# Managing Time Through Every Season Of Life - The Rifah Al Hidayah Accountability Circle

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[00:15] Every change begins with a sincere intention.
[00:17] Every lasting change begins with consistency and consistency becomes easier when we have sisters walking beside us.
[00:25] Welcome to the Alhaya accountability circle.
[00:31] Alhamdulillah, all praise belongs to Allah subhana wa ta'ala who brought us together today.
[00:35] Before we begin, I want each of us to reflect on something.
[00:42] Every one of us has intentions.
[00:44] Intentions to pray better, to be more consistent with the Quran, to manage our time better, to become a Muslim we aspire to be.
[00:51] Right?
[00:55] Yet many times those intentions remain intentions because consistency is difficult when we walk alone.
[00:59] And that is exactly why the Alhaya accountability circle was started.
[01:05] This was my intention.
[01:08] It is a space for sisters to encourage one another, support us together and growing for the sake of Allah subhana wa ta'ala.
[01:15] Not through pressure, not through
[01:17] perfection, but through small, sincere, consistent steps.
[01:19] Our goal is simple.
[01:23] to help every sister move closer to Allah subhana wa t'ala according to her current season of life.
[01:29] Today marks the beginning of that journey and what would have been better to begin uh by learning how to manage one of the greatest blessing of Allah subhanana wa ta'ala which is our time.
[01:42] It is my pleasure to introduce our speaker Usada Saya um Batul who will be speaking on managing time through every season of life.
[01:51] May Allah place bark in her words and allow us to benefit from them.
[01:59] Over to you.
[02:12] message.
[02:31] Alhamdulillah.
[02:32] How's everyone doing out there?
[02:36] How was your day today?
[02:40] Good.
[02:46] So let us start with how I start my sessions.
[02:51] What are you celebrating today?
[02:54] What are you grateful for?
[02:59] What is that which makes you really grateful once again once more and you want to thank Allah subhana tala more for that good health alhamdulillah indeed health is a blessing it's a huge blessing after iman and there is something which is so important which is health and good time what whatever time we have in this world being alive and having the iman alahab indeed
[03:28] Okay.
[03:28] What else?
[03:31] New day, house, food, children, family.
[03:35] Okay.
[03:35] Alhamdulillah.
[03:37] May Allah preserve our families and us on the path of righteousness.
[03:42] Alhamdulillah to start this circle.
[03:43] Indeed it's it's something so beautiful that many people need so many things in this life and then you are that person who I'm just speaking in general like Allah facilitates you to take an initiative Allah enables you to start something out of so many people out there in this world Allah chose you for something to help people out isn't that so amazing and beautiful that we enable with Allah's help we start something and we can just you know if even we are not there tomorrow there's something which is written and people are benefiting from it that's so beautiful that this makes us more grateful that Allah has chosen me among so many servants of his
[04:33] right so subhan Allah that's beautiful.
[04:35] may Allah put lots of baraka in this beautiful initiative and may Allah make all the sisters help all sisters benefit from this beautiful accountability circle and may Allah help us understand holding ourselves accountable before we are going to be accounted on the day of prayer.
[04:53] So on that note, we'll be starting today's session inshallah.
[04:56] It's not going to be a very um elaborative session on how we're going to manage your time and all of these things.
[05:05] Subhan Allah.
[05:05] So I don't want to think I don't want all of you to think about planners or productivity applications or calendarers, journals or to-do lists when we are speaking of time because I don't believe that is where the real problem begins.
[05:25] Right?
[05:25] Instead I want to start this session with a question and it's not that I want your answers in the
[05:34] chat box.
[05:36] If you're okay, fine, no problem.
[05:39] But I would really want you to think about it and be honest about it.
[05:41] Like perhaps, you know, like how many of us have ever gone to bed feeling guilty and we felt somewhere in our hearts that I didn't do enough.
[05:55] Have we slept with such a thought where we were wondering like you know I couldn't do my best and there's something which was missing right like it's it's like I should have revised my Quran maybe if you're memorizing the Quran and uh it's like you have missed in class maybe it can be the class of your formal studies or the Islamic studies and you would be like I don't know I didn't cook the meat properly maybe I should have put some more efforts in it and maybe today I missed calling my parents I felt that I
[06:35] This is something I miss doing today and maybe I should have prayed on time and I couldn't do that on time and you felt like you know I should have exercised eat more healthier made some healthier choices in life but I couldn't do.
[06:49] And before you realize it your heart starts to become full and heavy with guilt and instead of ending the day with shuk we end it how we end it feeling like failures right.
[07:06] So today my goal is not to give you another list of things to do.
[07:14] My goal probably is to just think about and removing that burden from our heart right.
[07:20] Because genuinely I believe many Muslim Women today are not struggling because they cannot manage their time.
[07:29] They are struggling because they are trying to fulfill expectations that Allah never placed upon them in this.
[07:37] season of their lives.
[07:40] Because when because I'm a life coach, I get to talk to people of all different ages.
[07:45] And what I feel when I hear their stories or when they discuss things, what I strongly feel is people thinking about stuff and bothering themselves with things which actually they won't be questioned for and we are just very much worried about it and we are so occupied with it and that is where the problem comes from.
[08:12] Yeah.
[08:12] Let me just give you an example like imagine two sisters.
[08:18] There's a sister who is like in her 20ies and she's in marriage.
[08:20] She lives with her parents and she doesn't have that like so many responsibilities to take care of.
[08:26] So she attends this Islamic every week.
[08:30] She is memorizing the Quran.
[08:32] She gets to do her maj after fud and she spends hours reading different books.
[08:38] Uhhuh.
[08:41] And the second sister who is in her late 30s and she has four kids and her one child is sick another is preparing for a competitive exam and her elderly mother also needs her support and by the time she sits down at night she's exhausted.
[08:56] Now let me ask you this question.
[08:59] Would Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ask exactly the same thing from both sisters?
[09:06] What would be your answer?
[09:10] Would Allah question them in the same way?
[09:13] Will they be held accountable in the same way?
[09:17] No.
[09:20] The answer is no.
[09:20] Because Allah is the most just, right?
[09:23] Allah knows exactly what Allah has entrusted to each of us.
[09:26] Yet many of us today compare ourselves with people whose responsibilities are completely different from ours.
[09:31] And that comparison
[09:39] slowly steals away our peace of mind.
[09:44] when we look at people around us and
[09:47] when we looking because this is the virtual world you keep looking at the statuses you keep following the channels and you keep uh you know following social media accounts and personalities the duat and all of those things and uh you'll be wondering like oh she's able to do so much and what about me I'm just struggling I'm not able to do any of this and all of these things.
[10:09] This is something for real and that is like something which we really need to understand.
[10:15] Whom am I comparing myself to?
[10:18] And that is why that brings us to the most important discussion which is understanding seasons of life.
[10:26] Like one of the greatest lessons Allah teaches us is that every thing in Allah's creation has seasons.
[10:32] Just look at nature.
[10:36] Just observe the nature.
[10:38] There is a season where the seeds are planted and there is
[10:41] a season where nothing seems to grow.
[10:45] And there comes a season when you see blooms everywhere.
[10:48] Right?
[10:51] And there is a season when actually the crops the fruits they harvested.
[10:57] So every season has its own purpose and no farmer actually becomes upset because there are no fruits during the planting season.
[11:05] because it was never meant to have foods.
[11:07] It was a planting season because that farmer understands the process involved in this plantation, right?
[11:15] Subhan Allah.
[11:18] But when it comes to our lives, we forget this basic principle.
[11:21] We expect ourselves to produce fruit in every single season of our life.
[11:24] And we want to study like students while we are raising toddlers.
[11:34] And we want to serve the um like someone with no family responsibilities.
[11:39] And we want to maintain the routine we had before marriage even after becoming
[11:44] mothers.
[11:48] And then when we cannot do all of this, we assume something is seriously wrong with me.
[11:53] We start blaming our family.
[11:56] The family work seems to be like a burden.
[11:59] Those kids seem like a distraction.
[12:01] And all of this seems very less rewarding.
[12:04] And all of these thoughts keep running in your mind.
[12:06] You'll be like I'm not I have counled so many girls who got married and they have come up with this concern where they say I am not the same person as before.
[12:16] I was like when I was not married I was doing so much and I'm not able to do all of that.
[12:25] The simple thing is that like we cannot be doing all of that exactly the same way what we could do before marriage.
[12:32] But the thing is what we need to understand there's nothing wrong with us.
[12:36] There is only one change that is season of change in your life and that changes your responsibilities.
[12:46] All together.
[12:48] Like think about this for a moment.
[12:48] Hm.
[12:51] Just think about your own self at this point of time.
[12:54] What season has Allah placed me in today?
[12:57] Am I a student?
[12:57] Am I a newly wed?
[13:01] Am I raising young kids?
[13:05] Am I taking care for my parents?
[13:08] Or am I rebuilding myself after a hardship?
[13:12] Uh or am I going through illness?
[13:15] What is it?
[13:15] Think about your own season.
[13:19] What is your current season of life?
[13:22] I wouldn't I wouldn't I'm not saying like answer in the chat box.
[13:24] You can just write it somewhere in your notepad because I would highly encourage you to sit with a notepad so that you can you know reflect on a few things after the session is done as well.
[13:38] Think about it.
[13:38] What's your season of life?
[13:42] And whatever the season of life you are in, that is exactly how Allah intended
[13:48] it to be.
[13:50] And one of the biggest mistakes we make is trying to live all the seasons at the same time.
[13:56] We want the schedule of a student and the productivity of an entrepreneur and we want to have a home of a perfect homemaker and we want to at the same time have the knowledge of a scholar.
[14:11] Uh and we want that energy so much of energy uh of someone who sleep like who sleeping 8 hours every night and we want a social life of someone with no responsibilities.
[14:27] Is that even possible?
[14:30] No, it's not going to be possible.
[14:33] Right?
[14:33] Allah never created us to carry every responsibility simultaneously.
[14:39] Allah gives us different amanas in different seasons.
[14:44] So this is something that we need to understand.
[14:47] So one of the biggest questions most women ask is
[14:50] Should I focus on seeking knowledge or should I uh focus on my motherhood?
[14:57] Should I focus on my marriage and what is this and that?
[15:02] It can be so many different questions.
[15:04] But the real question is what does Allah want from me in this season?
[15:09] Because Allah subhana wa ta'ala is not asking you to make this choice or that choice.
[15:13] Islam is all about teaching us recognizing our priorities because before marriage your season may allow you to devote long hours to learning, memorizing, studying, attending classes, running here and there.
[15:32] And this is a gift from Allah.
[15:34] Many of us are blessed because we don't have so many house responsibilities.
[15:35] It's just that we are taking care of our studies and we can be just enrolled in so many courses of dunya and dean and we can be doing some community service and doing some da work whatever we feel like doing and we make most of it right.
[15:50] But after marriage we
[15:54] have to understand our responsibilities.
[15:56] they expand.
[15:56] We are now building a home alongside our spouse and learning does not stop but definitely the pace of learning has to change.
[16:10] H and then when Allah blesses us with children our home is the first classroom for those kids.
[16:17] Your children become your first students.
[16:19] Now every act of patience, every story of a prophet you share, every dua that you teach, every prayer that you have been forming in front of them that becomes like a lesson they carry for life because you're not just teaching things but you're even just you know giving them habits to learn.
[16:38] They adapt all of these things from you and motherhood is not like taking you away from ill.
[16:45] It is not actually in many ways it is exactly where you can impart all the goodness that you have taken.
[16:55] from so many sources you can impart it in your kids.
[17:00] now that is the place that is your real classroom.
[17:02] but many of us feel just because I'm not sitting or enrolled in so many courses I'm not being productive.
[17:09] I'm not doing anything at all right and now.
[17:15] like and You have to think about something which is very very important.
[17:19] What does success look like in my season?
[17:22] H because we need to understand one thing like there is no such perfect routine.
[17:31] Like I love the fact about this very accountability circle that it is not saying that one thing fits for all.
[17:39] That's not going to be possible.
[17:42] That is not how it works.
[17:45] But usually people think that one thing works for all because one of the greatest traps of our generation is believing that every practicing Muslim woman should have same routine.
[17:56] We scroll through social media.
[17:59] We share like we come across these beautiful um posts and res um all of these things where the sisters are sharing this beautifully organized planners their long study schedules pages of the Quran memorized beautiful desks with like a nice things uh like on the it's so aesthetic huh with uh all those you know um what do you say tick marks and to-do list which are completed and perfectly tidy hoop homes and they are having those healthy meals and they have their exercise routines.
[18:33] They have kids activities planned.
[18:35] They have community projects which are running and slowly without realizing we start measuring our worth against someone else's highlight re.
[18:46] but Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala never asked us to imitate another person's routine.
[18:50] Right?
[18:55] Allah asks us to fulfill our own ama.
[18:57] For one woman, success today may be completing a book of ts.
[19:00] For another, success may be simply praying salah on time while taking care of your toddler.
[19:10] Right? That is how it is.
[19:10] For another person, the success might be just showing patience with the elderly parent who needs constant care and attention.
[19:22] All of these can be acts of ibada when what is done when our intention is right when the intention is to please Allah and when the intention is like it is the act is done for the sake of Allah alone.
[19:38] So instead of thinking and asking yourself and bashing yourself left right and center like what is everyone else doing you need to really start asking yourself this important question.
[19:49] What is the best way I can worship Allah subhana wa ta'ala in this current season of my life where Allah has placed me in?
[19:57] H and that question it lifts so much of
[20:01] burden from our shoulders and heart.
[20:04] It actually brings peace and this question removes guilt.
[20:09] And this very question it becomes like a foundation of everything else we'll be discussing today.
[20:14] how we must be setting priorities, how we must be managing ourselves in the given time and how we can see gubaraka in every hour Allah has given us.
[20:29] Right?
[20:32] So this is something very very important.
[20:36] Uh yep.
[20:40] So now there is something that we like we already have understood and we have discussed that every woman is living a different season.
[20:48] So the next question naturally becomes something which we all want to know how do I know what to prioritize because sisters life will never become less busy.
[20:58] you know we have been scammed since childhood at times
[21:04] especially in our um south Asian
[21:07] countries like I'm from India so I can
[21:09] take the liberty to talk about India
[21:11] where we are told that once you finish
[21:14] your 10th standard you are good to go
[21:16] and you know you won't have much to do
[21:18] and we are like oh yeah I just want to
[21:20] finish my 10th grade and you realize
[21:22] that you finish your 10th grade and
[21:24] things got more messier and then you are
[21:27] in your plus two and you're like okay
[21:29] maybe life will be good and your mother
[21:30] will be like after this and when you get
[21:32] into your graduation things will be good
[21:34] and things will be more messier and
[21:36] you'll be like once you get married
[21:37] things will be good and once you get
[21:39] married after that you'll get time after
[21:41] kids you will get time after your kids
[21:42] grow up you'll get time trust me when I
[21:44] had my kids when they were little
[21:46] because I'm a mother I was told that
[21:49] after your kids grow up you'll get time
[21:51] but for me now my kids are teenagers and
[21:54] trust me that never happens every time
[21:57] there are different things different
[21:59] challenges is where we have to deal with
[22:01] it. Yeah. Life never becomes less busy.
[22:05] When you're young, we are busy studying.
[22:08] When we get married, we just are busy
[22:11] adjusting, adapting and you know,
[22:13] compromising and sacrificing and you
[22:16] know just getting into the flow. And
[22:19] then when children come, we are busy
[22:22] nurturing them. And when children grow,
[22:26] now that is the toughest part. Trust me,
[22:28] you are busy guiding them and when they
[22:31] leave leave our place like they are
[22:33] shifting and they're studying perhaps
[22:36] your parents become elderly like this is
[22:39] something which hit me really hard this
[22:41] year that I really prayed once that my
[22:43] kids grow up very fast so that I can do
[22:46] what I really want to do and I can
[22:48] pursue my passion and at that very
[22:52] moment it hit me that I was making dua
[22:55] for my kids to grow up but I couldn't
[22:57] couldn't realize that my parents were
[22:59] aging as well. It was like a running
[23:02] train and I couldn't step out of it. And
[23:04] that is the moment where you realize
[23:06] that I don't want both of them happen
[23:09] together like my kids are growing so
[23:11] fast and even my parents are aging and
[23:14] aging parents is something really every
[23:17] phone call every message is something
[23:18] you know which just makes your heart
[23:21] stop for a minute because you don't want
[23:24] to see them in any kind of discomfort
[23:26] and pain. So this is something that
[23:30] really comes in life when your parents
[23:32] become elderly. And life doesn't
[23:35] suddenly become empty. It changes. Which
[23:38] means when will I finally have time?
[23:42] Huh? So it's not like when will you have
[23:46] the time finally? It's never going to be
[23:49] the right question to ask yourself. What
[23:52] deserves my time first? This is
[23:55] something this is something very very
[23:58] important and this is something we must
[24:01] understand. Right? So because in Islam
[24:05] it's very clear it is about priorities
[24:07] before productivity.
[24:09] But unfortunately in today's day and
[24:11] time we do the opposite way around. We
[24:14] prefer like we want to be productive and
[24:18] compromise our priorities. H we start
[24:21] our day thinking what do I feel like
[24:23] doing today? What will make me feel more
[24:26] productive? What can I takeick off my
[24:28] to-do list first? But according to the
[24:32] it is like you have to ask what is Allah
[24:36] and how can I move closer to Allah by
[24:39] doing something today and that one
[24:42] question changes everything because as
[24:44] you can see on the screen there are
[24:45] three circles of responsibility and I
[24:48] want you to imagine your life as three
[24:49] circles. The first circle is your
[24:51] obligation. These are the things Allah
[24:54] has made for your responsibility.
[24:59] Your five daily prayers, your
[25:01] relationship with Allah, rights of your
[25:03] parents, rights of your husband, rights
[25:05] of your kids, and your halal work if you
[25:08] have any. These are not optional. My
[25:10] dear sisters, you have to fulfill all of
[25:12] these responsibilities. These are the
[25:14] responsibilities Allah himself has
[25:16] entrusted to you. And then the second
[25:18] circle comes where it is about your
[25:20] personal growth. And personal growth is
[25:23] you seeking knowledge and you reciting
[25:25] more of the Quran. You're trying to
[25:27] understand the Quran. H you're trying to
[25:29] memorize the Quran. You are taking care
[25:31] of your health. You're learning new
[25:33] skills and you are learning to regulate
[25:36] your emotions. You are learning to of
[25:39] different ways to grow closer to Allah
[25:42] subhana wa ta'ala by learning different
[25:43] sciences maybe. And you're working on
[25:46] some community projects. you're taking
[25:48] extra classes, you do voluntary work,
[25:50] you do public da'Area, additional
[25:52] commitments or whatever. H
[25:55] now when we many of us what do we do is
[26:01] like we are reversing the ser we reverse
[26:04] the circles. We become so busy serving
[26:07] everyone else that we neglect the people
[26:10] Allah made our responsibility first. We
[26:13] become so involved in the community work
[26:16] that our own children are longing for
[26:18] attention. And we spend hours online
[26:21] benefiting others while our parents are
[26:24] waiting for a simple call or a message
[26:27] from us.
[26:29] And we keep saying yes to everyone out
[26:31] there outside our home while saying
[26:34] later to the people within our doors.
[26:38] Because in Islam every person has rights
[26:42] and the wisdom is giving every right to
[26:46] its rightful place. You know who is an
[26:49] oppressor who removes a thing from its
[26:53] rightful place is taking the huck of
[26:56] something.
[26:57] Oppression is not just what did what did
[27:01] this even is oppression.
[27:04] You needed to be there. You had to be
[27:08] somewhere and that was the place for you
[27:10] to be but you weren't just because you
[27:13] made some wrong choices. Now you will be
[27:17] questioned about it.
[27:20] So
[27:22] we think many of many of the times what
[27:25] is the many the most common or the most
[27:27] frequently asked question how can I
[27:29] balance din and dun? How can you balance
[27:34] din and dunya? Duna is something we are
[27:38] living like for some time. It's a very
[27:41] temporary face. And Dean is the crux of
[27:45] everything. It's the anchor.
[27:48] Dean is how you spend your dun. How are
[27:53] you living in this duny is they are not
[27:56] even equal. Forget about balancing them.
[27:58] How can we balance something which is
[28:00] not even equal to each other? That's not
[28:03] possible.
[28:05] We have to live according to dean in
[28:08] this and our depends on how we lived in
[28:12] this. So dean is part of everything
[28:15] right and when it's the same question we
[28:18] think that I am a mother but I want to
[28:21] do more ibada how can I do h and how can
[28:25] I study more h I'll come to that okay so
[28:30] this is not the question like should I
[28:32] choose ilm or motherhood no the question
[28:36] is mother is not separate from worship
[28:39] at all motherhood is not separate from
[28:42] serving Allah
[28:43] If Allah has blessed you with children
[28:45] then nurturing them is something
[28:47] distracting
[28:48] y then you are taking care of them when
[28:50] you are doing their it's not distracting
[28:53] you from your purpose. It is part of
[28:55] your purpose.
[28:57] Huh? And if Allah has blessed you with a
[28:59] season where you can seek knowledge
[29:01] extensively, then don't waste that
[29:04] opportunity thinking you should be doing
[29:06] something else. Because every season is
[29:09] going to come with its responsibilities.
[29:11] And every responsibility has its own
[29:13] reward. And the mistake happens when we
[29:17] abandon today's responsibility while
[29:19] chasing tomorrow's dream.
[29:24] Just think about this. Imagine you're
[29:27] standing in front of Allah subhana wa
[29:29] ta'ala on the day of
[29:32] do you think Allah will ask every woman
[29:34] the same exact questions of course the
[29:35] ones we know that they are this five
[29:39] questions that if we won't answer them
[29:41] we can't move an inch the mother may be
[29:44] asked about her children she will be
[29:46] questioned about it
[29:48] the teacher will be questioned about her
[29:50] students
[29:52] and the daughter who is not married may
[29:55] be asked about her parents and the
[29:57] leader may be asked about those under
[30:00] their care. So Allah asks us about the
[30:03] ama Allah entrusted to us not someone
[30:07] else's ama
[30:09] and this should bring so much of peace
[30:11] to our hearts because we realize that
[30:14] success it's not actually doing
[30:17] everything success is fulfilling what
[30:20] Allah entrusted to me
[30:23] right
[30:27] okay so now let me just do something on
[30:30] the screen so that you understands.
[30:33] Okay.
[30:37] So
[30:41] these are three jars. Okay.
[30:49] I have this big stones.
[30:54] I have small pebbles.
[30:59] And I have lot of sand.
[31:02] Now
[31:04] I have filled this with sand.
[31:09] I have added some pebbles.
[31:14] And upon that I have placed one big
[31:17] rock.
[31:19] In this
[31:21] I have added a lot of pebbles.
[31:26] I have added the sand.
[31:29] till here
[31:31] and I have just kept one stone.
[31:35] Now into this I place big stones first.
[31:42] I added the pebbles
[31:47] and now I started to fill the sand. So
[31:50] the sand seeped in wherever there were
[31:52] places according to you. Are these jars
[31:56] full?
[31:58] A,
[32:00] B and C. Is everything called as full or
[32:04] empty?
[32:13] H
[32:17] C is full. Don't you think this is full?
[32:20] Because this is sand. It is filled with
[32:22] sand. There's no place
[32:30] all the all of them are full, right? Oh,
[32:32] Anna said. Okay. But which looks
[32:37] organized?
[32:40] Which is exactly properly filled and it
[32:43] looks proper.
[32:45] Third one. Why?
[32:48] What did I do? What did I do different
[32:50] in this?
[32:56] Adjust
[32:59] big ones are placed at bottom. Good. So
[33:03] these big ones are what?
[33:09] Allah.
[33:11] These big ones are Allah. All of us has
[33:14] got the same light jar. All of us have
[33:16] the same thing. But what we fill this
[33:19] jar with is something which changes the
[33:23] whole thing the whole picture.
[33:26] So if I put my hookah my first then I
[33:33] will go with the smaller things which
[33:39] are
[33:41] like I want to pursue my passion. I want
[33:44] to do something. I want to work on my
[33:47] growth and all of these things. And then
[33:49] if I have little time left then I will
[33:52] be putting that sand which is just
[33:55] recreational but not very important. But
[33:58] what are we doing nowadays with our
[34:00] life? This is how our jar is. We fill it
[34:04] with sand which are really not those
[34:08] things which we need to do. Then we have
[34:10] the pebbles because we think the naw the
[34:13] extra nafi nuff means extra you know
[34:18] anything which is extra apart from
[34:20] nothing in our iada we want to have
[34:22] naful everywhere nuffle of clothes n of
[34:25] friends and nuff of expenses and you
[34:28] know just spending time here and there
[34:31] and then we don't have space for the
[34:33] important stuff and then what what do we
[34:35] keep complaining about we keep
[34:37] complaining about I don't have enough
[34:38] time I don't know how to manage how do
[34:40] you manage and how does she manage and I
[34:42] don't know I'm not able to manage it is
[34:44] the same jar of life it is all about how
[34:47] you fill it will you be filling it with
[34:49] the boulders first the pebbles and then
[34:51] you put the sand or will you be just
[34:53] filling it with sand and then the
[34:54] pebbles and you don't have space for the
[34:56] boulders
[34:58] we have to prioritize our f if there is
[35:01] a patient in our home which is somebody
[35:03] elderly in our home who needs our
[35:05] attention and we are sitting in a Quran
[35:07] class and we are like no I can't get up
[35:08] from here because I'm listening to
[35:09] somebody else's Quran. What is this? And
[35:13] many of us do that. It is salah time and
[35:16] you see say that no I have to do my
[35:17] muraja with my partner and I need to
[35:19] recite to her. I can't go go and pray
[35:21] now. I'll pray it later. That is again a
[35:24] mistake.
[35:26] You prioritize something which is
[35:28] voluntary over your obligation.
[35:31] You won't be questioned
[35:33] about that but you will definitely be
[35:35] questioned about something which is
[35:37] obligatory on
[35:39] We need to understand that
[35:42] we need to like you know accept that
[35:47] because we are thinking this is less
[35:49] rewarding. It's not the case. When you
[35:52] are taking care even making food for
[35:54] your family you will be rewarded for it
[35:58] based upon your intention.
[36:00] So this is something which is very very
[36:03] important which is priorities and we
[36:06] need to get our priorities right first.
[36:09] It's not about being having access to
[36:11] the best of the best uh productivity
[36:14] apps but it is rather you prioritizing
[36:18] the most important things in your life.
[36:20] And then one of the biggest mistakes in
[36:22] the modern productivity model is that we
[36:25] make y we try to fit salah around our
[36:29] schedule.
[36:30] It it has to be the opposite way around.
[36:33] Our schedule should fits around salah
[36:37] not vice versa.
[36:40] Like think how many times we have said
[36:42] this to ourselves. I I'll pray after I
[36:45] finish this. I'll just complete this
[36:47] meeting first and then I'll pray later.
[36:50] And slowly what happens is salah becomes
[36:53] another task on the checklist. But salah
[36:56] is not intended to be another task.
[36:59] Allah wants us it to be the center of
[37:02] our day because that is we meeting Allah
[37:06] subhanahu wa ta'ala. Imagine your day as
[37:09] a wheel. What happens if the center
[37:11] disappears? Everything falls apart. When
[37:15] the center is strong, everything else
[37:17] begins to fall in place.
[37:20] So what what do I really do about it?
[37:23] When you're planning your tomorrow,
[37:26] don't begin it with your meetings. Don't
[37:28] begin it with your lesson plans. Be
[37:30] don't begin it with your household
[37:32] chores. Don't begin with the study
[37:35] extensive timetable that you have. Begin
[37:38] it with your fry prayers. Make them
[37:40] first.
[37:42] What can I realistically do between and
[37:46] that's the question what can be done
[37:49] between and
[37:52] what can wait until
[37:55] and then you will start to notice
[37:57] something really beautiful instead of
[38:00] rushing through your day you begin
[38:02] moving from one act of to another and
[38:06] time it doesn't feel like it's rushing
[38:09] there's some sense of calmness to it.
[38:12] It's more intentional. You feel the
[38:14] baraka of it because actually salah we
[38:18] think it's like something like a duty.
[38:21] We do it on autopilot and then we just
[38:23] return to our daily tasks. Actually in
[38:26] the midst of your tough day, breakdowns,
[38:29] heartbreaks and em emotional meltdowns
[38:33] and all of those things,
[38:34] responsibilities, salah is actually your
[38:37] reset
[38:39] where you make that woo with the
[38:42] intention that all your sins are being
[38:44] washed away. You feel it and then you
[38:49] hope that due to this voodoo and me
[38:51] reciting that dua I can get to enter
[38:54] Jenna in from any of those gates and
[38:57] then you recite the dua. Then you stand
[39:00] in prayers. Then you start your
[39:02] conversation with Allah praising Allah
[39:06] saying Allahb
[39:08] then you recite fat that is divided
[39:12] between you and Allah
[39:14] right and Allah will give you everything
[39:17] what you're asking for it in that
[39:19] particular conversation
[39:22] imagine all of this this is like the
[39:26] most important meeting ever and this
[39:28] really gives you that mental reset that
[39:31] you need. And Allah knows that we get
[39:34] overwhelmed. Allah knows it's so tiring
[39:38] and there are so many distractions
[39:39] around there and yet we make a choice to
[39:42] go stand there and spend those 10 15
[39:46] minutes and that is peace that that we
[39:49] need. There's so many researchers being
[39:51] done and they now come up with these
[39:53] things that actually salah is something
[39:55] you know which is really something which
[39:57] grounds you. So many people are going
[40:00] towards therapy and counseling. Why?
[40:03] Because they're so disturbed. This is
[40:06] our chance to just have that mental
[40:09] reset five times a day
[40:12] where it gives you clarity and where it
[40:15] gives keeps you grounded and where you
[40:18] think okay whatever it is now I'll go
[40:21] and sort things out. So that is why it
[40:24] is very important for you to fit in
[40:26] things around salah but not just doing
[40:29] your salah midst of all of these things
[40:31] that you have already on your schedule.
[40:34] So this is something very very
[40:36] important. And now
[40:40] like when we are organizing our
[40:42] priorities and our schedules there is
[40:45] one thing which no planner can ever give
[40:49] us and that ingredient is baraka
[40:53] because our generation in today's what
[40:57] you say Gen Z gen alpha and even
[40:59] millennials they try to have this
[41:02] obsession with productivity.
[41:05] We want to buy books. We want to do
[41:07] courses. We have certificates. We have
[41:09] hours and hours of trainings and
[41:10] checklist and achievement. But Allah
[41:14] never asked us to chase productivity.
[41:16] Allah asked us to seek Allah's pleasure.
[41:19] There is a huge difference. You may
[41:22] spend 10 hours working with no baraka
[41:26] but someone else spends two hours and
[41:29] Allah places so much goodness in those
[41:32] two hours that they accomplish more than
[41:35] you did in the 10 hours. And this is why
[41:38] two people they can have exactly the
[41:41] same 24 hours yet live completely
[41:44] different life. The difference actually
[41:47] isn't the time. The difference is
[41:49] baraka,
[41:51] right? Have you ever experienced a day
[41:55] where you hardly did anything yet you
[41:58] felt completely at peace?
[42:02] And have you ever experienced another
[42:04] day where you were busy from morning
[42:07] until night, yet you end up feeling like
[42:10] nothing meaningful happened?
[42:12] H have you
[42:19] What is the difference then
[42:24] the major difference is the baraka in
[42:27] our time and there are so many things
[42:30] which actually bring baraka to our time
[42:33] and the first things like we discussed
[42:34] it is the salah which you do on time you
[42:38] need to guard your prayers that is
[42:40] something which is needed right
[42:43] so firstly what do we need we need
[42:46] baraka and whom do we ask baraka from
[42:48] Allah alone before going to the
[42:51] techniques of managing ourselves we need
[42:55] to ask Allah to please baraka in our
[42:57] time because techniques help us organize
[43:01] things but only Allah can bless the act
[43:06] right this is something that we really
[43:08] really need to understand so so far what
[43:12] have we spoken about we have spoken
[43:14] about seasons we have spoken about
[43:15] priorities. We have spoken about salah
[43:18] and baraka. Now some like someone out
[43:22] there might be thinking I understand all
[43:25] of this but what does it really look
[43:27] like in real life? So just like let us
[43:32] just make it more practical. Okay,
[43:34] because we all need not just uh these
[43:38] kinds of information but we need
[43:40] actually practical solutions. And one of
[43:42] the biggest biggest mistakes women make
[43:45] is expecting themselves to live the same
[43:47] routine throughout their lives. H but we
[43:51] were not created to live one routine
[43:53] forever. We have to make those seasons,
[43:56] right? Imagine if your six-year-old
[43:58] child wore the same clothes until they
[44:00] became 30 years old. Is that possible?
[44:04] H
[44:07] is it possible? Does it sound
[44:09] ridiculous?
[44:12] Isn't it? It is ridiculous. We can't
[44:15] wear Why? Because growth requires
[44:18] change. Subhan Allah. And yet many of us
[44:22] are still trying to wear the routine we
[44:25] had 10 years ago, 5 years ago, two years
[44:28] ago. Some sisters are trying to maintain
[44:31] the schedule they had before marriage.
[44:33] Some are trying to study the way they
[44:34] studied before kids. Some compared
[44:36] themselves with women who have
[44:38] completely different responsibilities
[44:40] and then they ask why can't I keep up
[44:43] the answer is very simple because your
[44:45] season change my dear sister and when
[44:47] your season changes your you and your
[44:50] routine should change too not because
[44:52] you are a weaker person now but because
[44:55] Allah has entrusted you with something
[44:57] very very different right
[45:00] so this is something that we have to
[45:02] understand like Um for example like you
[45:07] know when we are even seeking knowledge
[45:09] I am sure you all of you are seekers of
[45:11] knowledge right before marriage what
[45:15] happens like ilm is like we are
[45:18] something learning daily something and
[45:20] we have time we can attend classes we
[45:22] can read different books and the
[45:24] memorization of the Quran is also
[45:26] different and we can even go to
[45:27] different places for seeking knowledge
[45:30] there's a particular dra going on
[45:32] somewhere we go there and we do all of
[45:33] this because your energy belongs mostly
[45:35] to yourself and then marriage happens.
[45:39] Life kind of just slows down and
[45:41] responsibilities increase and you have
[45:43] adjustments and kids and your day is
[45:47] interrupted every few minutes. Someone
[45:51] needs feeding, someone is crying,
[45:53] someone is asking for help, someone
[45:55] needs to needs for you to comfort them
[45:58] and you begin thinking I am losing my
[46:00] connection with knowledge. that are you
[46:03] really losing it or has knowledge simply
[46:07] changed its form? Because now instead of
[46:11] only reading,
[46:13] memorizing, understanding the ayat about
[46:16] s you need to practice s in real time.
[46:22] Instead of studying about dbia, studying
[46:26] about parenting from the life of
[46:28] sallallahu alaihi wasallam, you are
[46:31] giving that to someone.
[46:34] Instead of reading about mercy and how
[46:36] many times mercy has been mentioned in
[46:39] the Quran, you are like somebody who is
[46:44] going to show mercy
[46:47] and just not reading about emotional
[46:49] regulation. Allah is giving you
[46:51] opportunities to regulate your emotions
[46:54] every single day. So motherhood doesn't
[46:58] remove ill from your life. It just gives
[47:02] a new classroom.
[47:04] No, think about our beloved mother of
[47:08] the believers.
[47:11] They didn't only preserve knowledge
[47:14] through books. They preserved the dean
[47:16] by living it. They nurtured homes,
[47:19] right? They raised generations
[47:22] and they transmitted a hadith
[47:25] and they were living examples of
[47:28] whatever they learned. And sometimes we
[47:31] think and limit knowledge to notebooks.
[47:35] But actually
[47:37] expands
[47:39] Islam is about expanding your into
[47:41] character.
[47:43] So you need to see where do you stand?
[47:47] What does your ill look like in your
[47:50] season?
[47:52] Maybe today you are memorizing the
[47:54] Quran. Maybe today your ilm is teaching
[47:58] your childh.
[48:01] And that is one of the biggest
[48:02] privileges ever.
[48:04] Imagine you teaching your childh
[48:08] and your child will be reciting it till
[48:11] the end of their life and they might be
[48:13] teaching it to someone and the reward is
[48:15] countless. It is like 17 times that fat
[48:18] is being recited by the person
[48:21] and maybe at times you're not even
[48:24] learning anything. Maybe you're not even
[48:26] teaching but but you were practicing
[48:28] patience, you were learning patience,
[48:29] you were controlling your anger. So
[48:31] every season has something to teach.
[48:35] So this is something that we need to
[48:37] understand.
[48:40] So when we are a student, we have
[48:43] different things to take care of. And
[48:45] then when we are working then we have to
[48:49] plan things in a different way. If I'm
[48:51] full-time working I have very less time
[48:54] after work because that is the need for
[48:56] my life. I have to contribute to my
[48:59] family that's why I'm working not just
[49:01] because I feel like working I'm working
[49:03] and then I need to understand whatever
[49:06] time is left it is for the family and I
[49:08] have very less time to commit maybe to
[49:10] formal studies and that is what is
[49:13] important. Now you just even
[49:19] being enrolled in one course or maybe
[49:21] you're not even enrolled in a live
[49:23] course. You are just a listener to
[49:24] something and you're benefiting from
[49:26] that one hour throughout the week.
[49:29] That is okay. It's not about doing so
[49:32] much. It's about doing the right thing.
[49:35] And just if somebody is a homemaker,
[49:37] they think whenever I talk to women and
[49:39] when we are giving introductions like
[49:40] what do we do and this and that they get
[49:42] very uh in awe of if somebody says I am
[49:45] I have done such and such and such and
[49:47] all of these things and they are like I
[49:49] am so in awe of you because you have
[49:52] done so many things but you know I am
[49:54] I'm nothing but a homemaker. Many people
[49:55] say this, why nothing? You are actually
[49:59] somebody who is the one working behind
[50:02] all of that chaos to keep things in
[50:05] place so that everybody can function
[50:07] properly. May it be emotions, may it be
[50:10] things in place, getting our meals on
[50:11] time or what not.
[50:14] So here we need to understand that my
[50:17] routine is completely going to be
[50:18] different from somebody who is a working
[50:20] sister who is just a student and if I am
[50:24] a mother with young kids I really don't
[50:28] have the time for tedious classes and
[50:30] long hours of sitting and so many things
[50:32] no I have to sleep around when my child
[50:36] sleeps I have to think of those little
[50:39] time pockets where I can steal it for
[50:41] myself and just you know I can do
[50:43] something and we have to understand that
[50:46] this time will pass as well but it's not
[50:49] about not doing anything at all but
[50:51] realizing maybe I can't do as much as I
[50:54] could do earlier let me do it little let
[50:56] me just take care of my salah myar and
[50:59] just you know teach my kids something
[51:01] good whatever I have learned all these
[51:02] days and that's it focus on my kids and
[51:06] not have that resentment that I have to
[51:08] leave everything for my kids if we are
[51:11] able to even
[51:14] raise one child
[51:17] and the one who is on who is able to
[51:22] regulate themselves properly emotionally
[51:24] and they are people who take care of
[51:26] themselves and others then we have done
[51:28] something really very right. There is no
[51:31] need for you to go on stages and speak
[51:33] so much and do so much of dawa work so
[51:35] much of community work. No, you're
[51:37] raising just one person
[51:40] on the proper religion and teaching them
[51:43] the proper morals and ethics what what
[51:46] is needed of a righteous man or a woman.
[51:49] That's it.
[51:51] Now that person will be somebody who is
[51:53] going to take care of a family later and
[51:55] you did your job well and that whole
[51:59] generation will be upon something
[52:01] righteous because you swed that seed in
[52:03] a right way. And somebody is having this
[52:07] separation like people many times
[52:09] undergo separation and divorces and like
[52:13] husband has passed away and things like
[52:15] that their life is completely different
[52:18] of somebody's life who is not facing all
[52:20] of that. And if that sister starts to
[52:23] compare her life with others, that's not
[52:25] fair. And if we do that to her, that's
[52:27] not fair because we just in this case
[52:30] it's not just what they have lost, but
[52:33] emotional loss is a lot because we cling
[52:36] on to things and habits. It's very
[52:38] difficult for us to come out of
[52:40] patterns. It's it's difficult to move on
[52:43] in life. There's so much burden on her
[52:45] heart, emotional and mental. So she
[52:47] can't be doing all those 10 classes and
[52:50] memorizing a hadith and this and that
[52:52] and we are overwhelming her like I have
[52:53] completed sahil bkari this and that and
[52:56] she's not able to. No, you can't be
[52:58] doing all of that because you're already
[53:00] having so much on yourself.
[53:03] You need to just focus on your
[53:06] non-negotiables that is your salah your
[53:10] just taking care of whatever immediate
[53:13] questionability comes to you. That's it.
[53:18] And then if needed, you need to have
[53:21] that extra support, extra emotional
[53:24] support that we need. And you need to
[53:26] just make dua that may Allah help you
[53:29] pass through this season as well. And
[53:31] once again, you bloom. The season is
[53:34] just of no blooms maybe, but there will
[53:37] come a season where you will bloom again
[53:39] and things will be beautiful,
[53:42] right? So every person has a different
[53:45] thing going on in their life. And many
[53:47] times it's not even about
[53:49] responsibilities. It's about the mental
[53:51] load they have.
[53:53] If a family is dysfunctional, that
[53:56] child, that student cannot be the same
[53:58] student where the other person, the
[54:01] other girl, she just has everything
[54:03] sorted in her life. She has loving
[54:04] parents. There's a secure space at home.
[54:07] It's not the same.
[54:09] A dysfunctional family with come it
[54:11] comes with so much of mental load
[54:14] and they cannot have their mind right in
[54:17] place to do all of that they want to do
[54:20] and this is something that we really
[54:22] really need to understand
[54:25] which we don't because of social media
[54:28] we are always eyeing on somebody else's
[54:30] statuses and I don't know what's with
[54:32] people as well they enjoy sharing about
[54:34] their lives even
[54:36] sharing about the study desk and all
[54:38] some People are of course students of
[54:40] knowledge and they are not into sharing
[54:42] the food they have or whatever but they
[54:44] even share about the certificates about
[54:46] the achievements they have what are the
[54:47] courses they enrolled at the Pinteresty
[54:49] images of the books kept uh in Arabic
[54:52] and then they having notes and all of
[54:53] what is the need of all of those things
[54:56] what is the need do we need a validation
[54:58] that we are doing all of this do we want
[55:01] people to know that we are studying all
[55:02] of this is it even required
[55:05] can't our growth be quiet
[55:08] why do we invite all all of this in our
[55:11] lives why do we need it and why is the
[55:14] need to talk about our achievements once
[55:17] like it's not the topic of discussion if
[55:19] I have come here talk to you about time
[55:22] management or self-management
[55:25] what's with me if I speak of my jazzat
[55:27] and how much I have studied and I have
[55:29] done such and such and learned from such
[55:31] and such what is the point of all of
[55:32] that
[55:34] what is the point of speaking of my
[55:36] tahud my personal which should be a
[55:39] secret between me and Allah and I am
[55:41] doing the public publicity of all of
[55:43] those things. What is even made of it?
[55:46] Why do we have to talk about it?
[55:49] But we talk about it because we have
[55:51] that fear of missing out. Right? So this
[55:55] is really something which needs to
[55:56] change. And one thing which I had spoken
[56:00] earlier as well because yeah most of you
[56:02] are new for me here in this session but
[56:05] I think you should guard your private
[56:08] life.
[56:10] You should be very private about your
[56:12] private life your achievements your
[56:14] downfalls your shortcomings whatever
[56:15] just be private of what you want to do
[56:18] unless and until there is a need to
[56:19] speak about it. There is no need to be
[56:21] public about each and everything uh and
[56:23] the little tiny details of your life.
[56:26] And one of the biggest guilts because I
[56:29] want to rush now because I think I have
[56:30] taken a lot of time. I'm really sorry.
[56:33] And one of the biggest struggles we
[56:35] women carry is guilt.
[56:37] Like I used to
[59:06] Uh, am I audible now?
[59:11] Okay.
[59:14] Okay.
[59:16] Okay. Just give me a moment. I just had
[59:19] a power here
[59:21] and lost connection. Let me share the
[59:23] screen again.
[59:35] And please ignore my child
[59:41] background sound because kind of playing
[59:44] around.
[59:47] He's far away. I can't even ask him to
[59:49] just be a little quiet. I hope that's
[59:51] not distracting you right
[59:54] now. And is my screen visible.
[01:00:00] Okay.
[01:00:13] Well, okay. Fine.
[01:00:18] Okay. Well, okay. Fine.
[01:00:18] So
[01:00:20] let me
[01:00:23] now there's there's something that we
[01:00:26] need to understand and I was I think uh
[01:00:28] did you hear what I spoke of on this
[01:00:31] slide so let us just come to uh the
[01:00:34] small consistent habits right so the
[01:00:37] thing is that we feel that I used to
[01:00:39] study previously a lot and I used to
[01:00:42] memorize every day I used to maybe
[01:00:44] attend so many classes understand so
[01:00:46] many things together And now I barely am
[01:00:49] able to finish a page. I'm not even able
[01:00:51] to memorize half a page and all of this.
[01:00:54] And why do we assume immediately that
[01:00:57] less means failure?
[01:00:59] Actually less is not failure. Who told
[01:01:03] us that? Because
[01:01:07] taught us something completely
[01:01:09] different. What did
[01:01:11] taught teach us? that he taught us that
[01:01:14] the most beloved deeds are those that
[01:01:16] are consistent even if they are small.
[01:01:19] So Islam and Dean isn't asking us to
[01:01:23] impress Allah and you know you have to
[01:01:27] be always perfect and all of those
[01:01:29] things. Subhan Allah. No Islam is asking
[01:01:32] us to remain connected to Allah how
[01:01:35] muchever our day has been busy or
[01:01:38] whatever. There is a huge difference
[01:01:41] because many of us carry these three
[01:01:43] three types of guilt. There is this
[01:01:45] first thing which is comparison. She is
[01:01:48] doing more than me. This is like the
[01:01:51] second unrealistic expectation trying to
[01:01:53] be the perfect student, trying to be
[01:01:56] that perfect wife, perfect mother,
[01:01:58] perfect daughter, perfect teacher,
[01:02:00] perfect homemaker and all at once. And
[01:02:03] the third thing is the social media
[01:02:04] pressure. We see the certificates. We
[01:02:07] see the courses. We see the achievements
[01:02:09] and we see the perfect routines. Huh?
[01:02:14] And but we don't see the sleepless
[01:02:16] nights behind all of that. Like we are
[01:02:20] just seeing that person and their name
[01:02:22] everywhere and we are like how how does
[01:02:25] she manage and all of that? Have you
[01:02:27] seen her sleepless night?
[01:02:30] Have you seen her sick kids? Have you
[01:02:32] seen her sick parents? Have you seen her
[01:02:34] family struggles? Have you seen her
[01:02:36] emotional burdens?
[01:02:38] We compare our reality with someone
[01:02:41] else's
[01:02:42] highlight.
[01:02:44] And that comparison is something which
[01:02:46] is not good
[01:02:49] because this is something I remind
[01:02:52] myself of very often because Allah is
[01:02:55] not going to compare me with another
[01:02:57] person. Allah is going to look at my
[01:02:59] sincerity, my effort, what I did with my
[01:03:02] resources and that changes everything.
[01:03:05] That is like that changes the
[01:03:07] perspective.
[01:03:10] Huh? Because many of us complain that my
[01:03:13] heart really wants to seek knowledge but
[01:03:14] my life is too busy. Beautiful. That
[01:03:17] longing that you have in your heart is a
[01:03:19] blessing. And don't wait until you have
[01:03:24] like two, three, three hours. Start with
[01:03:27] five minutes. Five minutes of the Quran.
[01:03:30] Just one hadith per day.
[01:03:33] Just one page of any authentic.
[01:03:38] Just reflecting upon one
[01:03:44] incident of
[01:03:46] memorizing just one dua making that dua
[01:03:49] sincerely
[01:03:51] because it's not about going away from
[01:03:54] your life in your busy seasons. It is
[01:03:56] just about you surviving that season
[01:03:58] through consistency. Consistency is
[01:04:01] something that we need to understand.
[01:04:04] H
[01:04:06] like we all think like like one of the
[01:04:11] uh biggest enemies of productivity is
[01:04:13] not lack of time but wrong expectations.
[01:04:18] If you are a mother and you are not able
[01:04:21] to recite or memorize one page daily,
[01:04:24] that's no problem. Memorize one ayah.
[01:04:27] You decided to read this ayah in the
[01:04:30] morning. Now be flexible. If you
[01:04:32] couldn't do in the morning, fix them
[01:04:34] afternoon time. If you couldn't do in
[01:04:36] the afternoon, like just do it in the
[01:04:38] evening. Even if you couldn't do in the
[01:04:40] evening, just listen to that ayah. At
[01:04:42] least you did something instead of not
[01:04:45] doing anything at all.
[01:04:49] You are not getting time to recite all
[01:04:50] the afkar. Fine. Whatever is from the
[01:04:54] memory, recite it. Others at least start
[01:04:56] playing it.
[01:04:59] Listen to a scholar. Maybe there five
[01:05:02] minutes of the maybe just five minutes
[01:05:04] of a particular lesson. Maybe 10 minutes
[01:05:06] of it. That's it. Or maybe you decide
[01:05:10] like one hour in this week I'll block
[01:05:12] that time and I'll just listen to that.
[01:05:14] That's it. It's not huge. It's just
[01:05:18] something very simple.
[01:05:21] But we need to understand do we have
[01:05:23] that consistency? Huh? Do we really have
[01:05:28] that kind of a mindset where we are not
[01:05:31] looking for the quantity but the quality
[01:05:32] of whatever we are doing? And let's just
[01:05:35] talk honestly. Sometimes we are our own
[01:05:38] biggest obstacle.
[01:05:41] We expect ourselves to function like
[01:05:43] machine. We wake up with 25 things on
[01:05:46] our list. We complete eight of them.
[01:05:49] Then instead of thanking Allah for
[01:05:51] completing eight, we criticize ourselves
[01:05:53] of the 17 we didn't finish. Does anyone
[01:05:55] relate to this?
[01:05:59] Yes.
[01:06:02] You know, we do it all the time. We are
[01:06:05] so hard on ourselves. Instead of
[01:06:07] celebrating the progress Allah enable
[01:06:10] you to do it, we focus on what's left.
[01:06:15] And with time one of the greatest
[01:06:18] lessons that I have learned personally
[01:06:19] is Allah never asked me to finish
[01:06:21] everything today now. Now now now
[01:06:25] I would be questioned only for today's
[01:06:27] responsibility withan.
[01:06:30] So sometimes my today's responsibility
[01:06:32] is just comforting my child who is
[01:06:34] crying. I need to take care of it. I
[01:06:38] need to put warm meals on the table and
[01:06:40] that's it.
[01:06:42] Sometimes I need rest because my body
[01:06:45] has rights over me and just I need to do
[01:06:48] that because Allah sallallahu alaihi
[01:06:51] wasallam taught us balance not burnout
[01:06:56] and I don't want to I don't want all of
[01:06:59] you to leave this session thinking that
[01:07:00] I need to do do more like it happens
[01:07:03] most of the time when we are attending
[01:07:05] this productivity courses and all of
[01:07:07] that I want you to leave this session
[01:07:10] thinking I need to do the right things
[01:07:13] because a woman who understands her
[01:07:14] season and understand her priorities and
[01:07:17] the woman who understand her priorities
[01:07:20] is the one who finally is at peace.
[01:07:24] H
[01:07:27] and now that
[01:07:29] we have spoken about the mindset
[01:07:33] we have to come to something more
[01:07:35] practical. How do we actually organize
[01:07:37] our day? How do we stop procrastinating?
[01:07:40] How do we study consistently? Mhm. And
[01:07:43] how do we manage distractions and how do
[01:07:46] we use different techniques which are
[01:07:49] there discovered by so many people so
[01:07:52] that you know it can be something I can
[01:07:54] apply in my life
[01:07:57] because most of the time in our today's
[01:08:00] session we have been spending about
[01:08:02] talking about you know something deeper
[01:08:04] topics not just the time the seasons the
[01:08:08] responsibilities the priorities because
[01:08:10] sisters if we had started today's
[01:08:12] session By talking about planners,
[01:08:14] calendarers and productivity techniques,
[01:08:17] we would have just missed the foundation
[01:08:19] of everything because we need to
[01:08:22] understand our priorities so that we
[01:08:25] don't misuse even the best planner and
[01:08:28] once the priorities become clear,
[01:08:31] planning becomes much easier. So now let
[01:08:35] us get more practical. Okay.
[01:08:39] So what is it that we need to understand
[01:08:43] that one of the greatest gifts you can
[01:08:45] give to yourself is the permission to
[01:08:48] adjust and be flexible. Sometimes we
[01:08:51] think that consistency actually means
[01:08:53] doing exactly the same thing every day,
[01:08:55] every month, every year. But consistency
[01:08:58] doesn't mean rigidity.
[01:09:01] It means remaining connected to Allah
[01:09:04] while adapting to your circumstances.
[01:09:08] Think about
[01:09:11] his worship remained constant but his
[01:09:14] days were not just identical to each
[01:09:17] other.
[01:09:18] He even had travels leading battles
[01:09:22] spent long hours with his family and
[01:09:26] people came seeking knowledge.
[01:09:28] circumstances change but his connection
[01:09:30] with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala remained
[01:09:33] constant and we need to emulate the same
[01:09:36] kind of lifestyle maybe not exactly 100%
[01:09:40] but at least try
[01:09:43] so before marriage your routine may look
[01:09:46] one way after marriage it changes with
[01:09:48] children it changes again during illness
[01:09:50] it changes during exams it changes
[01:09:53] during Ramadan it changes so the mistake
[01:09:56] is expecting one routine to fit every
[01:09:59] single season.
[01:10:02] So you being all wise Muslims here in
[01:10:05] the session, you need to ask yourself
[01:10:07] what routine serves me best in the
[01:10:10] season Allah has placed me in.
[01:10:14] Do not ask yourself or challenge
[01:10:17] yourself with questions like how do I
[01:10:19] get back to the routine I had 5 years
[01:10:20] ago.
[01:10:22] Don't think about your ideal routine.
[01:10:24] Think about your current life.
[01:10:27] Ask yourself what are my fixed
[01:10:30] responsibilities?
[01:10:31] What can move? What cannot move?
[01:10:34] Negotiables and non-negotiables.
[01:10:37] Because many of us plan our day around
[01:10:40] optional things. We have to plan around
[01:10:43] our obligation first and everything else
[01:10:46] fits around them. Okay. So this is
[01:10:51] something that we need to understand.
[01:10:55] easily the chair.
[01:10:58] Okay.
[01:11:00] Now I'm going to come to something which
[01:11:03] are called as techniques. So let me just
[01:11:05] share a few techniques. They are not on
[01:11:06] the slides by the way.
[01:11:09] These techniques are not from like the
[01:11:11] Sharia and you'll be like sister where
[01:11:13] is the dal that you have shared this
[01:11:15] technique. Kindly give me the share the
[01:11:17] dal with me. It is not one of those
[01:11:19] kinds coming from the Islamic
[01:11:21] obligations. They are just simply
[01:11:23] methods that can help us become more
[01:11:25] organized. That's it. So take what
[01:11:27] benefits you and leave what doesn't.
[01:11:30] Okay. So the first thing is the twominut
[01:11:33] rule. One of the biggest reasons we
[01:11:35] become overwhelmed is because small
[01:11:38] tasks pile up.
[01:11:41] Replying to someone just takes a minute.
[01:11:44] Putting the book back in the shelf takes
[01:11:46] just, you know, couple of seconds.
[01:11:48] Washing one cup is very easy. Typing out
[01:11:51] one email is also very easy. Making just
[01:11:53] one phone call. Instead of that, what do
[01:11:56] we do? We keep delaying it. We say,
[01:11:58] "Okay, I'll do it later." And when the
[01:12:00] tomorrow comes, there are now there are
[01:12:01] 20 little tasks lined up. So, what is
[01:12:04] the 2-minut rule? If something the task
[01:12:07] itself, it's going to take less than 2
[01:12:10] minutes. Do it immediately.
[01:12:13] Do it immediately. Do not delay it.
[01:12:16] Okay? This prevents the mental clutter.
[01:12:18] It keeps your mind clear. It creates
[01:12:21] that momentum that you need because
[01:12:25] small acts when they are done
[01:12:27] immediately they prevent that big stress
[01:12:29] later. So this is that one technique
[01:12:31] which I really stand by and I think we
[01:12:33] should really practice this as much as
[01:12:35] we can. Now the pomodoro method which is
[01:12:38] very famous one you can even google
[01:12:40] about it like instead of just saying
[01:12:43] that I can't study more
[01:12:46] actually the problem isn't studying this
[01:12:49] the the problem is we trying to study
[01:12:51] for too long when we're trying to do
[01:12:54] that for too long our brains become
[01:12:55] tired especially mothers especially
[01:12:58] women who are carrying emotional
[01:13:00] responsibilities instead try doing that
[01:13:03] task for 25 minutes then take a 25
[01:13:05] minute break repeat.
[01:13:08] So you don't need three uninterrupted
[01:13:11] hours to do something, but you need that
[01:13:13] focused attention because quality is
[01:13:17] always more important than quantity.
[01:13:21] And then there's this time blocking that
[01:13:23] we can do because one mistake we make is
[01:13:26] writing endless to-do lists every day.
[01:13:29] Give every important task a home. For
[01:13:32] example, after fudger, I'll be doing
[01:13:35] this. After my Quran time, I'll be doing
[01:13:38] this. Between breakfast and zohur, I'll
[01:13:41] be doing this. Huh? And you know uh
[01:13:45] between breakfast and zohur I'll do the
[01:13:47] housework. After zohur I'll look at uh
[01:13:49] after the kids after I sit to study
[01:13:52] after m it is going to be my family time
[01:13:55] after isha I'll prepare for tomorrow.
[01:13:59] Now obviously everyone's schedule will
[01:14:01] be different. The point isn't copying
[01:14:03] this. The point is to stop making
[01:14:05] decisions every hour. When every task
[01:14:08] has a place, your mind is more calmer,
[01:14:10] right? And then comes the habit
[01:14:12] stacking. Like this is one of the um
[01:14:16] mind favorite methods because it works
[01:14:19] beautifully for mothers. Instead of
[01:14:23] creating brand new habits, attach them
[01:14:26] to habits you already have
[01:14:29] because we are going to pray for. So
[01:14:31] after fudger it's going to be my Quran
[01:14:33] time. After fudger I'm going to sit
[01:14:35] write a write up. After fudger I'm going
[01:14:37] to work on my assignment. After fudger
[01:14:39] I'm going to uh you know do such and
[01:14:42] such which requires your time and
[01:14:44] attention.
[01:14:45] After making tea I'll be going and doing
[01:14:48] this. After putting the kids to bed I'll
[01:14:50] be reading two pages of any beneficial
[01:14:52] book. Huh? After mur I'll revise
[01:14:55] something. So you're not creating new
[01:14:58] routines. You're connecting your new
[01:14:59] habits to your existing ones.
[01:15:03] And there is something called the most
[01:15:05] important task. Every morning ask
[01:15:08] yourself what is that one thing that
[01:15:10] absolutely must happen today. It cannot
[01:15:14] be 20 things. One thing what is that one
[01:15:18] thing? You can even go maximum till
[01:15:19] three things not more than three things.
[01:15:22] The most important task, three most
[01:15:24] important tasks. Perhaps it is revising
[01:15:27] the Quran, preparing your lesson and
[01:15:29] spending uninterrupted time with your
[01:15:31] kid or visiting your parents. If that
[01:15:35] one task is completed, your day feels
[01:15:38] successful altogether.
[01:15:41] Right?
[01:15:43] So this is something that we need to
[01:15:46] understand.
[01:15:49] So sometimes we think that if I just
[01:15:52] learn another productivity method, I
[01:15:54] will feel more organized. If I attend
[01:15:56] this one more lecture or listen to one
[01:15:57] more podcast, I'll be sorted. Have you
[01:16:00] ever had a day where you completed very
[01:16:02] little yet you've your your heart felt
[01:16:04] peaceful? You guys said yeah.
[01:16:07] So the difference between productivity
[01:16:09] and baraka.
[01:16:11] So one person might might have that
[01:16:14] blessing in their time and one person
[01:16:16] might not.
[01:16:18] So we just need to understand what
[01:16:20] brings baraka.
[01:16:22] So baraka comes when we protect our
[01:16:25] relationship with Allah. It comes
[01:16:27] through guarding your prayers, reciting
[01:16:30] or beginning the day with uh fud.
[01:16:34] Yeah. Reciting the Quran regularly
[01:16:37] morning and evening
[01:16:39] frequent. It does not require you to sit
[01:16:42] somewhere to do your
[01:16:44] starting your work with bismillah.
[01:16:48] It adds lot of
[01:16:53] being truthful in whatever you do,
[01:16:55] earning and spending from halal,
[01:16:57] maintaining family ties, fulfilling
[01:17:00] whatever our trusts and promises are and
[01:17:04] having that shook in our hearts of what
[01:17:07] already Allah has given us. Many times
[01:17:10] we ask Allah to increase our time or you
[01:17:12] know all of these things and we continue
[01:17:15] habits that remove the blessing of
[01:17:17] baraka. So before asking for that
[01:17:21] productivity
[01:17:23] ask Allah to bless the hours you already
[01:17:25] have with bak right
[01:17:33] when we are going to stand in front of
[01:17:34] Allah we are not going to be questioned
[01:17:37] why didn't you live somebody else's life
[01:17:40] Allah will ask us about our
[01:17:42] responsibilities how we fulfilled them
[01:17:44] how we took care of our ama our season
[01:17:47] our responsibility ities are intentions.
[01:17:50] So don't measure your life by somebody
[01:17:53] else's planner. Measure it by your
[01:17:56] sincerity
[01:17:58] because
[01:18:00] your greatest act of today
[01:18:04] might be reciting the Quran, memorizing
[01:18:07] the Quran, understanding or it can be
[01:18:10] just patiently taking care of a sick
[01:18:12] person or a child or serving your
[01:18:15] elderly parents who are a little
[01:18:18] difficult than what they were.
[01:18:22] It is just it might be just you know
[01:18:24] just you making up to your salah on time
[01:18:27] despite an exhausting day.
[01:18:30] Every season has ibada in it. Every
[01:18:33] season has reward and in each and every
[01:18:36] season you can strive to get closer to
[01:18:39] Allah. So the successful Muslim or the
[01:18:42] productive Muslim or the effective
[01:18:44] Muslim is not the one who is the busiest
[01:18:46] woman of all.
[01:18:48] She is the woman who understands what
[01:18:51] Allah wants from her today and she
[01:18:54] strives to fulfill it with excellence.
[01:18:57] Huh? And I just make dua from the
[01:19:02] deepest of my heart that may Allah
[01:19:05] please that baraka in our time. May
[01:19:07] Allah give us the hikma to deal with our
[01:19:10] priorities and may Allah bless us with
[01:19:12] sincerity in our intentions. And may
[01:19:15] Allah grant us that sakina, the
[01:19:17] tranquility in our hearts,
[01:19:20] right?
[01:19:22] Because we learn about so many women,
[01:19:24] the mother of the believers and there
[01:19:27] are so many sahavat there
[01:19:30] so many mothers of the you know Imam Sha
[01:19:34] Ashafi's mother, Imam Ahmed's mother and
[01:19:39] Fatim and her. So this is something that
[01:19:42] we really need to understand like
[01:19:46] uh we need to think about and look at
[01:19:49] the lives of the women before us
[01:19:52] like you know we have this question can
[01:19:55] I seek knowledge and fulfill my
[01:19:57] responsibilities that that is not a new
[01:19:59] question. Women before us as have always
[01:20:02] carried responsibilities. They have
[01:20:04] raised kids. They have seek knowledge.
[01:20:08] But the only difference between us and
[01:20:09] them majorly what I feel is they
[01:20:12] understood priorities.
[01:20:14] Many people when they speak of
[01:20:19] they emphasize on how amazing as a
[01:20:24] businesswoman she was. But many times
[01:20:26] they forget how much supporting as a
[01:20:28] wife she was. She used to go to mount
[01:20:30] hon to give food to prophet sallallahu
[01:20:33] alaihi wasallam in spite of the
[01:20:35] business. Do you understand the humility
[01:20:37] and the sense of responsibility and not
[01:20:39] taking it as a burden? Do you just see
[01:20:41] one aspect of her life and not other
[01:20:45] when he was spending time in isolation
[01:20:48] she taking care of the kids with and not
[01:20:51] complaining. Don't we see all of this
[01:20:55] right? Because the life of Fatima, she
[01:20:59] was the daughter of Sallallahu Alaihi
[01:21:00] Wasallam, the leader of the women of
[01:21:02] Jenna. Imagine her life. She wasn't
[01:21:04] living a luxurious life. She worked, she
[01:21:06] ground floor until her hands became so
[01:21:08] rough. She fetched water. She served her
[01:21:11] family.
[01:21:13] And one day she requested a servant
[01:21:15] because life had become difficult. What
[01:21:17] did sallallahu alaihi wasallam teach
[01:21:19] her? Did he remove all her
[01:21:21] responsibilities? No. He gave her
[01:21:24] something far more great.
[01:21:38] He taught her this. Sometimes we ask
[01:21:41] Allah who wants to strengthen our hearts
[01:21:43] to example. We need to understand that
[01:21:46] honor isn't found in escaping
[01:21:47] responsibilities.
[01:21:50] Honor is found in fulfilling it for the
[01:21:52] sake of Allah.
[01:21:56] So this is something that we need to
[01:21:58] understand.
[01:22:01] So they mothers who raise scholars every
[01:22:04] one of us know Asha
[01:22:07] and few people really know the woman
[01:22:10] behind him because his father passed
[01:22:12] away when he was very young and his
[01:22:14] mother was left alone. She could only
[01:22:16] have focused on her survival. Instead
[01:22:19] she recognized her responsibility. She
[01:22:21] moved from Gaza to Makkah so her son
[01:22:23] could grow amongst the scholars. Imagine
[01:22:25] the sacrifice.
[01:22:27] Imagine the tabacle that she had. And
[01:22:29] she invested in one child and that one
[01:22:32] child became one of the greatest
[01:22:34] scholars this um has ever known.
[01:22:38] Sometimes we are just thinking I'm just
[01:22:39] raising kids. No. Maybe you're raising
[01:22:42] your next scholar. Maybe a next teacher.
[01:22:45] Maybe a habit of maybe the next D.
[01:22:50] Never underestimate your value and your
[01:22:53] value of your motherhood.
[01:22:56] And even the example of Imam Ahmed Allah
[01:23:00] because his father also passed away
[01:23:02] early and his mother would wake him up
[01:23:05] before Fud, prepare him, walk him to the
[01:23:08] masjid in the darkness because she
[01:23:10] feared for his safety. She nurtured his
[01:23:13] love for knowledge before anyone else
[01:23:14] did.
[01:23:18] Yanni, you know, just imagine the amount
[01:23:21] of duas, the tears of his mother.
[01:23:25] Sometimes your greatest contribution
[01:23:29] to this um won't be what you teach, it
[01:23:32] will be who you raise.
[01:23:35] And Immik's daughter, many people don't
[01:23:38] know that Imam Malik's daughter had
[01:23:39] memorized so much of her father's
[01:23:40] knowledge. She would sit behind the door
[01:23:42] while other students attended the
[01:23:44] lessons.
[01:23:47] If someone would make a mistake while
[01:23:49] reciting al, she would tap on the door
[01:23:52] to alert her father.
[01:23:54] She wasn't standing on the stage. She
[01:23:56] wasn't on the flyer. She wasn't seeking
[01:23:58] recognition. She learned deeply and very
[01:24:02] keenly within her home.
[01:24:05] So this reminds us of a very important
[01:24:07] reminder in today's day and time.
[01:24:09] Seeking knowledge doesn't always have to
[01:24:11] look public,
[01:24:13] you know.
[01:24:16] So now um subhan Allah uh this brings us
[01:24:21] to the end of the session
[01:24:26] and uh alhamdulillah
[01:24:29] I hope uh this benefited you. And now
[01:24:32] why do we need accountability or
[01:24:34] companionship is this is something the
[01:24:35] goal of our session as well and this is
[01:24:37] the initiative started by Aladay. So you
[01:24:40] know when people like us there's a jama
[01:24:44] there is this tribe who is doing the
[01:24:46] same kind of things who have the same
[01:24:48] kind of goals who have the same kind of
[01:24:50] mindset it becomes easier for to do for
[01:24:52] you to do things necessarily today we
[01:24:54] don't have people in our homes who are
[01:24:56] doing the same but virtual benefits are
[01:24:58] this that we can have different sisters
[01:25:00] from different part of the world
[01:25:01] striving for the same goals so just we
[01:25:04] having their company they sharing
[01:25:06] sharing their struggles it becomes
[01:25:07] easier for us to just follow along You
[01:25:10] know and when we have reminders coming
[01:25:12] along we have that support we have
[01:25:14] somebody who is just patting our back
[01:25:15] and saying it's okay we are with you we
[01:25:18] are together in this it becomes easy
[01:25:21] because winning is not about we winning
[01:25:22] the race alone winning is about we all
[01:25:25] reaching Jenna together
[01:25:28] and we growing planning to work on our
[01:25:31] growth alone it is more difficult and
[01:25:33] requires a lot of motivation than when
[01:25:36] we have a jama
[01:25:38] Right? Because jama has baraka in it and
[01:25:41] it it becomes easier to do all of those
[01:25:44] things. Okay? And when we are doing
[01:25:47] something, it's very common that we may
[01:25:51] have that lag and then we might feel
[01:25:54] that I am l I'm just lagging behind.
[01:25:57] It's okay. It's not about how much you
[01:26:00] did today. Do at least something that
[01:26:03] you were doing. Instead of overwhelming
[01:26:05] yourself, just make sure that you do
[01:26:08] that tiny part of yours. And don't
[01:26:10] forget that
[01:26:12] even if you think it's missed today,
[01:26:14] just get back tomorrow and continue
[01:26:16] doing it. It's always going to be
[01:26:19] progress over perfection. And many times
[01:26:22] I hear this word a lot which I have a
[01:26:24] lot of problem with personally is
[01:26:26] motivation. People say that I don't find
[01:26:28] motivation. You're never going to find
[01:26:30] motivation outside of you. You need to
[01:26:33] understand motivation comes from from
[01:26:35] you.
[01:26:36] You need to know why you're doing what
[01:26:38] you're doing. When you know why you're
[01:26:40] doing what you're doing, you will do it
[01:26:42] whatsoever. And we as believers, we do
[01:26:44] everything to please Allah. That is the
[01:26:46] biggest motive ever. Even to clean your
[01:26:48] home.
[01:26:50] You're doing it so that everything is in
[01:26:52] place. People are going to take care of
[01:26:54] their obligations properly. I'm just
[01:26:57] cleaning my home so that peace of mind
[01:26:59] is there and everything can fulfill
[01:27:01] their obligations properly. Even this
[01:27:03] intention for the sake of Allah is
[01:27:05] needed
[01:27:08] and many times it's like we want to do
[01:27:11] so many things together. This is my
[01:27:13] personal advice. Whenever I see
[01:27:15] students, my students doing 10 courses
[01:27:17] together, I really I take that time and
[01:27:21] I tell them that might seem very
[01:27:24] intrusive as well.
[01:27:26] that stop getting enrolled in so many
[01:27:29] courses where you cannot give the huck
[01:27:31] of it. Do one thing. If your current
[01:27:34] season allows you to do one thing, just
[01:27:36] do one thing. What is the point of doing
[01:27:38] 10 things and not doing anything at all
[01:27:40] properly?
[01:27:41] So don't get motivated from other people
[01:27:44] in a wrong way. Just because we see my
[01:27:46] friend doing it, I enroll, I jump on the
[01:27:49] bandwagon. That's not needed of you. You
[01:27:52] need to realize your responsibility and
[01:27:54] you need to see can I do it? Do I have
[01:27:57] the time? Do I have the energy to
[01:27:58] invest? Do I have the finances and all
[01:28:01] of this? If yes, go for it. If not, then
[01:28:04] stay back.
[01:28:05] No need to do what everybody else is
[01:28:07] doing. You need to understand your
[01:28:09] needs. Your needs as a person. Who do I
[01:28:12] need right now? Do I need this or this
[01:28:16] can wait for later?
[01:28:18] Does my kid need my attention or do I
[01:28:20] need to give this session?
[01:28:23] Even for me, if my health needs my
[01:28:26] attention and I say no, no, no, I want
[01:28:28] to do community service, then I won't be
[01:28:30] there if I'm not giving the huck of my
[01:28:32] body and I can't be doing this community
[01:28:34] service. So, I need to first take care
[01:28:36] of myself. I need to take care of my
[01:28:38] family so everybody is seen enough to
[01:28:40] support me when I'm doing a session and
[01:28:42] then only I can carry out this out
[01:28:44] right.
[01:28:46] So first fill your cup. Fill it in a
[01:28:49] proper way so that you can pour in
[01:28:51] something beneficial to others. With an
[01:28:54] empty cup, you cannot f fill others cup.
[01:28:57] Right? With a overflowing cup as well,
[01:28:59] it's not going to benefit. So try to
[01:29:02] understand your priorities. Try to
[01:29:04] understand your goals, your needs, and
[01:29:08] what current season are you in and work
[01:29:10] on it. And don't overwhelm yourselves.
[01:29:13] And don't be very critical of yourself.
[01:29:16] Be gentle with yourself and do what
[01:29:19] suits you in this current season. Don't
[01:29:23] try to do what all everybody else is
[01:29:25] doing. And my dear sisters, my sincere
[01:29:28] advice, I don't know the age group what
[01:29:30] we have in today's session, but I would
[01:29:31] want to advise whatever age bracket you
[01:29:34] are in, keep your private life very
[01:29:37] private. Please, it is personal life for
[01:29:39] a reason. It's not for the public eye.
[01:29:42] Don't share things online. Even if you
[01:29:47] have most righteous friends and all of
[01:29:49] your friends are seekers of knowledge
[01:29:50] but still there is no need. my feet.
[01:29:53] There's no need for me to say what all I
[01:29:55] have memorized, what all I have learned
[01:29:56] and what all I have done and what all I
[01:29:59] am doing and what all I need to do, what
[01:30:01] all my kids are doing and how much I am
[01:30:04] doing and no need
[01:30:06] have some things just exclusive between
[01:30:09] you and Allah because on the day of
[01:30:12] there should be something which only
[01:30:15] Allah knew and nobody else knew,
[01:30:18] right?
[01:30:20] So no need to boast about all of that we
[01:30:22] do and keep your private things private.
[01:30:24] So with this we come to an end of
[01:30:26] today's session. I'm really sorry for
[01:30:28] taking half an hour extra. Um I have a
[01:30:31] habit of talking a lot. So may Allah
[01:30:34] help me speak beneficial and speak what
[01:30:37] benefits me and others
[01:30:46] and to each one of you for being so
[01:30:50] patient with me and listening to me.
[01:31:00] To be honest, I'm really very emotional
[01:31:02] right now because um whenever I feel
[01:31:05] whenever I intend to do something, Allah
[01:31:08] subhana ta just guide me to approach a
[01:31:12] right people at the right time and
[01:31:14] sometimes the reminder comes at exactly
[01:31:15] the time we need it and I believe many
[01:31:17] of us have felt that today.
[01:31:20] Uh so uh rather than going into again a
[01:31:23] discussion, I would like to straight
[01:31:24] away explain you what is the next
[01:31:27] process inshallah. Um the goal is not to
[01:31:30] be to wait for a perfect season. There
[01:31:33] will always be different seasons in our
[01:31:35] life. The goal is to worship Allah
[01:31:37] subhana wa tala and manage our
[01:31:38] responsibilities in seasons we are
[01:31:40] currently in. But once again lots and
[01:31:43] lots of toas to
[01:31:49] for sharing such practical and realistic
[01:31:51] reminders that many of us can truly. May
[01:31:54] Allah place immense baraka in your time,
[01:31:57] your knowledge, your family and your
[01:31:58] efforts and make every sister who
[01:32:00] benefits from today's session a source
[01:32:02] of continuous reward to you inshallah.
[01:32:04] So dear sisters, as I was listening
[01:32:06] today, one thought kept coming to my
[01:32:08] mind. Knowledge inspires us but
[01:32:10] consistency transforms us. Right? Uh
[01:32:13] many of us attend beneficial reminders
[01:32:16] and leave feeling motivated. Yet after
[01:32:18] few days life becomes busy again.
[01:32:20] responsibilities returned and those
[01:32:22] intentions slowly fade away. It happens
[01:32:24] a lot of time with me as well. The
[01:32:27] accountability circle was created for
[01:32:29] that exact reason. Not because we need
[01:32:31] more motivation as a said it should come
[01:32:34] within us. It should come from us,
[01:32:36] right? But because we need
[01:32:38] companionship, we need encouragement and
[01:32:40] we need account accountability to help
[01:32:43] us remain consistent after motivation
[01:32:45] fails. So today is not the end of the
[01:32:48] lecture. It was just the beginning and
[01:32:50] alhamdulillah Allah subhana wa ta'ala
[01:32:52] has guided us with the best beginning
[01:32:54] starting off with the words of um Batul
[01:32:57] and I hope uh we start a journey where
[01:33:00] sisters encourage one another make dua
[01:33:02] for one another celebrate small
[01:33:04] victories together and gently help one
[01:33:06] another to stay focused on the Allah
[01:33:08] subhana tala. So the next step inshallah
[01:33:11] is to fill out the registration form
[01:33:13] that will be shared shortly in the
[01:33:14] WhatsApp group we have created. I'll be
[01:33:16] sharing the Google form and fill out
[01:33:19] that form. Honestly, there is nothing
[01:33:21] like perfect answer. There is no ideal
[01:33:23] sister we are looking for. Whether
[01:33:24] you're currently driving in any any
[01:33:27] routines or we are struggling to
[01:33:28] maintain even the basics, the circle is
[01:33:30] inshallah for sisters who sincerely want
[01:33:33] to grow. Based on your responses, uh we
[01:33:36] will be segregating sisters into
[01:33:37] different subgroups and inshallah
[01:33:40] accordingly based on your current season
[01:33:42] of life inshallah we will create uh a
[01:33:45] support group or accountability where
[01:33:47] inshallah that will be more meaningful
[01:33:49] and relatable. As we begin this journey,
[01:33:52] I want to leave you with one reminder.
[01:33:54] Do not underestimate small consistent
[01:33:56] actions. A few pages of the Quran, this
[01:33:59] is again a reminder for myself first. a
[01:34:02] few moments of lick, a sincere dua, a
[01:34:04] prayer uh prayed on time. These small
[01:34:07] acts done consistently can change the
[01:34:09] direction of person's life. And perhaps
[01:34:11] alhamdulillah
[01:34:13] uh we may look back at this gathering
[01:34:14] and realize that uh it seemed a simple
[01:34:17] lecture but actually the beginning of
[01:34:20] completely different relationship with
[01:34:21] Allah subhana wa tala. May Allah make it
[01:34:23] so for all of us
[01:34:28] for staying back until the end. We look
[01:34:30] forward to welcoming you into the
[01:34:33] accountability service. Take care.