Everything I Wish I Knew About S*x When I Was In My 20s!

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[00:00] Sex is an intimate connection, but
[00:02] Sex is an intimate connection, but you're not like boom.
[00:05] you're not like boom.
[00:05] You know, this is not what you want to do.
[00:06] not what you want to do.
[00:07] I never thought I'd say this lady.
[00:07] Bring out the penises.
[00:11] I write the recipes for having sex that keeps getting better your whole lifelong.
[00:16] For 11 years, I wasn't having any orgasms at all.
[00:19] And boom, ignition.
[00:20] Now I can come for an hour straight.
[00:22] You are an Olympian.
[00:26] What the vagina wants is not just the what it wants is Yep.
[00:29] I brought you some really great stuff to show you.
[00:34] Oh my goodness.
[00:34] What?
[00:35] This is like super speed.
[00:35] I know.
[00:40] Can we talk about first faking orgasms?
[00:41] Most women are.
[00:41] Why?
[00:44] Because he's a miserable bastard.
[00:44] If you don't or women who are like, well, I have a commitment.
[00:49] We got to change the world.
[00:50] Now, what about I often hear penis size matters.
[00:53] Is that myth or fact?
[00:56] The average penis is, you know,
[00:59] oh my goodness.
[00:59] But the number one indicator of a better
[01:02] But the number one indicator of a better lover is actually.
[01:07] Oh, hey there.
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[01:34] Susan Bratton, we need to talk.
[01:36] Yeah.
[01:37] I'm so happy that you're here.
[01:38] Yeah.
[01:41] I want to talk to you, man.
[01:42] I know you want to talk.
[01:43] I got a lot to say.
[01:45] Can I say I was Cuz you had asked me before we started, have I looked at your Instagram?
[01:48] Uhhuh.
[01:48] I have looked at your Instagram.
[01:51] Okay.
[01:53] Uh, and I so I was on the plane.
[01:54] Yeah.
[01:57] And I was scared.
[01:59] This This was it is I was looking at the Instagram and I saw people going by and I was thinking, should I be embarrassed
[02:05] I was thinking, should I be embarrassed that I'm looking at this Instagram?
[02:08] Other people are are are looking at me.
[02:10] But then I thought, what does that say about me?
[02:13] Does that say I'm I'm I'm prudish.
[02:14] Well, I think you're protecting other people's shame.
[02:17] Interesting.
[02:17] Yeah.
[02:18] Interesting.
[02:20] And Instagram doesn't let me put anything on there that I mean I I am censored so heavily that I have to be careful about what I post on there.
[02:25] It's pretty darn safe.
[02:27] Yes.
[02:31] It's not my best work. Let's just be
[02:33] It's not. All right. So then can we talk about first what is it that you do?
[02:37] Yeah. Yeah. Uh really simply I I I write passionate love making techniques.
[02:43] I kind of think about myself like a cookbook author.
[02:48] In that I write the recipes for having sex that keeps getting better your whole lifelong.
[02:52] I call it the upward pleasure spiral.
[02:54] And in my visualization of what that means, it's like two lovers that are wrapped in that double helix upward spiral like DNA.
[03:04] Yes.
[03:06] DNA.
[03:06] Yes.
[03:06] Like a ladder.
[03:09] That's what it looks like.
[03:09] Like a ladder.
[03:09] That's what it looks like in my head.
[03:12] lovers that keep having hotter and hotter, more satisfying sex.
[03:16] hotter and hotter, more satisfying sex, better orgasms, more pleasure together.
[03:19] better orgasms, more pleasure together as they age.
[03:21] as they age.
[03:23] As age.
[03:23] So that in itself runs against popular thought.
[03:26] runs against popular thought.
[03:26] I know.
[03:28] And and what I'd love to do in this conversation is for us to demystify myths.
[03:30] conversation is for us to demystify myths.
[03:30] myths.
[03:31] Yeah.
[03:33] So that right there, let's start with that.
[03:33] that.
[03:34] Myth number one, myth.
[03:35] myth,
[03:37] by the time you're old, sex is no good.
[03:39] It's like uh just the opposite as far as I can tell you.
[03:40] I can tell you.
[03:43] Really?
[03:43] So So is this a myth that as you get older sex does not become better?
[03:45] get older sex does not become better?
[03:48] sex does not become better?
[03:48] It's a myth.
[03:49] That's a myth.
[03:52] Yeah.
[03:52] And the reason that it is many Here's what happens though.
[03:54] This is why so many people feel like their sex life gets worse as they age.
[03:55] so many people feel like their sex life gets worse as they age.
[03:58] Mitochondrial dysfunction.
[03:59] Right.
[04:00] Okay.
[04:00] Which can you explain what that is?
[04:00] is?
[04:02] Yeah.
[04:02] That's basically the batteries in your cells don't work as well as they used to.
[04:04] your cells don't work as well as they used to.
[04:04] And so you don't have the
[04:06] used to.
[04:06] And so you don't have the energy.
[04:09] You don't make the ATP that is energy.
[04:09] You don't make the ATP that is the spark of energy in your body.
[04:11] So if the spark of energy in your body.
[04:13] So if you don't have enough energy to make love or if you lose flexibility or if you have balance issues, if you're just darn tired, uh you don't have energy left to have great sex.
[04:15] love or if you lose flexibility or if you have balance issues, if you're just darn tired, uh you don't have energy left to have great sex.
[04:17] you have balance issues, if you're just darn tired, uh you don't have energy left to have great sex.
[04:20] darn tired, uh you don't have energy left to have great sex.
[04:22] left to have great sex.
[04:22] But the good news is that when you continuously have good sex,
[04:24] news is that when you continuously have good sex,
[04:26] good sex,
[04:26] and by sex, I don't just mean intercourse.
[04:28] and by sex, I don't just mean intercourse.
[04:30] I mean all the things.
[04:30] Okay. All the things.
[04:32] And let's even park there, right?
[04:32] Yeah.
[04:35] So, what is sex?
[04:36] Yeah.
[04:39] In my opinion, what sex is is intimate connection and pleasure.
[04:41] And I'd go so far as to say orgasmic pleasure because there's a very big distinction physiologically between how much health benefit you get from intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:43] I'd go so far as to say orgasmic pleasure because there's a very big distinction physiologically between how much health benefit you get from intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:46] pleasure because there's a very big distinction physiologically between how much health benefit you get from intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:49] distinction physiologically between how much health benefit you get from intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:51] much health benefit you get from intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:54] intimacy, oxytocin creation, skin on skin contact, co-regulation.
[04:57] Yes.
[04:57] and hot orgasmic bliss states of ecstasy, right?
[05:01] hot orgasmic bliss states of ecstasy, right?
[05:03] That's even better.
[05:05] That's really good.
[05:05] You That's so good.
[05:05] And you can get
[05:07] You That's so good.
[05:07] And you can get there with kissing, breast pleasuring, there with kissing, breast pleasuring, genital pleasuring, oral pleasuring, genital pleasuring, oral pleasuring, intercourse.
[05:18] I mean, there are over 20 kinds of orgasms the human body can have, and they are all learned skills.
[05:23] So, you're saying that you can have an orgasm just through kissing?
[05:28] Oh, god. Yeah. Oh, very much so.
[05:31] Just through breast pleasuring.
[05:33] I can have a core orgasm.
[05:33] I can have a foot gas.
[05:35] I can have a female ejaculatory orgasm.
[05:38] I can have a think off.
[05:40] I can h I can literally be erotically hypnotized.
[05:43] And I can have orgasms on command under hypnosis.
[05:47] So, what I've done over the last two decades that I've been writing the recipes for hot sex, yes, is that I've been systematically achieving having these types of orgasms.
[06:01] And as I figure out how to do it, what the pathways are to it, I write the
[06:07] the pathways are to it, I write the directions down.
[06:08] directions down.
[06:09] I see.
[06:09] So that people can have them with, you know, not with me, but have them too.
[06:12] Have them like I have them.
[06:15] Um, so many women think that they're just not the kind of person who can have an orgasm from intercourse.
[06:18] So, they no longer want to have intercourse.
[06:20] So, you know, then the couple stops having regular pleasure because they think of sex being so narrowly defined as intercourse, right?
[06:30] and she thinks there's something wrong with her rather than the fact that all we ever see in our culture is pictures, movies, stories that are oriented toward the way a penis and a testosterone dominant human person likes sensation.
[06:53] And what I like to do is I like to teach what the vulva owners need as well.
[07:00] And it's nobody's fault that we don't know it.
[07:04] We are coming out of a lot of religious repression, a lot of
[07:10] lot of religious repression, a lot of shame, lack of sex education,
[07:13] shame, lack of sex education, pleasure-based female focused sex
[07:15] pleasure-based female focused sex education.
[07:18] There's very little sexual education.
[07:18] There's very little sexual literacy.
[07:19] As we talked earlier, there's a lot of censorship of what I can even I
[07:22] can't even use the words vagina, vulva,
[07:26] penis, clitoris without putting asterisks.
[07:29] I joke that the story of my life is going to be called segs.
[07:31] S e gs, you know, like the movie about Susan Bratton t the title is s
[07:35] trying to teach pleasure in the age of mass censorship, you know,
[07:46] which is incredible.
[07:48] I mean, even even thinking about that, why do you think
[07:51] that all of these words are censored?
[07:53] Like, why would clitoris
[07:55] or vagina Yeah.
[07:57] be censored?
[07:58] Yeah.
[07:59] Well,
[08:03] it's a political discussion that I probably don't want to get into on a
[08:06] show about pleasure.
[08:09] Wow. Okay.
[08:09] Yeah.
[08:10] Yeah.
[08:10] All right.
[08:10] Fair enough.
[08:10] Fair enough.
[08:12] All right.
[08:12] Fair enough.
[08:12] Fair enough.
[08:12] That says it all right there.
[08:14] That says it all right there.
[08:14] That says it all.
[08:14] So a yoni you refer yoni is the it all.
[08:18] So a yoni you refer yoni is the vulva.
[08:19] It's internal external it's the vagina.
[08:21] It's the urethral sponges the clitoreral.
[08:23] It's the urethral sponges the clitoreral sponges the paranal sponge.
[08:26] Sponges the paranal sponge.
[08:26] The outer labia the inner labia the.
[08:28] The outer labia the inner labia the mon's venus the clitoreral shaft the.
[08:30] Mon's venus the clitoreral shaft the clitoreral tip the paranal area the.
[08:33] Clitoreral tip the paranal area the forchette these are all different.
[08:35] Forchette these are all different locations I see and different types of.
[08:38] Locations I see and different types of tissue in the yoni.
[08:38] Yoni is the kind of a word that I like you know some people.
[08:42] Word that I like you know some people call their kitty or different things.
[08:43] Call their kitty or different things like that.
[08:45] Like that.
[08:45] They're flower and all of them are very pretty.
[08:47] Them are very pretty.
[08:47] I tend to like to teach the word yoni because.
[08:49] Teach the word yoni because because it comes from tantric love.
[08:51] Because it comes from tantric love making which is a very heartconnected.
[08:53] Making which is a very heartconnected kind of love making it.
[08:55] Kind of love making it.
[08:55] We look in each other's eyes, we breathe together, we're.
[08:57] Other's eyes, we breathe together, we're connected in our hearts, we're connected.
[08:59] Connected in our hearts, we're connected in our body.
[09:01] It's really a more spiritual less less friction and more.
[09:04] Spiritual less less friction and more connection which is what I like.
[09:08] That's
[09:10] connection which is what I like.
[09:13] That's the kind of love making techniques that I like to teach are removing it from roleplay or you know feeling like there's a performance and moving it into I don't know where you start and I end in our ecstatic pleasure together.
[09:27] I see. And so I think that that's a really nice word that's comprehensive because vagina that to me that's very male oriented because it's just the part you put your penis in when actually all my action like 60% of my action starts on the outside.
[09:45] This this is such a good point. So I remember uh teaching my sons the difference between a vulva and a vagina.
[09:53] Good. Thanks dad.
[09:54] Yeah. Thank you.
[09:55] Dad award.
[09:58] Yay. I got it. I got it. I got it. And it was because I saw and I think the the research shows that uh seven.
[10:05] You going to break my heart on this one or is like.
[10:08] I'm going to break your heart right now. You may cry right now.
[10:10] Are there tissues? OKAY, I'M READY for
[10:13] Are there tissues?
[10:13] OKAY, I'M READY for it.
[10:13] Okay, get ready.
[10:17] Okay, get ready.
[10:17] 73% of women
[10:17] Yeah.
[10:17] Yeah.
[10:20] in the UK said they do not know what a vulva is.
[10:21] Right.
[10:21] Right.
[10:21] Right.
[10:21] Yeah.
[10:22] Right.
[10:22] So you think about that.
[10:24] That means it's 99% of men,
[10:28] right?
[10:29] And so I remember seeing something along those lines.
[10:31] So I started teaching them the the the difference.
[10:33] Good.
[10:34] So now talking about pleasure.
[10:35] Yeah.
[10:36] What is an orgasm?
[10:38] It's a couple of different things.
[10:41] Primarily, it's a contraction.
[10:44] And because love making is so co-regulating, oxytocin is one of the nicest things that you generate.
[10:48] Like the body is flooded with oxytocin with love making.
[10:53] And one of the things that's kind of neat about oxytocin is that it works on and I just learned this like yesterday that it's a contractile hormone.
[11:03] Okay.
[11:05] And that made a lot of sense to me because contraction is a big part of orgasm.
[11:12] You know when you have the you know when you're like when you come
[11:15] you know when you're like when you come you you know it's a there's a contraction you know it's a there's a contraction there.
[11:18] Yes.
[11:21] And so oxytocin helps with orgasmic response as well as locking the blood flow into the erectile tissue especially of the penis.
[11:29] All right, nerd nerd alert.
[11:33] I mean this this is good. I know.
[11:35] So the contraction happens as a result of the oxytocin.
[11:39] Yeah, that's a big big help is oxytocin.
[11:42] All right, so that makes it the What about excreting any fluids? Is that part of the orgasm as well?
[11:47] Yeah, so there's a lot of things that happen during an orgasm.
[11:49] There's a neurotransmitter cascade, there's a hormone cascade, there's a contraction and a release.
[11:56] That's very nervous system rebooting.
[11:58] Okay?
[12:00] There's um all kinds of things.
[12:02] Like literally, when you have an orgasm, you release NK cells, natural killer cells.
[12:08] Natural killer cells are the little cells that gang up like Pac-Man in your bloodstream and eat precancerous cells
[12:15] bloodstream and eat precancerous cells and scinsesscent cells, the zombie cells.
[12:17] and scinsesscent cells, the zombie cells that the you know that the longevity people speak about.
[12:19] I mean, this is why I talk a lot about how your if you extend your sex span, you extend your health span and your happiness span.
[12:24] because you're getting the oxytocin, you're getting the neuro, you're getting the dopamine, you're getting the serotonin, you're getting all these things.
[12:34] Yes.
[12:37] So an orgasm is both the there's a lot of pathways from your genitals or all parts of your body like there's rafini nerve endings and uh carpinian carpinian core pusles and mechano receptors and there's all these little cellular signals that are sending pleasure signals to your brain.
[12:54] Your brain is your biggest sex organ because it's processing sensation and telling you, "Oh, that feels good, right?"
[13:05] Like that's what it's doing.
[13:07] Yes.
[13:08] So, all this stuff's happening concurrently in your body.
[13:11] So, having oxytocin and having intimacy and holding hands and things like that, they're all
[13:16] hands and things like that, they're all great.
[13:18] As a matter of fact, one of my favorite things about oxytocin is that it makes you less annoyed with people.
[13:23] Oh my goodness.
[13:23] Uh could we all use a little bit more of that right now?
[13:25] Like, let's go.
[13:27] How where?
[13:28] Give me a double shot of oxytocin.
[13:29] Right.
[13:31] So, you're saying we all need more orgasms in our life?
[13:32] Yes.
[13:35] Because it creates empathy as well as joy and co-regulation.
[13:38] You like people better, not just your spouse or your partner or your lover or whatever, but you actually like people better.
[13:41] You like you think nature's more beautiful and paint and painting and art and music are more beautiful.
[13:43] Food tastes better.
[13:46] connected to oxytocin, obviously orgasms.
[13:48] Would you suggest that there is an optimal number of orgasms we should be having?
[13:51] So, for example, one a day.
[13:53] Is that enough?
[13:55] Is that too much?
[13:56] That's a low bar.
[13:58] Are you serious?
[14:01] I mean, you can come you can come for hours.
[14:04] I mean, you can you can just h you can just roll through orgasms.
[14:05] So, men as well.
[14:06] Yes.
[14:07] Uh all 20 kind of orgasms are
[14:18] Yes.
[14:18] Uh all 20 kind of orgasms are available to the male and female body.
[14:20] available to the male and female body.
[14:20] We have this thing. called homologous parts.
[14:23] parts.
[14:23] You've listed at least 50 words I have no idea how to spell.
[14:26] no idea how to spell.
[14:26] I like the science of sex and I think it really does help people get like get connected to it a little more and then open to it like when they realize oh this is really important to my life you know like if I really want to have a good long healthy happy life.
[14:32] really does help people get like get connected to it a little more and then
[14:34] connected to it a little more and then
[14:35] open to it like when they realize oh
[14:38] this is really important to my life you know like if I really want to have a
[14:40] know like if I really want to have a good long healthy happy life.
[14:43] So for me I'm 64 right now and I'm having the absolute best sex of my life.
[14:46] I'm 64 right now and I'm having the absolute best sex of my life.
[14:49] I've ha I have orgasms so easily in so many ways and I've been 20 years ago I got into doing what I do because I wasn't having any orgasms at all and I'd had sex with my husband for 11 years and I was avoiding him for sex because I didn't have orgasms.
[14:52] have orgasms so easily in so many ways and I've been 20 years ago I got into
[14:56] and I've been 20 years ago I got into doing what I do because I wasn't having
[14:58] doing what I do because I wasn't having any orgasms at all and I'd had sex with
[15:01] any orgasms at all and I'd had sex with my husband for 11 years and I was
[15:04] my husband for 11 years and I was avoiding him for sex because I didn't
[15:06] avoiding him for sex because I didn't have orgasms.
[15:08] I didn't think I could. He didn't think I could. Buddies do want to have sex anyway, right?
[15:10] didn't think I could. Buddies do want to have sex anyway, right?
[15:13] That's just how it is in so many places because we don't know that we could just learn how to do it.
[15:16] it is in so many places because we don't know that we could just learn how to do
[15:17] know that we could just learn how to do it.
[15:17] it.
[15:17] And and that in itself I think is a myth
[15:20] And and that in itself I think is a myth that we should unpack.
[15:22] That we should unpack is if I have not had an orgasm.
[15:24] If I have not had an orgasm yet.
[15:25] Yet.
[15:25] Yet. That's the word.
[15:27] That's the word. It means I cannot have an orgasm in the future.
[15:30] Future. No, you can always have an orgasm in the future.
[15:33] Future. You just need to learn how.
[15:36] Okay. And even if I haven't had it for 10 years in in your example, you haven't had it.
[15:39] Okay. Yeah. Of course. It's just learning the pathways and training your body to feel sensation and being able to stay in sensation.
[15:47] Okay. Now, now you mentioned it was what 10 or 11 years with your husband that you had never had had an orgasm uh from intercourse from intercourse.
[15:58] And I couldn't I could have one with a vibrator, which was great. So, I knew I could get there, but and this was back in the old days when the vibrators weren't so good. I brought you some really great stuff to show you. So, you've improved.
[16:11] Oh, man. I'm I mean like literally one of the things that I brought to show you today I'm having a whole new level of orgasmic intercourse and I thought I was already like an Olympic gold I'm an
[16:21] already like an Olympic gold I'm an Olympic gold medals orgasmmer and I'm Olympic gold medals orgasmmer and I'm like whatever is beyond category now.
[16:26] like whatever is beyond category now like a crazy.
[16:28] like a crazy >> all right we we are going to get to that.
[16:30] all right we we are going to get to that we're going to get to that vibrator.
[16:34] we're going to get to that vibrator >> and and but but in that what I want to get to also is that so 11year period no.
[16:36] and and but but in that what I want to get to also is that so 11year period no orgasm through penetration.
[16:40] orgasm through penetration. A survey of over 2,000 people found that 68% of women admitted to faking orgasms.
[16:43] A survey of over 2,000 people found that 68% of women admitted to faking orgasms.
[16:46] women admitted to faking orgasms. >> 27% of men said that they fake orgasm.
[16:49] 27% of men said that they fake orgasm.
[16:52] Um women I know have uh I think what is it roughly 80% or more of women have had sex with their partner without the desire to uh to have sex.
[16:55] Um women I know have uh I think what is it roughly 80% or more of women have had sex with their partner without the desire to uh to have sex.
[16:58] sex with their partner without the desire to uh to have sex. Although that's that's slightly different.
[17:02] desire to uh to have sex. Although that's that's slightly different.
[17:05] that's that's slightly different. >> That pro that that number could be low.
[17:06] That pro that that number could be low.
[17:09] There's a lot of what we like to call duty booty going on. Daddy booty. Duty booty.
[17:11] duty booty going on. Daddy booty. Duty booty.
[17:14] I used to call it mercy sex and then somebody was like, "Oh, I call that duty booty." I'm like, "Sealing it."
[17:16] I used to call it mercy sex and then somebody was like, "Oh, I call that duty booty." I'm like, "Sealing it."
[17:17] duty booty." I'm like, "Sealing it."
[17:20] Okay. So, you're saying virtually all
[17:22] Okay. So, you're saying virtually all women are handing out some duty booty at some time.
[17:25] some time.
[17:25] Most women are.
[17:26] Most women are.
[17:26] Most women are.
[17:27] Most women are.
[17:27] Most women are.
[17:27] So, this was you.
[17:28] So, this was you.
[17:28] Yeah.
[17:29] Yeah.
[17:29] You You were hand and and No.
[17:32] So, what then what then inspires you to then continue to have sex if you're not having the orgasm?
[17:38] Is it simply for the pleasure of your husband?
[17:43] Because you think you should because he's a miserable bastard if if you don't because he's Dr. Grumpy Land because you know it's easier just to submit to it.
[17:53] Like there's just a lot of that out there.
[17:55] or women who are like, well, it get makes me close to him or whatever, you know, like they've kind of justified or they just think they can't, but they they're supposed to, right?
[18:04] And it's my job like I have a commitment to him.
[18:08] All right.
[18:08] So, so when you were in that space,
[18:11] Yeah.
[18:11] What did you do to pivot out of that?
[18:13] And then how did you finally get the orgasm through penetration?
[18:20] Yeah. Uh was really a couple of things.
[18:20] The first was that Tim and I and now
[18:23] The first was that Tim and I and now I've been married to this man for 34 years.
[18:24] I've been married to this man for 34 years.
[18:26] I've been with him longer than I haven't.
[18:28] We crested over about four years ago.
[18:32] So, he's my life partner and we've been through thick and thin.
[18:34] We've lost money together.
[18:36] We've been almost dead together.
[18:38] We've done everything.
[18:40] So, like there ain't nothing I don't get through with that man, which is great.
[18:41] But what really helped us was a friend of mine, Taber.
[18:44] He worked for Brad Blandon who wrote the book Radical Honesty.
[18:46] He worked for Brad Blandon who wrote the book Radical Honesty.
[18:47] Honesty.
[18:48] Yes. And um he was like, "Well, you guys just really need to start telling the truth.
[18:51] Well, you guys just really need to start telling the truth.
[18:53] Like, it would be super helpful in your marriage.
[18:54] You're struggling.
[18:56] And um we started telling the truth.
[18:58] And we had to unlearn all of the ways that our society and culture teaches us to lie.
[19:01] Walking on eggshells, withholding, you know, letting things go even though they bother you, stuffing things, white lies, you know, omission of detail.
[19:02] lie.
[19:06] Walking on eggshells, withholding, you know, letting things go even though they bother you, stuffing things, white lies, you know, omission of detail.
[19:08] Oh gosh.
[19:11] I mean, you know how Santa roll unfurls his list and it just rolls to like the around the universe.
[19:14] Like that's how many things we have in our culture around not telling
[19:16] unfurls his list
[19:17] and it just rolls
[19:18] and it just rolls to like the around the universe.
[19:20] Like that's how many things we have in our culture around not telling
[19:22] universe.
[19:24] have in our culture around not telling our truth, right?
[19:24] And that's oppression.
[19:27] our truth, right?
[19:27] And that's oppression.
[19:30] I am an anti-opression person in every aspect of my life.
[19:33] I like to uncover where oppression exists, remove the shame, and then allow people to live into their potential.
[19:38] And one of the biggest places to do that is your sexuality.
[19:41] And the other one is in just speaking your truth.
[19:45] Yes.
[19:47] And the hardest part isn't really me telling you my truth.
[19:49] The hardest part is like catching yourself how much you begin to realize how much you've covered up your true desires and you think it's going to sound mean to tell your truth when in reality and my husband is super solid.
[20:10] Um, you know, I have a strong personality and he just loves who I am and he's like, "Is that all you got, baby? Give me some more."
[20:18] Okay.
[20:21] So, he's hungry for everything I have in every aspect.
[20:23] So, I was lucky that way.
[20:23] Do you recall that conversation?
[20:26] >> Do you recall that conversation? >> Yeah. We decided to become radically
[20:28] >> Yeah. We decided to become radically honest. We practiced radical honesty.
[20:31] honest. We practiced radical honesty. And there were times when I would tell
[20:32] And there were times when I would tell him, you know, when you enter me, my
[20:35] him, you know, when you enter me, my turnon just goes down. like it literally
[20:38] turnon just goes down. like it literally just it's like it's like my turn on got
[20:41] just it's like it's like my turn on got clubbed by your penis. It's I just don't
[20:45] clubbed by your penis. It's I just don't know why that is but it's just like a
[20:46] know why that is but it's just like a down. And so he was like oh
[20:50] down. And so he was like oh okay well let's make it an up. What do
[20:54] okay well let's make it an up. What do we need to do? And the second thing we
[20:55] we need to do? And the second thing we did was we we went to therapist and that
[20:58] did was we we went to therapist and that was helpful for some aspects of our
[21:00] was helpful for some aspects of our relating.
[21:01] relating. >> Okay. But what it was was really helpful
[21:04] >> Okay. But what it was was really helpful for dealing with his frustration at me
[21:06] for dealing with his frustration at me and it was really helpful for me in some
[21:09] and it was really helpful for me in some of the trauma that had happened to me.
[21:12] of the trauma that had happened to me. But what really helped was going to sex
[21:14] But what really helped was going to sex workshops.
[21:15] workshops. >> Okay.
[21:16] >> Okay. >> And we went to them and they were so
[21:18] >> And we went to them and they were so scary. I mean on the way there I'd have
[21:19] scary. I mean on the way there I'd have to get out of the car and I'd have to
[21:20] to get out of the car and I'd have to like jump around and like you know like
[21:23] like jump around and like you know like just you know it was like so edgy for
[21:27] just you know it was like so edgy for me. I'd never even looked at my own
[21:29] me. I'd never even looked at my own vulva at that point. Like I'd never been
[21:31] vulva at that point. Like I'd never been like, "What's it going to look like?"
[21:32] like, "What's it going to look like?" I'd never done that.
[21:34] I'd never done that. >> Okay.
[21:35] >> Okay. >> So, I was really like pretty much
[21:38] >> So, I was really like pretty much everybody is super shy about sex. Didn't
[21:40] everybody is super shy about sex. Didn't have the words for it, you know. And so,
[21:41] have the words for it, you know. And so, this was very edgy. We went to the sex
[21:44] this was very edgy. We went to the sex workshops and we learned what to do. And
[21:47] workshops and we learned what to do. And one of the things we learned was an
[21:48] one of the things we learned was an expanded orgasm practice, which is
[21:50] expanded orgasm practice, which is basically a yoni massage with a very
[21:52] basically a yoni massage with a very light clitoreral stroking. And what that
[21:55] light clitoreral stroking. And what that helped me do was begin to stay in
[21:57] helped me do was begin to stay in sensation. When you go to a therapist, a
[22:01] sensation. When you go to a therapist, a sex therapist, one of the very common
[22:04] sex therapist, one of the very common modalities that they'll work on is
[22:05] modalities that they'll work on is helping you stay in the feeling of
[22:09] helping you stay in the feeling of pleasure because we tend to
[22:12] pleasure because we tend to >> just we we leave the scene.
[22:15] >> just we we leave the scene. >> Okay,
[22:15] >> Okay, >> we check out,
[22:16] >> we check out, >> okay?
[22:16] >> okay? >> You know, we just go numb. And so
[22:19] >> You know, we just go numb. And so learning how to stay in sensation was a
[22:21] learning how to stay in sensation was a very very important part of this for me
[22:24] very very important part of this for me because I would dissociate because it
[22:26] because I would dissociate because it was bringing me down because it wasn't
[22:28] was bringing me down because it wasn't pleasurable. It felt weird to me. And so
[22:31] pleasurable. It felt weird to me. And so we went to the sex workshops and boom,
[22:34] we went to the sex workshops and boom, ignition. Like I started coming, we
[22:36] ignition. Like I started coming, we started having a blast. Then I was like,
[22:38] started having a blast. Then I was like, "Now I want to try this. Oh, I want to
[22:39] "Now I want to try this. Oh, I want to de armor my G-spot. I want to try female
[22:41] de armor my G-spot. I want to try female ejaculation. I want to learn this. I
[22:43] ejaculation. I want to learn this. I want to learn that." out and we just
[22:44] want to learn that." out and we just went on this journey and we realized my
[22:47] went on this journey and we realized my gosh most people aren't going to spend
[22:49] gosh most people aren't going to spend the money to get naked at a sex workshop
[22:51] the money to get naked at a sex workshop and learn what to do.
[22:52] and learn what to do. >> That that's inspirational because you
[22:55] >> That that's inspirational because you you know you and your husband you had to
[22:58] you know you and your husband you had to be brave.
[23:00] be brave. You had to be brave and and I think that
[23:02] You had to be brave and and I think that there's a reluctance to be brave you
[23:04] there's a reluctance to be brave you know to to face the hard stuff. Feel
[23:06] know to to face the hard stuff. Feel like the harder stuff that we face the
[23:07] like the harder stuff that we face the higher quality of of life we get. One of
[23:10] higher quality of of life we get. One of the things that I think is super helpful
[23:13] the things that I think is super helpful for people
[23:15] for people is to have a sex life bucket list.
[23:18] is to have a sex life bucket list. >> Interesting. Okay.
[23:19] >> Interesting. Okay. >> To have a little list somewhere. I mean
[23:22] >> To have a little list somewhere. I mean I wherever you want to keep that list
[23:24] I wherever you want to keep that list right in your spank bank or on the
[23:27] right in your spank bank or on the refrigerator on a post-it note. It
[23:29] refrigerator on a post-it note. It doesn't really matter. But what are you
[23:30] doesn't really matter. But what are you guys learning? Or even as a solo
[23:33] guys learning? Or even as a solo pleasurer, if you're not partnered, but
[23:36] pleasurer, if you're not partnered, but you're solo pleasuring to increment your
[23:38] you're solo pleasuring to increment your pleasure and orgasmic capacity.
[23:41] pleasure and orgasmic capacity. >> Okay?
[23:41] >> Okay? >> Right? You're expanding your orgasmic
[23:43] >> Right? You're expanding your orgasmic potential. You're learning orgasmic
[23:45] potential. You're learning orgasmic activation.
[23:47] activation. So, as you're doing that, what are the
[23:48] So, as you're doing that, what are the kinds of things you want to learn? What
[23:50] kinds of things you want to learn? What experiences do you want to have? And I
[23:52] experiences do you want to have? And I like to call those erotic playdates.
[23:54] like to call those erotic playdates. They're different than like if you if
[23:56] They're different than like if you if you if if I said you should have sex,
[23:58] you if if I said you should have sex, people be like, "Okay, well, we already
[24:00] people be like, "Okay, well, we already do that really well." Okay, well, what
[24:02] do that really well." Okay, well, what about an expanded orgasm practice? What
[24:04] about an expanded orgasm practice? What about learning yoni and lingum massage?
[24:06] about learning yoni and lingum massage? Lingum is the word for the penis. Like
[24:08] Lingum is the word for the penis. Like yoni is the word for the velvo vaginal
[24:10] yoni is the word for the velvo vaginal system.
[24:11] system. >> Okay,
[24:11] >> Okay, >> lingum. It's a nice word. It sounds
[24:13] >> lingum. It's a nice word. It sounds good, too.
[24:13] good, too. >> Lingum. Yeah,
[24:14] >> Lingum. Yeah, >> it sounds like it wants a licking to me,
[24:16] >> it sounds like it wants a licking to me, doesn't it?
[24:17] doesn't it? >> It does.
[24:17] >> It does. >> Lapping lings. I mean, it just all
[24:20] >> Lapping lings. I mean, it just all sounds so good.
[24:21] sounds so good. >> Yes.
[24:22] >> Yes. >> Yeah. So, um,
[24:23] >> Yeah. So, um, >> what's what's on your sex bucket list
[24:25] >> what's what's on your sex bucket list now, Susan?
[24:25] now, Susan? >> Oh, God. There's constantly new things.
[24:27] >> Oh, God. There's constantly new things. But I'll tell you, one of the things
[24:28] But I'll tell you, one of the things that I've been doing recently is I've
[24:31] that I've been doing recently is I've been having remote sex dates with my
[24:34] been having remote sex dates with my partner. So, we travel a fair amount.
[24:37] partner. So, we travel a fair amount. Like, he's in Nashville right now
[24:38] Like, he's in Nashville right now presenting some patent ideas while I'm
[24:41] presenting some patent ideas while I'm here in LA talking to you. Yes.
[24:43] here in LA talking to you. Yes. >> And so, we have really hot remote
[24:47] >> And so, we have really hot remote pleasuring dates together. And uh I
[24:50] pleasuring dates together. And uh I brought some tech to show you. So
[24:52] brought some tech to show you. So >> yeah h So how do you do this? Can can
[24:54] >> yeah h So how do you do this? Can can you
[24:54] you >> you want me to me show you right now?
[24:55] >> you want me to me show you right now? >> Absolutely.
[24:56] >> Absolutely. >> Let's let's get right into it.
[24:58] >> Let's let's get right into it. >> So this this is a stroker and a stroker.
[25:02] >> So this this is a stroker and a stroker. >> This is a stroker. And it is I can't get
[25:04] >> This is a stroker. And it is I can't get the lid off. This is a stroker. And um I
[25:08] the lid off. This is a stroker. And um I release the vacuum. And it's it's a
[25:11] release the vacuum. And it's it's a vulva, right? It's a vulva. And a penis
[25:14] vulva, right? It's a vulva. And a penis goes inside here with some lubricant.
[25:17] goes inside here with some lubricant. >> Oh. So he
[25:19] >> Oh. So he >> would have the stroker.
[25:20] >> would have the stroker. >> Yes, he has the stroker. And I have
[25:25] >> Yes, he has the stroker. And I have >> these two products. This is the pro wand
[25:28] >> these two products. This is the pro wand and this is called the Pearl 3. And the
[25:32] and this is called the Pearl 3. And the entire thing, let me turn it on for you.
[25:34] entire thing, let me turn it on for you. The entire thing it this whole thing
[25:40] The entire thing it this whole thing vibrates and creates sensation. Now I
[25:42] vibrates and creates sensation. Now I charged this earlier, so I know I wasn't
[25:44] charged this earlier, so I know I wasn't to hold. There we go.
[25:46] to hold. There we go. I'm like, "Come on, girl. You charged
[25:48] I'm like, "Come on, girl. You charged this earlier."
[25:48] this earlier." >> And then also, Susan, ju just for for
[25:50] >> And then also, Susan, ju just for for audio listeners, what are you holding
[25:52] audio listeners, what are you holding right now? What is
[25:52] right now? What is >> So, I'm holding what's called a
[25:55] >> So, I'm holding what's called a vibrating
[25:57] vibrating vaginal massage product.
[26:00] vaginal massage product. >> Okay.
[26:01] >> Okay. >> So, this has three little bumps on it
[26:04] >> So, this has three little bumps on it for the G-spot, but the entire thing
[26:06] for the G-spot, but the entire thing vibrates.
[26:06] vibrates. >> Let me see. Oh, wow. Look at feel that.
[26:09] >> Let me see. Oh, wow. Look at feel that. So that feels really good inside the
[26:12] So that feels really good inside the vagina because the vagina wants to kind
[26:15] vagina because the vagina wants to kind of like chew on things a little. It
[26:17] of like chew on things a little. It wants something to grip. It wants
[26:19] wants something to grip. It wants something to play with.
[26:21] something to play with. >> You can push the button. It'll go up a
[26:23] >> You can push the button. It'll go up a few more and it'll do patterns like
[26:26] few more and it'll do patterns like that.
[26:26] that. >> Can you This is This is pretty intense.
[26:28] >> Can you This is This is pretty intense. >> It gives a very nice sensation. You want
[26:30] >> It gives a very nice sensation. You want to start low and work your way up.
[26:32] to start low and work your way up. >> Oh my goodness. This is like super
[26:34] >> Oh my goodness. This is like super speed.
[26:35] speed. >> I know.
[26:36] >> I know. >> F1 racer. Okay. And what's nice about it
[26:39] >> F1 racer. Okay. And what's nice about it is that it will synchronize through the
[26:41] is that it will synchronize through the app to the stroker. And the stroker has
[26:45] app to the stroker. And the stroker has another chamber you can put on it called
[26:47] another chamber you can put on it called the keyon. And it'll automatically
[26:50] the keyon. And it'll automatically stroke your penis. He handsfree. It even
[26:53] stroke your penis. He handsfree. It even comes with a pillow with a little strap
[26:55] comes with a pillow with a little strap on it. And so my husband can lie there
[26:58] on it. And so my husband can lie there and have his penis be pleasured in here.
[27:01] and have his penis be pleasured in here. And and he's using the app to control
[27:03] And and he's using the app to control it.
[27:04] it. >> I see. I'm on video and he's on video on
[27:07] >> I see. I'm on video and he's on video on the app and I'm feeling what he's
[27:11] the app and I'm feeling what he's feeling in his penis inside my vagina.
[27:15] feeling in his penis inside my vagina. Let me turn it on for you. Hang on here.
[27:19] Let me turn it on for you. Hang on here. You can turn the buttons up this way.
[27:20] You can turn the buttons up this way. >> Okay, let me see.
[27:21] >> Okay, let me see. >> One on the end, the furthest one from
[27:22] >> One on the end, the furthest one from your thumb. And that's really good for
[27:26] your thumb. And that's really good for using all on the outside of the vulva
[27:28] using all on the outside of the vulva because underneath the outer labia.
[27:32] because underneath the outer labia. >> Oh my good, the speed of this.
[27:34] >> Oh my good, the speed of this. >> That's a nice motor. And so what's so
[27:37] >> That's a nice motor. And so what's so interesting is that
[27:40] interesting is that I've had literally a new kind of orgasm
[27:44] I've had literally a new kind of orgasm from the experience of our remote love
[27:47] from the experience of our remote love making.
[27:49] making. We have great communication. We don't
[27:51] We have great communication. We don't mind if it takes a minute to get things
[27:52] mind if it takes a minute to get things set up. We're having fun together. But I
[27:55] set up. We're having fun together. But I had a new kind of an orgasmic sensation
[27:59] had a new kind of an orgasmic sensation from feeling what feels good to his
[28:01] from feeling what feels good to his penis in my vagina. So the clitoris,
[28:05] penis in my vagina. So the clitoris, most people know that it's like an 8020
[28:09] most people know that it's like an 8020 kind of a thing where 20% of the
[28:10] kind of a thing where 20% of the clitoris is external.
[28:12] clitoris is external. >> Yes.
[28:12] >> Yes. >> The little nub and the little shaft that
[28:14] >> The little nub and the little shaft that you see, it's the same as the penis.
[28:17] you see, it's the same as the penis. This is the homologous tissue. Yes. Yes,
[28:20] This is the homologous tissue. Yes. Yes, we have the same parts, but they're in
[28:22] we have the same parts, but they're in slightly different configuration, but
[28:24] slightly different configuration, but they started out the same and then they
[28:26] they started out the same and then they just grew differently in uterero based
[28:28] just grew differently in uterero based on hormones, chromosome, etc.
[28:31] on hormones, chromosome, etc. >> Yes.
[28:32] >> Yes. >> And the outer labia have the legs of the
[28:36] >> And the outer labia have the legs of the clitoris under them. The top of the
[28:40] clitoris under them. The top of the inside of the vagina has not just
[28:42] inside of the vagina has not just g-spot, it's not a spot, it's a long
[28:45] g-spot, it's not a spot, it's a long tube of erectile tissue. It's the same
[28:48] tube of erectile tissue. It's the same one that runs down your penis on the
[28:50] one that runs down your penis on the bottom. You know how you've got that one
[28:52] bottom. You know how you've got that one tube on the bottom of your penis and
[28:53] tube on the bottom of your penis and then you got the two along the top?
[28:54] then you got the two along the top? >> This this this is what makes up the
[28:56] >> This this this is what makes up the G-spot.
[28:57] G-spot. >> That's Yeah, I did not realize a
[28:58] >> That's Yeah, I did not realize a >> spongy tube and the clitoreral arms kind
[29:01] >> spongy tube and the clitoreral arms kind of travel beside it. So, there's tons of
[29:04] of travel beside it. So, there's tons of nerve endings and then there's a third
[29:06] nerve endings and then there's a third spongy tissue on the bottom of the
[29:08] spongy tissue on the bottom of the vagina between the floor of the vagina
[29:10] vagina between the floor of the vagina and the top of the anal. You know, and I
[29:14] and the top of the anal. You know, and I think I think if I can ask this is some
[29:17] think I think if I can ask this is some people are going to hear that and say
[29:20] people are going to hear that and say that's bizarre.
[29:21] that's bizarre. >> Yeah.
[29:21] >> Yeah. >> Right now, I think I'm at a point where
[29:25] >> Right now, I think I'm at a point where I have been interested enough in sex
[29:27] I have been interested enough in sex toys to look at this and say, "No, this
[29:29] toys to look at this and say, "No, this is the future."
[29:31] is the future." >> It is.
[29:32] >> It is. >> But what is your response to those that
[29:35] >> But what is your response to those that say, "No, this actually is not good.
[29:38] say, "No, this actually is not good. We're actually we're now in a place that
[29:40] We're actually we're now in a place that is unnatural." Yeah. and we shouldn't be
[29:43] is unnatural." Yeah. and we shouldn't be using this type of tech.
[29:45] using this type of tech. >> This would be a good place for me to to
[29:47] >> This would be a good place for me to to show you what the vagina wants. Can I do
[29:49] show you what the vagina wants. Can I do that?
[29:49] that? >> Absolutely. Absolutely.
[29:51] >> Absolutely. Absolutely. >> So, and then I want to come back to your
[29:53] >> So, and then I want to come back to your question about why it's beneficial not
[29:57] question about why it's beneficial not scary.
[29:58] scary. >> Okay.
[29:59] >> Okay. >> So, and and these device all these
[30:01] >> So, and and these device all these devices connect to So, what I've been
[30:04] devices connect to So, what I've been talking about is haptics and
[30:06] talking about is haptics and teladelonics. I'm going to give you the
[30:08] teladelonics. I'm going to give you the vocabulary.
[30:08] vocabulary. >> Oh my god. Okay.
[30:09] >> Oh my god. Okay. >> Haptics is the feeling. Oh, I could feel
[30:12] >> Haptics is the feeling. Oh, I could feel it in my vagina. That's the haptics.
[30:14] it in my vagina. That's the haptics. It's the sensation, the pulsation, the
[30:16] It's the sensation, the pulsation, the vibration, the oscillation, all those
[30:19] vibration, the oscillation, all those things. Okay.
[30:20] things. Okay. >> The teladildonics is the remoteness, the
[30:23] >> The teladildonics is the remoteness, the remote aspect. And that could also be
[30:25] remote aspect. And that could also be called synchronized remote sexuality.
[30:28] called synchronized remote sexuality. So, there's many words for this.
[30:30] So, there's many words for this. Remember before we started and I was
[30:31] Remember before we started and I was talking about how some people are visual
[30:33] talking about how some people are visual learners.
[30:33] learners. >> Absolutely.
[30:34] >> Absolutely. >> Some people are auditory, some people
[30:36] >> Some people are auditory, some people are more kinesthetic, and some people
[30:38] are more kinesthetic, and some people are more visual learners. Well,
[30:39] are more visual learners. Well, kinesthetic learners, like I can tell
[30:41] kinesthetic learners, like I can tell you my dowist thrusting technique,
[30:43] you my dowist thrusting technique, thrust in time. I can tell you it's a 10
[30:45] thrust in time. I can tell you it's a 10 count. It's shallow strokes and deep
[30:48] count. It's shallow strokes and deep strokes and how to do it and all that
[30:50] strokes and how to do it and all that stuff. But if you put your penis in here
[30:52] stuff. But if you put your penis in here and you feel what I'm actually telling
[30:55] and you feel what I'm actually telling you to do,
[30:56] you to do, >> yes,
[30:57] >> yes, >> then you're like, "OH,
[31:00] >> then you're like, "OH, I got it." So, that's one of the that's
[31:03] I got it." So, that's one of the that's the place we're going is that you can
[31:06] the place we're going is that you can currently hook to adult video, but you
[31:08] currently hook to adult video, but you are going to soon also be able to learn
[31:12] are going to soon also be able to learn how to make better love, how to have
[31:14] how to make better love, how to have orgasmic intercourse, orgasmic oral
[31:17] orgasmic intercourse, orgasmic oral pleasuring, yoni massage, all of these
[31:20] pleasuring, yoni massage, all of these things. Toggling, peeking, touching for
[31:23] things. Toggling, peeking, touching for rapture. I've done so I have so many
[31:26] rapture. I've done so I have so many techniques.
[31:26] techniques. >> And how and how long can you now hold an
[31:29] >> And how and how long can you now hold an orgasm? I mean, I can come for, you
[31:33] orgasm? I mean, I can come for, you know, I can come for an hour straight
[31:35] know, I can come for an hour straight from light, delicate, clitoreral strike.
[31:37] from light, delicate, clitoreral strike. Serious. Yeah. I mean, you just learn
[31:38] Serious. Yeah. I mean, you just learn how to stay sat. You just ride the
[31:40] how to stay sat. You just ride the sensation. You can just come and come
[31:41] sensation. You can just come and come and come
[31:42] and come >> for for an hour.
[31:43] >> for for an hour. >> Easy. I just I got to have a drink of
[31:45] >> Easy. I just I got to have a drink of water. I got to take a rest. That's all.
[31:49] water. I got to take a rest. That's all. >> That's
[31:50] >> That's you are an Olympian.
[31:52] you are an Olympian. >> I am, but everybody is.
[31:53] >> I am, but everybody is. >> But everyone is
[31:54] >> But everyone is >> this guy. And thank you for having me
[31:56] >> this guy. And thank you for having me because people if they know these
[31:58] because people if they know these things, then they're like, well, all
[31:59] things, then they're like, well, all right. I'm doing I'm doing it, you know.
[32:01] right. I'm doing I'm doing it, you know. >> Does it does it does it reach a point
[32:03] >> Does it does it does it reach a point though where it's too long?
[32:04] though where it's too long? >> No. No.
[32:05] >> No. No. >> And I don't usually come for an hour. We
[32:07] >> And I don't usually come for an hour. We have to move positions and things like
[32:08] have to move positions and things like that, but um I will have an extended
[32:11] that, but um I will have an extended love making experience that will include
[32:13] love making experience that will include often it'll include yoni and linga
[32:16] often it'll include yoni and linga massage. It'll include breast pleasuring
[32:19] massage. It'll include breast pleasuring because uh kissing and breast pleasuring
[32:22] because uh kissing and breast pleasuring your body h there's a pyramid a three
[32:25] your body h there's a pyramid a three axis pyramid of arousal that includes
[32:29] axis pyramid of arousal that includes your lips and tongue your mouth and
[32:31] your lips and tongue your mouth and throat your breasts and nipples for men
[32:34] throat your breasts and nipples for men as well. Men just don't think they can
[32:36] as well. Men just don't think they can have it but they can. We have the same
[32:37] have it but they can. We have the same bodies. You can be many men are very
[32:40] bodies. You can be many men are very orgasmic from nipplegasms.
[32:41] orgasmic from nipplegasms. >> Wow.
[32:42] >> Wow. >> And and anybody can learn how. And then
[32:44] >> And and anybody can learn how. And then the genital system. And when you when
[32:46] the genital system. And when you when you start to kiss, that starts the let
[32:49] you start to kiss, that starts the let down, the release, and then stimulating
[32:51] down, the release, and then stimulating the breasts and nipples. That really
[32:54] the breasts and nipples. That really helps get the blood flowing into the
[32:56] helps get the blood flowing into the genitals because we need blood flow to
[33:00] genitals because we need blood flow to fill up the tissue.
[33:01] fill up the tissue. >> Yes.
[33:02] >> Yes. >> To have more surface area to send the
[33:06] >> To have more surface area to send the signals to our big our biggest sex
[33:08] signals to our big our biggest sex organ, our brain.
[33:09] organ, our brain. >> Our brain. Wow. Look at that. Look at
[33:11] >> Our brain. Wow. Look at that. Look at that. So on this note, because you're
[33:12] that. So on this note, because you're talking about ejaculation, premature
[33:14] talking about ejaculation, premature ejaculation is a topic that a lot of men
[33:19] ejaculation is a topic that a lot of men um don't want to talk about, but it is
[33:21] um don't want to talk about, but it is an issue.
[33:22] an issue. >> That's the number one issue of men.
[33:23] >> That's the number one issue of men. >> Is it?
[33:24] >> Is it? >> Yes. Um and I would I would actually put
[33:25] >> Yes. Um and I would I would actually put it in the category of performance
[33:27] it in the category of performance anxiety, like generalized anxiety. And
[33:30] anxiety, like generalized anxiety. And there are a number of things that you
[33:32] there are a number of things that you can do, um techniques that help you
[33:34] can do, um techniques that help you become more present because often what
[33:36] become more present because often what happens to men, you guys are the best.
[33:39] happens to men, you guys are the best. You want to please us so much, you do
[33:43] You want to please us so much, you do anything to give us pleasure. You'd give
[33:45] anything to give us pleasure. You'd give up your pleasure for our pleasure. You
[33:47] up your pleasure for our pleasure. You know, men have been painted as being so
[33:49] know, men have been painted as being so selfish and, you know, it's all for them
[33:52] selfish and, you know, it's all for them or what have you. And it's not. They
[33:54] or what have you. And it's not. They just don't know what to do. And that's
[33:57] just don't know what to do. And that's why I love what I do because I love to
[33:59] why I love what I do because I love to tell men how to give their partners
[34:01] tell men how to give their partners incredible pleasure. And a part of it is
[34:04] incredible pleasure. And a part of it is that they get the performance anxiety
[34:06] that they get the performance anxiety because they're thinking about something
[34:07] because they're thinking about something that happened last time that didn't go
[34:09] that happened last time that didn't go well or they're catastrophizing what
[34:11] well or they're catastrophizing what could happen and they're not present and
[34:14] could happen and they're not present and in their body. And so a lot of premature
[34:18] in their body. And so a lot of premature ejaculation is uh solo pleasuring too
[34:23] ejaculation is uh solo pleasuring too fast, too hard, and then they kind of
[34:26] fast, too hard, and then they kind of get into that routine. Some of it is
[34:28] get into that routine. Some of it is just they're very very sensitive and uh
[34:31] just they're very very sensitive and uh they have to learn how to manage being
[34:33] they have to learn how to manage being overly sensitive and it you know just
[34:35] overly sensitive and it you know just like like they can barely even penetrate
[34:37] like like they can barely even penetrate a woman before they come too fast.
[34:40] a woman before they come too fast. >> Interesting.
[34:41] >> Interesting. >> And um but a lot of it is
[34:44] >> And um but a lot of it is >> in the big sex organ. It's in the brain.
[34:47] >> in the big sex organ. It's in the brain. >> I remember I was talking to uh Karen
[34:49] >> I remember I was talking to uh Karen Gurnie.
[34:50] Gurnie. >> Yeah.
[34:50] >> Yeah. >> Uh uh out of uh the UK, sex therapist
[34:53] >> Uh uh out of uh the UK, sex therapist out of the UK, right?
[34:54] out of the UK, right? >> And we were talking about penis size.
[34:56] >> And we were talking about penis size. >> Yes. And that how that that that touches
[34:59] >> Yes. And that how that that that touches upon a lot of anxiety for men.
[35:01] upon a lot of anxiety for men. >> Yeah.
[35:01] >> Yeah. >> So myth is this a myth that penis size
[35:06] >> So myth is this a myth that penis size matters. Is that myth or fact?
[35:08] matters. Is that myth or fact? >> Well the average penis is you know
[35:11] >> Well the average penis is you know >> five and something whatever I don't even
[35:14] >> five and something whatever I don't even know but you know like six inches or
[35:16] know but you know like six inches or what have you. And women generally want
[35:18] what have you. And women generally want six inches in a regular partner 7 in for
[35:20] six inches in a regular partner 7 in for a hot date.
[35:21] a hot date. >> And we're talking about erect.
[35:23] >> And we're talking about erect. >> Erect. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean the
[35:24] >> Erect. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean the penis is like a little nothing, you
[35:26] penis is like a little nothing, you know, until all the erectile tissue
[35:28] know, until all the erectile tissue fills with blood. It's amazing, right?
[35:30] fills with blood. It's amazing, right? Yes. What it does is just incredible. It
[35:32] Yes. What it does is just incredible. It is.
[35:33] is. >> Uh men have wonderful hemodynamics. I
[35:35] >> Uh men have wonderful hemodynamics. I love that word.
[35:36] love that word. >> He dynamic. You have words.
[35:38] >> He dynamic. You have words. >> I got words.
[35:41] >> I got words. >> Oh my gosh.
[35:42] >> Oh my gosh. >> Yeah.
[35:43] >> Yeah. >> So, this would suggest to me though
[35:45] >> So, this would suggest to me though >> that penis size then does matter.
[35:48] >> that penis size then does matter. Well, I mean, I think for some women it
[35:50] Well, I mean, I think for some women it doesn't some and and you know, remember
[35:53] doesn't some and and you know, remember we have these vaginal caverns that are
[35:55] we have these vaginal caverns that are very interesting, too. I got to get my
[35:56] very interesting, too. I got to get my balloon out and show you what the vagina
[35:58] balloon out and show you what the vagina wants because the the vagina itself is a
[36:01] wants because the the vagina itself is a mucous membrane.
[36:03] mucous membrane. >> Okay?
[36:03] >> Okay? >> And it it has this little tiny sphincter
[36:06] >> And it it has this little tiny sphincter muscle at the opening that's called,
[36:08] muscle at the opening that's called, here's another nerdy word, I'll even say
[36:10] here's another nerdy word, I'll even say it like a nerd, the entrital sphincter.
[36:13] it like a nerd, the entrital sphincter. >> Entrital entrital sphincter sphincter.
[36:15] >> Entrital entrital sphincter sphincter. and finger spinter. It's a little round
[36:18] and finger spinter. It's a little round muscle and it h it's full of mechano
[36:20] muscle and it h it's full of mechano receptors that love to feel stretch. So
[36:24] receptors that love to feel stretch. So it loves when something takes that
[36:27] it loves when something takes that little muscle and opens it like a penis.
[36:30] little muscle and opens it like a penis. >> I see. Okay.
[36:31] >> I see. Okay. >> And then it has this kind of really just
[36:35] >> And then it has this kind of really just like a long tuby shaft to it.
[36:38] like a long tuby shaft to it. >> Okay.
[36:38] >> Okay. >> And this is where the G-spot is up here.
[36:40] >> And this is where the G-spot is up here. And this is where the paranal sponge is
[36:42] And this is where the paranal sponge is down here. So the whole entrance and the
[36:45] down here. So the whole entrance and the early part, the early part of the cavern
[36:48] early part, the early part of the cavern is full of erectile tissue. It's got
[36:51] is full of erectile tissue. It's got like a a golden bracelet of erectile
[36:54] like a a golden bracelet of erectile tissue around the opening and the early
[36:56] tissue around the opening and the early entrance to the vagina.
[36:58] entrance to the vagina. >> Yes.
[36:58] >> Yes. >> But then the vagina itself tense up as
[37:02] >> But then the vagina itself tense up as you become aroused, which is why
[37:04] you become aroused, which is why foreplay, which I like to consider just
[37:06] foreplay, which I like to consider just to be sex too. Yes. You know, like let's
[37:08] to be sex too. Yes. You know, like let's not rush to intercourse. Let's like take
[37:10] not rush to intercourse. Let's like take our time,
[37:11] our time, >> right? And that's controversial even to
[37:13] >> right? And that's controversial even to call it foreplay, you know, for some
[37:15] call it foreplay, you know, for some people.
[37:16] people. >> So, but but when you become aroused,
[37:19] >> So, but but when you become aroused, >> it goes like this and it tense up. Your
[37:22] >> it goes like this and it tense up. Your cervix pulls up, the uterus pulls up,
[37:23] cervix pulls up, the uterus pulls up, there get all this extra room gets in
[37:26] there get all this extra room gets in there.
[37:27] there. >> Okay.
[37:27] >> Okay. >> And the vagina. Okay. So, like, can I
[37:30] >> And the vagina. Okay. So, like, can I have your hand?
[37:31] have your hand? >> Sure.
[37:31] >> Sure. >> I'm going to let that go for a second.
[37:33] >> I'm going to let that go for a second. So, um, when I if I were to rub you, I
[37:37] So, um, when I if I were to rub you, I if I rubbed you and I just rubbed your
[37:39] if I rubbed you and I just rubbed your skin, it feels nice. Like, it's nice.
[37:42] skin, it feels nice. Like, it's nice. But if I rub the meat of your body, if I
[37:45] But if I rub the meat of your body, if I like rub in there and get under the
[37:48] like rub in there and get under the skin, it feels better. Feels better.
[37:49] skin, it feels better. Feels better. That's good.
[37:51] That's good. >> Right.
[37:51] >> Right. >> So, so you're saying that within the
[37:53] >> So, so you're saying that within the vagina? Yes. Getting in getting in.
[37:56] vagina? Yes. Getting in getting in. >> Yes.
[37:56] >> Yes. >> This is the key. And what the vagina
[37:59] >> This is the key. And what the vagina wants is not just the
[38:02] wants is not just the what it wants is you to go spelunking in
[38:05] what it wants is you to go spelunking in there.
[38:06] there. >> And it wants you not to do and can I
[38:08] >> And it wants you not to do and can I have that um the pearl three the purple
[38:10] have that um the pearl three the purple one? Um what it wants you to do and one
[38:12] one? Um what it wants you to do and one of the reasons I really like this is
[38:14] of the reasons I really like this is that I have activated my vaginal cavern
[38:16] that I have activated my vaginal cavern to a whole new level by stroking beyond
[38:21] to a whole new level by stroking beyond the vaginal puss lining into my guts.
[38:25] the vaginal puss lining into my guts. You know what, Susan? This is a this is
[38:27] You know what, Susan? This is a this is a master class right here
[38:29] a master class right here >> that that that I wish Well, now guys are
[38:32] >> that that that I wish Well, now guys are are going to know is the key is not just
[38:34] are going to know is the key is not just a basic stroke, fellas.
[38:36] a basic stroke, fellas. >> The key is that you want to hit all the
[38:38] >> The key is that you want to hit all the >> Yeah. You want to hit that whole cavern.
[38:40] >> Yeah. You want to hit that whole cavern. You want to activate the meat around the
[38:44] You want to activate the meat around the cavern.
[38:44] cavern. >> So, you you want to stroke all in here.
[38:46] >> So, you you want to stroke all in here. You want to boom, boom, boom, boom,
[38:47] You want to boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Yep. Hitting it all.
[38:49] boom. Yep. Hitting it all. >> Yes.
[38:50] >> Yes. >> Okay.
[38:51] >> Okay. >> Exactly. You want to get everywhere. You
[38:52] >> Exactly. You want to get everywhere. You want to get that top part. You want to
[38:54] want to get that top part. You want to get the cervix. You want to get the deep
[38:56] get the cervix. You want to get the deep spots. You want to get the bottom. You
[38:57] spots. You want to get the bottom. You want to get the sides. The pedendal
[38:59] want to get the sides. The pedendal nerves. You You know when your toes curl
[39:01] nerves. You You know when your toes curl from orgasms? Yes. That's the nerves
[39:04] from orgasms? Yes. That's the nerves running down to your feet. And so when
[39:07] running down to your feet. And so when you're getting turned on and your toes
[39:09] you're getting turned on and your toes are curling from orgasms, it's actually
[39:11] are curling from orgasms, it's actually that those pedendal nerves that are
[39:14] that those pedendal nerves that are getting activated. So there's tons of
[39:16] getting activated. So there's tons of nerves in here. Your veagal nerve comes
[39:19] nerves in here. Your veagal nerve comes down here. Your pedendal nerve comes in
[39:21] down here. Your pedendal nerve comes in here. And so you're getting nerves and
[39:24] here. And so you're getting nerves and tissue activated. And when you do that,
[39:26] tissue activated. And when you do that, what happens is as you're as you're
[39:29] what happens is as you're as you're getting in there and you're activating
[39:30] getting in there and you're activating this all yourself and then your
[39:32] this all yourself and then your partner's getting in there and
[39:33] partner's getting in there and activating it all, it all becomes
[39:36] activating it all, it all becomes massively more responsive. The tissue
[39:39] massively more responsive. The tissue starts to engorg. It gets pillowy. It
[39:42] starts to engorg. It gets pillowy. It gets flush with blood. And not just the
[39:46] gets flush with blood. And not just the erectile tissue, but all that tissue.
[39:49] erectile tissue, but all that tissue. And when it does that, everything plumps
[39:52] And when it does that, everything plumps up and has more surface area that feels
[39:55] up and has more surface area that feels better. And then your contractions, then
[39:57] better. And then your contractions, then it starts, you also start to get really
[40:00] it starts, you also start to get really good musculature. You get good pelvic
[40:03] good musculature. You get good pelvic musculature. The more you orgasm, the
[40:06] musculature. The more you orgasm, the better your pelvic musculature. And then
[40:08] better your pelvic musculature. And then your the squeezing, that contraction
[40:10] your the squeezing, that contraction becomes more intense. And so here you
[40:13] becomes more intense. And so here you are now. You're staying in sensation.
[40:15] are now. You're staying in sensation. >> Yes.
[40:16] >> Yes. >> You're riding the waves. You're coming
[40:19] >> You're riding the waves. You're coming and coming and coming and coming. It
[40:21] and coming and coming and coming. It feels good outside. It feels good
[40:23] feels good outside. It feels good inside. You everything's just like
[40:27] inside. You everything's just like I mean if I think about my Volvo vaginal
[40:32] I mean if I think about my Volvo vaginal system.
[40:33] system. >> Yes.
[40:33] >> Yes. >> In my 20s and 30s when I was like young
[40:36] >> In my 20s and 30s when I was like young and fresh and everything was active and
[40:39] and fresh and everything was active and it cannot hold a candle to how lush and
[40:43] it cannot hold a candle to how lush and orgasmic my entire genital system is
[40:46] orgasmic my entire genital system is now. It is nuts how good everything
[40:49] now. It is nuts how good everything feels.
[40:49] feels. >> I believe it
[40:50] >> I believe it >> just from using tools of pleasure and
[40:54] >> just from using tools of pleasure and using techniques.
[40:56] using techniques. >> All right,
[40:59] >> we need to talk about how much noise
[41:01] >> we need to talk about how much noise there is in the new year. Reset,
[41:03] there is in the new year. Reset, reinvent, rebuild. And what I found
[41:06] reinvent, rebuild. And what I found usually goes handinhand with that is
[41:08] usually goes handinhand with that is pressure. But this year, how about
[41:10] pressure. But this year, how about flipping that pressure into permission
[41:13] flipping that pressure into permission to finally try the thing you've been
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[42:11] >> What other Do you have some more tools
[42:13] >> What other Do you have some more tools over here to help?
[42:14] over here to help? >> Here's a really good one. I should show
[42:15] >> Here's a really good one. I should show you right now. This one makes a lot of
[42:17] you right now. This one makes a lot of sense. There's two here that I want to
[42:19] sense. There's two here that I want to show you two more. Um, so this one is
[42:22] show you two more. Um, so this one is really, really fun because this is a
[42:26] really, really fun because this is a proximity sensor for your penis.
[42:28] proximity sensor for your penis. >> Oh my goodness.
[42:29] >> Oh my goodness. >> So, it's not doing anything. It has a
[42:31] >> So, it's not doing anything. It has a magnet in there.
[42:33] magnet in there. >> All right. But this is a little tiny
[42:36] >> All right. But this is a little tiny clitorol vibrator. This little point
[42:40] clitorol vibrator. This little point right here, you wear it. So you know
[42:41] right here, you wear it. So you know what the man's venus is, right? Or the
[42:43] what the man's venus is, right? Or the man's pubis. It's the top
[42:45] man's pubis. It's the top >> top.
[42:46] >> top. >> It's the top where the pubic hair is on
[42:48] >> It's the top where the pubic hair is on the top and then it comes down into the
[42:50] the top and then it comes down into the two the outer labia and inner labia and
[42:53] two the outer labia and inner labia and where the pubic hair is basically. So
[42:55] where the pubic hair is basically. So the top is called the monzenus and that
[42:58] the top is called the monzenus and that really needs a lot of stimulation if you
[43:00] really needs a lot of stimulation if you want to maximize your orgasmic capacity
[43:02] want to maximize your orgasmic capacity especially in the area of female
[43:04] especially in the area of female ejaculation because that's where a lot
[43:06] ejaculation because that's where a lot of the blood flow and the fluid runs
[43:08] of the blood flow and the fluid runs down to the pelvic bowl to activate
[43:10] down to the pelvic bowl to activate everything.
[43:10] everything. >> Okay.
[43:11] >> Okay. >> So the m this hooks on the mons
[43:14] >> So the m this hooks on the mons >> can I say this too this is so important
[43:16] >> can I say this too this is so important that if you are I would say if you're
[43:18] that if you are I would say if you're listening to this conversation right now
[43:20] listening to this conversation right now it's important to turn on your video.
[43:21] it's important to turn on your video. Yeah because you want to see this.
[43:23] Yeah because you want to see this. >> Yes. So, this sticks on the mons and
[43:27] >> Yes. So, this sticks on the mons and then the little kind of pointy beak
[43:28] then the little kind of pointy beak comes down onto your clitorol shaft and
[43:32] comes down onto your clitorol shaft and your clitorol glands, the tip of your
[43:34] your clitorol glands, the tip of your clitoris.
[43:35] clitoris. >> Okay, I see.
[43:36] >> Okay, I see. >> And as you become more orgasmic and you
[43:38] >> And as you become more orgasmic and you stimulate your clitoreral shaft and
[43:41] stimulate your clitoreral shaft and glands, it gets bigger and bigger and
[43:43] glands, it gets bigger and bigger and you get your little lady boner. You want
[43:46] you get your little lady boner. You want to get a little lady boner.
[43:47] to get a little lady boner. >> A lady boner.
[43:48] >> A lady boner. >> I got a giant lady boner now. Mine just
[43:50] >> I got a giant lady boner now. Mine just keeps getting bigger and bigger because
[43:51] keeps getting bigger and bigger because I do all the sexual biohacking and all
[43:53] I do all the sexual biohacking and all kinds of things. Yes. And honestly, you
[43:55] kinds of things. Yes. And honestly, you feel more pleasure when you have more
[43:56] feel more pleasure when you have more tissue.
[43:57] tissue. >> I've never even heard it referred to as
[43:59] >> I've never even heard it referred to as a lady boner.
[44:00] a lady boner. >> Yeah.
[44:00] >> Yeah. >> But it's literally a
[44:02] >> But it's literally a >> It's a little penis.
[44:04] >> It's a little penis. >> Yes.
[44:05] >> Yes. >> Yeah. It's a little
[44:05] >> Yeah. It's a little >> Yeah. We call that big [ __ ] energy.
[44:07] >> Yeah. We call that big [ __ ] energy. >> Big
[44:10] >> Big BC.
[44:11] BC. >> Oh my gosh. So, so are we doing this at
[44:14] >> Oh my gosh. So, so are we doing this at the same time though? So, you have this
[44:15] the same time though? So, you have this and and then this is wrapped around the
[44:16] and and then this is wrapped around the penis.
[44:17] penis. >> What's going on now? This is also a
[44:19] >> What's going on now? This is also a panty vibrator. So, I could wear this
[44:21] panty vibrator. So, I could wear this and then we could go out on a date and
[44:23] and then we could go out on a date and you could control the app and you could
[44:24] you could control the app and you could give me orgasms during dinner if you
[44:26] give me orgasms during dinner if you want to. And then we could come home and
[44:29] want to. And then we could come home and I could continue to wear it and we could
[44:30] I could continue to wear it and we could make love. And there are two ways you
[44:32] make love. And there are two ways you can do it. This little thing is really
[44:34] can do it. This little thing is really cool because it's this little silicone
[44:36] cool because it's this little silicone pad. You can feel it. It's this little
[44:38] pad. You can feel it. It's this little silicone pad. Feel that?
[44:40] silicone pad. Feel that? >> Oh, yeah. That's That's sticky.
[44:42] >> Oh, yeah. That's That's sticky. >> It'll stick right on your skin and peel
[44:44] >> It'll stick right on your skin and peel right off your skin and it goes into
[44:46] right off your skin and it goes into these little holes and you stick it on.
[44:47] these little holes and you stick it on. Or, and this is what I like to do, you
[44:49] Or, and this is what I like to do, you can use this fancy little silicone
[44:52] can use this fancy little silicone harness.
[44:53] harness. >> Oh, I see. And pull it around.
[44:55] >> Oh, I see. And pull it around. >> It just goes right around your hips and
[44:57] >> It just goes right around your hips and it it it fits everybody. I've never had
[44:59] it it it fits everybody. I've never had anybody say it was too big or too small.
[45:00] anybody say it was too big or too small. It fits like that and it goes right
[45:02] It fits like that and it goes right around your hips. Now, I've got this on.
[45:04] around your hips. Now, I've got this on. You've got that ring on your penis. And
[45:06] You've got that ring on your penis. And as you're going in toward me, deeper
[45:10] as you're going in toward me, deeper into my vagina, it's revving up the
[45:13] into my vagina, it's revving up the vibrator. And as you come out, it slows
[45:16] vibrator. And as you come out, it slows down. And remember earlier when I said
[45:19] down. And remember earlier when I said peeking and toggling and you went
[45:20] peeking and toggling and you went toggling was toggling.
[45:22] toggling was toggling. >> Yes.
[45:23] >> Yes. >> Your nervous system has a
[45:26] >> Your nervous system has a parasympathetic and a sympathetic state.
[45:29] parasympathetic and a sympathetic state. >> Yes.
[45:29] >> Yes. >> Right.
[45:29] >> Right. >> Yes.
[45:30] >> Yes. >> Sympathetic and parasympathetic.
[45:32] >> Sympathetic and parasympathetic. Parasympathetic is the rest and digest.
[45:34] Parasympathetic is the rest and digest. Sympathetic is the activated.
[45:35] Sympathetic is the activated. >> Yes.
[45:36] >> Yes. >> And when you toggle the pleasure, you go
[45:41] >> And when you toggle the pleasure, you go from the two states. And that increases
[45:44] from the two states. And that increases the intensity of the pleasure. So as you
[45:48] the intensity of the pleasure. So as you come into her, she's going,
[45:51] come into her, she's going, you know, whoa. And then you go out and
[45:53] you know, whoa. And then you go out and she's like, and then what happens is
[45:56] she's like, and then what happens is when you pull away and the sensation
[45:59] when you pull away and the sensation dips, her body leans in for more. Yes.
[46:03] dips, her body leans in for more. Yes. >> And so then she goes up even more. And
[46:05] >> And so then she goes up even more. And it's really fun because this is an
[46:07] it's really fun because this is an erotic playd date, right? We get this.
[46:09] erotic playd date, right? We get this. You put it on. I put it on. We make love
[46:11] You put it on. I put it on. We make love and we're trying something new. Yes.
[46:13] and we're trying something new. Yes. We're And so what's that create? New
[46:15] We're And so what's that create? New relationship energy.
[46:17] relationship energy. >> Yes.
[46:17] >> Yes. >> You know, you got you're beginning as
[46:19] >> You know, you got you're beginning as beginners together. You're feeling like
[46:20] beginners together. You're feeling like a teenager. You're giggling. And what I
[46:23] a teenager. You're giggling. And what I always say about trying anything new is
[46:24] always say about trying anything new is do it three times. The first couple
[46:26] do it three times. The first couple times you're really just getting into
[46:28] times you're really just getting into the groove. By the third time, you're
[46:29] the groove. By the third time, you're starting to get some mastery and you're
[46:31] starting to get some mastery and you're like, "Oh yeah, now I know why Suz told
[46:33] like, "Oh yeah, now I know why Suz told me to do that. Oh my god, it was so
[46:35] me to do that. Oh my god, it was so good."
[46:36] good." >> Yes. Yes. Does this fit also is I I've
[46:38] >> Yes. Yes. Does this fit also is I I've heard you talk about uh you know there's
[46:41] heard you talk about uh you know there's libido, there's desire, and there's
[46:43] libido, there's desire, and there's arousal.
[46:43] arousal. >> You have such a good memory. Oh, thank
[46:45] >> You have such a good memory. Oh, thank you.
[46:45] you. >> Thank you for doing your homework.
[46:46] >> Thank you for doing your homework. >> Oh, I mean, you were out you're out here
[46:50] >> Oh, I mean, you were out you're out here trying to give us a master No, a PhD in
[46:54] trying to give us a master No, a PhD in sex. Who doesn't want that? You know
[46:56] sex. Who doesn't want that? You know what I mean?
[46:57] what I mean? >> Yeah.
[46:57] >> Yeah. >> And so there's there's the three. Yeah.
[46:59] >> And so there's there's the three. Yeah. I would imagine the novelty fits within
[47:02] I would imagine the novelty fits within the arousal as well like the context and
[47:04] the arousal as well like the context and you want to have that novelty because it
[47:07] you want to have that novelty because it just
[47:07] just >> increases everything more novelty.
[47:09] >> increases everything more novelty. Desire is a combination an equal
[47:12] Desire is a combination an equal combination of
[47:15] combination of >> trust and safety like I I can be
[47:17] >> trust and safety like I I can be vulnerable with you. Yes. Right. I feel
[47:19] vulnerable with you. Yes. Right. I feel comfortable with you. You're not going
[47:20] comfortable with you. You're not going to hurt me.
[47:22] to hurt me. >> And novelty and variety.
[47:24] >> And novelty and variety. >> Yes. And a lot of couples have a plenty
[47:26] >> Yes. And a lot of couples have a plenty of trust and safety and not enough
[47:28] of trust and safety and not enough novelty because they're just doing the
[47:29] novelty because they're just doing the old and out, right? And so these erotic
[47:32] old and out, right? And so these erotic playdates, the sex life bucket list, the
[47:34] playdates, the sex life bucket list, the like, what do we want to learn? Um, when
[47:37] like, what do we want to learn? Um, when you have that and you're trying new
[47:39] you have that and you're trying new things together, you are not only
[47:41] things together, you are not only increasing your skills, but you're
[47:43] increasing your skills, but you're having way more fun.
[47:45] having way more fun. >> What percentage of people do you think
[47:48] >> What percentage of people do you think are actually having high quality sex?
[47:50] are actually having high quality sex? Because I would imagine it's a small
[47:52] Because I would imagine it's a small percentage. I would say generally if I
[47:55] percentage. I would say generally if I looked at you know like
[47:57] looked at you know like over the last 20 years all of the people
[48:01] over the last 20 years all of the people who have entered into my world and the
[48:02] who have entered into my world and the people who find me and who want to
[48:06] people who find me and who want to become better lovers here's what's the
[48:08] become better lovers here's what's the common thread one is that they know
[48:12] common thread one is that they know there's more than they know and they
[48:15] there's more than they know and they have a growth mindset. Okay,
[48:17] have a growth mindset. Okay, >> that's the number one like indicator of
[48:21] >> that's the number one like indicator of someone who has the potential to become
[48:22] someone who has the potential to become a better lover. The second thing is that
[48:25] a better lover. The second thing is that they understand that the more they
[48:27] they understand that the more they learn, the better they get and they are
[48:29] learn, the better they get and they are working on getting better at every
[48:30] working on getting better at every aspect of their life. So like everybody
[48:33] aspect of their life. So like everybody from a bodybuilder to an entrepreneur,
[48:37] from a bodybuilder to an entrepreneur, those are people that have growth
[48:38] those are people that have growth mindsets. Some are physical growth and
[48:41] mindsets. Some are physical growth and some are emotional growth and mental
[48:42] some are emotional growth and mental growth and business growth and thing but
[48:44] growth and business growth and thing but growth mindset. And there are so many
[48:47] growth mindset. And there are so many people for whom they've been raised in
[48:50] people for whom they've been raised in an environment where there's so much
[48:51] an environment where there's so much shame around sex, so much repression, so
[48:55] shame around sex, so much repression, so many expectations for what they should
[48:58] many expectations for what they should be doing that they don't feel like they
[49:01] be doing that they don't feel like they can break out of that and pursue this
[49:04] can break out of that and pursue this like it would be wrong. And so it turns
[49:06] like it would be wrong. And so it turns out that out of every hundred people,
[49:10] out that out of every hundred people, roughly 15% of people have what it takes
[49:15] roughly 15% of people have what it takes to be willing to learn how to become a
[49:18] to be willing to learn how to become a better lover.
[49:19] better lover. >> Only 15%
[49:20] >> Only 15% >> have what it takes to be they just have
[49:23] >> have what it takes to be they just have the potential.
[49:25] the potential. >> So you're saying the vast majority of
[49:26] >> So you're saying the vast majority of people
[49:27] people >> Yeah.
[49:27] >> Yeah. >> are having low satisfaction sex.
[49:30] >> are having low satisfaction sex. >> Low satisfaction sex. It could be so
[49:32] >> Low satisfaction sex. It could be so much more than it is. And a lot of
[49:34] much more than it is. And a lot of people think that what they have is what
[49:35] people think that what they have is what it is. And so they don't know there's
[49:38] it is. And so they don't know there's more. Again, go back to lack of sexual
[49:40] more. Again, go back to lack of sexual literacy, censorship, everything being
[49:43] literacy, censorship, everything being very porn dominated. I run a business
[49:46] very porn dominated. I run a business mastermind for sexports around the
[49:49] mastermind for sexports around the world. people like myself, the people
[49:50] world. people like myself, the people who are coming up behind me because I've
[49:52] who are coming up behind me because I've been doing this for a long time. And I'm
[49:55] been doing this for a long time. And I'm one of the very few people that has been
[49:57] one of the very few people that has been successful at it over time and figured
[50:00] successful at it over time and figured out how to get beyond all of the
[50:02] out how to get beyond all of the censorship and things like that. And so
[50:04] censorship and things like that. And so I want to lift my people up. And so I
[50:07] I want to lift my people up. And so I teach them all the things that I do and
[50:08] teach them all the things that I do and I help them and they collaborate and we
[50:10] I help them and they collaborate and we all work together and things like that.
[50:12] all work together and things like that. And there are so many experts out there
[50:15] And there are so many experts out there and there we're all censored. We're all
[50:18] and there we're all censored. We're all constantly shadowbanned. We're
[50:20] constantly shadowbanned. We're constantly getting our accounts shut
[50:21] constantly getting our accounts shut down and so it's just really hard to
[50:23] down and so it's just really hard to find us. So even if you're That's why
[50:26] find us. So even if you're That's why again, thank you for having me. Thank
[50:28] again, thank you for having me. Thank you for being so inquisitive and
[50:32] you for being so inquisitive and open-minded and having an appetite for
[50:34] open-minded and having an appetite for learning because it is podcasts and
[50:37] learning because it is podcasts and vidcasts are the only uncensored medium
[50:40] vidcasts are the only uncensored medium currently available to people like
[50:42] currently available to people like myself and the hundreds of sexerts that
[50:45] myself and the hundreds of sexerts that I that I cherish and help grow. But you
[50:48] I that I cherish and help grow. But you know when you look at the data right and
[50:50] know when you look at the data right and you look at children for example who
[50:52] you look at children for example who over 80% say they don't have an
[50:54] over 80% say they don't have an understanding of sex even though they've
[50:56] understanding of sex even though they've gone through sex education.
[50:58] gone through sex education. >> Well what's sex education though? It's
[51:00] >> Well what's sex education though? It's fear like, you know, don't get pregnant,
[51:04] fear like, you know, don't get pregnant, don't get STI, you know, honestly, I am
[51:06] don't get STI, you know, honestly, I am a I'm a chief uh advocacy board director
[51:10] a I'm a chief uh advocacy board director of an athome STI testing company, and
[51:13] of an athome STI testing company, and they have a really hard time even
[51:15] they have a really hard time even advertising, right, for STI testing.
[51:19] advertising, right, for STI testing. >> Yes.
[51:19] >> Yes. >> So, that's a it's a political issue.
[51:21] >> So, that's a it's a political issue. >> Yeah, there you go. Again, political.
[51:23] >> Yeah, there you go. Again, political. Um,
[51:24] Um, >> we got to change the world. I think we
[51:25] >> we got to change the world. I think we should use the Play-Doh visualization
[51:28] should use the Play-Doh visualization because I think that would be great.
[51:29] because I think that would be great. >> And we need our Play-Doh.
[51:30] >> And we need our Play-Doh. >> Yes. Can we uh I never thought I'd say
[51:32] >> Yes. Can we uh I never thought I'd say this on this podcast, but can we bring
[51:34] this on this podcast, but can we bring in some penises?
[51:35] in some penises? >> Yes.
[51:35] >> Yes. >> Bring out the penises.
[51:38] >> Bring out the penises. >> There should be music.
[51:43] >> Thank you. Which color do you want?
[51:45] >> Thank you. Which color do you want? >> I'll take any color.
[51:45] >> I'll take any color. >> You take which one you want.
[51:47] >> You take which one you want. >> Here. Here. Here. Here.
[51:48] >> Here. Here. Here. Here. >> Okay. There you go. I'm giving you the
[51:50] >> Okay. There you go. I'm giving you the purple one.
[51:50] purple one. >> I got the purple penis.
[51:51] >> I got the purple penis. >> Oh, look. They put a little head on.
[51:53] >> Oh, look. They put a little head on. >> Yeah. There there's there there's this
[51:55] >> Yeah. There there's there there's this is official. Can can we can we Susan?
[51:58] is official. Can can we can we Susan? Can we give a shout out to the We need
[52:00] Can we give a shout out to the We need to talk team
[52:01] to talk team >> for creating great penis
[52:03] >> for creating great penis >> them with our with our penises toasting
[52:05] >> them with our with our penises toasting to the team.
[52:06] to the team. >> Hey, they know what they're doing over
[52:07] >> Hey, they know what they're doing over here. Every day is a school day.
[52:10] here. Every day is a school day. >> Yeah. Yeah. That's good. That's the best
[52:11] >> Yeah. Yeah. That's good. That's the best part of your job.
[52:12] part of your job. >> I mean, this is great. I love this. I
[52:14] >> I mean, this is great. I love this. I love this. So what's interesting about
[52:17] love this. So what's interesting about this is that when you think about a
[52:19] this is that when you think about a penis, the large majority of a penis is
[52:22] penis, the large majority of a penis is erectile tissue, sponges.
[52:25] erectile tissue, sponges. >> Okay?
[52:25] >> Okay? >> There are three big tubes in your penis.
[52:29] >> There are three big tubes in your penis. >> There's two corpus cavernosum and
[52:32] >> There's two corpus cavernosum and they're these kind of pointy things. If
[52:33] they're these kind of pointy things. If you've ever felt the tip of your penis,
[52:34] you've ever felt the tip of your penis, it almost has these like little like
[52:35] it almost has these like little like almost like a snake tongue. Yes. Under
[52:37] almost like a snake tongue. Yes. Under the glands there. That's where they come
[52:39] the glands there. That's where they come to a point right there in the glands of
[52:41] to a point right there in the glands of your penis. And then the third one is
[52:43] your penis. And then the third one is that one that's kind of like a line
[52:44] that one that's kind of like a line along the bottom. That's your urethal
[52:47] along the bottom. That's your urethal tube. That's where the semen and the
[52:50] tube. That's where the semen and the urine come out of the tip.
[52:51] urine come out of the tip. >> Okay?
[52:52] >> Okay? >> So there's three big tubes. And what's
[52:54] >> So there's three big tubes. And what's interesting is that they're not just
[52:55] interesting is that they're not just from your body out. They actually go in
[52:58] from your body out. They actually go in and down toward toward your testicles.
[53:01] and down toward toward your testicles. So you have a buried shaft of your penis
[53:04] So you have a buried shaft of your penis as well. Have you ever felt like
[53:05] as well. Have you ever felt like underneath your testicles and you feel
[53:07] underneath your testicles and you feel like it's hard down there too when you
[53:09] like it's hard down there too when you get really turned on?
[53:10] get really turned on? >> Yes. Well, that's all erectile tissue
[53:12] >> Yes. Well, that's all erectile tissue all the way down in there.
[53:13] all the way down in there. >> Interesting.
[53:14] >> Interesting. >> And so you can think that this penis is
[53:17] >> And so you can think that this penis is basically uh three tubes, a little bit
[53:20] basically uh three tubes, a little bit of tissue, something called the tuna
[53:23] of tissue, something called the tuna albuginia, which is like that membrane
[53:25] albuginia, which is like that membrane on a steak, like that thin white
[53:27] on a steak, like that thin white membrane that holds all the spongy stuff
[53:29] membrane that holds all the spongy stuff in, and then the skin, and then some
[53:31] in, and then the skin, and then some nerves, some capillaries, etc. And
[53:34] nerves, some capillaries, etc. And that's what's in a penis. So, like most
[53:37] that's what's in a penis. So, like most of it is a sponge because you know how
[53:39] of it is a sponge because you know how it's like this big
[53:41] it's like this big >> and then it gets to be this big. How
[53:42] >> and then it gets to be this big. How does it get that way? The sponge is
[53:44] does it get that way? The sponge is filled with blood. You see boobs, you
[53:46] filled with blood. You see boobs, you get excited, you get an erection.
[53:48] get excited, you get an erection. >> It's very basic.
[53:49] >> It's very basic. >> Exactly.
[53:51] >> Exactly. But for a woman, we have the same amount
[53:55] But for a woman, we have the same amount of erectile tissue, but it's in a
[53:58] of erectile tissue, but it's in a teardrop. So that's what ours look like.
[54:02] teardrop. So that's what ours look like. It's exactly the same amount as yours.
[54:03] It's exactly the same amount as yours. the same amount of erectile
[54:06] the same amount of erectile >> tissue
[54:06] >> tissue >> tissue
[54:07] >> tissue >> in the female genital system. Those
[54:10] >> in the female genital system. Those three things I said, the urethral
[54:12] three things I said, the urethral sponge, aka G-spot, it's not a spot. It
[54:16] sponge, aka G-spot, it's not a spot. It just gets bigger and it kind of pokes
[54:17] just gets bigger and it kind of pokes out of the vagina. The clitorol head
[54:20] out of the vagina. The clitorol head shaft, arms, legs, and body like that
[54:24] shaft, arms, legs, and body like that little starfish thing that you see on
[54:25] little starfish thing that you see on the internet that we can put on the
[54:27] the internet that we can put on the internet. And then this spongy thing
[54:29] internet. And then this spongy thing that kind of looks like your prostate,
[54:30] that kind of looks like your prostate, but it's this big sponge on the bottom
[54:32] but it's this big sponge on the bottom floor of the vagina between the vagina
[54:34] floor of the vagina between the vagina and the rectum. That's the third spongy
[54:36] and the rectum. That's the third spongy tissue. And so this is your vagina. This
[54:38] tissue. And so this is your vagina. This is the entrroid sphincter. Here we are
[54:40] is the entrroid sphincter. Here we are back to the the sphincter again. Hello.
[54:43] back to the the sphincter again. Hello. So there's the sphincter. And it's
[54:45] So there's the sphincter. And it's wrapped in all this tissue. So the
[54:47] wrapped in all this tissue. So the clitoris is just this little tiny piece
[54:50] clitoris is just this little tiny piece right here that sticks out the
[54:52] right here that sticks out the clitoreral shaft and the clitoreral tip.
[54:54] clitoreral shaft and the clitoreral tip. That's our little lady boner right
[54:56] That's our little lady boner right there. And then all the rest of it is
[54:58] there. And then all the rest of it is what I call buried treasure. And it
[55:01] what I call buried treasure. And it takes you with your fast acting
[55:04] takes you with your fast acting hemodynamics. Here we are back again.
[55:06] hemodynamics. Here we are back again. Helloamics. Yes.
[55:08] Helloamics. Yes. >> You're like boink
[55:09] >> You're like boink >> a minute or two and you've got a nice
[55:11] >> a minute or two and you've got a nice erection. Yes.
[55:12] erection. Yes. >> Right.
[55:12] >> Right. >> Yes.
[55:13] >> Yes. >> Ladyboners take 20 minutes
[55:17] >> Ladyboners take 20 minutes >> 20 minutes
[55:18] >> 20 minutes >> to come to full effect. For women who
[55:20] >> to come to full effect. For women who don't frequently get to full effect, it
[55:23] don't frequently get to full effect, it can take 30 minutes.
[55:24] can take 30 minutes. >> 30 minutes. And so you can imagine that
[55:27] >> 30 minutes. And so you can imagine that most couples who are like, "Well, sex is
[55:28] most couples who are like, "Well, sex is intercourse and I've got an erection, so
[55:30] intercourse and I've got an erection, so I will stick it in you." And the woman
[55:32] I will stick it in you." And the woman is like, "Why why aren't I having
[55:33] is like, "Why why aren't I having orgasms? Why is this not as great as I
[55:35] orgasms? Why is this not as great as I thought it would be?" It's because this
[55:37] thought it would be?" It's because this is just there's nothing there yet. It
[55:40] is just there's nothing there yet. It hasn't.
[55:41] hasn't. >> The the female genital erectile tissue
[55:44] >> The the female genital erectile tissue is like an English muffin. This is the
[55:46] is like an English muffin. This is the best analogy that I've come up with for
[55:48] best analogy that I've come up with for it. So, you know how when you're making
[55:50] it. So, you know how when you're making an English muffin and you take it out of
[55:51] an English muffin and you take it out of the refrigerator and you cut it in half
[55:53] the refrigerator and you cut it in half or you open it up and you stick it in
[55:54] or you open it up and you stick it in the toaster and you press it down and it
[55:55] the toaster and you press it down and it pops up and it's still like beige?
[55:57] pops up and it's still like beige? >> Yes.
[55:58] >> Yes. >> Yuck.
[55:58] >> Yuck. >> Yes.
[55:59] >> Yes. >> That isn't going to taste good.
[56:00] >> That isn't going to taste good. >> No.
[56:00] >> No. >> So, you stick it down again and then it
[56:02] >> So, you stick it down again and then it finally pops and it's nice and toasty.
[56:04] finally pops and it's nice and toasty. It's got the little burned things. Yum,
[56:06] It's got the little burned things. Yum, yum, yum, yum. But then you got your
[56:07] yum, yum, yum. But then you got your butter. Your butter's hard. It's been in
[56:09] butter. Your butter's hard. It's been in the fridge. You cut it off. Clink. And
[56:10] the fridge. You cut it off. Clink. And you stick it in there. You smash the two
[56:11] you stick it in there. You smash the two sides together.
[56:12] sides together. >> And then you wait. Because when that
[56:14] >> And then you wait. Because when that butter melts in all them nooks and
[56:17] butter melts in all them nooks and crannies,
[56:18] crannies, >> you know you love it.
[56:19] >> you know you love it. >> Yep. Yep. Yep.
[56:20] >> Yep. Yep. Yep. >> That's what you got to do with a Yoni.
[56:22] >> That's what you got to do with a Yoni. It's an English muffin.
[56:23] It's an English muffin. >> It's an English muffin.
[56:24] >> It's an English muffin. >> You got to let it all get that blood all
[56:27] >> You got to let it all get that blood all the nooks and crannies. Let it simmer.
[56:29] the nooks and crannies. Let it simmer. >> So she gets her full erectile function.
[56:32] >> So she gets her full erectile function. So that's what 20 minutes worth of what
[56:35] So that's what 20 minutes worth of what you want to call foreplay or you want to
[56:37] you want to call foreplay or you want to call sex. It's all sex to me. I don't
[56:39] call sex. It's all sex to me. I don't like this distinction that intercourse
[56:41] like this distinction that intercourse is what sex is. It's all sex, hot sex.
[56:45] is what sex is. It's all sex, hot sex. When you know how to do it, great. You
[56:47] When you know how to do it, great. You know, it's just like when people say to
[56:48] know, it's just like when people say to me, "Oh, I don't like 69. Like, I I
[56:50] me, "Oh, I don't like 69. Like, I I can't even I don't I can't even
[56:52] can't even I don't I can't even concentrate. I don't know." I'm like,
[56:54] concentrate. I don't know." I'm like, "We'll do it more than a couple times."
[56:55] "We'll do it more than a couple times." Like, it's the most incredible
[56:57] Like, it's the most incredible experience to be that connected with
[56:59] experience to be that connected with each other, to be in each other, to be
[57:02] each other, to be in each other, to be connected like that, to not know where
[57:04] connected like that, to not know where your body begins and my body ends and
[57:06] your body begins and my body ends and we're having this incredible pleasure.
[57:09] we're having this incredible pleasure. Like, practice.
[57:11] Like, practice. >> Yes. Don't give up. C
[57:13] >> Yes. Don't give up. C >> can I ask you a question about the
[57:14] >> can I ask you a question about the English muffin?
[57:15] English muffin? >> Yeah.
[57:16] >> Yeah. >> Do it.
[57:16] >> Do it. >> About the warmup.
[57:17] >> About the warmup. >> Yeah.
[57:18] >> Yeah. >> Are there techniques to expedite?
[57:22] >> Are there techniques to expedite? >> Yeah.
[57:22] >> Yeah. >> The the warm up?
[57:23] >> The the warm up? >> Yes,
[57:24] >> Yes, >> there are. Okay.
[57:25] >> there are. Okay. >> Yes.
[57:26] >> Yes. >> Okay.
[57:27] >> Okay. >> Breast. And then put it all over the
[57:30] >> Breast. And then put it all over the outer area, the vulva, the glands, the
[57:34] outer area, the vulva, the glands, the outer labia, the clitorol shaft, the
[57:36] outer labia, the clitorol shaft, the clitorol tip between the inner labia.
[57:39] clitorol tip between the inner labia. When you open up the inner labia, that's
[57:41] When you open up the inner labia, that's called the vestibule. Welcome. It's got
[57:43] called the vestibule. Welcome. It's got a welcome mat. It's the vestibule. It's
[57:46] a welcome mat. It's the vestibule. It's the doorway. And so, open that up. Go in
[57:49] the doorway. And so, open that up. Go in there. Take that little sphincter and
[57:52] there. Take that little sphincter and give it a little a little pressure with
[57:53] give it a little a little pressure with that thing. Maybe pop it in there if
[57:56] that thing. Maybe pop it in there if she's ready. Right. All that's going to
[57:59] she's ready. Right. All that's going to feel so good to her.
[58:00] feel so good to her. >> Okay.
[58:00] >> Okay. >> You don't have to do yoni massages just
[58:02] >> You don't have to do yoni massages just with your hands. You can do them with
[58:05] with your hands. You can do them with toys, too.
[58:05] toys, too. >> Do them with toys. So, this is the best
[58:08] >> Do them with toys. So, this is the best segue.
[58:08] segue. >> Okay. for oral sex.
[58:10] >> Okay. for oral sex. >> Oh yeah, let's go.
[58:11] >> Oh yeah, let's go. >> Okay. So, is that I would imagine that
[58:14] >> Okay. So, is that I would imagine that also is an expediter, if you will. Yeah.
[58:17] also is an expediter, if you will. Yeah. >> But oral sex in itself, what what's
[58:19] >> But oral sex in itself, what what's what's your what's your stance on my
[58:22] what's your what's your stance on my mouth that
[58:25] mouth that >> I'm over here going,
[58:27] >> I'm over here going, >> I DO LIKE ORAL SEX.
[58:29] >> I DO LIKE ORAL SEX. >> YEAH. H how how do we take the pleasure
[58:31] >> YEAH. H how how do we take the pleasure Yeah. level up?
[58:32] Yeah. level up? >> Oh, yeah. Uh a couple things. Um, one I
[58:37] >> Oh, yeah. Uh a couple things. Um, one I would say giving oral to a male-bodied
[58:40] would say giving oral to a male-bodied partner. Um, a lot of people call them
[58:43] partner. Um, a lot of people call them blow jobs. I like to call them blow
[58:45] blow jobs. I like to call them blow vacations.
[58:47] vacations. So, it's not just that you're doing
[58:50] So, it's not just that you're doing something for him. You have to switch.
[58:53] something for him. You have to switch. You have to do a reframe and switch to
[58:56] You have to do a reframe and switch to you're taking your pleasure. When you
[58:59] you're taking your pleasure. When you begin to stop performing
[59:02] begin to stop performing and doing this thing that you think he
[59:04] and doing this thing that you think he wants or trying to give him the same
[59:06] wants or trying to give him the same sensations he get from intercourse or
[59:08] sensations he get from intercourse or self-pleasuring or what have you. When
[59:11] self-pleasuring or what have you. When you actually just take your pleasure
[59:14] you actually just take your pleasure with his penis when you're rubbing it on
[59:16] with his penis when you're rubbing it on your lips and you're sticking it up in
[59:19] your lips and you're sticking it up in here. That's how you get your um spit to
[59:23] here. That's how you get your um spit to start running.
[59:24] start running. >> Interesting.
[59:24] >> Interesting. >> Get your spit going. Stick it in the
[59:26] >> Get your spit going. Stick it in the sides and in between your cheeks like a
[59:27] sides and in between your cheeks like a little chipmunk with a walnut, right? Um
[59:30] little chipmunk with a walnut, right? Um run your tongue around it. Lick up and
[59:32] run your tongue around it. Lick up and down it, right? Take take it in and out.
[59:35] down it, right? Take take it in and out. And as you do that, begin to relax.
[59:38] And as you do that, begin to relax. Because when you relax,
[59:41] Because when you relax, then everything's opening. Relaxation is
[59:43] then everything's opening. Relaxation is the letting down. Your spit will start
[59:45] the letting down. Your spit will start running. Your breasts will feel heavier.
[59:47] running. Your breasts will feel heavier. You'll start to notice your yoni getting
[59:49] You'll start to notice your yoni getting aroused. You'll start to feel that, you
[59:51] aroused. You'll start to feel that, you know, that erectile tissue starting to
[59:52] know, that erectile tissue starting to blossom. And so giving a giving pleasure
[59:57] blossom. And so giving a giving pleasure to a penis, use your hands with your
[01:00:00] to a penis, use your hands with your mouth, take breaks. Like one of the
[01:00:04] mouth, take breaks. Like one of the things people feel like is once we get
[01:00:05] things people feel like is once we get started, we got to go all the way and we
[01:00:07] started, we got to go all the way and we got to go right to this and you know
[01:00:08] got to go right to this and you know it's got to finish with inter and you
[01:00:10] it's got to finish with inter and you know,
[01:00:10] know, >> right?
[01:00:12] >> right? >> There's no train timetable here, right?
[01:00:15] >> There's no train timetable here, right? It's like every journey should just be
[01:00:18] It's like every journey should just be what your body wants in the moment and
[01:00:20] what your body wants in the moment and what it craves. And so maybe you're
[01:00:22] what it craves. And so maybe you're going to do that for five or 10 minutes
[01:00:24] going to do that for five or 10 minutes and then you're going to take a rest and
[01:00:25] and then you're going to take a rest and your partner's going to do going to do
[01:00:27] your partner's going to do going to do 69, you know, and give each other mutual
[01:00:30] 69, you know, and give each other mutual pleasure. And when you're doing that and
[01:00:33] pleasure. And when you're doing that and and and andal
[01:00:35] and and andal pleasuring a volva the same way, it's
[01:00:37] pleasuring a volva the same way, it's like, you know, knead the outer tissue,
[01:00:40] like, you know, knead the outer tissue, rub the mons. One of the things I teach
[01:00:43] rub the mons. One of the things I teach guys is something they really need,
[01:00:45] guys is something they really need, which is called the bullseye touch
[01:00:46] which is called the bullseye touch technique.
[01:00:47] technique. >> Bullseye touch technique. And that's
[01:00:49] >> Bullseye touch technique. And that's because testosterone
[01:00:50] because testosterone makes you very goaloriented. So you're
[01:00:53] makes you very goaloriented. So you're like, "Oh yeah, I gotta I gotta give her
[01:00:55] like, "Oh yeah, I gotta I gotta give her an orgasm right away." Right? And so I I
[01:00:58] an orgasm right away." Right? And so I I I'm supposed to touch the clitoris right
[01:01:00] I'm supposed to touch the clitoris right away. And many women, they'll feel
[01:01:02] away. And many women, they'll feel frustrated that you're not doing that
[01:01:03] frustrated that you're not doing that because they've been conditioned that
[01:01:04] because they've been conditioned that way, too. But when you begin from the
[01:01:07] way, too. But when you begin from the outside, like if it's a bullseye, don't
[01:01:09] outside, like if it's a bullseye, don't go for the creamy center at first. Start
[01:01:12] go for the creamy center at first. Start from the outside and work your way in.
[01:01:14] from the outside and work your way in. Stroke her legs. Stroke her belly. Give
[01:01:17] Stroke her legs. Stroke her belly. Give her a belly massage. Give her a core
[01:01:18] her a belly massage. Give her a core orgasm. Rubber moms.
[01:01:20] orgasm. Rubber moms. >> Coregasm.
[01:01:21] >> Coregasm. >> Corggasm. Which is
[01:01:22] >> Corggasm. Which is >> Yeah. Your erectus abdominis has a lot
[01:01:25] >> Yeah. Your erectus abdominis has a lot of erectile tissue in it as well. And
[01:01:28] of erectile tissue in it as well. And when you kind of squeeze it up and down
[01:01:30] when you kind of squeeze it up and down and you get the belly really loose, we
[01:01:32] and you get the belly really loose, we hold ourselves so tightly, you know, oh,
[01:01:34] hold ourselves so tightly, you know, oh, if our belly's fatter, we're worried
[01:01:36] if our belly's fatter, we're worried about it or what have you. But you can
[01:01:38] about it or what have you. But you can actually stimulate that whole area and
[01:01:40] actually stimulate that whole area and get orgasmic contractions from that.
[01:01:43] get orgasmic contractions from that. >> Whoa. Wow.
[01:01:44] >> Whoa. Wow. >> So outer outer labia mons inner labia
[01:01:48] >> So outer outer labia mons inner labia clitorol shaft the top the clitoreral
[01:01:52] clitorol shaft the top the clitoreral shaft goes from the tip the little
[01:01:54] shaft goes from the tip the little glands up and into the pubic bone
[01:01:57] glands up and into the pubic bone between where the mons is it goes up and
[01:02:00] between where the mons is it goes up and in there you'll be able over time as you
[01:02:02] in there you'll be able over time as you begin to stimulate your partner you'll
[01:02:04] begin to stimulate your partner you'll be able to feel her get that lady boner
[01:02:06] be able to feel her get that lady boner and the shaft is just as delightful to
[01:02:09] and the shaft is just as delightful to get stroked and licked as tip is. Okay,
[01:02:13] get stroked and licked as tip is. Okay, >> the inner labia. You can have an orgasm
[01:02:16] >> the inner labia. You can have an orgasm from just putting your tongue down that
[01:02:19] from just putting your tongue down that little frilly edge of that beautiful
[01:02:22] little frilly edge of that beautiful little labia and running right back up
[01:02:25] little labia and running right back up the other side and over the [ __ ] hood
[01:02:27] the other side and over the [ __ ] hood and coming around and maybe doing a
[01:02:29] and coming around and maybe doing a couple of circles on the clitoris and
[01:02:31] couple of circles on the clitoris and then going down into the vestibule and
[01:02:33] then going down into the vestibule and touching the opening to the in, you
[01:02:35] touching the opening to the in, you know, the intro, the opening to the
[01:02:37] know, the intro, the opening to the vagina.
[01:02:37] vagina. >> Yes.
[01:02:38] >> Yes. >> Right. You're it's a road map. It's a
[01:02:40] >> Right. You're it's a road map. It's a road map,
[01:02:41] road map, >> but you're not like boom, you know, this
[01:02:44] >> but you're not like boom, you know, this is not what you want to do cuz then the
[01:02:45] is not what you want to do cuz then the clip's like, you know, it's like I
[01:02:48] clip's like, you know, it's like I didn't even get my my English muffin
[01:02:49] didn't even get my my English muffin toasted yet, right?
[01:02:53] toasted yet, right? >> The butter is hard.
[01:02:55] >> The butter is hard. >> The butter is not melted.
[01:02:58] >> The butter is not melted. >> Gosh. All right. I get it. I like You
[01:03:01] >> Gosh. All right. I get it. I like You know what's interesting? Everything
[01:03:02] know what's interesting? Everything connects to this.
[01:03:03] connects to this. >> Yeah.
[01:03:04] >> Yeah. >> Because even sex organ.
[01:03:05] >> Because even sex organ. >> Yes. Because even you're talking about
[01:03:06] >> Yes. Because even you're talking about the reframe. It's all It's all here.
[01:03:08] the reframe. It's all It's all here. >> Yeah. It's all here.
[01:03:10] >> Yeah. It's all here. >> There's one interesting thing about the
[01:03:12] >> There's one interesting thing about the mind, too. A lot of people think about,
[01:03:14] mind, too. A lot of people think about, you know, we've talked a lot about sex
[01:03:15] you know, we've talked a lot about sex techniques and we've talked a lot about
[01:03:18] techniques and we've talked a lot about um
[01:03:20] um I guess
[01:03:22] I guess genital anatomy.
[01:03:23] genital anatomy. >> Yes.
[01:03:23] >> Yes. >> And bodily anatomy and the the
[01:03:26] >> And bodily anatomy and the the neurohysiology of orgasm and the
[01:03:29] neurohysiology of orgasm and the benefits of it. But bedroom
[01:03:31] benefits of it. But bedroom communication is actually the foundation
[01:03:33] communication is actually the foundation on which it all rests. Okay? Like I can
[01:03:35] on which it all rests. Okay? Like I can teach you all the techniques in the
[01:03:36] teach you all the techniques in the world. You can have a heart tongue, you
[01:03:39] world. You can have a heart tongue, you can do thrust in time, you can, you
[01:03:41] can do thrust in time, you can, you know, do all these things. But if I
[01:03:44] know, do all these things. But if I can't tell you exactly what I want, like
[01:03:46] can't tell you exactly what I want, like if you say, if I say to you,
[01:03:49] if you say, if I say to you, well, what I'd really like to do today
[01:03:51] well, what I'd really like to do today is I'd like to start with make a make
[01:03:53] is I'd like to start with make a make out while I stroke you and you pleasure
[01:03:55] out while I stroke you and you pleasure my breasts and then I'd like to move
[01:03:57] my breasts and then I'd like to move into a yoni massage and then we'll see
[01:03:59] into a yoni massage and then we'll see where we go from there. But that sounds
[01:04:00] where we go from there. But that sounds really good. Or, you know, when um our
[01:04:03] really good. Or, you know, when um our daughter kicked my toe the other day,
[01:04:05] daughter kicked my toe the other day, it's all bruised. Could you just rub my
[01:04:08] it's all bruised. Could you just rub my toe for me with some pain cream first?
[01:04:10] toe for me with some pain cream first? And I've got a kink in my neck. Can we
[01:04:12] And I've got a kink in my neck. Can we get rid of that stuff first? Or my low
[01:04:14] get rid of that stuff first? Or my low back's sore. And can we just start with
[01:04:15] back's sore. And can we just start with that? Or can you just start by holding
[01:04:17] that? Or can you just start by holding me and letting me tell you about my day?
[01:04:19] me and letting me tell you about my day? Can we just like check in together? Yes.
[01:04:21] Can we just like check in together? Yes. >> Cuz I need to get out of my head and
[01:04:23] >> Cuz I need to get out of my head and into my body and my heart connection
[01:04:24] into my body and my heart connection with you. If your partner's like, "You
[01:04:27] with you. If your partner's like, "You don't need to tell me what to do. I I'm
[01:04:29] don't need to tell me what to do. I I'm in my masculine. I can figure out how to
[01:04:30] in my masculine. I can figure out how to do all of this. I I don't need you to
[01:04:32] do all of this. I I don't need you to give me direct." That's the Oh my god.
[01:04:35] give me direct." That's the Oh my god. Do like the trick. No, you want to know
[01:04:37] Do like the trick. No, you want to know exactly what mommy wants at all times.
[01:04:40] exactly what mommy wants at all times. And all you do is go, "Okay, baby. I got
[01:04:43] And all you do is go, "Okay, baby. I got it. Let's get going. Get over here and
[01:04:45] it. Let's get going. Get over here and let me hug you." Right? Like, it's not
[01:04:48] let me hug you." Right? Like, it's not the more you get your woman to tell you
[01:04:51] the more you get your woman to tell you her desires because they change. She
[01:04:54] her desires because they change. She runs with the moon. Even after
[01:04:55] runs with the moon. Even after menopause, we are moon cyclers. You're
[01:04:58] menopause, we are moon cyclers. You're much more steady state. And you want
[01:05:01] much more steady state. And you want different things, too. And when she
[01:05:03] different things, too. And when she starts to be able to tell you what she
[01:05:04] starts to be able to tell you what she needs in any given moment,
[01:05:06] needs in any given moment, >> yes,
[01:05:07] >> yes, >> that's too that hurts. That feels too
[01:05:09] >> that's too that hurts. That feels too much friction. We need to take a break.
[01:05:11] much friction. We need to take a break. Um, you know, whatever it might be. Oh,
[01:05:13] Um, you know, whatever it might be. Oh, that's a Oh, you got a hair on the
[01:05:14] that's a Oh, you got a hair on the bottom of your penis. Get up and go trim
[01:05:16] bottom of your penis. Get up and go trim that thing off if I'm going to go down
[01:05:17] that thing off if I'm going to go down on you. Whatever it is, right?
[01:05:19] on you. Whatever it is, right? >> Right. If she can say anything and
[01:05:20] >> Right. If she can say anything and you're like, "Got it, baby. Okay, baby.
[01:05:22] you're like, "Got it, baby. Okay, baby. Thank you. Yeah, let's go." Like then
[01:05:24] Thank you. Yeah, let's go." Like then you're the man she can say anything to,
[01:05:26] you're the man she can say anything to, which means she can ask you for anything
[01:05:28] which means she can ask you for anything she desires, which means now you've got
[01:05:31] she desires, which means now you've got this great flow. Yes.
[01:05:32] this great flow. Yes. >> But communication is so interesting
[01:05:34] >> But communication is so interesting because then you can learn moaning. Then
[01:05:37] because then you can learn moaning. Then you can learn dirty talk. Then you can
[01:05:40] you can learn dirty talk. Then you can learn sharing frames. Then you can learn
[01:05:42] learn sharing frames. Then you can learn how to adore and worship her. And she
[01:05:45] how to adore and worship her. And she can learn how to tell you what a great
[01:05:47] can learn how to tell you what a great job you're doing and how much she
[01:05:48] job you're doing and how much she respects you. Like then the
[01:05:51] respects you. Like then the communication flows too.
[01:05:53] communication flows too. >> You just mentioned sharing frames.
[01:05:55] >> You just mentioned sharing frames. >> Yeah, sharing frames. What is that? A
[01:05:56] >> Yeah, sharing frames. What is that? A frame is like a snapshot of a moment,
[01:05:58] frame is like a snapshot of a moment, but it's a bodybased experience. So you
[01:06:01] but it's a bodybased experience. So you could say something like, "Tell me your
[01:06:03] could say something like, "Tell me your favorite part of our love making last
[01:06:05] favorite part of our love making last night." And I'd be like, "Okay, well,
[01:06:06] night." And I'd be like, "Okay, well, you know, when you were doing the
[01:06:08] you know, when you were doing the toggling, when we were making love, we
[01:06:10] toggling, when we were making love, we were having intercourse and I could tell
[01:06:12] were having intercourse and I could tell you were doing like the shallow and the
[01:06:13] you were doing like the shallow and the deep strokes." And I was just completely
[01:06:18] deep strokes." And I was just completely lost in that. I mean, I could barely
[01:06:21] lost in that. I mean, I could barely catch my breath between the sensations
[01:06:24] catch my breath between the sensations of those strokes. And what I loved about
[01:06:26] of those strokes. And what I loved about it was you weren't doing it so deep it
[01:06:28] it was you weren't doing it so deep it was too much, but you were like, you
[01:06:30] was too much, but you were like, you took me right to the edge. And then when
[01:06:33] took me right to the edge. And then when you would do those shallow strokes, I
[01:06:35] you would do those shallow strokes, I wanted so much more. And then you'd give
[01:06:37] wanted so much more. And then you'd give it to me and I could rest because you
[01:06:39] it to me and I could rest because you weren't overly giving it to me and you
[01:06:41] weren't overly giving it to me and you weren't underly giving it to me. And I
[01:06:43] weren't underly giving it to me. And I came so well. And I loved how you had
[01:06:47] came so well. And I loved how you had just so much control and yet I felt like
[01:06:49] just so much control and yet I felt like you were right there with me,
[01:06:51] you were right there with me, surrendered to it, too. Like it didn't
[01:06:53] surrendered to it, too. Like it didn't feel like you were counting or paying
[01:06:54] feel like you were counting or paying any attent. It was just like delicious.
[01:06:57] any attent. It was just like delicious. I loved it so much. It's the best you've
[01:07:00] I loved it so much. It's the best you've ever done so far. Thank you. That's a
[01:07:04] ever done so far. Thank you. That's a frame.
[01:07:05] frame. >> That's a frame.
[01:07:06] >> That's a frame. >> That's a frame.
[01:07:06] >> That's a frame. >> I see it. And you and you need to be
[01:07:08] >> I see it. And you and you need to be able to
[01:07:10] able to >> feel I say courageous plus safe enough
[01:07:12] >> feel I say courageous plus safe enough to be able to communicate that. and its
[01:07:14] to be able to communicate that. and its body partner. Yes. Yes. And perceive
[01:07:17] body partner. Yes. Yes. And perceive >> what I experienced physically.
[01:07:19] >> what I experienced physically. >> Yes. Yes. Yes. H how do how does this
[01:07:23] >> Yes. Yes. Yes. H how do how does this connect if it does to seduction?
[01:07:26] connect if it does to seduction? >> Yeah. People, as you know well, and you
[01:07:29] >> Yeah. People, as you know well, and you talk about this in your books, it's the
[01:07:32] talk about this in your books, it's the core wounds. I'm not lovable. I'm not
[01:07:34] core wounds. I'm not lovable. I'm not enough. Right. Yes. That impacts your
[01:07:37] enough. Right. Yes. That impacts your sex life.
[01:07:38] sex life. >> And so desire is how you feel about
[01:07:41] >> And so desire is how you feel about yourself. I'm fat. I'm ugly. or what you
[01:07:43] yourself. I'm fat. I'm ugly. or what you know like all this negative talk and how
[01:07:47] know like all this negative talk and how are you doing in your relationship? If
[01:07:49] are you doing in your relationship? If you're mad at your partner outside the
[01:07:50] you're mad at your partner outside the bedroom, if they're not meeting your
[01:07:52] bedroom, if they're not meeting your overall general relationship values, if
[01:07:55] overall general relationship values, if they're not showing up as the person you
[01:07:57] they're not showing up as the person you need in the relationship, it's going to
[01:07:59] need in the relationship, it's going to hurt in the bedroom. Yes.
[01:08:00] hurt in the bedroom. Yes. >> So, that's your that's your desire. Do I
[01:08:04] >> So, that's your that's your desire. Do I do I feel desirable? Do I desire you?
[01:08:07] do I feel desirable? Do I desire you? >> And then arousal is the stairway to
[01:08:11] >> And then arousal is the stairway to heaven.
[01:08:11] heaven. >> Okay. So what arousal is and your ladder
[01:08:14] >> Okay. So what arousal is and your ladder looks so much different than my ladder.
[01:08:16] looks so much different than my ladder. Dude, you are so lucky to have a penis
[01:08:19] Dude, you are so lucky to have a penis because your ladder is like
[01:08:22] because your ladder is like and you're up the ladder. It's a short
[01:08:24] and you're up the ladder. It's a short ladder.
[01:08:24] ladder. >> Oh, it's it's it's the easiest ladder
[01:08:26] >> Oh, it's it's it's the easiest ladder you ever climb. Like it's not mo for
[01:08:28] you ever climb. Like it's not mo for most men do. They need heart connection.
[01:08:30] most men do. They need heart connection. They need love. They need turn on. They
[01:08:33] They need love. They need turn on. They need safety. They need reassurance. They
[01:08:36] need safety. They need reassurance. They need, you know, foreplay or whatever you
[01:08:38] need, you know, foreplay or whatever you want to call it. They need all those
[01:08:40] want to call it. They need all those things. Yes. But women need way more
[01:08:42] things. Yes. But women need way more most of the time.
[01:08:43] most of the time. >> The lighter the touch, the better the
[01:08:44] >> The lighter the touch, the better the come.
[01:08:45] come. >> The lighter the touch, the better the
[01:08:48] >> The lighter the touch, the better the come.
[01:08:48] come. >> Yes. Because you build the ability to
[01:08:51] >> Yes. Because you build the ability to feel the sensation. It doesn't take so
[01:08:53] feel the sensation. It doesn't take so much to get you off. You're not rubbing
[01:08:55] much to get you off. You're not rubbing madly. You know, that's the friction,
[01:08:57] madly. You know, that's the friction, not the connection, right? You're not
[01:08:59] not the connection, right? You're not starting fires at down there, right?
[01:09:01] starting fires at down there, right? Like if you just do these slow
[01:09:04] Like if you just do these slow techniques, your body starts to go, I
[01:09:06] techniques, your body starts to go, I can feel that. Oh, that feels nice.
[01:09:08] can feel that. Oh, that feels nice. Right? instead of grinding it out so
[01:09:10] Right? instead of grinding it out so fast. So, the seduction
[01:09:14] fast. So, the seduction is a combination of helping like you
[01:09:18] is a combination of helping like you basically have to get up under me and
[01:09:20] basically have to get up under me and lift my butt up onto my arousal letter.
[01:09:22] lift my butt up onto my arousal letter. You got to help me get going because as
[01:09:25] You got to help me get going because as an estrogen dominant femalebodied human,
[01:09:29] an estrogen dominant femalebodied human, estrogen is a molecule of safety.
[01:09:32] estrogen is a molecule of safety. >> Okay?
[01:09:32] >> Okay? >> And women, as you know, we do not walk
[01:09:34] >> And women, as you know, we do not walk in the world safely. We have our mind.
[01:09:38] in the world safely. We have our mind. We've got 360 degree vision. Yes, we
[01:09:41] We've got 360 degree vision. Yes, we have intuition. We know when there's a
[01:09:43] have intuition. We know when there's a creeper stalking us, hopefully, you
[01:09:45] creeper stalking us, hopefully, you know, we can tell when we're in danger.
[01:09:47] know, we can tell when we're in danger. And so, we've got danger signals always
[01:09:49] And so, we've got danger signals always up. We're always worried. So, our
[01:09:52] up. We're always worried. So, our male-bodied partner's job is to help us
[01:09:55] male-bodied partner's job is to help us pull that all in and get into our heart
[01:09:58] pull that all in and get into our heart and into our body and out of our head.
[01:10:00] and into our body and out of our head. And it takes us, it's like an old rusty
[01:10:05] And it takes us, it's like an old rusty machine from the 1800s. That arousal,
[01:10:08] machine from the 1800s. That arousal, right? It's like it needs some oil. It
[01:10:11] right? It's like it needs some oil. It needs some grease. It needs a turn. You
[01:10:13] needs some grease. It needs a turn. You got to put some muscle in it. Get us off
[01:10:15] got to put some muscle in it. Get us off the step.
[01:10:16] the step. >> You know, Susan, is this responsive
[01:10:18] >> You know, Susan, is this responsive desire? Is this okay? This is what this
[01:10:20] desire? Is this okay? This is what this is.
[01:10:20] is. >> Yeah. This is your You would be more
[01:10:22] >> Yeah. This is your You would be more spontaneous generally. Yes.
[01:10:24] spontaneous generally. Yes. >> We would be more responsive. You got
[01:10:26] >> We would be more responsive. You got will respond to your help to get into
[01:10:29] will respond to your help to get into our body. So the holding, the massage,
[01:10:32] our body. So the holding, the massage, the yoni massage, the lingum, the
[01:10:35] the yoni massage, the lingum, the kissing, the breast play, but also
[01:10:37] kissing, the breast play, but also before that, the romance, the attention,
[01:10:41] before that, the romance, the attention, the appreciation,
[01:10:44] the appreciation, >> all those things.
[01:10:45] >> all those things. >> Yes. That that that's why, you know,
[01:10:46] >> Yes. That that that's why, you know, it's I think we have to think that, you
[01:10:49] it's I think we have to think that, you know, you don't want to have sex with
[01:10:50] know, you don't want to have sex with someone that you don't feel safe with,
[01:10:52] someone that you don't feel safe with, >> right?
[01:10:52] >> right? >> You don't want to have sex with someone
[01:10:54] >> You don't want to have sex with someone who um is um is unkind to you. You don't
[01:10:58] who um is um is unkind to you. You don't want to have sex with someone who you
[01:11:00] want to have sex with someone who you can't even have uh you can't share
[01:11:03] can't even have uh you can't share anything with. It's like these are the
[01:11:05] anything with. It's like these are the basics.
[01:11:06] basics. >> But unfortunately, we have so much
[01:11:09] >> But unfortunately, we have so much friction in our day-to-day
[01:11:11] friction in our day-to-day relationships, so much unresolved
[01:11:13] relationships, so much unresolved conflict. You could see why sex is not
[01:11:16] conflict. You could see why sex is not happening or why sexual satisfaction is
[01:11:18] happening or why sexual satisfaction is so low or why orgasms are not happening.
[01:11:21] so low or why orgasms are not happening. And so, you're right. Those are the
[01:11:22] And so, you're right. Those are the foundational pieces that really need to
[01:11:24] foundational pieces that really need to be addressed first.
[01:11:25] be addressed first. >> Yeah,
[01:11:25] >> Yeah, >> this is this has been a master class.
[01:11:27] >> this is this has been a master class. There's a lot of topography. The sexual
[01:11:31] There's a lot of topography. The sexual landscape is vast. Yes. And so you can
[01:11:34] landscape is vast. Yes. And so you can learn the techniques in any order you
[01:11:36] learn the techniques in any order you want, but the communication skills are
[01:11:38] want, but the communication skills are definitely an ascension model and
[01:11:39] definitely an ascension model and arousal is definitely an ascension
[01:11:41] arousal is definitely an ascension model. Okay.
[01:11:42] model. Okay. >> So it's good to know what you're going
[01:11:43] >> So it's good to know what you're going for. Like that's how you that's how you
[01:11:45] for. Like that's how you that's how you learn. Mastery is okay. When I if I'm
[01:11:49] learn. Mastery is okay. When I if I'm going to learn to cook amazing meals, if
[01:11:51] going to learn to cook amazing meals, if I'm going to become a good cook, I got
[01:11:52] I'm going to become a good cook, I got to learn some of the fundamentals,
[01:11:53] to learn some of the fundamentals, right? I got to learn how to make a I
[01:11:55] right? I got to learn how to make a I got to learn how to make a gravy. I got
[01:11:56] got to learn how to make a gravy. I got to learn how to do, you know, I got to
[01:11:58] to learn how to do, you know, I got to learn how to fold things and, you know,
[01:12:00] learn how to fold things and, you know, all this stuff.
[01:12:00] all this stuff. >> And you know, a key piece to mastery
[01:12:02] >> And you know, a key piece to mastery that a lot of people forget. Tell me,
[01:12:04] that a lot of people forget. Tell me, >> is not only do you need to put the time
[01:12:06] >> is not only do you need to put the time in, but you need to be open to the
[01:12:08] in, but you need to be open to the feedback.
[01:12:09] feedback. >> Yeah.
[01:12:09] >> Yeah. >> So you can become better.
[01:12:11] >> So you can become better. >> Yeah.
[01:12:11] >> Yeah. >> Yes. And I think this is where you come
[01:12:13] >> Yes. And I think this is where you come into play perfectly is because you are
[01:12:16] into play perfectly is because you are literally teaching us
[01:12:19] literally teaching us >> and through these mechanisms or even
[01:12:21] >> and through these mechanisms or even through your writing, right? That in
[01:12:23] through your writing, right? That in itself is feedback if we're open to to
[01:12:25] itself is feedback if we're open to to to listen for couples who
[01:12:29] to listen for couples who >> feel like they have maybe the script
[01:12:32] >> feel like they have maybe the script when it comes to sex because I feel like
[01:12:34] when it comes to sex because I feel like there's like this standard menu
[01:12:36] there's like this standard menu especially with heterosexual couples. It
[01:12:39] especially with heterosexual couples. It is typically the woman pleasures the
[01:12:42] is typically the woman pleasures the man, gives him oral sex,
[01:12:45] man, gives him oral sex, >> which then turns into sex in a
[01:12:48] >> which then turns into sex in a missionary position,
[01:12:49] missionary position, >> which turns to him orgasming quickly and
[01:12:53] >> which turns to him orgasming quickly and her not. And that's it. All done
[01:12:57] her not. And that's it. All done >> four minutes later.
[01:12:58] >> four minutes later. >> Yeah.
[01:12:58] >> Yeah. >> Right.
[01:12:59] >> Right. >> So, for couples that have been doing
[01:13:02] >> So, for couples that have been doing that,
[01:13:02] that, >> I wouldn't say most guys are getting
[01:13:03] >> I wouldn't say most guys are getting [ __ ]
[01:13:04] [ __ ] >> Okay. Oh, most most are not.
[01:13:06] >> Okay. Oh, most most are not. >> I'm glad you think they are. God love
[01:13:07] >> I'm glad you think they are. God love you.
[01:13:07] you. >> Oh my god. I don't think they are. Are
[01:13:09] >> Oh my god. I don't think they are. Are >> okay. But most are not.
[01:13:10] >> okay. But most are not. >> I think it's grab a boob and stick it
[01:13:11] >> I think it's grab a boob and stick it in. I think it's like Hong Kong boom.
[01:13:13] in. I think it's like Hong Kong boom. >> Oh, that's that's most
[01:13:14] >> Oh, that's that's most >> I think that's what most people think.
[01:13:15] >> I think that's what most people think. Sex is intercourse because sex was for
[01:13:17] Sex is intercourse because sex was for pro procreation only. And so the only
[01:13:19] pro procreation only. And so the only thing that sex is what's going to make a
[01:13:21] thing that sex is what's going to make a baby even if you're not making a baby.
[01:13:22] baby even if you're not making a baby. >> Okay. So So then that's it. So then
[01:13:24] >> Okay. So So then that's it. So then couples that are in that script.
[01:13:26] couples that are in that script. >> Yeah. H what what
[01:13:29] >> Yeah. H what what >> I hate to say quick tips, but but what
[01:13:31] >> I hate to say quick tips, but but what are some things that could be done
[01:13:33] are some things that could be done >> to help break that cycle? Yeah. Quickly.
[01:13:36] >> to help break that cycle? Yeah. Quickly. >> Yeah. Yoni massage and ling massage.
[01:13:38] >> Yeah. Yoni massage and ling massage. >> There you go.
[01:13:38] >> There you go. >> I mean, I really think just having her
[01:13:41] >> I mean, I really think just having her having her learn how to completely
[01:13:43] having her learn how to completely receive is a practice in and of itself
[01:13:45] receive is a practice in and of itself if she's only ever had that kind of like
[01:13:47] if she's only ever had that kind of like quick penetrative sex where it's like a
[01:13:50] quick penetrative sex where it's like a the duty booty kind of thing.
[01:13:51] the duty booty kind of thing. >> All right, one more. This is for me
[01:13:53] >> All right, one more. This is for me though, I have to ask. Is aphrodisiacs?
[01:13:55] though, I have to ask. Is aphrodisiacs? >> Yes, I love them.
[01:13:57] >> Yes, I love them. >> Oh my god, I love them.
[01:13:58] >> Oh my god, I love them. >> So, there is such a thing. Yes,
[01:14:00] >> So, there is such a thing. Yes, >> as an aphrodisiac. You know, human
[01:14:03] >> as an aphrodisiac. You know, human beings been running around on this earth
[01:14:05] beings been running around on this earth eating things to make themselves horny
[01:14:07] eating things to make themselves horny since we crawled out of the slime. Are
[01:14:09] since we crawled out of the slime. Are you kidding me?
[01:14:10] you kidding me? >> Okay. What are they? What What are some
[01:14:12] >> Okay. What are they? What What are some that actually work?
[01:14:13] that actually work? >> They're everywhere. You know, everything
[01:14:15] >> They're everywhere. You know, everything from They're all over the world.
[01:14:16] from They're all over the world. >> What about I often hear chocolate,
[01:14:18] >> What about I often hear chocolate, oysters, wine. Are those
[01:14:21] oysters, wine. Are those >> Well, chocolate is cacao.
[01:14:23] >> Well, chocolate is cacao. >> Yes.
[01:14:24] >> Yes. >> And that's that actually is grown across
[01:14:26] >> And that's that actually is grown across the equator around the world. So cacao
[01:14:28] the equator around the world. So cacao is it has polyphenols that are great for
[01:14:31] is it has polyphenols that are great for blood flow. So you get better erectile
[01:14:32] blood flow. So you get better erectile function. You get your yoni bone are
[01:14:34] function. You get your yoni bone are better, right? So cacao is f dark
[01:14:37] better, right? So cacao is f dark chocolate's fantastic for you. What was
[01:14:39] chocolate's fantastic for you. What was the other one you said? Uh that's zinc.
[01:14:42] the other one you said? Uh that's zinc. >> Okay.
[01:14:42] >> Okay. >> Yeah, the zinc is helpful. Um and semen
[01:14:45] >> Yeah, the zinc is helpful. Um and semen is also an aphrodisiac. So semen has
[01:14:48] is also an aphrodisiac. So semen has over 20 things in it that are good for
[01:14:53] over 20 things in it that are good for your partner. So one of the benefits of
[01:14:56] your partner. So one of the benefits of receiving seinal fluid as as as your
[01:15:00] receiving seinal fluid as as as your lover is that I get serotonin.
[01:15:05] lover is that I get serotonin. I get testosterone which makes me
[01:15:07] I get testosterone which makes me hornier. So you know how the more sex
[01:15:08] hornier. So you know how the more sex you have the more you want.
[01:15:10] you have the more you want. >> Yes.
[01:15:10] >> Yes. >> I think a big part of that is is the
[01:15:12] >> I think a big part of that is is the testosterone. It gives you luteinizing
[01:15:14] testosterone. It gives you luteinizing hormone which helps regulate your
[01:15:15] hormone which helps regulate your menstrual cycles. Okay.
[01:15:17] menstrual cycles. Okay. >> As a woman. Um it has zinc in it. It has
[01:15:20] >> As a woman. Um it has zinc in it. It has um spermadine and putricine. You know
[01:15:24] um spermadine and putricine. You know how semen has a little funky smell?
[01:15:25] how semen has a little funky smell? >> Yes.
[01:15:26] >> Yes. >> That's called putricine.
[01:15:28] >> That's called putricine. Spermadine and putricine are polyamines
[01:15:32] Spermadine and putricine are polyamines that are actually supportive of nine of
[01:15:35] that are actually supportive of nine of the 12 hallmarks of aging. Here we are
[01:15:39] the 12 hallmarks of aging. Here we are back to mitochondrial function again.
[01:15:41] back to mitochondrial function again. >> Oh, look at that.
[01:15:42] >> Oh, look at that. >> It makes you live longer.
[01:15:45] >> It makes you live longer. >> Okay, so sperm
[01:15:48] >> Okay, so sperm >> Yeah. makes you live longer. Semen,
[01:15:50] >> Yeah. makes you live longer. Semen, should I say semen?
[01:15:51] should I say semen? >> Yes. The sperm's in the semen, but it's
[01:15:53] >> Yes. The sperm's in the semen, but it's a semen volume from your prostate. Yes.
[01:15:55] a semen volume from your prostate. Yes. And the more you ejaculate, the longer
[01:15:57] And the more you ejaculate, the longer you live as well. So, uh there are a lot
[01:16:01] you live as well. So, uh there are a lot of studies that show that this is why we
[01:16:03] of studies that show that this is why we know that for every 10 years you stay
[01:16:06] know that for every 10 years you stay sexually active that you extend your sex
[01:16:08] sexually active that you extend your sex span. You add two years of health span
[01:16:11] span. You add two years of health span onto your life roughly. Those are mostly
[01:16:13] onto your life roughly. Those are mostly men's studies, of course, because all
[01:16:15] men's studies, of course, because all the studies are men. But I mean
[01:16:17] the studies are men. But I mean literally when I said there are 10,000
[01:16:18] literally when I said there are 10,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, that's
[01:16:20] nerve endings in the clitoris, that's brand new data. We used to say eight
[01:16:22] brand new data. We used to say eight because it was a poor sign study. Pig
[01:16:24] because it was a poor sign study. Pig [ __ ] So finally we and thanks to our
[01:16:27] [ __ ] So finally we and thanks to our trans folks because we're doing nerve
[01:16:29] trans folks because we're doing nerve sparing, you know, genital restoration
[01:16:32] sparing, you know, genital restoration and so we now know more about the
[01:16:34] and so we now know more about the nerves.
[01:16:35] nerves. >> Look at that.
[01:16:35] >> Look at that. >> I know. But um yeah, the the prostate
[01:16:38] >> I know. But um yeah, the the prostate itself is like that's a gland and a
[01:16:41] itself is like that's a gland and a muscle. It it's a contractive muscle.
[01:16:45] muscle. It it's a contractive muscle. There's oxytocin again.
[01:16:46] There's oxytocin again. >> Yes.
[01:16:47] >> Yes. >> Contracts and ejects. What you're doing
[01:16:50] >> Contracts and ejects. What you're doing is you're bringing
[01:16:52] is you're bringing >> blood flow
[01:16:54] >> blood flow which brings healing factors, growth
[01:16:56] which brings healing factors, growth factors, oxygenation,
[01:16:59] factors, oxygenation, right? So all this blood flow like what
[01:17:02] right? So all this blood flow like what you could call this episode blood flow
[01:17:05] you could call this episode blood flow makes good sex. pretty much this
[01:17:08] makes good sex. pretty much this conversation
[01:17:09] conversation has been much more informative
[01:17:14] has been much more informative >> than I was expecting.
[01:17:16] >> than I was expecting. >> Oh, good. This was this was academic
[01:17:19] >> Oh, good. This was this was academic >> but to the point where everyone can take
[01:17:23] >> but to the point where everyone can take something that was said and not just
[01:17:26] something that was said and not just like make their sex life better but make
[01:17:28] like make their sex life better but make their life better which I think is inc
[01:17:32] their life better which I think is inc which is so much more which is important
[01:17:35] which is so much more which is important is to know that we are all empowered to
[01:17:37] is to know that we are all empowered to do that and I think you're a reflection
[01:17:39] do that and I think you're a reflection of someone who said you know what I am
[01:17:42] of someone who said you know what I am going to take charge of my life
[01:17:45] going to take charge of my life >> and I'm going to live it to the fullest.
[01:17:47] >> and I'm going to live it to the fullest. And the way I want.
[01:17:48] And the way I want. >> And the way you want.
[01:17:49] >> And the way you want. >> 100% the way I want. One of the most
[01:17:51] >> 100% the way I want. One of the most important things to me is to be
[01:17:52] important things to me is to be surrounded by people where I don't have
[01:17:54] surrounded by people where I don't have to filter myself.
[01:17:55] to filter myself. >> Like I'm on my best behavior with you.
[01:17:57] >> Like I'm on my best behavior with you. Of course. Right.
[01:17:58] Of course. Right. >> I can see I can see you because you walk
[01:18:00] >> I can see I can see you because you walk to the line and then you come back.
[01:18:01] to the line and then you come back. >> I do. Yes. I do. I don't want to trigger
[01:18:04] >> I do. Yes. I do. I don't want to trigger anybody, you know. But uh I really try
[01:18:06] anybody, you know. But uh I really try not to and I and I'm in my compassionate
[01:18:08] not to and I and I'm in my compassionate heart. If I if I have triggered anyone,
[01:18:10] heart. If I if I have triggered anyone, I feel I'm sorry. But um uh but I really
[01:18:14] I feel I'm sorry. But um uh but I really love to be around people who play full
[01:18:16] love to be around people who play full out and say everything they're thinking
[01:18:19] out and say everything they're thinking and are their 100% authentic self.
[01:18:22] and are their 100% authentic self. That's when life is so juicy. So when we
[01:18:24] That's when life is so juicy. So when we let go of the shackles of our repressive
[01:18:27] let go of the shackles of our repressive culture, when we move into our desires
[01:18:30] culture, when we move into our desires fully and we become exactly who we want
[01:18:33] fully and we become exactly who we want to become, it is just so lovely, so
[01:18:37] to become, it is just so lovely, so delightful, so wonderful. And you'll
[01:18:38] delightful, so wonderful. And you'll find your people. Your people will be
[01:18:40] find your people. Your people will be like, "Mitch, I love you."
[01:18:42] like, "Mitch, I love you." >> Yes. Yes. And you're like, "You
[01:18:44] >> Yes. Yes. And you're like, "You definitely are are my people." Yeah.
[01:18:46] definitely are are my people." Yeah. >> Yeah. You find your people.
[01:18:48] >> Yeah. You find your people. >> Yes, you do. And it is beautiful, you
[01:18:49] >> Yes, you do. And it is beautiful, you know, when you find your people, you
[01:18:51] know, when you find your people, you have your village.
[01:18:52] have your village. >> Yeah.
[01:18:52] >> Yeah. >> You know, and you feel safe.
[01:18:53] >> You know, and you feel safe. >> Yeah.
[01:18:54] >> Yeah. >> Because you could truly then just double
[01:18:56] >> Because you could truly then just double down in your on your authenticity.
[01:18:58] down in your on your authenticity. >> Yeah.
[01:18:58] >> Yeah. >> Um so then final question.
[01:19:01] >> Um so then final question. >> Okay.
[01:19:01] >> Okay. >> What did you say for last?
[01:19:03] >> What did you say for last? >> Every everyone gets this question and it
[01:19:05] >> Every everyone gets this question and it is my favorite.
[01:19:06] is my favorite. >> All right. You think about all the
[01:19:07] >> All right. You think about all the incredible conversations you've had
[01:19:09] incredible conversations you've had throughout your life.
[01:19:11] throughout your life. >> Which one was the most memorable?
[01:19:13] >> Which one was the most memorable? >> So, who was it with and what did you
[01:19:15] >> So, who was it with and what did you learn?
[01:19:19] >> Oh god,
[01:19:21] >> Oh god, this is weird, but one of the things
[01:19:24] this is weird, but one of the things that I think I would have been Perry
[01:19:26] that I think I would have been Perry Belchure, he's a copywriter. He's a a
[01:19:29] Belchure, he's a copywriter. He's a a good old boy from Mississippi or
[01:19:32] good old boy from Mississippi or someplace, Louisiana or someplace. and
[01:19:34] someplace, Louisiana or someplace. and he taught me the concept of traffic and
[01:19:36] he taught me the concept of traffic and conversion.
[01:19:37] conversion. >> Okay?
[01:19:38] >> Okay? >> And traffic and conversion is what I
[01:19:41] >> And traffic and conversion is what I have run, you know, I'm an entrepreneur.
[01:19:43] have run, you know, I'm an entrepreneur. I've run up my business for 20 years and
[01:19:46] I've run up my business for 20 years and it is not an easy it's a stupid business
[01:19:49] it is not an easy it's a stupid business to be in. I should have known better
[01:19:51] to be in. I should have known better that it' be in such a difficult business
[01:19:53] that it' be in such a difficult business because sex is constantly censored. I'm
[01:19:56] because sex is constantly censored. I'm const I'm [ __ ] blocked everywhere I go.
[01:19:58] const I'm [ __ ] blocked everywhere I go. And so I just keep this rule of thumb.
[01:20:00] And so I just keep this rule of thumb. He taught me this about my business. He
[01:20:02] He taught me this about my business. He said, "You got to watch how you're
[01:20:04] said, "You got to watch how you're getting your traffic and grow that and
[01:20:06] getting your traffic and grow that and you got to watch your conversions so
[01:20:08] you got to watch your conversions so that you know you're making revenue."
[01:20:10] that you know you're making revenue." And it was such a simple formula for me.
[01:20:13] And it was such a simple formula for me. And the reason that I like to have
[01:20:16] And the reason that I like to have abundance and I like to generate wealth
[01:20:18] abundance and I like to generate wealth is because I think about when I
[01:20:20] is because I think about when I visualize myself, I am a little husky
[01:20:23] visualize myself, I am a little husky with a big sled and I am pulling a sled
[01:20:26] with a big sled and I am pulling a sled and there are thousands of people on it
[01:20:29] and there are thousands of people on it and I am pulling them forward. I love to
[01:20:32] and I am pulling them forward. I love to take care of people. I love to help out.
[01:20:35] take care of people. I love to help out. And so the more that I can do well, the
[01:20:39] And so the more that I can do well, the more good I can do. And so that funny
[01:20:42] more good I can do. And so that funny little conversation with Perry Rie made
[01:20:44] little conversation with Perry Rie made business so simple for me because I'm
[01:20:47] business so simple for me because I'm not a numbers person. And so it really
[01:20:49] not a numbers person. And so it really helped me to have that simple way of
[01:20:52] helped me to have that simple way of thinking about my business. So that in
[01:20:54] thinking about my business. So that in my mastermind last week, I went through
[01:20:58] my mastermind last week, I went through what my strategy is for 2026
[01:21:00] what my strategy is for 2026 and why it's what it is. What are the
[01:21:02] and why it's what it is. What are the forces that are changing in the
[01:21:04] forces that are changing in the landscape in the market and how am I
[01:21:06] landscape in the market and how am I modifying my business to grow my traffic
[01:21:08] modifying my business to grow my traffic and improve my conversions.
[01:21:09] and improve my conversions. >> Yes,
[01:21:10] >> Yes, >> I the more experts I help grow their
[01:21:13] >> I the more experts I help grow their businesses, the more sexual literacy and
[01:21:15] businesses, the more sexual literacy and pleasure and longevity I create. Yes.
[01:21:18] pleasure and longevity I create. Yes. >> So traffic and conversion from Perry
[01:21:20] >> So traffic and conversion from Perry Belchure.
[01:21:20] Belchure. >> There you go. And you know, I I would
[01:21:22] >> There you go. And you know, I I would not have thought anything different
[01:21:24] not have thought anything different coming from you that you would pick
[01:21:26] coming from you that you would pick something that people would say is is
[01:21:28] something that people would say is is obscure, but I think that is a great
[01:21:30] obscure, but I think that is a great representation of you. And I think it
[01:21:33] representation of you. And I think it shows how
[01:21:35] shows how >> um how alive you are. I think that's
[01:21:38] >> um how alive you are. I think that's really what I'm walking away with. Uh I
[01:21:40] really what I'm walking away with. Uh I have uh and this this is going to uh
[01:21:44] have uh and this this is going to uh because because they will watch this, so
[01:21:45] because because they will watch this, so they're going to say, "What are you
[01:21:46] they're going to say, "What are you saying?" I have family members
[01:21:49] saying?" I have family members >> who are not 64.
[01:21:53] >> who are not 64. >> Yeah.
[01:21:53] >> Yeah. >> But I feel like they've already written
[01:21:54] >> But I feel like they've already written off their life.
[01:21:55] off their life. >> Yeah. I know.
[01:21:56] >> Yeah. I know. >> I think I I they they've they've hit an
[01:21:58] >> I think I I they they've they've hit an age and they've said, "Well, you know
[01:21:59] age and they've said, "Well, you know what? This is not for me anymore."
[01:22:03] what? This is not for me anymore." >> Satisfaction is not for me. Sexual
[01:22:05] >> Satisfaction is not for me. Sexual satisfaction is definitely not for me.
[01:22:07] satisfaction is definitely not for me. They've just written off these pieces of
[01:22:09] They've just written off these pieces of their life. But I think that you are
[01:22:12] their life. But I think that you are representation.
[01:22:14] representation. >> Why?
[01:22:14] >> Why? >> Right. That's the 85 versus the 15.
[01:22:17] >> Right. That's the 85 versus the 15. >> Yes.
[01:22:17] >> Yes. >> It's mindset.
[01:22:18] >> It's mindset. >> It is.
[01:22:19] >> It is. >> You gotta be a w a Wolverine.
[01:22:21] >> You gotta be a w a Wolverine. >> Gotta take a take a lick and keep on
[01:22:23] >> Gotta take a take a lick and keep on ticking.
[01:22:23] ticking. >> Yes.
[01:22:24] >> Yes. >> And this is You are a Tomx
[01:22:27] >> And this is You are a Tomx >> in a beautiful
[01:22:29] >> in a beautiful >> garden of Babylon.
[01:22:32] >> garden of Babylon. Timex.
[01:22:33] Timex. >> You will forever think about my yoni at
[01:22:35] >> You will forever think about my yoni at the hanging garden of Babylon. Now,
[01:22:36] the hanging garden of Babylon. Now, >> is it bad that I have a visualization of
[01:22:39] >> is it bad that I have a visualization of your yon?
[01:22:39] your yon? >> Not at all. You're welcome to. It's
[01:22:41] >> Not at all. You're welcome to. It's fine. It's a pretty thing.
[01:22:42] fine. It's a pretty thing. >> It's lush. Yes.
[01:22:43] >> It's lush. Yes. >> I keep looking over here. It's It's more
[01:22:45] >> I keep looking over here. It's It's more lush than this area right here. Right.
[01:22:47] lush than this area right here. Right. It's like
[01:22:47] It's like >> Oh, yes.
[01:22:48] >> Oh, yes. >> Yeah. It's there. Uh Susan, thank you so
[01:22:50] >> Yeah. It's there. Uh Susan, thank you so much. I I've I've enjoyed this
[01:22:52] much. I I've I've enjoyed this conversation, too. I've learned so much.
[01:22:54] conversation, too. I've learned so much. Oh, that's
[01:22:55] Oh, that's >> uh and this conversation will improve my
[01:22:57] >> uh and this conversation will improve my life. So, thank you.
[01:22:58] life. So, thank you. >> Good.
[01:22:58] >> Good. >> Thank you.
[01:23:01] >> Thank you. >> I mean, Susan,
[01:23:04] >> I mean, Susan, I love that conversation. I think it is
[01:23:09] I love that conversation. I think it is ultimately how comfortable she is with
[01:23:12] ultimately how comfortable she is with who she is. I love that. You know, she
[01:23:17] who she is. I love that. You know, she busted many myths that persist in
[01:23:22] busted many myths that persist in society today. Uh namely this whole
[01:23:25] society today. Uh namely this whole notion of as you get older, uh sex
[01:23:29] notion of as you get older, uh sex basically the satisfaction drops and
[01:23:31] basically the satisfaction drops and then sex stops. And it's it's so
[01:23:34] then sex stops. And it's it's so interesting to talk to a woman who is 64
[01:23:38] interesting to talk to a woman who is 64 years old who is saying that she's
[01:23:41] years old who is saying that she's having orgasms that last over an hour. I
[01:23:44] having orgasms that last over an hour. I didn't know that was possible. There are
[01:23:46] didn't know that was possible. There are a lot of people who grapple with just
[01:23:48] a lot of people who grapple with just the idea of say a dildo, but now she's
[01:23:51] the idea of say a dildo, but now she's talking about remote AI
[01:23:54] talking about remote AI wifi enabled simultaneous sex tools. But
[01:23:59] wifi enabled simultaneous sex tools. But the demonstrations, these are
[01:24:00] the demonstrations, these are demonstrations that our children should
[01:24:02] demonstrations that our children should see. What the kids are learning is STI
[01:24:05] see. What the kids are learning is STI are bad and don't have sex. Like we need
[01:24:08] are bad and don't have sex. Like we need to know about pleasure. We need to
[01:24:10] to know about pleasure. We need to understand what is sex. We need to
[01:24:13] understand what is sex. We need to understand what is communication, how
[01:24:14] understand what is communication, how important it is. What what I loved about
[01:24:17] important it is. What what I loved about that this conversation that we just had
[01:24:20] that this conversation that we just had is we talked about topics that are
[01:24:24] is we talked about topics that are present in the lives of most people, but
[01:24:28] present in the lives of most people, but we're not talking about it. Anyone who
[01:24:31] we're not talking about it. Anyone who is interested in sex
[01:24:34] is interested in sex needs to watch this.

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Summary

TL;DR — This video explores the multifaceted nature of sex and pleasure, debunking common myths and offering practical advice for enhancing sexual experiences throughout life. It emphasizes that sexual satisfaction can improve with age and highlights the importance of communication, exploration, and understanding one's own body and desires.

Key points

• Sex is an intimate connection that can continuously improve throughout life, contrary to the myth that satisfaction declines with age.

• Understanding female anatomy, referred to as the 'yoni,' is crucial, as it encompasses more than just the vagina and requires specific types of stimulation.

• Orgasms are learned skills with numerous pathways, and various forms of pleasure, including kissing and breast play, can lead to them.

• Communication, radical honesty, and a willingness to explore new techniques and technologies (like remote sex tools) are vital for a fulfilling sex life.

• Aphrodisiacs, such as cacao and semen, can play a role in enhancing sexual desire and overall well-being.

• The importance of a growth mindset and continuous learning applies to sexual experiences, encouraging individuals to explore their desires and overcome inhibitions.

Takeaway — Sexual satisfaction is not limited by age or societal myths; it's a skill that can be cultivated through knowledge, open communication, and a willingness to explore and experiment.