just to you, but this one is
[42:04] dedicated just to you, but this one is dedicated to me for you. And uh what
[42:08] dedicated to me for you. And uh what brings me the most joy right now?
[42:12] brings me the most joy right now? I was just having a conversation about
[42:14] I was just having a conversation about that today and I put it on my to-do
[42:17] that today and I put it on my to-do list. Um,
[42:20] list. Um, the most joy
[42:25] I would say the most joy is spending
[42:27] I would say the most joy is spending time with my son still. He's 33. I just
[42:31] time with my son still. He's 33. I just got back from California a couple weeks
[42:33] got back from California a couple weeks ago. I spent 25 days in California. Um,
[42:38] ago. I spent 25 days in California. Um, uh, being present with both my son,
[42:42] uh, being present with both my son, one of my best friends, uh, we're just
[42:45] one of my best friends, uh, we're just going to call him Jay, and, uh, his
[42:48] going to call him Jay, and, uh, his family, and my little niece, his lovely
[42:51] family, and my little niece, his lovely daughter, and, uh, beautiful wife
[42:54] daughter, and, uh, beautiful wife celebrating his birthday. He's turning
[42:56] celebrating his birthday. He's turning 50 this year, and he got all these wild
[42:59] 50 this year, and he got all these wild plans. And so, he took he we we had to
[43:01] plans. And so, he took he we we had to go on a hike. So, that's another thing.
[43:03] go on a hike. So, that's another thing. Talk about that. And then I went to two
[43:07] Talk about that. And then I went to two I went to a business conference ROI
[43:10] I went to a business conference ROI Hello 7 uh
[43:14] Hello 7 uh uh hosted and uh Rachel Rogers my my
[43:18] uh hosted and uh Rachel Rogers my my coach and I'm part of her community and
[43:21] coach and I'm part of her community and certified through her uh business
[43:24] certified through her uh business certification program. And and then the
[43:27] certification program. And and then the other part of that I spent with my son.
[43:30] other part of that I spent with my son. I spent with him and his girlfriend. We
[43:32] I spent with him and his girlfriend. We got to play golf. We went and got Manny
[43:34] got to play golf. We went and got Manny Petties. Uh we the these are our things
[43:37] Petties. Uh we the these are our things that we do. Um and we hadn't played golf
[43:40] that we do. Um and we hadn't played golf together. He just picked golf back up
[43:42] together. He just picked golf back up and he's loving it and enjoying it. And
[43:44] and he's loving it and enjoying it. And when I flew out there, I took him some
[43:46] when I flew out there, I took him some clubs and all of that from our cousin.
[43:50] clubs and all of that from our cousin. Uh shout out to Harold looking out for
[43:52] Uh shout out to Harold looking out for him. Want to make sure that he is taken
[43:55] him. Want to make sure that he is taken care of because Harold plays golf every
[43:57] care of because Harold plays golf every day. And um and I just love golf. I took
[44:00] day. And um and I just love golf. I took it up when he left and went to college
[44:04] it up when he left and went to college and I started realizing, okay, now I can
[44:06] and I started realizing, okay, now I can do what I want to do. I did I did three
[44:09] do what I want to do. I did I did three things. I went and took golf lessons. I
[44:12] things. I went and took golf lessons. I took swimming lessons and I learned how
[44:14] took swimming lessons and I learned how to sew. I learned how to sew because I
[44:18] to sew. I learned how to sew because I wanted to learn how to sew because I
[44:20] wanted to learn how to sew because I wanted to I wanted to slow down and stop
[44:23] wanted to I wanted to slow down and stop multitasking.
[44:26] multitasking. And I wanted something that would help
[44:28] And I wanted something that would help me do that. And I felt like sewing would
[44:30] me do that. And I felt like sewing would do that because you, you know, paying
[44:32] do that because you, you know, paying attention to detail. It's a hobby that I
[44:34] attention to detail. It's a hobby that I could focus focus on and I could produce
[44:37] could focus focus on and I could produce something um with it. And I love it. I
[44:40] something um with it. And I love it. I love it. I don't get to do it as often
[44:41] love it. I don't get to do it as often as I would like. Um but I still have my
[44:44] as I would like. Um but I still have my machine and all my toys. I'm a gadget
[44:46] machine and all my toys. I'm a gadget girl, so I got every gadget that you
[44:48] girl, so I got every gadget that you probably can think of. Um and then
[44:52] probably can think of. Um and then uh I learned to swim. I had never
[44:55] uh I learned to swim. I had never learned to swim. I I I love the water
[44:59] learned to swim. I I I love the water and I'm afraid of the ocean. And so I
[45:01] and I'm afraid of the ocean. And so I wanted I wanted that for myself.
[45:05] wanted I wanted that for myself. Um
[45:06] Um and I can swim. I can't swim in the
[45:09] and I can swim. I can't swim in the ocean. So I'm going to go back and take
[45:10] ocean. So I'm going to go back and take more swimming lessons to get stronger to
[45:14] more swimming lessons to get stronger to swim in the ocean because I can just
[45:15] swim in the ocean because I can just swim in the pool. I'm not swimming in
[45:18] swim in the pool. I'm not swimming in the ocean. I play out there. But yeah.
[45:21] the ocean. I play out there. But yeah. And then I took golf lessons. I took
[45:24] And then I took golf lessons. I took golf lessons at the local community
[45:25] golf lessons at the local community college. I wanted to learn um you know
[45:28] college. I wanted to learn um you know learn the foundation of it and I'm I'm
[45:31] learn the foundation of it and I'm I'm just naturally I was naturally good at
[45:33] just naturally I was naturally good at it. I think when I learned
[45:36] it. I think when I learned it messed me up because then I knew too
[45:37] it messed me up because then I knew too much and I was thinking and focusing on
[45:39] much and I was thinking and focusing on that. Does that sound familiar?
[45:42] that. Does that sound familiar? Yeah. And so
[45:45] Yeah. And so yeah, that's what brings me joy. I
[45:47] yeah, that's what brings me joy. I actually put uh I saw my golf community
[45:50] actually put uh I saw my golf community that they have a golf outing coming up
[45:52] that they have a golf outing coming up on Thursday. So, I put it on my calendar
[45:54] on Thursday. So, I put it on my calendar and I love love love to roller skate.
[45:57] and I love love love to roller skate. So, that's the other thing that I said
[45:58] So, that's the other thing that I said roller skate and go golf. So, I got to
[46:01] roller skate and go golf. So, I got to look up the roller skate night. Um, and
[46:04] look up the roller skate night. Um, and I'm just going to go and see how what
[46:06] I'm just going to go and see how what happens because I got some physical
[46:07] happens because I got some physical ailments going on. So, I don't know what
[46:08] ailments going on. So, I don't know what my body's going to allow, but I'm
[46:10] my body's going to allow, but I'm believing for because I'm calling an end
[46:13] believing for because I'm calling an end that I am healed. I am going to recover
[46:16] that I am healed. I am going to recover from all that's going on. and we'll
[46:18] from all that's going on. and we'll share and talk about that also at
[46:21] share and talk about that also at another beautiful time. All right. And
[46:25] another beautiful time. All right. And uh I I will I will I will get through
[46:28] uh I I will I will I will get through these uh in a way that is edifying. How
[46:31] these uh in a way that is edifying. How have I how long have I been on? Let me
[46:34] have I how long have I been on? Let me see. How long have we been on talking?
[46:38] see. How long have we been on talking? Okay, let's see. says I got 15 minutes
[46:41] Okay, let's see. says I got 15 minutes if I'm if I'm keeping it to an hour, but
[46:44] if I'm if I'm keeping it to an hour, but I really didn't go live until maybe
[46:48] I really didn't go live until maybe 10 or 15 minutes uh when this started.
[46:53] 10 or 15 minutes uh when this started. So maybe I got 30 minutes. We'll see.
[46:57] So maybe I got 30 minutes. We'll see. And you can come back and watch this
[46:58] And you can come back and watch this over and over again. I need to get my
[47:00] over and over again. I need to get my watch hours up. So if you are enjoying
[47:02] watch hours up. So if you are enjoying my content, please definitely subscribe,
[47:06] my content, please definitely subscribe, like the videos. I always like all my
[47:09] like the videos. I always like all my own stuff.
[47:11] own stuff. I I typically won't do anything that I
[47:14] I I typically won't do anything that I would not ask anyone else to do. So,
[47:18] would not ask anyone else to do. So, let's get it.
[47:20] let's get it. And
[47:22] And I um
[47:25] I um yeah, that's how I roll.
[47:29] yeah, that's how I roll. And so, um, what I'm doing, y'all, give
[47:32] And so, um, what I'm doing, y'all, give me a minute because I do want my people
[47:35] me a minute because I do want my people to come on and pop on cuz they got
[47:37] to come on and pop on cuz they got stories for y'all, too. That could be
[47:40] stories for y'all, too. That could be very interesting.
[47:42] very interesting. Um,
[47:46] and so let me do that, share with them.
[47:50] and so let me do that, share with them. Um, we got a chat going on right now
[47:52] Um, we got a chat going on right now about uh Michael um
[47:56] about uh Michael um Jamal Warner.
[47:58] Jamal Warner. Lord just hurts our heart. And um
[48:04] yeah, and so I'm just going to speak
[48:05] yeah, and so I'm just going to speak into the mic on that because it's
[48:07] into the mic on that because it's typically what I do. Hey you all, if
[48:10] typically what I do. Hey you all, if you're not busy, I'm on my YouTube live
[48:14] you're not busy, I'm on my YouTube live interviewing myself. So, I would love
[48:16] interviewing myself. So, I would love for you to come check it out and see see
[48:18] for you to come check it out and see see what's happening and support me and keep
[48:21] what's happening and support me and keep me encouraged and help ask me me any
[48:23] me encouraged and help ask me me any questions to keep it going.
[48:27] Okay, so I did that and I'm going to
[48:30] Okay, so I did that and I'm going to also do it in my spiritual community
[48:34] also do it in my spiritual community and
[48:36] and see what happens. Wait, I guess I do got
[48:38] see what happens. Wait, I guess I do got to do it separately. Hey y'all. I'm on
[48:41] to do it separately. Hey y'all. I'm on my YouTube channel live interviewing
[48:43] my YouTube channel live interviewing myself for my own podcast episode and I
[48:46] myself for my own podcast episode and I would love for you to join me if you're
[48:48] would love for you to join me if you're not busy. It's happening right now as
[48:51] not busy. It's happening right now as I'm doing it. I'm letting the audience
[48:52] I'm doing it. I'm letting the audience know that I'm doing it
[48:56] know that I'm doing it and thank you. I love you.
[49:01] So there we go. So that's one bunch. And
[49:05] So there we go. So that's one bunch. And you know you can do the same, right? You
[49:08] you know you can do the same, right? You want you want your people
[49:10] want you want your people you know, build your squad. I have I
[49:12] you know, build your squad. I have I have I have more than one squad, but
[49:14] have I have more than one squad, but these these my A1's from day one, right?
[49:19] these these my A1's from day one, right? Angie is really my A1 from day one cuz
[49:21] Angie is really my A1 from day one cuz she's two years older than me, so she's
[49:23] she's two years older than me, so she's known me since I've been born. Um,
[49:27] known me since I've been born. Um, but yeah.
[49:30] Um,
[49:32] Um, yeah,
[49:34] yeah, I didn't realize that this uh doing this
[49:36] I didn't realize that this uh doing this would make me emotional.
[49:39] would make me emotional. you know, but hey, I have no problem
[49:43] you know, but hey, I have no problem being transparent and taking my clothes
[49:46] being transparent and taking my clothes off so you can get free, too. It is it
[49:49] off so you can get free, too. It is it is the most amazing feeling, right?
[49:53] is the most amazing feeling, right? Because there's different types of
[49:54] Because there's different types of freedom
[49:56] freedom and I hope you create yours, what that
[49:58] and I hope you create yours, what that looks like for you. What season are you
[50:01] looks like for you. What season are you in? And what is it teaching you? Oh,
[50:04] in? And what is it teaching you? Oh, wow. I didn't even look at these
[50:05] wow. I didn't even look at these questions because I never even look at
[50:07] questions because I never even look at the questions that we put together for
[50:08] the questions that we put together for the guests on our on our show either
[50:11] the guests on our on our show either that we're interviewing. So, this is
[50:14] that we're interviewing. So, this is this is interesting. What season are you
[50:17] this is interesting. What season are you in? I am definitely in my
[50:21] in? I am definitely in my entrepreneurial
[50:23] entrepreneurial season
[50:26] season because being an entrepreneur and
[50:29] because being an entrepreneur and starting a business is like having a
[50:31] starting a business is like having a baby
[50:34] and
[50:36] and it can be the best and worst thing that
[50:38] it can be the best and worst thing that ever happened to you too. I'm learning
[50:41] ever happened to you too. I'm learning about myself even more thing more things
[50:45] about myself even more thing more things about myself than I than I that I
[50:48] about myself than I than I that I thought I knew.
[50:50] thought I knew. And um and I pride myself because I go
[50:52] And um and I pride myself because I go inward. I will look in there and scratch
[50:55] inward. I will look in there and scratch the scab like, "What are you doing
[50:57] the scab like, "What are you doing there? What's going on?" Um because I
[51:00] there? What's going on?" Um because I want to be the best version of me. And I
[51:03] want to be the best version of me. And I I needed to become that when I became
[51:05] I needed to become that when I became Richard's mother. That was very
[51:07] Richard's mother. That was very important to me because I did not want
[51:09] important to me because I did not want to mess him up.
[51:11] to mess him up. So, I'm in that season of le of layer of
[51:14] So, I'm in that season of le of layer of of um leveling up
[51:18] of um leveling up right where where the Lord is pushing me
[51:20] right where where the Lord is pushing me to a higher level. And I feel it I feel
[51:23] to a higher level. And I feel it I feel it all over me. And right before that
[51:27] it all over me. And right before that happened,
[51:30] happened, um,
[51:31] um, right before your breakthrough,
[51:34] right before your breakthrough, be looking crazy.
[51:36] be looking crazy. It be looking like, Lord, I know this
[51:39] It be looking like, Lord, I know this could not be what you had in mind for
[51:41] could not be what you had in mind for me. That's what I just have have gone
[51:44] me. That's what I just have have gone through. like mental health
[51:48] through. like mental health diagnosis, PTSD, trauma, stressors,
[51:51] diagnosis, PTSD, trauma, stressors, anxiety, depression. Then the physical
[51:54] anxiety, depression. Then the physical health challenges,
[51:56] health challenges, um chronic pain, I have two autoimmune
[51:59] um chronic pain, I have two autoimmune uh diseases or syndromes or
[52:03] uh diseases or syndromes or deficiencies, right? One is um Shogun
[52:07] deficiencies, right? One is um Shogun syndrome and the the the impact of that
[52:10] syndrome and the the the impact of that for me is my eyes get really dry. Other
[52:12] for me is my eyes get really dry. Other people get dry mouth, other things. This
[52:14] people get dry mouth, other things. This is the only one that has shown up for
[52:16] is the only one that has shown up for me. And then just when I got back from
[52:19] me. And then just when I got back from California, I had an appointment
[52:21] California, I had an appointment scheduled.
[52:29] I'm believing it started 10 years ago
[52:32] I'm believing it started 10 years ago when I got married, when I moved,
[52:34] when I got married, when I moved, relocated to Las Vegas, when I started
[52:36] relocated to Las Vegas, when I started my health journey of um going vegan and
[52:40] my health journey of um going vegan and eating healthier and all of that. and
[52:43] eating healthier and all of that. and and it and it and it probably um carried
[52:46] and it and it and it probably um carried on because remember y'all,
[52:49] on because remember y'all, I miss I got time for everything except
[52:50] I miss I got time for everything except myself. I was I'm not calling myself
[52:53] myself. I was I'm not calling myself that now because I've recovered. I'm in
[52:55] that now because I've recovered. I'm in a new season and space where I can help
[52:58] a new season and space where I can help those who still are.
[53:01] those who still are. And in some ways, maybe I still am. I'm
[53:04] And in some ways, maybe I still am. I'm I you know, I'm probably never going to
[53:06] I you know, I'm probably never going to give that up. But I also know now how to
[53:09] give that up. But I also know now how to get my needs met. I know how to stop and
[53:11] get my needs met. I know how to stop and take care of care of myself. Give myself
[53:14] take care of care of myself. Give myself self-love care. Self-love care uh which
[53:17] self-love care. Self-love care uh which is a word that I created.
[53:21] is a word that I created. And um it's self-love plus self-care.
[53:26] And um it's self-love plus self-care. Self-love care cuz we need both. You
[53:29] Self-love care cuz we need both. You need to first love yourself more than
[53:32] need to first love yourself more than anybody. Um because us as women have
[53:36] anybody. Um because us as women have been taught someone else was going to
[53:38] been taught someone else was going to come along and love us and make us happy
[53:41] come along and love us and make us happy and be all the things that we needed to
[53:43] and be all the things that we needed to be, right? And um
[53:47] be, right? And um you found out that probably ain't true
[53:51] you found out that probably ain't true because you're responsible for your own
[53:53] because you're responsible for your own happiness. How is somebody else going to
[53:55] happiness. How is somebody else going to love you better than you
[54:00] if you don't know
[54:02] if you don't know how to love you?
[54:07] You've been just accepting the way that
[54:09] You've been just accepting the way that they love you and how they treat you.
[54:11] they love you and how they treat you. Unless, now I know this ain't everybody.
[54:14] Unless, now I know this ain't everybody. You you grown woman. So you ask for your
[54:16] You you grown woman. So you ask for your needs and get your needs met. Great for
[54:18] needs and get your needs met. Great for you. Then I'm not talking to you and I'm
[54:20] you. Then I'm not talking to you and I'm not talking about you. But maybe you
[54:22] not talking about you. But maybe you recovered and so now you in that stage
[54:25] recovered and so now you in that stage maybe. And I love every bit of it for
[54:28] maybe. And I love every bit of it for you. But by some good sister that has
[54:34] you. But by some good sister that has still been in need of this, this is for
[54:37] still been in need of this, this is for you.
[54:38] you. This is absolutely for you. And um and
[54:43] This is absolutely for you. And um and that's okay. It is okay. I need you to
[54:47] that's okay. It is okay. I need you to know that. I need you to know that you
[54:51] know that. I need you to know that you are exactly where you're supposed to be
[54:54] are exactly where you're supposed to be and hearing what exactly you're supposed
[54:56] and hearing what exactly you're supposed to hear to help you get to the to the
[54:59] to hear to help you get to the to the your next level. Your next level up,
[55:01] your next level. Your next level up, right? And that next level up is you.
[55:05] right? And that next level up is you. It's all about you, boo. Absolutely.
[55:08] It's all about you, boo. Absolutely. Okay. Because it don't happen all
[55:10] Okay. Because it don't happen all overnight. So, it's teaching me that I
[55:14] overnight. So, it's teaching me that I love this enough that I'm going to keep
[55:17] love this enough that I'm going to keep going even through all the the hard
[55:20] going even through all the the hard time, the struggle, the pain. Um, I
[55:25] time, the struggle, the pain. Um, I called myself healed a couple of weeks
[55:27] called myself healed a couple of weeks ago. I declared that like like I'm not
[55:31] ago. I declared that like like I'm not cuz I was feeling sorry for myself. Oh
[55:33] cuz I was feeling sorry for myself. Oh my god, I was a hot mess. And I'm like,
[55:36] my god, I was a hot mess. And I'm like, this is not going to be my life. I know
[55:38] this is not going to be my life. I know God that you've got a vision that I'm
[55:40] God that you've got a vision that I'm supposed to birth that you gave me back
[55:43] supposed to birth that you gave me back in 2015. So that's that's 10 years still
[55:46] in 2015. So that's that's 10 years still in the making and it will not leave me
[55:48] in the making and it will not leave me alone.
[55:50] alone. And that vision is Midwest way. So
[55:52] And that vision is Midwest way. So remember I mentioned, you know, I had
[55:55] remember I mentioned, you know, I had two businesses. So disruptor coaching is
[55:57] two businesses. So disruptor coaching is my purpose. It's the calling that God
[55:59] my purpose. It's the calling that God placed on my life. But the vision that
[56:01] placed on my life. But the vision that God gave me is is the Midwest way. Um
[56:04] God gave me is is the Midwest way. Um and we have a trademark brand. Ain't no
[56:07] and we have a trademark brand. Ain't no way like the Midwest way. And what that
[56:09] way like the Midwest way. And what that is, we are we our our vision for that is
[56:12] is, we are we our our vision for that is to be the heart, hands, and feet of
[56:14] to be the heart, hands, and feet of Jesus. Um
[56:17] Jesus. Um to be a bridge to connect people to
[56:19] to be a bridge to connect people to random acts of love, information, and
[56:22] random acts of love, information, and resources one heart at a time to help
[56:25] resources one heart at a time to help meet those immediate needs because I
[56:27] meet those immediate needs because I feel that there's a gap, right? And what
[56:30] feel that there's a gap, right? And what that gap looks like is
[56:33] that gap looks like is when I was a single parent,
[56:37] when I was a single parent, people like sold into me in in so many
[56:39] people like sold into me in in so many ways that changed my life to help me
[56:42] ways that changed my life to help me with my son. Um, one of them was some of
[56:45] with my son. Um, one of them was some of them was a word. someone um
[56:50] them was a word. someone um someone would babysit
[56:54] and opportunities to like send him to
[56:56] and opportunities to like send him to camp or be with a family, things that he
[57:01] camp or be with a family, things that he would not have normally been exposed to.
[57:03] would not have normally been exposed to. Those are immediate needs that make
[57:05] Those are immediate needs that make people u could change their lives and
[57:08] people u could change their lives and they're one random act of love away from
[57:10] they're one random act of love away from their life being changed for the better.
[57:13] their life being changed for the better. Um, and so that's what that's what that
[57:15] Um, and so that's what that's what that looks like uh for me. And so the vision
[57:18] looks like uh for me. And so the vision that the Lord gave me was around the
[57:19] that the Lord gave me was around the barbecue business. Um, and and just like
[57:23] barbecue business. Um, and and just like every line of business for it, like
[57:25] every line of business for it, like everything and but this philanthropy to
[57:28] everything and but this philanthropy to it also. So Midwest Way is a social
[57:31] it also. So Midwest Way is a social enterprise and it's a for-profit
[57:33] enterprise and it's a for-profit business. We have two products that we
[57:35] business. We have two products that we currently sell. one is one is still in
[57:38] currently sell. one is one is still in making but it's um
[57:42] making but it's um I say we are a forprofit with nonprofit
[57:45] I say we are a forprofit with nonprofit tendencies
[57:47] tendencies and yeah so that's Midwest way I'm I'm
[57:51] and yeah so that's Midwest way I'm I'm I'm actively seeking and looking for
[57:54] I'm actively seeking and looking for funding to bring it to life Midwest Cafe
[57:58] funding to bring it to life Midwest Cafe my sandwich shop and um a multi-use
[58:02] my sandwich shop and um a multi-use space because you never know who's out
[58:03] space because you never know who's out there you got to speak into the rooms
[58:06] there you got to speak into the rooms what you want to come into fruition. So,
[58:08] what you want to come into fruition. So, hey, this is this is my table that I
[58:12] hey, this is this is my table that I created that the Lord gave me also to do
[58:14] created that the Lord gave me also to do as a strength and to be able to share
[58:17] as a strength and to be able to share with others and have win-win. So, if you
[58:20] with others and have win-win. So, if you if you are a disruptor out there and you
[58:24] if you are a disruptor out there and you are fed up and no longer maintaining the
[58:27] are fed up and no longer maintaining the status quo, so you turning you flipping
[58:28] status quo, so you turning you flipping tables over because that's what we doing
[58:30] tables over because that's what we doing over here. We flipping tables over. Um,
[58:33] over here. We flipping tables over. Um, you are absolutely wanted. Uh, your
[58:35] you are absolutely wanted. Uh, your voice is needed in this space and on my
[58:37] voice is needed in this space and on my show. I hear my voice trying to
[58:43] tell me we might have been we might be
[58:45] tell me we might have been we might be talking.
[58:47] talking. Time to wind it down. I might have a
[58:49] Time to wind it down. I might have a cough drop in my bag.
[58:52] cough drop in my bag. And um
[58:55] And um yeah, the um
[58:59] yeah, the um yeah, so that's the season that I'm in
[59:02] yeah, so that's the season that I'm in of leveling up, taking me to the next
[59:05] of leveling up, taking me to the next level. So if you want to help me,
[59:09] level. So if you want to help me, you can you can you can cash app, you
[59:12] you can you can you can cash app, you can zale. I never done this before, but
[59:14] can zale. I never done this before, but hey, let me put it out there because I
[59:16] hey, let me put it out there because I see other people doing it, too. And why
[59:17] see other people doing it, too. And why not? It just fell on my heart, so I'm
[59:20] not? It just fell on my heart, so I'm doing that. You can cash at me. You can
[59:22] doing that. You can cash at me. You can sell me um
[59:26] sell me um how PayPal,
[59:29] how PayPal, however, however it is. Let me uh let
[59:33] however, however it is. Let me uh let I'll get you my links. Um I I believe I
[59:37] I'll get you my links. Um I I believe I already have one on my um
[59:39] already have one on my um disruptorcoach.com.
[59:41] disruptorcoach.com. Um, you'll get the links if you do
[59:44] Um, you'll get the links if you do disrupt hercocoach.com
[59:48] and you will you will see my cash app
[59:51] and you will you will see my cash app link there. You can hit me up on my
[59:52] link there. You can hit me up on my hitter if you already know my phone
[59:54] hitter if you already know my phone number, my zel and all of that is tied
[59:57] number, my zel and all of that is tied to my phone number. I will get another
[59:59] to my phone number. I will get another one because I'm not giving out my
[01:00:01] one because I'm not giving out my personal number unless you know me
[01:00:02] personal number unless you know me personally. Um, but I do have my
[01:00:05] personally. Um, but I do have my business number. So, you can text me and
[01:00:07] business number. So, you can text me and ask me for it that way and I'll give it
[01:00:10] ask me for it that way and I'll give it to you. The business line is 2163077527
[01:00:14] cuz we need all the help and support
[01:00:16] cuz we need all the help and support that we can get over here to serve. All
[01:00:19] that we can get over here to serve. All right? Y'all know that if if what you're
[01:00:21] right? Y'all know that if if what you're what I'm doing is valuable to you. Okay?
[01:00:24] what I'm doing is valuable to you. Okay? And so that is my season. I apologize
[01:00:26] And so that is my season. I apologize cuz my answers ain't long. So I mean it
[01:00:29] cuz my answers ain't long. So I mean it ain't short. If you come to
[01:00:33] ain't short. If you come to um and and that's why I like being on
[01:00:35] um and and that's why I like being on YouTube, too. Let me just be real about
[01:00:37] YouTube, too. Let me just be real about that because I don't have a time limit.
[01:00:40] that because I don't have a time limit. Now, I do have a time limit because I've
[01:00:42] Now, I do have a time limit because I've got another meeting. However, um I don't
[01:00:46] got another meeting. However, um I don't have a time limit on how long it'll take
[01:00:48] have a time limit on how long it'll take me to have this conversation with you.
[01:00:52] me to have this conversation with you. And if you are on my show and you have a
[01:00:54] And if you are on my show and you have a we're having a conversation and you got
[01:00:56] we're having a conversation and you got things that you want to share cuz what
[01:00:58] things that you want to share cuz what happens when women come into this space
[01:01:00] happens when women come into this space and men um the time goes by so quickly
[01:01:05] and men um the time goes by so quickly they forget that
[01:01:08] they forget that you know they lose track of time and
[01:01:10] you know they lose track of time and which is beautiful because I want to
[01:01:12] which is beautiful because I want to honor the space and the energy and the
[01:01:14] honor the space and the energy and the circle and and what's being shared. They
[01:01:17] circle and and what's being shared. They feel so relaxed and safe um that that's
[01:01:19] feel so relaxed and safe um that that's what happens and I love that. I love
[01:01:22] what happens and I love that. I love love love all of that. Right.
[01:01:25] love love all of that. Right. Okay. Next question is,
[01:01:29] Okay. Next question is, what makes you feel the most powerful?
[01:01:32] what makes you feel the most powerful? I'm going to ask her all of these
[01:01:34] I'm going to ask her all of these questions because it ask is answering
[01:01:36] questions because it ask is answering who is Selena. Now, on the other ones, I
[01:01:38] who is Selena. Now, on the other ones, I may not I may not ask all of those. I'll
[01:01:41] may not I may not ask all of those. I'll probably just ask one until we run out
[01:01:44] probably just ask one until we run out of time, until I got to go to the next
[01:01:46] of time, until I got to go to the next uh meeting. What makes you feel the most
[01:01:50] uh meeting. What makes you feel the most powerful?
[01:01:54] What makes me feel the most powerful is
[01:01:56] What makes me feel the most powerful is what I'm doing right now
[01:01:59] what I'm doing right now is having deep conversations.
[01:02:03] is having deep conversations. Um,
[01:02:07] I just got goosebumps.
[01:02:10] I just got goosebumps. Lord Jesus, because I know this is what
[01:02:13] Lord Jesus, because I know this is what what God put me on this earth to do.
[01:02:17] what God put me on this earth to do. I know that without a doubt in my mind.
[01:02:20] I know that without a doubt in my mind. And I know so many people don't know
[01:02:23] And I know so many people don't know their own dreams, their own desires,
[01:02:25] their own dreams, their own desires, their own heart because so many things
[01:02:28] their own heart because so many things in life have got so heavy that it that's
[01:02:31] in life have got so heavy that it that's weighed weighed them down. Especially
[01:02:33] weighed weighed them down. Especially you, Miss Denise.
[01:02:36] you, Miss Denise. Um especially you, Miss I got time for
[01:02:38] Um especially you, Miss I got time for everything except myself because I was
[01:02:41] everything except myself because I was there. Beyonce has this song in fight
[01:02:44] there. Beyonce has this song in fight fighting temptations where she says
[01:02:46] fighting temptations where she says sometimes the world um sometimes she
[01:02:50] sometimes the world um sometimes she thought she was on top of the world and
[01:02:51] thought she was on top of the world and sometimes the world was on top of her. I
[01:02:54] sometimes the world was on top of her. I love that song. One of my favorites, but
[01:02:56] love that song. One of my favorites, but I feel that line. Sometimes it feels
[01:02:59] I feel that line. Sometimes it feels like I'm on top of the world. Sometimes
[01:03:01] like I'm on top of the world. Sometimes it feels like the world's on top of me.
[01:03:04] it feels like the world's on top of me. That's not exactly how the um the rhythm
[01:03:07] That's not exactly how the um the rhythm of it goes, but you get the gist, right?
[01:03:11] of it goes, but you get the gist, right? And um and I know I'm called to do this
[01:03:14] And um and I know I'm called to do this work, transformational work. I mentioned
[01:03:16] work, transformational work. I mentioned it earlier in the conversation. Um I'm a
[01:03:21] it earlier in the conversation. Um I'm a transformational teacher.
[01:03:24] transformational teacher. I identify as a teacher and I know how
[01:03:28] I identify as a teacher and I know how transformational the work that I'm doing
[01:03:31] transformational the work that I'm doing is. I've seen it in my clients. I've
[01:03:34] is. I've seen it in my clients. I've seen it in the people that I meet in
[01:03:36] seen it in the people that I meet in bathrooms and in in minutes.
[01:03:39] bathrooms and in in minutes. um they have a transformation. I've seen
[01:03:42] um they have a transformation. I've seen it so many times where people don't know
[01:03:44] it so many times where people don't know me. I was at ROI um at the conference
[01:03:47] me. I was at ROI um at the conference and I was just uh out in the um the
[01:03:50] and I was just uh out in the um the foyer way like you know when you're at
[01:03:52] foyer way like you know when you're at the conference and you come out into the
[01:03:54] the conference and you come out into the the big hallway. I can't think of what
[01:03:57] the big hallway. I can't think of what that's called at the moment. I can't
[01:03:59] that's called at the moment. I can't recall it. Um and um that was that we'll
[01:04:05] recall it. Um and um that was that we'll come hopefully I'll remember to to share
[01:04:07] come hopefully I'll remember to to share that with you. The conversation that
[01:04:09] that with you. The conversation that Mother Joy said about me kept keep
[01:04:12] Mother Joy said about me kept keep saying that I can't remember. She told
[01:04:15] saying that I can't remember. She told me to reframe it and say I can't recall
[01:04:17] me to reframe it and say I can't recall because if I keep saying that then it's
[01:04:19] because if I keep saying that then it's really going to be true.
[01:04:23] really going to be true. And now that I'm practicing that
[01:04:25] And now that I'm practicing that reframe, things come back to and so just
[01:04:29] reframe, things come back to and so just bless me. But um so that that's for you
[01:04:32] bless me. But um so that that's for you too, right? If I'm doing it, I want you
[01:04:35] too, right? If I'm doing it, I want you to try it and practice it
[01:04:39] to try it and practice it cuz life all of life is a practice.
[01:04:43] cuz life all of life is a practice. Ain't none of us been here before. We
[01:04:45] Ain't none of us been here before. We don't know. So just practice. Practice
[01:04:48] don't know. So just practice. Practice anything you desire and that you want to
[01:04:50] anything you desire and that you want to do. Okay. Um
[01:04:55] do. Okay. Um and so in doing what I am called to do
[01:05:00] and so in doing what I am called to do and what I want to do.
[01:05:03] and what I want to do. Great God.
[01:05:06] Great God. Right.
[01:05:08] Right. Yeah. That's when I feel most powerful.
[01:05:11] Yeah. That's when I feel most powerful. I feel most powerful when a l when a
[01:05:14] I feel most powerful when a l when a woman says to me,
[01:05:16] woman says to me, "You are an answer to a prayer I didn't
[01:05:18] "You are an answer to a prayer I didn't even know I needed to pray." my first
[01:05:21] even know I needed to pray." my first paid
[01:05:23] paid uh life coaching client.
[01:05:27] uh life coaching client. That's in her testimonial.
[01:05:30] That's in her testimonial. It brings me to my knees every time I
[01:05:32] It brings me to my knees every time I hear it, every time I read it, every
[01:05:34] hear it, every time I read it, every time I say it. And then I just had a
[01:05:38] time I say it. And then I just had a woman, Ivonne, uh last week, you'll see
[01:05:41] woman, Ivonne, uh last week, you'll see her. she she agreed to be coached um so
[01:05:44] her. she she agreed to be coached um so that I could get more
[01:05:47] that I could get more data
[01:05:49] data around who you are, right? I know you as
[01:05:52] around who you are, right? I know you as me, but I also know that there's
[01:05:54] me, but I also know that there's multiple versions of you. There's the
[01:05:57] multiple versions of you. There's the entrepreneur, there's the overgiver,
[01:06:00] entrepreneur, there's the overgiver, right? Uh there's so many more, right?
[01:06:05] right? Uh there's so many more, right? And so I'm collecting that so that I can
[01:06:07] And so I'm collecting that so that I can build and create
[01:06:11] build and create the spaces for you to feel safe, for you
[01:06:14] the spaces for you to feel safe, for you to come back, come back to your true
[01:06:18] to come back, come back to your true essence. A lot of people say come back
[01:06:20] essence. A lot of people say come back home to yourself if that works for you
[01:06:22] home to yourself if that works for you also.
[01:06:24] also. But I want you to at your core, I want
[01:06:26] But I want you to at your core, I want you to know that you know that you know
[01:06:29] you to know that you know that you know who you are and never ever forget.
[01:06:33] who you are and never ever forget. I have a reminder. I went through uh
[01:06:35] I have a reminder. I went through uh Queen of Faith sacred woman program um
[01:06:38] Queen of Faith sacred woman program um rights of passage just for that reason
[01:06:41] rights of passage just for that reason so that I could never forget and you
[01:06:43] so that I could never forget and you know the ring was a plus cuz she had she
[01:06:48] know the ring was a plus cuz she had she had custom design rings that you could
[01:06:50] had custom design rings that you could do and I wanted that. So this is an 18
[01:06:52] do and I wanted that. So this is an 18 karat gold and it's got the it's got the
[01:06:55] karat gold and it's got the it's got the anx on it. It's got um a baptismal bowl.
[01:07:00] anx on it. It's got um a baptismal bowl. It's got four gems on it. These are real
[01:07:04] It's got four gems on it. These are real gems. U mine a amethyst. There's a funny
[01:07:08] gems. U mine a amethyst. There's a funny story about that cuz my birthstone is
[01:07:11] story about that cuz my birthstone is really uh is it aquamarine
[01:07:16] really uh is it aquamarine and my whole life I thought it was
[01:07:17] and my whole life I thought it was amethyst. And then my mother's is
[01:07:20] amethyst. And then my mother's is diamond.
[01:07:22] diamond. My son, I think that's uh Garnet.
[01:07:27] My son, I think that's uh Garnet. He's a he's a uh his birthday is in
[01:07:29] He's a he's a uh his birthday is in April. He's a Taurus. I think that's
[01:07:32] April. He's a Taurus. I think that's what they're both stone color. And then
[01:07:35] what they're both stone color. And then my grandmother
[01:07:37] my grandmother is sapphire. Her birthday is August.
[01:07:39] is sapphire. Her birthday is August. August 26th. That's four generations.
[01:07:43] August 26th. That's four generations. And uh yeah, and she's no longer with
[01:07:45] And uh yeah, and she's no longer with us. This my granny. That's my granny.
[01:07:49] us. This my granny. That's my granny. That's my girl. Even though woo it was
[01:07:52] That's my girl. Even though woo it was real out here. Um that's my granny. And
[01:07:57] real out here. Um that's my granny. And I'm not I wasn't allowed to call her
[01:07:59] I'm not I wasn't allowed to call her grandma. I called her ma. If I said
[01:08:02] grandma. I called her ma. If I said anything other than that, we were going
[01:08:03] anything other than that, we were going to have some problems. She was going to
[01:08:04] to have some problems. She was going to move some furniture
[01:08:06] move some furniture uh in my raw hair voice. Okay. So, I
[01:08:10] uh in my raw hair voice. Okay. So, I would say that's what makes me feel most
[01:08:12] would say that's what makes me feel most powerful when I am help able to help
[01:08:14] powerful when I am help able to help someone see themselves
[01:08:18] someone see themselves and use their power and be themselves
[01:08:22] and use their power and be themselves and live their own life and create their
[01:08:24] and live their own life and create their own freedom and not be oppressed.
[01:08:29] own freedom and not be oppressed. That's when I feel most powerful
[01:08:32] That's when I feel most powerful because what I found the women that I
[01:08:34] because what I found the women that I serve once they get that
[01:08:38] serve once they get that their life has changed beyond measure.
[01:08:42] their life has changed beyond measure. Miss Ivonne said she she had been
[01:08:44] Miss Ivonne said she she had been praying
[01:08:45] praying um for some for some for some help and I
[01:08:49] um for some for some for some help and I and and you'll hear it in the recording.
[01:08:51] and and you'll hear it in the recording. I may not have it exactly right. And she
[01:08:54] I may not have it exactly right. And she believes that I was the answer to that
[01:08:56] believes that I was the answer to that prayer. what is going on? Like, um,
[01:09:01] prayer. what is going on? Like, um, that's nobody but God. And I'm here for
[01:09:04] that's nobody but God. And I'm here for stepping up in obedience because I know
[01:09:06] stepping up in obedience because I know the power and what that looks like when
[01:09:08] the power and what that looks like when it happens. Um, when when when when God
[01:09:12] it happens. Um, when when when when God calls me to do something when I hear the
[01:09:16] calls me to do something when I hear the voice, cuz I remember when the voice my
[01:09:19] voice, cuz I remember when the voice my spirit wasn't talking to me cuz I wasn't
[01:09:22] spirit wasn't talking to me cuz I wasn't listening like I was supposed to be.
[01:09:25] listening like I was supposed to be. And uh that is so over.
[01:09:28] And uh that is so over. That is so over. I'm also sharing this
[01:09:31] That is so over. I'm also sharing this in my um in my Bible study group. We've
[01:09:35] in my um in my Bible study group. We've been together 17 years, I think. Uh
[01:09:38] been together 17 years, I think. Uh we're called Exhort, Women of Exhort.
[01:09:41] we're called Exhort, Women of Exhort. Yes.
[01:09:43] Yes. Oh, what does freedom look like to you
[01:09:45] Oh, what does freedom look like to you right now?
[01:09:48] right now? Freedom looks like to me right now
[01:09:52] Freedom looks like to me right now is being able to do whatever I desire.
[01:09:58] Whatever God placed on my heart,
[01:10:00] Whatever God placed on my heart, believing that God is going to make room
[01:10:02] believing that God is going to make room and make a way for that to happen. And
[01:10:04] and make a way for that to happen. And that has been happening. I actually said
[01:10:06] that has been happening. I actually said that to my mother the other day that I
[01:10:08] that to my mother the other day that I don't operate in scarcity because
[01:10:11] don't operate in scarcity because everything that I have desired to do,
[01:10:13] everything that I have desired to do, I've been able to do. And it doesn't
[01:10:16] I've been able to do. And it doesn't always require money. I want to travel
[01:10:17] always require money. I want to travel the world. I' I've been traveling the
[01:10:19] the world. I' I've been traveling the world. I I opened the I opened the year
[01:10:22] world. I I opened the I opened the year up in Ghana. I didn't know that that was
[01:10:25] up in Ghana. I didn't know that that was going to happen, but when the Lord put
[01:10:26] going to happen, but when the Lord put it on my heart,
[01:10:28] it on my heart, boom, there. Um I'm getting ready to
[01:10:32] boom, there. Um I'm getting ready to leave for Panama in August um and be
[01:10:35] leave for Panama in August um and be gone for I think 11 days. I um
[01:10:42] I uh also do I got something going on at
[01:10:45] I uh also do I got something going on at the end of the year? I'm going back to
[01:10:47] the end of the year? I'm going back to California obviously in December. Um and
[01:10:52] California obviously in December. Um and I get to be in places and spaces
[01:10:55] I get to be in places and spaces that people look like me um and that I
[01:10:58] that people look like me um and that I truly want to be in and not because I
[01:11:00] truly want to be in and not because I because I have to.
[01:11:03] because I have to. I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm honored and blessed
[01:11:06] I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm honored and blessed right now that the Lord is seeing fit
[01:11:08] right now that the Lord is seeing fit that um I don't have to report into
[01:11:11] that um I don't have to report into somebody's job
[01:11:14] somebody's job because nothing about working in some of
[01:11:17] because nothing about working in some of these spaces have served me. They've
[01:11:20] these spaces have served me. They've actually they've contributed to my
[01:11:22] actually they've contributed to my chronic pain and stress, anxiety and
[01:11:24] chronic pain and stress, anxiety and depression.
[01:11:26] depression. Um and so the Lord took me out of that.
[01:11:29] Um and so the Lord took me out of that. If if if you'd have told me that was on
[01:11:31] If if if you'd have told me that was on my bingo card, no. I thought I would be
[01:11:33] my bingo card, no. I thought I would be working for a while until I could get to
[01:11:36] working for a while until I could get to the position to bring Midwest Ways
[01:11:38] the position to bring Midwest Ways vision to life. I didn't even know
[01:11:40] vision to life. I didn't even know disruptor coaching was on the bingo
[01:11:42] disruptor coaching was on the bingo card, but God knew. And so sometimes you
[01:11:45] card, but God knew. And so sometimes you got to trust the path and and that is
[01:11:47] got to trust the path and and that is that's something at its core that I work
[01:11:50] that's something at its core that I work on for
[01:11:52] on for um me and for Miss I Got Time for
[01:11:55] um me and for Miss I Got Time for everything um everything else except
[01:11:57] everything um everything else except myself. Um because
[01:12:04] I'm talking so fast my thought left but
[01:12:07] I'm talking so fast my thought left but my thought is going to come back around
[01:12:09] my thought is going to come back around that
[01:12:12] because you get to decide and define
[01:12:14] because you get to decide and define what freedom looks like for you. It does
[01:12:16] what freedom looks like for you. It does not necessarily look like the same for
[01:12:19] not necessarily look like the same for everybody else.
[01:12:22] everybody else. You are uniquely and wonderfully made.
[01:12:25] You are uniquely and wonderfully made. And so you don't have to show up any any
[01:12:27] And so you don't have to show up any any other kind of way other than that.
[01:12:30] other kind of way other than that. Your full essence and divine self.
[01:12:33] Your full essence and divine self. That's the only way that people you're
[01:12:34] That's the only way that people you're called to serve can find you. It took me
[01:12:37] called to serve can find you. It took me a minute to get there, too.
[01:12:40] a minute to get there, too. It took me a minute to get there, too.
[01:12:43] It took me a minute to get there, too. But once you once you have it and you
[01:12:45] But once you once you have it and you know it and you find it, you will you
[01:12:47] know it and you find it, you will you will never want to relinquish it again.
[01:12:51] will never want to relinquish it again. you will be able to recognize when the
[01:12:52] you will be able to recognize when the enemy is trying to play these tricks on
[01:12:54] enemy is trying to play these tricks on you and there's more than one enemy and
[01:12:57] you and there's more than one enemy and there's more than one spirit because let
[01:12:59] there's more than one spirit because let me tell you when I got married I'm
[01:13:01] me tell you when I got married I'm certain the spirit was moving
[01:13:04] certain the spirit was moving just which one but it was for me I
[01:13:06] just which one but it was for me I wouldn't have never found myself
[01:13:08] wouldn't have never found myself sometimes you got to be lost sometimes
[01:13:11] sometimes you got to be lost sometimes you got to lose sometimes you got to be
[01:13:14] you got to lose sometimes you got to be in a fight
[01:13:16] in a fight some sometimes you got to be near death
[01:13:21] some sometimes you got to be near death to get your whole
[01:13:23] to get your whole life get your whole life together.
[01:13:29] Because if that didn't happen to you,
[01:13:32] Because if that didn't happen to you, which by the way was really happening
[01:13:35] which by the way was really happening for you,
[01:13:40] you probably wouldn't be on the path
[01:13:41] you probably wouldn't be on the path you're on now to your freedom, to your
[01:13:45] you're on now to your freedom, to your greatness, to your calling, to your
[01:13:48] greatness, to your calling, to your divine self, and really like knowing who
[01:13:52] divine self, and really like knowing who you are and becoming who you are and
[01:13:55] you are and becoming who you are and being who you are.
[01:14:01] That's what's going on with so many
[01:14:03] That's what's going on with so many people walking around with these masks
[01:14:04] people walking around with these masks and can't be themselves. That's why the
[01:14:06] and can't be themselves. That's why the world crazy
[01:14:08] world crazy cuz in my heart when I was growing up um
[01:14:11] cuz in my heart when I was growing up um doing all of that fighting and
[01:14:12] doing all of that fighting and everything, I didn't really want to do
[01:14:13] everything, I didn't really want to do all that. But I felt like I needed to
[01:14:16] all that. But I felt like I needed to and I had to. I felt like I was
[01:14:18] and I had to. I felt like I was different from my entire family. You
[01:14:20] different from my entire family. You know, we rough and tough. I'm the I'm
[01:14:23] know, we rough and tough. I'm the I'm the I'm the firstborn girl, grandchild.
[01:14:26] the I'm the firstborn girl, grandchild. Um, I got all brothers. Like, come on.
[01:14:32] Um, I got all brothers. Like, come on. There's a lot. And, uh, so, and yeah,
[01:14:35] There's a lot. And, uh, so, and yeah, and they
[01:14:37] and they that's why I'm a fighter, right? All
[01:14:39] that's why I'm a fighter, right? All them all all my uncles. So, yeah. And,
[01:14:42] them all all my uncles. So, yeah. And, um, but I'm really kind,
[01:14:46] um, but I'm really kind, but I'm I'm also candid.
[01:14:49] but I'm I'm also candid. And maybe that's one of the
[01:14:51] And maybe that's one of the misunderstandings because when I'm
[01:14:53] misunderstandings because when I'm candid, people believe um that maybe I'm
[01:14:56] candid, people believe um that maybe I'm not being nice. Um but I do my best to
[01:14:59] not being nice. Um but I do my best to leave in love cuz sometimes I didn't. I
[01:15:01] leave in love cuz sometimes I didn't. I I would I would cut you up with some
[01:15:03] I would I would cut you up with some words for show. And I love to curse or
[01:15:07] words for show. And I love to curse or cuss.
[01:15:09] cuss. Hey, my whole framework. It's got a
[01:15:11] Hey, my whole framework. It's got a curse word in it, but it's it's for your
[01:15:14] curse word in it, but it's it's for your good because I I had a conversation with
[01:15:18] good because I I had a conversation with my guy.
[01:15:19] my guy. You already know that I'm thinking it,
[01:15:21] You already know that I'm thinking it, so I might as well just say it
[01:15:25] so I might as well just say it cuz why am I not saying it? Let me I'm
[01:15:27] cuz why am I not saying it? Let me I'm not pretending that I don't cuss. And
[01:15:29] not pretending that I don't cuss. And you know you cuss, too. You know, you
[01:15:33] you know you cuss, too. You know, you say to yourself, "I got to get my
[01:15:35] say to yourself, "I got to get my together. I got to get myself together.
[01:15:38] together. I got to get myself together. I got to get this together."
[01:15:40] I got to get this together." But when you say
[01:15:43] But when you say you feel it. Let me tell you where the
[01:15:46] you feel it. Let me tell you where the that I'm talking about is, just so
[01:15:48] that I'm talking about is, just so we clear on what that is. For all the
[01:15:49] we clear on what that is. For all the people that's new to the channel,
[01:15:53] people that's new to the channel, the S in it stands for self-love care.
[01:15:56] the S in it stands for self-love care. The H stands for healing, right? Because
[01:15:59] The H stands for healing, right? Because you've been walking around holding a
[01:16:01] you've been walking around holding a lot. And that don't always mean that
[01:16:03] lot. And that don't always mean that something like bad or traumatic happened
[01:16:05] something like bad or traumatic happened to you, but you need to heal from
[01:16:07] to you, but you need to heal from whatever is going on in your heart, in
[01:16:10] whatever is going on in your heart, in your mind, right? Emotionally,
[01:16:13] your mind, right? Emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially,
[01:16:16] physically, spiritually, financially, all of it, right? So, healing is more
[01:16:19] all of it, right? So, healing is more than just one area. You know, maybe you
[01:16:22] than just one area. You know, maybe you bad with money and you want it, you want
[01:16:24] bad with money and you want it, you want to improve. So healing just helps you
[01:16:27] to improve. So healing just helps you get where you want to be because again
[01:16:29] get where you want to be because again you get to decide that
[01:16:32] you get to decide that right and um
[01:16:35] right and um the I is identity. Who are you darling
[01:16:39] the I is identity. Who are you darling when you're not wearing the mask? Who
[01:16:41] when you're not wearing the mask? Who are you when you're not showing up in
[01:16:43] are you when you're not showing up in all of them places? Who are you when you
[01:16:45] all of them places? Who are you when you try to rest and and you feel like uh you
[01:16:48] try to rest and and you feel like uh you got to keep producing,
[01:16:51] got to keep producing, right? Who are you at your essence? Who
[01:16:53] right? Who are you at your essence? Who are you really designed to be? Who are
[01:16:55] are you really designed to be? Who are you suppressing
[01:16:57] you suppressing so that you can show up in all these
[01:16:59] so that you can show up in all these places that you really don't even want
[01:17:01] places that you really don't even want to be in? You volunteer for me and you
[01:17:04] to be in? You volunteer for me and you don't know why I did that. I did that.
[01:17:07] don't know why I did that. I did that. And when I started realizing that, it's
[01:17:10] And when I started realizing that, it's like,
[01:17:12] like, do I want to do that? Cuz guess what?
[01:17:13] do I want to do that? Cuz guess what? You have freedom of choice. You get to
[01:17:15] You have freedom of choice. You get to decide that is your power. And every
[01:17:17] decide that is your power. And every time that you don't exercise it, it
[01:17:20] time that you don't exercise it, it weakens.
[01:17:22] weakens. It shrinks you. It makes you disappear.
[01:17:31] You can be seen as much as you want by
[01:17:34] You can be seen as much as you want by using your power, using your voice,
[01:17:37] using your power, using your voice, using your power to make the decisions
[01:17:40] using your power to make the decisions and choices that are right for you.
[01:17:43] and choices that are right for you. I know that to be true. I've seen the
[01:17:46] I know that to be true. I've seen the power of it. Doing it for myself. That's
[01:17:48] power of it. Doing it for myself. That's why I'm here today. That's why I'm here
[01:17:50] why I'm here today. That's why I'm here today to be able to help to help teach
[01:17:54] today to be able to help to help teach you how to fish. Real talk.
[01:17:59] you how to fish. Real talk. Okay, let's see how much further we get
[01:18:01] Okay, let's see how much further we get cuz we got 15 minutes.
[01:18:05] cuz we got 15 minutes. What does freedom look like to you right
[01:18:07] What does freedom look like to you right now? I feel like we had a good talk
[01:18:10] now? I feel like we had a good talk about that. All right. What's a decision
[01:18:13] about that. All right. What's a decision that I made that completely changed my
[01:18:17] that I made that completely changed my life?
[01:18:19] life? Oh Lord,
[01:18:22] to take on invest in myself and get my
[01:18:25] to take on invest in myself and get my very first life coach
[01:18:31] because I was lost. I did not know
[01:18:34] because I was lost. I did not know myself. I didn't know my dreams. I
[01:18:36] myself. I didn't know my dreams. I didn't remember anything about me.
[01:18:40] didn't remember anything about me. I was married. I was Selena Whitmore.
[01:18:44] I was married. I was Selena Whitmore. And I didn't even know her. I couldn't
[01:18:47] And I didn't even know her. I couldn't identify with her. I couldn't anything.
[01:18:49] identify with her. I couldn't anything. I didn't I didn't I didn't know who I
[01:18:51] I didn't I didn't I didn't know who I was.
[01:18:53] was. Selena Kelly, on the other hand. I know
[01:18:57] Selena Kelly, on the other hand. I know her. I know me. And I also know that
[01:19:00] her. I know me. And I also know that there are parts of me that I don't know
[01:19:02] there are parts of me that I don't know yet, that I haven't met yet.
[01:19:05] yet, that I haven't met yet. I am the most valuable thing. And losing
[01:19:07] I am the most valuable thing. And losing myself and allowing myself to be lost,
[01:19:14] I believe that's what hell feels like.
[01:19:18] I believe that's what hell feels like. I really do. Lack of vision, lack, lack
[01:19:21] I really do. Lack of vision, lack, lack of desire.
[01:19:23] of desire. Like I was I was in a black hole and it
[01:19:26] Like I was I was in a black hole and it looked dark because I couldn't even hear
[01:19:28] looked dark because I couldn't even hear God's voice anymore. That small whisper.
[01:19:30] God's voice anymore. That small whisper. I created a war room. Some days it was
[01:19:33] I created a war room. Some days it was the war room. Some days it was the
[01:19:34] the war room. Some days it was the prayer room because I was in spiritual
[01:19:37] prayer room because I was in spiritual warfare.
[01:19:40] warfare. I know that without a doubt because
[01:19:41] I know that without a doubt because because it revealed this the the demonic
[01:19:44] because it revealed this the the demonic presence revealed itself to me when when
[01:19:47] presence revealed itself to me when when I declared no more
[01:19:52] and it it was no longer staying in my
[01:19:54] and it it was no longer staying in my home.
[01:19:56] home. It revealed itself. And that's a whole
[01:19:59] It revealed itself. And that's a whole another level of conversation that y'all
[01:20:02] another level of conversation that y'all might not be ready for yet. But we'll
[01:20:05] might not be ready for yet. But we'll see when when divine time is right.
[01:20:08] see when when divine time is right. What's the So that would be the decision
[01:20:11] What's the So that would be the decision to to to to get to invest in myself and
[01:20:15] to to to to get to invest in myself and get my first life coach. And I've been
[01:20:17] get my first life coach. And I've been investing in myself ever since because
[01:20:21] investing in myself ever since because I've invested in everything and
[01:20:23] I've invested in everything and everybody and I mean everything that you
[01:20:26] everybody and I mean everything that you can you can think of. I have helped
[01:20:28] can you can think of. I have helped people build their own businesses.
[01:20:32] people build their own businesses. Um I helped a family franchise their
[01:20:35] Um I helped a family franchise their business. I have uh I have worked on
[01:20:39] business. I have uh I have worked on jobs for
[01:20:41] jobs for 25 years helping those people that own
[01:20:44] 25 years helping those people that own those businesses build their business
[01:20:46] those businesses build their business and do a really good job, right? Cuz
[01:20:48] and do a really good job, right? Cuz hey, I like being an a student, high
[01:20:51] hey, I like being an a student, high achieving like I pride used to pride
[01:20:53] achieving like I pride used to pride myself on being the smartest person in
[01:20:54] myself on being the smartest person in the room, whatever that means,
[01:20:58] the room, whatever that means, right? Nobody knows everything, only the
[01:21:01] right? Nobody knows everything, only the all knowing. So that that's kind of
[01:21:04] all knowing. So that that's kind of crazy.
[01:21:05] crazy. to me. If that's what you believe, more
[01:21:08] to me. If that's what you believe, more power to you, boo. Um, who or what gave
[01:21:12] power to you, boo. Um, who or what gave you permission to be this version of
[01:21:14] you permission to be this version of you? I did. I declared that. I declared
[01:21:18] you? I did. I declared that. I declared that. No one else. Because I get to
[01:21:22] that. No one else. Because I get to decide. I don't I Mother Joy uses a
[01:21:26] decide. I don't I Mother Joy uses a term, don't put no clothes on me that I
[01:21:28] term, don't put no clothes on me that I don't want to wear.
[01:21:30] don't want to wear. I don't put no clothes on that I don't
[01:21:33] I don't put no clothes on that I don't want to wear. And I don't want you to
[01:21:35] want to wear. And I don't want you to put any clothes on that you don't want
[01:21:37] put any clothes on that you don't want to wear either. That's why I give you
[01:21:39] to wear either. That's why I give you permission to get naked.
[01:21:42] permission to get naked. And sometimes we need permission,
[01:21:45] And sometimes we need permission, right? Let me see. Let me see a time
[01:21:47] right? Let me see. Let me see a time where I felt like somebody gave me
[01:21:49] where I felt like somebody gave me permission.
[01:21:52] Rachel does that. She gives a lot of us
[01:21:55] Rachel does that. She gives a lot of us permission. I I feel that Rachel was
[01:21:57] permission. I I feel that Rachel was probably one.
[01:22:00] probably one. Um
[01:22:02] Um probably uh like all of my all of my
[01:22:05] probably uh like all of my all of my coaches.
[01:22:07] coaches. Yaya definitely uh
[01:22:11] Yaya definitely uh like definitely
[01:22:15] like definitely um that was a divine divine uh encounter
[01:22:19] um that was a divine divine uh encounter and uh Ireland Arlland Hamilton is
[01:22:21] and uh Ireland Arlland Hamilton is another one of my mentors. Arland gives
[01:22:24] another one of my mentors. Arland gives permission. Um, what I loved about Arlin
[01:22:27] permission. Um, what I loved about Arlin when I saw her met I saw her for the
[01:22:29] when I saw her met I saw her for the first time at ROI, the very first ROI,
[01:22:32] first time at ROI, the very first ROI, and she came in the room, she had jeans
[01:22:33] and she came in the room, she had jeans on, she had a hoodie on, she had her
[01:22:35] on, she had a hoodie on, she had her sneakers on, and I said to myself, who
[01:22:38] sneakers on, and I said to myself, who is that?
[01:22:39] is that? Who is that? And people move stuff out
[01:22:42] Who is that? And people move stuff out the way for her, too. And she don't move
[01:22:44] the way for her, too. And she don't move like that. However,
[01:22:47] like that. However, she showed up the way I like to show up.
[01:22:51] she showed up the way I like to show up. I'm going to be in a hoodie. I'm
[01:22:53] I'm going to be in a hoodie. I'm probably going to be in a t-shirt. I'm
[01:22:54] probably going to be in a t-shirt. I'm probably gonna have jeans or short or
[01:22:57] probably gonna have jeans or short or something of that nature. I like to be
[01:23:00] something of that nature. I like to be comfortable. I do not like to get
[01:23:01] comfortable. I do not like to get dressed up to go sit in nobody's chair.
[01:23:04] dressed up to go sit in nobody's chair. That is just not who I am. I think it's
[01:23:07] That is just not who I am. I think it's the most boring, uncomfortable thing in
[01:23:09] the most boring, uncomfortable thing in the world to do.
[01:23:11] the world to do. I do it for f for folks I love, but it
[01:23:14] I do it for f for folks I love, but it ain't something that I love. I love
[01:23:16] ain't something that I love. I love doing. I do not like getting dressed up.
[01:23:19] doing. I do not like getting dressed up. Um, so I love having a job
[01:23:24] Um, so I love having a job which which really is not a job. It's
[01:23:26] which which really is not a job. It's work. It's a it's a divine assignment.
[01:23:28] work. It's a it's a divine assignment. When you're in your work and you're tied
[01:23:31] When you're in your work and you're tied to your work, it does not feel like a
[01:23:33] to your work, it does not feel like a job. I think a job is the thing that
[01:23:35] job. I think a job is the thing that feels heavy. Work does not feel heavy.
[01:23:40] feels heavy. Work does not feel heavy. Not your work that you're called to do.
[01:23:42] Not your work that you're called to do. I'm over here running my mouth. Let me
[01:23:45] I'm over here running my mouth. Let me see uh who's in the building because
[01:23:48] see uh who's in the building because Spirit just said go see where the people
[01:23:50] Spirit just said go see where the people at. How long do you go all in on an
[01:23:53] at. How long do you go all in on an entrepreneur project before deciding if
[01:23:56] entrepreneur project before deciding if you should move on from it?
[01:23:59] you should move on from it? Um I think I just answered that question
[01:24:01] Um I think I just answered that question for you, but uh feel free um to let me
[01:24:05] for you, but uh feel free um to let me know if if that didn't fully answer it
[01:24:07] know if if that didn't fully answer it because if you're looking for something
[01:24:08] because if you're looking for something concrete, it really it really depends on
[01:24:11] concrete, it really it really depends on you. Um, Chris Croaláes, I hope I'm
[01:24:14] you. Um, Chris Croaláes, I hope I'm saying your name 369 correctly. Um, and
[01:24:17] saying your name 369 correctly. Um, and you can tell it to me for phonetically.
[01:24:19] you can tell it to me for phonetically. Here's my spiritual mother, Edith. Hi.
[01:24:23] Here's my spiritual mother, Edith. Hi. She got a prayer hands up. She know me
[01:24:26] She got a prayer hands up. She know me well. She been she been rocking with me
[01:24:27] well. She been she been rocking with me for a long time on my spiritual journey.
[01:24:30] for a long time on my spiritual journey. So, I know she'd be shaking her head
[01:24:31] So, I know she'd be shaking her head sometime.
[01:24:33] sometime. Um, and but in love. She she allows me
[01:24:36] Um, and but in love. She she allows me to be myself.
[01:24:38] to be myself. And I love everything about her for it.
[01:24:41] And I love everything about her for it. And the way that she showed up, too.
[01:24:43] And the way that she showed up, too. She's in She's definitely uh was on my
[01:24:46] She's in She's definitely uh was on my bingo card. I needed her. She was
[01:24:48] bingo card. I needed her. She was another lifeline. Lord, don't let get me
[01:24:50] another lifeline. Lord, don't let get me let me get in here preaching. Um or
[01:24:54] let me get in here preaching. Um or rather teaching. I'm not a preacher. I
[01:24:56] rather teaching. I'm not a preacher. I am definitely a teacher. Um
[01:24:59] am definitely a teacher. Um so to answer that question, it really
[01:25:01] so to answer that question, it really depends. It depends on if it's your work
[01:25:04] depends. It depends on if it's your work and your heart is in it. Only you know
[01:25:06] and your heart is in it. Only you know that answer. I have some things you know
[01:25:09] that answer. I have some things you know I get you'll get in it because all of
[01:25:11] I get you'll get in it because all of its data. It's giving you information.
[01:25:14] its data. It's giving you information. Um it it might give it may not be giving
[01:25:17] Um it it might give it may not be giving you the information that you you want it
[01:25:19] you the information that you you want it but it's getting you closer to get to
[01:25:21] but it's getting you closer to get to where you you really want and desire
[01:25:23] where you you really want and desire because now you'll be like I tried that.
[01:25:25] because now you'll be like I tried that. That ain't for me. I uh a quick story
[01:25:28] That ain't for me. I uh a quick story about that. I um when my husband died,
[01:25:34] about that. I um when my husband died, I knew I couldn't go back to the job I
[01:25:36] I knew I couldn't go back to the job I had. It was working in a nursing home,
[01:25:39] had. It was working in a nursing home, doing housekeeping. That was not my
[01:25:41] doing housekeeping. That was not my ministry. For one thing, I don't like
[01:25:42] ministry. For one thing, I don't like cooking and cleaning and doing any of
[01:25:44] cooking and cleaning and doing any of that. I pay people. I will gladly help
[01:25:46] that. I pay people. I will gladly help support somebody else's work that they
[01:25:49] support somebody else's work that they love and enjoy in doing it.
[01:25:53] love and enjoy in doing it. However,
[01:25:54] However, I knew that um I needed to do something
[01:25:59] I knew that um I needed to do something because my husband didn't want me
[01:26:01] because my husband didn't want me working where I was working at the time.
[01:26:04] working where I was working at the time. And so,
[01:26:08] um I couldn't go back there though when
[01:26:10] um I couldn't go back there though when I I tried going back there and it was it
[01:26:13] I I tried going back there and it was it was for a retirement community and so
[01:26:16] was for a retirement community and so those elderly people kept walking up to
[01:26:18] those elderly people kept walking up to me and saying, "I'm so sorry. I'm so
[01:26:20] me and saying, "I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry." And I would get so mad because
[01:26:23] sorry." And I would get so mad because my husband died. He was Hey, Chef Roxy.
[01:26:27] my husband died. He was Hey, Chef Roxy. Okay, girl, you got new names. He was he
[01:26:31] Okay, girl, you got new names. He was he um
[01:26:34] he was only 24 when he died.
[01:26:37] he was only 24 when he died. No, he was 25 right before his 26th
[01:26:40] No, he was 25 right before his 26th birthday. I was 23 and it was right
[01:26:43] birthday. I was 23 and it was right before my 24th birthday. And so to see
[01:26:46] before my 24th birthday. And so to see all of these elderly people saying that
[01:26:48] all of these elderly people saying that to me, I was mad. I was mad as hell.
[01:26:51] to me, I was mad. I was mad as hell. And so I realized that I couldn't stay
[01:26:54] And so I realized that I couldn't stay there and work there. And so my
[01:26:56] there and work there. And so my father-in-law got me a job at um
[01:27:01] father-in-law got me a job at um he got me a job in uh was it head start
[01:27:06] he got me a job in uh was it head start day? It was a day it was a type of
[01:27:08] day? It was a day it was a type of daycare ministry. I can't remember. It
[01:27:11] daycare ministry. I can't remember. It was but it's here locally and it was
[01:27:13] was but it's here locally and it was working with the little people and which
[01:27:15] working with the little people and which was which was cool. They they didn't
[01:27:16] was which was cool. They they didn't necessarily bother me, but I knew I
[01:27:18] necessarily bother me, but I knew I wasn't trying to be nobody's mother. And
[01:27:20] wasn't trying to be nobody's mother. And we had been trying to have our own baby.
[01:27:22] we had been trying to have our own baby. He he that's another time, too. When he
[01:27:26] He he that's another time, too. When he died, I thought I was pregnant. So, that
[01:27:28] died, I thought I was pregnant. So, that was a lot, too.
[01:27:30] was a lot, too. But I I I enjoyed it more than I thought
[01:27:34] But I I I enjoyed it more than I thought I would. And I realized though
[01:27:38] I would. And I realized though um
[01:27:41] um that
[01:27:42] that little people are for people with that
[01:27:45] little people are for people with that ministry that is designed to teach. So
[01:27:47] ministry that is designed to teach. So it gave me information that that's not
[01:27:49] it gave me information that that's not what I want to do and be doing, right?
[01:27:54] what I want to do and be doing, right? So I said this before earlier, life is
[01:27:58] So I said this before earlier, life is an experiment
[01:28:00] an experiment and look at it like that cuz we haven't
[01:28:02] and look at it like that cuz we haven't been here before. it it's going to help
[01:28:04] been here before. it it's going to help you get closer to what you do and don't
[01:28:06] you get closer to what you do and don't want. You may be putting more faith and
[01:28:09] want. You may be putting more faith and expectation in something that might be
[01:28:12] expectation in something that might be creating um something else that shows up
[01:28:15] creating um something else that shows up that you don't desire.
[01:28:18] that you don't desire. I would say allow yourself to be in it
[01:28:21] I would say allow yourself to be in it and not and remove the expectation
[01:28:24] and not and remove the expectation because
[01:28:26] because and if there are any shoulds because
[01:28:28] and if there are any shoulds because because that is what is creating that
[01:28:34] because that is what is creating that you know, that's what I would say. Hi
[01:28:38] you know, that's what I would say. Hi there, Chan Lee. Um, she said, "What's
[01:28:42] there, Chan Lee. Um, she said, "What's the hardest thing about having chronic
[01:28:44] the hardest thing about having chronic health issues that most people don't
[01:28:46] health issues that most people don't understand?"
[01:28:48] understand?" I liken it to invisible scars
[01:28:52] I liken it to invisible scars because most people can't see it. And I
[01:28:54] because most people can't see it. And I believe that most people believe for you
[01:28:57] believe that most people believe for you to be in pain that it's got to be some
[01:28:59] to be in pain that it's got to be some kind of physical way to tell like they
[01:29:02] kind of physical way to tell like they got to see it. Most people only believe
[01:29:04] got to see it. Most people only believe what they see.
[01:29:06] what they see. And there is so many things that are
[01:29:08] And there is so many things that are happening in the unseen.
[01:29:11] happening in the unseen. Unseen is where you build your
[01:29:13] Unseen is where you build your confidence and your strength. Unseen is
[01:29:16] confidence and your strength. Unseen is is is where you're praying, right?
[01:29:19] is is where you're praying, right? you're in pain,
[01:29:21] you're in pain, you know, all of the things every so
[01:29:24] you know, all of the things every so much is happening in the unseen
[01:29:28] much is happening in the unseen and and and and more people have to put
[01:29:32] and and and and more people have to put their faith on it
[01:29:36] their faith on it cuz that's what gets you through and the
[01:29:38] cuz that's what gets you through and the belief. I I I was teaching about that
[01:29:41] belief. I I I was teaching about that early. I'm sorry you missed it, but I'm
[01:29:44] early. I'm sorry you missed it, but I'm ask if you got any other questions and
[01:29:47] ask if you got any other questions and let me know if I'm if I'm hitting on it,
[01:29:49] let me know if I'm if I'm hitting on it, right? Um
[01:29:52] right? Um yeah, that's the teacher in me coming
[01:29:54] yeah, that's the teacher in me coming out. So maybe my teacher sometimes sound
[01:29:57] out. So maybe my teacher sometimes sound like preaching.
[01:29:59] like preaching. All right. Um let me uh let me go see
[01:30:02] All right. Um let me uh let me go see what else questions that I have. I'mma
[01:30:05] what else questions that I have. I'mma keep it rocking. I appreciate these
[01:30:07] keep it rocking. I appreciate these questions. I appreciate you showing up
[01:30:09] questions. I appreciate you showing up here in this space. Um, let me tell you
[01:30:11] here in this space. Um, let me tell you what else. Because I get to interview
[01:30:14] what else. Because I get to interview myself, y'all. I I It took me It took me
[01:30:18] myself, y'all. I I It took me It took me a minute to answer the first question at
[01:30:20] a minute to answer the first question at that because it asked me, "How do I show
[01:30:22] that because it asked me, "How do I show up in the world?" And that's layered.
[01:30:24] up in the world?" And that's layered. Um, so I'm on question number eight. Uh,
[01:30:28] Um, so I'm on question number eight. Uh, now question nine.
[01:30:31] now question nine. I I was in the what gave me permission.
[01:30:34] I I was in the what gave me permission. That's question nine. So, actually, I'm
[01:30:36] That's question nine. So, actually, I'm on question number 10 now. And we might
[01:30:38] on question number 10 now. And we might we might stop at at 10 because it's
[01:30:42] we might stop at at 10 because it's getting late and uh my team is waiting
[01:30:45] getting late and uh my team is waiting for me to come show up. What's one thing
[01:30:47] for me to come show up. What's one thing you no longer apologize for?
[01:30:53] These are some good questions. Dang, my
[01:30:57] These are some good questions. Dang, my Chad GBT knows me well.
[01:31:01] Chad GBT knows me well. What's one thing I no longer prov I
[01:31:03] What's one thing I no longer prov I don't apologize if if if if I don't want
[01:31:07] don't apologize if if if if I don't want to apologize quite honestly. Um I would
[01:31:11] to apologize quite honestly. Um I would say that is one and um
[01:31:22] I don't apologize for being me.
[01:31:25] I don't apologize for being me. I don't apologize for cussing.
[01:31:29] I don't apologize for cussing. I don't apologize for showing up
[01:31:31] I don't apologize for showing up authentically. I don't apologize for
[01:31:33] authentically. I don't apologize for being a w a warrior. W A R R I O R. A
[01:31:37] being a w a warrior. W A R R I O R. A warrior in spirit, a warrior in truth, a
[01:31:41] warrior in spirit, a warrior in truth, a warrior in injustice. Like I no, you you
[01:31:46] warrior in injustice. Like I no, you you you can we can you can get some of these
[01:31:49] you can we can you can get some of these hands if if somebody is being
[01:31:51] hands if if somebody is being mistreated. Not on my watch. I don't
[01:31:53] mistreated. Not on my watch. I don't want to mistreat anybody and I'm not
[01:31:55] want to mistreat anybody and I'm not gonna allow anybody else to mistreat
[01:31:56] gonna allow anybody else to mistreat anybody. I don't apologize for that. I
[01:31:59] anybody. I don't apologize for that. I don't apologize for uh what I desire and
[01:32:03] don't apologize for uh what I desire and what I want because the Lord placed it
[01:32:05] what I want because the Lord placed it in my heart so I know that I could have
[01:32:06] in my heart so I know that I could have it. I don't desire for wanting to be a
[01:32:08] it. I don't desire for wanting to be a bill uh apologize for wanting to be a
[01:32:11] bill uh apologize for wanting to be a billionaire. When you ask me who I am
[01:32:12] billionaire. When you ask me who I am and how I'm showing up, I'm billionaire
[01:32:16] and how I'm showing up, I'm billionaire because God gave me a big billion
[01:32:19] because God gave me a big billion billionaire trillionaire vision and I
[01:32:22] billionaire trillionaire vision and I got people to help,
[01:32:24] got people to help, right? And um I don't apologize the fact
[01:32:28] right? And um I don't apologize the fact that I care about people and that that
[01:32:31] that I care about people and that that um the Lord puts them on my mind all the
[01:32:34] um the Lord puts them on my mind all the time, especially miss I got time for
[01:32:36] time, especially miss I got time for everything except myself. I don't
[01:32:37] everything except myself. I don't apologize for that. Um people would, you
[01:32:40] apologize for that. Um people would, you know, I tried to just go the business
[01:32:42] know, I tried to just go the business route um and just focus on people that
[01:32:45] route um and just focus on people that wanted to do business because they will
[01:32:46] wanted to do business because they will tell you a good coach will sell you what
[01:32:50] tell you a good coach will sell you what you want and give you what you need. I'm
[01:32:53] you want and give you what you need. I'm going to do both. I'm going to give you
[01:32:55] going to do both. I'm going to give you the truth, what you need, and if you
[01:32:58] the truth, what you need, and if you still feel like I want this, you can
[01:33:02] still feel like I want this, you can have that, too.
[01:33:04] have that, too. But let's let's let's do the win-win and
[01:33:07] But let's let's let's do the win-win and and and not make this short-term fix.
[01:33:10] and and not make this short-term fix. That's why things ain't working. That's
[01:33:12] That's why things ain't working. That's why you've been in these programs and
[01:33:14] why you've been in these programs and places and spaces and showing up and
[01:33:16] places and spaces and showing up and it's not working cuz you looking for the
[01:33:18] it's not working cuz you looking for the feeling of what you really want and that
[01:33:21] feeling of what you really want and that ain't how you going to get it. You got
[01:33:24] ain't how you going to get it. You got this emptiness and this hole inside cuz
[01:33:26] this emptiness and this hole inside cuz God told you to do something and you
[01:33:29] God told you to do something and you didn't let everybody else tell you
[01:33:30] didn't let everybody else tell you something else.
[01:33:32] something else. So, you're wrestling with yourself.
[01:33:35] So, you're wrestling with yourself. I've been there. I've been there out of
[01:33:37] I've been there. I've been there out of fear, out of whatever whatever it looks
[01:33:39] fear, out of whatever whatever it looks like. And it ain't no shame over here.
[01:33:42] like. And it ain't no shame over here. None. None at all. All love.
[01:33:47] None. None at all. All love. But real love.
[01:33:50] But real love. Cuz real love is going to correct you.
[01:33:54] Cuz real love is going to correct you. It's going to nurture you. It's going to
[01:33:56] It's going to nurture you. It's going to support you. It's going to push you and
[01:34:00] support you. It's going to push you and stretch you.
[01:34:02] stretch you. And you can still come back home
[01:34:04] And you can still come back home anytime. Even if we fell out, the door
[01:34:07] anytime. Even if we fell out, the door going to always be open,
[01:34:09] going to always be open, right? Um my pastor when I when I really
[01:34:13] right? Um my pastor when I when I really rededicated my life to my God and I got
[01:34:16] rededicated my life to my God and I got real about it uh taught me a practice
[01:34:20] real about it uh taught me a practice keeping keeping my hands
[01:34:23] keeping keeping my hands um keeping my hands open so that I could
[01:34:26] um keeping my hands open so that I could equally give and receive.
[01:34:31] So, a warm heart, that is my posture at
[01:34:35] So, a warm heart, that is my posture at all times. That is who I am. That is
[01:34:37] all times. That is who I am. That is another way that I show up
[01:34:40] another way that I show up so that I can equally give and receive
[01:34:44] so that I can equally give and receive because I I want everything that I'm
[01:34:45] because I I want everything that I'm meant to have and I want to give
[01:34:48] meant to have and I want to give everything I'm supposed to give. I like
[01:34:50] everything I'm supposed to give. I like making exchanges. I love it.
[01:34:54] making exchanges. I love it. Driving right now, but hope this is
[01:34:56] Driving right now, but hope this is re-recorded so I can learn more about
[01:34:58] re-recorded so I can learn more about your pain journey. Absolutely. Um I I
[01:35:01] your pain journey. Absolutely. Um I I didn't really go in depth in it, but I
[01:35:03] didn't really go in depth in it, but I am going to I have a seven-part series
[01:35:05] am going to I have a seven-part series coming up. Um my 25 days in California
[01:35:08] coming up. Um my 25 days in California journey, part of it um with ROI, and one
[01:35:11] journey, part of it um with ROI, and one of them is actually unpacking my health
[01:35:13] of them is actually unpacking my health journey in that series. So that's coming
[01:35:15] journey in that series. So that's coming up, but absolutely. And we and Chandley,
[01:35:19] up, but absolutely. And we and Chandley, we can talk about it, honey. Uh you you
[01:35:21] we can talk about it, honey. Uh you you know, you overdue from coming on the
[01:35:23] know, you overdue from coming on the show, so I'm waiting to get your getting
[01:35:25] show, so I'm waiting to get your getting your get see your name on on this
[01:35:28] your get see your name on on this schedule.
[01:35:30] schedule. Let's do it, baby. Um, and thank you for
[01:35:32] Let's do it, baby. Um, and thank you for being here.
[01:35:34] being here. Anyone else got any questions? I
[01:35:36] Anyone else got any questions? I appreciate everyone that showed up here.
[01:35:38] appreciate everyone that showed up here. I um my team know I'm running late. I
[01:35:42] I um my team know I'm running late. I want to I want to close out at least
[01:35:44] want to I want to close out at least this one section. Um,
[01:35:48] this one section. Um, this last question, it was 11 of them on
[01:35:52] this last question, it was 11 of them on who is Selena Kelly, right? What message
[01:35:59] who is Selena Kelly, right? What message would I give to the woman who's watching
[01:36:02] would I give to the woman who's watching this and still putting everyone else
[01:36:04] this and still putting everyone else first?
[01:36:08] This is your season. This is your time.
[01:36:12] This is your season. This is your time. You are not late. You are right where
[01:36:15] You are not late. You are right where you supposed to be. You are not behind.
[01:36:17] you supposed to be. You are not behind. I felt all of that. You You didn't miss
[01:36:19] I felt all of that. You You didn't miss your chance.
[01:36:22] your chance. Um,
[01:36:24] Um, if God put a vision in you
[01:36:28] if God put a vision in you and you accepted the vision that God
[01:36:31] and you accepted the vision that God gave you and the desires of your heart,
[01:36:35] gave you and the desires of your heart, then you you have to have faith that God
[01:36:38] then you you have to have faith that God is is
[01:36:43] this comes from my my spiritual mother,
[01:36:46] this comes from my my spiritual mother, Edith. She said, "I believe that God is
[01:36:48] Edith. She said, "I believe that God is working it out on my behalf."
[01:36:51] working it out on my behalf." And I believe that God is working it out
[01:36:53] And I believe that God is working it out on your behalf. It may not look like
[01:36:56] on your behalf. It may not look like what you had in your mind.
[01:36:58] what you had in your mind. And and if and if you're spiritual or or
[01:37:01] And and if and if you're spiritual or or religious or however you identify in any
[01:37:04] religious or however you identify in any way, you know that when the Lord shows
[01:37:07] way, you know that when the Lord shows up, when God shows up,
[01:37:11] up, when God shows up, that it don't look like what you had in
[01:37:12] that it don't look like what you had in mind.
[01:37:14] mind. Cuz that's your vision. and your view,
[01:37:17] Cuz that's your vision. and your view, but that's not the vision and the view
[01:37:18] but that's not the vision and the view that God got for you. It's different.
[01:37:21] that God got for you. It's different. And so, it's shaping you that it's
[01:37:23] And so, it's shaping you that it's really happening for you to get you
[01:37:25] really happening for you to get you where you were meant to be.
[01:37:28] where you were meant to be. But if you fixate on what the world has
[01:37:32] But if you fixate on what the world has and how everyone else is doing it, first
[01:37:34] and how everyone else is doing it, first of all, you may not be showing up as who
[01:37:37] of all, you may not be showing up as who God called you to be. So, he can't bless
[01:37:39] God called you to be. So, he can't bless you because you ain't doing what he told
[01:37:42] you because you ain't doing what he told you to do. And you if I if I had a coin
[01:37:45] you to do. And you if I if I had a coin for the number of people that when they
[01:37:48] for the number of people that when they got their breakthrough
[01:37:51] got their breakthrough it and they realized they already know
[01:37:55] it and they realized they already know what they're supposed to be doing and
[01:37:56] what they're supposed to be doing and they're not doing it
[01:38:00] right.
[01:38:03] right. I say that the message is you already
[01:38:05] I say that the message is you already know what God told you to do. You let
[01:38:08] know what God told you to do. You let other things quiet that voice and be
[01:38:11] other things quiet that voice and be louder than that voice. The voice that
[01:38:14] louder than that voice. The voice that knows you, hears you, knows your wants
[01:38:17] knows you, hears you, knows your wants and desires, and wants you to have them,
[01:38:20] and desires, and wants you to have them, and is saying to you that the way to
[01:38:23] and is saying to you that the way to them is this way, and you're allowing
[01:38:25] them is this way, and you're allowing the world to let you go left.
[01:38:32] So, I'm going to give you I'm going give
[01:38:34] So, I'm going to give you I'm going give you one assignment if you accept this
[01:38:36] you one assignment if you accept this assignment. The assignment is to use
[01:38:38] assignment. The assignment is to use your power and practice saying no.
[01:38:42] your power and practice saying no. Period.
[01:38:44] Period. That's it. Just know. Period. Because
[01:38:46] That's it. Just know. Period. Because it's a complete sentence.
[01:38:50] Well, I need you to come help me um do
[01:38:52] Well, I need you to come help me um do this and that.
[01:38:55] this and that. If you don't want to, then the answer is
[01:38:57] If you don't want to, then the answer is no.
[01:38:59] no. And you don't have to explain. You don't
[01:39:02] And you don't have to explain. You don't have to do any of that. But I know you
[01:39:05] have to do any of that. But I know you might feel like you need to explain. So
[01:39:07] might feel like you need to explain. So after you start practicing it enough,
[01:39:09] after you start practicing it enough, you'll realize you'll you'll feel your
[01:39:11] you'll realize you'll you'll feel your power. You'll feel your power. It'll
[01:39:13] power. You'll feel your power. It'll well up from it'll it'll well up from
[01:39:16] well up from it'll it'll well up from your core. You you you will feel like,
[01:39:19] your core. You you you will feel like, "Oh man, I didn't know I could do that.
[01:39:21] "Oh man, I didn't know I could do that. If I had if I had if I had I would be
[01:39:24] If I had if I had if I had I would be loaded if if I got paid for every time
[01:39:26] loaded if if I got paid for every time the w the women that that use this
[01:39:29] the w the women that that use this practice
[01:39:31] practice like
[01:39:35] cuz we laid it down. You didn't know
[01:39:37] cuz we laid it down. You didn't know that you had your power. It could be a
[01:39:39] that you had your power. It could be a number of reasons, right? You started
[01:39:42] number of reasons, right? You started disappearing for whatever reason. No
[01:39:44] disappearing for whatever reason. No shade, no shame, but you're here now.
[01:39:48] shade, no shame, but you're here now. So, you can get and have everything that
[01:39:51] So, you can get and have everything that God told you you can have. You can get
[01:39:53] God told you you can have. You can get cuz that's who placed it there.
[01:39:56] cuz that's who placed it there. Everything came after that. Probably
[01:39:58] Everything came after that. Probably ain't it. Probably ain't God. It's all
[01:40:01] ain't it. Probably ain't God. It's all I'm saying.
[01:40:02] I'm saying. And the more you free up your energy
[01:40:06] And the more you free up your energy to be inward for you,
[01:40:10] to be inward for you, you will hear that. You will recognize
[01:40:12] you will hear that. You will recognize that. You will know that. You will feel
[01:40:14] that. You will know that. You will feel that. Cuz those are the things that you
[01:40:16] that. Cuz those are the things that you want and desire.
[01:40:19] want and desire. You got to quit letting the world tell
[01:40:22] You got to quit letting the world tell you what that needs to be cuz they can't
[01:40:24] you what that needs to be cuz they can't see it and hear it and know it. God
[01:40:26] see it and hear it and know it. God placed that in your heart. It ain't for
[01:40:27] placed that in your heart. It ain't for them. It's for you. But showing up and
[01:40:31] them. It's for you. But showing up and doing everything for everybody else is
[01:40:34] doing everything for everybody else is not what God called you to do. You know,
[01:40:37] not what God called you to do. You know, that would be being busy. You know,
[01:40:38] that would be being busy. You know, people will say that. I ain't seen
[01:40:40] people will say that. I ain't seen nowhere where God told me to be busy.
[01:40:44] nowhere where God told me to be busy. Nohere.
[01:40:46] Nohere. The world say that be productive and
[01:40:49] The world say that be productive and that that you know produces and all
[01:40:52] that that you know produces and all that.
[01:40:55] that. On the seventh day, the Lord rested and
[01:40:57] On the seventh day, the Lord rested and people can't even rest. You ain't
[01:40:59] people can't even rest. You ain't resting. You ain't rested in a long
[01:41:02] resting. You ain't rested in a long time. Resting feels different. I went on
[01:41:05] time. Resting feels different. I went on a 25-day vacation to California and I
[01:41:07] a 25-day vacation to California and I didn't get no rest. None.
[01:41:11] didn't get no rest. None. So stay tuned for that series cuz it's
[01:41:14] So stay tuned for that series cuz it's it's called
[01:41:16] it's called reflections and reckonings
[01:41:19] reflections and reckonings cuz it was it was both.
[01:41:22] cuz it was it was both. It was both.
[01:41:24] It was both. It was something else.
[01:41:27] It was something else. So that is the first part. So this is
[01:41:30] So that is the first part. So this is going to turn into a series. This is
[01:41:32] going to turn into a series. This is part one of the series and we just going
[01:41:35] part one of the series and we just going to walk through getting to know me. I
[01:41:37] to walk through getting to know me. I didn't know that that was going to
[01:41:39] didn't know that that was going to happen, but this is how it's shaping
[01:41:41] happen, but this is how it's shaping out, right? You just go with the flow
[01:41:43] out, right? You just go with the flow and what what is put on your heart at
[01:41:46] and what what is put on your heart at the time. As long as you know it's your
[01:41:48] the time. As long as you know it's your spirit talking to you and not someone
[01:41:50] spirit talking to you and not someone else,
[01:41:53] else, trust it.
[01:41:55] trust it. When when when you stop trusting
[01:41:57] When when when you stop trusting yourself, the enemy is one.
[01:42:01] yourself, the enemy is one. The enemy is one and we ain't giving up.
[01:42:02] The enemy is one and we ain't giving up. Not on my watch. You're not giving up.
[01:42:05] Not on my watch. You're not giving up. I'm not allowing you to give up on
[01:42:06] I'm not allowing you to give up on yourself in that way. Okay,
[01:42:10] yourself in that way. Okay, so that's how we're doing that. Thank
[01:42:12] so that's how we're doing that. Thank this is part one. Thank you for those
[01:42:15] this is part one. Thank you for those that showed up. Thank you for your
[01:42:16] that showed up. Thank you for your questions. tell everybody I'll be back
[01:42:19] questions. tell everybody I'll be back tomorrow with part two um to answer
[01:42:23] tomorrow with part two um to answer those questions. Part two is taking me
[01:42:27] those questions. Part two is taking me from 12 to 19
[01:42:30] from 12 to 19 and uh yeah these are deeper questions s
[01:42:34] and uh yeah these are deeper questions s uh my personal story questions. Oh lord,
[01:42:36] uh my personal story questions. Oh lord, I got more. In the meantime, and in
[01:42:39] I got more. In the meantime, and in between time, what I would like from
[01:42:41] between time, what I would like from you, if you if you enjoyed this part one
[01:42:46] you, if you if you enjoyed this part one series, I would love for you to click
[01:42:50] series, I would love for you to click subscribe,
[01:42:52] subscribe, like the video, share the video, right?
[01:42:57] like the video, share the video, right? Because we got to get the word out. We
[01:43:00] Because we got to get the word out. We got we got folks to help serve.
[01:43:03] got we got folks to help serve. Miss Denise,
[01:43:05] Miss Denise, Miss I got time for everything except
[01:43:07] Miss I got time for everything except myself. Maybe it's you. You know who
[01:43:10] myself. Maybe it's you. You know who need this. Chanley, I love you, sweetie.
[01:43:13] need this. Chanley, I love you, sweetie. I I'm I appreciate that this was helpful
[01:43:15] I I'm I appreciate that this was helpful for you. Thank you for sharing that. Do
[01:43:17] for you. Thank you for sharing that. Do me a favor if you all are still here.
[01:43:20] me a favor if you all are still here. What were some of your key takeaways
[01:43:22] What were some of your key takeaways that um that I said that that that help
[01:43:25] that um that I said that that that help you so we can help somebody else, right?
[01:43:27] you so we can help somebody else, right? so that they'll know um to come back and
[01:43:30] so that they'll know um to come back and listen to this as well because what was
[01:43:34] listen to this as well because what was going on over there. Help me share that.
[01:43:36] going on over there. Help me share that. I appreciate you all showing up. And if
[01:43:38] I appreciate you all showing up. And if you're listening to it on the replay,
[01:43:40] you're listening to it on the replay, this still stands. I need you to call
[01:43:42] this still stands. I need you to call her in. Call her over, you know, share
[01:43:46] her in. Call her over, you know, share with her. Drop it in her DMs in in the
[01:43:49] with her. Drop it in her DMs in in the group chat.
[01:43:51] group chat. Miss, I got time for everything except
[01:43:53] Miss, I got time for everything except for myself. Um let's let's let's get
[01:43:55] for myself. Um let's let's let's get that word out and share that with her.
[01:43:58] that word out and share that with her. Absolutely. This is part one.
[01:44:01] Absolutely. This is part one. Let me tell you how many parts it may
[01:44:03] Let me tell you how many parts it may be. I might be able to give you that.
[01:44:07] be. I might be able to give you that. And um so part one, part two, part
[01:44:14] And um so part one, part two, part three.
[01:44:20] Uh
[01:44:23] Uh uh this might be three parts. We may be
[01:44:25] uh this might be three parts. We may be able to get this knocked out in three
[01:44:27] able to get this knocked out in three parts. So this is a three-part series.
[01:44:30] parts. So this is a three-part series. Okay. So for the next three days, this
[01:44:33] Okay. So for the next three days, this is what the conversation is going to be.
[01:44:36] is what the conversation is going to be. Um absolutely,
[01:44:40] Um absolutely, absolutely. I'm so grateful that you
[01:44:43] absolutely. I'm so grateful that you were here with me. Uh I I feel honored
[01:44:46] were here with me. Uh I I feel honored um that um you shared your time with me
[01:44:50] um that um you shared your time with me because I know how valuable it is.
[01:44:52] because I know how valuable it is. Absolutely.
[01:44:55] Absolutely. Um until next time, until tomorrow is
[01:44:58] Um until next time, until tomorrow is I'll be back, Lord willing. Um I want
[01:45:02] I'll be back, Lord willing. Um I want you to take good care of you.
[01:45:07] Take good care of you.
[01:45:12] Take good care of you. What does that
[01:45:14] Take good care of you. What does that look like for you? What is taking care
[01:45:16] look like for you? What is taking care of you? I will share this nugget with
[01:45:18] of you? I will share this nugget with you before I go uh Saturday and Sunday.
[01:45:21] you before I go uh Saturday and Sunday. And I I think I might have shared it
[01:45:23] And I I think I might have shared it earlier. So, if I'm repeating myself,
[01:45:24] earlier. So, if I'm repeating myself, then that means it's important. My
[01:45:26] then that means it's important. My pastor in Vegas, Pastor Andre, shout
[01:45:28] pastor in Vegas, Pastor Andre, shout out. He used to say,
[01:45:31] out. He used to say, "Write this down. It'll change your
[01:45:33] "Write this down. It'll change your life."
[01:45:36] And I decided I woke up Sunday morning
[01:45:41] And I decided I woke up Sunday morning um and I shared a little bit of this
[01:45:42] um and I shared a little bit of this story. I decided one I was going to get
[01:45:45] story. I decided one I was going to get all of the weight and clean up my
[01:45:46] all of the weight and clean up my bedroom and get the weight off because
[01:45:49] bedroom and get the weight off because sometimes that's what's going on. You
[01:45:50] sometimes that's what's going on. You got so you you're living in clutter. You
[01:45:52] got so you you're living in clutter. You can't think. And I decided I was going
[01:45:57] can't think. And I decided I was going to take a bath.
[01:46:00] to take a bath. Saturdays are my Sabbath. It's my day of
[01:46:03] Saturdays are my Sabbath. It's my day of doing nothing like resting my mind,
[01:46:05] doing nothing like resting my mind, resting my heart, and doing all the
[01:46:07] resting my heart, and doing all the things that I desire. So it is it is my
[01:46:09] things that I desire. So it is it is my day of self-love is what I call it.
[01:46:16] And in my framework self love care is
[01:46:20] And in my framework self love care is the S in T. I think I probably
[01:46:23] the S in T. I think I probably didn't touch on T. I'll have to come
[01:46:25] didn't touch on T. I'll have to come back and finish that. T is time freedom,
[01:46:28] back and finish that. T is time freedom, right? Your time um in number of ways in
[01:46:31] right? Your time um in number of ways in that just just if you're listening and
[01:46:33] that just just if you're listening and and you caught that I missed it. It's
[01:46:36] and you caught that I missed it. It's time freedom and you get to decide how
[01:46:38] time freedom and you get to decide how you spend your time, what you do with
[01:46:40] you spend your time, what you do with your time. It could be it could be your
[01:46:42] your time. It could be it could be your energy. It time
[01:46:47] is the real currency, right? You can't
[01:46:50] is the real currency, right? You can't get time back. Time is a nonrenewable
[01:46:54] get time back. Time is a nonrenewable currency. It is the mo is so valuable.
[01:46:58] currency. It is the mo is so valuable. So why waste your time on the things
[01:47:00] So why waste your time on the things that you don't want to do?
[01:47:04] you've done. You know what that looks
[01:47:05] you've done. You know what that looks like. You know what that produced?
[01:47:07] like. You know what that produced? That's maintaining the status quo.
[01:47:10] That's maintaining the status quo. That's why we're disruptive over here,
[01:47:13] That's why we're disruptive over here, right? Cuz we getting ready to break the
[01:47:15] right? Cuz we getting ready to break the mold, get out the rat race, all of the
[01:47:17] mold, get out the rat race, all of the things,
[01:47:18] things, okay? And
[01:47:22] okay? And I decided Sundays would be my self-care
[01:47:25] I decided Sundays would be my self-care day.
[01:47:27] day. That is the day that I do all the things
[01:47:30] That is the day that I do all the things that I need to show up fully the rest of
[01:47:33] that I need to show up fully the rest of the week. Take my bath, do my laundry,
[01:47:38] the week. Take my bath, do my laundry, um, Manny Petty, maybe prepare my meals.
[01:47:42] um, Manny Petty, maybe prepare my meals. It's it's everything that I need to do
[01:47:44] It's it's everything that I need to do for me that I've been doing for everyone
[01:47:47] for me that I've been doing for everyone else or helping them do my self-care.
[01:47:51] else or helping them do my self-care. care. Take care of me because I'm
[01:47:55] care. Take care of me because I'm responsible for my care and my
[01:47:57] responsible for my care and my well-being spiritually, mentally,
[01:47:59] well-being spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically,
[01:48:01] emotionally, physically, right? Financially. So, it could be um
[01:48:05] right? Financially. So, it could be um managing managing your finances,
[01:48:07] managing managing your finances, whatever.
[01:48:09] whatever. I deserve more than one day. I'm taking
[01:48:13] I deserve more than one day. I'm taking two. Wow.
[01:48:15] two. Wow. Because I get to decide and so do you.
[01:48:18] Because I get to decide and so do you. Okay? So that's what I mean by when I
[01:48:21] Okay? So that's what I mean by when I say take good care of you. I mean
[01:48:24] say take good care of you. I mean give yourself self-love care. So if you
[01:48:27] give yourself self-love care. So if you ha if you need permission and you
[01:48:29] ha if you need permission and you haven't started yet, start today. Start
[01:48:32] haven't started yet, start today. Start right now. Get out a pencil and paper
[01:48:34] right now. Get out a pencil and paper and just write write how you want to
[01:48:38] and just write write how you want to feel, how you want things to feel
[01:48:40] feel, how you want things to feel because that is what folks are really
[01:48:43] because that is what folks are really going for. It's not it's not the
[01:48:45] going for. It's not it's not the physical and the tangible. It's in the
[01:48:47] physical and the tangible. It's in the unseen.
[01:48:49] unseen. It's the unseen
[01:48:51] It's the unseen and only you know that. Nobody can tell
[01:48:53] and only you know that. Nobody can tell you. All right, that's my time. I
[01:48:56] you. All right, that's my time. I absolutely love you and there's not one
[01:49:01] absolutely love you and there's not one dog on thing you can do about it. And I
[01:49:03] dog on thing you can do about it. And I am grateful that God placed on my heart
[01:49:05] am grateful that God placed on my heart to love. I tell I tell people I love
[01:49:08] to love. I tell I tell people I love them because I do. I know I do. That's
[01:49:11] them because I do. I know I do. That's what makes me show up out of love. I
[01:49:13] what makes me show up out of love. I show up out of love. Even in that
[01:49:15] show up out of love. Even in that marriage, I showed up out of love so I
[01:49:17] marriage, I showed up out of love so I could walk away with no regrets.
[01:49:20] could walk away with no regrets. I love on people. That's that God gave
[01:49:22] I love on people. That's that God gave me a heart for that.
[01:49:24] me a heart for that. I love you real good, real strong, real
[01:49:27] I love you real good, real strong, real hard. All of those things because
[01:49:29] hard. All of those things because sometimes we need the soft and we need
[01:49:31] sometimes we need the soft and we need the hard. I got a cousin. Okay, I'm
[01:49:34] the hard. I got a cousin. Okay, I'm I'mma go because I got stories that
[01:49:35] I'mma go because I got stories that come. It's oozing out now that I didn't
[01:49:37] come. It's oozing out now that I didn't showed up, right? Uh, she would call
[01:49:41] showed up, right? Uh, she would call sometimes and I figure if you calling
[01:49:42] sometimes and I figure if you calling me, you want the truth. You came to get
[01:49:46] me, you want the truth. You came to get the truth. So, I'mma tell you the truth.
[01:49:48] the truth. So, I'mma tell you the truth. Sometimes it's soft, sometimes it ain't.
[01:49:50] Sometimes it's soft, sometimes it ain't. And she was like, you be kind of hard
[01:49:52] And she was like, you be kind of hard sometimes.
[01:49:54] sometimes. Oh. I said, "Okay." I said, "Well, when
[01:49:56] Oh. I said, "Okay." I said, "Well, when you call, will you tell me if you need
[01:49:58] you call, will you tell me if you need me to be hard or if you need me to be
[01:50:00] me to be hard or if you need me to be soft?"
[01:50:02] soft?" Because I'm not really hard, but it it
[01:50:04] Because I'm not really hard, but it it probably feels hard to her, right?
[01:50:06] probably feels hard to her, right? Because it's hard truth.
[01:50:09] Because it's hard truth. hard to hear,
[01:50:11] hard to hear, right? So, if I need to be nurturing,
[01:50:15] right? So, if I need to be nurturing, motherly, warm energy, cheerleader,
[01:50:18] motherly, warm energy, cheerleader, Selena, I show up I show up as a
[01:50:20] Selena, I show up I show up as a cheerleader, too. That's the other word
[01:50:22] cheerleader, too. That's the other word that sometimes I hear. I got you. I got
[01:50:25] that sometimes I hear. I got you. I got you, boo. I got you. So, that's my time
[01:50:28] you, boo. I got you. So, that's my time that I'm Selena, your transformational
[01:50:31] that I'm Selena, your transformational teacher. I look forward to sharing uh
[01:50:34] teacher. I look forward to sharing uh more teachings with you tomorrow.
[01:50:38] more teachings with you tomorrow. like, share, subscribe, and if you if
[01:50:41] like, share, subscribe, and if you if you if you really want to know more and
[01:50:44] you if you really want to know more and and go a little bit deeper and you've
[01:50:45] and go a little bit deeper and you've got questions,
[01:50:47] got questions, schedule a power and presence preview
[01:50:50] schedule a power and presence preview call with me. Um, what I what I need
[01:50:54] call with me. Um, what I what I need from you in that if if you are so
[01:50:57] from you in that if if you are so inclined, it is it it it helps. I coach
[01:51:01] inclined, it is it it it helps. I coach you for 15 minutes and um if you need
[01:51:05] you for 15 minutes and um if you need it, we come help you get some a little
[01:51:07] it, we come help you get some a little bit of clarity and it h it can happen in
[01:51:09] bit of clarity and it h it can happen in 15 minutes. And if you're my ideal
[01:51:11] 15 minutes. And if you're my ideal client, if you are absolutely miss I got
[01:51:14] client, if you are absolutely miss I got time for every everything except myself.
[01:51:18] time for every everything except myself. Um it gives me client data research.
[01:51:22] Um it gives me client data research. Now when when when you join me, we're
[01:51:24] Now when when when you join me, we're also going to ask you to sign uh an
[01:51:26] also going to ask you to sign uh an agreement, right? so that we everybody's
[01:51:30] agreement, right? so that we everybody's on the same page and clear. These
[01:51:32] on the same page and clear. These conversations do get recorded
[01:51:34] conversations do get recorded um and um we can have a conversation
[01:51:38] um and um we can have a conversation about how it's used. My agreement tells
[01:51:42] about how it's used. My agreement tells you how we intend to use it and then if
[01:51:45] you how we intend to use it and then if there's any concern what's with what's
[01:51:48] there's any concern what's with what's in the agreement then we can talk about
[01:51:50] in the agreement then we can talk about it. Absolutely. So um yeah, but book
[01:51:54] it. Absolutely. So um yeah, but book that it's a free call. I need to have
[01:51:57] that it's a free call. I need to have more conversations so that I can help
[01:51:59] more conversations so that I can help Miss Denise and Miss I got time for
[01:52:01] Miss Denise and Miss I got time for everything uh except myself, right? So,
[01:52:05] everything uh except myself, right? So, please share and I look forward to
[01:52:09] please share and I look forward to seeing you in my circle tomorrow. This
[01:52:12] seeing you in my circle tomorrow. This is the get your together circle
[01:52:16] is the get your together circle live and in full bloom. So, till
[01:52:19] live and in full bloom. So, till tomorrow and every day after that, take
[01:52:22] tomorrow and every day after that, take good care of you.
[01:52:39] Got to find a button, y'all. Okay.