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[00:18] Hi, I'm Brian Tracy and welcome to the Phoenix seminar on the psychology of achievement.
[00:24] Have you ever wondered why some people are more successful than others?
[00:28] Why some people earn more money, are happier, have better jobs, better relationships, better health and seem to get far more out of life?
[00:34] Well, when I was 15 years old, this question began to preoccupy me.
[00:39] I've spent over 25 years, I've traveled in over 80 countries, I've worked at 30 different jobs and I've spent by my own estimate about 30,000 hours in study to try to find the answer.
[00:50] To why some people are more successful than others and you know something I have found that this is one of the most studied subjects in the world.
[00:57] That there's more information available on it today than has ever been available before and that today we can say with complete confidence that success is as predictable as the sun rising in the East and setting in the West.
[01:09] Today you can be more successful faster than you ever dreamed possible if you will do two basic things.
[01:14] Number one, make a decision to exceed all your previous levels of.
[01:19] to exceed all your previous levels of accomplishment make a decision to be successful and to achieve your goals.
[01:23] whatever you construe them to be and number two learn how this seminar has been assembled in order to teach you how.
[01:31] since we put it together several years ago over 150,000 men and women have been through this seminar in one form or another and many of them have said it's like getting a brand new chance at life.
[01:43] one gentleman said to us it was like getting a blank check on the future.
[01:48] we're going to teach you in the next few hours some of the most important things that have ever been found that have been discovered and rediscovered that go back 4,000 years into History Science religion metaphysics Psych ology philosophy and all esoteric fields of study have come to the conclusions that we are going to talk about in this seminar.
[02:05] if you will just use some of the things you learn in this seminar it can dramatically change your results for the better.
[02:15] now in studying the subject of success one of the things we have to do is put some preconceptions aside.
[02:18] one of the things
[02:20] Preconceptions aside, one of the things that I began thinking was that in order to be successful you had to be especially intelligent or you had to have a great education or you had to be terrific looking or you had to have context or you had to have luck.
[02:30] Do you know that these items have been examined thoroughly and there's no correlation at all between success and intelligence, education, luck, contacts, and appearance?
[02:40] They are helpful in some cases, but there's no direct correlation.
[02:42] Success is based on other things.
[02:44] Now, before we go any further, let's talk about what we mean by success.
[02:48] When we look at the difference between animals and human beings, we find that animals have what is called a survival instinct.
[02:54] Animals work to get enough to eat, a place to sleep, to reproduce their species, and then they either hibernate and or die.
[02:59] Human beings have what you might call a success instinct.
[03:05] A success instinct means that human beings are driven internally to succeed.
[03:11] That it is as natural for you to succeed and to want to be a success as it is for you to breathe in and breathe out.
[03:17] That success, the drive to be
[03:22] Breathe out that success the drive to be and have and do and more to fulfill your.
[03:24] And have and do and more to fulfill your potential as a human being is an.
[03:26] Potential as a human being is an absolutely essential part of your being.
[03:29] Absolutely essential part of your being that we never are satisfied as long as.
[03:31] that we never are satisfied as long as we're alive we always want to have more.
[03:33] we're alive we always want to have more we always want to be more we always want.
[03:34] we always want to do more the question of course is why.
[03:37] to do more the question of course is why is it that so few people achieve things.
[03:40] is it that so few people achieve things in life let's talk about what the.
[03:42] in life let's talk about what the success Instinct Embraces now I have.
[03:43] success Instinct Embraces now I have looked at this for years and years and.
[03:45] looked at this for years and years and in my estimation success can be broken.
[03:48] in my estimation success can be broken down and put under seven categories.
[03:50] down and put under seven categories there are seven ingredients of success.
[03:53] there are seven ingredients of success and if you have these seven everything.
[03:54] and if you have these seven everything you could ever want in life can be put.
[03:55] you could ever want in life can be put under one of these categories so let's.
[03:57] under one of these categories so let's look at what we're talking about number.
[03:58] look at what we're talking about number one starting point of success top of the.
[04:01] one starting point of success top of the Hit Parade throughout all of human.
[04:02] Hit Parade throughout all of human history is peace of mind Peace of Mind.
[04:06] history is peace of mind Peace of Mind means that you feel content at peace.
[04:10] means that you feel content at peace relaxed inside peace of mind to a great.
[04:12] relaxed inside peace of mind to a great degree means freedom it means freedom.
[04:14] degree means freedom it means freedom especially from Fear Freedom From Fear.
[04:18] especially from Fear Freedom From Fear freedom from stress freedom from anxiety.
[04:20] freedom from stress freedom from anxiety Freedom from Want freedom from lack.
[04:22] Freedom from Want freedom from lack freedom from negative emotions freedom.
[04:24] freedom from negative emotions freedom from guilt and so on but peace of mind is the first and most important ingredient of success why it's because if you get anything else in life and you don't get your peace of mind you won't even enjoy it
[04:36] number two ingredient of success health and energy health and energy Health means that we have the health we are free from sickness freedom from disease Freedom From Pain freedom from ailments and so on but also energy we mean vitality and today we know as a result of exhaustive research in medicine and psychology that there's a very close correlation between peace of mind and health and energy
[05:00] is that 80 to 90% of all the ailments that the human body suffers including most of the reasons why we die before our time have to do with disrupted Peace of Mind
[05:09] psychosomatic medicine is based on the discovery that psycho the Mind makes Soma the body sick so therefore as we strive for higher levels of peace of mind we almost automatically have better levels of health and energy
[05:23] now the third ingredient of success is loving
[05:27] third ingredient of success is loving relationships loving relationship ship
[05:30] relationships loving relationship ship means that we have the ability the
[05:32] means that we have the ability the capacity to enter into long-term loving
[05:35] capacity to enter into long-term loving relationships with other men and women
[05:37] relationships with other men and women it means that we have the ability to
[05:39] it means that we have the ability to give of ourselves to love and to be
[05:41] give of ourselves to love and to be loved and the ability to enter into
[05:43] loved and the ability to enter into loving relationships is an essential
[05:45] loving relationships is an essential part of Being Human it is the one
[05:48] part of Being Human it is the one essential characteristic of our
[05:50] essential characteristic of our humanhood and when we look at loving
[05:51] humanhood and when we look at loving relationships you'll find that almost
[05:52] relationships you'll find that almost all of the problems you have in life
[05:54] all of the problems you have in life about 80% 85% of our problems in life as
[05:57] about 80% 85% of our problems in life as they say talk back that 85 5% of all the
[06:00] they say talk back that 85 5% of all the success you'll ever enjoy in life is
[06:01] success you'll ever enjoy in life is going to be determined by how well you
[06:03] going to be determined by how well you get along with other people the quality
[06:05] get along with other people the quality and quantity of our relationships is the
[06:07] and quantity of our relationships is the true Mark of how well you're doing as a
[06:09] true Mark of how well you're doing as a human being and as you know that
[06:12] human being and as you know that problems within your relationship
[06:13] problems within your relationship starting from Early Childhood all the
[06:15] starting from Early Childhood all the way up through our adult lives disrupt
[06:16] way up through our adult lives disrupt our health and energy disrupt our peace
[06:18] our health and energy disrupt our peace of mind if our loving relationships are
[06:20] of mind if our loving relationships are stable usually our health and energy is
[06:22] stable usually our health and energy is stable and we have great peace of mind
[06:24] stable and we have great peace of mind now how do you measure loving
[06:25] now how do you measure loving relationships well one of the simplest
[06:27] relationships well one of the simplest measures that you can use is simply this
[06:29] Measures that you can use is simply this it is is to ask yourself how much you laugh with another person.
[06:32] How much do you laugh because you'll find that the first thing that enters into a happy relationship is laughter.
[06:37] And the first things that leaves when the relationship starts to go sour is the laughter.
[06:45] Laughter because it is a completely spontaneous expression of life is the true mark of a healthy personality and a healthy relationship.
[06:53] As as you know from your own experience.
[06:55] Now number four ingredient of success is financial freedom.
[07:01] Financial freedom means that you have enough money so that you don't worry about money.
[07:10] Now some people have a tendency to say well success is just simply a matter of money.
[07:13] And they're not interested in money but the fact of the matter is that money is important.
[07:17] It takes money to buy clothes and books and to go to school and buy medical attention and to travel and to have all the good things in life.
[07:24] And every one of us in order to be a success has to reach the point where we know we
[07:29] has to reach the point where we know we have the capacity to earn enough money.
[07:32] have the capacity to earn enough money so that we don't worry about money.
[07:34] so that we don't worry about money we have to reach the point where we can turn our minds to other things higher.
[07:38] turn our minds to other things higher things to our relationships to our health to the uh Improvement of our minds.
[07:43] minds to the expansion of our emotional and our spiritual life but we all have to have the ability to earn more money.
[07:47] and our spiritual life but we all have to have the ability to earn more money.
[07:49] to have the ability to earn more money and the great majority of people unfortunately don't earn enough by their own estimation.
[07:53] unfortunately don't earn enough by their own estimation in this course you're going to learn how you can earn virtually all the money that you want in the course of your lifetime.
[07:59] virtually all the money that you want in the course of your lifetime if you're willing to make the efforts and to pay the necessary price.
[08:02] willing to make the efforts and to pay the necessary price now the fifth ingredient of success is worthy goals.
[08:07] ingredient of success is worthy goals and ideals.
[08:08] and ideals worthy goals and ideals sometimes when we talk about ideals we mean values.
[08:14] goals and ideals sometimes when we talk about ideals we mean values and we know that values really lie at the core of the human being.
[08:19] that values really lie at the core of the human being what your values are determines almost everything that happens to you.
[08:22] determines almost everything that happens to you worthy goals and ideals are what give us a sense of meaning.
[08:24] are what give us a sense of meaning meaning.
[08:29] Meaning, meaning and purpose. Dr. Victor Frankl, the founder of logo therapy, concluded after a lifetime of research that we as human beings need meaning and purpose. We need significance. You need to know that you're doing something that's important. You need to know when you get up in the morning why you're getting up. You need to believe in what you're doing. You need commitment, you need involvement, you need dedication, you need excitement in life. So therefore, worthy goals and ideals are critical. And worthy goals and ideals, of course, that are consistent with your values. What we have found, unfortunately, is probably 80% or more of people have little or no values. They have no sense of direction. They just wander. They do whatever, whatever someone else wants them to do. And this is a major problem that contributes to unhappiness. The sixth ingredient of success is self-knowledge, self-understanding. Self-knowledge, self-understanding. What does this mean? Well, it means that you know and understand who you are, why you do the things you do, what makes you tick. It also means that you
[09:31] makes you tick it also means that you have self-honesty it also means that you have self-honesty
[09:34] it also means that you have the character and the courage to have the character and the courage to face yourself honestly and squarely as
[09:38] face yourself honestly and squarely as Shakespeare said warts and all you have Shakespeare said warts and all you have the honesty to face your strengths into
[09:42] the honesty to face your strengths into weaknesses you have the honesty if you like and the Integrity to look into
[09:46] like and the Integrity to look into yourself to fully understand why you do yourself to fully understand why you do what you do what makes you tick and in
[09:52] what you do what makes you tick and in this seminar by the way we're going to this seminar by the way we're going to give you an enormous amount of
[09:54] give you an enormous amount of information on why you are the way you are and how you can change it in a very positive way if you're not happy with it
[10:01] positive way if you're not happy with it now the seventh ingredient of success is really a result and it is a sense of
[10:06] really a result and it is a sense of personal fulfillment it is a sense of personal fulfillment
[10:09] fulfillment it is a sense of personal fulfillment what Abraham maslo called self-actualization self-actualization is
[10:15] self-actualization self-actualization is the feeling that you are becoming everything that you're capable of becoming
[10:19] becoming self-actualization means that you feel every single day that you're moving toward the Fulfillment of your inherent possibilities and
[10:27] inherent possibilities and self-actualization comes as a result of having worthy goals and ideals having
[10:31] having worthy goals and ideals having loving relationships having a high loving relationships having a high degree of self- knowledge and self- understanding which generates health and energy Peace of Mind loving relationships and so on now the interesting thing is the tragedy is the great majority of men and women today achieve so little on a score of 1 to 10 in terms of human potential the average person is functioning it Far Far Below what they're capable of on a score of 1 to 10 the average person is scoring perhaps two or three on most of these scales 84% of people working today are underemployed in that their jobs do not fully tax their abilities and their potential 80% would rather be doing something else in a study of married couples what we found was that 38% of married couples would rather be married to someone else uh We've also found that the great majority of people in our society after a lifetime of well-paid work retire broke they retire poor they retire on pensions only 1% become wealthy only 5% become financially independent 15% % have some savings and 80% are dependent on others the average
[11:33] 80% are dependent on others the average savings lifetime Savings of a retired
[11:36] savings lifetime Savings of a retired couple in America or Canada today is
[11:38] couple in America or Canada today is less than $660,000 that's after earning
[11:41] less than $660,000 that's after earning between half a million and a million
[11:42] between half a million and a million dollars in an average working Lifetime
[11:44] dollars in an average working Lifetime well why is this the number one reason
[11:46] well why is this the number one reason is that we come into this world without
[11:48] is that we come into this world without an instruction manual you can go through
[11:50] an instruction manual you can go through your entire education and never never be
[11:52] your entire education and never never be taught anything about success I
[11:54] taught anything about success I personally believe that there should be
[11:55] personally believe that there should be a course on success in every single
[11:57] a course on success in every single grade level in every single School in
[11:59] grade level in every single School in every single college and university we
[12:01] every single college and university we come into the world like a computer if
[12:04] come into the world like a computer if you can imagine a computer imagine that
[12:05] you can imagine a computer imagine that you bought this beautiful sophisticated
[12:07] you bought this beautiful sophisticated computer and you took it home and you
[12:09] computer and you took it home and you took it out of the box and you set it up
[12:10] took it out of the box and you set it up but you had no instruction manual that
[12:13] but you had no instruction manual that you had to figure out how to work out
[12:14] you had to figure out how to work out this computer all by yourself or imagine
[12:16] this computer all by yourself or imagine a com combination lock being given a
[12:18] a com combination lock being given a beautiful combination lock that is on a
[12:21] beautiful combination lock that is on a box that contains everything that you
[12:22] box that contains everything that you ever want but you don't know the
[12:23] ever want but you don't know the combination we come into the world with
[12:26] combination we come into the world with no instruction manual and we spend our
[12:27] no instruction manual and we spend our whole lives trying to figure out how to
[12:29] whole lives trying to figure out how to do things right well the key to success
[12:31] do things right well the key to success is first of all what we call you
[12:34] is first of all what we call you understanding learning how to do things.
[12:36] understanding learning how to do things right and this course is an instruction.
[12:38] right and this course is an instruction manual on success you'll be able to get.
[12:40] manual on success you'll be able to get more out of yourself as a result of this.
[12:42] more out of yourself as a result of this course that you can possibly dream of.
[12:44] course that you can possibly dream of today the second ingredient is e which.
[12:47] today the second ingredient is e which requires effort there are many people as.
[12:49] requires effort there are many people as you know lifelong students who study and.
[12:51] you know lifelong students who study and study and study but they never make the.
[12:53] study and study but they never make the necessary or the correct efforts the.
[12:55] necessary or the correct efforts the middle point is a multiplication sign.
[12:57] middle point is a multiplication sign and understanding multiplied time effort.
[12:59] and understanding multiplied time effort equals results in this course what we're.
[13:02] equals results in this course what we're going to do is we're going to.
[13:03] going to do is we're going to dramatically increase your understanding.
[13:05] dramatically increase your understanding we're going to give you the tools to.
[13:07] we're going to give you the tools to dramatically increase the effectiveness.
[13:09] dramatically increase the effectiveness of your efforts so you're doing not only.
[13:11] of your efforts so you're doing not only things right but you are doing the right.
[13:13] things right but you are doing the right things and you're going to.
[13:16] things and you're going to dramatically increase your results many.
[13:20] dramatically increase your results many people have taken this course and been.
[13:21] people have taken this course and been able to earn more in the following year.
[13:23] able to earn more in the following year than they earned in the previous five.
[13:25] than they earned in the previous five many people have taken this course and.
[13:27] many people have taken this course and been able to make more progress in one.
[13:28] been able to make more progress in one or two years and they made in their.
[13:30] or two years and they made in their lifetime to date it is not unusual for a.
[13:32] lifetime to date it is not unusual for a person to take this course and double or.
[13:33] person to take this course and double or triple their income within a matter of a.
[13:36] triple their income within a matter of a few weeks or a few months simply by applying some of these principles now.
[13:42] Do these principles work?
[13:44] These principles are the basis of all success and achievement in adult life.
[13:48] Every successful man or woman uses them to some degree.
[13:52] Every successful man or woman practices them consciously or unconsciously.
[13:55] What we've done is we've developed them together in this seminar program as a system.
[13:57] Very much like a process of learning anything that if you will take it, if you will use it, if you will apply it systematically, if you will put it into action and you'll work with it consistently for even a short period of time, you're going to start to see changes that are absolutely marvelous.
[14:15] It is my contention that you can be, have or do anything that you want in life.
[14:19] You can grow and expand and fulfill your potential.
[14:22] You can earn more money.
[14:24] You can have greater peace of mind.
[14:26] You can have more health and energy.
[14:28] You can have better loving relationships.
[14:30] You can have Financial Security.
[14:31] You can have a sense of personal fulfillment.
[14:34] You have a great feeling of Peace inside, simply by following what's in this course.
[14:36] following what's in this course so please come with me let's go and let's.
[14:38] please come with me let's go and let's begin to explore everything that you're capable of doing.
[14:41] begin to explore everything that you're capable of doing let us look at what you may be in terms of your future.
[15:02] session two seven mental laws.
[15:05] session two seven mental laws the starting point of self- knowledge is to recognize this wonderful fact is that you are extraordinary.
[15:07] starting point of self- knowledge is to recognize this wonderful fact is that you are extraordinary you are unique.
[15:09] you are extraordinary you are unique the odds against there being someone exactly like you are over 50 billion to one that.
[15:13] odds against there being someone exactly like you are over 50 billion to one that every single part of your body and anatomists and physiologists and doctors have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived.
[15:15] like you are over 50 billion to one that every single part of your body and anatomists and physiologists and doctors have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different.
[15:18] every single part of your body and anatomists and physiologists and doctors have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different.
[15:20] anatomists and physiologists and doctors have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different.
[15:21] have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived.
[15:23] have demonstrated that your blood composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:25] composition is different from any other person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:26] person that has ever lived your fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:28] fingerprints are different your limp prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:29] prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:31] prints are different even your ear prints are different even your toe prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:33] prints are different from anybody that has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:35] has ever lived you are different from anyone else and self- knowledge begins.
[15:37] Self-knowledge begins with accepting that you are a unique and special individual and that you have the capacity to do something wonderful with your life.
[15:43] Now that being said, you are also the same as everybody else with respect to certain basic principles.
[15:51] Throughout the history of mankind, the most intelligent men and women who have ever lived have sought answers to the question of the human dilemma: what can people do in order to change the quality of their lives, their relationships, and their results?
[16:07] The great philosophers, the great metaphysicians, the great scholars have pondered over this sometimes for their entire lifetimes.
[16:11] In our century, I know men and women who spent 10, 20, 30, 40, even 50 years studying success and achievement to find out what general rules and principles we can draw upon to be more successful.
[16:24] The first thing that we have to start with, the basis for this entire course, the psychology of achievement, is this: you are a mental creature.
[16:29] The only thing that makes you truly unique is your mind.
[16:38] What makes you truly unique is your mind. Everything else you have in common as Eugene O'Neal the playright said with a horse or a pig. Your mind is what makes you unique. Your body simply carries your mind around. And just as electricity works on laws of electricity and physics, works on laws of physics and nature, works on laws of nature, there are certain mental laws that determine everything that happens to you. And these mental laws are as inexorable as the laws of gravity. They work 100% of the time. And every single success you have in life comes from living your life in harmony with basic mental laws. And every problem or difficulty you ever have in life comes from living your life out of harmony with those basic laws. Now mental laws work 100% of the time like gravity works 100% of the time. What they say, what it means is that if you step off a 10 story building in the city where you're living or in London, England or in Lima, Peru, you're going to go splat on the sidewalk whether you know about gravity, whether you believe in gravity.
[17:39] gravity whether you believe in gravity whether you agree with gravity or
[17:41] whether you agree with gravity or whether gravity is convenient for you
[17:43] whether gravity is convenient for you it's going to work on you nonetheless
[17:46] it's going to work on you nonetheless the mental laws are exactly the same and
[17:48] the mental laws are exactly the same and in this course I'm going to introduce
[17:49] in this course I'm going to introduce you to about 20 mental laws some of
[17:52] you to about 20 mental laws some of which are more important than others but
[17:53] which are more important than others but all of which it is critical for you to
[17:56] all of which it is critical for you to understand now let's start with the
[17:57] understand now let's start with the first of the mental laws
[18:00] first of the mental laws the first mental law and by the way
[18:01] the first mental law and by the way these laws have been written about and
[18:02] these laws have been written about and studied for Century after century and
[18:04] studied for Century after century and many of them have been tested in our
[18:05] many of them have been tested in our leading universities research institutes
[18:08] leading universities research institutes and think tanks in the last few years
[18:10] and think tanks in the last few years and found to be as true as they'd ever
[18:12] and found to be as true as they'd ever been imagined to be the first law is
[18:15] been imagined to be the first law is what we call the law of control now the
[18:18] what we call the law of control now the law of control is very simple it's the
[18:21] law of control is very simple it's the basic law and we'll come back to it over
[18:22] basic law and we'll come back to it over and over again it says simply this it
[18:25] and over again it says simply this it says that you feel good about yourself
[18:28] says that you feel good about yourself you feel positive about yourself to the
[18:31] you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in
[18:32] degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life or you feel
[18:36] control of your own life or you feel negative about yourself to the degree to
[18:38] negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of
[18:40] which you feel you are not in control of your own life all you have to do is look
[18:42] your own life all you have to do is look at your life today and ask yourself what
[18:44] parts of your life do you feel the best
[18:45] at what parts of the life do you feel
[18:47] your life do you feel most in control
[18:49] your life do you feel most in control you will find those are the places where
[18:51] you are the happiest and since the
[18:53] Supreme human good is to achieve a state
[18:55] of Happiness which is expressed in peace
[18:58] of mind and health and loving
[18:59] of mind and health and loving relationships control is absolutely
[19:01] relationships control is absolutely essential psychologists today call this
[19:03] essential psychologists today call this the difference between an internal locus
[19:05] the difference between an internal locus of control which is feeling that you're
[19:08] of control which is feeling that you're in charge of your own life versus an
[19:11] in charge of your own life versus an external locus of control which means
[19:13] external locus of control which means the feeling that something outside of
[19:15] the feeling that something outside of you your bills your relationships your
[19:18] you your bills your relationships your job your
[19:20] job your health are somehow controlling you as a
[19:23] health are somehow controlling you as a matter of fact locus of control research
[19:25] matter of fact locus of control research and there are many tests that you can
[19:27] and there are many tests that you can take to determine where you are are on
[19:29] take to determine where you are are on this chart in terms of locus of control
[19:31] this chart in terms of locus of control and what areas of your life you feel
[19:33] and what areas of your life you feel more in control and less in control
[19:35] more in control and less in control people with a very high internal locus
[19:37] people with a very high internal locus of control are high Achievers they are
[19:39] of control are high Achievers they are more successful they're more
[19:41] more successful they're more self-determined they're happier and many
[19:43] self-determined they're happier and many of things we're trying to do in this
[19:44] of things we're trying to do in this course is to give you a far greater
[19:46] course is to give you a far greater sense of control of being in charge of
[19:49] sense of control of being in charge of every aspect of your life now control
[19:51] every aspect of your life now control begins with first of all your thoughts
[19:55] begins with first of all your thoughts interestingly enough your thoughts what
[19:57] interestingly enough your thoughts what you think about things and how you think
[19:59] you think about things and how you think determines your values it determines
[20:01] determines your values it determines what is going on inside you once they
[20:03] what is going on inside you once they are stored away your thoughts determine
[20:06] are stored away your thoughts determine your feelings it's how you think about
[20:08] your feelings it's how you think about something that determines your feelings
[20:10] something that determines your feelings whether you are happy or unhappy whether
[20:12] whether you are happy or unhappy whether you are scared or uh confident your
[20:15] you are scared or uh confident your feelings then determine your actions so
[20:18] feelings then determine your actions so we start off with a law of control
[20:21] we start off with a law of control saying that the key to success is to
[20:23] saying that the key to success is to feel that you are the master of your own
[20:25] feel that you are the master of your own destiny that you're behind the steering
[20:27] destiny that you're behind the steering wheel of your own life you're charge of
[20:29] wheel of your own life you're charge of your life by taking full and complete
[20:31] control over your thoughts your thoughts will control your feelings your feelings
[20:33] will control your feelings your feelings will control your actions and your
[20:35] will control your actions and your actions remember there always your
[20:36] actions remember there always your actions will determine your success or
[20:41] actions will determine your success or your lack thereof so the law of control
[20:43] your lack thereof so the law of control is important now as opposed to the law
[20:44] is important now as opposed to the law of control we have what is called the
[20:46] of control we have what is called the law of
[20:48] law of accident now the law of
[20:50] accident now the law of accident is really a metaphysical
[20:52] accident is really a metaphysical principle it is only a law like a
[20:54] principle it is only a law like a traffic law or like a legal law to the
[20:56] traffic law or like a legal law to the degree to which we live by it
[20:59] degree to which we live by it consistently the law of accident is what
[21:02] consistently the law of accident is what about 80% of the population live by plus
[21:05] about 80% of the population live by plus or minus the law of accident simply says
[21:08] or minus the law of accident simply says that by failing to plan you're planning
[21:10] that by failing to plan you're planning to fail failing to plan is planning to
[21:14] to fail failing to plan is planning to fail now the majority of
[21:17] fail now the majority of people don't believe that they're living
[21:20] people don't believe that they're living by this but if you look at their lives
[21:23] by this but if you look at their lives you see that that's true failing to plan
[21:25] you see that that's true failing to plan means planning to fail these are the
[21:26] means planning to fail these are the sort of people that say well not what
[21:28] sort of people that say well not what you know it's who you know it's being in
[21:30] you know it's who you know it's being in the right place at the right time it's
[21:32] the right place at the right time it's it's luck it's the luck of the draw and
[21:34] it's luck it's the luck of the draw and so on these are people who as a result
[21:36] so on these are people who as a result of feeling that their life is controlled
[21:38] of feeling that their life is controlled by forces outside themselves don't have
[21:41] by forces outside themselves don't have clear plans don't have clear goals do
[21:43] clear plans don't have clear goals do not are not working persistently and
[21:45] not are not working persistently and consistently day by day toward
[21:46] consistently day by day toward accomplishing something they want and
[21:48] accomplishing something they want and their lives just seem to drift and go
[21:50] their lives just seem to drift and go around in circle like a ship without a
[21:51] around in circle like a ship without a Rudder now a person just like a ship
[21:54] Rudder now a person just like a ship without a Rudder A person with no
[21:55] without a Rudder A person with no Central plan is a person who has very
[21:58] Central plan is a person who has very little controls as a person who feels
[22:00] little controls as a person who feels that in fact they are out of control of
[22:02] that in fact they are out of control of their lives like they're falling through
[22:03] their lives like they're falling through space with no place to to stop and these
[22:06] space with no place to to stop and these people are invariably unhappy the reason
[22:08] people are invariably unhappy the reason why people are negative today the reason
[22:09] why people are negative today the reason why people are unhappy the reason why
[22:11] why people are unhappy the reason why people are sick and frustrated the
[22:12] people are sick and frustrated the reason why people underachieve in life
[22:14] reason why people underachieve in life is most of them are living by this law
[22:17] is most of them are living by this law of accident and in so doing they have no
[22:19] of accident and in so doing they have no sense of control over their lives they
[22:21] sense of control over their lives they have no sense of inner peace they have
[22:22] have no sense of inner peace they have no sense of happiness and so on
[22:26] no sense of happiness and so on so we are going to show show you how to
[22:28] so we are going to show show you how to free yourself from the law of accident
[22:30] free yourself from the law of accident personally or per or permanently now the
[22:33] personally or per or permanently now the next law is what is called the law of
[22:35] next law is what is called the law of cause and
[22:37] cause and effect the law of cause and
[22:41] effect the law of cause and effect says that for every effect in
[22:45] effect says that for every effect in your life there is a specific cause that
[22:47] your life there is a specific cause that everything that happens in the universe
[22:49] everything that happens in the universe happens for a reason that nothing
[22:50] happens for a reason that nothing happens by accident that failure does
[22:52] happens by accident that failure does not happen by accident and success does
[22:54] not happen by accident and success does not happen by accident that happiness or
[22:56] not happen by accident that happiness or lack of Happiness are a result of cause
[22:58] lack of Happiness are a result of cause and effect relationships that if we you
[23:00] and effect relationships that if we you have an effect in your life that you
[23:02] have an effect in your life that you want to have more of more success more
[23:04] want to have more of more success more money more happiness Better Health you
[23:06] money more happiness Better Health you can trace it back to a cause and what
[23:08] can trace it back to a cause and what you do is you repeat and duplicate the
[23:09] you do is you repeat and duplicate the cause if you have an effect in your life
[23:11] cause if you have an effect in your life that you want to have less of if you
[23:12] that you want to have less of if you have problems difficulties and so on you
[23:14] have problems difficulties and so on you can also Trace that back to a cause all
[23:17] can also Trace that back to a cause all progress in human life in human society
[23:20] progress in human life in human society stems back from identifying the causes
[23:22] stems back from identifying the causes of what we want more of or less of and
[23:23] of what we want more of or less of and changing the causes now the law of cause
[23:26] changing the causes now the law of cause and effect of course is the iron law of
[23:29] and effect of course is the iron law of the universe this is the law if you like
[23:31] the universe this is the law if you like that we can come back to over and over
[23:33] that we can come back to over and over again and many of our laws are
[23:34] again and many of our laws are paraphrases of the iron law it's also
[23:36] paraphrases of the iron law it's also called The Law of sewing and reaping
[23:38] called The Law of sewing and reaping that whatsoever you seow that also shall
[23:40] that whatsoever you seow that also shall you reap but the iron law the law of
[23:42] you reap but the iron law the law of cause and effect gives us a complete
[23:45] cause and effect gives us a complete sense of control if we believe that
[23:47] sense of control if we believe that there's a cause and effect relationship
[23:48] there's a cause and effect relationship that everything happens for a reason
[23:50] that everything happens for a reason then we have a tremendous feeling of
[23:51] then we have a tremendous feeling of control in our lives we can identify the
[23:53] control in our lives we can identify the causes we can duplicate the causes we
[23:55] causes we can duplicate the causes we can make our lives anything we want the
[23:58] can make our lives anything we want the most most important application of the
[23:59] most most important application of the law of cause and effect is this it is
[24:02] law of cause and effect is this it is that thoughts are
[24:04] that thoughts are causes thoughts are causes and
[24:07] causes thoughts are causes and conditions are
[24:09] conditions are effects C thoughts are causes and
[24:11] effects C thoughts are causes and conditions are simply effects the
[24:14] conditions are simply effects the starting point of everything is your
[24:16] starting point of everything is your thoughts about something it's your
[24:18] thoughts about something it's your thoughts about a job your thoughts about
[24:20] thoughts about a job your thoughts about a relationship your thoughts about your
[24:21] a relationship your thoughts about your health your thoughts about your future
[24:23] health your thoughts about your future your thoughts become causitive agents
[24:25] your thoughts become causitive agents the conditions become the effects that
[24:27] the conditions become the effects that if you wish to change any of the
[24:29] if you wish to change any of the conditions of your life you have to
[24:30] conditions of your life you have to change the thoughts that precede those
[24:33] change the thoughts that precede those conditions you have to change what is
[24:35] conditions you have to change what is going on in your mind now wonderfully
[24:38] going on in your mind now wonderfully enough there's only one thing in the
[24:39] enough there's only one thing in the whole universe over which you have
[24:41] whole universe over which you have complete control and that is your
[24:43] complete control and that is your thoughts so if you take full and
[24:46] thoughts so if you take full and complete control over your thoughts and
[24:48] complete control over your thoughts and keep your thoughts on what it is you
[24:49] keep your thoughts on what it is you want make them positive causes the
[24:51] want make them positive causes the conditions or effects will take care of
[24:53] conditions or effects will take care of themselves with the
[24:55] themselves with the inexorability of a law of nature now the
[24:58] inexorability of a law of nature now the next law is what is called the law of
[25:01] next law is what is called the law of belief the law of
[25:03] belief the law of belief simply
[25:05] belief simply says that whatever you believe with
[25:10] says that whatever you believe with feeling and this is the key with feeling
[25:13] feeling and this is the key with feeling and the more emotion you put into a
[25:14] and the more emotion you put into a belief becomes your
[25:17] belief becomes your reality it becomes your reality because
[25:19] reality it becomes your reality because you will always act in a manner
[25:20] you will always act in a manner consistent with your beliefs as a matter
[25:23] consistent with your beliefs as a matter of fact your entire reality right now is
[25:25] of fact your entire reality right now is simply a out outward picturing of your
[25:28] simply a out outward picturing of your most intensely held beliefs if you
[25:30] most intensely held beliefs if you believe something that is positive or
[25:32] believe something that is positive or believe something that is negative or as
[25:33] believe something that is negative or as Henry Ford said if you believe you can
[25:35] Henry Ford said if you believe you can do a thing or if you believe you cannot
[25:37] do a thing or if you believe you cannot you are right our beliefs do form our
[25:40] you are right our beliefs do form our realities to the degree to which we
[25:42] realities to the degree to which we believe anything to be true our beliefs
[25:44] believe anything to be true our beliefs act as sort of like a screen uh they
[25:47] act as sort of like a screen uh they filter out any information that is
[25:49] filter out any information that is inconsistent with our beliefs we have a
[25:51] inconsistent with our beliefs we have a deep down desire inside of us to remain
[25:53] deep down desire inside of us to remain consistent so we're always trying to
[25:55] consistent so we're always trying to view our world rationalize our world
[25:57] view our world rationalize our world interpret our world so that it is
[25:59] interpret our world so that it is consistent with what we have already
[26:01] consistent with what we have already decided to believe we develop what is
[26:03] decided to believe we develop what is called scotomas a scotoma is a word in
[26:06] called scotomas a scotoma is a word in Psychology that simply says that we
[26:08] Psychology that simply says that we develop blind spots we do not see
[26:11] develop blind spots we do not see opportunities if we are convinced that
[26:13] opportunities if we are convinced that there are no opportunities we do not see
[26:15] there are no opportunities we do not see possibilities for Success if we don't
[26:17] possibilities for Success if we don't believe that success is possible for us
[26:19] believe that success is possible for us however if we begin to change our
[26:21] however if we begin to change our beliefs we begin to change our realities
[26:24] beliefs we begin to change our realities let me give you an example uh there's a
[26:26] let me give you an example uh there's a story of a Young Man man who came from a
[26:30] story of a Young Man man who came from a small Midwestern town it's true story
[26:32] small Midwestern town it's true story was reported in the psychological
[26:33] was reported in the psychological journals a couple of years ago he got
[26:36] journals a couple of years ago he got straight A all through junior high
[26:37] straight A all through junior high school and high school at the end of
[26:39] school and high school at the end of 12th grade he wrote his Scholastic
[26:41] 12th grade he wrote his Scholastic achievement test to go to university a
[26:43] achievement test to go to university a few weeks later he got back a letter
[26:44] few weeks later he got back a letter from the University saying you have
[26:46] from the University saying you have scored 98 on the Scholastic achievement
[26:47] scored 98 on the Scholastic achievement test and you're hereby admitted to the
[26:49] test and you're hereby admitted to the university for the fall semester well he
[26:51] university for the fall semester well he didn't know very much about Scholastic
[26:53] didn't know very much about Scholastic achievement tests and he thought that
[26:55] achievement tests and he thought that the 98 was an IQ score now an IQ score
[26:59] the 98 was an IQ score now an IQ score of 98 is slightly below average and is
[27:01] of 98 is slightly below average and is about 20 points below what is necessary
[27:03] about 20 points below what is necessary for college level work he was convinced
[27:06] for college level work he was convinced and he just discarded his entire High
[27:08] and he just discarded his entire High School career all the age that he's
[27:09] School career all the age that he's gotten he was convinced that he could
[27:10] gotten he was convinced that he could not do college level work but he went
[27:12] not do college level work but he went off to college in the fall after the
[27:14] off to college in the fall after the first semester he was failing or nearly
[27:16] first semester he was failing or nearly failing in every
[27:18] failing in every subject his counselor called him in and
[27:20] subject his counselor called him in and said what seems to be the problem you uh
[27:22] said what seems to be the problem you uh did extremely well in high school these
[27:24] did extremely well in high school these courses are only one degree of
[27:25] courses are only one degree of difficulty uh removed from your high
[27:27] difficulty uh removed from your high school courses are you having problems
[27:29] school courses are you having problems with uh girls are you having problems
[27:30] with uh girls are you having problems with drugs are having problems adjusting
[27:32] with drugs are having problems adjusting what is it he saidwell sir he said I'm
[27:34] what is it he saidwell sir he said I'm doing the very best I can but you can't
[27:35] doing the very best I can but you can't blame me I've only got a 98 IQ and the
[27:39] blame me I've only got a 98 IQ and the counselor had a file in front of me said
[27:40] counselor had a file in front of me said what are you talking about he said well
[27:42] what are you talking about he said well in my letter of admission to the
[27:43] in my letter of admission to the university it said that I got a 98 on
[27:45] university it said that I got a 98 on the Scholastic achievement test he said
[27:47] the Scholastic achievement test he said son that's not an IQ he said he said
[27:49] son that's not an IQ he said he said they said that's not an IQ that is a
[27:52] they said that's not an IQ that is a percentile what that means is that you
[27:54] percentile what that means is that you scored equal to or higher than 98% of
[27:57] scored equal to or higher than 98% of the students in the country who wrote
[27:59] the students in the country who wrote that test you're one of the brightest
[28:00] that test you're one of the brightest kids in this University well this young
[28:02] kids in this University well this young guy went out he checked on the
[28:04] guy went out he checked on the Scholastic achievement test he found it
[28:05] Scholastic achievement test he found it was true that the 98 was a percentile
[28:08] was true that the 98 was a percentile not an IQ he went back to his courses
[28:11] not an IQ he went back to his courses and two years later he was in the top 10
[28:13] and two years later he was in the top 10 in a 30,000 student University he was
[28:15] in a 30,000 student University he was leading in all of his classes once he
[28:17] leading in all of his classes once he changed his reality once he changed his
[28:19] changed his reality once he changed his beliefs about his intelligence his
[28:21] beliefs about his intelligence his reality changed automatically now an
[28:24] reality changed automatically now an important point with regard to this is
[28:26] important point with regard to this is that every one of us has self-limiting
[28:28] that every one of us has self-limiting beliefs every one of us believes
[28:29] beliefs every one of us believes ourselves to be limited in some way
[28:31] ourselves to be limited in some way every one of us believes ourselves to be
[28:32] every one of us believes ourselves to be limited in intelligence creativity
[28:34] limited in intelligence creativity money-making ability I can't sell I
[28:36] money-making ability I can't sell I can't speak in front of audiences we
[28:38] can't speak in front of audiences we tend to think that we are not capable
[28:40] tend to think that we are not capable being on time we're not mechanically
[28:41] being on time we're not mechanically inclined and so on and so forth but
[28:43] inclined and so on and so forth but exhaustive research demonstrates that
[28:45] exhaustive research demonstrates that talents are pretty evenly spread
[28:47] talents are pretty evenly spread throughout the population that most of
[28:50] throughout the population that most of the limitations we have do not exist in
[28:53] the limitations we have do not exist in reality they exist only in your own mind
[28:56] reality they exist only in your own mind and one of the starting points of great
[28:58] and one of the starting points of great achievement is to start questioning
[29:00] achievement is to start questioning those self-limiting beliefs and throw
[29:02] those self-limiting beliefs and throw them off and act as if they did not
[29:05] them off and act as if they did not exist and when you act as if they didn't
[29:07] exist and when you act as if they didn't exist slow and behold they simply
[29:10] exist slow and behold they simply disappear okay the next law is what is
[29:13] disappear okay the next law is what is called the law of expectations now the
[29:16] called the law of expectations now the law of expectations is a law that has
[29:17] law of expectations is a law that has been talked about throughout all of
[29:19] been talked about throughout all of human history just like in the law of
[29:20] human history just like in the law of belief law of belief William James of
[29:23] belief law of belief William James of Harvard said belief creates the actual
[29:25] Harvard said belief creates the actual fact as a man thinketh in his heart or
[29:26] fact as a man thinketh in his heart or as he believeth so is he the law of
[29:28] as he believeth so is he the law of expectations over and over say what you
[29:30] expectations over and over say what you expect you get you get not what you want
[29:33] expect you get you get not what you want but what you expect that your
[29:35] but what you expect that your expectations especially your
[29:37] expectations especially your expectations about outcomes how you
[29:39] expectations about outcomes how you think things are going to turn out
[29:41] think things are going to turn out become your own self-fulfilling
[29:44] become your own self-fulfilling prophecies and Dr Robert rosenfall of of
[29:47] prophecies and Dr Robert rosenfall of of Harvard University has done something
[29:49] Harvard University has done something like 300 experiments on expectations
[29:53] like 300 experiments on expectations theory on what is called experiment
[29:55] theory on what is called experiment Theory and he finds that your
[29:56] Theory and he finds that your expectations have an effect on other
[29:58] expectations have an effect on other people and events and
[30:01] people and events and circumstances even if your expectations
[30:03] circumstances even if your expectations are based on totally false information
[30:06] are based on totally false information whatever you expect with confidence in
[30:09] whatever you expect with confidence in other words if you confidently expect
[30:11] other words if you confidently expect good things to happen surprise surprise
[30:13] good things to happen surprise surprise good things happen to you if you
[30:14] good things happen to you if you confidently expect negative things to
[30:16] confidently expect negative things to happen then negative things are going to
[30:18] happen then negative things are going to happen to you that most successful
[30:20] happen to you that most successful people have developed an attitude of
[30:22] people have developed an attitude of confidently expecting good things to
[30:24] confidently expecting good things to happen uh it's called the attitude of
[30:26] happen uh it's called the attitude of positive self expectancy it is the
[30:29] positive self expectancy it is the attitude of the winner the winner looks
[30:30] attitude of the winner the winner looks for good things to happen the winner
[30:32] for good things to happen the winner expects to win in advance and lo and
[30:35] expects to win in advance and lo and behold whatever you expect with
[30:37] behold whatever you expect with confidence tends to come true even if
[30:40] confidence tends to come true even if the information upon which your
[30:41] the information upon which your expectations is based is totally false
[30:44] expectations is based is totally false now let me give you an example of
[30:47] now let me give you an example of expectations uh some years ago Dr
[30:49] expectations uh some years ago Dr Rosenthal after conducting a variety of
[30:51] Rosenthal after conducting a variety of different experiments came to the
[30:53] different experiments came to the conclusion that the expectations that
[30:55] conclusion that the expectations that teachers had of students was having a
[30:57] teachers had of students was having a tremendous effect effect on their
[30:59] tremendous effect effect on their ability to learn and their grade level
[31:00] ability to learn and their grade level averages so he put together a series of
[31:02] averages so he put together a series of experiments and then one major
[31:04] experiments and then one major experiment which was tremendous he went
[31:06] experiment which was tremendous he went to the San Francisco Bay area and at the
[31:08] to the San Francisco Bay area and at the beginning of the school year he had the
[31:09] beginning of the school year he had the principal call in three teachers the
[31:11] principal call in three teachers the three teachers were told that by the
[31:13] three teachers were told that by the principal as a result of teaching
[31:15] principal as a result of teaching Excellence they had been singled out as
[31:17] Excellence they had been singled out as the three best teachers in the school
[31:19] the three best teachers in the school and that they were going to be given 30
[31:21] and that they were going to be given 30 students each of the brightest students
[31:23] students each of the brightest students in the school identified by IQ tests at
[31:26] in the school identified by IQ tests at the end of the last semester they would
[31:28] the end of the last semester they would be able to teach these students for the
[31:30] be able to teach these students for the entire year and it was estimated by
[31:32] entire year and it was estimated by experts that these students would jump
[31:34] experts that these students would jump in Scholastic achievement an average of
[31:36] in Scholastic achievement an average of 20 to 30% over the course of that school
[31:39] 20 to 30% over the course of that school year now the teachers were told that one
[31:42] year now the teachers were told that one of the conditions was that they mustn't
[31:43] of the conditions was that they mustn't tell the teacher they must tell the
[31:45] tell the teacher they must tell the students and they mustn't tell their
[31:47] students and they mustn't tell their parents they must continue to teach the
[31:49] parents they must continue to teach the same way and classes were carefully
[31:50] same way and classes were carefully monitored to make sure they taught the
[31:52] monitored to make sure they taught the same way they taught before but only
[31:54] same way they taught before but only they would know that they had been given
[31:56] they would know that they had been given 30 bright student students each to teach
[31:58] 30 bright student students each to teach for the whole year the teachers were
[32:00] for the whole year the teachers were delighted the teachers went out they
[32:01] delighted the teachers went out they were excited about this they worked hard
[32:03] were excited about this they worked hard with those students they spent time
[32:05] with those students they spent time after school with them they got really
[32:07] after school with them they got really really involved in teaching more than
[32:08] really involved in teaching more than they ever had before and at the end of
[32:09] they ever had before and at the end of the school year lo and behold those
[32:11] the school year lo and behold those three classes LED not only the school
[32:13] three classes LED not only the school but the entire School District in
[32:14] but the entire School District in academic accomplishment at the end of
[32:16] academic accomplishment at the end of the year they called the three teachers
[32:17] the year they called the three teachers in they sat them down and they
[32:19] in they sat them down and they said well uh you've had a good year and
[32:22] said well uh you've had a good year and they said yes it was great those kids
[32:23] they said yes it was great those kids were so bright they were so eager to
[32:24] were so bright they were so eager to learn they said well maybe we should
[32:25] learn they said well maybe we should tell you the truth that this was an
[32:27] tell you the truth that this was an experiment and the fact is that the the
[32:30] experiment and the fact is that the the beginning of the school year we selected
[32:32] beginning of the school year we selected the names of 90 children by Lottery from
[32:35] the names of 90 children by Lottery from the school population at large and
[32:37] the school population at large and assigned them to your class we didn't
[32:38] assigned them to your class we didn't even know what their IQs were they said
[32:40] even know what their IQs were they said well well that's remarkable how could it
[32:42] well well that's remarkable how could it have happened that they did so well and
[32:44] have happened that they did so well and then they looked at each other and said
[32:45] then they looked at each other and said well of course it's because we are the
[32:47] well of course it's because we are the three most excellent teachers in this
[32:48] three most excellent teachers in this school they said well the other side of
[32:50] school they said well the other side of it was simply this is at the beginning
[32:51] it was simply this is at the beginning of the school year we put all the
[32:52] of the school year we put all the teachers names in a hat and yours were
[32:54] teachers names in a hat and yours were the first three names that were drawn so
[32:57] the first three names that were drawn so this is what it's called call a double
[32:58] this is what it's called call a double blind experiment they held constant for
[33:00] blind experiment they held constant for everything but expectations now the
[33:02] everything but expectations now the expectations on the teachers were
[33:03] expectations on the teachers were explicit we believe that you are
[33:05] explicit we believe that you are excellent teachers the expectations of
[33:07] excellent teachers the expectations of the teachers on the students were
[33:10] the teachers on the students were implicit they were never spoken the
[33:11] implicit they were never spoken the teachers just treated those students as
[33:13] teachers just treated those students as though they were really intelligent and
[33:15] though they were really intelligent and the students bloomed and blossomed and
[33:19] the students bloomed and blossomed and in one of the classes a student from
[33:21] in one of the classes a student from beginning of the year to the end of the
[33:23] beginning of the year to the end of the year jumped 25 IQ points in a subsequent
[33:26] year jumped 25 IQ points in a subsequent experiment a student jumped as much just
[33:28] experiment a student jumped as much just 27 IQ points which is to prove that high
[33:31] 27 IQ points which is to prove that high expectations teachers bring out
[33:33] expectations teachers bring out intelligence in students that is
[33:36] intelligence in students that is completely unheard of Marva Collins the
[33:38] completely unheard of Marva Collins the famous teacher in the uh Chicago inner
[33:40] famous teacher in the uh Chicago inner city has found that if you treat
[33:42] city has found that if you treat students as though they're intelligent
[33:43] students as though they're intelligent and talk to them and work with them as
[33:45] and talk to them and work with them as though they are really bright they will
[33:46] though they are really bright they will absolutely astonish you in terms of
[33:48] absolutely astonish you in terms of academic accomplishment all right this
[33:50] academic accomplishment all right this brings us to the critical role of
[33:52] brings us to the critical role of expectations in your life first part of
[33:55] expectations in your life first part of expectations in your life number one and
[33:58] expectations in your life number one and where expectations affect you
[33:59] where expectations affect you expectations of your parents we have
[34:02] expectations of your parents we have found that we have a tendency as adults
[34:05] found that we have a tendency as adults to try to live up to or down
[34:08] to try to live up to or down to the expectation of our parents all
[34:10] to the expectation of our parents all our lives if our parents were strong and
[34:13] our lives if our parents were strong and supportive and loving and kind and
[34:14] supportive and loving and kind and encouraging and really believes in us
[34:16] encouraging and really believes in us all our lives will will strive
[34:17] all our lives will will strive unconsciously to live a life consistent
[34:19] unconsciously to live a life consistent with those expectations if our parents
[34:21] with those expectations if our parents were critical and condemnatory and
[34:23] were critical and condemnatory and bitched and complained and griped about
[34:24] bitched and complained and griped about our grades and so on and so forth we
[34:26] our grades and so on and so forth we will find that all of our life we'll
[34:28] will find that all of our life we'll have a tendency to hold ourselves back
[34:31] have a tendency to hold ourselves back so be alert to that what were the
[34:33] so be alert to that what were the expectations of your parents were they
[34:34] expectations of your parents were they positive were they negative were they
[34:36] positive were they negative were they boosting or were they discouraging and
[34:37] boosting or were they discouraging and how much are they affecting you today
[34:40] how much are they affecting you today second area of expectations is the
[34:42] second area of expectations is the expectations of your boss in all of our
[34:45] expectations of your boss in all of our studies we have found especially in the
[34:48] studies we have found especially in the studies on excellence in organizations
[34:50] studies on excellence in organizations we have found that high expectations
[34:52] we have found that high expectations bosses have high performance work
[34:54] bosses have high performance work environments now if you work for a boss
[34:55] environments now if you work for a boss who's negative critical and condemn the
[34:58] who's negative critical and condemn the if you work for a boss that has negative
[35:00] if you work for a boss that has negative expectations or a negative attitude
[35:01] expectations or a negative attitude chances are your performance will be at
[35:03] chances are your performance will be at the very lowest as a matter of fact if
[35:05] the very lowest as a matter of fact if you look at the course of your working
[35:06] you look at the course of your working career you'll find that the times of
[35:08] career you'll find that the times of your life that you've enjoyed the most
[35:10] your life that you've enjoyed the most is working under a boss that has high
[35:13] is working under a boss that has high positive expectations of you and your
[35:15] positive expectations of you and your ability isn't that correct the third
[35:18] ability isn't that correct the third area of expectations is the expectations
[35:20] area of expectations is the expectations you have of others especially of your
[35:24] you have of others especially of your children especially of your spouse or
[35:27] children especially of your spouse or your mate especially of your
[35:29] your mate especially of your subordinates or the people who look up
[35:31] subordinates or the people who look up to you you see we have are profoundly
[35:34] to you you see we have are profoundly affected by the opinions of anybody we
[35:36] affected by the opinions of anybody we Respect by the attitudes toward us of
[35:38] Respect by the attitudes toward us of anybody we respect and if you have high
[35:41] anybody we respect and if you have high positive expectations of the people
[35:43] positive expectations of the people around you especially your children they
[35:45] around you especially your children they will rise to fulfill those expectations
[35:48] will rise to fulfill those expectations so the basic rule with regard to this is
[35:50] so the basic rule with regard to this is always expect good things of other
[35:52] always expect good things of other people in word and deed tell them
[35:54] people in word and deed tell them continually I believe in you and number
[35:57] continually I believe in you and number four core area of expectations is the
[35:59] four core area of expectations is the expectations you have of yourself in the
[36:01] expectations you have of yourself in the final analysis these are the most
[36:04] final analysis these are the most powerful if you have high positive
[36:06] powerful if you have high positive expectations of yourself you'll be
[36:08] expectations of yourself you'll be astonished at what it will mean to your
[36:09] astonished at what it will mean to your life always expect the best always
[36:12] life always expect the best always expect the best and here's a little
[36:14] expect the best and here's a little exercise which
[36:16] exercise which I learned from one of my graduates one
[36:19] I learned from one of my graduates one of our live seminars he found that by
[36:21] of our live seminars he found that by starting off every day with this simple
[36:23] starting off every day with this simple little exercise and saying to himself I
[36:26] little exercise and saying to himself I believe something wonderful is going to
[36:28] believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today I believe something
[36:30] happen to me today I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today
[36:33] wonderful is going to happen to me today I believe something wonderful is going
[36:35] I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today that this little
[36:38] to happen to me today that this little exercise changed his whole attitude that
[36:39] exercise changed his whole attitude that he went through the whole day with the
[36:41] he went through the whole day with the attitude of somebody with a confident
[36:49] self-expand you know that if you will do
[36:51] self-expand you know that if you will do this if you will say before you go to
[36:52] this if you will say before you go to sleep I believe something wonderful is
[36:54] sleep I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me tomorrow and if
[36:56] going to happen to me tomorrow and if you'll say when you get up in the
[36:57] you'll say when you get up in the morning
[36:58] morning I believe something wonderful is going
[36:59] I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today and if all day
[37:01] to happen to me today and if all day long you say I believe something
[37:02] long you say I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me
[37:03] wonderful is going to happen to me you'll find that as you go to sleep the
[37:05] you'll find that as you go to sleep the next night and try this today it's a
[37:07] next night and try this today it's a very powerful ex sounds a little bit
[37:09] very powerful ex sounds a little bit corny but it's a very powerful exercise
[37:11] corny but it's a very powerful exercise if you'll try it you'll find that when
[37:13] if you'll try it you'll find that when you go to sleep you will not be able to
[37:15] you go to sleep you will not be able to think of all the wonderful things that
[37:17] think of all the wonderful things that happened to you you'll just be surprised
[37:19] happened to you you'll just be surprised that that your parking spaces will open
[37:21] that that your parking spaces will open up and friends will call and you get
[37:23] up and friends will call and you get checks in the mail just your life will
[37:24] checks in the mail just your life will be a series of really positive happiness
[37:27] be a series of really positive happiness experiences so always expect the best I
[37:30] experiences so always expect the best I believe something wonderful is going to
[37:31] believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today and by the
[37:32] happen to me today and by the inexorability of a law of nature it's
[37:34] inexorability of a law of nature it's going to happen to you I can assure you
[37:36] going to happen to you I can assure you it's happened to thousands and thousands
[37:38] it's happened to thousands and thousands and thousands of our graduates who will
[37:39] and thousands of our graduates who will literally astonish you the effect of
[37:42] literally astonish you the effect of this corny little exercise all right the
[37:44] this corny little exercise all right the next law is what is called The Law of
[37:46] next law is what is called The Law of Attraction now the Law of Attraction
[37:49] Attraction now the Law of Attraction simply says that you are a living
[37:53] simply says that you are a living magnet you are a living
[37:56] magnet you are a living magnet and that you inevitably attract
[37:58] magnet and that you inevitably attract into your life the people and
[38:00] into your life the people and circumstances that are in harmony with
[38:02] circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts in the universe
[38:05] your dominant thoughts in the universe we know that all of energy is in a state
[38:07] we know that all of energy is in a state of vibration that everything is
[38:10] of vibration that everything is vibrating even this board is vibrating
[38:12] vibrating even this board is vibrating your your skin is vibrating every
[38:14] your your skin is vibrating every substance is vibrating because of its
[38:15] substance is vibrating because of its molecular structure and we also know
[38:17] molecular structure and we also know this is a law of radiation that
[38:19] this is a law of radiation that everything is vibrating outward the
[38:22] everything is vibrating outward the process of entropy and we find that
[38:24] process of entropy and we find that whatever you are thinking your thoughts
[38:26] whatever you are thinking your thoughts are also a form of energy that is
[38:29] are also a form of energy that is vibrating and radiating out from you and
[38:32] vibrating and radiating out from you and that travels at the speed of light so
[38:34] that travels at the speed of light so that you can affect people in
[38:35] that you can affect people in circumstances at Great distances have
[38:37] circumstances at Great distances have you ever had an experience where you're
[38:38] you ever had an experience where you're thinking about somebody and the
[38:39] thinking about somebody and the telephone rings and it's them have you
[38:41] telephone rings and it's them have you ever had an experience where you phone
[38:42] ever had an experience where you phone somebody else and they say we were just
[38:44] somebody else and they say we were just talking about you it just leaps into
[38:46] talking about you it just leaps into your mind have you ever had an
[38:47] your mind have you ever had an experience when you're in tune with your
[38:48] experience when you're in tune with your husband or wife and you think you know
[38:50] husband or wife and you think you know I'd like to go out to dinner at such and
[38:52] I'd like to go out to dinner at such and such a place tonight and you call home
[38:54] such a place tonight and you call home and they will say why don't we go to
[38:55] and they will say why don't we go to dinner at such and such a place these
[38:56] dinner at such and such a place these are all examples of this Law of
[38:58] are all examples of this Law of Attraction the law of attraction is
[39:00] Attraction the law of attraction is considered by many to be one of the most
[39:02] considered by many to be one of the most important laws of human existence in
[39:04] important laws of human existence in this you will always attract to yourself
[39:08] this you will always attract to yourself positive or negative people and
[39:10] positive or negative people and circumstances that harmonize with your
[39:13] circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts that whatever you're
[39:15] dominant thoughts that whatever you're thinking on a continuing basis you're
[39:17] thinking on a continuing basis you're attracting into your life you're drawing
[39:19] attracting into your life you're drawing it into your life like a magnet that's
[39:21] it into your life like a magnet that's why it's so important that you keep your
[39:23] why it's so important that you keep your thoughts on what you want keep your
[39:25] thoughts on what you want keep your thoughts on what you desire and keep
[39:26] thoughts on what you desire and keep your thoughts off of what you don't want
[39:28] your thoughts off of what you don't want and by the way as you advance and
[39:30] and by the way as you advance and develop and become more proficient and
[39:32] develop and become more proficient and more sharp with these methods The Law of
[39:35] more sharp with these methods The Law of Attraction will work faster for you and
[39:36] Attraction will work faster for you and with greater accuracy so so be careful
[39:39] with greater accuracy so so be careful use it uh right the last law we'll talk
[39:42] use it uh right the last law we'll talk about in this session is called the law
[39:43] about in this session is called the law of
[39:44] of Correspondence the law of
[39:48] Correspondence is a law that says and
[39:51] Correspondence is a law that says and it's quoted by Jesus as within so
[39:54] it's quoted by Jesus as within so without as within so without
[39:59] without as within so without and what it simply means is this it
[40:01] and what it simply means is this it means that your outer world is a mirror
[40:04] means that your outer world is a mirror and that's the probably the best word
[40:05] and that's the probably the best word your outer world is a mirror and it
[40:07] your outer world is a mirror and it simply reflects back to you what is
[40:10] simply reflects back to you what is going on in your inner world that your
[40:13] going on in your inner world that your outer world is the result of your inner
[40:16] outer world is the result of your inner world that what is going on within
[40:17] world that what is going on within determines what is going on without that
[40:20] determines what is going on without that if you want to change your outer world
[40:22] if you want to change your outer world you have to change your inner world now
[40:25] you have to change your inner world now that means that you can look at your
[40:26] that means that you can look at your words you can look at your level of
[40:27] words you can look at your level of Health what is going on in terms of your
[40:30] Health what is going on in terms of your physical health is largely determined by
[40:32] physical health is largely determined by what is going on in in your mind what is
[40:34] what is going on in in your mind what is going on in your relationships is the
[40:36] going on in your relationships is the most perfect example because you find
[40:38] most perfect example because you find that when you are feeling good inside
[40:40] that when you are feeling good inside your relationships go smoothly when
[40:41] your relationships go smoothly when you're feeling negative or stressed
[40:43] you're feeling negative or stressed inside your relationships go poorly your
[40:45] inside your relationships go poorly your relationships are the mirror image
[40:47] relationships are the mirror image reflection of the quality of your own
[40:50] reflection of the quality of your own personality you can tell how healthy
[40:51] personality you can tell how healthy your personality is by looking at the
[40:53] your personality is by looking at the relationships around you your wealth is
[40:56] relationships around you your wealth is a very important thing the level of
[40:58] a very important thing the level of financial wealth the level of comfort
[41:00] financial wealth the level of comfort that you have is a direct relationship
[41:02] that you have is a direct relationship of what you have put into your mind in
[41:04] of what you have put into your mind in terms of thought and preparation for
[41:08] terms of thought and preparation for achieving wealth and affluence if you
[41:10] achieving wealth and affluence if you wish to be more successful on the
[41:12] wish to be more successful on the outside you have to be more successful
[41:13] outside you have to be more successful on the inside and the more you go to
[41:15] on the inside and the more you go to work on the inside which is the only
[41:17] work on the inside which is the only part of your whole life that you can
[41:19] part of your whole life that you can control the more you go to work on the
[41:21] control the more you go to work on the inside the more rapidly your external
[41:24] inside the more rapidly your external World changes the big mistake in life
[41:26] World changes the big mistake in life and the reason why most people are
[41:27] and the reason why most people are unhappy is why it's because most people
[41:30] unhappy is why it's because most people try to change the external World which
[41:31] try to change the external World which they cannot control and they leave the
[41:33] they cannot control and they leave the internal World messy it' be the same as
[41:36] internal World messy it' be the same as trying to make an automobile run better
[41:38] trying to make an automobile run better by washing the outside of it polishing
[41:40] by washing the outside of it polishing the outside of it and changing the tires
[41:42] the outside of it and changing the tires no you got to go to work on the inside
[41:44] no you got to go to work on the inside workings as you change your mind as you
[41:47] workings as you change your mind as you change what is going on inside you
[41:49] change what is going on inside you change what is going on outside now many
[41:52] change what is going on outside now many years ago Earl Nightingale a great
[41:55] years ago Earl Nightingale a great success philosopher woke up and in the
[41:57] success philosopher woke up and in the middle of the night with a quotation
[41:59] middle of the night with a quotation which changed his life and changed the
[42:01] which changed his life and changed the lives of millions of others which sort
[42:03] lives of millions of others which sort of tacks on to all of these laws that
[42:05] of tacks on to all of these laws that we're talking about and was simply this
[42:07] we're talking about and was simply this is you become what you think about you
[42:10] is you become what you think about you become what you think about and since
[42:12] become what you think about and since the only thing that you can control is
[42:15] the only thing that you can control is your thinking if you change what you are
[42:17] your thinking if you change what you are thinking
[42:20] thinking about you will begin to change your
[42:22] about you will begin to change your reality if you change what you expect
[42:24] reality if you change what you expect you change what you believe you change
[42:25] you change what you believe you change your dominant thoughts you change your
[42:27] your dominant thoughts you change your inner workings you begin to attract into
[42:29] inner workings you begin to attract into your life people circumstances events
[42:31] your life people circumstances events opportunities and everything consistent
[42:33] opportunities and everything consistent with your new thoughts the reason people
[42:35] with your new thoughts the reason people are unsuccessful as they think thoughts
[42:36] are unsuccessful as they think thoughts of unsuccess or
[42:38] of unsuccess or failure another line which is very very
[42:41] failure another line which is very very important says that all causation is
[42:43] important says that all causation is mental we live in a mental Universe all
[42:46] mental we live in a mental Universe all causation is mental if you wish to
[42:49] causation is mental if you wish to change your Universe you have to change
[42:51] change your Universe you have to change your mentality and this brings us to the
[42:53] your mentality and this brings us to the most important line of all which is
[42:55] most important line of all which is simply this and let me write it over
[42:56] simply this and let me write it over here
[42:57] here if you change your
[43:00] if you change your thinking change your
[43:04] thinking
[43:05] thinking and you change your
[43:12] life change your thinking and you change
[43:15] life change your thinking and you change your
[43:16] your life now over the course of years you
[43:19] life now over the course of years you have accumulated and gathered enormous
[43:21] have accumulated and gathered enormous amount of information you've accumulated
[43:22] amount of information you've accumulated and gathered an enormous number of
[43:24] and gathered an enormous number of experiences some of them positive some
[43:26] experiences some of them positive some of them negative every single one of
[43:27] of them negative every single one of them is stored away every single one of
[43:29] them is stored away every single one of them is having an effect on what is
[43:32] them is having an effect on what is happening to you right now in the New
[43:35] happening to you right now in the New Testament Jesus had a beautiful line
[43:37] Testament Jesus had a beautiful line which I refer to and I think about it
[43:38] which I refer to and I think about it all the time he said by their fruits you
[43:40] all the time he said by their fruits you shall know them and what it simply meant
[43:43] shall know them and what it simply meant was that you can tell what is going on
[43:45] was that you can tell what is going on inside the person what the fundamental
[43:47] inside the person what the fundamental character and thought life of a person
[43:49] character and thought life of a person is by looking at the fruits of their
[43:52] is by looking at the fruits of their external Life by looking at their health
[43:53] external Life by looking at their health looking at their relationships looking
[43:55] looking at their relationships looking at their levels of success if you change
[43:57] at their levels of success if you change your thinking you change your life and
[43:59] your thinking you change your life and as we proceed through this course we're
[44:01] as we proceed through this course we're going to show you systematically how you
[44:03] going to show you systematically how you can change your thinking and bring it
[44:05] can change your thinking and bring it into perfect correlation inside with a
[44:08] into perfect correlation inside with a type of successful happy
[44:10] type of successful happy Dynamic vital living successful life
[44:15] Dynamic vital living successful life that you desire on the
[44:25] outside session three unlocking your
[44:28] outside session three unlocking your potential when we talk about human
[44:30] potential when we talk about human potential have you ever wondered what
[44:31] potential have you ever wondered what accounts for the huge disparity in
[44:34] accounts for the huge disparity in results and performance between one
[44:36] results and performance between one person and another you know a person
[44:37] person and another you know a person who's making $250,000 a year is not 10
[44:41] who's making $250,000 a year is not 10 times smarter or better than a person
[44:43] times smarter or better than a person who's making $25,000 a year why is there
[44:46] who's making $25,000 a year why is there 10 times the difference in income and
[44:48] 10 times the difference in income and you go all the way up the ladder the
[44:49] you go all the way up the ladder the person who's making $ 2.5 million a year
[44:52] person who's making $ 2.5 million a year is that person a hundred times better
[44:54] is that person a hundred times better smarter than a person making 25,000 a
[44:56] smarter than a person making 25,000 a year
[44:57] year impossible in a recent study of IQs they
[45:00] impossible in a recent study of IQs they picked a thousand men and women out of
[45:02] picked a thousand men and women out of the population and tested them for IQ
[45:04] the population and tested them for IQ they found that the top person in that
[45:06] they found that the top person in that thousand selection was only two and one
[45:09] thousand selection was only two and one half times smarter than the bottom
[45:12] half times smarter than the bottom person in that selection of IQs only two
[45:14] person in that selection of IQs only two and a half times the disparity and
[45:16] and a half times the disparity and that's probably true over the whole
[45:18] that's probably true over the whole population so what accounts for this
[45:20] population so what accounts for this great difference well we talk about
[45:22] great difference well we talk about human potential we come down to a very
[45:24] human potential we come down to a very simple formula that I came up with some
[45:26] simple formula that I came up with some years ago that probably explains it a
[45:28] years ago that probably explains it a little bit the formula starts off with
[45:31] little bit the formula starts off with what we call IIA which is inborn
[45:33] what we call IIA which is inborn attributes that's the qualities the
[45:35] attributes that's the qualities the intelligence the ability the temperament
[45:37] intelligence the ability the temperament the things that you're born with that
[45:39] the things that you're born with that you can't really change very much plus
[45:42] you can't really change very much plus acquired attributes now acquired
[45:44] acquired attributes now acquired attributes are very important those are
[45:46] attributes are very important those are your education your training your skill
[45:49] your education your training your skill your experience knowledge wisdom and so
[45:51] your experience knowledge wisdom and so on multiplied times a which is your
[45:55] on multiplied times a which is your attitude equals indiv idual human
[45:58] attitude equals indiv idual human potential or individual Human
[46:00] potential or individual Human Performance or individual human results
[46:02] Performance or individual human results if you like now of these three inborn
[46:04] if you like now of these three inborn attributes are largely fixed at Birth
[46:06] attributes are largely fixed at Birth acquired attributes can be changed but
[46:08] acquired attributes can be changed but it takes a while to change them although
[46:10] it takes a while to change them although sometimes they can be changed very
[46:11] sometimes they can be changed very rapidly one valuable piece of
[46:13] rapidly one valuable piece of information can dramatically change your
[46:14] information can dramatically change your Effectiveness but attitudes can be
[46:17] Effectiveness but attitudes can be increased or decreased dramatically in
[46:20] increased or decreased dramatically in seconds that every single time we
[46:23] seconds that every single time we improve our attitude we multiply all our
[46:25] improve our attitude we multiply all our capabilities so that attitude has been
[46:28] capabilities so that attitude has been rightly called the most important
[46:29] rightly called the most important language in the human or the most
[46:31] language in the human or the most important word in the human language
[46:33] important word in the human language everything that we do in life according
[46:35] everything that we do in life according to a Harvard study amongst executive
[46:37] to a Harvard study amongst executive recruiters will be 85% attitudinal 85%
[46:42] recruiters will be 85% attitudinal 85% of your success will beer be determined
[46:44] of your success will beer be determined by your attitude that means determined
[46:45] by your attitude that means determined by how positive or how much of a
[46:47] by how positive or how much of a positive mental attitude you have people
[46:50] positive mental attitude you have people with positive mental attitudes tend to
[46:52] with positive mental attitudes tend to advance more rapidly move to the top of
[46:54] advance more rapidly move to the top of valuable organizations earn more money
[46:56] valuable organizations earn more money get more life satisfaction and so on now
[46:58] get more life satisfaction and so on now a positive mental attitude doesn't mean
[46:59] a positive mental attitude doesn't mean that you dance around in the street and
[47:01] that you dance around in the street and and throw flowers it just means that you
[47:03] and throw flowers it just means that you take a generally
[47:05] take a generally constructive attitude or approach
[47:07] constructive attitude or approach towards your work your life your
[47:09] towards your work your life your problems your relationships and so on
[47:11] problems your relationships and so on but according to the Cox reports on
[47:13] but according to the Cox reports on American Business according to Success
[47:15] American Business according to Success magazine 85% or more of everything that
[47:18] magazine 85% or more of everything that you accomplish will be attitudinal so
[47:20] you accomplish will be attitudinal so our question is where do attitudes come
[47:22] our question is where do attitudes come from and we found that attitudes come
[47:23] from and we found that attitudes come from
[47:25] from expectations very very simple we talked
[47:27] expectations very very simple we talked about that before and a very powerful
[47:29] about that before and a very powerful way to instantaneously improve your
[47:31] way to instantaneously improve your attitude is to say to yourself I I
[47:34] attitude is to say to yourself I I believe something wonderful is going to
[47:36] believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today as we said before our
[47:38] happen to me today as we said before our expectations about outcomes determines
[47:41] expectations about outcomes determines our attitude in other words if you
[47:42] our attitude in other words if you expect things to turn out well you're
[47:44] expect things to turn out well you're going to have a positive attitude if you
[47:45] going to have a positive attitude if you expect things to turn out negatively
[47:46] expect things to turn out negatively you're going to have a negative attitude
[47:47] you're going to have a negative attitude and the wonderful thing is you can
[47:48] and the wonderful thing is you can manufacture your own expectations I mean
[47:50] manufacture your own expectations I mean you can expect whatever you want you can
[47:52] you can expect whatever you want you can expect good things you can expect
[47:53] expect good things you can expect negative things and chances are you
[47:55] negative things and chances are you won't be disappointed where where do our
[47:57] won't be disappointed where where do our expectations come from our expectations
[47:59] expectations come from our expectations come from our
[48:01] come from our beliefs if you like and our values these
[48:04] beliefs if you like and our values these are the core or the central motivating
[48:07] are the core or the central motivating factors in our personality our beliefs
[48:09] factors in our personality our beliefs and values and this brings us to an
[48:11] and values and this brings us to an understanding of human potential it
[48:13] understanding of human potential it means that basically our attitude is the
[48:15] means that basically our attitude is the outward expression of what is going on
[48:18] outward expression of what is going on internally consistent with the mental
[48:20] internally consistent with the mental laws that we talked about and with
[48:22] laws that we talked about and with regard to beliefs each of us has a
[48:24] regard to beliefs each of us has a bundle of beliefs way down deep inside
[48:26] bundle of beliefs way down deep inside which psychologists call the
[48:28] which psychologists call the self-concept now the self-concept or the
[48:31] self-concept now the self-concept or the discovery of it has been considered by
[48:32] discovery of it has been considered by many to be the most important single
[48:35] many to be the most important single breakthrough in understanding human
[48:36] breakthrough in understanding human performance in the 20th century and I
[48:39] performance in the 20th century and I personally agree the self-concept is
[48:41] personally agree the self-concept is like if you wanted to use a military
[48:43] like if you wanted to use a military analogy is the command center or if you
[48:46] analogy is the command center or if you wanted to use a
[48:47] wanted to use a technological analogy it is the central
[48:50] technological analogy it is the central program of your basic computer it is a
[48:53] program of your basic computer it is a bundle of beliefs values attitudes
[48:55] bundle of beliefs values attitudes feelings ideas
[48:57] feelings ideas and so on which are stored away down
[48:59] and so on which are stored away down inside which are a result of virtually
[49:01] inside which are a result of virtually every experience you've ever had in your
[49:03] every experience you've ever had in your life and some researchers say that the
[49:06] life and some researchers say that the self-concept begins to form even before
[49:08] self-concept begins to form even before birth but this self-concept once it is
[49:11] birth but this self-concept once it is in place precedes predicts and
[49:13] in place precedes predicts and determines your levels of Effectiveness
[49:15] determines your levels of Effectiveness and performance in every area of your
[49:17] and performance in every area of your life your self-concept becomes the
[49:19] life your self-concept becomes the command Pro Center or the master program
[49:23] command Pro Center or the master program the self-concept or this bundle of
[49:24] the self-concept or this bundle of beliefs then determines what you will
[49:26] beliefs then determines what you will say what you will do how you will act
[49:27] say what you will do how you will act how you feel and react and so on what
[49:29] how you feel and react and so on what does it mean it means that all
[49:31] does it mean it means that all improvements in your external life all
[49:33] improvements in your external life all changes in your reality begin with a
[49:36] changes in your reality begin with a change in the self-concept let me give
[49:38] change in the self-concept let me give you an understanding of how it means
[49:40] you an understanding of how it means here's here's a very simple graph we
[49:42] here's here's a very simple graph we talk about human potential we say the
[49:44] talk about human potential we say the average person uses 10% or less of their
[49:46] average person uses 10% or less of their potential according to the research is
[49:48] potential according to the research is probably much less Stanford brain
[49:50] probably much less Stanford brain Institute in Santa Clara California
[49:53] Institute in Santa Clara California estimates that it's probably closer to
[49:54] estimates that it's probably closer to 2% but we'll be generous say the average
[49:57] 2% but we'll be generous say the average person is using 10% it means that in the
[49:59] person is using 10% it means that in the best of
[50:01] best of cases the average person you and I have
[50:04] cases the average person you and I have 90% of our potential untapped one of the
[50:07] 90% of our potential untapped one of the great philosophers Oliver Wendel Holmes
[50:09] great philosophers Oliver Wendel Holmes said the great tragedy of the average
[50:10] said the great tragedy of the average person is they go to their grave with
[50:12] person is they go to their grave with their music still in them they're still
[50:14] their music still in them they're still functioning on far far less of their
[50:16] functioning on far far less of their potential so this is human potential we
[50:19] potential so this is human potential we find there's a direct relationship
[50:20] find there's a direct relationship between human potential and the
[50:21] between human potential and the self-concept that since our
[50:23] self-concept that since our self-concepts or our estimates of
[50:25] self-concepts or our estimates of ourselves if you like are usually far
[50:27] ourselves if you like are usually far lower than they need to be our level of
[50:30] lower than they need to be our level of performance and Effectiveness is far
[50:31] performance and Effectiveness is far lower too and we know that our
[50:33] lower too and we know that our self-concept is largely subjective what
[50:35] self-concept is largely subjective what does that mean it means that the
[50:36] does that mean it means that the self-concept what we believe to be true
[50:38] self-concept what we believe to be true about ourselves is really not based in
[50:41] about ourselves is really not based in reality it's based on information that
[50:42] reality it's based on information that we've taken in we accept it as true and
[50:44] we've taken in we accept it as true and to the degree to which you believe
[50:46] to the degree to which you believe anything about yourself it becomes true
[50:48] anything about yourself it becomes true for you because you act in a manner
[50:50] for you because you act in a manner consistent with it you know there's some
[50:51] consistent with it you know there's some people who read their horoscopes and
[50:52] people who read their horoscopes and believe that their horoscopes are
[50:53] believe that their horoscopes are predicting their future there's some
[50:55] predicting their future there's some people who will take criticism and
[50:56] people who will take criticism and condemnation from other people that they
[50:58] condemnation from other people that they don't even respect and believe that that
[51:00] don't even respect and believe that that is an adequate or accurate reflection of
[51:02] is an adequate or accurate reflection of their own abilities but whatever you
[51:03] their own abilities but whatever you believe whatever you accept as true
[51:06] believe whatever you accept as true becomes true for you now we also know
[51:08] becomes true for you now we also know that as an adult you have a variety of
[51:10] that as an adult you have a variety of self-concepts you have a self-concept
[51:12] self-concepts you have a self-concept for how you dress how much you weigh how
[51:15] for how you dress how much you weigh how much you eat how well you speak in
[51:17] much you eat how well you speak in public what kind of a parent you are
[51:19] public what kind of a parent you are what kind of a child you are to your
[51:20] what kind of a child you are to your parents what kind of a husband or wife
[51:22] parents what kind of a husband or wife you are what kind of a lover what kind
[51:24] you are what kind of a lover what kind of a driver interesting about driving
[51:28] of a driver interesting about driving all men have a very positive
[51:29] all men have a very positive self-concept with regard to driving
[51:31] self-concept with regard to driving women don't understand this but all men
[51:33] women don't understand this but all men are born with an inherent genius at
[51:37] are born with an inherent genius at driving that men are all great drivers
[51:39] driving that men are all great drivers and if you don't believe it all you have
[51:40] and if you don't believe it all you have to do ladies who are watching this all
[51:42] to do ladies who are watching this all you have to do is think about the last
[51:44] you have to do is think about the last time you tried to correct a man's
[51:45] time you tried to correct a man's driving you'll find it is not well
[51:47] driving you'll find it is not well responded to how do we respond when
[51:50] responded to how do we respond when somebody challenges our self concept by
[51:52] somebody challenges our self concept by suggesting that we are not the person we
[51:54] suggesting that we are not the person we think we are we become defensive we
[51:56] think we are we become defensive we become angry we become irritable we
[51:58] become angry we become irritable we become uh difficult to get along with we
[52:01] become uh difficult to get along with we have a self-concept for how creative we
[52:02] have a self-concept for how creative we are how intelligent how fast we read how
[52:05] are how intelligent how fast we read how good we are at Athletics and if you
[52:06] good we are at Athletics and if you practice a variety of different sports
[52:08] practice a variety of different sports you have a self-concept for every one of
[52:10] you have a self-concept for every one of those Sports we have a self-concept for
[52:12] those Sports we have a self-concept for how well we cook how well we raise our
[52:13] how well we cook how well we raise our children how well we clean our home what
[52:16] children how well we clean our home what kind of cars we drive and so on we also
[52:18] kind of cars we drive and so on we also have a self-concept for what it's worth
[52:19] have a self-concept for what it's worth for how much money we earns interesting
[52:21] for how much money we earns interesting enough you can never earn more than 10%
[52:24] enough you can never earn more than 10% above or below your self-concept level
[52:25] above or below your self-concept level of income that your self-concept
[52:28] of income that your self-concept determines your income level this
[52:29] determines your income level this self-concept is level is called your
[52:31] self-concept is level is called your comfort zone and even if you want more
[52:34] comfort zone and even if you want more money you will find that the natural
[52:36] money you will find that the natural human tendency of all action is to
[52:38] human tendency of all action is to struggle and strive to get into a
[52:40] struggle and strive to get into a comfort zone and then to stay there that
[52:43] comfort zone and then to stay there that if you earn 10% or more above your
[52:45] if you earn 10% or more above your self-concept level of income you will
[52:47] self-concept level of income you will have an irresistible urge to get rid of
[52:49] have an irresistible urge to get rid of the money you'll give it away you'll
[52:50] the money you'll give it away you'll spend it you'll blow it you'll spend it
[52:52] spend it you'll blow it you'll spend it extravagantly you'll even lose it if you
[52:54] extravagantly you'll even lose it if you get enough that's why people who win
[52:55] get enough that's why people who win lotteries are often flat broke 2 or 3
[52:58] lotteries are often flat broke 2 or 3 years later they just burn the money
[53:00] years later they just burn the money because the money is far beyond their
[53:01] because the money is far beyond their self-concept if you go 10% or more below
[53:04] self-concept if you go 10% or more below your self-concept level of income you
[53:06] your self-concept level of income you find yourself scrambling you work harder
[53:07] find yourself scrambling you work harder you work longer you think more
[53:09] you work longer you think more creatively you look at different ways to
[53:11] creatively you look at different ways to increase your income or or second income
[53:13] increase your income or or second income opportunities the only way to improve
[53:15] opportunities the only way to improve any part of your life including your
[53:16] any part of your life including your income is to raise your self-concept
[53:19] income is to raise your self-concept level of income by beginning to think
[53:20] level of income by beginning to think about yourself continually in terms of
[53:23] about yourself continually in terms of earning more money if you want to lose
[53:24] earning more money if you want to lose weight the only way you can lose weight
[53:25] weight the only way you can lose weight is what is to think thin by beginning to
[53:28] is what is to think thin by beginning to think of yourself as a thinner person if
[53:30] think of yourself as a thinner person if you want to become a more popular a more
[53:32] you want to become a more popular a more loving a happier person a healthier
[53:34] loving a happier person a healthier person you have to begin to think over
[53:37] person you have to begin to think over and over about those things until they
[53:39] and over about those things until they become part of your new self-concept and
[53:41] become part of your new self-concept and we'll talk about that a little bit later
[53:42] we'll talk about that a little bit later it's an essential part of programming
[53:44] it's an essential part of programming your mind for Success your overall
[53:46] your mind for Success your overall self-concept is determined by the
[53:48] self-concept is determined by the average of your self-concepts and all
[53:50] average of your self-concepts and all the areas that you consider important
[53:52] the areas that you consider important now your self-concept is made up of
[53:54] now your self-concept is made up of three critical Parts the first first
[53:56] three critical Parts the first first part of the self-concept is the self
[53:58] part of the self-concept is the self ideal the self ideal is the person you
[54:01] ideal the self ideal is the person you would most like to be it is your idea of
[54:04] would most like to be it is your idea of what constitutes a winner it is your
[54:07] what constitutes a winner it is your vision or your mission or your ideal of
[54:09] vision or your mission or your ideal of the very best you that you can be now
[54:13] the very best you that you can be now one of the things that we know about
[54:14] one of the things that we know about successful people is this is successful
[54:16] successful people is this is successful people have very clear self ideals they
[54:19] people have very clear self ideals they have very clear ideas of who they want
[54:20] have very clear ideas of who they want to be in the future unsuccessful people
[54:22] to be in the future unsuccessful people have very vague ideals number two is
[54:25] have very vague ideals number two is your self-image your
[54:27] your self-image your self-image is a picture of the way you
[54:30] self-image is a picture of the way you is the way you see yourself and the way
[54:32] is the way you see yourself and the way you think about yourself your self-image
[54:34] you think about yourself your self-image the inner mirror is how you perceive
[54:37] the inner mirror is how you perceive yourself now and determines your current
[54:40] yourself now and determines your current performance on a day-to-day basis the
[54:42] performance on a day-to-day basis the third part is your self-esteem now your
[54:44] third part is your self-esteem now your self-esteem is how you feel about
[54:46] self-esteem is how you feel about yourself how you feel about yourself is
[54:49] yourself how you feel about yourself is the engine Force it's the motor it's the
[54:51] the engine Force it's the motor it's the power force within your subconscious
[54:54] power force within your subconscious it's the power force within the selfcon
[54:56] it's the power force within the selfcon concept and it determines virtually
[54:58] concept and it determines virtually everything that happens to you the best
[55:00] everything that happens to you the best definition of self-esteem is how much
[55:02] definition of self-esteem is how much you like yourself how much you like
[55:04] you like yourself how much you like yourself as a parent how much you like
[55:06] yourself as a parent how much you like yourself as an employee how much you
[55:07] yourself as an employee how much you like yourself as a boss how much you
[55:09] like yourself as a boss how much you like yourself as a money earner a
[55:11] like yourself as a money earner a professional speaker an athlete and so
[55:13] professional speaker an athlete and so on how much you like yourself your level
[55:16] on how much you like yourself your level of self-esteem your overall emotional
[55:19] of self-esteem your overall emotional feeling about any area of your life
[55:21] feeling about any area of your life determines your performance and
[55:22] determines your performance and Effectiveness in that area wonderfully
[55:25] Effectiveness in that area wonderfully enough since you become what you think
[55:26] enough since you become what you think about your self-concept is malleable
[55:29] about your self-concept is malleable your self-esteem can be built by
[55:31] your self-esteem can be built by repeating over and over again I like
[55:34] repeating over and over again I like myself I like myself I like myself I
[55:39] myself I like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself
[55:42] like myself I like myself I like myself the more you say I like myself I like
[55:44] the more you say I like myself I like myself I like myself the more you repeat
[55:46] myself I like myself the more you repeat that over and over again the more your
[55:48] that over and over again the more your self-esteem goes up the more your
[55:49] self-esteem goes up the more your self-esteem goes up the more your
[55:50] self-esteem goes up the more your overall self-concept goes up when your
[55:52] overall self-concept goes up when your overall self-concept goes up you perform
[55:54] overall self-concept goes up you perform better at everything else that you
[55:56] better at everything else that you attempt that every single time you say I
[55:58] attempt that every single time you say I like myself I like myself I like myself
[56:00] like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself it's like
[56:02] I like myself I like myself it's like pumping yourself up psychologically
[56:03] pumping yourself up psychologically everything that happens that causes your
[56:05] everything that happens that causes your self-esteem to go up causes you to
[56:06] self-esteem to go up causes you to perform better everything that happens
[56:08] perform better everything that happens that causes your self-esteem to go down
[56:10] that causes your self-esteem to go down causes you to perform worse make more
[56:11] causes you to perform worse make more mistakes be unhappier and so on now
[56:14] mistakes be unhappier and so on now critical point about liking yourself
[56:16] critical point about liking yourself about self-esteem and self-liking is
[56:19] about self-esteem and self-liking is that number one is you can never like or
[56:21] that number one is you can never like or love anybody else more than you like or
[56:24] love anybody else more than you like or love yourself that your level of self
[56:26] love yourself that your level of self esteem is the determinant of the quality
[56:28] esteem is the determinant of the quality of the relationships you have with
[56:30] of the relationships you have with others and number two is you can never
[56:31] others and number two is you can never expect anybody else to like or respect
[56:34] expect anybody else to like or respect you more than you like or respect
[56:35] you more than you like or respect yourself that how much you like and
[56:37] yourself that how much you like and respect yourself determines their
[56:38] respect yourself determines their attitudes toward you every single School
[56:41] attitudes toward you every single School of Psychology today is coming to
[56:44] of Psychology today is coming to agreement on the fact that how much you
[56:46] agreement on the fact that how much you genuinely like and accept yourself as a
[56:48] genuinely like and accept yourself as a valuable and worthwhile human being has
[56:51] valuable and worthwhile human being has an effect on everything that happens to
[56:53] an effect on everything that happens to you how much you'll like yourself and
[56:55] you how much you'll like yourself and what you can do is you can can improve
[56:56] what you can do is you can can improve your self-esteem but then I like myself
[56:58] your self-esteem but then I like myself I like myself I like myself I like
[57:00] I like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself well this brings us
[57:01] myself I like myself well this brings us to the question a word is self-esteem
[57:04] to the question a word is self-esteem where does the self-concept come from
[57:06] where does the self-concept come from and we found that self-concept if
[57:08] and we found that self-concept if anything self-concept is malleable in
[57:11] anything self-concept is malleable in that you are not born with a
[57:12] that you are not born with a self-concept is that you're not born
[57:14] self-concept is that you're not born with any idea of yourself you're not
[57:15] with any idea of yourself you're not born with self-image or self-esteem that
[57:18] born with self-image or self-esteem that you're born in a way as pure potential
[57:21] you're born in a way as pure potential it's probably the best way to put it the
[57:22] it's probably the best way to put it the average person comes into the world as
[57:24] average person comes into the world as pure potential and has no self concept
[57:27] pure potential and has no self concept that everything you are today every
[57:28] that everything you are today every feeling that you have every attitude or
[57:30] feeling that you have every attitude or value you had to learn over the course
[57:33] value you had to learn over the course of your lifetime we also know that the
[57:35] of your lifetime we also know that the child comes into the world with a very
[57:36] child comes into the world with a very high need for love and touching and a
[57:39] high need for love and touching and a tremendous amount of Research indicates
[57:41] tremendous amount of Research indicates that we need a lot of love and touching
[57:43] that we need a lot of love and touching all of our lives but especially in our
[57:45] all of our lives but especially in our formative years because as a child we
[57:47] formative years because as a child we learn who we are how valuable we are
[57:50] learn who we are how valuable we are whether we're important intelligent
[57:52] whether we're important intelligent attractive lovable uh funny we learn all
[57:55] attractive lovable uh funny we learn all of the these things by the way our
[57:57] of the these things by the way our parents treat us if our parents our
[57:59] parents treat us if our parents our siblings our aunts and uncles but
[58:01] siblings our aunts and uncles but especially our parents treat us like
[58:02] especially our parents treat us like we're really important kids then we grow
[58:04] we're really important kids then we grow up thinking that we're really important
[58:06] up thinking that we're really important if our parents do not then something
[58:07] if our parents do not then something else happens we know that the first few
[58:10] else happens we know that the first few years of life are the most important in
[58:12] years of life are the most important in developing the self-concept that a child
[58:14] developing the self-concept that a child starts off at zero when the child is
[58:16] starts off at zero when the child is born with no idea of who she is or who
[58:19] born with no idea of who she is or who he is or how valuable they are and in
[58:21] he is or how valuable they are and in the first second third fourth and fifth
[58:24] the first second third fourth and fifth years of life you psychologist used to
[58:27] years of life you psychologist used to think it was 5 years but now they're
[58:28] think it was 5 years but now they're saying it's 3 years in these first three
[58:30] saying it's 3 years in these first three years of life children learn who they
[58:32] years of life children learn who they are they say if you give enough high
[58:35] are they say if you give enough high quality and quantity of love to a child
[58:37] quality and quantity of love to a child in the first 3 to 5 years you set them
[58:41] in the first 3 to 5 years you set them up for life you set them up on a solid
[58:43] up for life you set them up on a solid foundation of self-esteem
[58:44] foundation of self-esteem self-confidence self-worth self- value
[58:47] self-confidence self-worth self- value as a matter of fact there's a direct
[58:48] as a matter of fact there's a direct relationship between the quality and
[58:50] relationship between the quality and quantity of love and the development of
[58:52] quantity of love and the development of healthy personality that the more love
[58:56] healthy personality that the more love conditional love that a child receives
[58:57] conditional love that a child receives in those formative years the stronger is
[58:59] in those formative years the stronger is the foundation of the personality to
[59:02] the foundation of the personality to reverse the equation that virtually all
[59:04] reverse the equation that virtually all problems in psychosis Neurosis
[59:07] problems in psychosis Neurosis personality disturbances uh and behavior
[59:10] personality disturbances uh and behavior problems arise from problems way down in
[59:14] problems arise from problems way down in the self-concept and we can go back as
[59:16] the self-concept and we can go back as adults here's our adult personality we
[59:18] adults here's our adult personality we can go back as adults we can correct the
[59:20] can go back as adults we can correct the flaws in our foundation the cracks if
[59:23] flaws in our foundation the cracks if you like by repeating over and over
[59:25] you like by repeating over and over again I like myself I like myself I like
[59:27] again I like myself I like myself I like myself and driving down that healing
[59:29] myself and driving down that healing concrete deep into the foundation of our
[59:32] concrete deep into the foundation of our personality remember children need love
[59:35] personality remember children need love like roses need rain children that are
[59:37] like roses need rain children that are deprived of Love often die of Love
[59:40] deprived of Love often die of Love starvation it's a disease called
[59:42] starvation it's a disease called marasmus now what else do we know about
[59:44] marasmus now what else do we know about children we know that children come into
[59:45] children we know that children come into the world with two remarkable attributes
[59:48] the world with two remarkable attributes the first is that they're Fearless
[59:50] the first is that they're Fearless children are born with no fears they're
[59:51] children are born with no fears they're not afraid of anything except falling
[59:53] not afraid of anything except falling and loud noises and this is expressed in
[59:55] and loud noises and this is expressed in the attitude I can children come into
[59:59] the attitude I can children come into the world believing they can do anything
[01:00:01] the world believing they can do anything and anybody's ever raised a child to the
[01:00:02] and anybody's ever raised a child to the age of three or four or five knows you
[01:00:04] age of three or four or five knows you have to spend those first few years
[01:00:06] have to spend those first few years stopping them from killing themselves
[01:00:07] stopping them from killing themselves because they're little kamakazi Pilots
[01:00:09] because they're little kamakazi Pilots because they're not afraid of anything
[01:00:11] because they're not afraid of anything the second attribute is they come into
[01:00:12] the second attribute is they come into the world completely spontaneous they
[01:00:15] the world completely spontaneous they say what they want they do what they
[01:00:16] say what they want they do what they want they are completely uninhibited
[01:00:20] want they are completely uninhibited they just are completely unafraid they
[01:00:22] they just are completely unafraid they do anything that they want and this is
[01:00:23] do anything that they want and this is expressed in the attitude I don't have
[01:00:25] expressed in the attitude I don't have to
[01:00:26] to I don't have to if you ever try to
[01:00:29] I don't have to if you ever try to control a child you'll find that the
[01:00:31] control a child you'll find that the attitude of a chunk child the first
[01:00:33] attitude of a chunk child the first thing they say is when you start giving
[01:00:34] thing they say is when you start giving them ERS the first thing they learn is
[01:00:35] them ERS the first thing they learn is no they say no I don't have to well of
[01:00:39] no they say no I don't have to well of course we eventually uh change their
[01:00:42] course we eventually uh change their minds on that one way or another but
[01:00:44] minds on that one way or another but these are the two attributes that each
[01:00:45] these are the two attributes that each of us come into the world with you come
[01:00:46] of us come into the world with you come into the world unafraid and uninhibited
[01:00:49] into the world unafraid and uninhibited what does that mean it means that our
[01:00:51] what does that mean it means that our natural Birthright is to be unafraid and
[01:00:54] natural Birthright is to be unafraid and uninhibited and that only when we can
[01:00:57] uninhibited and that only when we can create the same situation in adult life
[01:00:59] create the same situation in adult life where we are unafraid and
[01:01:02] where we are unafraid and uninhibited do we feel truly great about
[01:01:06] uninhibited do we feel truly great about ourselves the very best organizations
[01:01:08] ourselves the very best organizations the very best companies are those that
[01:01:09] the very best companies are those that create an environment where people who
[01:01:11] create an environment where people who feel unafraid and unreserved to be
[01:01:14] feel unafraid and unreserved to be themselves and to do the very best they
[01:01:16] themselves and to do the very best they can well as we grow up we know that
[01:01:19] can well as we grow up we know that children learn two ways the first way
[01:01:21] children learn two ways the first way they learn is by
[01:01:22] they learn is by imitation they imitate one or both
[01:01:25] imitation they imitate one or both parents especially the dominant parent
[01:01:28] parents especially the dominant parent and sometimes the parent dominant parent
[01:01:29] and sometimes the parent dominant parent will change as the child is growing up
[01:01:31] will change as the child is growing up sometimes children will imitate the
[01:01:32] sometimes children will imitate the father sometimes the mother but they
[01:01:34] father sometimes the mother but they learn by imitation many of the
[01:01:36] learn by imitation many of the characteristics and habits that we have
[01:01:38] characteristics and habits that we have as adults we learn from our parents if
[01:01:40] as adults we learn from our parents if you ever had a CH the opportunity or the
[01:01:42] you ever had a CH the opportunity or the occasion to scream at one of your
[01:01:43] occasion to scream at one of your children or shout at one of them and
[01:01:45] children or shout at one of them and find yourself saying the same things
[01:01:46] find yourself saying the same things your mother or father sent to you said
[01:01:47] your mother or father sent to you said to you when you were a child well we
[01:01:50] to you when you were a child well we imitate sometimes we imitate their walk
[01:01:52] imitate sometimes we imitate their walk sometimes we imitate their talk
[01:01:53] sometimes we imitate their talk sometimes we imitate their values their
[01:01:54] sometimes we imitate their values their beliefs and so on even if those values
[01:01:56] beliefs and so on even if those values and beliefs are of no value why it's
[01:01:59] and beliefs are of no value why it's because our parents are like Gods to us
[01:02:01] because our parents are like Gods to us when we're children the second way that
[01:02:02] when we're children the second way that we learn is by moving from
[01:02:05] we learn is by moving from discomfort from what doesn't feel good
[01:02:07] discomfort from what doesn't feel good toward Comfort now Freud called this the
[01:02:11] toward Comfort now Freud called this the Pleasure Principle is that we move
[01:02:13] Pleasure Principle is that we move toward what makes us feel comfortable
[01:02:15] toward what makes us feel comfortable what gives us pleasure what makes us
[01:02:17] what gives us pleasure what makes us feel good about ourselves we move from
[01:02:20] feel good about ourselves we move from discomfort toward Comfort that's how we
[01:02:22] discomfort toward Comfort that's how we learn to become toilet trained we say
[01:02:25] learn to become toilet trained we say it's no that it's no longer fun to walk
[01:02:28] it's no that it's no longer fun to walk around with pee and poop in our diapers
[01:02:30] around with pee and poop in our diapers so we watch what our parents do we watch
[01:02:32] so we watch what our parents do we watch what our older siblings do and we see a
[01:02:34] what our older siblings do and we see a those people aren't uh doing this and
[01:02:36] those people aren't uh doing this and that's how we learn to walk that's how
[01:02:37] that's how we learn to walk that's how we learn everything so we move from
[01:02:38] we learn everything so we move from discomfort toward Comfort throughout our
[01:02:41] discomfort toward Comfort throughout our lives by the way that's how we learn we
[01:02:43] lives by the way that's how we learn we imitate by reading what other people
[01:02:45] imitate by reading what other people have done by studying books by at our
[01:02:47] have done by studying books by at our work we imitate when we go to school and
[01:02:49] work we imitate when we go to school and we do what gives us a positive payoff
[01:02:51] we do what gives us a positive payoff what gives us positive reinforcement
[01:02:53] what gives us positive reinforcement what gives us pleasure and we do less of
[01:02:55] what gives us pleasure and we do less of those things that give us discomfort or
[01:02:58] those things that give us discomfort or pain now very early in life as a mistake
[01:03:01] pain now very early in life as a mistake or as as as the result of mistakes that
[01:03:03] or as as as the result of mistakes that parents make an upbringing children
[01:03:05] parents make an upbringing children begin to learn negative habit patterns
[01:03:08] begin to learn negative habit patterns and negative habit patterns have their
[01:03:09] and negative habit patterns have their root primarily in destructive criticism
[01:03:13] root primarily in destructive criticism destructive
[01:03:14] destructive criticism begins very early in life
[01:03:17] criticism begins very early in life sometimes in the first few months and
[01:03:19] sometimes in the first few months and destructive criticism is used by parents
[01:03:22] destructive criticism is used by parents to direct and control their children
[01:03:26] to direct and control their children unfortunately it has a very very
[01:03:30] unfortunately it has a very very dangerous and damaging effect on
[01:03:32] dangerous and damaging effect on children in that destructive criticism
[01:03:34] children in that destructive criticism begins to undermine the Integrity of the
[01:03:36] begins to undermine the Integrity of the child's personality and more of us
[01:03:39] child's personality and more of us including myself and including most of
[01:03:41] including myself and including most of you have been undermined and hurt by
[01:03:43] you have been undermined and hurt by destructive criticism probably more than
[01:03:45] destructive criticism probably more than all the war wars in history now as a
[01:03:48] all the war wars in history now as a result of destructive criticism we begin
[01:03:51] result of destructive criticism we begin to develop negative habit patterns
[01:03:53] to develop negative habit patterns negative habit patterns are conditioned
[01:03:55] negative habit patterns are conditioned responses to stimuli negative habit
[01:03:57] responses to stimuli negative habit patterns develop very very early in life
[01:04:00] patterns develop very very early in life they're developed as a result of a
[01:04:02] they're developed as a result of a repetition of fear and pain over and
[01:04:06] repetition of fear and pain over and over again they're developed as the
[01:04:07] over again they're developed as the result of destructive criticism physical
[01:04:09] result of destructive criticism physical punishment and so on very early in life
[01:04:11] punishment and so on very early in life we begin to develop two major
[01:04:13] we begin to develop two major manifestations which follow us
[01:04:15] manifestations which follow us throughout our lives and more than
[01:04:17] throughout our lives and more than anything else inhibit our potential as
[01:04:19] anything else inhibit our potential as adults the first is what is called the
[01:04:21] adults the first is what is called the inhibitive negative habit pattern the
[01:04:23] inhibitive negative habit pattern the inhibitive negative habit pattern
[01:04:26] inhibitive negative habit pattern is learned when the child is told over
[01:04:28] is learned when the child is told over and over again don't get away from there
[01:04:30] and over again don't get away from there stop leave that alone and the child is
[01:04:32] stop leave that alone and the child is punished whenever the child tries
[01:04:35] punished whenever the child tries something new or gets into something or
[01:04:37] something new or gets into something or smells something or pours something over
[01:04:39] smells something or pours something over or or breaks something accidentally the
[01:04:41] or or breaks something accidentally the parent blows up and gets angry and upset
[01:04:44] parent blows up and gets angry and upset you see the child is driven by an
[01:04:45] you see the child is driven by an insatiable curiosity to explore his or
[01:04:48] insatiable curiosity to explore his or her world and what happens is when they
[01:04:50] her world and what happens is when they do explore it and they get into
[01:04:51] do explore it and they get into something they tip something over if the
[01:04:53] something they tip something over if the parent overreacts and spanks the child
[01:04:55] parent overreacts and spanks the child the child soon begins to think that
[01:04:57] the child soon begins to think that every time I try something new every
[01:04:59] every time I try something new every time I try something different every
[01:05:01] time I try something different every time I go beyond my boundaries every
[01:05:03] time I go beyond my boundaries every time I move out of my comfort zone every
[01:05:05] time I move out of my comfort zone every time I don't play it safe I get spanked
[01:05:08] time I don't play it safe I get spanked I get punished I get hurt I get sent to
[01:05:10] I get punished I get hurt I get sent to my bedroom and I feel terrible and
[01:05:12] my bedroom and I feel terrible and pretty soon the child develops the
[01:05:13] pretty soon the child develops the feeling of I can't I can't I can't every
[01:05:18] feeling of I can't I can't I can't every time I try something different I get
[01:05:20] time I try something different I get punished I can't I can't I can't this is
[01:05:24] punished I can't I can't I can't this is like the pavlovian response where the
[01:05:26] like the pavlovian response where the Pavo would ring the bell and feed the
[01:05:28] Pavo would ring the bell and feed the dog meat and the dog would salivate and
[01:05:31] dog meat and the dog would salivate and Pavo would ring the bell while they feed
[01:05:33] Pavo would ring the bell while they feed fed the dog meat and the dog would
[01:05:35] fed the dog meat and the dog would salivate they keep doing that pretty
[01:05:36] salivate they keep doing that pretty soon Pavo just ring the bell and the dog
[01:05:39] soon Pavo just ring the bell and the dog would salivate what happens in adult
[01:05:41] would salivate what happens in adult life is that this creates what we call
[01:05:42] life is that this creates what we call the fear of failure the fear of failure
[01:05:46] the fear of failure the fear of failure is a conditioned response to a process
[01:05:49] is a conditioned response to a process of destructive criticism that occurs in
[01:05:51] of destructive criticism that occurs in the first five or six years of life the
[01:05:53] the first five or six years of life the fear of failure automatically triggers
[01:05:55] fear of failure automatically triggers us we feel anxious tense uneasy we feel
[01:05:58] us we feel anxious tense uneasy we feel tension and stress in our solar plexus
[01:06:01] tension and stress in our solar plexus we feel like withdrawing and getting
[01:06:03] we feel like withdrawing and getting away from the event and the fear of
[01:06:05] away from the event and the fear of failure is the major reason for failure
[01:06:07] failure is the major reason for failure in adult life it's the major reason why
[01:06:09] in adult life it's the major reason why we hold back from fulfilling our
[01:06:11] we hold back from fulfilling our potentials as a matter of fact all
[01:06:13] potentials as a matter of fact all negative habit patterns are experienced
[01:06:15] negative habit patterns are experienced in the physical body that you can tell a
[01:06:18] in the physical body that you can tell a negative habit pattern because you
[01:06:20] negative habit pattern because you actually feel it in your physical body
[01:06:23] actually feel it in your physical body the inhibitive negative habit pattern
[01:06:24] the inhibitive negative habit pattern the fear of failure I can't is
[01:06:26] the fear of failure I can't is experience first of all in the solar
[01:06:27] experience first of all in the solar plexus you ever have an occasion where
[01:06:29] plexus you ever have an occasion where you have to speak in front of a group or
[01:06:31] you have to speak in front of a group or you have to go into an performance
[01:06:33] you have to go into an performance review or you have to make a cold call
[01:06:35] review or you have to make a cold call first of all the solar plexus tightens
[01:06:36] first of all the solar plexus tightens up if fear situation continues you start
[01:06:40] up if fear situation continues you start to breathe harder and your heart starts
[01:06:42] to breathe harder and your heart starts to beat faster your respiratory rate and
[01:06:44] to beat faster your respiratory rate and sometimes you get a headache like a
[01:06:45] sometimes you get a headache like a migraine headache in the front of your
[01:06:47] migraine headache in the front of your head sometimes your throat will tighten
[01:06:49] head sometimes your throat will tighten up and you won't be able to speak you'll
[01:06:50] up and you won't be able to speak you'll go completely dry sometimes you'll get
[01:06:52] go completely dry sometimes you'll get so tense and so frightened that you'll
[01:06:54] so tense and so frightened that you'll have to run and go to the bathroom
[01:06:56] have to run and go to the bathroom these are all manifestations there's no
[01:06:58] these are all manifestations there's no physical danger but there's a
[01:06:59] physical danger but there's a psychological danger a conditioned
[01:07:01] psychological danger a conditioned response and whenever we feel these
[01:07:02] response and whenever we feel these things the natural tendency is to back
[01:07:04] things the natural tendency is to back away from the situation that's causing
[01:07:05] away from the situation that's causing them which is the reason why we don't
[01:07:07] them which is the reason why we don't achieve very much if we are held back
[01:07:10] achieve very much if we are held back the second negative habit pattern is the
[01:07:12] the second negative habit pattern is the compulsive now the compulsive negative
[01:07:14] compulsive now the compulsive negative habit pattern is learned when children
[01:07:16] habit pattern is learned when children are told over and over again you better
[01:07:17] are told over and over again you better or else if you don't you're in big
[01:07:19] or else if you don't you're in big trouble now you're going to get it it's
[01:07:21] trouble now you're going to get it it's when children are made the recipients of
[01:07:25] when children are made the recipients of what is is called conditional love
[01:07:27] what is is called conditional love parents don't mean to do this but what
[01:07:29] parents don't mean to do this but what they do is they suggest to the child
[01:07:31] they do is they suggest to the child that you are not loved therefore you're
[01:07:33] that you are not loved therefore you're not safe unless and until you do what we
[01:07:36] not safe unless and until you do what we want the child grows up feeling that I
[01:07:40] want the child grows up feeling that I have to do what Mommy wants I have to
[01:07:42] have to do what Mommy wants I have to please Mommy I have to please Daddy I
[01:07:43] please Mommy I have to please Daddy I have to please other people I have to
[01:07:45] have to please other people I have to please my siblings eventually I have to
[01:07:47] please my siblings eventually I have to please my peers I have to please my
[01:07:49] please my peers I have to please my teachers I have to please everybody they
[01:07:51] teachers I have to please everybody they grow up with this I have to I have to I
[01:07:54] grow up with this I have to I have to I have to I can't do what I want to do I
[01:07:56] have to I can't do what I want to do I have to do what pleases other people
[01:07:58] have to do what pleases other people this compulsive negative habit pattern
[01:08:00] this compulsive negative habit pattern very early in life translates into the
[01:08:02] very early in life translates into the fear of rejection the fear of rejection
[01:08:06] fear of rejection the fear of rejection is experienced by men as adults as type
[01:08:09] is experienced by men as adults as type a behavior we'll talk about type a
[01:08:11] a behavior we'll talk about type a behavior later on in the course type a
[01:08:13] behavior later on in the course type a behavior is a a compulsive an obsessive
[01:08:18] behavior is a a compulsive an obsessive compulsive need to somehow please
[01:08:20] compulsive need to somehow please somebody with no standards of
[01:08:22] somebody with no standards of performance so that you can never
[01:08:23] performance so that you can never accomplish it the fear of rejection
[01:08:25] accomplish it the fear of rejection drives us it makes us very very
[01:08:26] drives us it makes us very very sensitive to the opinions of other
[01:08:28] sensitive to the opinions of other people we do things but that other
[01:08:29] people we do things but that other people want we don't do things that we
[01:08:31] people want we don't do things that we want we always trying to please others
[01:08:33] want we always trying to please others we have a preoccupation or a concern
[01:08:36] we have a preoccupation or a concern with the opinions and feelings and
[01:08:37] with the opinions and feelings and attitudes of others to the point where
[01:08:39] attitudes of others to the point where we deny our own needs now the fear of
[01:08:42] we deny our own needs now the fear of rejection is felt down the back half of
[01:08:44] rejection is felt down the back half of the body if you divide the body in half
[01:08:47] the body if you divide the body in half it's felt right down the back half of
[01:08:48] it's felt right down the back half of the body the first place you start to
[01:08:50] the body the first place you start to feel the fear of rejection is usually in
[01:08:52] feel the fear of rejection is usually in the shoulders and in the neck you start
[01:08:54] the shoulders and in the neck you start to feel stiff and sore and tense
[01:08:57] to feel stiff and sore and tense sometimes when you have a lot to do
[01:08:58] sometimes when you have a lot to do you'll feel tremendous stress in the
[01:08:59] you'll feel tremendous stress in the lower back the muscles will start to
[01:09:01] lower back the muscles will start to pull in the lower back sometimes it'll
[01:09:03] pull in the lower back sometimes it'll represent you'll manifest itself in
[01:09:05] represent you'll manifest itself in fitis and varicose veins very often it
[01:09:08] fitis and varicose veins very often it can give you very bad headaches in the
[01:09:10] can give you very bad headaches in the back of the head because the koted
[01:09:12] back of the head because the koted arteries which carry blood up into the
[01:09:14] arteries which carry blood up into the head the muscles around them constrict
[01:09:16] head the muscles around them constrict and the amount of blood flow to the Head
[01:09:18] and the amount of blood flow to the Head slows down and you feel this pounding
[01:09:20] slows down and you feel this pounding headache in the back of your head these
[01:09:23] headache in the back of your head these two fears the compulsive or these two
[01:09:26] two fears the compulsive or these two negative habit patterns the compulsive
[01:09:28] negative habit patterns the compulsive and the inhibitive which are the result
[01:09:30] and the inhibitive which are the result of destructive criticism the great P
[01:09:32] of destructive criticism the great P destroyer of personalities plague us all
[01:09:35] destroyer of personalities plague us all our lives now the wonderful thing about
[01:09:37] our lives now the wonderful thing about these is because that they are because
[01:09:39] these is because that they are because they are learned habits we can unlearn
[01:09:42] they are learned habits we can unlearn them we can overcome the fear of failure
[01:09:44] them we can overcome the fear of failure that holds us back we can overcome the
[01:09:46] that holds us back we can overcome the fear of rejection that causes us to do
[01:09:48] fear of rejection that causes us to do things that please other people rather
[01:09:50] things that please other people rather than pleasing ourselves by working on
[01:09:52] than pleasing ourselves by working on our own self-esteem because there is an
[01:09:55] our own self-esteem because there is an in relationship between self-esteem and
[01:09:58] in relationship between self-esteem and the basic negative habit patterns is the
[01:10:01] the basic negative habit patterns is the more you like yourself the less you fear
[01:10:04] more you like yourself the less you fear failure the more you like yourself the
[01:10:06] failure the more you like yourself the less you fear rejection the more you
[01:10:08] less you fear rejection the more you like yourself the less you fear anything
[01:10:10] like yourself the less you fear anything and if you continue to repeat I like
[01:10:12] and if you continue to repeat I like myself I like myself I like myself over
[01:10:15] myself I like myself I like myself over and over again if you continue to say
[01:10:17] and over again if you continue to say this eventually over time your
[01:10:21] this eventually over time your self-esteem goes up higher and higher
[01:10:24] self-esteem goes up higher and higher and higher and your fears go down as
[01:10:26] and higher and your fears go down as your self-esteem goes up your fears go
[01:10:29] your self-esteem goes up your fears go in the opposite
[01:10:31] in the opposite direction now how do you deal with
[01:10:34] direction now how do you deal with destructive criticism if you have to
[01:10:36] destructive criticism if you have to give criticism to other people well
[01:10:38] give criticism to other people well that's very simple many parents have
[01:10:39] that's very simple many parents have asked us that uh how do you control
[01:10:42] asked us that uh how do you control children one of the keys to controlling
[01:10:44] children one of the keys to controlling children is to redirect them so that
[01:10:45] children is to redirect them so that they're doing something constructive
[01:10:48] they're doing something constructive versus something that is destructive
[01:10:50] versus something that is destructive another thing to remember is that what
[01:10:53] another thing to remember is that what you want to do is you want to give
[01:10:54] you want to do is you want to give information criticism or constructive
[01:10:57] information criticism or constructive criticism which means that you tell
[01:10:59] criticism which means that you tell children what they can do or adults what
[01:11:01] children what they can do or adults what they can do to be better remember the
[01:11:03] they can do to be better remember the whole purpose of giving feedback of any
[01:11:05] whole purpose of giving feedback of any kind is what it's to improve performance
[01:11:08] kind is what it's to improve performance if you are a parent or if you are a boss
[01:11:11] if you are a parent or if you are a boss or if you are a person in a relationship
[01:11:13] or if you are a person in a relationship if a person is doing something wrong or
[01:11:14] if a person is doing something wrong or inappropriate the whole purpose in in
[01:11:16] inappropriate the whole purpose in in giving them any kind of feedback at all
[01:11:18] giving them any kind of feedback at all is so that they'll do it better next
[01:11:19] is so that they'll do it better next time however there's a direct
[01:11:21] time however there's a direct relationship between self-esteem and
[01:11:23] relationship between self-esteem and destructive criticism every time you
[01:11:25] destructive criticism every time you criticize a person their self-esteem
[01:11:27] criticize a person their self-esteem goes down every time their self-esteem
[01:11:29] goes down every time their self-esteem goes down their ability to perform goes
[01:11:31] goes down their ability to perform goes down too if you destructively criticize
[01:11:33] down too if you destructively criticize a person often enough long enough and
[01:11:35] a person often enough long enough and hard enough they get reach the point
[01:11:37] hard enough they get reach the point where they won't try anything at all
[01:11:39] where they won't try anything at all they become what we call hypers
[01:11:41] they become what we call hypers sensitive and a hyper sensitive adult is
[01:11:44] sensitive and a hyper sensitive adult is a person who cannot take criticism from
[01:11:46] a person who cannot take criticism from anybody a hyper sensitive adult is a
[01:11:47] anybody a hyper sensitive adult is a person who is very very tense and
[01:11:49] person who is very very tense and anxious if you even suggest that they're
[01:11:51] anxious if you even suggest that they're not doing the right thing if you have to
[01:11:53] not doing the right thing if you have to deal with a hyper sensitive adult the
[01:11:54] deal with a hyper sensitive adult the key is to sit them down and remember
[01:11:56] key is to sit them down and remember four things number one always begin with
[01:11:58] four things number one always begin with praise number two is protect the
[01:12:02] praise number two is protect the person's self-esteem at all costs number
[01:12:04] person's self-esteem at all costs number three is discuss the performance not the
[01:12:07] three is discuss the performance not the person talk about the behavior rather
[01:12:09] person talk about the behavior rather than the person and number four is is it
[01:12:13] than the person and number four is is it number four number four is to focus on
[01:12:17] number four number four is to focus on the future versus the past focus on what
[01:12:20] the future versus the past focus on what is going to be done differently in the
[01:12:22] is going to be done differently in the future or rather than what has happened
[01:12:24] future or rather than what has happened in the past why is that very simple
[01:12:26] in the past why is that very simple reason is because a person cannot
[01:12:28] reason is because a person cannot control the past not being able to
[01:12:29] control the past not being able to control the past any criticism over what
[01:12:31] control the past any criticism over what they've done in the past causes them
[01:12:33] they've done in the past causes them tremendous stress and frustration so let
[01:12:35] tremendous stress and frustration so let me summarize the key to success in life
[01:12:37] me summarize the key to success in life is a positive mental attitude a positive
[01:12:39] is a positive mental attitude a positive mental attitude is based on expectations
[01:12:42] mental attitude is based on expectations of success of a positive set of
[01:12:45] of success of a positive set of expectancies positive set of
[01:12:47] expectancies positive set of expectancies is based on beliefs and
[01:12:48] expectancies is based on beliefs and your self-concept the core of your
[01:12:50] your self-concept the core of your self-concept which determines your
[01:12:52] self-concept which determines your Effectiveness in life is your
[01:12:54] Effectiveness in life is your self-esteem and your self-esteem is
[01:12:56] self-esteem and your self-esteem is measured by how much you like yourself
[01:12:58] measured by how much you like yourself the two things that hold us back more
[01:12:59] the two things that hold us back more than anything else are the fears of
[01:13:01] than anything else are the fears of failure and the fears of rejection so
[01:13:03] failure and the fears of rejection so one of the core secrets of success is
[01:13:06] one of the core secrets of success is this is become a Perpetual self-esteem
[01:13:09] this is become a Perpetual self-esteem generating organism continually be doing
[01:13:12] generating organism continually be doing things for yourself to yourself in your
[01:13:15] things for yourself to yourself in your life that cause you to like yourself to
[01:13:18] life that cause you to like yourself to love yourself to accept yourself to
[01:13:21] love yourself to accept yourself to respect yourself it caus you to feel
[01:13:22] respect yourself it caus you to feel terrific about yourself if if you're a
[01:13:25] terrific about yourself if if you're a boss or a parent remember that the key
[01:13:28] boss or a parent remember that the key to Peak Performance in your home and in
[01:13:31] to Peak Performance in your home and in your workplace is to make people feel
[01:13:33] your workplace is to make people feel terrific about themselves and the more
[01:13:35] terrific about themselves and the more terrific you feel about yourself the
[01:13:37] terrific you feel about yourself the more you like yourself the more likely
[01:13:39] more you like yourself the more likely it is that you make the people around
[01:13:40] it is that you make the people around you like love accept and respect
[01:13:43] you like love accept and respect themselves and you'll create a Peak
[01:13:45] themselves and you'll create a Peak Performance environment it is the
[01:13:47] Performance environment it is the starting point to great success and
[01:13:49] starting point to great success and achievement in life so say over and over
[01:13:52] achievement in life so say over and over to yourself I like myself I like myself
[01:13:55] to yourself I like myself I like myself myself I like myself I like
[01:14:00] myself I like myself I like myself session four your subconscious
[01:14:02] myself session four your subconscious Powerhouse in order to unlock your full
[01:14:05] Powerhouse in order to unlock your full potential it's absolutely essential that
[01:14:06] potential it's absolutely essential that you understand the relationship between
[01:14:08] you understand the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious mind
[01:14:11] the conscious and the subconscious mind there know thousands of books have been
[01:14:12] there know thousands of books have been written on this subject there's
[01:14:13] written on this subject there's tremendous complexities there's
[01:14:15] tremendous complexities there's references to the conscious and the
[01:14:16] references to the conscious and the subconscious especially the subconscious
[01:14:18] subconscious especially the subconscious throughout all of human history the
[01:14:20] throughout all of human history the subconscious is often called the
[01:14:22] subconscious is often called the PowerHouse of your being and we're going
[01:14:23] PowerHouse of your being and we're going to talk about how you fect the
[01:14:25] to talk about how you fect the subconscious more as we go through this
[01:14:27] subconscious more as we go through this program but let's start off talking
[01:14:29] program but let's start off talking about the relationship between the two
[01:14:31] about the relationship between the two minds and what you can do to begin
[01:14:33] minds and what you can do to begin controlling and changing the programming
[01:14:36] controlling and changing the programming within the
[01:14:38] within the subconscious the conscious and the
[01:14:40] subconscious the conscious and the subconscious minds are very beautifully
[01:14:43] subconscious minds are very beautifully designed by a master master designer if
[01:14:45] designed by a master master designer if you know what I mean in that they have
[01:14:47] you know what I mean in that they have very separate functions and they work
[01:14:50] very separate functions and they work perfectly in tandem with each other
[01:14:52] perfectly in tandem with each other probably a good way to illustrate it is
[01:14:54] probably a good way to illustrate it is say to say this is is the conscious mind
[01:14:56] say to say this is is the conscious mind and this is the subconscious mind
[01:14:59] and this is the subconscious mind actually the conscious mind does about
[01:15:01] actually the conscious mind does about 10% of your thinking it's responsible
[01:15:04] 10% of your thinking it's responsible for about 10% of your conscious
[01:15:05] for about 10% of your conscious awareness and the subconscious mind is
[01:15:08] awareness and the subconscious mind is at least 90% or more when we talk about
[01:15:10] at least 90% or more when we talk about human potential and unlocking human
[01:15:12] human potential and unlocking human potential we mean unlocking the vast
[01:15:14] potential we mean unlocking the vast capacity or power of the subconscious so
[01:15:17] capacity or power of the subconscious so what does the conscious mind do well the
[01:15:19] what does the conscious mind do well the conscious mind has certain specific
[01:15:20] conscious mind has certain specific functions first of all the conscious
[01:15:22] functions first of all the conscious mind is objective the conscious mind can
[01:15:25] mind is objective the conscious mind can look at the world clearly if you like
[01:15:27] look at the world clearly if you like with Clarity and think about it
[01:15:29] with Clarity and think about it analytically objective by meaning
[01:15:31] analytically objective by meaning without emotion second of all the
[01:15:34] without emotion second of all the objective mind or the sub the conscious
[01:15:36] objective mind or the sub the conscious mind is rational and it is also
[01:15:42] discriminating these are three of the
[01:15:44] discriminating these are three of the qualities in other words it can discern
[01:15:46] qualities in other words it can discern the differences between truth and
[01:15:47] the differences between truth and falsehood it can analyze it is sort of
[01:15:49] falsehood it can analyze it is sort of like the mathematical or unemotional
[01:15:51] like the mathematical or unemotional part of the brain the conscious mind has
[01:15:55] part of the brain the conscious mind has four major functions the first function
[01:15:57] four major functions the first function is that the conscious mind identifies
[01:16:00] is that the conscious mind identifies incoming data now incoming data can come
[01:16:03] incoming data now incoming data can come from a variety of different sources it
[01:16:05] from a variety of different sources it can be thoughts that you have or it can
[01:16:07] can be thoughts that you have or it can be things that are happening to you in
[01:16:09] be things that are happening to you in the external world so let us say you're
[01:16:11] the external world so let us say you're walking across the street this is your
[01:16:13] walking across the street this is your mind you're walking across the street
[01:16:15] mind you're walking across the street and you hear the Roar of an automobile
[01:16:16] and you hear the Roar of an automobile engine your eyes immediately turn to the
[01:16:19] engine your eyes immediately turn to the right to see what the sound is and to
[01:16:21] right to see what the sound is and to identify what is that sound when you see
[01:16:23] identify what is that sound when you see the automobile you identify you attach
[01:16:25] the automobile you identify you attach the sound to the car the second thing
[01:16:28] the sound to the car the second thing that the conscious mind does is it
[01:16:32] that the conscious mind does is it Compares that moving automobile to all
[01:16:34] Compares that moving automobile to all other moving Automobiles of your
[01:16:36] other moving Automobiles of your experience now if you live in a big city
[01:16:38] experience now if you live in a big city like New York when you see a car and you
[01:16:40] like New York when you see a car and you compare that moving automobile with
[01:16:42] compare that moving automobile with other cars you've seen a 100 thousand
[01:16:44] other cars you've seen a 100 thousand maybe a million Cars Moving and your
[01:16:46] maybe a million Cars Moving and your reflexes are very very sharp if you live
[01:16:48] reflexes are very very sharp if you live in a country that doesn't have very many
[01:16:49] in a country that doesn't have very many automobiles chances are when you see a
[01:16:51] automobiles chances are when you see a moving vehicle your reflexes will be
[01:16:53] moving vehicle your reflexes will be very very slow the comparison is done by
[01:16:56] very very slow the comparison is done by if you like making a quick inspection
[01:16:58] if you like making a quick inspection into the subconscious and checking every
[01:17:00] into the subconscious and checking every single previous experience that you've
[01:17:02] single previous experience that you've had with moving cars as that is done as
[01:17:05] had with moving cars as that is done as the comparison is done you
[01:17:07] the comparison is done you instantaneously get a response back as a
[01:17:09] instantaneously get a response back as a matter of fact it is said that the
[01:17:10] matter of fact it is said that the subconscious functions at about 30,000
[01:17:13] subconscious functions at about 30,000 times the speed of the conscious mind
[01:17:16] times the speed of the conscious mind and that you can just have one glance he
[01:17:18] and that you can just have one glance he one noise or think one thought in the
[01:17:21] one noise or think one thought in the conscious mind and you can instantly
[01:17:23] conscious mind and you can instantly trigger a reaction that might take an
[01:17:25] trigger a reaction that might take an enormous amount hours and hours of
[01:17:27] enormous amount hours and hours of evaluation if you were to do it
[01:17:29] evaluation if you were to do it consciously the third thing the third
[01:17:31] consciously the third thing the third function of the conscious mind is that
[01:17:33] function of the conscious mind is that it analyzes once it has a response back
[01:17:37] it analyzes once it has a response back in its comparison it analyzes the
[01:17:39] in its comparison it analyzes the situation you're walking across the
[01:17:41] situation you're walking across the street you hear the sound of the
[01:17:42] street you hear the sound of the automobile engine you turn eyes right
[01:17:44] automobile engine you turn eyes right you see the car moving down at you your
[01:17:46] you see the car moving down at you your comparison tells you that that car is
[01:17:48] comparison tells you that that car is moving at a speed of 50 m hour and it
[01:17:50] moving at a speed of 50 m hour and it will be where you are in 1 second unless
[01:17:52] will be where you are in 1 second unless you move so you now analyze and you say
[01:17:55] you move so you now analyze and you say what do I do should I move or not and if
[01:17:58] what do I do should I move or not and if the answer is yes what you do is you
[01:18:00] the answer is yes what you do is you move and that takes us to the fourth
[01:18:02] move and that takes us to the fourth function of the conscious mind which is
[01:18:04] function of the conscious mind which is to decide the conscious mind decides
[01:18:06] to decide the conscious mind decides what to do after the analysis it says
[01:18:09] what to do after the analysis it says yes or no the conscious mind functions
[01:18:12] yes or no the conscious mind functions like a binary computer it is always
[01:18:14] like a binary computer it is always saying yes or no to incoming information
[01:18:18] saying yes or no to incoming information and the conscious mind can only hold one
[01:18:19] and the conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time now this is really
[01:18:22] thought at a time now this is really amazing as you're going to see this a
[01:18:23] amazing as you're going to see this a really a brilliant structure so you're
[01:18:25] really a brilliant structure so you're walking across the street you hear the
[01:18:26] walking across the street you hear the sound you look to the right you see the
[01:18:28] sound you look to the right you see the car moving the comparison says that that
[01:18:31] car moving the comparison says that that car is moving on you the an analysis of
[01:18:33] car is moving on you the an analysis of the moving car says you've got to get
[01:18:34] the moving car says you've got to get out of the way so you say do I move yes
[01:18:36] out of the way so you say do I move yes or no answer yes do I move forward yes
[01:18:38] or no answer yes do I move forward yes or no answer no do I move backward yes
[01:18:40] or no answer no do I move backward yes or no and as soon as you say yes I move
[01:18:43] or no and as soon as you say yes I move backward and you convey this word yes to
[01:18:46] backward and you convey this word yes to the subconscious mind the subconscious
[01:18:48] the subconscious mind the subconscious mind instantly triggers all the muscles
[01:18:50] mind instantly triggers all the muscles all the nerves all the Senus all the
[01:18:52] all the nerves all the Senus all the tissues to move yourself back out of the
[01:18:54] tissues to move yourself back out of the way you don't have to sit there and
[01:18:55] way you don't have to sit there and think well should I move my right foot
[01:18:57] think well should I move my right foot first should I move my left foot first
[01:18:59] first should I move my left foot first uh all you do is send a signal to the
[01:19:01] uh all you do is send a signal to the conscious mind backed by a charge if you
[01:19:05] conscious mind backed by a charge if you like or a detonation of emotion and the
[01:19:07] like or a detonation of emotion and the stronger the emotion the more
[01:19:09] stronger the emotion the more instantaneously the subconscious
[01:19:10] instantaneously the subconscious responds to your command the
[01:19:12] responds to your command the subconscious is activated by emotion
[01:19:16] subconscious is activated by emotion emotion of fear emotion of Desire the
[01:19:19] emotion of fear emotion of Desire the survival Instinct the love Instinct but
[01:19:22] survival Instinct the love Instinct but it is always an emotion that triggers
[01:19:24] it is always an emotion that triggers the subconscious
[01:19:25] the subconscious okay what are some of the features of
[01:19:27] okay what are some of the features of the subconscious mind the subconscious
[01:19:28] the subconscious mind the subconscious mind is like a massive Data Bank as a
[01:19:31] mind is like a massive Data Bank as a massive Data Bank the role of the
[01:19:33] massive Data Bank the role of the subconscious is to store and retrieve
[01:19:39] data in other words the subconscious
[01:19:41] data in other words the subconscious mind is the subjective mind in that it
[01:19:45] mind is the subjective mind in that it simply is the mind that obeys just as
[01:19:49] simply is the mind that obeys just as the conscious mind
[01:19:52] the conscious mind commands the subconscious mind obeys the
[01:19:54] commands the subconscious mind obeys the sub conscious mind has no thought of its
[01:19:56] sub conscious mind has no thought of its own by the way the conscious mind has no
[01:19:58] own by the way the conscious mind has no memory the subconscious mind is the seat
[01:20:00] memory the subconscious mind is the seat of all memory the conscious mind
[01:20:01] of all memory the conscious mind remember could only hold one thought at
[01:20:02] remember could only hold one thought at a time whereas you can remember millions
[01:20:04] a time whereas you can remember millions of facts the relationship between the
[01:20:07] of facts the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious is the
[01:20:09] conscious and the subconscious is the conscious is like a
[01:20:11] conscious is like a gardener and the subconscious is like a
[01:20:13] gardener and the subconscious is like a garden whatever seeds you plant in your
[01:20:16] garden whatever seeds you plant in your subconscious mind the subconscious mind
[01:20:19] subconscious mind the subconscious mind goes to work to grow in the subconscious
[01:20:22] goes to work to grow in the subconscious mind you have a whole series of
[01:20:25] mind you have a whole series of different programs the self-concept
[01:20:27] different programs the self-concept which contains all the information on
[01:20:30] which contains all the information on all the subjects that are important to
[01:20:31] all the subjects that are important to you and all of your previous experiences
[01:20:34] you and all of your previous experiences and responses to those situations so
[01:20:36] and responses to those situations so that if you have a new situation similar
[01:20:38] that if you have a new situation similar to it one of the roles of the
[01:20:39] to it one of the roles of the subconscious is to keep your behaviors
[01:20:43] subconscious is to keep your behaviors consistent with your previous behaviors
[01:20:45] consistent with your previous behaviors so that if you've always been fearful in
[01:20:46] so that if you've always been fearful in a situation you see the situation you'll
[01:20:48] a situation you see the situation you'll instantaneously be fearful without
[01:20:50] instantaneously be fearful without thought if you're in a situation that
[01:20:52] thought if you're in a situation that you don't know anything about the
[01:20:53] you don't know anything about the natural tendency is for you to be
[01:20:54] natural tendency is for you to be neither fearful nor unfearful because
[01:20:57] neither fearful nor unfearful because you don't know enough until you build up
[01:20:59] you don't know enough until you build up an experience bank now this brings us to
[01:21:01] an experience bank now this brings us to three critical laws three of the most
[01:21:03] three critical laws three of the most important mental laws that we talked
[01:21:04] important mental laws that we talked about remember we talked about how your
[01:21:06] about remember we talked about how your whole life is determined by mental laws
[01:21:08] whole life is determined by mental laws the the first of these three mental laws
[01:21:10] the the first of these three mental laws is the law of subconscious
[01:21:12] is the law of subconscious activity the law of subconscious
[01:21:15] activity the law of subconscious activity
[01:21:17] activity says that whatever you plant into your
[01:21:20] says that whatever you plant into your subconscious mind it immediately goes to
[01:21:22] subconscious mind it immediately goes to work to bring into your reality and your
[01:21:24] work to bring into your reality and your subconscious mind makes all your words
[01:21:27] subconscious mind makes all your words and actions it makes all your words and
[01:21:32] and actions it makes all your words and actions fit a pattern consistent with
[01:21:35] actions fit a pattern consistent with your
[01:21:39] self-concept in other words it keeps all
[01:21:41] self-concept in other words it keeps all your words and actions in a pattern fit
[01:21:44] your words and actions in a pattern fit a pattern consistent with your
[01:21:45] a pattern consistent with your self-concept or consistent with all
[01:21:47] self-concept or consistent with all previous
[01:21:49] previous information that you have put in also it
[01:21:52] information that you have put in also it keeps your words and actions consistent
[01:21:54] keeps your words and actions consistent with with your dominant
[01:21:56] with with your dominant goals which eventually if you like
[01:21:58] goals which eventually if you like become part of your self-concept so that
[01:22:00] become part of your self-concept so that means that your body language your
[01:22:02] means that your body language your attitude your level of energy your level
[01:22:04] attitude your level of energy your level of self-confidence the way you get along
[01:22:05] of self-confidence the way you get along with other people your social skills
[01:22:08] with other people your social skills everything is consistent with your
[01:22:10] everything is consistent with your self-concept the subconscious simply
[01:22:12] self-concept the subconscious simply without you thinking about it at all
[01:22:14] without you thinking about it at all keeps everything consistent with it so
[01:22:16] keeps everything consistent with it so when you feel really good when your
[01:22:17] when you feel really good when your self-concept is positive you have a
[01:22:19] self-concept is positive you have a bounce in your step your body language
[01:22:21] bounce in your step your body language is confidence it's courage courageous
[01:22:23] is confidence it's courage courageous it's outgoing and so on and when you
[01:22:25] it's outgoing and so on and when you feel negative your self-concept is
[01:22:26] feel negative your self-concept is negative and you will act in the same
[01:22:28] negative and you will act in the same manner which brings us to our second law
[01:22:30] manner which brings us to our second law the second law is the law of
[01:22:33] the second law is the law of concentration actually this is the ninth
[01:22:35] concentration actually this is the ninth law that we've talked about since we
[01:22:36] law that we've talked about since we began the law of concentration is very
[01:22:40] began the law of concentration is very very very important it's it's so
[01:22:42] very very important it's it's so important as a matter fact each of these
[01:22:44] important as a matter fact each of these laws is so important in their place as
[01:22:46] laws is so important in their place as to be enough in themselves to control
[01:22:49] to be enough in themselves to control your destiny the law of concentration
[01:22:51] your destiny the law of concentration simply says this it says that whatever
[01:22:53] simply says this it says that whatever you dwell upon on grows whatever you
[01:22:56] you dwell upon on grows whatever you dwell upon
[01:22:58] dwell upon grows whatever you think about over and
[01:23:01] grows whatever you think about over and over
[01:23:02] over again grows in your
[01:23:05] again grows in your reality it's very simple I used to do a
[01:23:07] reality it's very simple I used to do a course on constru on creative thinking
[01:23:09] course on constru on creative thinking and the way that you explain it is you
[01:23:11] and the way that you explain it is you imagine that this is the total mental
[01:23:14] imagine that this is the total mental capacity that you have and when you send
[01:23:18] capacity that you have and when you send a thought into this it takes up this
[01:23:21] a thought into this it takes up this amount of space and all the rest of the
[01:23:22] amount of space and all the rest of the mental capacity is used to
[01:23:25] mental capacity is used to this is your thoughts is used to think
[01:23:27] this is your thoughts is used to think about all the other things in your mind
[01:23:29] about all the other things in your mind but the more you think from the
[01:23:30] but the more you think from the conscious down to the subconscious the
[01:23:32] conscious down to the subconscious the more of your mental capacity is
[01:23:35] more of your mental capacity is committed to thinking about this one
[01:23:38] committed to thinking about this one idea until you reach a point where if
[01:23:41] idea until you reach a point where if you dwell upon something consistently
[01:23:43] you dwell upon something consistently you reach a point where you think of
[01:23:44] you reach a point where you think of nothing else and as you think of nothing
[01:23:46] nothing else and as you think of nothing else you begin to set up this vibratory
[01:23:49] else you begin to set up this vibratory field the subconscious mind is the core
[01:23:52] field the subconscious mind is the core of the Law of Attraction and the the law
[01:23:54] of the Law of Attraction and the the law of vibration and the law of radiation
[01:23:57] of vibration and the law of radiation you begin to set up this vibratory field
[01:24:00] you begin to set up this vibratory field that sends out thought energy from you
[01:24:02] that sends out thought energy from you consistent with what you are thinking
[01:24:04] consistent with what you are thinking about and draws back into your life
[01:24:06] about and draws back into your life people and circumstances in harmony with
[01:24:08] people and circumstances in harmony with those thoughts so you just have to look
[01:24:10] those thoughts so you just have to look around you and you have to say what are
[01:24:12] around you and you have to say what are you thinking about all the time what are
[01:24:13] you thinking about all the time what are you dwelling on all the time and the
[01:24:16] you dwelling on all the time and the basic rule with regard to the law of
[01:24:17] basic rule with regard to the law of concentration is to dwell upon think
[01:24:20] concentration is to dwell upon think about what you want to happen not about
[01:24:24] about what you want to happen not about what you fear and this brings us to the
[01:24:26] what you fear and this brings us to the third law in this series and that is the
[01:24:29] third law in this series and that is the law of
[01:24:31] law of substitution now the law of substitution
[01:24:33] substitution now the law of substitution I've had many of my graduates tell me
[01:24:35] I've had many of my graduates tell me this has been the most important law
[01:24:37] this has been the most important law they've ever learned it's a very simple
[01:24:39] they've ever learned it's a very simple law and it's based on a fact that the
[01:24:41] law and it's based on a fact that the conscious mind can only hold one thought
[01:24:43] conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time positive or negative if you
[01:24:47] at a time positive or negative if you want to get rid of a negative thought
[01:24:50] want to get rid of a negative thought the mind is not like a vacuum it doesn't
[01:24:52] the mind is not like a vacuum it doesn't stay empty if you want to get rid of a
[01:24:54] stay empty if you want to get rid of a negative thought you have to knock it
[01:24:56] negative thought you have to knock it out if you like with a positive thought
[01:24:58] out if you like with a positive thought is that you can replace one thought with
[01:25:01] is that you can replace one thought with another you can replace one thought with
[01:25:07] another and if you do that consistently
[01:25:11] another and if you do that consistently and if you replace any negative thought
[01:25:14] and if you replace any negative thought any fear thought any anxiety thought any
[01:25:16] any fear thought any anxiety thought any self-limiting thought any negative
[01:25:18] self-limiting thought any negative expectations anything that's holding you
[01:25:20] expectations anything that's holding you back any fear of failure lack poverty
[01:25:22] back any fear of failure lack poverty rejection loss or anything else if you
[01:25:25] rejection loss or anything else if you replace it with a desire thought and
[01:25:26] replace it with a desire thought and this is the key fear versus desire if
[01:25:30] this is the key fear versus desire if you keep your mind on what you want and
[01:25:32] you keep your mind on what you want and keep it off of what you don't want as
[01:25:34] keep it off of what you don't want as you dwell on your desire your fears
[01:25:38] you dwell on your desire your fears diminish and get smaller as you think
[01:25:41] diminish and get smaller as you think about what you want eventually because
[01:25:44] about what you want eventually because of the law of substitution you have less
[01:25:46] of the law of substitution you have less and less time less and less emotion to
[01:25:48] and less time less and less emotion to think about what you don't want why is
[01:25:51] think about what you don't want why is it that people are successful it's
[01:25:53] it that people are successful it's simply this in the Bible it says from
[01:25:56] simply this in the Bible it says from them that to them that hath shall more
[01:25:58] them that to them that hath shall more be given and from him who hath not even
[01:26:00] be given and from him who hath not even that which he hath shall be taken away
[01:26:02] that which he hath shall be taken away what it means is simply this the rich
[01:26:04] what it means is simply this the rich get richer the poor get poorer why it's
[01:26:06] get richer the poor get poorer why it's because the rich think about wealth and
[01:26:09] because the rich think about wealth and affluence all the time and what do the
[01:26:12] affluence all the time and what do the poor think about the poor think about
[01:26:13] poor think about the poor think about lack loss and limitation risk danger
[01:26:17] lack loss and limitation risk danger fear failure all the time so if you want
[01:26:20] fear failure all the time so if you want to unlock your potential if you want to
[01:26:22] to unlock your potential if you want to go straight to the Stars you have to use
[01:26:24] go straight to the Stars you have to use the law of substitution to keep your
[01:26:26] the law of substitution to keep your mind on what you want use the law of
[01:26:29] mind on what you want use the law of concentration to dwell continually on
[01:26:31] concentration to dwell continually on the results you desire be solution
[01:26:34] the results you desire be solution centered rather than problem centered be
[01:26:36] centered rather than problem centered be goal centered rather than law centered
[01:26:38] goal centered rather than law centered and the law of subconscious activity
[01:26:40] and the law of subconscious activity will begin to adjust your words your
[01:26:42] will begin to adjust your words your actions your feelings your emotions and
[01:26:44] actions your feelings your emotions and everything to the point where you will
[01:26:46] everything to the point where you will draw into your life the people in
[01:26:48] draw into your life the people in circumstances that will harmonize with
[01:26:49] circumstances that will harmonize with it now what's the most powerful thing
[01:26:51] it now what's the most powerful thing you can do it's very simply this you is
[01:26:54] you can do it's very simply this you is Success begins with taking purposeful
[01:26:57] Success begins with taking purposeful systematic control of the cons content
[01:27:01] systematic control of the cons content of your conscious mind purposeful
[01:27:04] of your conscious mind purposeful systematic control of the content of
[01:27:06] systematic control of the content of your conscious mind everything comes
[01:27:08] your conscious mind everything comes back to the law of control as we talked
[01:27:10] back to the law of control as we talked about at the very beginning purposeful
[01:27:13] about at the very beginning purposeful systematic control is best taken by
[01:27:15] systematic control is best taken by saying over and over again I like myself
[01:27:18] saying over and over again I like myself I like myself I like myself I like
[01:27:21] I like myself I like myself I like myself when you repeat I like myself or
[01:27:23] myself when you repeat I like myself or better I love myself over and over again
[01:27:26] better I love myself over and over again you drive this thought into the
[01:27:28] you drive this thought into the subconscious mind more and more you
[01:27:30] subconscious mind more and more you think of yourself in positive terms more
[01:27:33] think of yourself in positive terms more and more you push out thoughts of
[01:27:34] and more you push out thoughts of inferiority negativity fear failure
[01:27:37] inferiority negativity fear failure rejection and so on more and more you
[01:27:40] rejection and so on more and more you reprogram all previous data in your
[01:27:42] reprogram all previous data in your subconscious computer so that it is
[01:27:45] subconscious computer so that it is consistent with high self-esteem
[01:27:47] consistent with high self-esteem personal Effectiveness and excellent
[01:27:49] personal Effectiveness and excellent personal performance is that the key to
[01:27:52] personal performance is that the key to your success in life is to use the power
[01:27:54] your success in life is to use the power of your subconscious mind to program it
[01:27:57] of your subconscious mind to program it with thoughts words pictures ideas and
[01:27:59] with thoughts words pictures ideas and feelings consistent with high
[01:28:01] feelings consistent with high performance and keep your mind on what
[01:28:03] performance and keep your mind on what you desire and off of what you fear
[01:28:05] you desire and off of what you fear remember the only thing in the world you
[01:28:06] remember the only thing in the world you can control is your thinking the only
[01:28:09] can control is your thinking the only thing in the world you can control are
[01:28:11] thing in the world you can control are your conscious thoughts and if you will
[01:28:12] your conscious thoughts and if you will do that everything else will become
[01:28:14] do that everything else will become possible for you
[01:28:26] [Music]
[01:28:30] [Applause]
[01:28:36] Brian Tracy
[01:28:38] Brian Tracy [Music]
[01:28:51] presenta session five taking charge of
[01:28:54] presenta session five taking charge of your life we said in the first series of
[01:28:57] your life we said in the first series of modules that the starting point of all
[01:28:58] modules that the starting point of all Peak Performance is self-esteem it's how
[01:29:01] Peak Performance is self-esteem it's how much you like yourself how much you love
[01:29:03] much you like yourself how much you love yourself how much you accept yourself as
[01:29:05] yourself how much you accept yourself as a valuable and worthwhile human being
[01:29:08] a valuable and worthwhile human being the second part of Peak Performance I
[01:29:10] the second part of Peak Performance I think the two key requirements the
[01:29:11] think the two key requirements the second part is self responsibility
[01:29:14] second part is self responsibility self-esteem plus self- responsibility
[01:29:16] self-esteem plus self- responsibility each reinforcing themselves and what
[01:29:18] each reinforcing themselves and what self- responsibility says simply is that
[01:29:20] self- responsibility says simply is that you are the architect of your own
[01:29:22] you are the architect of your own destiny that you are the master of your
[01:29:24] destiny that you are the master of your own fate that you are totally
[01:29:27] own fate that you are totally self-responsible that everything that
[01:29:29] self-responsible that everything that you are or ever will be is up to you and
[01:29:32] you are or ever will be is up to you and you alone now you can believe in a
[01:29:34] you alone now you can believe in a higher power as I do and you can say
[01:29:36] higher power as I do and you can say that the higher power is responsible but
[01:29:39] that the higher power is responsible but God helps those who help themselves and
[01:29:41] God helps those who help themselves and for this Earthly life you're in charge
[01:29:43] for this Earthly life you're in charge of your life you're in charge of what
[01:29:44] of your life you're in charge of what happens to you if you don't like the way
[01:29:46] happens to you if you don't like the way things are going it's up to you to
[01:29:47] things are going it's up to you to change it but there's no way that you
[01:29:49] change it but there's no way that you can ever give away responsibility and
[01:29:51] can ever give away responsibility and this whole subject of responsibility is
[01:29:53] this whole subject of responsibility is one that is very controversial and as
[01:29:55] one that is very controversial and as you see you will see as we talk in this
[01:29:57] you see you will see as we talk in this session it's one that you have to
[01:29:59] session it's one that you have to understand with Crystal Clarity if you
[01:30:01] understand with Crystal Clarity if you want to achieve your full potential as a
[01:30:02] want to achieve your full potential as a human being now we go over here one of
[01:30:06] human being now we go over here one of the things that we know is we start off
[01:30:08] the things that we know is we start off as infants if you like when we're born
[01:30:10] as infants if you like when we're born I'll just write I for infant we start
[01:30:12] I'll just write I for infant we start off as infants and as we grow to become
[01:30:15] off as infants and as we grow to become adults at the age of 18
[01:30:18] adults at the age of 18 years we start off with zero
[01:30:21] years we start off with zero responsibility and as we grow toward
[01:30:23] responsibility and as we grow toward becoming adults we gradually we gain
[01:30:27] becoming adults we gradually we gain responsibility more and more until by
[01:30:29] responsibility more and more until by the time we become adults at the age of
[01:30:31] the time we become adults at the age of 18 years if our parents have brought us
[01:30:33] 18 years if our parents have brought us up properly if they have prepared us if
[01:30:35] up properly if they have prepared us if they've encouraged us to be self-reliant
[01:30:37] they've encouraged us to be self-reliant if they've encouraged us to make our own
[01:30:39] if they've encouraged us to make our own decisions and think for ourselves and
[01:30:41] decisions and think for ourselves and plan our own lives at the age of 18
[01:30:43] plan our own lives at the age of 18 years legally speaking psychologically
[01:30:45] years legally speaking psychologically morally mentally physically and
[01:30:47] morally mentally physically and everything else you are ready to take
[01:30:49] everything else you are ready to take over your own life now if your parents
[01:30:52] over your own life now if your parents have not prepared you as an adult for
[01:30:54] have not prepared you as an adult for total responsibility it doesn't matter
[01:30:57] total responsibility it doesn't matter at the age of 18 and from 18 onward you
[01:31:00] at the age of 18 and from 18 onward you are 100% responsible for the rest of
[01:31:03] are 100% responsible for the rest of your life you can never absolve yourself
[01:31:04] your life you can never absolve yourself of responsibility for the rest of your
[01:31:06] of responsibility for the rest of your life everything that happens to you is
[01:31:08] life everything that happens to you is up to you totally and without
[01:31:10] up to you totally and without forgiveness the the slogan of the truly
[01:31:13] forgiveness the the slogan of the truly responsible person is if it's to be if
[01:31:16] responsible person is if it's to be if it's to be it's up to
[01:31:19] it's to be it's up to me which means as Henry Ford
[01:31:22] me which means as Henry Ford said never complain never explain never
[01:31:26] said never complain never explain never complain never explain what that means
[01:31:29] complain never explain what that means is if you don't like the way things
[01:31:31] is if you don't like the way things are then it's up to you to change them
[01:31:33] are then it's up to you to change them and if you're not willing to take steps
[01:31:35] and if you're not willing to take steps to change them then don't complain about
[01:31:37] to change them then don't complain about them just simply accept them men who are
[01:31:39] them just simply accept them men who are men and women who are women don't
[01:31:41] men and women who are women don't complain about the difficulties of Life
[01:31:43] complain about the difficulties of Life they just accept them as the
[01:31:44] they just accept them as the difficulties of life and they either do
[01:31:46] difficulties of life and they either do something about them or they don't say
[01:31:48] something about them or they don't say anything so if it's to be it's up to me
[01:31:50] anything so if it's to be it's up to me if it's to be it's up to you this is one
[01:31:52] if it's to be it's up to you this is one of the hardest things to understand
[01:31:54] of the hardest things to understand because when we're child children at
[01:31:55] because when we're child children at this stage we're totally
[01:31:57] this stage we're totally dependent and being totally dependent we
[01:32:01] dependent and being totally dependent we develop if you like a habit pattern or a
[01:32:03] develop if you like a habit pattern or a conditioned response and we look for the
[01:32:05] conditioned response and we look for the reason that things happen outside of
[01:32:07] reason that things happen outside of ourselves as we become adults if we're
[01:32:10] ourselves as we become adults if we're not careful we will still retain this
[01:32:13] not careful we will still retain this dependency and we will long for the what
[01:32:15] dependency and we will long for the what is called the pseudo security of
[01:32:17] is called the pseudo security of childhood that time in childhood when
[01:32:20] childhood that time in childhood when someone took care of us that time in
[01:32:22] someone took care of us that time in childhood when we were fed and clothed
[01:32:24] childhood when we were fed and clothed and our our our home was taken care of
[01:32:26] and our our our home was taken care of and our school and everything we didn't
[01:32:28] and our school and everything we didn't have to worry about a thing because they
[01:32:30] have to worry about a thing because they took care of it as we grow up we go out
[01:32:32] took care of it as we grow up we go out to school and the people at school they
[01:32:35] to school and the people at school they take care of things and if we're not
[01:32:36] take care of things and if we're not careful we get into the work world and
[01:32:37] careful we get into the work world and then again it's they it's always someone
[01:32:40] then again it's they it's always someone else outside of oursel who is ultimately
[01:32:43] else outside of oursel who is ultimately responsible for ourselves one of the
[01:32:44] responsible for ourselves one of the things which I'll talk about later is
[01:32:46] things which I'll talk about later is the whole idea of self-development most
[01:32:48] the whole idea of self-development most people because they've been taking all
[01:32:49] people because they've been taking all their education in the public school
[01:32:51] their education in the public school system think that it's up to them when
[01:32:54] system think that it's up to them when they're adults to continue their
[01:32:55] they're adults to continue their education if nobody comes along to
[01:32:57] education if nobody comes along to continue it they just simply don't do it
[01:32:59] continue it they just simply don't do it now there's another point and that's the
[01:33:01] now there's another point and that's the difference between maturity and
[01:33:03] difference between maturity and immaturity and here's a very simple
[01:33:05] immaturity and here's a very simple example imagine that this is the course
[01:33:07] example imagine that this is the course of Life Again from infancy to adulthood
[01:33:10] of Life Again from infancy to adulthood and everybody reaches the stage sooner
[01:33:12] and everybody reaches the stage sooner or later where they come to this great
[01:33:14] or later where they come to this great cliff and this great canyon and this is
[01:33:17] cliff and this great canyon and this is the side of immaturity this is the site
[01:33:19] the side of immaturity this is the site of childhood this is the side where we
[01:33:21] of childhood this is the side where we are dependent upon others and where we
[01:33:23] are dependent upon others and where we look to others for our answers and our
[01:33:24] look to others for our answers and our Solutions we look outside of ourselves
[01:33:27] Solutions we look outside of ourselves at this point we come to the edge of
[01:33:28] at this point we come to the edge of this Canyon at the edge of this Canyon
[01:33:31] this Canyon at the edge of this Canyon we look across into the land of maturity
[01:33:33] we look across into the land of maturity the land of adulthood and each one of us
[01:33:36] the land of adulthood and each one of us has to make a decision to
[01:33:38] has to make a decision to jump in one great leap from being a
[01:33:41] jump in one great leap from being a child to being an adult now sometimes
[01:33:43] child to being an adult now sometimes this is forced on us sometimes it
[01:33:45] this is forced on us sometimes it happens in an evolutionary way but
[01:33:47] happens in an evolutionary way but sooner or later we have to make the
[01:33:48] sooner or later we have to make the decision to accept the fact that we're
[01:33:51] decision to accept the fact that we're in charge of our own lives we The
[01:33:52] in charge of our own lives we The Architects of our own destiny
[01:33:54] Architects of our own destiny and then get on with it what do most
[01:33:57] and then get on with it what do most people do unfortunately what most people
[01:33:59] people do unfortunately what most people do is they turn back at this point they
[01:34:02] do is they turn back at this point they slip into marriages where somebody will
[01:34:04] slip into marriages where somebody will take care of them they take jobs where
[01:34:06] take care of them they take jobs where they expect their bosses to take care of
[01:34:07] they expect their bosses to take care of them and so on or they just simply avoid
[01:34:10] them and so on or they just simply avoid responsibility by looking for the cause
[01:34:12] responsibility by looking for the cause of everything that happens to them in
[01:34:13] of everything that happens to them in other people and other circumstances
[01:34:15] other people and other circumstances it's their bills it's their health it's
[01:34:17] it's their bills it's their health it's the way their parents treated them and
[01:34:18] the way their parents treated them and so on they're not really
[01:34:20] so on they're not really responsible on the other hand sometimes
[01:34:22] responsible on the other hand sometimes they decide to take a little
[01:34:23] they decide to take a little responsibility but not too much which is
[01:34:24] responsibility but not too much which is the equivalent of trying to leap over a
[01:34:26] the equivalent of trying to leap over a canyon in two
[01:34:28] canyon in two jumps and where the great vast majority
[01:34:30] jumps and where the great vast majority of people end up unfortunately is in the
[01:34:32] of people end up unfortunately is in the valley and this is the valley of excuses
[01:34:36] valley and this is the valley of excuses the great majority of people spend their
[01:34:37] the great majority of people spend their whole life life in the valley of excuses
[01:34:40] whole life life in the valley of excuses making excuses rather than making
[01:34:43] making excuses rather than making progress there's an old saying that says
[01:34:45] progress there's an old saying that says the disease of
[01:34:47] the disease of excusitis which is the habit of making
[01:34:49] excusitis which is the habit of making excuses to to excuse away our failures
[01:34:52] excuses to to excuse away our failures and our inadequacy is fatal to success
[01:34:55] and our inadequacy is fatal to success the habit of making excuses is fatal to
[01:34:58] the habit of making excuses is fatal to your success so the question you have to
[01:35:00] your success so the question you have to ask yourself when we talk about
[01:35:01] ask yourself when we talk about responsibility is what excuses do you
[01:35:04] responsibility is what excuses do you use not to move ahead there was an a
[01:35:07] use not to move ahead there was an a very famous Story by Tolstoy where tolto
[01:35:10] very famous Story by Tolstoy where tolto and his brothers would play and they had
[01:35:11] and his brothers would play and they had a game and the game was that out in the
[01:35:14] a game and the game was that out in the garden there would be a box and in the
[01:35:17] garden there would be a box and in the Box was the answer to all the riddles of
[01:35:19] Box was the answer to all the riddles of life and you could find the box under a
[01:35:21] life and you could find the box under a certain Bush as long as you didn't think
[01:35:23] certain Bush as long as you didn't think about a big white rabbit as long as you
[01:35:26] about a big white rabbit as long as you kept your mind clear of that big white
[01:35:28] kept your mind clear of that big white rabbit and you didn't think about the
[01:35:29] rabbit and you didn't think about the rabbit you could find the answer to all
[01:35:31] rabbit you could find the answer to all the mysteries of life well of course
[01:35:33] the mysteries of life well of course nobody ever found the box or nobody ever
[01:35:35] nobody ever found the box or nobody ever found the answer to the mysteries of
[01:35:37] found the answer to the mysteries of life because they couldn't stop thinking
[01:35:39] life because they couldn't stop thinking of the Big White Rabbit the question you
[01:35:41] of the Big White Rabbit the question you have to ask yourself is what is your big
[01:35:43] have to ask yourself is what is your big white rabbit is what is it that you
[01:35:45] white rabbit is what is it that you think of what is the excuse that looms
[01:35:46] think of what is the excuse that looms into your mind whenever you think of
[01:35:49] into your mind whenever you think of something that you could do or have or
[01:35:50] something that you could do or have or be a new job a new challenge an
[01:35:52] be a new job a new challenge an opportunity changing something in your
[01:35:53] opportunity changing something in your life that you're not happy with what is
[01:35:55] life that you're not happy with what is the White Rabbit what is the excuse that
[01:35:57] the White Rabbit what is the excuse that pops into your mind you say well I could
[01:35:59] pops into your mind you say well I could I can't do that because or another thing
[01:36:01] I can't do that because or another thing is yes but I'd like to but there's
[01:36:04] is yes but I'd like to but there's always a reason I'm too young I'm too
[01:36:06] always a reason I'm too young I'm too old I'm Too Tall I'm too short I don't
[01:36:08] old I'm Too Tall I'm too short I don't have enough education I've got too much
[01:36:10] have enough education I've got too much education it's the wrong time it's the
[01:36:13] education it's the wrong time it's the wrong place and so on what is your White
[01:36:15] wrong place and so on what is your White Rabbit what is it that sticks in the
[01:36:17] Rabbit what is it that sticks in the back of your mind that causes you to
[01:36:19] back of your mind that causes you to make excuses that causes you to hang
[01:36:22] make excuses that causes you to hang back from taking respons ibility that
[01:36:24] back from taking respons ibility that keeps you in the land of childhood
[01:36:26] keeps you in the land of childhood immaturity and irresponsibility very
[01:36:29] immaturity and irresponsibility very very important question to ask now when
[01:36:31] very important question to ask now when we talk about responsibility we talk
[01:36:33] we talk about responsibility we talk about something else it's simply this is
[01:36:36] about something else it's simply this is that the acceptance of responsibility is
[01:36:38] that the acceptance of responsibility is not optional many of us like to think
[01:36:40] not optional many of us like to think that well you know I'll take a little
[01:36:41] that well you know I'll take a little responsibility here I'll take a little
[01:36:43] responsibility here I'll take a little responsibility there no the acceptance
[01:36:45] responsibility there no the acceptance of responsibility is not optional from
[01:36:47] of responsibility is not optional from the time you become 18 years
[01:36:50] the time you become 18 years old you are 100% responsible you have no
[01:36:54] old you are 100% responsible you have no choice in the matter as a matter of fact
[01:36:55] choice in the matter as a matter of fact there are very few things in life over
[01:36:57] there are very few things in life over which you have no choice but you have no
[01:36:58] which you have no choice but you have no choice in this it is
[01:37:01] choice in this it is mandatory it is mandatory if you wish to
[01:37:04] mandatory it is mandatory if you wish to fulfill your potential if you wish to
[01:37:06] fulfill your potential if you wish to become everything you're capable of
[01:37:07] become everything you're capable of becoming you must take full
[01:37:09] becoming you must take full responsibility for bringing about the
[01:37:12] responsibility for bringing about the circumstances for making the changes for
[01:37:14] circumstances for making the changes for making the hard decisions necessary if
[01:37:16] making the hard decisions necessary if you take the word responsibility you
[01:37:18] you take the word responsibility you know you can break it into two words
[01:37:21] know you can break it into two words response and ability
[01:37:24] response and ability and one of the things which I've learned
[01:37:25] and one of the things which I've learned as I've studied history is that all of
[01:37:28] as I've studied history is that all of life is a series of challenges
[01:37:30] life is a series of challenges difficulties problems setbacks obstacles
[01:37:33] difficulties problems setbacks obstacles to face and the difference between the
[01:37:35] to face and the difference between the winners and losers in life is not the
[01:37:38] winners and losers in life is not the difference in problems because everybody
[01:37:39] difference in problems because everybody has problems and most people and many
[01:37:42] has problems and most people and many people have more and bigger problems
[01:37:44] people have more and bigger problems than you and I could ever dream of the
[01:37:46] than you and I could ever dream of the difference in life the difference
[01:37:47] difference in life the difference between winners and losers is the
[01:37:49] between winners and losers is the responses to the
[01:37:51] responses to the problems many years ago a man named
[01:37:53] problems many years ago a man named oswal Spangler wrote a book in which he
[01:37:55] oswal Spangler wrote a book in which he talked about what he called The
[01:37:56] talked about what he called The Challenge response Theory the challenge
[01:37:59] Challenge response Theory the challenge response Theory simply said that
[01:38:01] response Theory simply said that civilizations grow and decline to the
[01:38:03] civilizations grow and decline to the degree to which they meet challenges
[01:38:06] degree to which they meet challenges effectively and respond effectively a
[01:38:08] effectively and respond effectively a small Society starts out small and
[01:38:11] small Society starts out small and almost invariably it will be challenged
[01:38:13] almost invariably it will be challenged by either an external enemy or nature or
[01:38:15] by either an external enemy or nature or weather or something else if the society
[01:38:18] weather or something else if the society responds in a positive and constructive
[01:38:20] responds in a positive and constructive way to the challenge the society grows
[01:38:23] way to the challenge the society grows as it grows it triggers additional
[01:38:25] as it grows it triggers additional challenges difficulties if it responds
[01:38:28] challenges difficulties if it responds to them effectively it grows some more
[01:38:30] to them effectively it grows some more oswal Spangler studied the 21 great
[01:38:32] oswal Spangler studied the 21 great empires of human civilization and found
[01:38:34] empires of human civilization and found that every single one followed this
[01:38:35] that every single one followed this cycle as long as the civilization
[01:38:38] cycle as long as the civilization continued to rise to the challenge it
[01:38:41] continued to rise to the challenge it continued to grow stronger and stronger
[01:38:43] continued to grow stronger and stronger the reason why this analogy is so
[01:38:44] the reason why this analogy is so important is that we as human beings are
[01:38:47] important is that we as human beings are exactly the same we grow to the degree
[01:38:50] exactly the same we grow to the degree to which we respond effectively to the
[01:38:53] to which we respond effectively to the degree to which we rise to the
[01:38:54] degree to which we rise to the challenges without making excuses that
[01:38:57] challenges without making excuses that life throws at us and when we look at
[01:38:59] life throws at us and when we look at the great men and women of History
[01:39:00] the great men and women of History whether it's Albert schwier or Winston
[01:39:02] whether it's Albert schwier or Winston Churchill or George Washington or
[01:39:04] Churchill or George Washington or Abraham Lincoln or Franklin Del
[01:39:06] Abraham Lincoln or Franklin Del Roosevelt we look at those great people
[01:39:08] Roosevelt we look at those great people we find that they were always people
[01:39:09] we find that they were always people that Rose to the challenges of the
[01:39:11] that Rose to the challenges of the time if ever you wish to be capable of
[01:39:15] time if ever you wish to be capable of rising to Great challenges what you have
[01:39:17] rising to Great challenges what you have to do is you have to start off on a
[01:39:19] to do is you have to start off on a daily basis rising to small challenges
[01:39:22] daily basis rising to small challenges which means no matter what happens
[01:39:23] which means no matter what happens you accept the challenge you accept the
[01:39:25] you accept the challenge you accept the responsibility you refuse to make
[01:39:27] responsibility you refuse to make excuses and you go forward now there's
[01:39:30] excuses and you go forward now there's three areas in life in our Modern Life
[01:39:33] three areas in life in our Modern Life which you must be very very aware of the
[01:39:35] which you must be very very aware of the first area is the political area if you
[01:39:38] first area is the political area if you look around you you will find that there
[01:39:39] look around you you will find that there is a great drive toward the government
[01:39:42] is a great drive toward the government doing it the government being
[01:39:43] doing it the government being responsible make the government
[01:39:45] responsible make the government responsible what people are doing is
[01:39:47] responsible what people are doing is they want the government to be their
[01:39:49] they want the government to be their parent they want the government to
[01:39:51] parent they want the government to protect them and take care of them but
[01:39:53] protect them and take care of them but is the more you vote for politicians to
[01:39:55] is the more you vote for politicians to do things for you the more you give
[01:39:58] do things for you the more you give politicians control you see you can
[01:40:01] politicians control you see you can never give away responsibility you can
[01:40:02] never give away responsibility you can only give away control how do you give
[01:40:04] only give away control how do you give away control you give away control in
[01:40:06] away control you give away control in terms of voting for them to spend more
[01:40:08] terms of voting for them to spend more of your money regulate more of your
[01:40:10] of your money regulate more of your businesses tax away more of your income
[01:40:12] businesses tax away more of your income and so on the second area so let me just
[01:40:15] and so on the second area so let me just finish this the merge towards statism
[01:40:17] finish this the merge towards statism collectivism socialism large government
[01:40:19] collectivism socialism large government and so on is all aimed at somehow making
[01:40:22] and so on is all aimed at somehow making the government that faceless bunch of
[01:40:24] the government that faceless bunch of bureaucrats responsible for the
[01:40:26] bureaucrats responsible for the challenges of our own lives now the
[01:40:28] challenges of our own lives now the second area where this is prevalent is
[01:40:30] second area where this is prevalent is in the criminal justice
[01:40:34] system in the criminal justice system
[01:40:37] system in the criminal justice system you will find that the one
[01:40:38] you will find that the one characteristic of all criminals is that
[01:40:41] characteristic of all criminals is that they refused to accept responsibility
[01:40:42] they refused to accept responsibility for their crime it was always someone
[01:40:44] for their crime it was always someone else or something else it was always
[01:40:46] else or something else it was always their childhood or the background or the
[01:40:48] their childhood or the background or the other guys that the way that people get
[01:40:50] other guys that the way that people get out of the criminal justice system is
[01:40:51] out of the criminal justice system is they accept responsibility for the
[01:40:53] they accept responsibility for the crimes they've committed and they say I
[01:40:55] crimes they've committed and they say I did this nobody made me do it I am
[01:40:58] did this nobody made me do it I am responsible and they stop going back to
[01:41:01] responsible and they stop going back to jail the third area is in medicine today
[01:41:04] jail the third area is in medicine today we know that almost all of our problems
[01:41:07] we know that almost all of our problems in medicine are psychological in origin
[01:41:10] in medicine are psychological in origin or we inflict things on ourselves the
[01:41:12] or we inflict things on ourselves the average American or Canadian is about 10
[01:41:14] average American or Canadian is about 10 to 20 pounds overweight in medicine we
[01:41:17] to 20 pounds overweight in medicine we expect the doctor to be responsible just
[01:41:20] expect the doctor to be responsible just imagine how we would take what kind of
[01:41:21] imagine how we would take what kind of care you would take of yourself if you
[01:41:23] care you would take of yourself if you run a desert island for life with no
[01:41:25] run a desert island for life with no doctors no nurses no hospitals no
[01:41:26] doctors no nurses no hospitals no medicine no nothing where you had
[01:41:28] medicine no nothing where you had nothing to fall back on very very
[01:41:30] nothing to fall back on very very important point so all around you in
[01:41:31] important point so all around you in society you're going to notice this
[01:41:34] society you're going to notice this clamor this demand I am not responsible
[01:41:37] clamor this demand I am not responsible make somebody else
[01:41:39] make somebody else responsible but this is the key remember
[01:41:41] responsible but this is the key remember you are always free to
[01:41:43] you are always free to choose you are free to
[01:41:46] choose you are free to choose your responses you are free to
[01:41:49] choose your responses you are free to choose a quality of your emotional life
[01:41:52] choose a quality of your emotional life you know that
[01:41:54] you know that you decide how you're going to feel by
[01:41:56] you decide how you're going to feel by how you are going to respond you decide
[01:41:58] how you are going to respond you decide when to get angry when to be happy when
[01:42:00] when to get angry when to be happy when to be unhappy you decide what your
[01:42:02] to be unhappy you decide what your attitude is going to be when you get up
[01:42:03] attitude is going to be when you get up in the morning you decide the qu the
[01:42:05] in the morning you decide the qu the quality of your physical life you're the
[01:42:07] quality of your physical life you're the one who decides what you eat what you
[01:42:09] one who decides what you eat what you drink what you don't eat and drink you
[01:42:11] drink what you don't eat and drink you deser determine the quality of your
[01:42:13] deser determine the quality of your financial life you're the one who
[01:42:14] financial life you're the one who determines the quality and quantity of
[01:42:16] determines the quality and quantity of the work that you contribute in every
[01:42:18] the work that you contribute in every case you're free to choose what you want
[01:42:21] case you're free to choose what you want if you want things to be different the
[01:42:22] if you want things to be different the start point is to accept full
[01:42:25] start point is to accept full unqualified responsibility for your life
[01:42:28] unqualified responsibility for your life I first discovered this whole concept of
[01:42:30] I first discovered this whole concept of responsibility when I was 21 years old I
[01:42:33] responsibility when I was 21 years old I was living in a little apartment I was
[01:42:34] was living in a little apartment I was working on a construction job it was 35
[01:42:37] working on a construction job it was 35 de below zero outside I didn't have a
[01:42:39] de below zero outside I didn't have a car I didn't have any money in the bank
[01:42:41] car I didn't have any money in the bank my clothes were old I had failed out of
[01:42:44] my clothes were old I had failed out of high school and I looked around me in
[01:42:47] high school and I looked around me in that cold winter in that little
[01:42:48] that cold winter in that little apartment with no future and not much of
[01:42:50] apartment with no future and not much of a past and I said to myself If Ever I
[01:42:52] a past and I said to myself If Ever I want anything to change it's up to me
[01:42:55] want anything to change it's up to me that's the time where I really got
[01:42:57] that's the time where I really got scared it suddenly hit me right between
[01:42:59] scared it suddenly hit me right between the eyes that if I wanted my life to be
[01:43:01] the eyes that if I wanted my life to be different it was up to me to make my
[01:43:03] different it was up to me to make my life different and if I can get only one
[01:43:05] life different and if I can get only one point across to you in this simple
[01:43:07] point across to you in this simple segment this little segment is this is
[01:43:10] segment this little segment is this is that the starting point of flying to the
[01:43:12] that the starting point of flying to the Stars the starting point of taking
[01:43:14] Stars the starting point of taking complete charge of your life the
[01:43:16] complete charge of your life the starting point of great success and
[01:43:17] starting point of great success and great achievement is to accept complete
[01:43:20] great achievement is to accept complete unconditional responsibility if it's to
[01:43:22] unconditional responsibility if it's to be it's up to me if it's to be it's up
[01:43:25] be it's up to me if it's to be it's up to
[01:43:34] you session six eliminating negative
[01:43:38] you session six eliminating negative emotions continuing on the subject of
[01:43:40] emotions continuing on the subject of responsibility versus irresponsibility
[01:43:43] responsibility versus irresponsibility many years ago back in 1972 I began a
[01:43:46] many years ago back in 1972 I began a study in an area of metaphysics that
[01:43:48] study in an area of metaphysics that dealt with the psychology of the
[01:43:50] dealt with the psychology of the evolution of human potential and one of
[01:43:53] evolution of human potential and one of the things that leaped out of those
[01:43:55] the things that leaped out of those pages at me and I I've never really have
[01:43:56] pages at me and I I've never really have recovered from it was the discussion of
[01:43:59] recovered from it was the discussion of the connecting link between
[01:44:02] the connecting link between irresponsibility and negative emotions
[01:44:05] irresponsibility and negative emotions and the fact that negative emotions are
[01:44:07] and the fact that negative emotions are the great blocking emotions are
[01:44:09] the great blocking emotions are crippling emotions of your life and my
[01:44:11] crippling emotions of your life and my life if the whole purpose of life if you
[01:44:14] life if the whole purpose of life if you like is to achieve higher levels of
[01:44:15] like is to achieve higher levels of Peace of Mind happiness contentment
[01:44:17] Peace of Mind happiness contentment satisfaction and so on we have to sit
[01:44:19] satisfaction and so on we have to sit down we have to look and say what stops
[01:44:21] down we have to look and say what stops us or what is blocking us or what gets
[01:44:23] us or what is blocking us or what gets in the way of us really enjoying our
[01:44:25] in the way of us really enjoying our lives and you find invariably its
[01:44:27] lives and you find invariably its negative emotions of some kind now I'm
[01:44:30] negative emotions of some kind now I'm not talking about the negative emotions
[01:44:31] not talking about the negative emotions that are associated with someone dying
[01:44:33] that are associated with someone dying or with a great loss I'm talking about
[01:44:35] or with a great loss I'm talking about the negative emotions that we experience
[01:44:37] the negative emotions that we experience on a day-to-day basis that Rob us of
[01:44:39] on a day-to-day basis that Rob us of Peace of Mind Rob us of health and
[01:44:40] Peace of Mind Rob us of health and energy affect our loving relationships
[01:44:43] energy affect our loving relationships get in the way of our financial
[01:44:44] get in the way of our financial Independence Rob us of a feeling of
[01:44:46] Independence Rob us of a feeling of fulfillment and so on so we're going to
[01:44:48] fulfillment and so on so we're going to talk in this session about eliminating
[01:44:50] talk in this session about eliminating negative emotions and I want to bring us
[01:44:52] negative emotions and I want to bring us back to this whole discussion of
[01:44:54] back to this whole discussion of responsibility this is one of the most
[01:44:56] responsibility this is one of the most important things that I've ever found in
[01:44:58] important things that I've ever found in my life it's simply
[01:45:00] my life it's simply this is that if we take a graph or chart
[01:45:04] this is that if we take a graph or chart and come with me for a second and let's
[01:45:05] and come with me for a second and let's chart
[01:45:06] chart this and we take from highest to the
[01:45:09] this and we take from highest to the lowest and here we have a totally
[01:45:11] lowest and here we have a totally responsible person this is a person who
[01:45:13] responsible person this is a person who is completely self assured completely
[01:45:16] is completely self assured completely self-responsible makes no excuses at all
[01:45:18] self-responsible makes no excuses at all and down here at the other end we have
[01:45:19] and down here at the other end we have an irresponsible person a person who
[01:45:21] an irresponsible person a person who makes excuses for everything now this is
[01:45:24] makes excuses for everything now this is the positive end of the scale this is
[01:45:26] the positive end of the scale this is the negative end of the scale every one
[01:45:29] the negative end of the scale every one of us you and I are somewhere on this
[01:45:31] of us you and I are somewhere on this scale moving up or down with every
[01:45:34] scale moving up or down with every decision that we take now we found and
[01:45:37] decision that we take now we found and this is what got to me and I said a
[01:45:38] this is what got to me and I said a little bit earlier that there's a on
[01:45:40] little bit earlier that there's a on toone relationship between how much you
[01:45:41] toone relationship between how much you feel you are in control of your own life
[01:45:44] feel you are in control of your own life and how positive or how happy you are
[01:45:46] and how positive or how happy you are well there's a one toone relationship
[01:45:48] well there's a one toone relationship between the amount of responsibility you
[01:45:50] between the amount of responsibility you accept and the amount of control you
[01:45:52] accept and the amount of control you experience in your life and there's a on
[01:45:54] experience in your life and there's a on toone relationship between the amount of
[01:45:57] toone relationship between the amount of responsibility and control you accept
[01:45:59] responsibility and control you accept and the amount of Freedom that you feel
[01:46:01] and the amount of Freedom that you feel that you have freedom is the
[01:46:04] that you have freedom is the indispensable requirement for happiness
[01:46:06] indispensable requirement for happiness that true success true happiness in life
[01:46:09] that true success true happiness in life means being free to live your life your
[01:46:11] means being free to live your life your own way as you decide without anybody
[01:46:14] own way as you decide without anybody else telling you what to do living your
[01:46:16] else telling you what to do living your life as a bird free as a bird to do
[01:46:18] life as a bird free as a bird to do whatever you want well there's a direct
[01:46:20] whatever you want well there's a direct relationship between responsibility
[01:46:21] relationship between responsibility control and freedom and there's a direct
[01:46:23] control and freedom and there's a direct relationship between these three and
[01:46:26] relationship between these three and positive
[01:46:28] emotions now positive emotions are the
[01:46:31] emotions now positive emotions are the great emotions positive emotions are
[01:46:32] great emotions positive emotions are those of happiness and love and joy and
[01:46:35] those of happiness and love and joy and vitality and energy and exuberance and
[01:46:37] vitality and energy and exuberance and enthusiasm and excitement and so on now
[01:46:39] enthusiasm and excitement and so on now down at the other end however we have an
[01:46:41] down at the other end however we have an attitude of irresponsibility and what
[01:46:43] attitude of irresponsibility and what does that lead to this is what shocked
[01:46:46] does that lead to this is what shocked me so much when I first learned it it
[01:46:47] me so much when I first learned it it leads to a lack of control is that to
[01:46:51] leads to a lack of control is that to the degree to which
[01:46:53] the degree to which we are irresponsible we lose control our
[01:46:57] we are irresponsible we lose control our inner selves disintegrate and fragment
[01:47:00] inner selves disintegrate and fragment it also leads to a lack of freedom
[01:47:02] it also leads to a lack of freedom because we no longer see ourselves as
[01:47:05] because we no longer see ourselves as free agents choosing the direction of
[01:47:07] free agents choosing the direction of our own lives we see ourselves as pawns
[01:47:10] our own lives we see ourselves as pawns as victims if you like of external
[01:47:12] as victims if you like of external forces and a lack of control and freedom
[01:47:14] forces and a lack of control and freedom leads to negative
[01:47:17] leads to negative emotions when I
[01:47:19] emotions when I first began to understand this I thought
[01:47:23] first began to understand this I thought well yeah but what about uh my parents
[01:47:25] well yeah but what about uh my parents and what about my childhood and what
[01:47:26] and what about my childhood and what about my condition I didn't have a very
[01:47:28] about my condition I didn't have a very good job and what about my friends I had
[01:47:30] good job and what about my friends I had crummy friends and what about my health
[01:47:31] crummy friends and what about my health and what about uh the weather and what
[01:47:33] and what about uh the weather and what about the economy when I began to
[01:47:35] about the economy when I began to realize this I began to realize that you
[01:47:37] realize this I began to realize that you put all that aside if your highest aim
[01:47:39] put all that aside if your highest aim your highest goal is positive emotions
[01:47:42] your highest goal is positive emotions of happiness joy Freedom enthusiasm and
[01:47:45] of happiness joy Freedom enthusiasm and so on then you have to stop making
[01:47:48] so on then you have to stop making excuses now Carl menager the Great
[01:47:51] excuses now Carl menager the Great psychoanalyst said a very interesting
[01:47:53] psychoanalyst said a very interesting thing some years ago he said that
[01:47:55] thing some years ago he said that physical ailments are all different
[01:47:57] physical ailments are all different caused by different bacteria different
[01:47:59] caused by different bacteria different viruses and so on he said but mental
[01:48:01] viruses and so on he said but mental illness is the same illness simply
[01:48:04] illness is the same illness simply spread along a spectrum from the least
[01:48:07] spread along a spectrum from the least to the worst and Thomas SAS the
[01:48:09] to the worst and Thomas SAS the psychiatrist said in his book The Myth
[01:48:11] psychiatrist said in his book The Myth of mental illness that there is no such
[01:48:13] of mental illness that there is no such thing as mental illness there are merely
[01:48:16] thing as mental illness there are merely varying degrees of
[01:48:18] varying degrees of irresponsibility so when we say that an
[01:48:21] irresponsibility so when we say that an irresponsible person is not only
[01:48:22] irresponsible person is not only negative we say an irresponsible person
[01:48:24] negative we say an irresponsible person is also mentally ill a totally
[01:48:27] is also mentally ill a totally responsible person is mentally healthy
[01:48:29] responsible person is mentally healthy how does this affect you well I know you
[01:48:31] how does this affect you well I know you want to advance as much as you can in
[01:48:33] want to advance as much as you can in Life or you wouldn't be going through
[01:48:34] Life or you wouldn't be going through the efforts of taking a program like
[01:48:35] the efforts of taking a program like this there is a direct relationship
[01:48:38] this there is a direct relationship between the amount of responsibility you
[01:48:40] between the amount of responsibility you accept for the results of your
[01:48:43] accept for the results of your organization and the amount of power
[01:48:45] organization and the amount of power influence position Prestige and status
[01:48:48] influence position Prestige and status you will have in your work now and in
[01:48:51] you will have in your work now and in the future at the top of the graph of
[01:48:53] the future at the top of the graph of responsibility we have people who accept
[01:48:56] responsibility we have people who accept total responsibility and power and
[01:48:58] total responsibility and power and opportunity gravitates toward them down
[01:49:01] opportunity gravitates toward them down at the other end we have no power or
[01:49:04] at the other end we have no power or powerlessness until you reach the
[01:49:06] powerlessness until you reach the extreme example of a person who's
[01:49:08] extreme example of a person who's totally irresponsible completely out of
[01:49:10] totally irresponsible completely out of control who has to be constrained in a
[01:49:12] control who has to be constrained in a straight jacket and locked up in a
[01:49:13] straight jacket and locked up in a padded room for their own safety and for
[01:49:16] padded room for their own safety and for the safety of others completely
[01:49:17] the safety of others completely powerless completely without control or
[01:49:19] powerless completely without control or Freedom now every time we make a
[01:49:21] Freedom now every time we make a decision to be self responsible we move
[01:49:24] decision to be self responsible we move up on this graph every time we make a
[01:49:26] up on this graph every time we make a decision to make excuses we move down in
[01:49:29] decision to make excuses we move down in this graph so let's take it a little bit
[01:49:30] this graph so let's take it a little bit further and let's talk about the
[01:49:33] further and let's talk about the relationship between negative emotions
[01:49:35] relationship between negative emotions and irresponsibility so that you
[01:49:37] and irresponsibility so that you understand it perfectly clearly and a
[01:49:38] understand it perfectly clearly and a perfect example is this imagine here is
[01:49:41] perfect example is this imagine here is a tree all right here's a tree and here
[01:49:45] a tree all right here's a tree and here is the bushes this is what is called the
[01:49:47] is the bushes this is what is called the negative emotion tree in the negative
[01:49:50] negative emotion tree in the negative emotion tree grows the predominant
[01:49:53] emotion tree grows the predominant negative emotions
[01:49:54] negative emotions fear doubt it's many people have
[01:49:57] fear doubt it's many people have considered that self-doubt is the most
[01:49:59] considered that self-doubt is the most destructive of all negative emotion
[01:50:01] destructive of all negative emotion holds you back more than you can imagine
[01:50:03] holds you back more than you can imagine also hate is a negative emotion then
[01:50:07] also hate is a negative emotion then there's
[01:50:08] there's Envy there's
[01:50:10] Envy there's resentment and then of course there's
[01:50:12] resentment and then of course there's resentment sister
[01:50:15] resentment sister guilt these are all the big negative
[01:50:17] guilt these are all the big negative emotions these are the ones that have
[01:50:18] emotions these are the ones that have led to hit parade for years there's
[01:50:19] led to hit parade for years there's about 54 different negative emotions but
[01:50:21] about 54 different negative emotions but these are the top and if you take these
[01:50:23] these are the top and if you take these negative emotions and you boil them all
[01:50:25] negative emotions and you boil them all down you can put in your own favorite by
[01:50:27] down you can put in your own favorite by the way everybody has their own favorite
[01:50:28] the way everybody has their own favorite negative emotion jealousy could be yours
[01:50:31] negative emotion jealousy could be yours um self-pity is a good strong one it's
[01:50:34] um self-pity is a good strong one it's doing well but if you boil it down you
[01:50:36] doing well but if you boil it down you find that all negative emotions
[01:50:37] find that all negative emotions eventually boil down to anger either
[01:50:40] eventually boil down to anger either inwardly expressed that is where you
[01:50:41] inwardly expressed that is where you make yourself sick or outwardly
[01:50:43] make yourself sick or outwardly expressed that is where you make other
[01:50:45] expressed that is where you make other people sick uh and this negative emotion
[01:50:48] people sick uh and this negative emotion tree if we just take a look at its
[01:50:50] tree if we just take a look at its structure we find the negative emotion
[01:50:51] structure we find the negative emotion tree has a root system Sy now the root
[01:50:54] tree has a root system Sy now the root system is where the nutrients come from
[01:50:56] system is where the nutrients come from that keep the negative
[01:50:57] that keep the negative emotion growing and keep the fruit of
[01:50:59] emotion growing and keep the fruit of the negative emotion growing and
[01:51:02] the negative emotion growing and blossoming we look at the root system we
[01:51:04] blossoming we look at the root system we say what are the nutrients what keeps
[01:51:06] say what are the nutrients what keeps negative emotions going what are the
[01:51:07] negative emotions going what are the fertilizer what is it that you Heap on
[01:51:09] fertilizer what is it that you Heap on the fire if you like or put into the
[01:51:11] the fire if you like or put into the ground we find that there's two things
[01:51:12] ground we find that there's two things essential to keep negative emotions
[01:51:14] essential to keep negative emotions alive the first is
[01:51:17] alive the first is justification
[01:51:19] justification justification that's the simp that's
[01:51:21] justification that's the simp that's that's merely telling your yourself and
[01:51:23] that's merely telling your yourself and anybody else who will listen why you are
[01:51:25] anybody else who will listen why you are justified in having this emotion and the
[01:51:27] justified in having this emotion and the other is what we call
[01:51:30] other is what we call identification identification means
[01:51:32] identification identification means taking things
[01:51:34] taking things personally that's why of course they
[01:51:36] personally that's why of course they suggest that a person who acts as their
[01:51:38] suggest that a person who acts as their own lawyer has a fool for a client
[01:51:40] own lawyer has a fool for a client probably a person who acts as their own
[01:51:42] probably a person who acts as their own doctor has a fool for a patient too
[01:51:44] doctor has a fool for a patient too because we become so personally
[01:51:45] because we become so personally identified with our own situation and so
[01:51:47] identified with our own situation and so do you we take it so personally that we
[01:51:50] do you we take it so personally that we get all emotionally involved and wrapped
[01:51:52] get all emotionally involved and wrapped up in it so we find that it's not
[01:51:54] up in it so we find that it's not possible for you to be negative about
[01:51:56] possible for you to be negative about anything for very long unless you can
[01:51:59] anything for very long unless you can justify or have a reason for it and
[01:52:01] justify or have a reason for it and explain it to other people or unless you
[01:52:04] explain it to other people or unless you can identify and take it personally for
[01:52:07] can identify and take it personally for instance if somebody comes in from the
[01:52:08] instance if somebody comes in from the parking lot and says they just ran into
[01:52:10] parking lot and says they just ran into a car in the parking lot doesn't bother
[01:52:12] a car in the parking lot doesn't bother you at all because you don't identify
[01:52:15] you at all because you don't identify with it now if they said they just ran
[01:52:16] with it now if they said they just ran into a car in the parking lot and it's
[01:52:18] into a car in the parking lot and it's your car in the parking lot and the
[01:52:19] your car in the parking lot and the person's gone now you can become
[01:52:21] person's gone now you can become extremely upset
[01:52:23] extremely upset remember this however that we always
[01:52:25] remember this however that we always choose these responses I'll come back to
[01:52:27] choose these responses I'll come back to this in a second so how do we get rid of
[01:52:29] this in a second so how do we get rid of justification how do we starve the root
[01:52:31] justification how do we starve the root system of the negative emotion tree the
[01:52:34] system of the negative emotion tree the way that we get rid of justification is
[01:52:36] way that we get rid of justification is by becoming
[01:52:38] by becoming non-judgmental in the Bible it says
[01:52:40] non-judgmental in the Bible it says judge not that she be not judged and
[01:52:43] judge not that she be not judged and since the Bible is amongst many other
[01:52:45] since the Bible is amongst many other things a book of philosophy and
[01:52:47] things a book of philosophy and metaphysics and how to live being
[01:52:49] metaphysics and how to live being non-judgmental means that you just
[01:52:51] non-judgmental means that you just refrain from judging hold back from
[01:52:52] refrain from judging hold back from judging instead of casting a judgment
[01:52:55] judging instead of casting a judgment that somebody is guilty of something
[01:52:57] that somebody is guilty of something somebody has done something just remain
[01:52:59] somebody has done something just remain open and neutral just remaining neutral
[01:53:02] open and neutral just remaining neutral and that's the key stops the negative
[01:53:05] and that's the key stops the negative emotion from getting going one of the
[01:53:07] emotion from getting going one of the things that we know about negative
[01:53:08] things that we know about negative emotions and I've studied them for years
[01:53:10] emotions and I've studied them for years is that negative emotions start off like
[01:53:11] is that negative emotions start off like a spark and as they are fed as we dwell
[01:53:14] a spark and as they are fed as we dwell upon them as we justify them as we
[01:53:16] upon them as we justify them as we become judgmental about the situation
[01:53:18] become judgmental about the situation they start to grow and grow and grow
[01:53:20] they start to grow and grow and grow until they absolutely consume our minds
[01:53:22] until they absolutely consume our minds now with regard to identification which
[01:53:24] now with regard to identification which is taking things personally what we do
[01:53:26] is taking things personally what we do is what is called we
[01:53:30] disidentify we objectify or we again
[01:53:34] disidentify we objectify or we again remain neutral we try to keep it at arms
[01:53:36] remain neutral we try to keep it at arms length we say there is a problem but I
[01:53:38] length we say there is a problem but I am not the problem there is a difficulty
[01:53:40] am not the problem there is a difficulty but the difficulty is not me and we keep
[01:53:42] but the difficulty is not me and we keep it at arms length so these two once we
[01:53:44] it at arms length so these two once we begin to stop justifying and stop
[01:53:47] begin to stop justifying and stop identifying or taking things personally
[01:53:49] identifying or taking things personally stop getting emotionally involved have
[01:53:51] stop getting emotionally involved have you ever had the situation where
[01:53:52] you ever had the situation where somebody comes to you with a problem and
[01:53:53] somebody comes to you with a problem and you get so emotionally involved with
[01:53:55] you get so emotionally involved with their problem that you lose that that
[01:53:57] their problem that you lose that that you start to feel upset and they go away
[01:53:59] you start to feel upset and they go away and they don't have a problem anymore
[01:54:00] and they don't have a problem anymore and you're you're still there and you're
[01:54:01] and you're you're still there and you're upset this is because we've taken it so
[01:54:04] upset this is because we've taken it so personally however the key to getting
[01:54:06] personally however the key to getting rid of negative emotions and this is the
[01:54:08] rid of negative emotions and this is the most important part of this is the trunk
[01:54:11] most important part of this is the trunk it's cutting down the trunk of the
[01:54:12] it's cutting down the trunk of the negative emotion tree and the trunk of
[01:54:13] negative emotion tree and the trunk of the negative emotion tree is
[01:54:16] the negative emotion tree is blame blame is
[01:54:19] blame blame is 99% of negative emotions now it's very
[01:54:22] 99% of negative emotions now it's very important to understand where negative
[01:54:24] important to understand where negative emotions come from negative emotions
[01:54:26] emotions come from negative emotions come from inside you negative emotions
[01:54:29] come from inside you negative emotions are not contained in external situations
[01:54:32] are not contained in external situations negative emotions are not caused by
[01:54:34] negative emotions are not caused by other people or other situations
[01:54:36] other people or other situations negative emotions are caused by your
[01:54:39] negative emotions are caused by your response to other situations perfect
[01:54:41] response to other situations perfect example two people meet the same
[01:54:44] example two people meet the same situation a traffic jam a rude waiter
[01:54:47] situation a traffic jam a rude waiter whatever it happens to be and one person
[01:54:49] whatever it happens to be and one person gets all upset and uptight and angry the
[01:54:51] gets all upset and uptight and angry the other person lets it
[01:54:53] other person lets it go off their back another example the
[01:54:56] go off their back another example the same person two different days one day
[01:54:58] same person two different days one day they've had an argument or a flat tire
[01:54:59] they've had an argument or a flat tire or they're late for work they get into a
[01:55:01] or they're late for work they get into a traffic jam and they're angry and
[01:55:02] traffic jam and they're angry and they're uptight the next day they leave
[01:55:04] they're uptight the next day they leave with plenty of time they had a lovely
[01:55:06] with plenty of time they had a lovely breakfast with their family they got
[01:55:08] breakfast with their family they got lots of time to get to work they have a
[01:55:09] lots of time to get to work they have a traffic jam doesn't bother them at all
[01:55:11] traffic jam doesn't bother them at all in both cases it's an example of that
[01:55:13] in both cases it's an example of that the negative emotion does not come from
[01:55:15] the negative emotion does not come from the situation is that you are always
[01:55:17] the situation is that you are always free to choose the quality of your
[01:55:18] free to choose the quality of your emotional life is that you choose to
[01:55:21] emotional life is that you choose to become an angry Now understand this
[01:55:24] become an angry Now understand this nobody makes you feel anything nobody
[01:55:27] nobody makes you feel anything nobody makes you feel angry nobody makes you
[01:55:30] makes you feel angry nobody makes you feel tense nobody makes you feel upset
[01:55:33] feel tense nobody makes you feel upset you always decide how you're going to
[01:55:35] you always decide how you're going to feel and then if you're not careful you
[01:55:37] feel and then if you're not careful you will fall into a negative habit pattern
[01:55:39] will fall into a negative habit pattern of blaming the other person blame is the
[01:55:42] of blaming the other person blame is the core of all negative emotions when you
[01:55:45] core of all negative emotions when you stop blaming you cut down the negative
[01:55:48] stop blaming you cut down the negative emotion tree you cut it off you kill it
[01:55:51] emotion tree you cut it off you kill it and all the negative emotions die
[01:55:54] and all the negative emotions die simultaneously it's almost exactly as if
[01:55:56] simultaneously it's almost exactly as if this negative emotion tree were a
[01:55:58] this negative emotion tree were a Christmas tree and it were plugged into
[01:56:00] Christmas tree and it were plugged into the wall and the negative emotions were
[01:56:03] the wall and the negative emotions were Christmas tree lights and you took this
[01:56:05] Christmas tree lights and you took this plug and you jerked it out of the wall
[01:56:08] plug and you jerked it out of the wall what would happen well what would happen
[01:56:09] what would happen well what would happen is that all the negative emotions the
[01:56:11] is that all the negative emotions the lights would go out simultaneously just
[01:56:14] lights would go out simultaneously just like that how do you do this you do this
[01:56:16] like that how do you do this you do this by using the law of substitution
[01:56:18] by using the law of substitution remember the law of substitution says
[01:56:20] remember the law of substitution says that the conscious mind can only hold
[01:56:21] that the conscious mind can only hold one thought a time it's a thought that
[01:56:23] one thought a time it's a thought that the conscious mind holds that determines
[01:56:25] the conscious mind holds that determines how the emotions will react how the
[01:56:27] how the emotions will react how the subconscious mind will react since it
[01:56:29] subconscious mind will react since it can only hold one thought at a time what
[01:56:30] can only hold one thought at a time what you do is you knock out the thought that
[01:56:33] you do is you knock out the thought that is causing the negative emotion the
[01:56:35] is causing the negative emotion the blame thought and you replace it with
[01:56:37] blame thought and you replace it with this
[01:56:38] this affirmation I am
[01:56:41] affirmation I am responsible I am
[01:56:44] responsible I am responsible I am
[01:56:47] responsible I am responsible this in conjunction with I
[01:56:50] responsible this in conjunction with I like myself I am responsible is the most
[01:56:52] like myself I am responsible is the most powerful positive affirmation you can
[01:56:55] powerful positive affirmation you can use because the instant that you say I
[01:56:57] use because the instant that you say I am responsible you exert complete
[01:56:59] am responsible you exert complete control over your emotional life the
[01:57:01] control over your emotional life the instance you say I am responsible
[01:57:02] instance you say I am responsible suddenly you are back in the driver's
[01:57:04] suddenly you are back in the driver's seat you cannot say I am responsible and
[01:57:07] seat you cannot say I am responsible and feel a negative emotions simultaneously
[01:57:10] feel a negative emotions simultaneously the one knocks the other one out of your
[01:57:12] the one knocks the other one out of your conscious mind and you can start off for
[01:57:14] conscious mind and you can start off for instance each one of us has a situation
[01:57:16] instance each one of us has a situation that causes us a lot of aggravation you
[01:57:18] that causes us a lot of aggravation you have a situation it may be a person but
[01:57:20] have a situation it may be a person but every time you think about it you get
[01:57:21] every time you think about it you get angry every time you think about it you
[01:57:23] angry every time you think about it you get Cross or you get distracted what you
[01:57:25] get Cross or you get distracted what you do is whenever you start to think about
[01:57:27] do is whenever you start to think about that situation neutralize it by saying I
[01:57:29] that situation neutralize it by saying I am responsible wait a minute I am
[01:57:30] am responsible wait a minute I am responsible is it a relationship who got
[01:57:33] responsible is it a relationship who got yourself into the relationship did
[01:57:34] yourself into the relationship did somebody put you there at gunpoint or
[01:57:36] somebody put you there at gunpoint or did you get into it by yourself is it a
[01:57:38] did you get into it by yourself is it a job is it an investment is it a health
[01:57:41] job is it an investment is it a health problem of some kind in every case
[01:57:44] problem of some kind in every case accept responsibility now there's a big
[01:57:45] accept responsibility now there's a big difference between acceptance
[01:57:47] difference between acceptance responsibility and let me just write
[01:57:48] responsibility and let me just write this up it's responsibility versus blame
[01:57:59] responsibility versus blame what is what
[01:58:02] responsibility versus blame what is what is blame blame always looks backward
[01:58:04] is blame blame always looks backward toward the past blame looks toward the
[01:58:07] toward the past blame looks toward the past toward what cannot be done toward
[01:58:09] past toward what cannot be done toward what can't be changed responsibility
[01:58:11] what can't be changed responsibility always looks to the
[01:58:12] always looks to the Future so people say well when you
[01:58:14] Future so people say well when you accept responsibility isn't that the
[01:58:15] accept responsibility isn't that the same as saying you're to blame no it's
[01:58:18] same as saying you're to blame no it's the same as saying that you are in
[01:58:20] the same as saying that you are in charge of the quality you're thinking
[01:58:23] charge of the quality you're thinking From This Moment onward so let us say
[01:58:25] From This Moment onward so let us say that you come out to the parking lot and
[01:58:26] that you come out to the parking lot and somebody's running to your car now you
[01:58:28] somebody's running to your car now you have two choices you can become angry
[01:58:29] have two choices you can become angry and upset and run around and scream and
[01:58:31] and upset and run around and scream and shout or you can act in a responsible
[01:58:33] shout or you can act in a responsible manner you can do everything possible to
[01:58:35] manner you can do everything possible to trace the culprit and other than that
[01:58:37] trace the culprit and other than that you can live with it maturely so
[01:58:40] you can live with it maturely so responsibility always looks to the
[01:58:41] responsibility always looks to the Future responsibility always asks this
[01:58:44] Future responsibility always asks this question when faced with a
[01:58:46] question when faced with a problem what can we do not who did it
[01:58:51] problem what can we do not who did it but what can we do from here where do we
[01:58:55] but what can we do from here where do we go from here what can we do this is the
[01:58:58] go from here what can we do this is the question of the responsible person we
[01:59:01] question of the responsible person we don't cry over spilled milk we just say
[01:59:03] don't cry over spilled milk we just say all right what's the solution and we get
[01:59:05] all right what's the solution and we get on with the game the irresponsible
[01:59:07] on with the game the irresponsible person always says who did it and is
[01:59:10] person always says who did it and is obsessed with finding out who did it and
[01:59:12] obsessed with finding out who did it and then taking whatever blame there is and
[01:59:14] then taking whatever blame there is and a portioning it so that everybody gets
[01:59:15] a portioning it so that everybody gets their fair share of the blame which of
[01:59:17] their fair share of the blame which of course does nothing to resolve the
[01:59:19] course does nothing to resolve the difficulty so the key to cutting down
[01:59:21] difficulty so the key to cutting down the negative emotion tree is using the
[01:59:25] the negative emotion tree is using the ax and eliminating blaming the day that
[01:59:28] ax and eliminating blaming the day that you begin to eliminate blaming from your
[01:59:30] you begin to eliminate blaming from your life is the day that your life starts to
[01:59:32] life is the day that your life starts to take off because the day that you start
[01:59:34] take off because the day that you start to eliminate blaming and negative
[01:59:35] to eliminate blaming and negative emotions suddenly most of the problems
[01:59:38] emotions suddenly most of the problems most of the things that stand between
[01:59:40] most of the things that stand between you and the happiness you desire vanish
[01:59:44] you and the happiness you desire vanish why am I making such an emphasis on
[01:59:45] why am I making such an emphasis on negative emotions well let me make that
[01:59:47] negative emotions well let me make that clear for just a second what I found and
[01:59:50] clear for just a second what I found and this is what was staggering to me
[01:59:51] this is what was staggering to me because always been committed to
[01:59:53] because always been committed to realizing my potential as a human being
[01:59:55] realizing my potential as a human being is that you cannot advance in life
[01:59:58] is that you cannot advance in life except to the degree to which you get
[02:00:00] except to the degree to which you get rid of your negative emotions you cannot
[02:00:02] rid of your negative emotions you cannot make any progress you cannot go any
[02:00:04] make any progress you cannot go any further than where you are right this
[02:00:06] further than where you are right this minute except the to the degree to which
[02:00:08] minute except the to the degree to which you leave your negative emotions behind
[02:00:12] you leave your negative emotions behind now by the way with regard to the
[02:00:14] now by the way with regard to the negative emotion that you have that's
[02:00:16] negative emotion that you have that's associated with another person or
[02:00:18] associated with another person or situation it's difficult to accept
[02:00:20] situation it's difficult to accept responsibility it's difficult to say I
[02:00:22] responsibility it's difficult to say I am responsible initially because you've
[02:00:24] am responsible initially because you've been blaming that person for so long so
[02:00:26] been blaming that person for so long so sometimes you have to say it with
[02:00:27] sometimes you have to say it with gritted teeth you have to say wait
[02:00:30] gritted teeth you have to say wait responsible I am responsible but the
[02:00:32] responsible I am responsible but the more you repeat this I am responsible I
[02:00:34] more you repeat this I am responsible I am responsible I am responsible it comes
[02:00:37] am responsible I am responsible it comes easier and easier eventually it gets to
[02:00:39] easier and easier eventually it gets to the point where as soon as you think of
[02:00:41] the point where as soon as you think of that person or situation you can
[02:00:42] that person or situation you can neutralize the thought by the law of
[02:00:44] neutralize the thought by the law of substitution by saying wait a minute I'm
[02:00:45] substitution by saying wait a minute I'm responsible I am responsible there's a
[02:00:49] responsible I am responsible there's a beautiful line that you can use also in
[02:00:52] beautiful line that you can use also in dealing with difficult people that goes
[02:00:54] dealing with difficult people that goes back to self-esteem and it also has to
[02:00:56] back to self-esteem and it also has to do with eliminating negative emotions is
[02:00:59] do with eliminating negative emotions is say something like this no matter what
[02:01:00] say something like this no matter what you say or do I'm still a valuable and
[02:01:02] you say or do I'm still a valuable and worthwhile person or no matter what
[02:01:05] worthwhile person or no matter what happens I am still a valuable and
[02:01:07] happens I am still a valuable and worthwhile person or no matter how this
[02:01:09] worthwhile person or no matter how this situation turns out I am still a
[02:01:11] situation turns out I am still a valuable and worthwhile person the
[02:01:14] valuable and worthwhile person the natural course of life is this here's
[02:01:16] natural course of life is this here's the road of life and when we're children
[02:01:18] the road of life and when we're children we start off with no negative emotions
[02:01:21] we start off with no negative emotions all negative emotions by the way have to
[02:01:22] all negative emotions by the way have to be taught to a child they have to be
[02:01:24] be taught to a child they have to be taught and the child has to learn them
[02:01:26] taught and the child has to learn them from their parents have you ever seen a
[02:01:27] from their parents have you ever seen a negative baby there's no such thing as a
[02:01:29] negative baby there's no such thing as a negative baby babies just laugh and
[02:01:31] negative baby babies just laugh and they're happy and they cry when they
[02:01:33] they're happy and they cry when they have needs but babies are not negative
[02:01:35] have needs but babies are not negative but as we grow up we watch the people
[02:01:37] but as we grow up we watch the people around us and we begin to develop our
[02:01:39] around us and we begin to develop our own negative emotions which we carry in
[02:01:41] own negative emotions which we carry in a sack on our back as we become
[02:01:43] a sack on our back as we become teenagers our this sack grows big enough
[02:01:46] teenagers our this sack grows big enough to the point where we can even go to
[02:01:47] to the point where we can even go to slumber parties or we can get together
[02:01:49] slumber parties or we can get together with our buddies and we can talk about
[02:01:50] with our buddies and we can talk about how terrible our CH child has been how
[02:01:52] how terrible our CH child has been how rotten our parents are how rotten our
[02:01:54] rotten our parents are how rotten our siblings teachers and everything else
[02:01:55] siblings teachers and everything else are now when we become adults what is
[02:01:58] are now when we become adults what is the mark of adulthood in our society the
[02:02:00] the mark of adulthood in our society the mark of adulthood is that you have a
[02:02:02] mark of adulthood is that you have a great gunny sack full of negative
[02:02:04] great gunny sack full of negative emotions because you have suffered and
[02:02:06] emotions because you have suffered and what happens is you spend most of your
[02:02:08] what happens is you spend most of your time when you're with other people
[02:02:09] time when you're with other people letting down your guards and telling
[02:02:11] letting down your guards and telling them about how much you've suffered what
[02:02:13] them about how much you've suffered what you do is you uh use exchanges of
[02:02:16] you do is you uh use exchanges of negative emotions as the basis for your
[02:02:18] negative emotions as the basis for your relationships you say look I'll show you
[02:02:20] relationships you say look I'll show you my negative emotions if you'll show me
[02:02:21] my negative emotions if you'll show me yours remember like we used to do as
[02:02:23] yours remember like we used to do as kids and what you do is you get together
[02:02:25] kids and what you do is you get together like a couple of traitors in an Arab
[02:02:26] like a couple of traitors in an Arab bizaar and you display your negative
[02:02:28] bizaar and you display your negative emotion you say oh look at this rotten
[02:02:30] emotion you say oh look at this rotten childhood I had and look at this
[02:02:31] childhood I had and look at this terrible relationship and look at how
[02:02:33] terrible relationship and look at how crummy my boss is and how rotten this is
[02:02:35] crummy my boss is and how rotten this is and so on and you exchange them back and
[02:02:37] and so on and you exchange them back and forth now what happens when you talk
[02:02:39] forth now what happens when you talk about and think about your negative
[02:02:40] about and think about your negative emotions remember the law of
[02:02:41] emotions remember the law of concentration whatever you dwell upon
[02:02:44] concentration whatever you dwell upon grows whatever you dwell upon grows and
[02:02:47] grows whatever you dwell upon grows and gains strength and stays alive negative
[02:02:50] gains strength and stays alive negative emotions by the way and this is another
[02:02:51] emotions by the way and this is another thing that I learned in the study is
[02:02:52] thing that I learned in the study is negative emotions are very fragile and
[02:02:55] negative emotions are very fragile and ephemeral things he said if you don't
[02:02:56] ephemeral things he said if you don't keep them alive through constant talking
[02:02:58] keep them alive through constant talking through constant cultivation you know
[02:03:00] through constant cultivation you know what happens they die on you yes you see
[02:03:03] what happens they die on you yes you see negative emotions just die it's like a
[02:03:05] negative emotions just die it's like a fire if it falls where there's nothing
[02:03:07] fire if it falls where there's nothing or spark if it falls where there's
[02:03:08] or spark if it falls where there's nothing to burn it goes out negative
[02:03:11] nothing to burn it goes out negative emotions unless you talk about them and
[02:03:12] emotions unless you talk about them and keep them going unless you dwell on them
[02:03:14] keep them going unless you dwell on them all the time they die on you you ever
[02:03:15] all the time they die on you you ever had an experience where you're really
[02:03:17] had an experience where you're really worried about something you're really
[02:03:18] worried about something you're really upset about something and it's
[02:03:19] upset about something and it's preoccupying all of your time and and
[02:03:22] preoccupying all of your time and and then you get to work or you get home and
[02:03:23] then you get to work or you get home and you get so busy doing something else
[02:03:25] you get so busy doing something else that for about three or four hours you
[02:03:26] that for about three or four hours you don't have time to think of anything
[02:03:27] don't have time to think of anything else about three or four hours you stop
[02:03:29] else about three or four hours you stop and say geez I haven't worried about
[02:03:30] and say geez I haven't worried about that for a long time I got to get back
[02:03:32] that for a long time I got to get back to worrying about it because what's
[02:03:33] to worrying about it because what's happening it's going out it's like a
[02:03:34] happening it's going out it's like a fire that's going out so you got to get
[02:03:35] fire that's going out so you got to get back to it you got to think about it and
[02:03:36] back to it you got to think about it and talk about it and worry about it and
[02:03:38] talk about it and worry about it and hassle it to get it back up to the point
[02:03:40] hassle it to get it back up to the point where it's preoccupying your whole mind
[02:03:41] where it's preoccupying your whole mind how many times do that happen well what
[02:03:44] how many times do that happen well what the mature adult does is the mature
[02:03:46] the mature adult does is the mature adult leaves their negative emotions by
[02:03:49] adult leaves their negative emotions by the side of the road and gets on with
[02:03:51] the side of the road and gets on with the rest of their life they get on with
[02:03:53] the rest of their life they get on with the rest of their life they leave them
[02:03:55] the rest of their life they leave them there instead of dragging them along
[02:03:57] there instead of dragging them along they leave them like a big pile of
[02:03:59] they leave them like a big pile of garbage at a garbage strike they just
[02:04:01] garbage at a garbage strike they just leave it there and when people say how
[02:04:03] leave it there and when people say how are things going you say wonderful you
[02:04:05] are things going you say wonderful you say how's life you say terrific you say
[02:04:07] say how's life you say terrific you say how's your relationships couldn't be
[02:04:08] how's your relationships couldn't be better how is your health how you
[02:04:09] better how is your health how you feeling I feel great in other words
[02:04:12] feeling I feel great in other words don't talk about negative things because
[02:04:14] don't talk about negative things because when you talk about negative things you
[02:04:15] when you talk about negative things you actually increase them and you draw more
[02:04:18] actually increase them and you draw more of them into your life look at the
[02:04:19] of them into your life look at the people that you know who have problems
[02:04:21] people that you know who have problems you know most the people that you know
[02:04:22] you know most the people that you know have problems all the time never seem to
[02:04:24] have problems all the time never seem to solve their problems are people who talk
[02:04:25] solve their problems are people who talk about their problems all the time to him
[02:04:27] about their problems all the time to him that ha shall more be given from him who
[02:04:29] that ha shall more be given from him who hath not even that which he has shall be
[02:04:30] hath not even that which he has shall be taken away now this is another and
[02:04:32] taken away now this is another and critical point with regard to
[02:04:34] critical point with regard to relationships and I learned this again
[02:04:36] relationships and I learned this again in my studies it is that each of us has
[02:04:39] in my studies it is that each of us has a certain amount of suffering that we've
[02:04:40] a certain amount of suffering that we've gone through and people fall in love
[02:04:44] gone through and people fall in love with their suffering people love their
[02:04:46] with their suffering people love their suffering as a matter of fact they feel
[02:04:49] suffering as a matter of fact they feel that they've paid for it they've thought
[02:04:51] that they've paid for it they've thought about it they lived with it for so long
[02:04:53] about it they lived with it for so long that most people are very reluctant to
[02:04:55] that most people are very reluctant to give up their suffering you can't talk
[02:04:58] give up their suffering you can't talk them out of it you say well why don't
[02:04:59] them out of it you say well why don't you just forget it why don't you just
[02:05:00] you just forget it why don't you just put it behind you what why don't you
[02:05:02] put it behind you what why don't you just get on with it they say well I
[02:05:03] just get on with it they say well I can't do that do you know how much I've
[02:05:05] can't do that do you know how much I've suffered do you know how much emotional
[02:05:06] suffered do you know how much emotional investment I've put into this
[02:05:07] investment I've put into this relationship his job his career and so
[02:05:09] relationship his job his career and so on I remember oh I can't I can tell you
[02:05:12] on I remember oh I can't I can tell you a thousand people have come up to me who
[02:05:14] a thousand people have come up to me who are in bad relationships and they say
[02:05:15] are in bad relationships and they say well I've been in this relationship or
[02:05:17] well I've been in this relationship or in this marriage now for several years
[02:05:19] in this marriage now for several years and I'm miserable I'm unhappy we don't
[02:05:20] and I'm miserable I'm unhappy we don't like each other it's going I say why
[02:05:22] like each other it's going I say why don't you do something about it but
[02:05:23] don't you do something about it but after all these years and what I say to
[02:05:25] after all these years and what I say to them is I say look the average life
[02:05:27] them is I say look the average life expectancy of the average American today
[02:05:29] expectancy of the average American today is between 75 and 80 years and it's
[02:05:31] is between 75 and 80 years and it's going up by the time we reach the end of
[02:05:34] going up by the time we reach the end of the century the average life expectancy
[02:05:35] the century the average life expectancy will probably 80 85 90 years old you
[02:05:37] will probably 80 85 90 years old you know what that means that whatever age
[02:05:39] know what that means that whatever age you are now and you may be 20 25 30 35
[02:05:41] you are now and you may be 20 25 30 35 it doesn't really matter you subtract
[02:05:43] it doesn't really matter you subtract that from 80 you get the number of years
[02:05:44] that from 80 you get the number of years that you've got left to live in this
[02:05:46] that you've got left to live in this current situation you ask yourself do
[02:05:47] current situation you ask yourself do you want to live in this situation for
[02:05:49] you want to live in this situation for the next 30 40 50 years and the answer
[02:05:52] the next 30 40 50 years and the answer answer in all honesty has to be no
[02:05:55] answer in all honesty has to be no because it's probably not going to get
[02:05:56] because it's probably not going to get any better people love their suffering
[02:05:58] any better people love their suffering they hate to give up their suffering so
[02:06:00] they hate to give up their suffering so what we've devised is a very simple bit
[02:06:01] what we've devised is a very simple bit of advice and this advice I just
[02:06:03] of advice and this advice I just recently discussed this with a
[02:06:05] recently discussed this with a Consulting psychologist and he said it's
[02:06:06] Consulting psychologist and he said it's the simplest advice he's ever heard to
[02:06:08] the simplest advice he's ever heard to give to people who need it it's when
[02:06:10] give to people who need it it's when somebody comes up to you and wants to
[02:06:11] somebody comes up to you and wants to talk to you about their problems you say
[02:06:14] talk to you about their problems you say yes and you be sympathetic and
[02:06:15] yes and you be sympathetic and empathetic it's very good to hear people
[02:06:17] empathetic it's very good to hear people and let them talk about their problems
[02:06:19] and let them talk about their problems except there are some people who do
[02:06:20] except there are some people who do nothing but talk about their problems
[02:06:21] nothing but talk about their problems every time you see them they talk about
[02:06:22] every time you see them they talk about their problems very often they talk
[02:06:23] their problems very often they talk about the same things they talked about
[02:06:25] about the same things they talked about last time what you do is you say yes I
[02:06:27] last time what you do is you say yes I hear what you say and I'm I'm very
[02:06:29] hear what you say and I'm I'm very sympathetic however you're responsible
[02:06:31] sympathetic however you're responsible for your own life you are responsible
[02:06:33] for your own life you are responsible what are you going to do about it you
[02:06:35] what are you going to do about it you are responsible for your own life what
[02:06:37] are responsible for your own life what are you going to do about
[02:06:39] are you going to do about it now what will happen is this is that
[02:06:42] it now what will happen is this is that your good friends will
[02:06:44] your good friends will say yes you're right I am responsible I
[02:06:46] say yes you're right I am responsible I have to make a change I have to do
[02:06:47] have to make a change I have to do something about it and they'll go out
[02:06:49] something about it and they'll go out and they'll do it as a matter of fact
[02:06:51] and they'll do it as a matter of fact they'll come they'll lay out all their
[02:06:52] they'll come they'll lay out all their problems to you and all you say to them
[02:06:54] problems to you and all you say to them is this you say well what do you think
[02:06:56] is this you say well what do you think you should do about it now your good
[02:06:59] you should do about it now your good friends can use that conversational time
[02:07:01] friends can use that conversational time to get their own thoughts in line to
[02:07:04] to get their own thoughts in line to come up with their own conclusions and
[02:07:05] come up with their own conclusions and go out and they don't need your advice
[02:07:06] go out and they don't need your advice most people don't need advice there's an
[02:07:08] most people don't need advice there's an old saying that says that don't worry
[02:07:10] old saying that says that don't worry about the universal propensity to give
[02:07:12] about the universal propensity to give advice because the propensity to ignore
[02:07:14] advice because the propensity to ignore it is equally Universal people don't
[02:07:16] it is equally Universal people don't need advice sometimes they just need a
[02:07:17] need advice sometimes they just need a sounding board however there are some
[02:07:19] sounding board however there are some people who don't have any intentions of
[02:07:21] people who don't have any intentions of doing anything about their problems all
[02:07:23] doing anything about their problems all they want to do is they want to use
[02:07:24] they want to do is they want to use their problems as an excuse to get you
[02:07:28] their problems as an excuse to get you to talk about them you understand that
[02:07:31] to talk about them you understand that it's a very common neurotic tendency in
[02:07:33] it's a very common neurotic tendency in our society is to use your problems as
[02:07:35] our society is to use your problems as the basis for the discussion here's my
[02:07:37] the basis for the discussion here's my problems lets you and me talk about them
[02:07:40] problems lets you and me talk about them and the person in himself or herself has
[02:07:42] and the person in himself or herself has no interest in you at all all they have
[02:07:45] no interest in you at all all they have an interest in is having you listen as a
[02:07:47] an interest in is having you listen as a matter of fact we say this as a as as a
[02:07:50] matter of fact we say this as a as as a joke we say that this is what these
[02:07:51] joke we say that this is what these people look like is these people look
[02:07:53] people look like is these people look upon you as being a person and this is
[02:07:56] upon you as being a person and this is your face and this is your eyes and
[02:07:59] your face and this is your eyes and these are your
[02:08:02] these are your ears see and here is your eyes
[02:08:05] ears see and here is your eyes preferably wide open and sympathetic
[02:08:07] preferably wide open and sympathetic here's your mouth preferably shut and
[02:08:10] here's your mouth preferably shut and here's your ears preferably wide open
[02:08:13] here's your ears preferably wide open these people don't even look upon you as
[02:08:15] these people don't even look upon you as a person they don't care about your
[02:08:16] a person they don't care about your problems at all all they care about is
[02:08:18] problems at all all they care about is you sitting there listening and nodding
[02:08:20] you sitting there listening and nodding sympathetically and giving them advice
[02:08:22] sympathetically and giving them advice which they have no intention whatever of
[02:08:24] which they have no intention whatever of following when you run into people like
[02:08:26] following when you run into people like this it's a very simple way to test the
[02:08:28] this it's a very simple way to test the friendship just start talking about
[02:08:30] friendship just start talking about yourself say well you know I'm really
[02:08:32] yourself say well you know I'm really glad you brought your problems to me
[02:08:33] glad you brought your problems to me because I've got some problems of my own
[02:08:34] because I've got some problems of my own and I like to discuss my life with you
[02:08:36] and I like to discuss my life with you you will find these people will run for
[02:08:38] you will find these people will run for the door they'll watch their watch
[02:08:39] the door they'll watch their watch they've got an appointment they'll take
[02:08:41] they've got an appointment they'll take off so fast you can't imagine all right
[02:08:43] off so fast you can't imagine all right now one final point and this is critical
[02:08:45] now one final point and this is critical it's absolutely critical to the whole
[02:08:47] it's absolutely critical to the whole subject it's the wrap-up point if you
[02:08:49] subject it's the wrap-up point if you like it's this if is that when we start
[02:08:52] like it's this if is that when we start talking about giving up negative
[02:08:53] talking about giving up negative emotions almost everybody says yes I
[02:08:55] emotions almost everybody says yes I agree what you say is true it makes
[02:08:58] agree what you say is true it makes sense to me Brian and I am going to give
[02:09:00] sense to me Brian and I am going to give up my negative emotions I am going to
[02:09:02] up my negative emotions I am going to accept responsibility I am going to take
[02:09:04] accept responsibility I am going to take charge of my life and I'm not going to
[02:09:05] charge of my life and I'm not going to blame anybody else anymore except for
[02:09:09] blame anybody else anymore except for one everybody has one that they're not
[02:09:13] one everybody has one that they're not going to part with everybody has that
[02:09:15] going to part with everybody has that favorite negative emotion that they've
[02:09:16] favorite negative emotion that they've been paying for and holding on to for
[02:09:19] been paying for and holding on to for years now let me tell you why it's so
[02:09:21] years now let me tell you why it's so important that you give it up here's a
[02:09:23] important that you give it up here's a car imagine this a beautiful Mercedes
[02:09:25] car imagine this a beautiful Mercedes automobile brand new from the factory
[02:09:28] automobile brand new from the factory absolutely spitting
[02:09:30] absolutely spitting 560 seel
[02:09:33] 560 seel $55,000 beautiful vehicle tested in
[02:09:35] $55,000 beautiful vehicle tested in every aspect absolutely perfect it's
[02:09:37] every aspect absolutely perfect it's given to you without a flaw except for
[02:09:41] given to you without a flaw except for one this is the front of the automobile
[02:09:44] one this is the front of the automobile and there's one small problem is that
[02:09:46] and there's one small problem is that for some mechanical reason this brake is
[02:09:50] for some mechanical reason this brake is locked on
[02:09:53] now you get into this beautiful Mercedes
[02:09:55] now you get into this beautiful Mercedes Just As You Are Beautiful Mind beautiful
[02:09:57] Just As You Are Beautiful Mind beautiful body beautiful potential incredible
[02:09:59] body beautiful potential incredible capability you get into this beautiful
[02:10:01] capability you get into this beautiful Mercedes and you start it up and you
[02:10:02] Mercedes and you start it up and you step on the gas and what happens well if
[02:10:06] step on the gas and what happens well if the front brake is locked on what will
[02:10:08] the front brake is locked on what will happen to the car no matter how hard you
[02:10:10] happen to the car no matter how hard you step on the gas what will happen to the
[02:10:11] step on the gas what will happen to the car what will happen is that the car
[02:10:14] car what will happen is that the car will spin it'll go around in circles
[02:10:17] will spin it'll go around in circles it'll Spin and it will go around in
[02:10:18] it'll Spin and it will go around in circles until you stop stepping on the
[02:10:20] circles until you stop stepping on the gas and you get give up as long as that
[02:10:22] gas and you get give up as long as that front Brak is locked on you can't go
[02:10:25] front Brak is locked on you can't go anywhere what I found was this is that
[02:10:28] anywhere what I found was this is that the existence of just one negative
[02:10:30] the existence of just one negative emotion that you will not let go of for
[02:10:33] emotion that you will not let go of for whatever reason and the reason is always
[02:10:35] whatever reason and the reason is always an ego reason the reason it always has
[02:10:38] an ego reason the reason it always has to do with your own ego will cause you
[02:10:41] to do with your own ego will cause you to stay in the same place and spin your
[02:10:44] to stay in the same place and spin your wheels and go in circles for the rest of
[02:10:47] wheels and go in circles for the rest of your life that you all know people who
[02:10:50] your life that you all know people who are talented who have opport unities
[02:10:51] are talented who have opport unities good educations and so on and so forth
[02:10:53] good educations and so on and so forth and their life just goes around in
[02:10:56] and their life just goes around in circles they just seem to be spinning
[02:10:58] circles they just seem to be spinning they've got everything going for them
[02:10:59] they've got everything going for them and they just continually have problems
[02:11:02] and they just continually have problems why is it almost invariably and this is
[02:11:04] why is it almost invariably and this is what all psychoanalysis does all
[02:11:06] what all psychoanalysis does all Psychotherapy is they've got one
[02:11:08] Psychotherapy is they've got one negative emotion locked on and the
[02:11:09] negative emotion locked on and the negative emotion they have locked on is
[02:11:11] negative emotion they have locked on is blame there is somebody that they are
[02:11:14] blame there is somebody that they are still blaming for something there's
[02:11:15] still blaming for something there's somebody that they are not going to let
[02:11:17] somebody that they are not going to let off the hook because that son of a gun
[02:11:19] off the hook because that son of a gun did something to them you know what I'm
[02:11:21] did something to them you know what I'm talking about you know what I'm talking
[02:11:23] talking about you know what I'm talking about because we're all in the same boat
[02:11:25] about because we're all in the same boat we're all human beings the reason this
[02:11:27] we're all human beings the reason this makes sense to you and I is because we
[02:11:30] makes sense to you and I is because we do have a tendency to fall in love with
[02:11:32] do have a tendency to fall in love with our suffering we do have a tendency to
[02:11:33] our suffering we do have a tendency to gunny sack and to think that part of our
[02:11:36] gunny sack and to think that part of our humanity is all these negative emotions
[02:11:38] humanity is all these negative emotions we do have a tendency to see that other
[02:11:41] we do have a tendency to see that other people are responsible other people have
[02:11:42] people are responsible other people have hurt us they did cost us money they did
[02:11:45] hurt us they did cost us money they did hurt us in a relationship but the key to
[02:11:48] hurt us in a relationship but the key to Peak Performance the key to happiness
[02:11:51] Peak Performance the key to happiness the the key to success is to use the law
[02:11:53] the the key to success is to use the law of substitution and knock those negative
[02:11:56] of substitution and knock those negative emotions out of the box by the very
[02:11:58] emotions out of the box by the very first time you think of anything that
[02:12:00] first time you think of anything that causes you any stress you say I am
[02:12:02] causes you any stress you say I am responsible wait a minute I am
[02:12:04] responsible wait a minute I am responsible I am responsible I am
[02:12:07] responsible I am responsible I am responsible I like myself and I am
[02:12:09] responsible I like myself and I am responsible I like myself and I am
[02:12:12] responsible I like myself and I am responsible and nothing outside of me is
[02:12:14] responsible and nothing outside of me is going to disrupt my peace of mind I am
[02:12:17] going to disrupt my peace of mind I am in charge of my emotional life I am
[02:12:20] in charge of my emotional life I am responsible
[02:12:22] responsible you are
[02:12:33] responsible session seven releasing your
[02:12:36] responsible session seven releasing your breakes when I began studying negative
[02:12:38] breakes when I began studying negative emotions many years ago the most
[02:12:40] emotions many years ago the most critical point I discovered was that you
[02:12:42] critical point I discovered was that you cannot make any progress toward health
[02:12:45] cannot make any progress toward health happiness love and fulfillment of your
[02:12:47] happiness love and fulfillment of your potential as long as you insist on
[02:12:50] potential as long as you insist on keeping your negative emotions intact
[02:12:52] keeping your negative emotions intact now the only good thing about negative
[02:12:54] now the only good thing about negative emotions if there is any good thing at
[02:12:56] emotions if there is any good thing at all is that negative emotions are not
[02:12:58] all is that negative emotions are not permanent even according to Sigman Freud
[02:13:00] permanent even according to Sigman Freud there is no permanent place for negative
[02:13:02] there is no permanent place for negative emotions in the subconscious in other
[02:13:04] emotions in the subconscious in other words they are unwanted visitors they
[02:13:07] words they are unwanted visitors they are negative habits or negative response
[02:13:09] are negative habits or negative response patterns that can be eliminated and the
[02:13:11] patterns that can be eliminated and the starting point of eliminating them is
[02:13:13] starting point of eliminating them is understanding where they came from
[02:13:15] understanding where they came from understanding what were the causitive
[02:13:16] understanding what were the causitive factors going back to Early Childhood
[02:13:19] factors going back to Early Childhood that have triggered the development of
[02:13:20] that have triggered the development of negative emotions and have given us as
[02:13:22] negative emotions and have given us as adults a propensity to be negative in
[02:13:25] adults a propensity to be negative in one way or another that takes us to
[02:13:28] one way or another that takes us to Early Childhood conditioning remember we
[02:13:31] Early Childhood conditioning remember we said before that the starting point of
[02:13:34] said before that the starting point of inhibitive and compulsive negative habit
[02:13:36] inhibitive and compulsive negative habit patterns was destructive criticism
[02:13:39] patterns was destructive criticism destructive
[02:13:40] destructive criticism is the great Destroyer
[02:13:43] criticism is the great Destroyer destructive
[02:13:44] destructive criticism destroys people on the inside
[02:13:47] criticism destroys people on the inside and leaves them walking around on the
[02:13:48] and leaves them walking around on the outside more personalities have been
[02:13:50] outside more personalities have been under and destroyed more self-esteem has
[02:13:53] under and destroyed more self-esteem has been cast aside as a result of
[02:13:56] been cast aside as a result of destructive criticism than anything that
[02:13:58] destructive criticism than anything that else that we can possibly imagine so
[02:13:59] else that we can possibly imagine so destructive criticism is the great
[02:14:01] destructive criticism is the great killer now why is it so bad well we know
[02:14:03] killer now why is it so bad well we know that children as infants children as
[02:14:06] that children as infants children as they're growing up have a tremendous
[02:14:08] they're growing up have a tremendous need for love and approval from their
[02:14:10] need for love and approval from their parents in fact many psychiatrists and
[02:14:12] parents in fact many psychiatrists and psychologists have said that the number
[02:14:13] psychologists have said that the number one reason for mental illness in
[02:14:15] one reason for mental illness in adulthood is withdrawal of Love or love
[02:14:19] adulthood is withdrawal of Love or love withheld we know that any prestigious
[02:14:22] withheld we know that any prestigious person any person who is important to a
[02:14:24] person any person who is important to a child has an inordinate impact on that
[02:14:27] child has an inordinate impact on that child and that children up to the age of
[02:14:29] child and that children up to the age of 6
[02:14:31] 6 years have very little ability to
[02:14:34] years have very little ability to discriminate between valid and invalid
[02:14:37] discriminate between valid and invalid criticism what this means is that
[02:14:39] criticism what this means is that anything that a parent or an older
[02:14:41] anything that a parent or an older sibling or an older relative anything
[02:14:44] sibling or an older relative anything that a a prestigious person or important
[02:14:46] that a a prestigious person or important person says to a child is accepted as
[02:14:49] person says to a child is accepted as true it's accepted it as a valid
[02:14:52] true it's accepted it as a valid representation of reality if a mother
[02:14:54] representation of reality if a mother says you're a bad boy if a daddy says
[02:14:56] says you're a bad boy if a daddy says you're lazy if uh someone says that
[02:14:59] you're lazy if uh someone says that you're not Dependable if someone says
[02:15:00] you're not Dependable if someone says you're stupid or you're clumsy or you're
[02:15:02] you're stupid or you're clumsy or you're ugly the child has no capacity whatever
[02:15:06] ugly the child has no capacity whatever to discriminate between valid and
[02:15:08] to discriminate between valid and invalid the child accepts that as a true
[02:15:11] invalid the child accepts that as a true representation of reality it bypasses
[02:15:14] representation of reality it bypasses the conscious mind goes straight into
[02:15:15] the conscious mind goes straight into the subconscious and is stored many of
[02:15:18] the subconscious and is stored many of us as adults are still living on the
[02:15:21] us as adults are still living on the basis of negative information that was
[02:15:23] basis of negative information that was programmed into us when we were children
[02:15:26] programmed into us when we were children and then as adults what do we say we say
[02:15:28] and then as adults what do we say we say well that's just the way I am or I've
[02:15:30] well that's just the way I am or I've always been that way or some people even
[02:15:31] always been that way or some people even say Well it runs in the family your
[02:15:33] say Well it runs in the family your father was like that children are like
[02:15:34] father was like that children are like that or your mother was like that and so
[02:15:36] that or your mother was like that and so on but where did it come from none of
[02:15:38] on but where did it come from none of these things run in the family for
[02:15:41] these things run in the family for instance when I was growing up my
[02:15:42] instance when I was growing up my parents had gone through the depression
[02:15:44] parents had gone through the depression and the Depression had made an
[02:15:45] and the Depression had made an inordinate impact on them so whenever we
[02:15:47] inordinate impact on them so whenever we talked about buying anything all the
[02:15:49] talked about buying anything all the time I was growing up my parents would
[02:15:51] time I was growing up my parents would become very very tense and they said we
[02:15:52] become very very tense and they said we can't afford it we can't afford it we
[02:15:54] can't afford it we can't afford it we can't afford it we can't afford it they
[02:15:56] can't afford it we can't afford it they had this lack mentality this we can't
[02:15:59] had this lack mentality this we can't afford it mentality all their lives and
[02:16:01] afford it mentality all their lives and I grew up so even though I've never
[02:16:03] I grew up so even though I've never experienced the depression and you've
[02:16:04] experienced the depression and you've never experienced the depression in most
[02:16:05] never experienced the depression in most cases 10 20 30 40 years later we're
[02:16:07] cases 10 20 30 40 years later we're still saying I can't afford it I can't
[02:16:09] still saying I can't afford it I can't afford it I can't afford it we're still
[02:16:11] afford it I can't afford it we're still going on the basis of those critical
[02:16:14] going on the basis of those critical remarks those emotionalized remarks that
[02:16:16] remarks those emotionalized remarks that our parents said may maybe your parents
[02:16:18] our parents said may maybe your parents said as my father told me over and over
[02:16:20] said as my father told me over and over again you never finish anything you
[02:16:21] again you never finish anything you start you never finish anything you
[02:16:22] start you never finish anything you start you never finish anything you
[02:16:24] start you never finish anything you start or you're lazy you never finish
[02:16:26] start or you're lazy you never finish anything you start do you know when I
[02:16:27] anything you start do you know when I was an adult I had a terrible time
[02:16:29] was an adult I had a terrible time finishing things that I started as I
[02:16:31] finishing things that I started as I would get close to the end of a task I
[02:16:33] would get close to the end of a task I would actually begin to seize up and
[02:16:34] would actually begin to seize up and look for every single excuse to
[02:16:37] look for every single excuse to procrastinate and delay now the second
[02:16:40] procrastinate and delay now the second factor that predisposes us to negative
[02:16:42] factor that predisposes us to negative emotions is lack of
[02:16:45] emotions is lack of love we know that children's
[02:16:47] love we know that children's personalities develop to the degree to
[02:16:49] personalities develop to the degree to which they receive a high quality and a
[02:16:51] which they receive a high quality and a high quantity of love from their parents
[02:16:54] high quantity of love from their parents there's a onetoone relationship between
[02:16:56] there's a onetoone relationship between the amount of love the quality and
[02:16:58] the amount of love the quality and quantity of love and healthy personality
[02:17:00] quantity of love and healthy personality that love withdrawn or deprivation of
[02:17:02] that love withdrawn or deprivation of Love is the key cause of unhappiness
[02:17:05] Love is the key cause of unhappiness negativity and mental illness adulthood
[02:17:08] negativity and mental illness adulthood now in order for a child to feel truly
[02:17:10] now in order for a child to feel truly loved the child must have High
[02:17:12] loved the child must have High self-concept parents and most of us
[02:17:14] self-concept parents and most of us unfortunately had parents that were the
[02:17:16] unfortunately had parents that were the victims of their parents and the victims
[02:17:18] victims of their parents and the victims of their parents what one of the writers
[02:17:20] of their parents what one of the writers say everybody is Vic is a victim of a
[02:17:22] say everybody is Vic is a victim of a victim we are all victims of victims in
[02:17:25] victim we are all victims of victims in other words parents meant to raise us
[02:17:27] other words parents meant to raise us the best way they could but they were
[02:17:29] the best way they could but they were victims of victims themselves now in
[02:17:31] victims of victims themselves now in order for a child to feel fully loved
[02:17:33] order for a child to feel fully loved three conditions have to exist number
[02:17:36] three conditions have to exist number one condition is that parents must love
[02:17:39] one condition is that parents must love themselves parents must love themselves
[02:17:41] themselves parents must love themselves remember you can never give any more
[02:17:43] remember you can never give any more love to others than you have for
[02:17:46] love to others than you have for yourself if you don't love yourself you
[02:17:48] yourself if you don't love yourself you can't love your children if you have a
[02:17:49] can't love your children if you have a little bit of love for yourself you have
[02:17:50] little bit of love for yourself you have have to spread it over your children if
[02:17:52] have to spread it over your children if you have a little bit of love for
[02:17:53] you have a little bit of love for yourself and that's all taken up by your
[02:17:55] yourself and that's all taken up by your husband or your wife then sometimes even
[02:17:57] husband or your wife then sometimes even though you want to love your children
[02:18:00] though you want to love your children you don't have the love even if your
[02:18:01] you don't have the love even if your parents wanted to love you in many cases
[02:18:03] parents wanted to love you in many cases they didn't have the love to give why
[02:18:05] they didn't have the love to give why it's because they never got it when they
[02:18:06] it's because they never got it when they were growing up the second requirement
[02:18:09] were growing up the second requirement is that parents must love each
[02:18:13] is that parents must love each other in order for a child to grow up
[02:18:16] other in order for a child to grow up feeling self-confident to grow up
[02:18:18] feeling self-confident to grow up feeling loved to grow up feeling safe
[02:18:20] feeling loved to grow up feeling safe and secure
[02:18:21] and secure he or she must grow up in an environment
[02:18:23] he or she must grow up in an environment where the parents love each other there
[02:18:25] where the parents love each other there is nothing that is more frightening to a
[02:18:27] is nothing that is more frightening to a child than to grow up in a household
[02:18:29] child than to grow up in a household where the parents are fighting with each
[02:18:31] where the parents are fighting with each other where the parents don't love each
[02:18:33] other where the parents don't love each other where there's difficulty because
[02:18:35] other where there's difficulty because the child always has a tendency first of
[02:18:37] the child always has a tendency first of all to be a victim and that the child is
[02:18:39] all to be a victim and that the child is shouted at and screamed at and the child
[02:18:41] shouted at and screamed at and the child believes that the reason my mommy and
[02:18:42] believes that the reason my mommy and daddy are fighting is it's my fault now
[02:18:46] daddy are fighting is it's my fault now interesting research since there are so
[02:18:47] interesting research since there are so many single parent families today
[02:18:49] many single parent families today interesting research shows that when one
[02:18:51] interesting research shows that when one of the parents leaves as a result of a
[02:18:53] of the parents leaves as a result of a separation or a divorce the remaining CH
[02:18:56] separation or a divorce the remaining CH child or children are invariably
[02:18:58] child or children are invariably convinced that the reason the other
[02:19:00] convinced that the reason the other parent left was because of something
[02:19:03] parent left was because of something they did and it's critical if a marriage
[02:19:05] they did and it's critical if a marriage or a relationship is going to end and
[02:19:07] or a relationship is going to end and one is going to leave that the remaining
[02:19:10] one is going to leave that the remaining parent tell the children over and over
[02:19:13] parent tell the children over and over again that the reason the relationship
[02:19:15] again that the reason the relationship didn't work out has nothing to do with
[02:19:17] didn't work out has nothing to do with you it has only to do with me and Daddy
[02:19:20] you it has only to do with me and Daddy or me and Mommy has nothing to do with
[02:19:22] or me and Mommy has nothing to do with the child the child needs to hear it
[02:19:24] the child the child needs to hear it many many times before the child feels
[02:19:27] many many times before the child feels confident and secure and of course it's
[02:19:28] confident and secure and of course it's always better that a child be raised in
[02:19:29] always better that a child be raised in a home with one parent that loves them
[02:19:31] a home with one parent that loves them rather than two parents that don't love
[02:19:32] rather than two parents that don't love each other now the third condition that
[02:19:35] each other now the third condition that must be fulfilled if lack of love is not
[02:19:37] must be fulfilled if lack of love is not to exist is that parents must love the
[02:19:41] to exist is that parents must love the child parents must love the
[02:19:44] child parents must love the child well this seems pretty obvious I
[02:19:46] child well this seems pretty obvious I mean seems pretty logical the fact of
[02:19:48] mean seems pretty logical the fact of the matter is though and this is the
[02:19:50] the matter is though and this is the hardest thing for you or I as adults
[02:19:52] hardest thing for you or I as adults even to think about but it is possible
[02:19:55] even to think about but it is possible that our parents didn't love us not that
[02:19:58] that our parents didn't love us not that they didn't intend to I mean they meant
[02:19:59] they didn't intend to I mean they meant to love us and they wanted to love us
[02:20:01] to love us and they wanted to love us and they had us intending to love us and
[02:20:02] and they had us intending to love us and so on but simply because they had
[02:20:05] so on but simply because they had conflicts with each other and they had
[02:20:06] conflicts with each other and they had unresolved problems with their parents
[02:20:08] unresolved problems with their parents and they had the war and the depression
[02:20:09] and they had the war and the depression and they had their careers and they had
[02:20:11] and they had their careers and they had other responsibilities they just never
[02:20:14] other responsibilities they just never got around to it you see that was the
[02:20:16] got around to it you see that was the difficulty they meant to but they never
[02:20:17] difficulty they meant to but they never got around to it the only way that you
[02:20:19] got around to it the only way that you can really love a child is by spending a
[02:20:22] can really love a child is by spending a high
[02:20:25] quantity and high quality of time with
[02:20:28] quantity and high quality of time with the child High quantity high quality
[02:20:31] the child High quantity high quality with the
[02:20:33] with the child 10 minutes a day doesn't do it
[02:20:36] child 10 minutes a day doesn't do it children consider themselves valuable to
[02:20:38] children consider themselves valuable to the degree to which the most important
[02:20:40] the degree to which the most important people in their lives spend time with
[02:20:43] people in their lives spend time with them if the most important people in
[02:20:45] them if the most important people in their lives their parents only spend a
[02:20:47] their lives their parents only spend a little time with them the children
[02:20:48] little time with them the children conclude that the reason for that is
[02:20:50] conclude that the reason for that is because they are defective there is
[02:20:52] because they are defective there is something essentially wrong with them
[02:20:54] something essentially wrong with them and that's why their parents don't spend
[02:20:56] and that's why their parents don't spend time with them parent the children don't
[02:20:57] time with them parent the children don't think rationally they think purely
[02:20:58] think rationally they think purely emotionally they only think if the
[02:21:00] emotionally they only think if the parent is here he loves me or she loves
[02:21:02] parent is here he loves me or she loves me if the parent doesn't spend time with
[02:21:03] me if the parent doesn't spend time with me he or she doesn't love me so if any
[02:21:06] me he or she doesn't love me so if any one of those three conditions or more
[02:21:08] one of those three conditions or more existed when you were growing up the
[02:21:10] existed when you were growing up the parents didn't love themselves the
[02:21:11] parents didn't love themselves the parents didn't love each other or maybe
[02:21:13] parents didn't love each other or maybe the parents didn't love you because they
[02:21:14] the parents didn't love you because they never got around to it although they
[02:21:16] never got around to it although they meant to then you will have grown up in
[02:21:19] meant to then you will have grown up in conjunction with destructive criticism
[02:21:20] conjunction with destructive criticism with what is called
[02:21:22] with what is called guilt now what is guilt well guilt is a
[02:21:25] guilt now what is guilt well guilt is a feeling of not being worth very much
[02:21:29] feeling of not being worth very much where do we get this feeling well when
[02:21:30] where do we get this feeling well when we're continually criticized by the
[02:21:32] we're continually criticized by the important people in our lives and
[02:21:34] important people in our lives and simultaneously we are not given the
[02:21:35] simultaneously we are not given the amount of love that we need we feel that
[02:21:37] amount of love that we need we feel that we're not worth very much we feel that
[02:21:39] we're not worth very much we feel that we are worth less and a feeling of guilt
[02:21:44] we are worth less and a feeling of guilt leads to a feeling of
[02:21:47] leads to a feeling of worthlessness worthlessness
[02:21:51] worthlessness worthlessness and guilt the feeling of worthlessness
[02:21:53] and guilt the feeling of worthlessness is the underlying fundamental problem of
[02:21:57] is the underlying fundamental problem of the 20th century it is the main source
[02:21:59] the 20th century it is the main source of mental illness it is the main source
[02:22:01] of mental illness it is the main source of problems in relationships it's the
[02:22:03] of problems in relationships it's the main source of psychosomatic illness it
[02:22:05] main source of psychosomatic illness it is the main source of most of the
[02:22:07] is the main source of most of the problems that beset our society is this
[02:22:09] problems that beset our society is this deep down feeling of guilt and
[02:22:11] deep down feeling of guilt and worthlessness which is expressed or
[02:22:13] worthlessness which is expressed or unexpressed in the thought or the
[02:22:15] unexpressed in the thought or the attitude I'm not good enough I'm not
[02:22:19] attitude I'm not good enough I'm not good enough I'm not good enough you know
[02:22:23] good enough I'm not good enough you know we talked about self-esteem and how
[02:22:24] we talked about self-esteem and how important it was self-esteem means I
[02:22:26] important it was self-esteem means I like myself I like myself I like myself
[02:22:29] like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself people who've been raised
[02:22:31] I like myself people who've been raised with destructive criticism and lack of
[02:22:32] with destructive criticism and lack of life not only don't like themselves they
[02:22:35] life not only don't like themselves they don't feel that they're good enough for
[02:22:36] don't feel that they're good enough for anybody or anything and in many cases
[02:22:39] anybody or anything and in many cases they are plagued by self-hatred they
[02:22:42] they are plagued by self-hatred they hate themselves self-hatred or self-
[02:22:45] hate themselves self-hatred or self- condemnation and you will see this will
[02:22:47] condemnation and you will see this will come out in their conversation and it
[02:22:49] come out in their conversation and it will come out in their relationship ship
[02:22:50] will come out in their relationship ship with other people people who hate
[02:22:52] with other people people who hate themselves even though they want to have
[02:22:54] themselves even though they want to have good relationships with other people are
[02:22:55] good relationships with other people are simply not capable of it people who
[02:22:57] simply not capable of it people who don't feel that they're good enough for
[02:22:58] don't feel that they're good enough for anything will always bring it to the
[02:23:00] anything will always bring it to the surface it will always be a problem now
[02:23:02] surface it will always be a problem now what is the main reasons for Guilt
[02:23:04] what is the main reasons for Guilt actually where do guilt where does guilt
[02:23:05] actually where do guilt where does guilt come from guilt comes from three
[02:23:06] come from guilt comes from three negative sources negative
[02:23:09] negative sources negative parents negative influences or negative
[02:23:12] parents negative influences or negative religion one of the three any one of the
[02:23:15] religion one of the three any one of the three uses guilt and guilt is used or
[02:23:17] three uses guilt and guilt is used or practiced especially by parents and by
[02:23:20] practiced especially by parents and by some religious denominations for two
[02:23:22] some religious denominations for two reasons one is
[02:23:24] reasons one is punishment guilt is used to punish us
[02:23:27] punishment guilt is used to punish us when we're growing up it's the easiest
[02:23:30] when we're growing up it's the easiest way to punish a person is to make them
[02:23:32] way to punish a person is to make them feel bad so our parents make us feel bad
[02:23:35] feel bad so our parents make us feel bad by physically punishing us or by
[02:23:37] by physically punishing us or by verbally abusing us and punishment is a
[02:23:39] verbally abusing us and punishment is a very good way to gain conformance
[02:23:42] very good way to gain conformance punishment is a very good way to get
[02:23:43] punishment is a very good way to get people to do what you want the second
[02:23:45] people to do what you want the second reason why guilt is used when it's
[02:23:47] reason why guilt is used when it's consciously practiced and some
[02:23:49] consciously practiced and some organizations practice it consciously is
[02:23:51] organizations practice it consciously is for control emotional control especially
[02:23:54] for control emotional control especially because if you can emotionally control a
[02:23:56] because if you can emotionally control a person with guilt you can manipulate
[02:23:58] person with guilt you can manipulate their behavior and there are many
[02:24:00] their behavior and there are many organizations that use guilt as a tool
[02:24:03] organizations that use guilt as a tool of control and manipulation if you can
[02:24:05] of control and manipulation if you can control people strongly enough
[02:24:07] control people strongly enough especially emotionally you can get their
[02:24:09] especially emotionally you can get their money you can get their time you can get
[02:24:11] money you can get their time you can get their commitment you can demand their
[02:24:12] their commitment you can demand their resources and so on and many
[02:24:14] resources and so on and many organizations use punishment um use
[02:24:16] organizations use punishment um use guilt as a tool for D many of the
[02:24:18] guilt as a tool for D many of the Charities that advertise on television
[02:24:20] Charities that advertise on television especially Charities for very needy
[02:24:22] especially Charities for very needy causes involving children or disabled
[02:24:24] causes involving children or disabled people use the feeling of guilt you're
[02:24:27] people use the feeling of guilt you're doing so well you should feel guilty for
[02:24:29] doing so well you should feel guilty for these people who are suffering therefore
[02:24:31] these people who are suffering therefore send us some money and that will take
[02:24:33] send us some money and that will take care of your guilt for a little while
[02:24:35] care of your guilt for a little while until we get you on our mailing list and
[02:24:39] until we get you on our mailing list and and so on so guilt is a standard why is
[02:24:41] and so on so guilt is a standard why is it that guilt is so commonly used well
[02:24:43] it that guilt is so commonly used well first of all because almost all of us
[02:24:45] first of all because almost all of us have it to a greater or lesser degree
[02:24:46] have it to a greater or lesser degree and number two it's easy guilt is the
[02:24:48] and number two it's easy guilt is the easiest why does our parents use guilt
[02:24:50] easiest why does our parents use guilt on us why do our mothers use guilt on us
[02:24:52] on us why do our mothers use guilt on us because a mother can control us with
[02:24:54] because a mother can control us with guilt across a crowded room she can
[02:24:56] guilt across a crowded room she can control us over a th miles of telephone
[02:24:58] control us over a th miles of telephone line parents can use guilt on their
[02:25:01] line parents can use guilt on their children because their parents use guilt
[02:25:03] children because their parents use guilt on them when their parents use guilt on
[02:25:05] on them when their parents use guilt on them because it's the easiest there's no
[02:25:06] them because it's the easiest there's no physical effort you can do it with a
[02:25:08] physical effort you can do it with a look a glance and a word and people
[02:25:10] look a glance and a word and people always do the easiest thing as you know
[02:25:12] always do the easiest thing as you know so be alert to it now if you've been
[02:25:14] so be alert to it now if you've been brought up in an environment where
[02:25:16] brought up in an environment where you've been made to feel
[02:25:19] you've been made to feel guilty and and almost all of us have you
[02:25:21] guilty and and almost all of us have you must understand that guilt is like a
[02:25:24] must understand that guilt is like a cesspool of negative emotional bacteria
[02:25:27] cesspool of negative emotional bacteria that sits at the core or the root of
[02:25:29] that sits at the core or the root of your psyche or your subconscious and it
[02:25:32] your psyche or your subconscious and it Springs forth all other negative
[02:25:34] Springs forth all other negative emotions anger hatred Envy resentment uh
[02:25:37] emotions anger hatred Envy resentment uh uh frustration uh and uh doubt and fear
[02:25:41] uh frustration uh and uh doubt and fear and so on and so forth it controls it it
[02:25:43] and so on and so forth it controls it it creates them all and the way to really
[02:25:46] creates them all and the way to really really get rid of that core is to excise
[02:25:48] really get rid of that core is to excise it and cut it out completely so that's
[02:25:50] it and cut it out completely so that's what we're going to do in the rest of
[02:25:51] what we're going to do in the rest of this session first of all how can you
[02:25:53] this session first of all how can you tell if you've been brought up with
[02:25:55] tell if you've been brought up with feelings of guilt all right we'll call
[02:25:57] feelings of guilt all right we'll call this the adult manifestations of
[02:25:59] this the adult manifestations of guilt adult manifestations of guilt you
[02:26:03] guilt adult manifestations of guilt you can tell and you can just test yourself
[02:26:05] can tell and you can just test yourself how many of these do you
[02:26:09] have number one adult manifestation of
[02:26:13] have number one adult manifestation of guilt is you have feelings of
[02:26:17] inferiority feelings of inferiority
[02:26:19] inferiority feelings of inferiority feeling of
[02:26:23] inadequacy and feelings of
[02:26:25] inadequacy and feelings of undeservingness in other words you don't
[02:26:27] undeservingness in other words you don't feel that you deserve good things to
[02:26:29] feel that you deserve good things to happen to
[02:26:31] you if a person has been brought up with
[02:26:34] you if a person has been brought up with destructive criticism made to feel
[02:26:35] destructive criticism made to feel guilty then when they do succeed even
[02:26:38] guilty then when they do succeed even with tremendous effort later on in life
[02:26:39] with tremendous effort later on in life they have a terrible tendency to feel
[02:26:42] they have a terrible tendency to feel that they don't deserve it this is
[02:26:43] that they don't deserve it this is called by the way fear of
[02:26:46] called by the way fear of success fear of success is just another
[02:26:48] success fear of success is just another way of saying that a person who has
[02:26:49] way of saying that a person who has beened I condition to believe themselves
[02:26:51] beened I condition to believe themselves to be unworthy or not good
[02:26:53] to be unworthy or not good enough feels very very uncomfortable
[02:26:56] enough feels very very uncomfortable when they experience success they feel
[02:26:58] when they experience success they feel very very tense and uneasy as a matter
[02:27:00] very very tense and uneasy as a matter of fact if they feel too much tension
[02:27:02] of fact if they feel too much tension they'll start snorting coke drinking too
[02:27:04] they'll start snorting coke drinking too much alcohol they'll engage in
[02:27:05] much alcohol they'll engage in self-destructive behaviors they'll have
[02:27:07] self-destructive behaviors they'll have a tremendous overwhelming feeling of
[02:27:11] a tremendous overwhelming feeling of anxiety like somebody's going to find
[02:27:13] anxiety like somebody's going to find them out there's a book on the book
[02:27:14] them out there's a book on the book stands it says if I'm doing so well how
[02:27:16] stands it says if I'm doing so well how come I feel like an imposter they have
[02:27:19] come I feel like an imposter they have what is called the imposter Syndrome
[02:27:21] what is called the imposter Syndrome have you ever been successful at
[02:27:23] have you ever been successful at something and people come up to you and
[02:27:24] something and people come up to you and say boy you did a great job at that or
[02:27:26] say boy you did a great job at that or that's wonderful even if you had worked
[02:27:28] that's wonderful even if you had worked hard hard hard at it and you felt like
[02:27:31] hard hard hard at it and you felt like they were going to find you out you felt
[02:27:33] they were going to find you out you felt like you know they would they would find
[02:27:34] like you know they would they would find out that you weren't really that good
[02:27:36] out that you weren't really that good that it was just a fluke it was just an
[02:27:38] that it was just a fluke it was just an accident and of course that's what
[02:27:39] accident and of course that's what people say they say it was just a fluke
[02:27:40] people say they say it was just a fluke it was just an accident you know I don't
[02:27:41] it was just an accident you know I don't know how it happened I'll blow it next
[02:27:43] know how it happened I'll blow it next time they do everything possible to get
[02:27:44] time they do everything possible to get away from this feeling of un inferiority
[02:27:47] away from this feeling of un inferiority and undeservingness so be alert to that
[02:27:50] and undeservingness so be alert to that now the
[02:27:51] now the second adult manifestation of guilt is
[02:27:54] second adult manifestation of guilt is destructive
[02:27:57] self-criticism there is a line
[02:28:01] from one of the poets that says those to
[02:28:04] from one of the poets that says those to whom evil is done do evil in return
[02:28:06] whom evil is done do evil in return children at a very early age sometimes
[02:28:08] children at a very early age sometimes at the age of two or three begin to run
[02:28:09] at the age of two or three begin to run themselves down tear themselves down
[02:28:11] themselves down tear themselves down even to hit themselves and pH physically
[02:28:13] even to hit themselves and pH physically punish themselves if they're criticized
[02:28:16] punish themselves if they're criticized enough they're always saying the
[02:28:17] enough they're always saying the equivalent of I'm not good enough or I'm
[02:28:19] equivalent of I'm not good enough or I'm not very good and they punish themselves
[02:28:21] not very good and they punish themselves so destructive self-criticism is a real
[02:28:24] so destructive self-criticism is a real symptom of an underlying feeling of
[02:28:27] symptom of an underlying feeling of guilt and inadequacy number three is
[02:28:30] guilt and inadequacy number three is easily manipulated by
[02:28:32] easily manipulated by guilt people can pull your guilt strings
[02:28:36] guilt people can pull your guilt strings very simple as a matter of fact we find
[02:28:39] very simple as a matter of fact we find that there are two types of people in
[02:28:40] that there are two types of people in the world there's guilt throwers and
[02:28:42] the world there's guilt throwers and there's guilt catchers and these people
[02:28:45] there's guilt catchers and these people are invariably attracted to each other
[02:28:47] are invariably attracted to each other and of course the guilt thrower is the
[02:28:49] and of course the guilt thrower is the person who I identified with a parent
[02:28:50] person who I identified with a parent who threw the guilt the guilt catcher is
[02:28:52] who threw the guilt the guilt catcher is the person who identified with a parent
[02:28:54] the person who identified with a parent who caught the guilt but the guilt
[02:28:56] who caught the guilt but the guilt throwers and the guilt catchers then get
[02:28:57] throwers and the guilt catchers then get together uh they balance nicely they
[02:29:00] together uh they balance nicely they settle down they raise new generations
[02:29:02] settle down they raise new generations of little guilt throwers and guilt
[02:29:03] of little guilt throwers and guilt catchers but you can tell that you're
[02:29:05] catchers but you can tell that you're easily manipulated by guilt uh because
[02:29:08] easily manipulated by guilt uh because you've been conditioned to be responded
[02:29:10] you've been conditioned to be responded to your boss can pull your guilt string
[02:29:12] to your boss can pull your guilt string a person on a bus can pull your guilt
[02:29:13] a person on a bus can pull your guilt string the airline uh flight attendant
[02:29:15] string the airline uh flight attendant can pull your guilt string and be very
[02:29:17] can pull your guilt string and be very very alert to this the third
[02:29:18] very alert to this the third manifestation or the fourth
[02:29:20] manifestation or the fourth manifestation of guilt is that you use
[02:29:22] manifestation of guilt is that you use it you use guilt and blame
[02:29:26] it you use guilt and blame generously why well it's been worked on
[02:29:29] generously why well it's been worked on you you work it on them I mean Fair
[02:29:31] you you work it on them I mean Fair exchange is is a fair deal you use guilt
[02:29:34] exchange is is a fair deal you use guilt and blame generously it becomes the
[02:29:35] and blame generously it becomes the basis of your relationships with other
[02:29:37] basis of your relationships with other people is when something goes wrong you
[02:29:39] people is when something goes wrong you pin the wrap on them something goes
[02:29:40] pin the wrap on them something goes wrong you blame someone instantly
[02:29:41] wrong you blame someone instantly there's a problem you look around to see
[02:29:43] there's a problem you look around to see who's to blame there's they did an
[02:29:44] who's to blame there's they did an interesting
[02:29:45] interesting experiment uh in Candid Camera a few
[02:29:48] experiment uh in Candid Camera a few years ago where they took and they put a
[02:29:50] years ago where they took and they put a patch of ice on a sidewalk where it
[02:29:52] patch of ice on a sidewalk where it shouldn't be it wasn't that cold but
[02:29:53] shouldn't be it wasn't that cold but they froze the ice and then they watched
[02:29:55] they froze the ice and then they watched how people would react as they walked
[02:29:57] how people would react as they walked along and they'd be walking along and
[02:29:59] along and they'd be walking along and they'd hit this patch of ice in it and
[02:30:01] they'd hit this patch of ice in it and they grab their balance and they thr
[02:30:02] they grab their balance and they thr around the first thing they do is they
[02:30:03] around the first thing they do is they look at the person closest to them and
[02:30:05] look at the person closest to them and they glare at them as if they're Furious
[02:30:07] they glare at them as if they're Furious in other words they looked at somebody
[02:30:09] in other words they looked at somebody to blame now if there wasn't anybody
[02:30:11] to blame now if there wasn't anybody within 10 or 15 ft they would get their
[02:30:14] within 10 or 15 ft they would get their balance back again they look around
[02:30:15] balance back again they look around there'd be nobody around them and they
[02:30:17] there'd be nobody around them and they kick the ground and stomp on the ground
[02:30:19] kick the ground and stomp on the ground and walk away you see our natural
[02:30:20] and walk away you see our natural tendency whenever anything goes wrong is
[02:30:23] tendency whenever anything goes wrong is to look for someone or something to
[02:30:24] to look for someone or something to blame especially if we've been brought
[02:30:25] blame especially if we've been brought up being blamed continuously and the
[02:30:28] up being blamed continuously and the fifth manifestation is what is called
[02:30:30] fifth manifestation is what is called victim
[02:30:31] victim language now remember we talked about
[02:30:33] language now remember we talked about the law of concentration says whatever
[02:30:35] the law of concentration says whatever you dwell upon grows It also says that
[02:30:37] you dwell upon grows It also says that if you use victim language you keep the
[02:30:39] if you use victim language you keep the guilt alive you reinforce it you build
[02:30:41] guilt alive you reinforce it you build it you grow it you fertilize it victim
[02:30:43] it you grow it you fertilize it victim language is language like I can't I
[02:30:46] language is language like I can't I can't I can't whenever you say I can't I
[02:30:48] can't I can't whenever you say I can't I can't I can't you're sending a message
[02:30:50] can't I can't you're sending a message to the subconscious mind the
[02:30:52] to the subconscious mind the subconscious mind picks up that you are
[02:30:54] subconscious mind picks up that you are helpless that you're not in control that
[02:30:56] helpless that you're not in control that you're a victim and so when you actually
[02:30:58] you're a victim and so when you actually come to want to do something the
[02:30:59] come to want to do something the subconscious mind just feeds back your
[02:31:01] subconscious mind just feeds back your own command and says you can't you can't
[02:31:04] own command and says you can't you can't the second thing is you say I have to I
[02:31:05] the second thing is you say I have to I have to again I have no control I'm not
[02:31:08] have to again I have no control I'm not in charge but here's two other
[02:31:10] in charge but here's two other expressions of victim language that you
[02:31:11] expressions of victim language that you got to be careful of and it's this one
[02:31:14] got to be careful of and it's this one I'll try I'll try whatever it is I'll
[02:31:18] I'll try I'll try whatever it is I'll try what is the words I'll TR I mean
[02:31:20] try what is the words I'll TR I mean well let me tell you what they mean they
[02:31:22] well let me tell you what they mean they mean I'm going to fail and I'm telling
[02:31:24] mean I'm going to fail and I'm telling you in advance so that you can't come
[02:31:26] you in advance so that you can't come back on me in other words you say well
[02:31:28] back on me in other words you say well I'll try to be there on time but what
[02:31:30] I'll try to be there on time but what you're saying is I'll probably be late
[02:31:32] you're saying is I'll probably be late and there's no point you can't come back
[02:31:33] and there's no point you can't come back on me because I said I'd try whenever a
[02:31:35] on me because I said I'd try whenever a person says I'll try they are excusing
[02:31:38] person says I'll try they are excusing failure in advance if you went to the
[02:31:41] failure in advance if you went to the doctor and the doctor did an examination
[02:31:43] doctor and the doctor did an examination and checked you all over and looked at
[02:31:44] and checked you all over and looked at you and came back and said well geez
[02:31:45] you and came back and said well geez you're in terrible condition we're going
[02:31:47] you're in terrible condition we're going to have to do triple bypass surgery and
[02:31:48] to have to do triple bypass surgery and get you over to the hospital right now
[02:31:50] get you over to the hospital right now I'm surprised you even made it in and
[02:31:51] I'm surprised you even made it in and you say well geez doctor I sure hope
[02:31:53] you say well geez doctor I sure hope you'll do a good job and he says I'll
[02:31:55] you'll do a good job and he says I'll try and he says I'll try he said wait a
[02:31:58] try and he says I'll try he said wait a second maybe I got to get a second
[02:31:59] second maybe I got to get a second opinion you go to a lawyer you you're
[02:32:01] opinion you go to a lawyer you you're charged with something you go to a
[02:32:02] charged with something you go to a lawyer and you present your case to the
[02:32:03] lawyer and you present your case to the lawyer say look will you defend me he
[02:32:04] lawyer say look will you defend me he says I'll try what is he saying he's
[02:32:07] says I'll try what is he saying he's saying look I've looked at the case and
[02:32:09] saying look I've looked at the case and from what I see there's not much hope
[02:32:11] from what I see there's not much hope but I'll take it on anyway I'll try and
[02:32:12] but I'll take it on anyway I'll try and then they're the ones that try to get
[02:32:13] then they're the ones that try to get you to pay in advance
[02:32:15] you to pay in advance too another set of words that you
[02:32:18] too another set of words that you mustn't use by the way with regard to
[02:32:20] mustn't use by the way with regard to I'll try what you do is you say I'll do
[02:32:21] I'll try what you do is you say I'll do it or I won't do it not I'll try if ever
[02:32:24] it or I won't do it not I'll try if ever and in our business we run a very very
[02:32:26] and in our business we run a very very active business whenever we call
[02:32:28] active business whenever we call somebody up and we ask them can we get
[02:32:30] somebody up and we ask them can we get this or that they say well I'll try to
[02:32:32] this or that they say well I'll try to have it to you by Friday or I'll try to
[02:32:34] have it to you by Friday or I'll try to get it done on time we instantly know
[02:32:36] get it done on time we instantly know that they're telling us that their want
[02:32:38] that they're telling us that their want off the hook they're not going to do it
[02:32:40] off the hook they're not going to do it and so we never let anybody get away
[02:32:41] and so we never let anybody get away with I'll try we say it has to be done
[02:32:44] with I'll try we say it has to be done or not and we want a guarantee and if
[02:32:46] or not and we want a guarantee and if necessary we'll go and pick it up but
[02:32:48] necessary we'll go and pick it up but whenever they say I'll try what they're
[02:32:49] whenever they say I'll try what they're doing is they SLU you off so be alert to
[02:32:51] doing is they SLU you off so be alert to that and the other words are I
[02:32:54] that and the other words are I wish I wish as they say is a desire or a
[02:32:58] wish I wish as they say is a desire or a goal with no energy behind it I wish
[02:33:01] goal with no energy behind it I wish what does I wish
[02:33:03] what does I wish mean I wish means
[02:33:08] mean I wish means that I would like to have something but
[02:33:11] that I would like to have something but I know I never can when you say I wish I
[02:33:14] I know I never can when you say I wish I could lose weight what does it mean the
[02:33:16] could lose weight what does it mean the unspoken words are but I know I can't
[02:33:20] unspoken words are but I know I can't why can't you because of the excuses
[02:33:22] why can't you because of the excuses that you have and the metabolism that
[02:33:25] that you have and the metabolism that you have and the problem and so on
[02:33:26] you have and the problem and so on there's always reasons because you have
[02:33:28] there's always reasons because you have to go out and so on I wish I could quit
[02:33:29] to go out and so on I wish I could quit smoking I wish I could get fit I wish I
[02:33:33] smoking I wish I could get fit I wish I wish I wish whenever you use the words I
[02:33:35] wish I wish whenever you use the words I wish you signal to the subconscious that
[02:33:37] wish you signal to the subconscious that this is something that you do not
[02:33:39] this is something that you do not believe it's possible for you to achieve
[02:33:41] believe it's possible for you to achieve or acquire the subconscious then
[02:33:43] or acquire the subconscious then completely discards it as a goal and
[02:33:45] completely discards it as a goal and gives you no energy no motivation no
[02:33:48] gives you no energy no motivation no drive no desire to accomplish it so be
[02:33:51] drive no desire to accomplish it so be very very alert to victim language be
[02:33:53] very very alert to victim language be alert to the expression yes but oh I do
[02:33:56] alert to the expression yes but oh I do it yes but or someone says why don't you
[02:33:59] it yes but or someone says why don't you do this you say yes but the word but by
[02:34:02] do this you say yes but the word but by the way is the great ER raser when a
[02:34:04] the way is the great ER raser when a person says you know you could you could
[02:34:05] person says you know you could you could certainly increase your income or
[02:34:06] certainly increase your income or increase your output or be a better
[02:34:08] increase your output or be a better person or happier or lose weight or
[02:34:10] person or happier or lose weight or whatever else have happened to be and
[02:34:11] whatever else have happened to be and you say yes but what you're saying is
[02:34:13] you say yes but what you're saying is you're erasing the whole statement that
[02:34:16] you're erasing the whole statement that has gone before you send a message to
[02:34:18] has gone before you send a message to your subconscious that says
[02:34:20] your subconscious that says no possibility make no effort Focus no
[02:34:24] no possibility make no effort Focus no energy commit no capacity to the
[02:34:26] energy commit no capacity to the accomplishment of this goal so people
[02:34:28] accomplishment of this goal so people who've been brought up feeling guilty
[02:34:30] who've been brought up feeling guilty have five qualities or five adult
[02:34:32] have five qualities or five adult manifestations one is they feel inferior
[02:34:35] manifestations one is they feel inferior they feel inadequate they feel like they
[02:34:37] they feel inadequate they feel like they don't deserve good things to happen to
[02:34:39] don't deserve good things to happen to them you're very alert to that number
[02:34:41] them you're very alert to that number two is they run themselves down
[02:34:44] two is they run themselves down continually they use destructive
[02:34:45] continually they use destructive self-criticism number three is they use
[02:34:47] self-criticism number three is they use guilt and blame on themselves and and on
[02:34:50] guilt and blame on themselves and and on others number four is they're easily
[02:34:52] others number four is they're easily manipulated by guilt number five they
[02:34:54] manipulated by guilt number five they use victim language so let's go and say
[02:34:55] use victim language so let's go and say how do we get rid of
[02:34:57] how do we get rid of guilt isn't it amazing how this board
[02:34:59] guilt isn't it amazing how this board just clears isn't that amazing it's it's
[02:35:01] just clears isn't that amazing it's it's absolutely Vanishing we have a sort of a
[02:35:03] absolutely Vanishing we have a sort of a magic W that we wave when I go over and
[02:35:05] magic W that we wave when I go over and sit on that desk okay how do we rid
[02:35:07] sit on that desk okay how do we rid ourselves of guilt ridding yourself of
[02:35:14] guilt here's the
[02:35:17] guilt here's the process it's got a few really critical
[02:35:21] process it's got a few really critical steps number one top of the list
[02:35:24] steps number one top of the list eliminate destructive
[02:35:26] eliminate destructive self-criticism eliminate destructive
[02:35:31] self-criticism in other words never say
[02:35:34] self-criticism in other words never say anything destructively critical about
[02:35:36] anything destructively critical about yourself just don't say it here's the
[02:35:39] yourself just don't say it here's the basic rule since your subconscious
[02:35:40] basic rule since your subconscious accepts whatever you say as true as
[02:35:42] accepts whatever you say as true as being a command what you do is you don't
[02:35:45] being a command what you do is you don't say anything about yourself that you do
[02:35:47] say anything about yourself that you do not sincerely desire to be true don't
[02:35:49] not sincerely desire to be true don't say I'm fat I'm tired don't say I can't
[02:35:53] say I'm fat I'm tired don't say I can't or I have to don't say anything unless
[02:35:55] or I have to don't say anything unless you want it to be true remember the
[02:35:56] you want it to be true remember the words that come after the word I are the
[02:35:59] words that come after the word I are the words that your subconscious records as
[02:36:01] words that your subconscious records as commands except for when you say I wish
[02:36:03] commands except for when you say I wish or I'll try so eliminate destructive
[02:36:06] or I'll try so eliminate destructive self-criticism only speak in positive
[02:36:08] self-criticism only speak in positive terms about yourself I like myself I
[02:36:10] terms about yourself I like myself I like myself I can do it I will do it I
[02:36:12] like myself I can do it I will do it I choose to do it but not I can't or or so
[02:36:15] choose to do it but not I can't or or so on number two
[02:36:17] on number two is refuse to be manipulated by
[02:36:21] is refuse to be manipulated by guilt refuse to be manipulated by
[02:36:27] guilt because every time you allow
[02:36:30] guilt because every time you allow somebody to manipulate you by guilt you
[02:36:33] somebody to manipulate you by guilt you know what happens you reinforce and make
[02:36:35] know what happens you reinforce and make stronger the effect or the influence of
[02:36:38] stronger the effect or the influence of guilt in your life now when I grew up I
[02:36:41] guilt in your life now when I grew up I grew up in a family that was greatly
[02:36:44] grew up in a family that was greatly influenced by negative religion as a
[02:36:46] influenced by negative religion as a matter of fact my mother uh God bless
[02:36:48] matter of fact my mother uh God bless her had a black belt in guilts and she
[02:36:50] her had a black belt in guilts and she did a superb superb job on it and I took
[02:36:53] did a superb superb job on it and I took me years to get over it when I got
[02:36:54] me years to get over it when I got married to Barbara she'd also come from
[02:36:56] married to Barbara she'd also come from the same sort of family so we have to
[02:36:58] the same sort of family so we have to come back and we have a beautiful
[02:37:00] come back and we have a beautiful response whenever one of the other of us
[02:37:02] response whenever one of the other of us falls back into Old patterns we say
[02:37:04] falls back into Old patterns we say you're not trying to make me feel guilty
[02:37:05] you're not trying to make me feel guilty are you you're not trying to make me
[02:37:07] are you you're not trying to make me feel guilty are you that's a beautiful
[02:37:09] feel guilty are you that's a beautiful way to do it just say you're not trying
[02:37:10] way to do it just say you're not trying to make me feel guilty are you and
[02:37:11] to make me feel guilty are you and refuse to let people manipulate you
[02:37:13] refuse to let people manipulate you using guilt number
[02:37:15] using guilt number three is refuse to use guilt and blame
[02:37:19] three is refuse to use guilt and blame and announce that you're not going to
[02:37:21] and announce that you're not going to that you're not going to use
[02:37:25] it refuse to use it on other people and
[02:37:28] it refuse to use it on other people and make let your children and let your
[02:37:30] make let your children and let your spouse say the same thing you're not
[02:37:31] spouse say the same thing you're not trying to make me feel guilty are you
[02:37:32] trying to make me feel guilty are you and just keep repeating it over and over
[02:37:33] and just keep repeating it over and over again I say well and sometimes they say
[02:37:35] again I say well and sometimes they say yes I am you say well it's not going to
[02:37:37] yes I am you say well it's not going to work it's not going to work anymore you
[02:37:39] work it's not going to work anymore you see Guilt only works as long as you
[02:37:42] see Guilt only works as long as you don't know that it's being used on you
[02:37:44] don't know that it's being used on you number four
[02:37:48] is what we call the
[02:37:50] is what we call the law of
[02:37:53] law of forgiveness this is the most important
[02:37:55] forgiveness this is the most important of all it's really the core it's the
[02:37:57] of all it's really the core it's the guts of this whole session the law of
[02:38:00] guts of this whole session the law of forgiveness simply says that you are
[02:38:02] forgiveness simply says that you are mentally healthy to the degree to which
[02:38:04] mentally healthy to the degree to which you can freely forgive and forget
[02:38:07] you can freely forgive and forget grievances against you that your ability
[02:38:10] grievances against you that your ability to forgive others is the key determinant
[02:38:12] to forgive others is the key determinant of your happiness and SEC success in
[02:38:14] of your happiness and SEC success in life your ability to to forgive others
[02:38:16] life your ability to to forgive others is the key way to eliminate guilt your
[02:38:18] is the key way to eliminate guilt your willingness to forgive others and to let
[02:38:20] willingness to forgive others and to let go past grievances is the single most
[02:38:23] go past grievances is the single most important determinant of whether or not
[02:38:24] important determinant of whether or not you are a fully integrated fully
[02:38:26] you are a fully integrated fully functioning adult human being because
[02:38:29] functioning adult human being because the tendency to blame and to hold
[02:38:31] the tendency to blame and to hold grudges is a childlike pathological
[02:38:34] grudges is a childlike pathological tendency that is possessed by all people
[02:38:36] tendency that is possessed by all people who are mentally ill the ability to let
[02:38:39] who are mentally ill the ability to let go of grudges to forgive freely is the
[02:38:41] go of grudges to forgive freely is the mark of the truly enlightened human
[02:38:44] mark of the truly enlightened human being now you accept that as true
[02:38:46] being now you accept that as true there's four people that you have to
[02:38:47] there's four people that you have to forgive number one is forgive your
[02:38:50] forgive number one is forgive your parents forgive your parents for
[02:38:53] parents forgive your parents for everything that they've ever done that
[02:38:54] everything that they've ever done that hurt you most of our research shows that
[02:38:56] hurt you most of our research shows that almost all of our adult problems Trace
[02:38:58] almost all of our adult problems Trace back to being unwilling or unable to
[02:39:00] back to being unwilling or unable to forgive our parents something that they
[02:39:02] forgive our parents something that they did that hurt us forgive them 100% write
[02:39:05] did that hurt us forgive them 100% write to them telephone them tell them or at
[02:39:08] to them telephone them tell them or at the very least forgive them in your
[02:39:09] the very least forgive them in your heart but forgive your parents number
[02:39:12] heart but forgive your parents number two is forgive others forgive everyone
[02:39:15] two is forgive others forgive everyone else forgive everyone who has ever hurt
[02:39:18] else forgive everyone who has ever hurt you in any way for anything just let it
[02:39:22] you in any way for anything just let it go now some people say well I can't
[02:39:23] go now some people say well I can't forgive that person because what a
[02:39:24] forgive that person because what a terrible thing they did to me remember
[02:39:26] terrible thing they did to me remember this that forgiveness is perfectly
[02:39:28] this that forgiveness is perfectly selfish for forgiveness has nothing
[02:39:31] selfish for forgiveness has nothing whatever to
[02:39:32] whatever to do with the other person it has only to
[02:39:35] do with the other person it has only to do with your peace of mind and with your
[02:39:37] do with your peace of mind and with your assuring your own mental Integrity
[02:39:39] assuring your own mental Integrity number three forgive yourself forgive
[02:39:42] number three forgive yourself forgive yourself for every Wicked senseless
[02:39:44] yourself for every Wicked senseless brainless fully stupid thing you ever
[02:39:46] brainless fully stupid thing you ever did because every single person has done
[02:39:48] did because every single person has done Wicked senseless brainless foolish
[02:39:50] Wicked senseless brainless foolish ridiculous things but forgive yourself
[02:39:53] ridiculous things but forgive yourself 100% And finally the last part of this
[02:39:56] 100% And finally the last part of this is if you have done something to hurt
[02:39:59] is if you have done something to hurt someone else go and
[02:40:02] someone else go and apologize it's amazing how many lives
[02:40:04] apologize it's amazing how many lives are ruined year after year by people who
[02:40:07] are ruined year after year by people who do not have the intestinal fortitude the
[02:40:10] do not have the intestinal fortitude the guts the courage to go and say I'm sorry
[02:40:14] guts the courage to go and say I'm sorry one of the most important things in life
[02:40:15] one of the most important things in life is to develop character we develop
[02:40:18] is to develop character we develop character to the degree to which we do
[02:40:19] character to the degree to which we do things which are hard for us to which
[02:40:21] things which are hard for us to which the degree to which we do things which
[02:40:23] the degree to which we do things which we know are right even though they're
[02:40:25] we know are right even though they're difficult and especially when they're
[02:40:26] difficult and especially when they're difficult emotionally and the key to
[02:40:29] difficult emotionally and the key to getting rid of guilt the key to being a
[02:40:32] getting rid of guilt the key to being a totally fully functioning person is to
[02:40:34] totally fully functioning person is to forgive others forgive people that
[02:40:36] forgive others forgive people that you've been in relationships with
[02:40:38] you've been in relationships with forgive previous employers forgive
[02:40:40] forgive previous employers forgive friends who've hurt you forget forgive
[02:40:42] friends who've hurt you forget forgive Investments that went wrong forgive
[02:40:44] Investments that went wrong forgive bosses that fired you forgive your
[02:40:46] bosses that fired you forgive your parents forgive everybody develop an
[02:40:49] parents forgive everybody develop an attitude toward life that you refuse to
[02:40:51] attitude toward life that you refuse to hold a grudge against anybody just
[02:40:54] hold a grudge against anybody just repeat over and over again I forgive him
[02:40:56] repeat over and over again I forgive him or her for everything I forgive him or
[02:40:59] or her for everything I forgive him or her for everything I forgive them for
[02:41:01] her for everything I forgive them for everything and Let It Go the key to
[02:41:04] everything and Let It Go the key to freeing yourself from negative emotions
[02:41:07] freeing yourself from negative emotions is to absolutely refuse to carry any
[02:41:09] is to absolutely refuse to carry any negativity forward remember it's a
[02:41:12] negativity forward remember it's a perfectly selfish act you can be as
[02:41:14] perfectly selfish act you can be as selfish as you want the act of
[02:41:16] selfish as you want the act of forgiveness frees you and liberates the
[02:41:18] forgiveness frees you and liberates the other person and guarantees that you
[02:41:20] other person and guarantees that you will move rapidly toward the Fulfillment
[02:41:23] will move rapidly toward the Fulfillment of your
[02:41:31] potential session eight the worry buster
[02:41:35] potential session eight the worry buster one of the great aims of life is to
[02:41:36] one of the great aims of life is to achieve your own peace of mind and the
[02:41:38] achieve your own peace of mind and the reason why so few people have peace of
[02:41:40] reason why so few people have peace of mind is because they don't set it as an
[02:41:42] mind is because they don't set it as an important enough goal and if they do
[02:41:44] important enough goal and if they do they don't take the time to understand
[02:41:46] they don't take the time to understand what stands between them and peace of
[02:41:48] what stands between them and peace of mind now we talk talked earlier about
[02:41:50] mind now we talk talked earlier about one of the major obstacles or major
[02:41:52] one of the major obstacles or major pairs of obstacles are negative habit
[02:41:54] pairs of obstacles are negative habit patterns the fear of failure the fear of
[02:41:56] patterns the fear of failure the fear of rejection those Rob us of an enormous
[02:41:59] rejection those Rob us of an enormous amount of peace of mind we also talked
[02:42:01] amount of peace of mind we also talked about feelings of guilt feelings of
[02:42:03] about feelings of guilt feelings of inadequacy feelings of worthlessness
[02:42:05] inadequacy feelings of worthlessness feelings of undeservingness and so on
[02:42:07] feelings of undeservingness and so on they also Rob us of peace of mind and I
[02:42:09] they also Rob us of peace of mind and I want to talk in this session about the
[02:42:12] want to talk in this session about the last if you like key to this discussion
[02:42:15] last if you like key to this discussion on negative emotions what we call
[02:42:17] on negative emotions what we call negative imagination now the word
[02:42:19] negative imagination now the word negative imagination comes from an
[02:42:21] negative imagination comes from an extensive body of literature that was
[02:42:23] extensive body of literature that was written at the beginning of of the
[02:42:24] written at the beginning of of the century but they found that negative
[02:42:27] century but they found that negative imagination is something that we create
[02:42:31] imagination is something that we create in
[02:42:32] in ourselves that causes us an enormous
[02:42:34] ourselves that causes us an enormous amount of of of stress and distress if
[02:42:37] amount of of of stress and distress if you like negative imagination creates
[02:42:41] you like negative imagination creates fear and one of the best definitions of
[02:42:43] fear and one of the best definitions of fear that I've seen lately is what is
[02:42:45] fear that I've seen lately is what is called
[02:42:46] called fantasized experiences appearing real
[02:42:52] fantasized experiences appearing real fantasized experiences appearing real in
[02:42:55] fantasized experiences appearing real in other words these are experiences which
[02:42:57] other words these are experiences which we create in our minds and our
[02:43:01] imaginations and we dwell upon them and
[02:43:03] imaginations and we dwell upon them and the more we dwell upon them the more
[02:43:05] the more we dwell upon them the more real they become to us it's like I have
[02:43:07] real they become to us it's like I have three little children and if I let them
[02:43:09] three little children and if I let them watch a scary movie even if they insist
[02:43:11] watch a scary movie even if they insist upon it they begin to feel that there
[02:43:13] upon it they begin to feel that there are scary creatures under their beds and
[02:43:15] are scary creatures under their beds and in their cupboards and so on is these
[02:43:17] in their cupboards and so on is these fantasized experiences become real and
[02:43:19] fantasized experiences become real and at one time with little Michael we
[02:43:21] at one time with little Michael we couldn't get him to sleep in his bedroom
[02:43:23] couldn't get him to sleep in his bedroom at all because he was convinced that
[02:43:24] at all because he was convinced that there were monsters in there what do we
[02:43:26] there were monsters in there what do we call negative imagination well another
[02:43:28] call negative imagination well another word for it is
[02:43:30] word for it is worry worry is a sustained form of fear
[02:43:35] worry worry is a sustained form of fear caused by indecision worry is a
[02:43:38] caused by indecision worry is a sustained form of fear caused by
[02:43:41] sustained form of fear caused by indecision now what does that mean it
[02:43:44] indecision now what does that mean it means that when we make decisions we do
[02:43:47] means that when we make decisions we do away with worry a study was done some
[02:43:49] away with worry a study was done some years ago where many thousands of people
[02:43:52] years ago where many thousands of people were surveyed and asked what were they
[02:43:54] were surveyed and asked what were they worrying about at the current time and
[02:43:56] worrying about at the current time and they accumulated it all up and they
[02:43:57] they accumulated it all up and they found this is what people worry about
[02:43:59] found this is what people worry about 40% of the worries that people
[02:44:02] 40% of the worries that people had were things that never
[02:44:06] had were things that never happened when they went back later they
[02:44:09] happened when they went back later they found that the things they were worried
[02:44:10] found that the things they were worried about would never happen they were going
[02:44:11] about would never happen they were going to be late or they lose the job or they
[02:44:14] to be late or they lose the job or they uh wouldn't work out on a date or
[02:44:15] uh wouldn't work out on a date or relationship the 30 next figure 30% were
[02:44:19] relationship the 30 next figure 30% were things that were in the past that had
[02:44:21] things that were in the past that had already happened and nothing could be
[02:44:22] already happened and nothing could be done about there were 12% of
[02:44:25] done about there were 12% of worries were worries about health in
[02:44:28] worries were worries about health in most cases needless needless worries I
[02:44:31] most cases needless needless worries I thought that they had a pain or an
[02:44:33] thought that they had a pain or an illness or an ailment or something else
[02:44:34] illness or an ailment or something else it didn't turn out to be true 10% of the
[02:44:36] it didn't turn out to be true 10% of the things people worried about were Petty
[02:44:38] things people worried about were Petty worries they were worried about whether
[02:44:40] worries they were worried about whether or not they had enough change in the
[02:44:41] or not they had enough change in the parking meter whether or not um someone
[02:44:44] parking meter whether or not um someone would phone them really irrelevant
[02:44:46] would phone them really irrelevant worries only
[02:44:47] worries only 8% of the
[02:44:49] 8% of the worries were about anything substantial
[02:44:52] worries were about anything substantial at all and of those 8% half or 4% were
[02:44:57] at all and of those 8% half or 4% were totally outside the control of the
[02:44:58] totally outside the control of the person they were worried about whether
[02:44:59] person they were worried about whether red China would uh invade Northern
[02:45:02] red China would uh invade Northern Vietnam and things like that and the
[02:45:03] Vietnam and things like that and the things that the person could have
[02:45:04] things that the person could have nothing to do about anyway so basically
[02:45:06] nothing to do about anyway so basically the research shows that as much as
[02:45:10] the research shows that as much as 96% of everything that we worry about or
[02:45:13] 96% of everything that we worry about or more is irrelevant it never happens it's
[02:45:17] more is irrelevant it never happens it's not worth worrying about at all but
[02:45:18] not worth worrying about at all but where does worry come from well worry
[02:45:20] where does worry come from well worry comes from a worry mentality as a matter
[02:45:21] comes from a worry mentality as a matter of fact if you were brought up in a
[02:45:23] of fact if you were brought up in a family where your mother or father was a
[02:45:24] family where your mother or father was a worrier they worried all the time then
[02:45:25] worrier they worried all the time then you're probably a worrior too it's a
[02:45:27] you're probably a worrior too it's a it's a conditioned response you saw them
[02:45:29] it's a conditioned response you saw them worrying you want to be like your mommy
[02:45:31] worrying you want to be like your mommy and daddy because they're the most
[02:45:32] and daddy because they're the most important people in your world so you
[02:45:34] important people in your world so you worry too and I've seen little kids four
[02:45:35] worry too and I've seen little kids four and five years old that are really good
[02:45:37] and five years old that are really good accomplished worriors and they and their
[02:45:39] accomplished worriors and they and their parents will sit together and worry and
[02:45:41] parents will sit together and worry and worry even though there's nothing
[02:45:42] worry even though there's nothing involved but it's fantasized experiences
[02:45:45] involved but it's fantasized experiences appearing real our job is to eliminate
[02:45:49] appearing real our job is to eliminate and I'd like to give you two or three
[02:45:51] and I'd like to give you two or three simple ideas that you can use number one
[02:45:54] simple ideas that you can use number one which is one of the most popular of all
[02:45:56] which is one of the most popular of all is just simply this it's live one day at
[02:45:58] is just simply this it's live one day at a time live one day at a
[02:46:02] a time live one day at a time is don't worry about might might
[02:46:05] time is don't worry about might might happen tomorrow don't worry about what
[02:46:07] happen tomorrow don't worry about what may happen a year from now or six months
[02:46:09] may happen a year from now or six months from now just do the very best you can
[02:46:11] from now just do the very best you can right now there's a beautiful line from
[02:46:13] right now there's a beautiful line from Teddy Roosevelt he said something to the
[02:46:15] Teddy Roosevelt he said something to the effect that do what you can where you
[02:46:18] effect that do what you can where you are with what you have and don't worry
[02:46:20] are with what you have and don't worry about the rest do what you can where you
[02:46:23] about the rest do what you can where you are with what you have and don't worry
[02:46:26] are with what you have and don't worry about the rest live one day at a time
[02:46:28] about the rest live one day at a time just worry about getting through today
[02:46:29] just worry about getting through today and taking care of today and as the
[02:46:31] and taking care of today and as the Bible says let the tomorrow take care of
[02:46:34] Bible says let the tomorrow take care of itself sufficient unto the day are the
[02:46:35] itself sufficient unto the day are the are the cares thereof number two key to
[02:46:39] are the cares thereof number two key to dealing with worry and I have a an
[02:46:40] dealing with worry and I have a an enormous number of challenges that I
[02:46:42] enormous number of challenges that I face in my business life is get the
[02:46:45] face in my business life is get the facts this is so important get the facts
[02:46:49] facts this is so important get the facts not the apparent facts not the quick
[02:46:52] not the apparent facts not the quick facts not the facts that seem obvious
[02:46:55] facts not the facts that seem obvious but get the real facts take the time to
[02:46:59] but get the real facts take the time to look into a situation and find out what
[02:47:02] look into a situation and find out what the real truth of the matter is I have
[02:47:04] the real truth of the matter is I have found that most worry situations
[02:47:07] found that most worry situations evaporate if you get enough facts you
[02:47:09] evaporate if you get enough facts you hear that somebody has done something or
[02:47:11] hear that somebody has done something or not done something you hear about a
[02:47:13] not done something you hear about a change in your business or your personal
[02:47:14] change in your business or your personal life or change in one of your
[02:47:15] life or change in one of your relationships find out call the person
[02:47:19] relationships find out call the person find find from the right information
[02:47:21] find find from the right information Source the answer and you'll often find
[02:47:24] Source the answer and you'll often find that the facts eliminate the worry most
[02:47:27] that the facts eliminate the worry most people who worry are people who would
[02:47:28] people who worry are people who would much rather worry than take the time to
[02:47:31] much rather worry than take the time to ask and find out what exactly is going
[02:47:35] ask and find out what exactly is going on ask people do your research do your
[02:47:38] on ask people do your research do your reading do your homework get the facts
[02:47:40] reading do your homework get the facts one of the most
[02:47:42] one of the most important requirements by the way for
[02:47:44] important requirements by the way for your success in business or any other
[02:47:46] your success in business or any other thing any other field of endeavor is to
[02:47:48] thing any other field of endeavor is to get the facts that you need so that your
[02:47:51] get the facts that you need so that your answers are accurate and up to date now
[02:47:53] answers are accurate and up to date now the third method is what I call the
[02:47:56] the third method is what I call the worry Buster the worry Buster is a word
[02:47:58] worry Buster the worry Buster is a word or an expression that came from one of
[02:48:00] or an expression that came from one of our graduates he said this expression
[02:48:02] our graduates he said this expression literally saved his business and saved
[02:48:04] literally saved his business and saved his mental health it's one of the
[02:48:06] his mental health it's one of the simplest of all techniques and it is
[02:48:08] simplest of all techniques and it is just Dynamite it consists of four steps
[02:48:11] just Dynamite it consists of four steps all right step number one is when you
[02:48:14] all right step number one is when you have something on your mind Define it
[02:48:16] have something on your mind Define it clearly in writing
[02:48:18] clearly in writing Define it clearly in
[02:48:22] Define it clearly in writing sit down take the time to write
[02:48:26] writing sit down take the time to write it out and say what exactly is it that
[02:48:29] it out and say what exactly is it that I'm worried about and sit down and write
[02:48:30] I'm worried about and sit down and write it out I am worried about this and
[02:48:33] it out I am worried about this and describe the situation exactly the way
[02:48:35] describe the situation exactly the way you see it in medicine they say that
[02:48:37] you see it in medicine they say that accurate diagnosis is 50% of the Cure
[02:48:41] accurate diagnosis is 50% of the Cure accurate diagnosis defining it clearly
[02:48:43] accurate diagnosis defining it clearly in writing is 50% of the Cure now an
[02:48:46] in writing is 50% of the Cure now an important Point here is sometimes when
[02:48:48] important Point here is sometimes when you have seems to be an overwhelming
[02:48:50] you have seems to be an overwhelming problem you have more than one problem
[02:48:52] problem you have more than one problem you have what is called a cluster
[02:48:54] you have what is called a cluster situation where you have two or three or
[02:48:56] situation where you have two or three or four problems all together if you define
[02:48:58] four problems all together if you define it clearly in writing sometimes you can
[02:49:00] it clearly in writing sometimes you can write it out 1 2 3 4 that there are
[02:49:03] write it out 1 2 3 4 that there are several little problems that are all
[02:49:06] several little problems that are all together that are worrying you and
[02:49:08] together that are worrying you and sometimes if you eliminate one of those
[02:49:10] sometimes if you eliminate one of those difficulties the rest of them evaporate
[02:49:13] difficulties the rest of them evaporate sometimes one of a one problem in a
[02:49:15] sometimes one of a one problem in a cluster of problems is the key and all
[02:49:19] cluster of problems is the key and all the others become irrelevant so be alert
[02:49:20] the others become irrelevant so be alert to that but Define it clearly in writing
[02:49:22] to that but Define it clearly in writing number two is once you define it clearly
[02:49:25] number two is once you define it clearly this is the key determine the worst
[02:49:27] this is the key determine the worst possible
[02:49:28] possible outcome determine the worst possible
[02:49:31] outcome determine the worst possible outcome in other words ask
[02:49:33] outcome in other words ask yourself what is the worst possible
[02:49:35] yourself what is the worst possible thing that could happen as a result of
[02:49:38] thing that could happen as a result of this
[02:49:39] this situation left to itself if the worst
[02:49:41] situation left to itself if the worst happened what would it be determine the
[02:49:43] happened what would it be determine the worst possible outcome now an
[02:49:45] worst possible outcome now an interesting thing happens here we find
[02:49:47] interesting thing happens here we find that in worry we are not worried or
[02:49:51] that in worry we are not worried or stressed by the event an event does not
[02:49:53] stressed by the event an event does not trouble us what troubles us is
[02:49:56] trouble us what troubles us is anticipation of an event and the
[02:49:59] anticipation of an event and the resistance that we put up
[02:50:01] resistance that we put up psychologically wishing hoping praying
[02:50:03] psychologically wishing hoping praying that it doesn't take place if
[02:50:06] that it doesn't take place if psychologically we determine the worst
[02:50:08] psychologically we determine the worst possible outcome in writing and you say
[02:50:10] possible outcome in writing and you say the worst possible thing that can happen
[02:50:12] the worst possible thing that can happen is this and we make it concrete and we
[02:50:15] is this and we make it concrete and we put it down on paper you will find a
[02:50:17] put it down on paper you will find a remarkable thing you're worries
[02:50:19] remarkable thing you're worries disappear they just seem to evaporate as
[02:50:22] disappear they just seem to evaporate as soon as we Define the worst possible
[02:50:23] soon as we Define the worst possible outcome the stress comes from not
[02:50:26] outcome the stress comes from not wanting to face what it could be we talk
[02:50:28] wanting to face what it could be we talk about this later but it's the
[02:50:29] about this later but it's the psychological phenomena of denial we
[02:50:32] psychological phenomena of denial we deny we don't want to put off for
[02:50:33] deny we don't want to put off for instance you have an
[02:50:34] instance you have an investment and the investment is getting
[02:50:37] investment and the investment is getting worse and worse so you have to say to
[02:50:38] worse and worse so you have to say to yourself what's the worst thing that can
[02:50:39] yourself what's the worst thing that can happen with this investment and the
[02:50:41] happen with this investment and the worst thing is that you lose it all once
[02:50:43] worst thing is that you lose it all once you say I lose it all suddenly you're
[02:50:46] you say I lose it all suddenly you're not so worried about it anymore because
[02:50:48] not so worried about it anymore because you know it just may happen the third
[02:50:51] you know it just may happen the third step or let me go back a second with
[02:50:53] step or let me go back a second with regard to a relationship sometimes we're
[02:50:55] regard to a relationship sometimes we're in a relationship that's very unhappy
[02:50:57] in a relationship that's very unhappy and we say what's the worst thing that
[02:50:58] and we say what's the worst thing that can happen here the worst thing that can
[02:51:00] can happen here the worst thing that can happen here is that you lose the
[02:51:01] happen here is that you lose the relationship the relationship disappears
[02:51:03] relationship the relationship disappears then you have to ask yourself will that
[02:51:05] then you have to ask yourself will that kill me will the in loss of the
[02:51:08] kill me will the in loss of the investment kill me will the loss of the
[02:51:09] investment kill me will the loss of the job kill me will the loss of the
[02:51:11] job kill me will the loss of the relationship kill me and the answer of
[02:51:12] relationship kill me and the answer of course is no you will recover from the
[02:51:14] course is no you will recover from the loss of almost anything so number three
[02:51:17] loss of almost anything so number three by the way there are many people who get
[02:51:19] by the way there are many people who get and have the signs of cancer but they
[02:51:21] and have the signs of cancer but they won't go to a doctor because they don't
[02:51:22] won't go to a doctor because they don't want to know the stress of not knowing
[02:51:25] want to know the stress of not knowing actually exacerbates the course of the
[02:51:27] actually exacerbates the course of the disease and finally when they do have to
[02:51:29] disease and finally when they do have to go to a doctor it's gone so far the
[02:51:31] go to a doctor it's gone so far the doctor can't save them but the stress of
[02:51:33] doctor can't save them but the stress of not facing the possibility keeps them
[02:51:35] not facing the possibility keeps them away from a doctor long past the point
[02:51:37] away from a doctor long past the point where a doctor could help them number
[02:51:38] where a doctor could help them number three is resolve to accept the worst
[02:51:41] three is resolve to accept the worst should it
[02:51:42] should it occur resolve to accept the worst should
[02:51:46] occur resolve to accept the worst should it occur
[02:51:48] it occur this is not passive and this is not
[02:51:51] this is not passive and this is not fatalistic just say if nothing could be
[02:51:54] fatalistic just say if nothing could be done and this were to
[02:51:56] done and this were to happen I will accept it I have a saying
[02:52:00] happen I will accept it I have a saying which I use that that is what cannot be
[02:52:02] which I use that that is what cannot be cured must be endured what cannot be
[02:52:04] cured must be endured what cannot be cured must be endured so you say well
[02:52:06] cured must be endured so you say well all right if this happens I'll accept it
[02:52:08] all right if this happens I'll accept it and I'll learn to live with it I'm not
[02:52:10] and I'll learn to live with it I'm not going to let it break me I'm not going
[02:52:11] going to let it break me I'm not going to let it kill me and then number four
[02:52:14] to let it kill me and then number four is begin immediately to improve upon the
[02:52:16] is begin immediately to improve upon the worst begin
[02:52:19] worst begin immediately to improve upon the
[02:52:22] immediately to improve upon the worst what does that mean it means you
[02:52:24] worst what does that mean it means you now accepted that it might
[02:52:27] now accepted that it might happen and you've now decided that you
[02:52:29] happen and you've now decided that you will live with it should it occur and
[02:52:32] will live with it should it occur and now you do everything you possibly can
[02:52:34] now you do everything you possibly can to work back and make sure that the
[02:52:35] to work back and make sure that the worst doesn't occur in business by the
[02:52:37] worst doesn't occur in business by the way this is called the Minimax regret
[02:52:39] way this is called the Minimax regret analysis it's minimizing the maximum
[02:52:43] analysis it's minimizing the maximum regret in other words it's saying what
[02:52:45] regret in other words it's saying what is the worst thing that can happen and
[02:52:47] is the worst thing that can happen and how can I minimize that maximum regret
[02:52:50] how can I minimize that maximum regret this Minimax technique is a tremendous
[02:52:51] this Minimax technique is a tremendous technique because it clears your mind
[02:52:53] technique because it clears your mind considerably it's and one of the best
[02:52:55] considerably it's and one of the best ways to use it is this really neat
[02:52:57] ways to use it is this really neat method take a piece of paper draw a line
[02:52:59] method take a piece of paper draw a line down the center and a line across the
[02:53:01] down the center and a line across the top and then work down the page and WR
[02:53:03] top and then work down the page and WR on this side write wpo I'm sorry no
[02:53:06] on this side write wpo I'm sorry no right right on this page your definition
[02:53:08] right right on this page your definition in other words this is a clear
[02:53:10] in other words this is a clear definition of what's bothering you on
[02:53:12] definition of what's bothering you on the top of this page you write wpo worst
[02:53:15] the top of this page you write wpo worst possible outcome and then you write one
[02:53:17] possible outcome and then you write one and you say I'm worried about this and
[02:53:18] and you say I'm worried about this and you write it out clearly and then you
[02:53:19] you write it out clearly and then you write one you say the worst possible
[02:53:21] write one you say the worst possible outcome is this two I'm worried about
[02:53:23] outcome is this two I'm worried about this two worst possible outcome is this
[02:53:26] this two worst possible outcome is this and so on you'll find that every single
[02:53:28] and so on you'll find that every single time you do this the problem just
[02:53:30] time you do this the problem just evaporates and most not all of course
[02:53:32] evaporates and most not all of course but most of the stress or strain
[02:53:34] but most of the stress or strain disappear as your mind goes clear and
[02:53:36] disappear as your mind goes clear and with a clear mind you can then deal with
[02:53:38] with a clear mind you can then deal with it effectively now the final point with
[02:53:41] it effectively now the final point with regard to this whole idea of worry and
[02:53:43] regard to this whole idea of worry and negative imagination is what is the
[02:53:46] negative imagination is what is the antidote what is the antidote to
[02:53:49] antidote what is the antidote to worry what do you think it is well it's
[02:53:52] worry what do you think it is well it's simply this it is purposeful action the
[02:53:55] simply this it is purposeful action the only real antidote to worry is
[02:53:57] only real antidote to worry is purposeful action everything that gets
[02:53:59] purposeful action everything that gets you to the point where you can take
[02:54:01] you to the point where you can take purposeful action where you can move and
[02:54:04] purposeful action where you can move and as Shakespeare says take arms against
[02:54:06] as Shakespeare says take arms against the Sea of troubles and by so doing end
[02:54:08] the Sea of troubles and by so doing end them anything that gets you to the point
[02:54:10] them anything that gets you to the point where you can take purposeful action
[02:54:12] where you can take purposeful action will eliminate the worry why because of
[02:54:15] will eliminate the worry why because of what we call the law of substitution you
[02:54:17] what we call the law of substitution you cannot be working on a problem or a
[02:54:21] cannot be working on a problem or a situation and thinking and acting
[02:54:25] situation and thinking and acting purposefully to resolve it and still
[02:54:27] purposefully to resolve it and still worry about it simultaneously worry
[02:54:29] worry about it simultaneously worry almost always comes when you have too
[02:54:31] almost always comes when you have too much time on your hands worry is a form
[02:54:35] much time on your hands worry is a form of negative goal setting remember we
[02:54:37] of negative goal setting remember we talked about the law of concentration
[02:54:39] talked about the law of concentration says whatever you dwell upon grows well
[02:54:42] says whatever you dwell upon grows well whenever you have a worry situation what
[02:54:45] whenever you have a worry situation what do you find yourself doing what you find
[02:54:47] do you find yourself doing what you find yourself doing is thinking about talking
[02:54:50] yourself doing is thinking about talking about dwelling upon vividly imagining
[02:54:53] about dwelling upon vividly imagining exactly what you don't want by the law
[02:54:55] exactly what you don't want by the law of expectations says whatever you expect
[02:54:57] of expectations says whatever you expect will come into your life that which I
[02:54:59] will come into your life that which I greatly feared has come upon me is what
[02:55:01] greatly feared has come upon me is what it says in the Book of Job or the law of
[02:55:03] it says in the Book of Job or the law of attraction says you will attract into
[02:55:05] attraction says you will attract into your life the people and circumstances
[02:55:06] your life the people and circumstances in harmony with your dominant thoughts
[02:55:09] in harmony with your dominant thoughts the reason why we're taking a whole
[02:55:10] the reason why we're taking a whole module to talk about worry is this is
[02:55:12] module to talk about worry is this is that there are some people who don't
[02:55:14] that there are some people who don't worry about anything this method by the
[02:55:17] worry about anything this method by the way
[02:55:19] way of determining the worry worst possible
[02:55:21] of determining the worry worst possible outcome the worry Buster is also a
[02:55:23] outcome the worry Buster is also a tremendous method for decision-making
[02:55:25] tremendous method for decision-making when you go into any situation where you
[02:55:27] when you go into any situation where you have to make a decision one way or
[02:55:29] have to make a decision one way or another the first question you should
[02:55:30] another the first question you should sit and ask once you've analyzed it is
[02:55:32] sit and ask once you've analyzed it is what's the worst thing that can happen I
[02:55:34] what's the worst thing that can happen I remember the great J Paul Getty who at
[02:55:35] remember the great J Paul Getty who at one time was one of the richest men in
[02:55:37] one time was one of the richest men in the world said that this method of
[02:55:39] the world said that this method of determining the worst possible
[02:55:41] determining the worst possible downside was used by him as a
[02:55:44] downside was used by him as a decision-making method into every
[02:55:46] decision-making method into every business deal he went to what when what
[02:55:48] business deal he went to what when what he would do is he would say no it's the
[02:55:49] he would do is he would say no it's the worst thing that can happen and then he
[02:55:50] worst thing that can happen and then he would make sure that the worst didn't
[02:55:52] would make sure that the worst didn't happen so make the decision right now
[02:55:55] happen so make the decision right now that you're going to eliminate worry
[02:55:57] that you're going to eliminate worry fantasized experiences appearing real
[02:55:59] fantasized experiences appearing real that you're going to accept the worst
[02:56:00] that you're going to accept the worst possible outcome should it occur and now
[02:56:03] possible outcome should it occur and now get busy to everything humanly possible
[02:56:06] get busy to everything humanly possible to take constructive action to eliminate
[02:56:09] to take constructive action to eliminate the worry situation and do away with it
[02:56:12] the worry situation and do away with it that's the key to eliminating the final
[02:56:15] that's the key to eliminating the final of the worst of our negative emotions
[02:56:19] of the worst of our negative emotions this is the end of side two please fast
[02:56:21] this is the end of side two please fast forward the tape to the end to que up
[02:56:23] forward the tape to the end to que up side 1 for your next
[02:56:29] [Music]
[02:56:33] listening Brian Tracy
[02:56:38] present Phoenix
[02:56:40] present Phoenix [Music]
[02:56:51] session nine programming your mind for
[02:56:53] session nine programming your mind for Success everything you are or ever will
[02:56:56] Success everything you are or ever will be is a result of what is going on
[02:56:58] be is a result of what is going on inside your mind this is the most
[02:57:01] inside your mind this is the most awesome concept that I've ever
[02:57:03] awesome concept that I've ever discovered that anybody has ever
[02:57:04] discovered that anybody has ever discovered that you can dramatically
[02:57:06] discovered that you can dramatically change the outer realities of your life
[02:57:08] change the outer realities of your life by changing your inner attitudes of Mind
[02:57:11] by changing your inner attitudes of Mind as William James said we talked earlier
[02:57:13] as William James said we talked earlier about the various laws the law of belief
[02:57:15] about the various laws the law of belief that your beliefs do become your
[02:57:17] that your beliefs do become your realities that you actually see the
[02:57:18] realities that you actually see the world in terms of what you believe to be
[02:57:21] world in terms of what you believe to be true about it beliefs create the actual
[02:57:24] true about it beliefs create the actual fact as a man thinketh in his heart or
[02:57:26] fact as a man thinketh in his heart or as a woman woman thinketh in her heart
[02:57:29] as a woman woman thinketh in her heart so are they we also know that law of
[02:57:31] so are they we also know that law of Correspondence says that your outer
[02:57:33] Correspondence says that your outer world will always correspond with your
[02:57:35] world will always correspond with your inner world that means that there is
[02:57:38] inner world that means that there is something in your inner world that
[02:57:40] something in your inner world that corresponds to everything in your outer
[02:57:42] corresponds to everything in your outer world the great EMT fox said this when
[02:57:44] world the great EMT fox said this when he talked about the mental equivalent he
[02:57:46] he talked about the mental equivalent he said that everything in your outer life
[02:57:48] said that everything in your outer life has a mental equivalent in your inner
[02:57:49] has a mental equivalent in your inner life anything that you want to see
[02:57:51] life anything that you want to see different in your outer life you must
[02:57:52] different in your outer life you must first provide the mental equivalent
[02:57:55] first provide the mental equivalent internally and the Law of Attraction
[02:57:57] internally and the Law of Attraction says that anything that you keep holding
[02:57:59] says that anything that you keep holding your mind on a continuing basis you draw
[02:58:01] your mind on a continuing basis you draw to you that your dominant thoughts set
[02:58:04] to you that your dominant thoughts set up a force field of energy that draws
[02:58:06] up a force field of energy that draws into your life the people and
[02:58:07] into your life the people and circumstances that you need I mention
[02:58:09] circumstances that you need I mention that because of this many people say
[02:58:12] that because of this many people say well how will I get a better job or a
[02:58:13] well how will I get a better job or a better relationship how will I find the
[02:58:15] better relationship how will I find the information I need or or uh get the educ
[02:58:18] information I need or or uh get the educ and so on you don't have to worry about
[02:58:19] and so on you don't have to worry about it all you have to do is get it crystal
[02:58:21] it all you have to do is get it crystal clear in your mind and you trigger into
[02:58:23] clear in your mind and you trigger into and get into the flow of these Universal
[02:58:25] and get into the flow of these Universal mental laws and everything that you need
[02:58:27] mental laws and everything that you need will be brought to you exactly as you
[02:58:29] will be brought to you exactly as you need it exactly when you need it and
[02:58:32] need it exactly when you need it and exactly in the form that you need it and
[02:58:34] exactly in the form that you need it and we're going to talk in this session we
[02:58:35] we're going to talk in this session we talked about self-concept before we said
[02:58:38] talked about self-concept before we said that your self-concept is that bundle of
[02:58:40] that your self-concept is that bundle of beliefs inside that determines
[02:58:43] beliefs inside that determines everything that happens to you your
[02:58:44] everything that happens to you your self-concept is the sum total result of
[02:58:46] self-concept is the sum total result of every single piece of information that
[02:58:48] every single piece of information that you've ever taken in about yourself or
[02:58:51] you've ever taken in about yourself or your world accepted as true it becomes
[02:58:55] your world accepted as true it becomes part of your self-concept and your
[02:58:56] part of your self-concept and your self-concept is the corresponding inner
[02:58:59] self-concept is the corresponding inner mechanism that determines what happens
[02:59:01] mechanism that determines what happens to you what does this mean it means that
[02:59:03] to you what does this mean it means that all change begins with a change in the
[02:59:05] all change begins with a change in the self-concept all change Begins by you
[02:59:08] self-concept all change Begins by you taking in new information that changes
[02:59:11] taking in new information that changes your
[02:59:12] your beliefs now beliefs are the hardest of
[02:59:15] beliefs now beliefs are the hardest of all things to change because we defend
[02:59:17] all things to change because we defend them so vigorously we have to be willing
[02:59:20] them so vigorously we have to be willing to give up some of our self-limiting
[02:59:22] to give up some of our self-limiting beliefs we have to be willing to look at
[02:59:24] beliefs we have to be willing to look at our beliefs honestly remember we talked
[02:59:26] our beliefs honestly remember we talked about self- knowledge we have to be
[02:59:28] about self- knowledge we have to be willing to look at our beliefs honestly
[02:59:30] willing to look at our beliefs honestly and say do these beliefs serve me is
[02:59:33] and say do these beliefs serve me is this what I want to be is this what I
[02:59:36] this what I want to be is this what I want to do is this the best that I can
[02:59:38] want to do is this the best that I can have and you begin to question your
[02:59:40] have and you begin to question your beliefs and change your self-concept by
[02:59:42] beliefs and change your self-concept by taking in new information that develops
[02:59:45] taking in new information that develops a new self-concept and that brings us to
[02:59:47] a new self-concept and that brings us to a concept called the psychology of
[02:59:50] a concept called the psychology of becoming the psychology of becoming says
[02:59:53] becoming the psychology of becoming says that each one of us is in a continuous
[02:59:56] that each one of us is in a continuous state of growth and change that your
[02:59:58] state of growth and change that your self-concepts and your beliefs are
[02:59:59] self-concepts and your beliefs are changing all the time for instance when
[03:00:01] changing all the time for instance when you were a child you believe one set of
[03:00:03] you were a child you believe one set of things about the adult world when you
[03:00:05] things about the adult world when you were a teenager another when you were in
[03:00:07] were a teenager another when you were in your early 20s you believed another and
[03:00:09] your early 20s you believed another and as we grow and evolve we change our
[03:00:11] as we grow and evolve we change our beliefs and our self-concept we change
[03:00:13] beliefs and our self-concept we change our self-image we change the way we see
[03:00:15] our self-image we change the way we see the world so we're in this process of
[03:00:17] the world so we're in this process of Bec all the time it's going on it's
[03:00:20] Bec all the time it's going on it's almost like this it's it's like a tumble
[03:00:21] almost like this it's it's like a tumble weed is that you are evolving and
[03:00:23] weed is that you are evolving and changing and growing all the time but
[03:00:25] changing and growing all the time but always in the direction of your dominant
[03:00:27] always in the direction of your dominant goals always in the direction of what
[03:00:29] goals always in the direction of what you are thinking about the most
[03:00:31] you are thinking about the most intensely at the time for instance an
[03:00:33] intensely at the time for instance an alcoholic or a drug addict is also
[03:00:35] alcoholic or a drug addict is also evolving and changing in the direction
[03:00:37] evolving and changing in the direction of his or her dominant goals because
[03:00:40] of his or her dominant goals because that's what they think about all the
[03:00:41] that's what they think about all the time and if you want to evolve and grow
[03:00:44] time and if you want to evolve and grow rapidly you have to make those goals
[03:00:47] rapidly you have to make those goals clear you have to make them sharp you
[03:00:49] clear you have to make them sharp you have to make them intense and you have
[03:00:51] have to make them intense and you have to dwell on them all the time sometimes
[03:00:54] to dwell on them all the time sometimes you see people who are very successful
[03:00:55] you see people who are very successful at an early age but you'll find that
[03:00:57] at an early age but you'll find that those people had an obsession a total
[03:01:00] those people had an obsession a total preoccupation with a particular area or
[03:01:02] preoccupation with a particular area or field for a long time whereas other
[03:01:05] field for a long time whereas other people who may be much older have never
[03:01:07] people who may be much older have never had an intense feeling or have never
[03:01:09] had an intense feeling or have never dwelled on anything they want to
[03:01:10] dwelled on anything they want to accomplish now there's two obstacles to
[03:01:12] accomplish now there's two obstacles to this psychology of becoming number one
[03:01:15] this psychology of becoming number one is called homeostasis now homeostasis is
[03:01:20] is called homeostasis now homeostasis is the desire for consistency it is a
[03:01:23] the desire for consistency it is a natural desire within the human mind to
[03:01:25] natural desire within the human mind to stay constant with what has happened in
[03:01:27] stay constant with what has happened in the past if you like we like to maintain
[03:01:29] the past if you like we like to maintain the status quo these are the people who
[03:01:31] the status quo these are the people who say that's the way we've always done it
[03:01:32] say that's the way we've always done it this is the way we do it around here etc
[03:01:35] this is the way we do it around here etc etc you must watch out for homeostasis
[03:01:38] etc you must watch out for homeostasis because what it does is it causes your
[03:01:40] because what it does is it causes your thinking to become rigid and inflexible
[03:01:43] thinking to become rigid and inflexible and the other is called psychos
[03:01:45] and the other is called psychos sclerosis psychos sclerosis
[03:01:49] sclerosis psychos sclerosis is simply a hardening of the
[03:01:52] is simply a hardening of the attitudes a hardening of the attitudes
[03:01:55] attitudes a hardening of the attitudes people with psychos sclerosis developed
[03:01:57] people with psychos sclerosis developed what is called fixed ideas fixed ideas
[03:01:59] what is called fixed ideas fixed ideas lead to rigidity and an unwillingness to
[03:02:02] lead to rigidity and an unwillingness to change both of these lead to getting
[03:02:04] change both of these lead to getting stuck in the comfort zone remember the
[03:02:07] stuck in the comfort zone remember the natural tendency of all human behavior
[03:02:09] natural tendency of all human behavior is for you to start doing something in a
[03:02:11] is for you to start doing something in a certain way and then get stuck in a
[03:02:13] certain way and then get stuck in a comfort zone you get stuck in a comfort
[03:02:16] comfort zone you get stuck in a comfort zone in a relationship even if you're
[03:02:17] zone in a relationship even if you're not happy in a job even if you're not
[03:02:19] not happy in a job even if you're not satisfied and with a particular level of
[03:02:21] satisfied and with a particular level of income even if it's not enough you have
[03:02:23] income even if it's not enough you have to fight the comfort zone because the
[03:02:25] to fight the comfort zone because the comfort zone very soon becomes a
[03:02:27] comfort zone very soon becomes a rut and they say that a rut becomes a
[03:02:31] rut and they say that a rut becomes a grave and the only difference between a
[03:02:32] grave and the only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth or another
[03:02:36] rut and a grave is the depth or another way that it's been put is that a grave
[03:02:37] way that it's been put is that a grave is simply a rut or a rut is simply a
[03:02:40] is simply a rut or a rut is simply a grave where the ends kicked out so be
[03:02:42] grave where the ends kicked out so be very alert to that because the great
[03:02:44] very alert to that because the great majority of people in our society tend
[03:02:46] majority of people in our society tend and evolve natur to get into a comfort
[03:02:49] and evolve natur to get into a comfort zone to become very rigid Defenders of
[03:02:51] zone to become very rigid Defenders of the status quo to become very hardened
[03:02:54] the status quo to become very hardened in their attitudes they get into this
[03:02:55] in their attitudes they get into this comfort zone They fall into this rut and
[03:02:57] comfort zone They fall into this rut and even if it would be good for them they
[03:02:59] even if it would be good for them they don't
[03:03:00] don't change now this leads us to the two
[03:03:03] change now this leads us to the two great powers that control everything
[03:03:05] great powers that control everything that happens to you and the first power
[03:03:08] that happens to you and the first power is the Power of Love The Power of
[03:03:12] is the Power of Love The Power of Love is the power that shapes your
[03:03:14] Love is the power that shapes your personality and shapes your destiny The
[03:03:17] personality and shapes your destiny The Power of Love simply says that
[03:03:19] Power of Love simply says that everything that we do is either to get
[03:03:22] everything that we do is either to get love or to compensate for the lack of
[03:03:25] love or to compensate for the lack of love we said earlier that children's
[03:03:28] love we said earlier that children's entire personality is formed by the
[03:03:30] entire personality is formed by the quality and quantity of love that they
[03:03:32] quality and quantity of love that they get and that all adult problems are as
[03:03:34] get and that all adult problems are as the result of Love withheld love
[03:03:36] the result of Love withheld love withheld from our parents and perhaps
[03:03:37] withheld from our parents and perhaps love withheld from people when we grow
[03:03:39] love withheld from people when we grow up the other power is the power of
[03:03:42] up the other power is the power of suggestion now the power of suggestion
[03:03:44] suggestion now the power of suggestion works on us all of our Lives the power
[03:03:46] works on us all of our Lives the power of suggestion is EXT ex strong what it
[03:03:49] of suggestion is EXT ex strong what it does is it begins working on us almost
[03:03:52] does is it begins working on us almost from the time that we're born sometimes
[03:03:53] from the time that we're born sometimes from before birth and the power of
[03:03:55] from before birth and the power of suggestion shapes us it means that every
[03:03:58] suggestion shapes us it means that every single thought you think everything you
[03:04:00] single thought you think everything you hear everything that you see touch taste
[03:04:02] hear everything that you see touch taste or smell everything that affects you in
[03:04:06] or smell everything that affects you in any way has an effect on your
[03:04:08] any way has an effect on your personality we say it this way we say
[03:04:10] personality we say it this way we say everything
[03:04:11] everything counts everything counts and especially
[03:04:14] counts everything counts and especially when you become an adult remember that
[03:04:16] when you become an adult remember that everything counts
[03:04:19] everything counts now the average adult in America watches
[03:04:22] now the average adult in America watches 20 to 25 hours of Television every week
[03:04:26] 20 to 25 hours of Television every week the average Senior Citizen Watches about
[03:04:28] the average Senior Citizen Watches about 7 hours of Television average child
[03:04:30] 7 hours of Television average child watches three or four hours of
[03:04:31] watches three or four hours of Television per day do you know that the
[03:04:33] Television per day do you know that the average Chief Executive Officer of major
[03:04:35] average Chief Executive Officer of major American corporations watches less than
[03:04:38] American corporations watches less than five hours per week now let me ask you a
[03:04:40] five hours per week now let me ask you a very simple question do you think
[03:04:42] very simple question do you think there's a correlation between the number
[03:04:44] there's a correlation between the number of hours that a person watches
[03:04:46] of hours that a person watches television and how successful they are
[03:04:48] television and how successful they are in life do you think that the suggestive
[03:04:50] in life do you think that the suggestive influences books magazines tapes courses
[03:04:53] influences books magazines tapes courses seminars people television programs and
[03:04:56] seminars people television programs and so on that you watch listen to read
[03:04:58] so on that you watch listen to read associate with on an ongoing basis do
[03:05:00] associate with on an ongoing basis do you think these suggestive influences
[03:05:02] you think these suggestive influences are having any effect on your future let
[03:05:05] are having any effect on your future let me just put it this way everything does
[03:05:08] me just put it this way everything does count and you have to ask yourself this
[03:05:10] count and you have to ask yourself this question I learned this many years ago
[03:05:12] question I learned this many years ago is ask yourself this question what is it
[03:05:14] is ask yourself this question what is it that you want in life once you've asked
[03:05:16] that you want in life once you've asked yourself what it is you want in life
[03:05:18] yourself what it is you want in life then you can look at around your world
[03:05:20] then you can look at around your world and you can determine what is right for
[03:05:22] and you can determine what is right for you and what is wrong for you what does
[03:05:25] you and what is wrong for you what does that mean it means that everything that
[03:05:27] that mean it means that everything that moves you toward what you want is right
[03:05:30] moves you toward what you want is right and everything that moves you away from
[03:05:32] and everything that moves you away from what you want is wrong but everything
[03:05:35] what you want is wrong but everything counts well I have a good friend who
[03:05:37] counts well I have a good friend who goes on a diet on a regular basis and
[03:05:40] goes on a diet on a regular basis and every so often I catch him eating
[03:05:44] every so often I catch him eating cheesecake and sometimes he's eating two
[03:05:46] cheesecake and sometimes he's eating two pieces of cheesecake with l lunch and I
[03:05:48] pieces of cheesecake with l lunch and I say to him I said I thought you were on
[03:05:49] say to him I said I thought you were on a diet I said I thought you only eat
[03:05:51] a diet I said I thought you only eat fresh fruits and vegetables and and
[03:05:53] fresh fruits and vegetables and and natural foods and he saids sure he said
[03:05:55] natural foods and he saids sure he said well I said what about the cheesecake he
[03:05:57] well I said what about the cheesecake he said well I don't count that do you know
[03:05:59] said well I don't count that do you know how many people sit at home and watch
[03:06:00] how many people sit at home and watch television three or four hours a night
[03:06:02] television three or four hours a night who want to be successful who read the
[03:06:04] who want to be successful who read the comic strips and the sports Pages who
[03:06:07] comic strips and the sports Pages who read junky magazines or nothing at all
[03:06:09] read junky magazines or nothing at all listen to the radio don't do anything
[03:06:10] listen to the radio don't do anything with their time and their minds they say
[03:06:12] with their time and their minds they say but I want to be successful I want to be
[03:06:13] but I want to be successful I want to be more successful I said well what about
[03:06:15] more successful I said well what about all these things that you're doing to
[03:06:16] all these things that you're doing to waste your time they said well I don't
[03:06:17] waste your time they said well I don't count that
[03:06:19] count that unfortunately nature counts everything
[03:06:21] unfortunately nature counts everything so this brings us to some laws that I
[03:06:25] so this brings us to some laws that I want to share with you the first law is
[03:06:26] want to share with you the first law is the law of habit now these are also
[03:06:29] the law of habit now these are also mental laws the law of
[03:06:32] mental laws the law of habit is very similar to the law of
[03:06:36] habit is very similar to the law of inertia the law of inertia says that a
[03:06:38] inertia the law of inertia says that a body in at rest tends to remain at rest
[03:06:41] body in at rest tends to remain at rest unless acted upon by an outside force it
[03:06:43] unless acted upon by an outside force it also sends that the body in motion tends
[03:06:45] also sends that the body in motion tends to remain in motion unless acted upon by
[03:06:47] to remain in motion unless acted upon by outside force the law of habit says that
[03:06:50] outside force the law of habit says that in the absence of a specific decision on
[03:06:53] in the absence of a specific decision on your part to change some aspect of your
[03:06:56] your part to change some aspect of your life the natural tendency will be to go
[03:06:59] life the natural tendency will be to go on the same way
[03:07:03] indefinitely as a time management
[03:07:05] indefinitely as a time management specialist once said The more you do of
[03:07:08] specialist once said The more you do of what you're doing the more you'll get of
[03:07:11] what you're doing the more you'll get of what you've got so you have to look at
[03:07:13] what you've got so you have to look at what you've got and look at what you're
[03:07:15] what you've got and look at what you're doing and saying is this what you want
[03:07:18] doing and saying is this what you want you will go on indefinitely in the same
[03:07:21] you will go on indefinitely in the same direction unless you make a very
[03:07:23] direction unless you make a very concrete specific decision to change
[03:07:26] concrete specific decision to change also there's another law it's called The
[03:07:28] also there's another law it's called The Law of
[03:07:30] Law of emotion and by the way before I get into
[03:07:32] emotion and by the way before I get into the law of emotion let me say this that
[03:07:34] the law of emotion let me say this that about 95% of everything that we do is by
[03:07:36] about 95% of everything that we do is by habit that the only major difference
[03:07:38] habit that the only major difference between successful people and failures
[03:07:40] between successful people and failures is that successful people have success
[03:07:42] is that successful people have success habits and failures have failure habits
[03:07:44] habits and failures have failure habits you've heard for example you've heard
[03:07:45] you've heard for example you've heard the old saying early to bed and early to
[03:07:46] the old saying early to bed and early to rise they say makes a man healthy
[03:07:48] rise they say makes a man healthy wealthy and wise well why is that why is
[03:07:50] wealthy and wise well why is that why is it that so many successful people get up
[03:07:52] it that so many successful people get up early in the morning it's because they
[03:07:54] early in the morning it's because they get a jump on the day it's also because
[03:07:56] get a jump on the day it's also because it forces them to go to bed earlier at
[03:07:57] it forces them to go to bed earlier at night so they don't waste the evenings
[03:07:59] night so they don't waste the evenings when they're the tiredest and least
[03:08:01] when they're the tiredest and least productive so you find that over and
[03:08:03] productive so you find that over and over again successful men and women are
[03:08:05] over again successful men and women are early to bed and early to rise they have
[03:08:06] early to bed and early to rise they have a success habit why is it that people
[03:08:09] a success habit why is it that people don't go to bed early or don't get up
[03:08:11] don't go to bed early or don't get up early because they're too lazy they're
[03:08:13] early because they're too lazy they're too undisciplined they don't have goals
[03:08:15] too undisciplined they don't have goals that they want badly enough they do not
[03:08:17] that they want badly enough they do not have success habits 95% of your success
[03:08:20] have success habits 95% of your success is going to be determined by the type of
[03:08:22] is going to be determined by the type of habits you develop and if you have good
[03:08:24] habits you develop and if you have good habits you're going to be successful in
[03:08:26] habits you're going to be successful in spite of anything else the law of
[03:08:28] spite of anything else the law of emotion says simply this it says that
[03:08:31] emotion says simply this it says that every decision that you make is based on
[03:08:34] every decision that you make is based on emotion is it we used to say over and
[03:08:36] emotion is it we used to say over and over again that uh people are 90%
[03:08:39] over again that uh people are 90% emotional and 10% logical well one of
[03:08:41] emotional and 10% logical well one of the great discoveries that I've made in
[03:08:42] the great discoveries that I've made in the course of my research is the
[03:08:44] the course of my research is the discovery that we are 100% emotional
[03:08:46] discovery that we are 100% emotional that we're not even 99% emotional every
[03:08:49] that we're not even 99% emotional every single decision we make is an emotional
[03:08:51] single decision we make is an emotional decision if somebody says well it's the
[03:08:53] decision if somebody says well it's the logical thing to do what it simply means
[03:08:55] logical thing to do what it simply means is they have more emotion invested in
[03:08:57] is they have more emotion invested in that even though it sounds logical the
[03:08:59] that even though it sounds logical the law of emotion says that every decision
[03:09:01] law of emotion says that every decision that we make is emotional and it says
[03:09:04] that we make is emotional and it says this it says the stronger emotion will
[03:09:07] this it says the stronger emotion will dominate a weaker
[03:09:09] dominate a weaker emotion stronger emotion dominates a
[03:09:12] emotion stronger emotion dominates a weaker emotion so whichever
[03:09:15] weaker emotion so whichever emotion is stronger
[03:09:18] emotion is stronger will be the dominant emotion and will
[03:09:20] will be the dominant emotion and will determine what you do all action is
[03:09:23] determine what you do all action is determined by the emotion that is
[03:09:24] determined by the emotion that is predominate at the time and with the
[03:09:27] predominate at the time and with the whatever the stronger emotion if it is
[03:09:29] whatever the stronger emotion if it is fear fear will determine what you do if
[03:09:31] fear fear will determine what you do if it is desire desire will determine what
[03:09:34] it is desire desire will determine what you do the two major emotions that
[03:09:37] you do the two major emotions that wrestle within us all the time are fear
[03:09:40] wrestle within us all the time are fear versus desire World Championship goes on
[03:09:43] versus desire World Championship goes on over and over again your fears that hold
[03:09:45] over and over again your fears that hold you back your desires that propel you
[03:09:47] you back your desires that propel you forward now how do you turn this
[03:09:49] forward now how do you turn this equation so that your desires win it's
[03:09:52] equation so that your desires win it's very simple you use the law of
[03:09:54] very simple you use the law of concentration and you think about what
[03:09:56] concentration and you think about what you want all the time you dwell on what
[03:09:59] you want all the time you dwell on what you want all the time you keep your mind
[03:10:01] you want all the time you keep your mind fixed on your desires you become totally
[03:10:03] fixed on your desires you become totally preoccupied with what you want and as we
[03:10:06] preoccupied with what you want and as we said before your fears have a tendency
[03:10:07] said before your fears have a tendency to dwindle But whichever thing you think
[03:10:10] to dwindle But whichever thing you think about if you think about your fears or
[03:10:11] about if you think about your fears or you think about your desires whichever
[03:10:13] you think about your desires whichever one you think about by the law of
[03:10:15] one you think about by the law of emotion is going to determine your
[03:10:17] emotion is going to determine your action and your actions will determine
[03:10:19] action and your actions will determine your outcomes this brings us to another
[03:10:22] your outcomes this brings us to another law which is called the law of
[03:10:24] law which is called the law of expression and this law of expression is
[03:10:27] expression and this law of expression is very interesting this law of expression
[03:10:29] very interesting this law of expression goes back many many years and it
[03:10:32] goes back many many years and it predates even a quote from Aristotle
[03:10:35] predates even a quote from Aristotle which says whatever
[03:10:37] which says whatever is impressed is expressed whatever is
[03:10:43] is impressed is expressed whatever is impressed is expressed
[03:10:50] whatever is impressed is expressed now
[03:10:52] whatever is impressed is expressed now what does this mean let me go and sit
[03:10:54] what does this mean let me go and sit down well we get the board cleaned off
[03:10:57] down well we get the board cleaned off it means it means simply this is that
[03:10:59] it means it means simply this is that whatever is impressed into your psyche
[03:11:01] whatever is impressed into your psyche for any reason and from whatever Source
[03:11:04] for any reason and from whatever Source whatever is mixed with emotion and
[03:11:06] whatever is mixed with emotion and dropped into your self-concept will
[03:11:08] dropped into your self-concept will eventually be expressed as part of your
[03:11:10] eventually be expressed as part of your personality part of your reality it says
[03:11:13] personality part of your reality it says in effect that you see the world through
[03:11:15] in effect that you see the world through your self-concept you actually see your
[03:11:19] your self-concept you actually see your concept of the world you do not believe
[03:11:22] concept of the world you do not believe what you see you see what you believe
[03:11:26] what you see you see what you believe whatever has been impressed on your mind
[03:11:28] whatever has been impressed on your mind as a fact or as a truth or as a reality
[03:11:31] as a fact or as a truth or as a reality will then be expressed in your reality
[03:11:34] will then be expressed in your reality or expressed in your world because that
[03:11:36] or expressed in your world because that is what you will see if you believe that
[03:11:37] is what you will see if you believe that a certain type of people are good then
[03:11:39] a certain type of people are good then you will see goodness in those people if
[03:11:41] you will see goodness in those people if you believe that members of a particular
[03:11:43] you believe that members of a particular political party are fools then all
[03:11:46] political party are fools then all members of that political part party
[03:11:47] members of that political part party will appear foolish to you even the
[03:11:49] will appear foolish to you even the wisest and most intelligent if you
[03:11:51] wisest and most intelligent if you believe that there is opportunity
[03:11:53] believe that there is opportunity everywhere you will see opportunity
[03:11:55] everywhere you will see opportunity everywhere if you believe that you're in
[03:11:56] everywhere if you believe that you're in complete control of your own destiny
[03:11:58] complete control of your own destiny then you will see indications of that if
[03:12:00] then you will see indications of that if you believe that you are a popular
[03:12:02] you believe that you are a popular courageous confident influential person
[03:12:06] courageous confident influential person then you will act in a manner consistent
[03:12:08] then you will act in a manner consistent with it and you will see it all around
[03:12:10] with it and you will see it all around you I was reading a very interesting
[03:12:12] you I was reading a very interesting story not long ago about a young man who
[03:12:15] story not long ago about a young man who came from poor beginnings and had no
[03:12:16] came from poor beginnings and had no self-con idence at all but was convinced
[03:12:19] self-con idence at all but was convinced by a fortune teller that he was The
[03:12:21] by a fortune teller that he was The Reincarnation of Napoleon bonapart
[03:12:24] Reincarnation of Napoleon bonapart wonderful story true story too and uh he
[03:12:27] wonderful story true story too and uh he began to believe that he was The
[03:12:28] began to believe that he was The Reincarnation of Napoleon bonapart and
[03:12:31] Reincarnation of Napoleon bonapart and he went to the library and he studied
[03:12:33] he went to the library and he studied Napoleon he read all about Napoleon and
[03:12:35] Napoleon he read all about Napoleon and he began to walk and talk and act like
[03:12:37] he began to walk and talk and act like Napoleon he began to think like Napoleon
[03:12:39] Napoleon he began to think like Napoleon he began to imagine great plans like
[03:12:42] he began to imagine great plans like Napoleon would have imag he began to act
[03:12:44] Napoleon would have imag he began to act with courage and confidence in the face
[03:12:46] with courage and confidence in the face of uncertainty as Napoleon would have
[03:12:49] of uncertainty as Napoleon would have over time he became absolutely convinced
[03:12:51] over time he became absolutely convinced that indeed
[03:12:52] that indeed this person who was shy and retiring was
[03:12:56] this person who was shy and retiring was truly The Reincarnation of Napoleon and
[03:12:59] truly The Reincarnation of Napoleon and as he did his career improved he was
[03:13:01] as he did his career improved he was promoted he was Advanced he changed the
[03:13:03] promoted he was Advanced he changed the way he dressed he spoke more confidently
[03:13:06] way he dressed he spoke more confidently and by the time he found out that he had
[03:13:08] and by the time he found out that he had been misled by the fortune teller he was
[03:13:10] been misled by the fortune teller he was already an extremely successful
[03:13:12] already an extremely successful businessman very interesting whatever is
[03:13:15] businessman very interesting whatever is impressed and and accepted becomes
[03:13:18] impressed and and accepted becomes expressed and this brings us to another
[03:13:19] expressed and this brings us to another critical mental law and it is this it is
[03:13:23] critical mental law and it is this it is what is called the
[03:13:25] what is called the law of
[03:13:26] law of reversibility when I first learned about
[03:13:29] reversibility when I first learned about this law I was so excited I wanted to
[03:13:33] this law I was so excited I wanted to wrap it up and tie it up and not tell
[03:13:36] wrap it up and tie it up and not tell anybody this is the first time in any
[03:13:38] anybody this is the first time in any form that I've ever explained this law
[03:13:40] form that I've ever explained this law to other people the law of reversibility
[03:13:42] to other people the law of reversibility says simply this is that if you achieve
[03:13:44] says simply this is that if you achieve a certain level of success a certain
[03:13:47] a certain level of success a certain level of Health the certain quality of
[03:13:49] level of Health the certain quality of relationships then that quality of
[03:13:52] relationships then that quality of relationships will create a subjective
[03:13:55] relationships will create a subjective State a subjective State means a feeling
[03:13:58] State a subjective State means a feeling or an emotional state in other words if
[03:14:02] or an emotional state in other words if you win a prize you will feel like a
[03:14:04] you win a prize you will feel like a winner if you fall in love you'll feel
[03:14:07] winner if you fall in love you'll feel like a lover if you succeed in business
[03:14:09] like a lover if you succeed in business you'll feel like a success the
[03:14:12] you'll feel like a success the objective creates in other words the
[03:14:15] objective creates in other words the objective reality
[03:14:18] objective reality or the fact actually creates the
[03:14:21] or the fact actually creates the subjective or the emotional state that
[03:14:24] subjective or the emotional state that make sense to you in other words
[03:14:25] make sense to you in other words something happens you feel great you get
[03:14:27] something happens you feel great you get the feeling however the law of
[03:14:29] the feeling however the law of reversibility says this if you can grasp
[03:14:32] reversibility says this if you can grasp this this one fact alone can change your
[03:14:35] this this one fact alone can change your life because it has changed mine is that
[03:14:38] life because it has changed mine is that if you can create
[03:14:40] if you can create artificially the subjective State the
[03:14:43] artificially the subjective State the feeling the feeling will trigger the law
[03:14:46] feeling the feeling will trigger the law of ATT raction and correspondence into
[03:14:49] of ATT raction and correspondence into motion and will draw into your life the
[03:14:51] motion and will draw into your life the people circumstances and opportunities
[03:14:53] people circumstances and opportunities necessary to create the objective that
[03:14:56] necessary to create the objective that is constant with the subjective and here
[03:14:59] is constant with the subjective and here is the method it's so simple it's
[03:15:02] is the method it's so simple it's astonishing it is this is whenever you
[03:15:04] astonishing it is this is whenever you think of something that you really
[03:15:06] think of something that you really desire imagine that you have it
[03:15:09] desire imagine that you have it already imagine that you have it
[03:15:12] already imagine that you have it already it sounds like a game like
[03:15:15] already it sounds like a game like children would play but it is so
[03:15:17] children would play but it is so powerful that is it is all inspiring and
[03:15:19] powerful that is it is all inspiring and all I suggest you do is try it for a
[03:15:21] all I suggest you do is try it for a little while just imagine close your
[03:15:23] little while just imagine close your eyes drive it along think about it
[03:15:25] eyes drive it along think about it necessary stand relax do whatever you
[03:15:26] necessary stand relax do whatever you want but just imagine that you've
[03:15:28] want but just imagine that you've already accomplished it and try to get
[03:15:30] already accomplished it and try to get the feeling get the
[03:15:34] the feeling get the feeling as though it were already a
[03:15:36] feeling as though it were already a success as though it were a past tense
[03:15:39] success as though it were a past tense as though it were already accomplished
[03:15:40] as though it were already accomplished that you don't have to worry about it
[03:15:41] that you don't have to worry about it again you've already got the feeling and
[03:15:44] again you've already got the feeling and if you will play that feeling over and
[03:15:45] if you will play that feeling over and over again this law of reversibility
[03:15:48] over again this law of reversibility will create this feeling as you dwell
[03:15:50] will create this feeling as you dwell upon the feeling more and more the
[03:15:52] upon the feeling more and more the feeling will actually begin to change
[03:15:53] feeling will actually begin to change things inside you and outside of you
[03:15:56] things inside you and outside of you draw you toward your goal and draw your
[03:15:59] draw you toward your goal and draw your goal toward you and the objective will
[03:16:02] goal toward you and the objective will come into reality exactly at the right
[03:16:04] come into reality exactly at the right time and place you don't even really
[03:16:05] time and place you don't even really have to worry about the process between
[03:16:07] have to worry about the process between the two or what the steps are all you
[03:16:09] the two or what the steps are all you have to do is hold that feeling very
[03:16:11] have to do is hold that feeling very very intensely and we'll talk about this
[03:16:12] very intensely and we'll talk about this a little bit more when we talk about
[03:16:13] a little bit more when we talk about mental programming methods now the next
[03:16:15] mental programming methods now the next law is the law of practice
[03:16:17] law is the law of practice ice the law of
[03:16:21] practice is also called The Law of
[03:16:23] practice is also called The Law of repetition but with says that whatever
[03:16:25] repetition but with says that whatever you do over and over again often enough
[03:16:30] you do over and over again often enough becomes and you have it you want to be a
[03:16:34] becomes and you have it you want to be a positive exciting enthusiastic person
[03:16:37] positive exciting enthusiastic person you be want to become wealthy and
[03:16:38] you be want to become wealthy and successful what is it that you want in
[03:16:40] successful what is it that you want in life whatever you want in life if you
[03:16:42] life whatever you want in life if you will practice it over and over again it
[03:16:45] will practice it over and over again it eventually becomes a new habit if you
[03:16:47] eventually becomes a new habit if you practice it by thinking about it you see
[03:16:48] practice it by thinking about it you see a new habit takes about 21 days to
[03:16:52] a new habit takes about 21 days to develop takes about 21 days to develop a
[03:16:55] develop takes about 21 days to develop a new habit 21 days of repeating it over
[03:16:58] new habit 21 days of repeating it over and over
[03:17:00] and over again now what we're going to ask you to
[03:17:02] again now what we're going to ask you to do as a result of this course and a
[03:17:04] do as a result of this course and a result what result of what we've talked
[03:17:06] result what result of what we've talked about is we're going to ask you or
[03:17:08] about is we're going to ask you or suggest that you go on what we call a 21
[03:17:10] suggest that you go on what we call a 21 day PMA
[03:17:13] day PMA diet that means that for 21 days we're
[03:17:15] diet that means that for 21 days we're going to ask you to do a very difficult
[03:17:18] going to ask you to do a very difficult thing one of the most difficult things
[03:17:19] thing one of the most difficult things you'll ever do in your life is for 21
[03:17:21] you'll ever do in your life is for 21 days we want you to keep your mind on
[03:17:23] days we want you to keep your mind on what you want and keep it off of what
[03:17:24] what you want and keep it off of what you don't want keep your conversation on
[03:17:27] you don't want keep your conversation on what you want keep your conversation off
[03:17:29] what you want keep your conversation off of what you don't want keep your dreams
[03:17:31] of what you don't want keep your dreams your imagination your thoughts your
[03:17:33] your imagination your thoughts your feelings everything in your environment
[03:17:35] feelings everything in your environment consistent with what you desire and keep
[03:17:37] consistent with what you desire and keep it off of what you don't want very
[03:17:39] it off of what you don't want very simple it's not very complicated it's
[03:17:41] simple it's not very complicated it's one of the most difficult things that
[03:17:43] one of the most difficult things that you'll ever do now why do we pick 21
[03:17:45] you'll ever do now why do we pick 21 days well a very good reason
[03:17:47] days well a very good reason uh you see it takes 21 days for a
[03:17:50] uh you see it takes 21 days for a chicken that has a brain the size of a
[03:17:53] chicken that has a brain the size of a pee to sit patiently calmly
[03:17:57] pee to sit patiently calmly Faithfully on an egg to hatch the egg
[03:18:01] Faithfully on an egg to hatch the egg now we feel that if a chicken with a
[03:18:03] now we feel that if a chicken with a little brain like that can sit on an egg
[03:18:06] little brain like that can sit on an egg for 21 days without seeing any change
[03:18:08] for 21 days without seeing any change just in faith just in faith for 21 days
[03:18:11] just in faith just in faith for 21 days it can sit there on that egg then we
[03:18:13] it can sit there on that egg then we could probably ask adults who have
[03:18:15] could probably ask adults who have brains that are the size of three PBS
[03:18:17] brains that are the size of three PBS that have 12 to 20 billion cells and
[03:18:20] that have 12 to 20 billion cells and have the capacity to remember and retain
[03:18:22] have the capacity to remember and retain all the knowledge known to man if their
[03:18:24] all the knowledge known to man if their brain could be tapped we ask them to
[03:18:26] brain could be tapped we ask them to keep at it for 21 days if you will go on
[03:18:29] keep at it for 21 days if you will go on a positive mental attitude diet for 21
[03:18:32] a positive mental attitude diet for 21 days keep your mind on it the goal is to
[03:18:34] days keep your mind on it the goal is to become what we call a purely positive
[03:18:37] become what we call a purely positive person a purely positive
[03:18:40] person a purely positive person because we know that if you're a
[03:18:42] person because we know that if you're a p purely positive person if your
[03:18:44] p purely positive person if your conversations your acts and your
[03:18:46] conversations your acts and your relationship are purely positive what we
[03:18:48] relationship are purely positive what we call a PPP
[03:18:51] call a PPP person and you practice that for 21 days
[03:18:54] person and you practice that for 21 days you will find that your life will change
[03:18:57] you will find that your life will change that everything around you will change
[03:18:58] that everything around you will change your health your relationships your work
[03:19:00] your health your relationships your work your opportunities and everything
[03:19:02] your opportunities and everything else it's simple but it's not easy if
[03:19:06] else it's simple but it's not easy if you can do it if you can practice it it
[03:19:08] you can do it if you can practice it it will become a new habit the very law of
[03:19:11] will become a new habit the very law of reversibility the very law of emotion
[03:19:13] reversibility the very law of emotion the very law of habit that we talked
[03:19:15] the very law of habit that we talked about will actually begin to be changed
[03:19:17] about will actually begin to be changed now what are the four things you need in
[03:19:19] now what are the four things you need in order to make this great change number
[03:19:21] order to make this great change number one is you need
[03:19:23] one is you need desire desire is the starting point of
[03:19:25] desire desire is the starting point of all change the most important question
[03:19:28] all change the most important question that you have to ask yourself in life is
[03:19:29] that you have to ask yourself in life is how badly do you want what you want how
[03:19:32] how badly do you want what you want how badly do you want it or do you want it
[03:19:36] badly do you want it or do you want it at all you see there's an awful lot of
[03:19:39] at all you see there's an awful lot of people who want an awful lot of
[03:19:42] people who want an awful lot of things but how badly do they want it if
[03:19:45] things but how badly do they want it if you want it so badly if you want it with
[03:19:47] you want it so badly if you want it with tremendous intensity of desire there's
[03:19:49] tremendous intensity of desire there's really nothing in the world that can
[03:19:50] really nothing in the world that can stop you from getting it there's an
[03:19:52] stop you from getting it there's an interesting story was told by about
[03:19:55] interesting story was told by about Socrates and Socrates was talking to one
[03:19:57] Socrates and Socrates was talking to one of his students and the student said I
[03:19:58] of his students and the student said I am hungry for knowledge what can I do to
[03:20:00] am hungry for knowledge what can I do to increase my knowledge and Socrates said
[03:20:04] increase my knowledge and Socrates said uh knowledge is something that is read
[03:20:06] uh knowledge is something that is read readily available and easy to get if you
[03:20:08] readily available and easy to get if you want it bad enough he said oh he said
[03:20:10] want it bad enough he said oh he said I'm sure I want it badly enough and
[03:20:12] I'm sure I want it badly enough and Socrates said come with me and he walked
[03:20:13] Socrates said come with me and he walked him offshore into uh the ocean and
[03:20:17] him offshore into uh the ocean and walked him offshore into the agnc and I
[03:20:19] walked him offshore into the agnc and I got about three or 4 feet and Socrates a
[03:20:21] got about three or 4 feet and Socrates a very very strong man grabbed the young
[03:20:23] very very strong man grabbed the young man and put his head under the water and
[03:20:25] man and put his head under the water and the young man began to struggle and
[03:20:26] the young man began to struggle and struggle and struggle and finally became
[03:20:28] struggle and struggle and finally became incredibly frantic and finally brought
[03:20:30] incredibly frantic and finally brought him up and he said now what did you want
[03:20:32] him up and he said now what did you want while you were under the water and he
[03:20:33] while you were under the water and he said all I wanted was air he said all I
[03:20:35] said all I wanted was air he said all I could think of in the whole world was
[03:20:37] could think of in the whole world was air he said when you want knowledge with
[03:20:39] air he said when you want knowledge with the same intensity that you wanted that
[03:20:42] the same intensity that you wanted that oxygen you will get all the knowledge
[03:20:44] oxygen you will get all the knowledge that you could desire and when you want
[03:20:46] that you could desire and when you want anything with great intensity if you
[03:20:48] anything with great intensity if you have the desire you'll get it now the
[03:20:50] have the desire you'll get it now the second step is
[03:20:53] second step is decision over and over again where I
[03:20:55] decision over and over again where I travel I find that the major change in a
[03:20:58] travel I find that the major change in a person's life begins when they make a
[03:21:01] person's life begins when they make a decision I also find that the great
[03:21:03] decision I also find that the great majority of people are incredibly
[03:21:05] majority of people are incredibly indecisive is that they're very
[03:21:07] indecisive is that they're very reluctant to make decisions to cut off
[03:21:09] reluctant to make decisions to cut off their options they are very very
[03:21:11] their options they are very very reluctant to make a commitment of any
[03:21:13] reluctant to make a commitment of any kind and in not making a commitment they
[03:21:16] kind and in not making a commitment they just drift they unfortunately condemn
[03:21:19] just drift they unfortunately condemn themselves to living by the law of
[03:21:21] themselves to living by the law of accident so the next step is to make a
[03:21:23] accident so the next step is to make a decision a very clear unequivocal
[03:21:26] decision a very clear unequivocal decision is that this is what you want
[03:21:29] decision is that this is what you want and you are willing to pay the price to
[03:21:31] and you are willing to pay the price to get it there's a very interesting little
[03:21:33] get it there's a very interesting little book called The Ultimate Secret by
[03:21:34] book called The Ultimate Secret by Michael hernacki and he said that the
[03:21:36] Michael hernacki and he said that the key to success after he's studied many
[03:21:39] key to success after he's studied many many successful people so the key to
[03:21:41] many successful people so the key to success is simply this is be willing to
[03:21:43] success is simply this is be willing to do whatever is
[03:21:45] do whatever is necessary be willing to do whatever is
[03:21:50] necessary be willing to do whatever is necessary be willing to do whatever is
[03:21:53] necessary be willing to do whatever is necessary that means once you've made
[03:21:55] necessary that means once you've made the decision be willing to
[03:21:57] the decision be willing to go the extra mile be willing to do
[03:21:59] go the extra mile be willing to do whatever is necessary and the
[03:22:00] whatever is necessary and the interesting thing is that you won't ever
[03:22:01] interesting thing is that you won't ever have to do everything that's necessary
[03:22:02] have to do everything that's necessary but you must be willing to do it and
[03:22:04] but you must be willing to do it and it's that unequivocal decision that do
[03:22:06] it's that unequivocal decision that do or die that complete total 100%
[03:22:09] or die that complete total 100% commitment that makes all the difference
[03:22:12] commitment that makes all the difference in your success most people are
[03:22:14] in your success most people are unwilling to make the commitment and if
[03:22:16] unwilling to make the commitment and if they do make the commitment they hold
[03:22:17] they do make the commitment they hold themselves back they say I want it but
[03:22:18] themselves back they say I want it but I'm not willing to do this or I won't do
[03:22:20] I'm not willing to do this or I won't do that or I won't move I won't go back to
[03:22:22] that or I won't move I won't go back to school uh I can't sacrifice this and so
[03:22:25] school uh I can't sacrifice this and so on I've spoken to many parents for
[03:22:27] on I've spoken to many parents for instance who have undergone great
[03:22:29] instance who have undergone great sacrifices so that the mother can stay
[03:22:32] sacrifices so that the mother can stay home with the young children during
[03:22:33] home with the young children during their first 3 to five years and people
[03:22:35] their first 3 to five years and people say well you're crazy you need the money
[03:22:37] say well you're crazy you need the money you can't take trips you don't have
[03:22:38] you can't take trips you don't have enough money to pay bills when you're
[03:22:40] enough money to pay bills when you're not one of two people working they say
[03:22:41] not one of two people working they say yes but our decision is to give our
[03:22:44] yes but our decision is to give our children the finest grounding and finest
[03:22:46] children the finest grounding and finest emotional basis possible and we feel
[03:22:48] emotional basis possible and we feel that the way to do it is for the mother
[03:22:50] that the way to do it is for the mother to be home with the children so they're
[03:22:51] to be home with the children so they're willing to make the sacrifices and of
[03:22:54] willing to make the sacrifices and of course everybody has to make their
[03:22:55] course everybody has to make their decisions with regard to what sacrifices
[03:22:57] decisions with regard to what sacrifices they want to make the third is
[03:23:01] they want to make the third is determination determination
[03:23:03] determination determination means to back your plan with if you like
[03:23:07] means to back your plan with if you like iron
[03:23:08] iron willpower again every single study that
[03:23:10] willpower again every single study that I've looked at and I spent in the course
[03:23:13] I've looked at and I spent in the course of my lifetime I've spent almost 30,000
[03:23:16] of my lifetime I've spent almost 30,000 hours studying the subject of personal
[03:23:18] hours studying the subject of personal and corporate success is that iron
[03:23:21] and corporate success is that iron willpower is absolutely critical
[03:23:23] willpower is absolutely critical determination the willingness to stick
[03:23:25] determination the willingness to stick in when the going gets tough the
[03:23:27] in when the going gets tough the willingness to persist in the face of
[03:23:29] willingness to persist in the face of adversity that kind of determination is
[03:23:31] adversity that kind of determination is absolutely critical to developing the
[03:23:33] absolutely critical to developing the new habit patterns of thought that will
[03:23:35] new habit patterns of thought that will guarantee your success and finally
[03:23:37] guarantee your success and finally discipline this is my big favorite It's
[03:23:40] discipline this is my big favorite It's usually the only place in this course
[03:23:42] usually the only place in this course where I mention this but discipline is
[03:23:45] where I mention this but discipline is the master key to riches
[03:23:47] the master key to riches discipline is the master key to riches
[03:23:52] discipline is the master key to riches discipline the willingness to do what
[03:23:55] discipline the willingness to do what you know you should do when you should
[03:23:57] you know you should do when you should do it whether you like it or not is the
[03:24:00] do it whether you like it or not is the critical key to your success why is it
[03:24:02] critical key to your success why is it that people fail in life it's no Miracle
[03:24:06] that people fail in life it's no Miracle it's no mystery the reason people fail
[03:24:08] it's no mystery the reason people fail in life is that they're not willing to
[03:24:09] in life is that they're not willing to do whatever is necessary they're not
[03:24:11] do whatever is necessary they're not willing to pay the price half the time
[03:24:14] willing to pay the price half the time most three quarters of the time they
[03:24:15] most three quarters of the time they don't know what they want and the ones
[03:24:16] don't know what they want and the ones that do know what they want are not
[03:24:19] that do know what they want are not capable of disciplining themselves so
[03:24:20] capable of disciplining themselves so the next time you sit there watching the
[03:24:22] the next time you sit there watching the television next time you drive along
[03:24:23] television next time you drive along listening to the radio instead of
[03:24:25] listening to the radio instead of listening to an audio cassette program
[03:24:26] listening to an audio cassette program you have to ask yourself quite
[03:24:28] you have to ask yourself quite honestly in terms of the wonderful life
[03:24:32] honestly in terms of the wonderful life that you are capable of enjoying in
[03:24:34] that you are capable of enjoying in terms of all the things that you want is
[03:24:36] terms of all the things that you want is this moving you toward it or is it
[03:24:39] this moving you toward it or is it moving you away from it because the
[03:24:41] moving you away from it because the truth of the matter is that everything
[03:24:43] truth of the matter is that everything that does not move you toward your goal
[03:24:45] that does not move you toward your goal moves you away from your goal that
[03:24:47] moves you away from your goal that nothing is neutral that everything
[03:24:50] nothing is neutral that everything counts that the sands of time are
[03:24:52] counts that the sands of time are running the clock the meter is going
[03:24:55] running the clock the meter is going right now a very good friend of mine
[03:24:56] right now a very good friend of mine said remember this life is not a
[03:24:58] said remember this life is not a rehearsal for anything else this is the
[03:25:01] rehearsal for anything else this is the real one and the question you have to
[03:25:03] real one and the question you have to ask yourself is are you serious about
[03:25:06] ask yourself is are you serious about being and having and doing everything
[03:25:08] being and having and doing everything that's possible for you if you go on a
[03:25:10] that's possible for you if you go on a 21-day mental attitude diet a PMA diet
[03:25:14] 21-day mental attitude diet a PMA diet if you will keep your thoughts on what
[03:25:15] if you will keep your thoughts on what you want for 21 days if you will
[03:25:18] you want for 21 days if you will practice the law develop new habits
[03:25:20] practice the law develop new habits practice repetition over and over again
[03:25:22] practice repetition over and over again practice the law of reversibility and
[03:25:25] practice the law of reversibility and visualize and imagine yourself as the
[03:25:27] visualize and imagine yourself as the person you want to be and practice the
[03:25:29] person you want to be and practice the law of expression that whatever is
[03:25:31] law of expression that whatever is impressed on your mind will be expressed
[03:25:32] impressed on your mind will be expressed in your reality you will see dramatic
[03:25:35] in your reality you will see dramatic changes start to take place in your life
[03:25:37] changes start to take place in your life and sometimes far faster than you can
[03:25:40] and sometimes far faster than you can currently imagine believe me I know I
[03:25:43] currently imagine believe me I know I have tried and practiced everything that
[03:25:45] have tried and practiced everything that I recommend to you thousands of my
[03:25:48] I recommend to you thousands of my graduates have done it and the results
[03:25:49] graduates have done it and the results they have accomplished have been
[03:25:51] they have accomplished have been stupendous they will be stupendous for
[03:25:53] stupendous they will be stupendous for you too and we'll talk about more of
[03:25:55] you too and we'll talk about more of that in the next
[03:26:07] module session 10 changing your s
[03:26:10] module session 10 changing your s concept to repeat all change in your
[03:26:14] concept to repeat all change in your life begins with a change in your self
[03:26:16] life begins with a change in your self concept and that brings us back to what
[03:26:18] concept and that brings us back to what we talked about when we talked about the
[03:26:19] we talked about when we talked about the three ingredients of self-concept at the
[03:26:21] three ingredients of self-concept at the very beginning we said that there were
[03:26:23] very beginning we said that there were three parts the self ideal the
[03:26:25] three parts the self ideal the self-image and the self-esteem or how
[03:26:27] self-image and the self-esteem or how much you like yourself and what I like
[03:26:29] much you like yourself and what I like to do now is I'd like to talk a little
[03:26:30] to do now is I'd like to talk a little bit about what we call the self ideal
[03:26:33] bit about what we call the self ideal because the self ideal is the person
[03:26:35] because the self ideal is the person that you would most like to be when you
[03:26:37] that you would most like to be when you start thinking about changing your
[03:26:39] start thinking about changing your personality improving your personality
[03:26:41] personality improving your personality improving the quality of your life your
[03:26:43] improving the quality of your life your inner and your outer life you have to
[03:26:45] inner and your outer life you have to start off with a Target you have to
[03:26:47] start off with a Target you have to start off with something to shoot for
[03:26:48] start off with something to shoot for something to aim at so let's talk about
[03:26:51] something to aim at so let's talk about this the self ideal is a fundamental
[03:26:53] this the self ideal is a fundamental part of your personality the self ideal
[03:26:56] part of your personality the self ideal is a
[03:26:56] is a combination of all of the
[03:26:59] combination of all of the qualities of men and women that you have
[03:27:02] qualities of men and women that you have read about studied about associated with
[03:27:04] read about studied about associated with or admired throughout your entire life
[03:27:06] or admired throughout your entire life your self ideal is sort of like a role
[03:27:08] your self ideal is sort of like a role model for you an internal role model and
[03:27:11] model for you an internal role model and this internal role model acts as a
[03:27:14] this internal role model acts as a directional mechanism it within your
[03:27:16] directional mechanism it within your psyche that determines your words
[03:27:19] psyche that determines your words actions thoughts behaviors and so on as
[03:27:20] actions thoughts behaviors and so on as a matter of fact you are today in many
[03:27:23] a matter of fact you are today in many respects the sum total composite of all
[03:27:26] respects the sum total composite of all the different men and women whose
[03:27:27] the different men and women whose qualities and characteristics that You'
[03:27:29] qualities and characteristics that You' ever admired if you read a biography an
[03:27:31] ever admired if you read a biography an autobiography a story about a person who
[03:27:33] autobiography a story about a person who has done something that you think is
[03:27:35] has done something that you think is admirable displayed uh qualities of
[03:27:37] admirable displayed uh qualities of intelligence or character or Compassion
[03:27:40] intelligence or character or Compassion or perseverance or persistence or
[03:27:42] or perseverance or persistence or courage and so on if someone has done
[03:27:44] courage and so on if someone has done those things and you have a to admire
[03:27:47] those things and you have a to admire them if you admire them what happens is
[03:27:50] them if you admire them what happens is you have a tendency unconsciously even
[03:27:53] you have a tendency unconsciously even without your knowing it to try to be
[03:27:55] without your knowing it to try to be more like them now there is a difference
[03:27:58] more like them now there is a difference between the self-image which is where
[03:28:00] between the self-image which is where you see yourself now and your
[03:28:03] you see yourself now and your self-esteem which is how much you like
[03:28:05] self-esteem which is how much you like yourself and there's a difference
[03:28:07] yourself and there's a difference between your self-image and your self
[03:28:09] between your self-image and your self ideal the difference distance between
[03:28:11] ideal the difference distance between these two the way you see yourself now
[03:28:13] these two the way you see yourself now and the way you would ideally like to be
[03:28:16] and the way you would ideally like to be has a major impact on your self-esteem
[03:28:18] has a major impact on your self-esteem people who see themselves working
[03:28:20] people who see themselves working progressively toward becoming more and
[03:28:21] progressively toward becoming more and more like the people they want to be
[03:28:24] more like the people they want to be have high self-esteem people who see
[03:28:26] have high self-esteem people who see themselves as having an enormous almost
[03:28:29] themselves as having an enormous almost unbridgeable distance between the PE
[03:28:31] unbridgeable distance between the PE person they see themselves as now and
[03:28:33] person they see themselves as now and the person they know they should or
[03:28:35] the person they know they should or could be usually have low self-esteem so
[03:28:38] could be usually have low self-esteem so the starting point of change in the
[03:28:40] the starting point of change in the self-concept to repeat comes with
[03:28:42] self-concept to repeat comes with defining clearly what it is you want to
[03:28:45] defining clearly what it is you want to look like now when I was about 177 18
[03:28:49] look like now when I was about 177 18 years old I sat down with a notebook and
[03:28:51] years old I sat down with a notebook and I wrote out a description of the person
[03:28:54] I wrote out a description of the person that I wanted to be when I grew up I
[03:28:56] that I wanted to be when I grew up I wrote out and I wrote several pages I
[03:28:58] wrote out and I wrote several pages I described my personality and my height
[03:29:00] described my personality and my height and my weight and how I would get along
[03:29:02] and my weight and how I would get along with people and so on and many years
[03:29:04] with people and so on and many years later 10 15 20 years later after I had
[03:29:06] later 10 15 20 years later after I had traveled around the world twice after i'
[03:29:08] traveled around the world twice after i' been in 80 countries after I had done a
[03:29:10] been in 80 countries after I had done a great variety of things I came across
[03:29:12] great variety of things I came across those notes in an old suitcase and I
[03:29:14] those notes in an old suitcase and I looked and I read them and you know
[03:29:15] looked and I read them and you know there a surprising thing was was that I
[03:29:17] there a surprising thing was was that I had become over the course of that time
[03:29:21] had become over the course of that time the person that I had described in that
[03:29:23] the person that I had described in that notebook so I suggest you this is you
[03:29:26] notebook so I suggest you this is you start off by saying who is it and what
[03:29:29] start off by saying who is it and what is it that you would like to look like
[03:29:31] is it that you would like to look like one year 3 years 5 years from now or
[03:29:34] one year 3 years 5 years from now or let's put it this way and here's a
[03:29:35] let's put it this way and here's a really good question name three men or
[03:29:38] really good question name three men or women living or dead that you really
[03:29:40] women living or dead that you really admire that you really feel our
[03:29:42] admire that you really feel our wonderful fine upstanding role models
[03:29:45] wonderful fine upstanding role models and then ask ask yourself the question
[03:29:47] and then ask ask yourself the question why is it that you admire them why is it
[03:29:49] why is it that you admire them why is it that you like them what is it their is
[03:29:51] that you like them what is it their is it about them what are their qualities
[03:29:53] it about them what are their qualities if you like that you consider
[03:29:55] if you like that you consider outstanding because those are the
[03:29:56] outstanding because those are the qualities if you can identify them that
[03:29:58] qualities if you can identify them that you'll begin moving toward accomplishing
[03:30:01] you'll begin moving toward accomplishing in your own life remember we said that
[03:30:03] in your own life remember we said that desire discipline determination and
[03:30:07] desire discipline determination and decision are the keys to success but
[03:30:09] decision are the keys to success but also definition you have to Define
[03:30:12] also definition you have to Define clearly what you want to be I remember a
[03:30:15] clearly what you want to be I remember a wonderful story of a young fellow who
[03:30:17] wonderful story of a young fellow who decided he wanted to improve his life
[03:30:20] decided he wanted to improve his life and he was working for an insurance
[03:30:21] and he was working for an insurance company and he sat and looked around him
[03:30:23] company and he sat and looked around him and he was number 28 out or 29 out of 30
[03:30:26] and he was number 28 out or 29 out of 30 people in an insurance company selling
[03:30:28] people in an insurance company selling insurance and he'd been there for
[03:30:29] insurance and he'd been there for several years and his career was going
[03:30:31] several years and his career was going nowhere and he began looking about him
[03:30:33] nowhere and he began looking about him looking at this and he said now who do I
[03:30:35] looking at this and he said now who do I admire who would I like to be like who
[03:30:36] admire who would I like to be like who would my ideal be and he decided he
[03:30:39] would my ideal be and he decided he wanted to be like the top salesman in
[03:30:41] wanted to be like the top salesman in the branch and he started to look at the
[03:30:43] the branch and he started to look at the top salesman and the top one or two
[03:30:45] top salesman and the top one or two sales people in the BR branch and he
[03:30:46] sales people in the BR branch and he started to think about them and think
[03:30:48] started to think about them and think about what they did and he SP to talk to
[03:30:49] about what they did and he SP to talk to them and get advice from them and over
[03:30:51] them and get advice from them and over the course of the next few years by
[03:30:53] the course of the next few years by using this process by pattering himself
[03:30:56] using this process by pattering himself after the people he admired he became
[03:30:58] after the people he admired he became more and more like them he dressed like
[03:31:00] more and more like them he dressed like them he walked like them he talked like
[03:31:02] them he walked like them he talked like them he worked the way they did he
[03:31:04] them he worked the way they did he studied the way they did and in time he
[03:31:06] studied the way they did and in time he became not only the top salesman in the
[03:31:08] became not only the top salesman in the branch the top salesman in the region
[03:31:10] branch the top salesman in the region the top salesman in the division
[03:31:11] the top salesman in the division eventually the top salesman in the
[03:31:12] eventually the top salesman in the country and he became a marketing vice
[03:31:15] country and he became a marketing vice president pres for one of the biggest
[03:31:16] president pres for one of the biggest insurance companies in the nation simply
[03:31:19] insurance companies in the nation simply by establishing a self ideal and then
[03:31:21] by establishing a self ideal and then working progressively toward it well
[03:31:23] working progressively toward it well what are the stages the first starting
[03:31:25] what are the stages the first starting stage as we say of changing the
[03:31:28] stage as we say of changing the self-concept of changing your mind
[03:31:31] self-concept of changing your mind becoming a new or a different person is
[03:31:33] becoming a new or a different person is that the change must be perceived by you
[03:31:37] that the change must be perceived by you as being both desirable and necessary in
[03:31:41] as being both desirable and necessary in other words you must see
[03:31:43] other words you must see that if you were to make this change
[03:31:46] that if you were to make this change it would be a worthwhile change and in
[03:31:49] it would be a worthwhile change and in terms of what you want to be have and do
[03:31:51] terms of what you want to be have and do in terms of the future of your life it's
[03:31:53] in terms of the future of your life it's necessary that you make this change if
[03:31:55] necessary that you make this change if you want to get a hit I give you another
[03:31:57] you want to get a hit I give you another example of a famous gentleman from a
[03:31:59] example of a famous gentleman from a Fortune 500 Corporation was promoted to
[03:32:01] Fortune 500 Corporation was promoted to president came up through engineering
[03:32:03] president came up through engineering left brain had no people skills at all
[03:32:05] left brain had no people skills at all was very very concerned about this part
[03:32:08] was very very concerned about this part of his personality in that he didn't
[03:32:10] of his personality in that he didn't know how to get along with people he
[03:32:11] know how to get along with people he preferred problems that didn't talk back
[03:32:14] preferred problems that didn't talk back but he recognized that a change in his
[03:32:15] but he recognized that a change in his self-concept a change in his ability to
[03:32:18] self-concept a change in his ability to communicate effectively with others was
[03:32:20] communicate effectively with others was essential to his success so he began
[03:32:22] essential to his success so he began taking courses on interpersonal
[03:32:24] taking courses on interpersonal Communications he began taking courses
[03:32:26] Communications he began taking courses on relationships for two solid years he
[03:32:28] on relationships for two solid years he read books listened to tapes took
[03:32:30] read books listened to tapes took courses and became an authority within
[03:32:32] courses and became an authority within the company on human relations and then
[03:32:34] the company on human relations and then put together a course of his own and
[03:32:36] put together a course of his own and went throughout the company as the
[03:32:38] went throughout the company as the president of the company and taught this
[03:32:40] president of the company and taught this course within his company becoming at
[03:32:42] course within his company becoming at the things that he was teaching in other
[03:32:44] the things that he was teaching in other words he decided that to be very good
[03:32:47] words he decided that to be very good with people was both desirable and
[03:32:49] with people was both desirable and necessary for himself his company and
[03:32:51] necessary for himself his company and his future and then he went about
[03:32:53] his future and then he went about through the process of gradual defining
[03:32:55] through the process of gradual defining the ideal and began working
[03:32:57] the ideal and began working progressively toward it in two years he
[03:32:58] progressively toward it in two years he had rounded out his personality from
[03:33:00] had rounded out his personality from being a lopsided left brain linear
[03:33:03] being a lopsided left brain linear analytical person to being a totally
[03:33:05] analytical person to being a totally rounded fully functioning human being
[03:33:08] rounded fully functioning human being one of the Hallmarks of great leaders
[03:33:10] one of the Hallmarks of great leaders one of the Hallmarks of outstanding men
[03:33:11] one of the Hallmarks of outstanding men and women is that they're willing to
[03:33:13] and women is that they're willing to make the efforts necessary to bring
[03:33:15] make the efforts necessary to bring about the changes that are essential now
[03:33:17] about the changes that are essential now the second stage or the second step in
[03:33:20] the second stage or the second step in changing yourself concept is to begin
[03:33:23] changing yourself concept is to begin thinking about yourself as you would
[03:33:25] thinking about yourself as you would ideally be begin thinking about
[03:33:28] ideally be begin thinking about yourself as your ideal
[03:33:31] yourself as your ideal person for instance if you wanted to be
[03:33:35] person for instance if you wanted to be an outstanding person in in human
[03:33:36] an outstanding person in in human relations you'd begin thinking about
[03:33:38] relations you'd begin thinking about yourself as you would be as a human
[03:33:40] yourself as you would be as a human relation specialist but let us say you
[03:33:42] relation specialist but let us say you want something very simple most people
[03:33:44] want something very simple most people say that they major weak is that they
[03:33:46] say that they major weak is that they are too impatient too intolerant they
[03:33:49] are too impatient too intolerant they get angry too quickly irritable so on
[03:33:52] get angry too quickly irritable so on maybe what you should do is start with
[03:33:54] maybe what you should do is start with something very simple very important to
[03:33:56] something very simple very important to start with something simple because if
[03:33:57] start with something simple because if you can change something simple it
[03:33:58] you can change something simple it proves to you that you can change
[03:33:59] proves to you that you can change something large so you begin thinking
[03:34:00] something large so you begin thinking about yourself let us say that you tend
[03:34:02] about yourself let us say that you tend to be a little bit impatient or
[03:34:03] to be a little bit impatient or short-tempered when you're tired or a
[03:34:05] short-tempered when you're tired or a little bit irritable with your children
[03:34:07] little bit irritable with your children or your spouse uh at the end of the day
[03:34:09] or your spouse uh at the end of the day so then you begin thinking about
[03:34:10] so then you begin thinking about yourself as you would be if you were a
[03:34:14] yourself as you would be if you were a warm patient kind loving tolerant human
[03:34:18] warm patient kind loving tolerant human being begin thinking about yourself in
[03:34:20] being begin thinking about yourself in the situations where you normally become
[03:34:22] the situations where you normally become cross and irritable and begin thinking
[03:34:23] cross and irritable and begin thinking about yourself as being relaxed positive
[03:34:26] about yourself as being relaxed positive supportive encouraging unruffled begin
[03:34:29] supportive encouraging unruffled begin thinking about yourself as the ideal
[03:34:31] thinking about yourself as the ideal think now who do you know who has the
[03:34:34] think now who do you know who has the type of Personality now it can be a
[03:34:35] type of Personality now it can be a television personality it can be Bill
[03:34:37] television personality it can be Bill Cosby if you like it can be somebody
[03:34:40] Cosby if you like it can be somebody that you admire in sports it can be
[03:34:41] that you admire in sports it can be somebody whose biographies or stories
[03:34:43] somebody whose biographies or stories you've read doesn't really matter but
[03:34:44] you've read doesn't really matter but keep thinking about how would that
[03:34:46] keep thinking about how would that person act in this situation one thing
[03:34:49] person act in this situation one thing that many people do who are many
[03:34:51] that many people do who are many Christians do is whenever they get into
[03:34:53] Christians do is whenever they get into a difficult or stressful situation they
[03:34:55] a difficult or stressful situation they say to themselves I wonder how Jesus
[03:34:57] say to themselves I wonder how Jesus would act in this situation I wonder how
[03:34:59] would act in this situation I wonder how Jesus would act if they were dealing
[03:35:01] Jesus would act if they were dealing with a difficult person or I wonder how
[03:35:03] with a difficult person or I wonder how Jesus would act if he were put in the
[03:35:04] Jesus would act if he were put in the same position I'm in and what it does is
[03:35:07] same position I'm in and what it does is irrespective of your belief what it does
[03:35:09] irrespective of your belief what it does is it gives you a role model to pattern
[03:35:11] is it gives you a role model to pattern yourself after the great tragedy of many
[03:35:14] yourself after the great tragedy of many young people growing up in the inner
[03:35:16] young people growing up in the inner cities today is that the role models
[03:35:18] cities today is that the role models that they have are not positive role
[03:35:20] that they have are not positive role models the people who are the most
[03:35:22] models the people who are the most successful sometimes in the ghettos in
[03:35:23] successful sometimes in the ghettos in the inner cities are not admirable
[03:35:25] the inner cities are not admirable people who are working hard and building
[03:35:27] people who are working hard and building families and businesses what they are is
[03:35:29] families and businesses what they are is they're criminals who are engaging in
[03:35:30] they're criminals who are engaging in criminal activities so the role models
[03:35:32] criminal activities so the role models that you choose have a critical effect
[03:35:34] that you choose have a critical effect on who you become so begin thinking
[03:35:36] on who you become so begin thinking about yourself as you would like to be
[03:35:40] about yourself as you would like to be as you would like to
[03:35:43] as you would like to be now that's starting point point
[03:35:46] be now that's starting point point because of the law of uh expression
[03:35:49] because of the law of uh expression whatever is impressed is expressed if
[03:35:51] whatever is impressed is expressed if you begin thinking about yourself you
[03:35:53] you begin thinking about yourself you begin finding it's almost like turning
[03:35:54] begin finding it's almost like turning the wheel of your personality you begin
[03:35:57] the wheel of your personality you begin to become a different person now the
[03:35:59] to become a different person now the third stage the third step is you begin
[03:36:00] third stage the third step is you begin to
[03:36:02] to visualize now what does visualize mean
[03:36:04] visualize now what does visualize mean well there are thousands of books
[03:36:05] well there are thousands of books written on visualization one of the most
[03:36:07] written on visualization one of the most powerful of all human abilities is the
[03:36:10] powerful of all human abilities is the ability to create clear mental pictures
[03:36:13] ability to create clear mental pictures you see your subconscious which is where
[03:36:16] you see your subconscious which is where all of your programming takes place is
[03:36:19] all of your programming takes place is activated by mental
[03:36:23] pictures combined with emotion so when
[03:36:26] pictures combined with emotion so when you create clear mental pictures when
[03:36:28] you create clear mental pictures when you begin to dwell on a clear mental
[03:36:31] you begin to dwell on a clear mental picture of the person that you would
[03:36:32] picture of the person that you would like to be you begin to close your eyes
[03:36:34] like to be you begin to close your eyes or think about the person that you would
[03:36:36] or think about the person that you would like to be the subconscious cannot tell
[03:36:39] like to be the subconscious cannot tell the difference between a real experience
[03:36:42] the difference between a real experience one that is actually happening to you
[03:36:44] one that is actually happening to you and one that you vividly imagine
[03:36:46] and one that you vividly imagine on the screen of your mind and this
[03:36:48] on the screen of your mind and this method of visualization of creating a
[03:36:50] method of visualization of creating a clear mental picture and then remember
[03:36:52] clear mental picture and then remember we talked about the law of practice
[03:36:53] we talked about the law of practice which is the law of
[03:36:55] which is the law of repetition by practicing it over and
[03:36:58] repetition by practicing it over and over and over again imagine for instance
[03:37:00] over and over again imagine for instance that you wanted to become a proficient
[03:37:02] that you wanted to become a proficient public
[03:37:03] public speaker simple as that and let us say
[03:37:05] speaker simple as that and let us say this is your this is you and this is
[03:37:08] this is your this is you and this is your eyes and here is your conscious
[03:37:11] your eyes and here is your conscious mind and here is your unconscious mind
[03:37:13] mind and here is your unconscious mind let us say you wanted to become a
[03:37:14] let us say you wanted to become a proficient public speaker well if you
[03:37:15] proficient public speaker well if you went out and you gave a whole series of
[03:37:17] went out and you gave a whole series of talks and you got positive response and
[03:37:19] talks and you got positive response and people applauded and told you it was a
[03:37:21] people applauded and told you it was a good talk and you did this over and over
[03:37:23] good talk and you did this over and over again no matter how terrified you are of
[03:37:25] again no matter how terrified you are of public speaking right now if you did it
[03:37:27] public speaking right now if you did it often enough gradually you would store
[03:37:28] often enough gradually you would store up enough memories to the point where
[03:37:30] up enough memories to the point where you would feel no uneasiness at all
[03:37:32] you would feel no uneasiness at all about speaking publicly now the reason I
[03:37:34] about speaking publicly now the reason I mentioned speaking publicly is that
[03:37:36] mentioned speaking publicly is that something like 54% of the American
[03:37:39] something like 54% of the American public would rather die than give a talk
[03:37:42] public would rather die than give a talk in public they put the fear of public
[03:37:44] in public they put the fear of public speaking ahead of the fear of death it's
[03:37:46] speaking ahead of the fear of death it's one of the greatest of all fears in our
[03:37:47] one of the greatest of all fears in our society however no child is born
[03:37:51] society however no child is born as afraid of public speaking no child is
[03:37:53] as afraid of public speaking no child is comes into the world with a fear
[03:37:55] comes into the world with a fear speaking in front of audiences as a
[03:37:56] speaking in front of audiences as a matter of fact every one of us gave our
[03:37:58] matter of fact every one of us gave our first public talk Stark naked upside
[03:38:00] first public talk Stark naked upside down in front of a room full of
[03:38:01] down in front of a room full of strangers if you remember that and it's
[03:38:03] strangers if you remember that and it's been downhill for most of us ever since
[03:38:05] been downhill for most of us ever since if you have a series of external
[03:38:07] if you have a series of external experiences however and all of those
[03:38:09] experiences however and all of those experiences are positive then they're
[03:38:11] experiences are positive then they're stored away as positive reports in the
[03:38:13] stored away as positive reports in the public speaking file however let us say
[03:38:16] public speaking file however let us say that you have a tremendous feeling of
[03:38:18] that you have a tremendous feeling of anxiety about speaking and that can come
[03:38:20] anxiety about speaking and that can come from a a hundred different reasons but
[03:38:22] from a a hundred different reasons but you begin to play on the screen of your
[03:38:24] you begin to play on the screen of your mind you have this continuous real
[03:38:26] mind you have this continuous real projector you begin to play on the
[03:38:28] projector you begin to play on the screen of your mind a picture of
[03:38:30] screen of your mind a picture of yourself speaking effectively in front
[03:38:33] yourself speaking effectively in front of a group you begin to read about other
[03:38:35] of a group you begin to read about other people who speak effectively you begin
[03:38:36] people who speak effectively you begin to read the books of successful speakers
[03:38:38] to read the books of successful speakers who tell how they did it and how nervous
[03:38:40] who tell how they did it and how nervous they were you begin to take a course and
[03:38:43] they were you begin to take a course and you begin to study and you begin to
[03:38:44] you begin to study and you begin to learn how to do it you begin to learn
[03:38:45] learn how to do it you begin to learn how to prepare and to outline a talk and
[03:38:47] how to prepare and to outline a talk and You Begin thinking about yourself over
[03:38:49] You Begin thinking about yourself over and over again as capable of doing it
[03:38:51] and over again as capable of doing it the picture that you play on the screen
[03:38:52] the picture that you play on the screen of your mind is accepted by the
[03:38:56] of your mind is accepted by the subconscious as a real experience as
[03:38:59] subconscious as a real experience as long as you vividly imagine it and this
[03:39:01] long as you vividly imagine it and this is the key it is the vividness of the
[03:39:04] is the key it is the vividness of the picture the more clearly you visualize
[03:39:06] picture the more clearly you visualize it the more frequently you visualize it
[03:39:08] it the more frequently you visualize it the more emotionally or intensely you
[03:39:10] the more emotionally or intensely you visualize it and the longer you
[03:39:12] visualize it and the longer you visualize it the more of an impact it
[03:39:14] visualize it the more of an impact it has on the subconscious mind so that you
[03:39:16] has on the subconscious mind so that you can in many respects actually become
[03:39:19] can in many respects actually become halfway or 3/4s of the way toward being
[03:39:21] halfway or 3/4s of the way toward being a competent speaker or being competent
[03:39:23] a competent speaker or being competent in almost anything simply by visualizing
[03:39:25] in almost anything simply by visualizing and playing this picture over and over
[03:39:27] and playing this picture over and over again by the way I I use the example of
[03:39:29] again by the way I I use the example of speaking in public for for a very
[03:39:31] speaking in public for for a very specific reason most of us are afraid of
[03:39:33] specific reason most of us are afraid of it and what I found is that if you can
[03:39:34] it and what I found is that if you can use these methods of mental programming
[03:39:36] use these methods of mental programming to eliminate one major fear that may be
[03:39:39] to eliminate one major fear that may be holding you back in life you will prove
[03:39:41] holding you back in life you will prove to yourself forever that you can
[03:39:44] to yourself forever that you can eliminate any self limiting belief and
[03:39:46] eliminate any self limiting belief and overcome it and go on to accomplish what
[03:39:49] overcome it and go on to accomplish what you want I have given this advice to
[03:39:51] you want I have given this advice to thousands of people it's simply this if
[03:39:52] thousands of people it's simply this if you have an uneasiness with regard to
[03:39:54] you have an uneasiness with regard to public speaking or any other fear but
[03:39:55] public speaking or any other fear but public speaking for this example make
[03:39:57] public speaking for this example make the decision right now to get over it
[03:39:59] the decision right now to get over it now here's two ways that you can get
[03:40:00] now here's two ways that you can get over it Toast Masters does this method
[03:40:03] over it Toast Masters does this method work well I'll guarantee you that it
[03:40:05] work well I'll guarantee you that it works Toast Masters was set up in 1923
[03:40:08] works Toast Masters was set up in 1923 as an organization a voluntary
[03:40:10] as an organization a voluntary organization groups of men and women
[03:40:12] organization groups of men and women come together small groups they meet
[03:40:14] come together small groups they meet once a week and they they have breakfast
[03:40:15] once a week and they they have breakfast lunch and or dinner meetings and at each
[03:40:17] lunch and or dinner meetings and at each meeting each person has a chance to talk
[03:40:20] meeting each person has a chance to talk people who are so terrified of public
[03:40:22] people who are so terrified of public speaking they could not lead silent
[03:40:23] speaking they could not lead silent prayer in a phone booth after 10 or 15
[03:40:26] prayer in a phone booth after 10 or 15 weeks in Toast Masters are capable of
[03:40:28] weeks in Toast Masters are capable of standing up with one minute's notice and
[03:40:30] standing up with one minute's notice and giving an ex extemporaneous talk in
[03:40:32] giving an ex extemporaneous talk in front of an audience of strangers Toast
[03:40:35] front of an audience of strangers Toast Masters works why it's because every
[03:40:37] Masters works why it's because every single time a person stands up they get
[03:40:39] single time a person stands up they get positive feedback they get correction
[03:40:41] positive feedback they get correction they get advice they get Applause they
[03:40:43] they get advice they get Applause they get support eventually what you is you
[03:40:45] get support eventually what you is you build up a whole series of positive
[03:40:47] build up a whole series of positive reports in your subconscious mind that
[03:40:49] reports in your subconscious mind that says when it comes to public speaking
[03:40:51] says when it comes to public speaking it's easy if you want to be effective at
[03:40:53] it's easy if you want to be effective at selling if you want to be effective at
[03:40:56] selling if you want to be effective at uh leading if you want to be effective
[03:40:57] uh leading if you want to be effective as a parent if you want to be effective
[03:40:59] as a parent if you want to be effective with other human beings all you have to
[03:41:01] with other human beings all you have to do is practice over and over again and
[03:41:04] do is practice over and over again and practice in your mind over and over
[03:41:06] practice in your mind over and over until eventually you will find that when
[03:41:08] until eventually you will find that when you think about whatever it is the fear
[03:41:10] you think about whatever it is the fear level will go down confidence level will
[03:41:13] level will go down confidence level will go up by the way one other area that you
[03:41:15] go up by the way one other area that you can go to if you want to learn to be
[03:41:17] can go to if you want to learn to be more capable speaking is Dale Carnegie
[03:41:19] more capable speaking is Dale Carnegie Dale Carnegie has a wonderful
[03:41:21] Dale Carnegie has a wonderful course is this called the Dale Carnegie
[03:41:23] course is this called the Dale Carnegie course which really helps people become
[03:41:25] course which really helps people become proficient in public speaking over 10 to
[03:41:27] proficient in public speaking over 10 to 14 weeks you get an opportunity every
[03:41:29] 14 weeks you get an opportunity every single week to get up and speak in front
[03:41:31] single week to get up and speak in front of your
[03:41:33] peers the next is affirmations now with
[03:41:37] peers the next is affirmations now with affirmations your potential is unlimited
[03:41:40] affirmations your potential is unlimited affirmations are the most
[03:41:43] affirmations are the most powerful words that you can Poss posibly
[03:41:45] powerful words that you can Poss posibly say affirmations are based on what we
[03:41:47] say affirmations are based on what we call the
[03:41:48] call the 3ps in that with affirmations we
[03:41:51] 3ps in that with affirmations we reprogram ourselves unconsciously
[03:41:53] reprogram ourselves unconsciously affirmations are strong positive
[03:41:56] affirmations are strong positive assertive statements that you say about
[03:41:58] assertive statements that you say about yourself to yourself and believe and
[03:42:01] yourself to yourself and believe and they're based on the three PS and the
[03:42:03] they're based on the three PS and the P's are first of all personal all
[03:42:05] P's are first of all personal all affirmations all statements that you say
[03:42:07] affirmations all statements that you say to yourself have to be couched in the
[03:42:09] to yourself have to be couched in the personal tense the I if you say I like
[03:42:13] personal tense the I if you say I like myself I like myself I like myself when
[03:42:18] myself I like myself I like myself when you say I like myself it accesses the
[03:42:20] you say I like myself it accesses the subconscious directly every single
[03:42:22] subconscious directly every single command that begins with an i opens the
[03:42:25] command that begins with an i opens the subconscious mind and says valuable
[03:42:27] subconscious mind and says valuable information coming down prepare or get
[03:42:30] information coming down prepare or get ready and also positive all affirmative
[03:42:35] ready and also positive all affirmative all affirmative statements must be
[03:42:37] all affirmative statements must be couched in the positive tense because
[03:42:38] couched in the positive tense because the subconscious mind filters out
[03:42:40] the subconscious mind filters out negatives and only takes the words that
[03:42:43] negatives and only takes the words that you the the the positive
[03:42:45] you the the the positive uh expression for example if you didn't
[03:42:47] uh expression for example if you didn't want to if you wanted to quit smoking
[03:42:48] want to if you wanted to quit smoking you wouldn't say I don't smoke anymore I
[03:42:50] you wouldn't say I don't smoke anymore I don't smoke anymore you would say I am a
[03:42:53] don't smoke anymore you would say I am a nonsmoker I am a non-smoker the words I
[03:42:56] nonsmoker I am a non-smoker the words I am are two of the most powerful words in
[03:43:00] am are two of the most powerful words in mental programming when you say I am
[03:43:02] mental programming when you say I am because only you can say I am about you
[03:43:05] because only you can say I am about you in the whole world nobody else can use
[03:43:06] in the whole world nobody else can use those two words with regard to you and
[03:43:09] those two words with regard to you and your subconscious recognizes it when you
[03:43:10] your subconscious recognizes it when you say I am responsible I am responsible
[03:43:14] say I am responsible I am responsible you can actually feel the impact of
[03:43:17] you can actually feel the impact of these words on your unconscious mind you
[03:43:20] these words on your unconscious mind you can feel the words I am responsible and
[03:43:22] can feel the words I am responsible and feel their effect on your emotions now
[03:43:25] feel their effect on your emotions now the third is that they must be in the
[03:43:27] the third is that they must be in the present
[03:43:27] present tense not I will lose weight or I will
[03:43:30] tense not I will lose weight or I will quit smoking or I will get a better job
[03:43:33] quit smoking or I will get a better job but I have a better job I weigh X number
[03:43:36] but I have a better job I weigh X number of pounds I earn X number of dollars I
[03:43:40] of pounds I earn X number of dollars I earn X number of dollars whatever it
[03:43:43] earn X number of dollars whatever it happens to be you always praise it in
[03:43:45] happens to be you always praise it in the present tense because the
[03:43:46] the present tense because the subconscious mind can only take language
[03:43:49] subconscious mind can only take language that is couched in the now this is very
[03:43:53] that is couched in the now this is very very important that when we are
[03:43:55] very important that when we are reprogramming the subconscious mind when
[03:43:57] reprogramming the subconscious mind when you visualize it's in the now when you
[03:44:00] you visualize it's in the now when you affirm it's in the now when you think
[03:44:02] affirm it's in the now when you think about yourself as you would like to be
[03:44:04] about yourself as you would like to be it is always in the now the subconscious
[03:44:07] it is always in the now the subconscious mind is by the way it's very literal so
[03:44:10] mind is by the way it's very literal so when you create affirmations and you can
[03:44:12] when you create affirmations and you can create affirmations for every goal that
[03:44:14] create affirmations for every goal that you can imagine I earn X number of
[03:44:17] you can imagine I earn X number of dollars I weigh X number of pounds I am
[03:44:20] dollars I weigh X number of pounds I am a kind loving human being I am
[03:44:23] a kind loving human being I am disciplined and industrious and fidus I
[03:44:25] disciplined and industrious and fidus I am a good driver I am punctual I like
[03:44:28] am a good driver I am punctual I like myself I am responsible I feel great I
[03:44:31] myself I am responsible I feel great I feel happy I have health I have energy
[03:44:34] feel happy I have health I have energy interesting affirmation if you repeat
[03:44:36] interesting affirmation if you repeat the affirmation over and over again I
[03:44:37] the affirmation over and over again I have health I have energy I have health
[03:44:40] have health I have energy I have health I have energy you can actually build up
[03:44:42] I have energy you can actually build up your body's resistance to things like
[03:44:44] your body's resistance to things like colds and flu we'll talk about this a
[03:44:47] colds and flu we'll talk about this a little bit later but very often we get
[03:44:49] little bit later but very often we get sick because we decide to get sick or we
[03:44:51] sick because we decide to get sick or we get sick because we let our minds and
[03:44:52] get sick because we let our minds and B's coast and we can actually drive a
[03:44:55] B's coast and we can actually drive a cold out of our systems by repeating the
[03:44:58] cold out of our systems by repeating the affirmation over and over again I have
[03:44:59] affirmation over and over again I have health I am healthy I
[03:45:03] health I am healthy I am strong I feel great I feel
[03:45:07] am strong I feel great I feel wonderful so couch your affirmations in
[03:45:09] wonderful so couch your affirmations in your visualizations when you close your
[03:45:11] your visualizations when you close your eyes see yourself as though you had the
[03:45:14] eyes see yourself as though you had the characteristic quality right now speak
[03:45:16] characteristic quality right now speak in terms of having the characteristic or
[03:45:19] in terms of having the characteristic or quality right now and as we said before
[03:45:21] quality right now and as we said before with regard to emotion imagine the
[03:45:23] with regard to emotion imagine the feeling that would accompany the mental
[03:45:26] feeling that would accompany the mental picture imagine the feeling that would
[03:45:28] picture imagine the feeling that would accompany the words when you say I like
[03:45:30] accompany the words when you say I like myself you don't say I like myself you
[03:45:32] myself you don't say I like myself you say I like myself I like myself I like
[03:45:35] say I like myself I like myself I like myself imagine when you when you say I I
[03:45:38] myself imagine when you when you say I I am responsive you don't say I am
[03:45:39] am responsive you don't say I am responsible you say I am responsible I
[03:45:42] responsible you say I am responsible I am responsible in other words
[03:45:44] am responsible in other words emotionalize it wrap it up with emotion
[03:45:47] emotionalize it wrap it up with emotion drive it into the subconscious mind like
[03:45:48] drive it into the subconscious mind like a Detonator and the effect that it will
[03:45:51] a Detonator and the effect that it will have on your personality and your on and
[03:45:52] have on your personality and your on and on your feelings will be
[03:45:55] on your feelings will be tremendous now again with regard to
[03:45:57] tremendous now again with regard to affirmations what I use is I use a
[03:45:59] affirmations what I use is I use a series of index cards and you can put
[03:46:01] series of index cards and you can put your affirmations your positive present
[03:46:03] your affirmations your positive present tense personal statements on
[03:46:05] tense personal statements on affirmations and review those
[03:46:06] affirmations and review those affirmations over and over again every
[03:46:08] affirmations over and over again every time you review them every time you
[03:46:09] time you review them every time you think about them every time you repeat
[03:46:11] think about them every time you repeat them and drive them into the
[03:46:12] them and drive them into the subconscious mind every time you impress
[03:46:14] subconscious mind every time you impress them you increase the potential for them
[03:46:17] them you increase the potential for them to be expressed externally now one final
[03:46:20] to be expressed externally now one final thing is when you use affirmations try
[03:46:23] thing is when you use affirmations try to keep your daily words and actions
[03:46:25] to keep your daily words and actions consistent with your affirmations try to
[03:46:28] consistent with your affirmations try to keep the things that you say when you're
[03:46:29] keep the things that you say when you're walking around and the things that you
[03:46:30] walking around and the things that you do consistent with the words that you
[03:46:32] do consistent with the words that you say to yourself in private all right the
[03:46:35] say to yourself in private all right the next thing that we do is what is called
[03:46:38] next thing that we do is what is called verbalization
[03:46:41] verbalization verbalization is speaking aloud speaking
[03:46:45] verbalization is speaking aloud speaking your affirmations aloud now there's two
[03:46:47] your affirmations aloud now there's two ways that you can do
[03:46:49] ways that you can do this best to do it in private but
[03:46:52] this best to do it in private but basically you increase the
[03:46:55] basically you increase the impact of a an affirmation by as much as
[03:46:59] impact of a an affirmation by as much as 80% and even more when you say it out
[03:47:01] 80% and even more when you say it out loud if you say to yourself I like
[03:47:03] loud if you say to yourself I like myself but if you say I like myself or I
[03:47:06] myself but if you say I like myself or I feel terrific or I feel wonderful or I
[03:47:08] feel terrific or I feel wonderful or I am responsible I earn $50,000 a year
[03:47:12] am responsible I earn $50,000 a year when I first learned about this process
[03:47:14] when I first learned about this process my goal was to earn $50,000 a year and I
[03:47:17] my goal was to earn $50,000 a year and I realized that the only way I could ever
[03:47:18] realized that the only way I could ever earn $50,000 a year was by repeating
[03:47:20] earn $50,000 a year was by repeating this over and over again and
[03:47:22] this over and over again and surprisingly enough when I began doing
[03:47:23] surprisingly enough when I began doing it I was not making anywhere near
[03:47:25] it I was not making anywhere near $50,000 and I was very very skeptical of
[03:47:28] $50,000 and I was very very skeptical of whether or not it would work I can only
[03:47:30] whether or not it would work I can only tell you from the bottom of my heart
[03:47:31] tell you from the bottom of my heart that it does work so verbalize it
[03:47:33] that it does work so verbalize it another thing that you can do is in
[03:47:34] another thing that you can do is in front of a
[03:47:36] front of a mirror if you Vis if you verbalize in
[03:47:39] mirror if you Vis if you verbalize in front of a mirror you have two impacts
[03:47:41] front of a mirror you have two impacts working simultaneously you have the
[03:47:43] working simultaneously you have the impact of what you can see plus what you
[03:47:46] impact of what you can see plus what you are saying plus if you emotionalize what
[03:47:48] are saying plus if you emotionalize what you are saying you have three access
[03:47:50] you are saying you have three access points to reprogramming the subconscious
[03:47:53] points to reprogramming the subconscious working simultaneously so you stand in
[03:47:55] working simultaneously so you stand in front of a mirror you can say in front
[03:47:56] front of a mirror you can say in front of the mirror you can say I feel
[03:47:58] of the mirror you can say I feel terrific or I look great or I look great
[03:48:00] terrific or I look great or I look great or you can say you look great because
[03:48:02] or you can say you look great because when we talk to ourselves in front of
[03:48:04] when we talk to ourselves in front of every now you mustn't do this in a
[03:48:05] every now you mustn't do this in a public washroom when there's other
[03:48:06] public washroom when there's other people around because they may think
[03:48:07] people around because they may think you're a little bit strange but
[03:48:09] you're a little bit strange but nonetheless
[03:48:10] nonetheless verbalization is a very important part
[03:48:14] verbalization is a very important part of driving this message into the
[03:48:16] of driving this message into the subconscious remember the key to this is
[03:48:18] subconscious remember the key to this is whatever you can hold in your mind on a
[03:48:20] whatever you can hold in your mind on a continuing basis you can have the only
[03:48:22] continuing basis you can have the only question is can you repeat it long
[03:48:24] question is can you repeat it long enough and hard enough often enough to
[03:48:27] enough and hard enough often enough to impress it permanently in the
[03:48:29] impress it permanently in the subconscious mind once you impress it
[03:48:31] subconscious mind once you impress it permanently in the subconscious mind it
[03:48:33] permanently in the subconscious mind it takes on a power of its own that will
[03:48:37] takes on a power of its own that will eventually bring it into your reality at
[03:48:39] eventually bring it into your reality at exactly the right time and exactly the
[03:48:41] exactly the right time and exactly the right way for you and this brings us to
[03:48:44] right way for you and this brings us to the next method
[03:48:45] the next method which is the method
[03:48:47] which is the method of assume the
[03:48:51] of assume the role assume the role assume the part you
[03:48:55] role assume the role assume the part you see one of the most important
[03:48:57] see one of the most important discoveries that we have made in
[03:48:59] discoveries that we have made in behavioral psychology is this is that if
[03:49:02] behavioral psychology is this is that if you feel a particular way if you have
[03:49:05] you feel a particular way if you have the particular emotions the feelings
[03:49:08] the particular emotions the feelings will lead to actions we've talked about
[03:49:09] will lead to actions we've talked about this before that we act in a way
[03:49:12] this before that we act in a way consistent with our feelings however
[03:49:14] consistent with our feelings however what we found is that most of us do not
[03:49:16] what we found is that most of us do not start off feeling motivated most of us
[03:49:19] start off feeling motivated most of us do not start off feeling positive most
[03:49:22] do not start off feeling positive most of us do not start off
[03:49:24] of us do not start off feeling confident and capable of
[03:49:26] feeling confident and capable of accomplishing our goals most of us start
[03:49:28] accomplishing our goals most of us start off feeling average to negative however
[03:49:32] off feeling average to negative however if you will act exactly as if you had
[03:49:35] if you will act exactly as if you had the feeling the action will generate the
[03:49:39] the feeling the action will generate the emotion just as the emotion generates
[03:49:41] emotion just as the emotion generates the feeling in other words you can act
[03:49:43] the feeling in other words you can act your way into into feeling this is very
[03:49:46] your way into into feeling this is very important you can act your way into
[03:49:48] important you can act your way into feeling have you ever had the occasion
[03:49:50] feeling have you ever had the occasion where you are sitting comfortably
[03:49:52] where you are sitting comfortably relaxed and somebody says come on let's
[03:49:54] relaxed and somebody says come on let's go and do this or let's get up and do
[03:49:56] go and do this or let's get up and do that you say no no no I'm comfortable
[03:49:57] that you say no no no I'm comfortable remember you're into your comfort zone
[03:49:59] remember you're into your comfort zone Comfort is a great killer of human
[03:50:01] Comfort is a great killer of human potential you say no no no they say oh
[03:50:02] potential you say no no no they say oh come on just get up and do a little bit
[03:50:04] come on just get up and do a little bit so you you get up just a little bit and
[03:50:06] so you you get up just a little bit and you move just a little bit and as you
[03:50:07] you move just a little bit and as you begin to move you start to get into the
[03:50:09] begin to move you start to get into the swing of it and pretty soon you get into
[03:50:11] swing of it and pretty soon you get into it completely and you're you totally
[03:50:13] it completely and you're you totally forget about going back to the or the
[03:50:15] forget about going back to the or the chair that you were in well you can act
[03:50:16] chair that you were in well you can act your way into feeling you can act your
[03:50:18] your way into feeling you can act your way into feeling almost anything we call
[03:50:20] way into feeling almost anything we call this if you like pretending pretend that
[03:50:23] this if you like pretending pretend that you have the quality already for
[03:50:26] you have the quality already for instance if you want to be courageous
[03:50:29] instance if you want to be courageous and unafraid pretend that you're
[03:50:31] and unafraid pretend that you're courageous and unafraid already if you
[03:50:33] courageous and unafraid already if you want to be confident pretend that you
[03:50:35] want to be confident pretend that you have the confidence there's an old
[03:50:37] have the confidence there's an old saying that says fake it until you make
[03:50:39] saying that says fake it until you make it fake it until you make
[03:50:42] it fake it until you make it remember we talked about about the
[03:50:45] it remember we talked about about the gentleman who was told that he was The
[03:50:47] gentleman who was told that he was The Reincarnation of Napoleon that what he
[03:50:51] Reincarnation of Napoleon that what he all he had to do was he had to act like
[03:50:53] all he had to do was he had to act like Napoleon and realize that he had this
[03:50:55] Napoleon and realize that he had this cultural history behind him that he had
[03:50:57] cultural history behind him that he had the decisiveness the power the Courage
[03:51:00] the decisiveness the power the Courage the genius the Brilliance the tenacity
[03:51:02] the genius the Brilliance the tenacity the foresight of one of the world's
[03:51:04] the foresight of one of the world's great leaders well this acting this
[03:51:07] great leaders well this acting this pretending this assuming the role is a
[03:51:09] pretending this assuming the role is a critical part of actually becoming that
[03:51:11] critical part of actually becoming that person if you want to be the finest
[03:51:13] person if you want to be the finest salesperson in your organization if you
[03:51:15] salesperson in your organization if you want to be a superb executive if you
[03:51:17] want to be a superb executive if you want to be a tremendous technician if
[03:51:18] want to be a tremendous technician if you want to be an excellent Medical
[03:51:20] you want to be an excellent Medical Professional if you want to be the best
[03:51:22] Professional if you want to be the best mother or the best father if you want to
[03:51:24] mother or the best father if you want to be excellent in athletics there's a
[03:51:27] be excellent in athletics there's a entire body of work today in neural
[03:51:29] entire body of work today in neural linguistic programming and what is
[03:51:31] linguistic programming and what is called the inner game of winning that
[03:51:33] called the inner game of winning that says that if you want to be a better
[03:51:35] says that if you want to be a better tennis player for instance what you do
[03:51:38] tennis player for instance what you do is you imagine that you were a
[03:51:40] is you imagine that you were a championship tennis player imagine that
[03:51:43] championship tennis player imagine that you are Arthur Ash or Jimmy Connors or
[03:51:45] you are Arthur Ash or Jimmy Connors or Chris ever Lloyd or U Maria nevat
[03:51:50] Chris ever Lloyd or U Maria nevat whatever her name is Nevada or one of
[03:51:52] whatever her name is Nevada or one of the great tennis players and play tennis
[03:51:54] the great tennis players and play tennis exactly as if you were one of those play
[03:51:57] exactly as if you were one of those play tennis as as though you were them and in
[03:51:59] tennis as as though you were them and in their body and on the court and you know
[03:52:01] their body and on the court and you know what will happen is that judges and
[03:52:03] what will happen is that judges and people observing a person doing this
[03:52:05] people observing a person doing this find that you will hit more accurately
[03:52:07] find that you will hit more accurately you hit with more Force you are better
[03:52:10] you hit with more Force you are better you are more confident you're more
[03:52:11] you are more confident you're more capable golfers another example is if
[03:52:14] capable golfers another example is if you want want to be a great golfer is
[03:52:16] you want want to be a great golfer is imagine that you are already a great
[03:52:17] imagine that you are already a great golfer if you want to be a great
[03:52:19] golfer if you want to be a great salesperson imagine that you are already
[03:52:21] salesperson imagine that you are already a great salesperson and walk talk carry
[03:52:24] a great salesperson and walk talk carry act as though you had the part already
[03:52:27] act as though you had the part already dress the part dress look at yourself in
[03:52:29] dress the part dress look at yourself in the mirror and say do I look the part of
[03:52:32] the mirror and say do I look the part of a great golfer do I look the part of the
[03:52:34] a great golfer do I look the part of the executive the salesman or the saleswoman
[03:52:36] executive the salesman or the saleswoman or whatever it happens to be that I
[03:52:37] or whatever it happens to be that I would like to be these four we call this
[03:52:40] would like to be these four we call this the vava VA VA VA VA actually I should
[03:52:45] the vava VA VA VA VA actually I should do it this way VA a VA these are the
[03:52:49] do it this way VA a VA these are the keys to Rapid personality change the V
[03:52:53] keys to Rapid personality change the V is for
[03:52:54] is for visualization visualize and play the
[03:52:56] visualization visualize and play the picture of the desired person you would
[03:52:58] picture of the desired person you would like to be over and over again until it
[03:53:01] like to be over and over again until it is accepted by the subconscious as a
[03:53:03] is accepted by the subconscious as a reality remember the subconscious obeys
[03:53:05] reality remember the subconscious obeys your conscious commands if you command
[03:53:08] your conscious commands if you command the subconscious and you command the
[03:53:10] the subconscious and you command the subconscious by the thoughts you hold in
[03:53:12] subconscious by the thoughts you hold in your conscious mind by the thoughts that
[03:53:14] your conscious mind by the thoughts that you dwell upon the law of concentration
[03:53:17] you dwell upon the law of concentration if you hold that thought in your mind on
[03:53:19] if you hold that thought in your mind on a continuing basis eventually it clicks
[03:53:22] a continuing basis eventually it clicks into the subconscious and it takes on a
[03:53:24] into the subconscious and it takes on a power of its own the second is to affirm
[03:53:27] power of its own the second is to affirm and affirm over and over
[03:53:29] and affirm over and over again there are many people who say that
[03:53:31] again there are many people who say that they would rather go without breakfast
[03:53:33] they would rather go without breakfast than go without their affirmations each
[03:53:35] than go without their affirmations each morning speak to yourself positively use
[03:53:37] morning speak to yourself positively use positive selft talk all the time
[03:53:40] positive selft talk all the time remember you talk to yourself at the
[03:53:41] remember you talk to yourself at the rate of almost 1500 words a minute most
[03:53:43] rate of almost 1500 words a minute most people talk talk to themselves in terms
[03:53:45] people talk talk to themselves in terms of doubt and fear and worry and anxiety
[03:53:47] of doubt and fear and worry and anxiety talk to yourself positively I can do it
[03:53:49] talk to yourself positively I can do it I can do it I can do it I can do it just
[03:53:51] I can do it I can do it I can do it just repeating I can do it I can do it over
[03:53:53] repeating I can do it I can do it over and over again boost your
[03:53:54] and over again boost your self-confidence and boost your
[03:53:56] self-confidence and boost your self-esteem when you have nothing else
[03:53:57] self-esteem when you have nothing else to do say I like myself I like myself I
[03:53:59] to do say I like myself I like myself I like myself I like myself because saying
[03:54:00] like myself I like myself because saying I like myself or I love myself expands
[03:54:03] I like myself or I love myself expands your ability and your capacity in every
[03:54:05] your ability and your capacity in every area of your life also verbalize speak
[03:54:08] area of your life also verbalize speak out loud make sure the things that you
[03:54:10] out loud make sure the things that you say out loud are consistent with the
[03:54:12] say out loud are consistent with the person that you want to be and the
[03:54:13] person that you want to be and the things that you want want to do
[03:54:15] things that you want want to do verbalize and say I like myself don't
[03:54:16] verbalize and say I like myself don't say allow things that like I'm never on
[03:54:19] say allow things that like I'm never on time I can't lose weight uh I can't quit
[03:54:22] time I can't lose weight uh I can't quit smoking I wish I could and so on but
[03:54:23] smoking I wish I could and so on but always speak in positive terms remember
[03:54:26] always speak in positive terms remember that you can almost double the force of
[03:54:29] that you can almost double the force of an affirmation by speaking it loud if
[03:54:30] an affirmation by speaking it loud if you speak it really loud I like myself I
[03:54:32] you speak it really loud I like myself I like myself I like myself you speak it
[03:54:34] like myself I like myself you speak it really loud and really strong it has
[03:54:37] really loud and really strong it has double triple sometimes several times
[03:54:38] double triple sometimes several times the impact and finally assume the role
[03:54:41] the impact and finally assume the role pretend as though you already had the
[03:54:43] pretend as though you already had the part assume the role imagine you've been
[03:54:45] part assume the role imagine you've been hired to play the role of an extremely
[03:54:48] hired to play the role of an extremely successful person in a Broadway play and
[03:54:51] successful person in a Broadway play and in this in this role what you are going
[03:54:53] in this in this role what you are going to do is you're going to walk talk and
[03:54:55] to do is you're going to walk talk and act as though you were the success as
[03:54:57] act as though you were the success as though you were the role model as though
[03:55:00] though you were the role model as though you were the ideal image of the perfect
[03:55:02] you were the ideal image of the perfect person that you want to become and if
[03:55:05] person that you want to become and if you walk it talk it pretend it visualize
[03:55:07] you walk it talk it pretend it visualize it think it and affirm it over and over
[03:55:09] it think it and affirm it over and over again that is the person that you become
[03:55:13] again that is the person that you become as inevitably as the sun rising in the
[03:55:15] as inevitably as the sun rising in the East and setting in the west and in the
[03:55:19] East and setting in the west and in the next session I'll tell you more about
[03:55:21] next session I'll tell you more about how to in incorporate these personality
[03:55:23] how to in incorporate these personality attributes into your
[03:55:34] character session 11 the new mental diet
[03:55:39] character session 11 the new mental diet back in the 1930s a man named Gaylord
[03:55:41] back in the 1930s a man named Gaylord Hower shocked the medical world by
[03:55:43] Hower shocked the medical world by coming out with a series of claims and
[03:55:46] coming out with a series of claims and statements that said that everything
[03:55:48] statements that said that everything that we ate in some way affected our
[03:55:50] that we ate in some way affected our body he said that everything that you
[03:55:53] body he said that everything that you eat is translated into something and has
[03:55:55] eat is translated into something and has a positive or negative effect and he
[03:55:57] a positive or negative effect and he wrote a book called the new diet does it
[03:55:59] wrote a book called the new diet does it now in this session and the previous
[03:56:01] now in this session and the previous sessions we've been talking about the
[03:56:02] sessions we've been talking about the new mental diet and just as everything
[03:56:05] new mental diet and just as everything that you eat has an effect on your
[03:56:07] that you eat has an effect on your physical body everything that you take
[03:56:09] physical body everything that you take into your mind has an effect on your
[03:56:12] into your mind has an effect on your mental body on what's going on ins
[03:56:14] mental body on what's going on ins inside you which determines what happens
[03:56:16] inside you which determines what happens around you when we were talking a little
[03:56:17] around you when we were talking a little bit earlier we said that the power of
[03:56:20] bit earlier we said that the power of suggestion is one of the most important
[03:56:21] suggestion is one of the most important powers in your life the power of
[03:56:23] powers in your life the power of suggestion says that everything that you
[03:56:25] suggestion says that everything that you take in everything that you think about
[03:56:28] take in everything that you think about everything that you read everything that
[03:56:29] everything that you read everything that you listen to all of your conversations
[03:56:32] you listen to all of your conversations radio television newspaper books papers
[03:56:34] radio television newspaper books papers magazines everything that you allow to
[03:56:37] magazines everything that you allow to influence you thinking affects your
[03:56:40] influence you thinking affects your subconscious mind affects your attitudes
[03:56:42] subconscious mind affects your attitudes your expectations your values your
[03:56:44] your expectations your values your beliefs and ultimately your potential as
[03:56:47] beliefs and ultimately your potential as a human being in fact the great
[03:56:49] a human being in fact the great difference between human beings is not
[03:56:51] difference between human beings is not intelligence and not education and not
[03:56:53] intelligence and not education and not opportunity it is what they are feeding
[03:56:56] opportunity it is what they are feeding into their minds on a regular basis now
[03:56:58] into their minds on a regular basis now we also said and it's the same thing if
[03:57:00] we also said and it's the same thing if you were to say well yes I eat good food
[03:57:03] you were to say well yes I eat good food a lot of the time but some of the time
[03:57:04] a lot of the time but some of the time or 50% of the time I eat junk food I eat
[03:57:07] or 50% of the time I eat junk food I eat food that's high in salt high in sugar
[03:57:09] food that's high in salt high in sugar uh low in nutrition uh inert Foods dead
[03:57:12] uh low in nutrition uh inert Foods dead Foods white flour French grease and so
[03:57:15] Foods white flour French grease and so on but it doesn't bother me it doesn't
[03:57:17] on but it doesn't bother me it doesn't have any effect on my body you would
[03:57:20] have any effect on my body you would know that that is nonsense because
[03:57:22] know that that is nonsense because everything counts everything counts one
[03:57:25] everything counts everything counts one of the marks of a truly honest person is
[03:57:29] of the marks of a truly honest person is that they accept reality and reality is
[03:57:33] that they accept reality and reality is that everything that you do mentally or
[03:57:35] that everything that you do mentally or physically counts and it's either
[03:57:37] physically counts and it's either positive it's either helping you moving
[03:57:40] positive it's either helping you moving you toward what you want to be and have
[03:57:42] you toward what you want to be and have and do or it's negative it's moving you
[03:57:45] and do or it's negative it's moving you away but nothing is neutral everything
[03:57:48] away but nothing is neutral everything counts so with regard to the power of
[03:57:49] counts so with regard to the power of suggestion let's go on and talk about
[03:57:51] suggestion let's go on and talk about how we complete this process of
[03:57:54] how we complete this process of reprogramming ourselves so that inside
[03:57:57] reprogramming ourselves so that inside we are totally successful human beings
[03:58:00] we are totally successful human beings so that outside we will be totally
[03:58:02] so that outside we will be totally positive enthusiastic successful human
[03:58:05] positive enthusiastic successful human beings feed your mind the same way you
[03:58:08] beings feed your mind the same way you would feed your body feed your mind
[03:58:11] would feed your body feed your mind carefully if you were concerned about
[03:58:13] carefully if you were concerned about physical iCal Health and Longevity you
[03:58:15] physical iCal Health and Longevity you would measure and calculate and look
[03:58:17] would measure and calculate and look into the foods you eat look carefully
[03:58:20] into the foods you eat look carefully into the mental foods that you eat too
[03:58:22] into the mental foods that you eat too because these mental Foods by a process
[03:58:25] because these mental Foods by a process what we call the law of accumulation now
[03:58:28] what we call the law of accumulation now the law of accumulation is both a mental
[03:58:30] the law of accumulation is both a mental law as well as a physical law and what
[03:58:32] law as well as a physical law and what it says is that every single thing that
[03:58:34] it says is that every single thing that you do positive or negative accumulates
[03:58:37] you do positive or negative accumulates that every single great achievement in
[03:58:39] that every single great achievement in life is the result of thousands of
[03:58:41] life is the result of thousands of ordinary achievements struggles
[03:58:44] ordinary achievements struggles fallbacks failures minor disappointments
[03:58:47] fallbacks failures minor disappointments every single big accomplishment is
[03:58:49] every single big accomplishment is preceded by thousands of tiny little
[03:58:51] preceded by thousands of tiny little accomplishments every overnight success
[03:58:54] accomplishments every overnight success is preceded by years and years and years
[03:58:56] is preceded by years and years and years of working off Broadway every single
[03:58:58] of working off Broadway every single great Fortune by the way in studying
[03:59:00] great Fortune by the way in studying self-made millionaires in America do you
[03:59:02] self-made millionaires in America do you know what we found is the average time
[03:59:03] know what we found is the average time that it takes to become a millionaire in
[03:59:05] that it takes to become a millionaire in America is over 20 years of hard work in
[03:59:09] America is over 20 years of hard work in other words we see a person who is
[03:59:10] other words we see a person who is wealthy got a beautiful home beautiful
[03:59:12] wealthy got a beautiful home beautiful car financially independent but we don't
[03:59:14] car financially independent but we don't realize that there are years and years
[03:59:15] realize that there are years and years and years of hard work struggle and
[03:59:18] and years of hard work struggle and sacrifice that preceded it we see the
[03:59:20] sacrifice that preceded it we see the person we see the end result and we say
[03:59:21] person we see the end result and we say isn't that person lucky well the fact of
[03:59:23] isn't that person lucky well the fact of the matter is that there's no luck
[03:59:25] the matter is that there's no luck there's just this long process of
[03:59:26] there's just this long process of accumulation and everything counts every
[03:59:29] accumulation and everything counts every single honest effort that you make
[03:59:31] single honest effort that you make toward becoming a better person
[03:59:34] toward becoming a better person accumulates like a snowball and has an
[03:59:36] accumulates like a snowball and has an effect every single time you do
[03:59:39] effect every single time you do something that takes you away that
[03:59:40] something that takes you away that wastes your time waste your mind waste
[03:59:42] wastes your time waste your mind waste your thought and so on that has an
[03:59:44] your thought and so on that has an effect too and that accumulates now the
[03:59:47] effect too and that accumulates now the great mistake that many people make is
[03:59:48] great mistake that many people make is they go a little bit forward and a
[03:59:50] they go a little bit forward and a little bit backward they do a few things
[03:59:52] little bit backward they do a few things that are good for their mind and a few
[03:59:53] that are good for their mind and a few things that are crummy for their mind
[03:59:54] things that are crummy for their mind and a few things that are good and a few
[03:59:56] and a few things that are good and a few things that are crummy and you know
[03:59:57] things that are crummy and you know where they end up exactly where they
[03:59:58] where they end up exactly where they started the good offsets the bad what
[04:00:02] started the good offsets the bad what you have to do is you have to put
[04:00:03] you have to do is you have to put yourself on the side of the Angels so
[04:00:05] yourself on the side of the Angels so that your predominant intakes of mental
[04:00:08] that your predominant intakes of mental food are positive and constructive and
[04:00:11] food are positive and constructive and moving you in the direction that you
[04:00:12] moving you in the direction that you want to go in so we feed your mind
[04:00:14] want to go in so we feed your mind number one is read only reading is
[04:00:18] number one is read only reading is reading many people today don't like to
[04:00:20] reading many people today don't like to read but all leaders are readers all
[04:00:23] read but all leaders are readers all leaders are readers read and try to read
[04:00:26] leaders are readers read and try to read an average of 1 hour per day we know
[04:00:28] an average of 1 hour per day we know that if you read 1 hour per day over the
[04:00:31] that if you read 1 hour per day over the course of the day in something that
[04:00:33] course of the day in something that builds your mind something positive and
[04:00:34] builds your mind something positive and constructive that builds your mind not
[04:00:36] constructive that builds your mind not newspapers not wasted things that just
[04:00:39] newspapers not wasted things that just preoccupy your mind but something that
[04:00:41] preoccupy your mind but something that builds you and develops you one hour per
[04:00:44] builds you and develops you one hour per day can change your life research shows
[04:00:46] day can change your life research shows that 1 hour per day in 2 to 3 years you
[04:00:50] that 1 hour per day in 2 to 3 years you will be an authority on your subject on
[04:00:52] will be an authority on your subject on studying any subject from time
[04:00:54] studying any subject from time management to Nuclear Physics one hour
[04:00:56] management to Nuclear Physics one hour per day will make you an authority 3 to
[04:00:58] per day will make you an authority 3 to 5 years will make you an
[04:01:01] 5 years will make you an expert and 5 to seven years will make
[04:01:04] expert and 5 to seven years will make you an international Authority make you
[04:01:07] you an international Authority make you one of the most knowledgeable people in
[04:01:09] one of the most knowledgeable people in that field in the world in just 1 hour a
[04:01:12] that field in the world in just 1 hour a day in any subject and you can pick
[04:01:13] day in any subject and you can pick anything from medicine to uh molecular
[04:01:16] anything from medicine to uh molecular biology so read an hour per day recent
[04:01:19] biology so read an hour per day recent study shows that the average adult in
[04:01:22] study shows that the average adult in North America reads less than one book a
[04:01:25] North America reads less than one book a year that 58% of adults in the United
[04:01:28] year that 58% of adults in the United States and
[04:01:29] States and Canada never finish a non-fiction book
[04:01:32] Canada never finish a non-fiction book after they leave high school when they
[04:01:34] after they leave high school when they leave high school you know what they say
[04:01:35] leave high school you know what they say or they leave University they say thank
[04:01:37] or they leave University they say thank heavens this is over I'll never read
[04:01:39] heavens this is over I'll never read another book as long as I live and they
[04:01:42] another book as long as I live and they can't understand why they stop growing
[04:01:44] can't understand why they stop growing it is only reading that causes your mind
[04:01:47] it is only reading that causes your mind to stretch and grow conversation is good
[04:01:51] to stretch and grow conversation is good listening is good courses and classes
[04:01:53] listening is good courses and classes are good watching videotape instruction
[04:01:56] are good watching videotape instruction is good of course uh but only reading is
[04:01:59] is good of course uh but only reading is reading and there's no sub people say
[04:02:00] reading and there's no sub people say well I'm not a good reader I didn't
[04:02:01] well I'm not a good reader I didn't learn to read well in school good and
[04:02:04] learn to read well in school good and set that as one of your goals to become
[04:02:06] set that as one of your goals to become an excellent reader in one year of
[04:02:09] an excellent reader in one year of remedial reading at an evening course
[04:02:10] remedial reading at an evening course you can be reading 3 four 500 Words a
[04:02:13] you can be reading 3 four 500 Words a minute and change your life in fact
[04:02:15] minute and change your life in fact according to uh the Gallup
[04:02:17] according to uh the Gallup organization's poll on who's who in
[04:02:19] organization's poll on who's who in America the Great American success story
[04:02:21] America the Great American success story they found that the top people the top
[04:02:23] they found that the top people the top 1% in this country read an average of 12
[04:02:27] 1% in this country read an average of 12 non-fiction books per year that means
[04:02:30] non-fiction books per year that means that you can join the top 1% in the
[04:02:32] that you can join the top 1% in the nation by simply reading one book per
[04:02:35] nation by simply reading one book per month one non-fiction book that develops
[04:02:38] month one non-fiction book that develops your mind and expands your ability to
[04:02:40] your mind and expands your ability to think in a subject that interests you
[04:02:42] think in a subject that interests you one book a month will put you in the top
[04:02:44] one book a month will put you in the top 1% in a very short period of time if you
[04:02:47] 1% in a very short period of time if you were to read 30 to 60 minutes each day
[04:02:49] were to read 30 to 60 minutes each day as I'll recommend later 30 to 60 minutes
[04:02:51] as I'll recommend later 30 to 60 minutes each day would translate into a book per
[04:02:54] each day would translate into a book per week a book per week would translate
[04:02:55] week a book per week would translate into over 50 books a year now just
[04:02:57] into over 50 books a year now just imagine if you were to Read 50 books a
[04:02:59] imagine if you were to Read 50 books a year for the next 10 years how many
[04:03:00] year for the next 10 years how many books would that
[04:03:01] books would that be that would be about 500 books if you
[04:03:04] be that would be about 500 books if you can work it out now let me ask you a
[04:03:06] can work it out now let me ask you a very simple question do you think that
[04:03:08] very simple question do you think that if you read one book a week for the next
[04:03:10] if you read one book a week for the next 10 years in a world where the average
[04:03:12] 10 years in a world where the average person reads less than one book a year
[04:03:14] person reads less than one book a year do you think that would give you the
[04:03:15] do you think that would give you the edge do you think that would affect your
[04:03:18] edge do you think that would affect your life in any way do you think that would
[04:03:19] life in any way do you think that would change your career and your income do
[04:03:21] change your career and your income do you think it would change your
[04:03:22] you think it would change your environment do you think it would change
[04:03:24] environment do you think it would change everything that goes on around you you
[04:03:26] everything that goes on around you you bet your bippi it would because by the
[04:03:27] bet your bippi it would because by the power of suggestion by feeding your mind
[04:03:29] power of suggestion by feeding your mind with new information 500 books in 10
[04:03:32] with new information 500 books in 10 years will transform your life in such a
[04:03:34] years will transform your life in such a way that you will never be able to
[04:03:36] way that you will never be able to recognize it right the next thing with
[04:03:38] recognize it right the next thing with regard to feeding your mind is listen to
[04:03:42] regard to feeding your mind is listen to tapes the discovery of audio cassette
[04:03:45] tapes the discovery of audio cassette learning has been considered the
[04:03:47] learning has been considered the greatest single advance in education
[04:03:50] greatest single advance in education since the discovery of the printing
[04:03:52] since the discovery of the printing press or the invention of the printing
[04:03:53] press or the invention of the printing press audio cassette learning brings the
[04:03:56] press audio cassette learning brings the finest Minds in the world with their
[04:03:59] finest Minds in the world with their finest thoughts thought out scripted
[04:04:02] finest thoughts thought out scripted edited tightly compressed and put
[04:04:05] edited tightly compressed and put together into your hands for a few
[04:04:07] together into your hands for a few dollars of tape and you can walk travel
[04:04:10] dollars of tape and you can walk travel jog with some of the greatest Minds
[04:04:13] jog with some of the greatest Minds Alive for only a few dollars listen to
[04:04:15] Alive for only a few dollars listen to tapes in your car you know the average
[04:04:16] tapes in your car you know the average person who drives spends 500 to 1,000
[04:04:19] person who drives spends 500 to 1,000 hours a year in their car 500 to 1,000
[04:04:23] hours a year in their car 500 to 1,000 hours a year the majority of those
[04:04:25] hours a year the majority of those people sit there and listen to the radio
[04:04:27] people sit there and listen to the radio as they we call radio with all due
[04:04:30] as they we call radio with all due respect to people in the radio industry
[04:04:31] respect to people in the radio industry it's called chewing gum for the ears uh
[04:04:34] it's called chewing gum for the ears uh because it just goes on and on 500 to
[04:04:36] because it just goes on and on 500 to 1,000 hours is the equivalent of 12 1/2
[04:04:39] 1,000 hours is the equivalent of 12 1/2 to 25 40h hour weeks
[04:04:44] to 25 40h hour weeks you know what that means it means that
[04:04:46] you know what that means it means that you are getting the the benefit of or
[04:04:49] you are getting the the benefit of or could be getting the benefit of as much
[04:04:51] could be getting the benefit of as much as 12 and A2 to 25 40h hour work weeks
[04:04:55] as 12 and A2 to 25 40h hour work weeks imagine if your company would send you
[04:04:57] imagine if your company would send you away for 25 weeks to study every single
[04:04:59] away for 25 weeks to study every single year at no extra charge do you think
[04:05:01] year at no extra charge do you think that would affect your career and your
[04:05:02] that would affect your career and your earning capacity that's the equivalent
[04:05:04] earning capacity that's the equivalent of one to two University
[04:05:07] of one to two University semesters imagine if you were taking the
[04:05:09] semesters imagine if you were taking the equivalent of one or two University
[04:05:11] equivalent of one or two University semesters of additional educ ation every
[04:05:15] semesters of additional educ ation every single year do you think that would
[04:05:17] single year do you think that would affect your life yes it would so listen
[04:05:20] affect your life yes it would so listen to tapes and finally take additional
[04:05:23] to tapes and finally take additional courses become a lifelong
[04:05:26] courses become a lifelong student and when I say take additional
[04:05:28] student and when I say take additional courses the very best place to take
[04:05:30] courses the very best place to take courses is from people who are experts
[04:05:32] courses is from people who are experts in their field try to avoid taking
[04:05:34] in their field try to avoid taking courses from people who've only got
[04:05:36] courses from people who've only got their education out of a textbook take
[04:05:38] their education out of a textbook take courses from people who are experts take
[04:05:40] courses from people who are experts take seminars seminars for instance like this
[04:05:42] seminars seminars for instance like this seminar that you're attending
[04:05:44] seminar that you're attending you can get more information in a one or
[04:05:46] you can get more information in a one or two day seminar taught by people who
[04:05:47] two day seminar taught by people who spent 10 20 30 years Gathering and
[04:05:50] spent 10 20 30 years Gathering and compressing the information than you can
[04:05:51] compressing the information than you can an entire University course so take
[04:05:54] an entire University course so take additional courses I recommend a minimum
[04:05:56] additional courses I recommend a minimum of four perom one every 3 months in a
[04:06:00] of four perom one every 3 months in a world where the average person never
[04:06:01] world where the average person never takes an additional course 80 to 90% of
[04:06:03] takes an additional course 80 to 90% of people never take a course after they
[04:06:05] people never take a course after they leave high school or university if you
[04:06:07] leave high school or university if you take four per year listen to tapes in
[04:06:09] take four per year listen to tapes in your car and read on a regular basis and
[04:06:11] your car and read on a regular basis and by the way where do you get the time for
[04:06:12] by the way where do you get the time for reading just don't read so much news
[04:06:13] reading just don't read so much news paper simple as that just cut back on
[04:06:15] paper simple as that just cut back on the newspaper a little bit and expand
[04:06:17] the newspaper a little bit and expand the amount of self-development reading
[04:06:19] the amount of self-development reading that you do where do you get time to
[04:06:20] that you do where do you get time to listen to tapes just don't listen to so
[04:06:22] listen to tapes just don't listen to so much radio I'm not saying don't listen
[04:06:23] much radio I'm not saying don't listen to radio at all but just don't listen to
[04:06:24] to radio at all but just don't listen to so much of it where do you get time to
[04:06:26] so much of it where do you get time to take additional courses instead of
[04:06:27] take additional courses instead of sitting around on the weekends take a
[04:06:28] sitting around on the weekends take a course instead of watching television
[04:06:30] course instead of watching television the evenings go and take a course but
[04:06:32] the evenings go and take a course but remember the clock is running if you
[04:06:34] remember the clock is running if you want to get to the top of your field if
[04:06:36] want to get to the top of your field if you want to be a leader if you want to
[04:06:37] you want to be a leader if you want to be a star in your field knowledge is
[04:06:40] be a star in your field knowledge is power knowledge today is more important
[04:06:44] power knowledge today is more important than anything else knowledge is the
[04:06:46] than anything else knowledge is the great power in our society and the more
[04:06:48] great power in our society and the more knowledge you have the more practical
[04:06:50] knowledge you have the more practical knowledge that can be put to purposes
[04:06:52] knowledge that can be put to purposes that can help other people and benefit
[04:06:54] that can help other people and benefit yourself and the people around you the
[04:06:55] yourself and the people around you the more knowledge you have the more power
[04:06:57] more knowledge you have the more power you will have the more self-esteem you
[04:06:59] you will have the more self-esteem you will have the more status the more
[04:07:01] will have the more status the more position the more security everything
[04:07:03] position the more security everything the most insecure person in our society
[04:07:05] the most insecure person in our society is the person who has stopped learning
[04:07:07] is the person who has stopped learning and growing and they know it all right
[04:07:10] and growing and they know it all right by the way one other thing according to
[04:07:11] by the way one other thing according to the Harvard studies one of the key to
[04:07:13] the Harvard studies one of the key to self motivation is Perpetual growth as
[04:07:15] self motivation is Perpetual growth as long as you're growing and learning and
[04:07:17] long as you're growing and learning and feeding your mind with new material you
[04:07:19] feeding your mind with new material you will be continuously motivated exactly
[04:07:21] will be continuously motivated exactly as if you were taking psychological
[04:07:22] as if you were taking psychological vitamins as soon as you stop growing you
[04:07:25] vitamins as soon as you stop growing you start stagnating when you start
[04:07:27] start stagnating when you start stagnating your self-esteem goes down
[04:07:29] stagnating your self-esteem goes down your energy level goes down your health
[04:07:31] your energy level goes down your health level goes down you become prone to more
[04:07:33] level goes down you become prone to more diseases and so on and so forth so as
[04:07:34] diseases and so on and so forth so as long as you're learning and growing
[04:07:36] long as you're learning and growing you'll be vital physically and mentally
[04:07:38] you'll be vital physically and mentally the next part of feeding your
[04:07:40] the next part of feeding your mind uh is what we call the reference
[04:07:44] mind uh is what we call the reference group or put it another way get around
[04:07:46] group or put it another way get around the right people get around the right
[04:07:51] people now getting around the right
[04:07:53] people now getting around the right people simply means this is that when we
[04:07:55] people simply means this is that when we talked about the power of suggestion we
[04:07:57] talked about the power of suggestion we said that about 85 to 95% of all of the
[04:08:01] said that about 85 to 95% of all of the influences in your life all the reasons
[04:08:03] influences in your life all the reasons you do anything is because of suggestive
[04:08:05] you do anything is because of suggestive influences around you not only physical
[04:08:07] influences around you not only physical suggestions the weather the heat the
[04:08:08] suggestions the weather the heat the cold and so on but also the emotional
[04:08:11] cold and so on but also the emotional suggestions the impact of the people you
[04:08:13] suggestions the impact of the people you associate with and the more you impact
[04:08:15] associate with and the more you impact the more you associate with people
[04:08:17] the more you associate with people especially people in your family people
[04:08:19] especially people in your family people in your close Social Circle people that
[04:08:20] in your close Social Circle people that you work with the more you associate
[04:08:23] you work with the more you associate with these people the more of an impact
[04:08:24] with these people the more of an impact they have on your thinking and on your
[04:08:27] they have on your thinking and on your future David mclen found at Harvard
[04:08:29] future David mclen found at Harvard University after 25 years he found that
[04:08:32] University after 25 years he found that the choice of a reference group was one
[04:08:34] the choice of a reference group was one of the key determinant of success or
[04:08:36] of the key determinant of success or failure in life now a reference group
[04:08:39] failure in life now a reference group are the people that you identify with
[04:08:41] are the people that you identify with remember we talked about identification
[04:08:43] remember we talked about identification the people that you consider yourself to
[04:08:45] the people that you consider yourself to be one of just simple as that who do you
[04:08:48] be one of just simple as that who do you identify with well let me give you an
[04:08:50] identify with well let me give you an example I was reading the story of a
[04:08:51] example I was reading the story of a self-made millionaire not long ago and
[04:08:54] self-made millionaire not long ago and he had started off as a young man when
[04:08:56] he had started off as a young man when other kids were collecting baseball
[04:08:57] other kids were collecting baseball cards or football cards or hockey cards
[04:09:00] cards or football cards or hockey cards he became fascinated with Executives of
[04:09:03] he became fascinated with Executives of Fortune 500 corporations so he began
[04:09:06] Fortune 500 corporations so he began reading his father's business week
[04:09:08] reading his father's business week Newsweek Fortune Magazine Wall Street
[04:09:10] Newsweek Fortune Magazine Wall Street Journal and he be began keeping fire on
[04:09:14] Journal and he be began keeping fire on Executives who were in the news and he
[04:09:16] Executives who were in the news and he began to identify with those Executives
[04:09:19] began to identify with those Executives he began to think about being in a
[04:09:21] he began to think about being in a Fortune 500 Corporation and he began to
[04:09:23] Fortune 500 Corporation and he began to think about being an executive in a
[04:09:25] think about being an executive in a Fortune 500 Corporation at a time when
[04:09:27] Fortune 500 Corporation at a time when some people were thinking about being
[04:09:28] some people were thinking about being hockey stars or Baseball Stars the
[04:09:30] hockey stars or Baseball Stars the interesting thing was that as he grew up
[04:09:32] interesting thing was that as he grew up this directional mechanism this role
[04:09:34] this directional mechanism this role model this reference group that he
[04:09:37] model this reference group that he identified with began to affect what he
[04:09:40] identified with began to affect what he read in school what he studied uh how
[04:09:42] read in school what he studied uh how much he applied himself how hard he
[04:09:45] much he applied himself how hard he worked what companies he went to work
[04:09:47] worked what companies he went to work with what company he went to work with
[04:09:48] with what company he went to work with when he came out of high school and
[04:09:49] when he came out of high school and University and by the time he was 25
[04:09:51] University and by the time he was 25 years old he was an executive of Fortune
[04:09:54] years old he was an executive of Fortune 500 Corporation one of the youngest
[04:09:56] 500 Corporation one of the youngest Executives of a Fortune 500 Corporation
[04:09:59] Executives of a Fortune 500 Corporation in business history but it's because he
[04:10:01] in business history but it's because he started at the age of 12 identifying
[04:10:04] started at the age of 12 identifying with those question who do you identify
[04:10:07] with those question who do you identify with now whoever you identify with today
[04:10:09] with now whoever you identify with today one of the things you have to ask
[04:10:10] one of the things you have to ask yourself is who would you like to be
[04:10:12] yourself is who would you like to be like who do you want want to identify
[04:10:14] like who do you want want to identify with and then you start getting around
[04:10:16] with and then you start getting around the right people the starting point of
[04:10:17] the right people the starting point of getting around the right people is to
[04:10:19] getting around the right people is to start to read the magazines that they
[04:10:21] start to read the magazines that they read if you want to be a successful
[04:10:22] read if you want to be a successful person in business read successful
[04:10:24] person in business read successful business magazines you want to be a top
[04:10:26] business magazines you want to be a top salesperson read successful sales
[04:10:28] salesperson read successful sales magazines marketing magazines books
[04:10:30] magazines marketing magazines books written by top salespeople if you want
[04:10:32] written by top salespeople if you want to be a successful executive if you want
[04:10:34] to be a successful executive if you want to be a successful marketer if you want
[04:10:35] to be a successful marketer if you want to be a successful parent then begin
[04:10:37] to be a successful parent then begin getting around these people through
[04:10:39] getting around these people through their writings through their tapes and
[04:10:41] their writings through their tapes and through their courses the other thing is
[04:10:43] through their courses the other thing is to seek them out and begin to associate
[04:10:45] to seek them out and begin to associate with winners as we say fly with
[04:10:49] with winners as we say fly with eagles now let me make one point here
[04:10:51] eagles now let me make one point here that's absolutely critical it is simply
[04:10:54] that's absolutely critical it is simply this is that if
[04:10:55] this is that if you scratch with the turkeys you can't
[04:10:58] you scratch with the turkeys you can't fly with the Eagles that if you spend
[04:11:00] fly with the Eagles that if you spend time with losers you will be a loser
[04:11:03] time with losers you will be a loser yourself that David meland of Harvard SP
[04:11:05] yourself that David meland of Harvard SP found that 99% of the failure rate in
[04:11:08] found that 99% of the failure rate in life could be attributed to associating
[04:11:11] life could be attributed to associating with people who were going nowhere
[04:11:14] with people who were going nowhere because we're so strongly influenced by
[04:11:17] because we're so strongly influenced by the people around us we talk like them
[04:11:19] the people around us we talk like them we walk like them we take on their
[04:11:21] we walk like them we take on their attitudes their values their beliefs
[04:11:23] attitudes their values their beliefs their expectations even their
[04:11:25] their expectations even their self-concepts if we associate with
[04:11:27] self-concepts if we associate with negative people critical people cynical
[04:11:30] negative people critical people cynical people lazy people people who waste
[04:11:32] people lazy people people who waste their time we will become exactly like
[04:11:35] their time we will become exactly like them every one of us has the tendency to
[04:11:38] them every one of us has the tendency to be like a chameleon we take on the
[04:11:40] be like a chameleon we take on the colorings and the behaviors of the
[04:11:41] colorings and the behaviors of the people around us so it's very important
[04:11:44] people around us so it's very important that you make a decision what you want
[04:11:46] that you make a decision what you want to be like and you begin to associate
[04:11:48] to be like and you begin to associate with people who are like that and
[04:11:50] with people who are like that and especially get away from the losers get
[04:11:53] especially get away from the losers get away from the no hopers get away from
[04:11:55] away from the no hopers get away from the negative people because these people
[04:11:57] the negative people because these people will drag you down as surely as an
[04:11:59] will drag you down as surely as an anchor would drag you down if it was
[04:12:01] anchor would drag you down if it was tied to your leg many people come to me
[04:12:03] tied to your leg many people come to me and say well I'm working for a negative
[04:12:05] and say well I'm working for a negative boss or I'm in a negative relationship
[04:12:07] boss or I'm in a negative relationship and I say this if you're working for a
[04:12:08] and I say this if you're working for a negative boss you'll never realize your
[04:12:10] negative boss you'll never realize your potential working for that boss you'll
[04:12:12] potential working for that boss you'll never be happy and you'll never
[04:12:13] never be happy and you'll never accomplish everything you're capable of
[04:12:14] accomplish everything you're capable of accomplishing they say well if I'm in a
[04:12:16] accomplishing they say well if I'm in a negative relationship what do I do I say
[04:12:18] negative relationship what do I do I say you have to ask yourself this question
[04:12:20] you have to ask yourself this question do you want to fulfill your potential as
[04:12:21] do you want to fulfill your potential as a human being or not if you want to
[04:12:23] a human being or not if you want to fulfill your potential as a human being
[04:12:25] fulfill your potential as a human being here's the facts I'm not making the
[04:12:27] here's the facts I'm not making the facts up I'm just telling you here's the
[04:12:29] facts up I'm just telling you here's the facts but if you associate with losers
[04:12:30] facts but if you associate with losers you'll be a loser and it's been worked
[04:12:32] you'll be a loser and it's been worked on for 25 years and they can't find any
[04:12:34] on for 25 years and they can't find any exceptions to it and I've spoken to
[04:12:37] exceptions to it and I've spoken to thousands of people who've told me that
[04:12:39] thousands of people who've told me that coming to terms with this is one of the
[04:12:40] coming to terms with this is one of the hardest things that they ever did
[04:12:42] hardest things that they ever did because sometimes means that you have to
[04:12:44] because sometimes means that you have to say goodbye to family say goodbye to
[04:12:46] say goodbye to family say goodbye to friends say goodbye to relatives say
[04:12:48] friends say goodbye to relatives say goodbye to relationships but if that is
[04:12:50] goodbye to relationships but if that is the fact the better sooner you do it the
[04:12:53] the fact the better sooner you do it the better it's almost like taking out a
[04:12:54] better it's almost like taking out a rotten tooth the sooner you do it the
[04:12:56] rotten tooth the sooner you do it the less pain you suffer now with the next
[04:12:58] less pain you suffer now with the next part with regard to reference group is
[04:13:00] part with regard to reference group is this it's what is called The Mastermind
[04:13:02] this it's what is called The Mastermind Alliance and that is to pick one or two
[04:13:06] Alliance and that is to pick one or two or more people in your environment whom
[04:13:08] or more people in your environment whom you admire who are positive who are
[04:13:10] you admire who are positive who are going places who are ambitious and start
[04:13:12] going places who are ambitious and start to get together with them at at least
[04:13:13] to get together with them at at least once per week for breakfast or lunch
[04:13:15] once per week for breakfast or lunch just to talk get around them the
[04:13:17] just to talk get around them the something about the fertilization and
[04:13:19] something about the fertilization and the Synergy of positive Minds coming
[04:13:21] the Synergy of positive Minds coming together talking about your problems
[04:13:23] together talking about your problems talking about your challenges talking
[04:13:24] talking about your challenges talking about the future talking about what's
[04:13:26] about the future talking about what's going on try to get together with a
[04:13:27] going on try to get together with a mastermind Alliance once a week we have
[04:13:30] mastermind Alliance once a week we have found in the research that I've done the
[04:13:32] found in the research that I've done the research that Napoleon Hill has done
[04:13:34] research that Napoleon Hill has done that associating with other positive
[04:13:35] that associating with other positive people is one of the triggering
[04:13:37] people is one of the triggering influences to Peak Performance it's one
[04:13:39] influences to Peak Performance it's one of the guarantors that you will become a
[04:13:41] of the guarantors that you will become a great success you can't do it by simply
[04:13:43] great success you can't do it by simply associating by yourself all right now
[04:13:46] associating by yourself all right now another way another way to influence
[04:13:49] another way another way to influence your mind very very important is start
[04:13:51] your mind very very important is start each day
[04:13:52] each day right start each day
[04:13:58] right now this is based on the fact that
[04:14:00] right now this is based on the fact that there are two times of the day when you
[04:14:02] there are two times of the day when you are most suggestive when your
[04:14:03] are most suggestive when your subconscious mind is most open to new
[04:14:06] subconscious mind is most open to new information and that is nighttime before
[04:14:09] information and that is nighttime before you go to sleep just when you fall off
[04:14:12] you go to sleep just when you fall off to sleep and morning these are the two
[04:14:15] to sleep and morning these are the two times when your conscious mind is most
[04:14:17] times when your conscious mind is most relaxed and your subconscious mind is
[04:14:19] relaxed and your subconscious mind is most alert so you must use these times
[04:14:22] most alert so you must use these times as what we call key programming
[04:14:23] as what we call key programming opportunities to put new information
[04:14:26] opportunities to put new information into your mind and this is what I
[04:14:28] into your mind and this is what I suggest you do and it's very very
[04:14:30] suggest you do and it's very very powerful before you go to sleep at night
[04:14:32] powerful before you go to sleep at night feed your mind with a stream of messages
[04:14:34] feed your mind with a stream of messages consistent with what you want to be and
[04:14:36] consistent with what you want to be and have and do the next day in other words
[04:14:38] have and do the next day in other words program yourself for the next day the
[04:14:40] program yourself for the next day the same way you'd program a computer and
[04:14:42] same way you'd program a computer and what I do is I live down and I close my
[04:14:44] what I do is I live down and I close my eyes and I say I wake up in the morning
[04:14:46] eyes and I say I wake up in the morning present tense and I feel terrific I wake
[04:14:49] present tense and I feel terrific I wake up in the morning and I feel terrific I
[04:14:52] up in the morning and I feel terrific I wake up in the morning I feel wonderful
[04:14:53] wake up in the morning I feel wonderful I feel full of energy I believe tomorrow
[04:14:56] I feel full of energy I believe tomorrow is going to be a great day I wake up in
[04:14:58] is going to be a great day I wake up in the morning and I feel terrific and then
[04:15:00] the morning and I feel terrific and then when you get up in the morning the first
[04:15:02] when you get up in the morning the first thing that you say the first thought
[04:15:03] thing that you say the first thought that
[04:15:05] that you program into your subconscious
[04:15:07] you program into your subconscious computer is I feel terrific I feel
[04:15:11] computer is I feel terrific I feel terrific I feel terrific I feel terrific
[04:15:14] terrific I feel terrific I feel terrific I feel terrific what you do is you get
[04:15:16] I feel terrific what you do is you get up and you say it 1 2 3 four five times
[04:15:18] up and you say it 1 2 3 four five times and you repeat it over I feel terrific I
[04:15:20] and you repeat it over I feel terrific I feel terrific you don't get up in the
[04:15:21] feel terrific you don't get up in the morning say gez I'm tired gez I'm tired
[04:15:23] morning say gez I'm tired gez I'm tired gez I'm tired oh God I'm tired you get
[04:15:25] gez I'm tired oh God I'm tired you get in the morning say I feel terrific
[04:15:26] in the morning say I feel terrific somebody say how you feel you say I feel
[04:15:27] somebody say how you feel you say I feel terrific even when you feel terrible say
[04:15:29] terrific even when you feel terrible say I feel terrific you see your
[04:15:30] I feel terrific you see your subconscious mind can't tell the
[04:15:32] subconscious mind can't tell the difference between a real fact and one
[04:15:35] difference between a real fact and one that you vividly imagine and if you
[04:15:36] that you vividly imagine and if you repeat I feel terrific very loud I feel
[04:15:39] repeat I feel terrific very loud I feel terrific try it yourself I feel terrific
[04:15:41] terrific try it yourself I feel terrific I feel terrific I feel terrific what
[04:15:42] I feel terrific I feel terrific what Happ the subconscious mind believes it
[04:15:44] Happ the subconscious mind believes it maybe you do feel terrific and it will
[04:15:45] maybe you do feel terrific and it will actually give you a surge of energy that
[04:15:47] actually give you a surge of energy that will wake you up and clear your mind
[04:15:49] will wake you up and clear your mind even before you have coffee now the
[04:15:51] even before you have coffee now the second thing that you do in the morning
[04:15:53] second thing that you do in the morning this is number one second thing that you
[04:15:54] this is number one second thing that you do to start your day off well is to read
[04:15:57] do to start your day off well is to read for 30 to 60 Minutes get up early enough
[04:15:59] for 30 to 60 Minutes get up early enough to read for 30 to 60 Minutes in
[04:16:01] to read for 30 to 60 Minutes in something that is motivational something
[04:16:03] something that is motivational something that is inspirational something that is
[04:16:06] that is inspirational something that is educational something that uplifts your
[04:16:10] educational something that uplifts your mind what we call mental protein not
[04:16:12] mind what we call mental protein not newspaper not magazine not television
[04:16:14] newspaper not magazine not television not radio get up in the morning sit down
[04:16:16] not radio get up in the morning sit down and read something really good for
[04:16:18] and read something really good for yourself read something that makes you
[04:16:20] yourself read something that makes you feel really good about yourself in your
[04:16:21] feel really good about yourself in your day I read spiritually oriented material
[04:16:23] day I read spiritually oriented material every single morning and with this is
[04:16:25] every single morning and with this is called by the way the golden hour if you
[04:16:28] called by the way the golden hour if you will do this as a result of attending
[04:16:30] will do this as a result of attending this seminar if you will begin to read
[04:16:32] this seminar if you will begin to read every morning for 30 to 60 Minutes in
[04:16:34] every morning for 30 to 60 Minutes in something that uplifts your mind this
[04:16:36] something that uplifts your mind this alone will be worth all the time you
[04:16:37] alone will be worth all the time you spend in a seminar this habit of using
[04:16:40] spend in a seminar this habit of using the golden hour the first hour in the
[04:16:42] the golden hour the first hour in the morning when your mind is wide open to
[04:16:43] morning when your mind is wide open to new information using it constructively
[04:16:46] new information using it constructively is one of the most powerful success
[04:16:48] is one of the most powerful success techniques I've ever found in my entire
[04:16:50] techniques I've ever found in my entire life I've had hundreds of people come
[04:16:52] life I've had hundreds of people come back to me and say this has changed
[04:16:53] back to me and say this has changed their life just getting up a little bit
[04:16:55] their life just getting up a little bit early so you can sit and read quietly
[04:16:57] early so you can sit and read quietly you will become so addicted to using
[04:16:59] you will become so addicted to using that golden hour that you will not be
[04:17:02] that golden hour that you will not be able to do without it even if you have
[04:17:03] able to do without it even if you have to get up tired even if you have to get
[04:17:05] to get up tired even if you have to get up long before you have to go to work
[04:17:07] up long before you have to go to work get up and milk that golden hour fill
[04:17:10] get up and milk that golden hour fill your mind full of Rich mental prote
[04:17:13] your mind full of Rich mental prote beautiful thoughts and ideas uplift your
[04:17:15] beautiful thoughts and ideas uplift your mind and you'll find that your whole day
[04:17:17] mind and you'll find that your whole day will go better and the third step is
[04:17:20] will go better and the third step is review your goals every morning review
[04:17:23] review your goals every morning review your goals every
[04:17:26] your goals every morning every morning before you start
[04:17:28] morning every morning before you start out review your goals just just the same
[04:17:31] out review your goals just just the same as if you were on a long motor trip or
[04:17:32] as if you were on a long motor trip or if you were at Sea you'd look at the map
[04:17:34] if you were at Sea you'd look at the map you'd shoot the stars and the Moon in
[04:17:36] you'd shoot the stars and the Moon in other words you take a look at where you
[04:17:38] other words you take a look at where you are and you would plot your destination
[04:17:40] are and you would plot your destination and you would think about it because
[04:17:41] and you would think about it because when you review your goals you program
[04:17:43] when you review your goals you program them into your subconscious
[04:17:45] them into your subconscious mind well programming them into your
[04:17:48] mind well programming them into your subconscious mind by repeating them
[04:17:50] subconscious mind by repeating them every day and using that wonderful
[04:17:52] every day and using that wonderful technique that golden hour I learned
[04:17:54] technique that golden hour I learned this many years ago and I've been
[04:17:56] this many years ago and I've been absolutely astonished those three points
[04:17:58] absolutely astonished those three points wake up in the morning it's got to feel
[04:18:00] wake up in the morning it's got to feel terrific read for 30 to 60 minutes and
[04:18:03] terrific read for 30 to 60 minutes and write and review your goals every single
[04:18:06] write and review your goals every single morning and the most remarkable thing
[04:18:07] morning and the most remarkable thing that happens is you start off every day
[04:18:10] that happens is you start off every day supercharged you start off every day
[04:18:11] supercharged you start off every day feeling positive you start off every day
[04:18:13] feeling positive you start off every day feeling energetic so let's just review
[04:18:16] feeling energetic so let's just review for a second and I'm going to wrap up
[04:18:17] for a second and I'm going to wrap up with two really critical points we
[04:18:20] with two really critical points we talked about the power of suggestion
[04:18:21] talked about the power of suggestion remember that everything counts
[04:18:22] remember that everything counts everything that you read everything that
[04:18:24] everything that you read everything that you listen to everything that you watch
[04:18:25] you listen to everything that you watch on television every magazine that you
[04:18:27] on television every magazine that you pick up every conversation that you have
[04:18:30] pick up every conversation that you have positive or negative is affecting your
[04:18:32] positive or negative is affecting your subconscious mind which is programming
[04:18:34] subconscious mind which is programming your future remember your external world
[04:18:37] your future remember your external world is a reflection of your internal World
[04:18:39] is a reflection of your internal World your external world is a reflection of
[04:18:41] your external world is a reflection of your internal world if there is
[04:18:43] your internal world if there is negativity concern anxiety fear in your
[04:18:45] negativity concern anxiety fear in your internal world then it's going to be
[04:18:47] internal world then it's going to be reflected in your external world so be
[04:18:49] reflected in your external world so be sure that what you're taking into your
[04:18:51] sure that what you're taking into your mental diet is just as pure as what you
[04:18:54] mental diet is just as pure as what you would take into a physical diet if you
[04:18:56] would take into a physical diet if you wanted to sustain high levels of
[04:18:58] wanted to sustain high levels of physical health and energy absolutely
[04:19:00] physical health and energy absolutely important feed your mind with books feed
[04:19:03] important feed your mind with books feed your mind with tapes feed your mind with
[04:19:05] your mind with tapes feed your mind with positive conversations feed your mind
[04:19:07] positive conversations feed your mind with courses go and attend and listen to
[04:19:09] with courses go and attend and listen to experts feed your mind with positive
[04:19:12] experts feed your mind with positive people if one of the uh recommendations
[04:19:16] people if one of the uh recommendations that one of the business philosophers
[04:19:17] that one of the business philosophers says is poor people should take rich
[04:19:20] says is poor people should take rich people out to lunch why because taking a
[04:19:22] people out to lunch why because taking a rich person out to lunch is an
[04:19:24] rich person out to lunch is an opportunity to learn from that rich
[04:19:26] opportunity to learn from that rich person to get information from that
[04:19:27] person to get information from that person that you could not buy at any
[04:19:29] person that you could not buy at any price poor people should take rich
[04:19:31] price poor people should take rich people out to lunch get around the
[04:19:34] people out to lunch get around the winners think about the winner that you
[04:19:36] winners think about the winner that you want to be and look around you in your
[04:19:38] want to be and look around you in your world and say who is like the person
[04:19:40] world and say who is like the person that I want to be here's another very
[04:19:42] that I want to be here's another very important point in terms of mental
[04:19:43] important point in terms of mental programming it's simply this is discard
[04:19:46] programming it's simply this is discard past
[04:19:47] past labels discard past
[04:19:51] labels discard past labels don't ever allow anybody to tag
[04:19:54] labels don't ever allow anybody to tag you with the way that you used to be if
[04:19:57] you with the way that you used to be if you were late before don't anybody allow
[04:19:59] you were late before don't anybody allow anybody to say well you're always late
[04:20:01] anybody to say well you're always late you say no you say in the past I was
[04:20:04] you say no you say in the past I was late but now I am punctual you can't
[04:20:07] late but now I am punctual you can't control your your eating in the past I
[04:20:10] control your your eating in the past I overate but now I eat sensibly and
[04:20:12] overate but now I eat sensibly and soundly you're irritable and impatient
[04:20:14] soundly you're irritable and impatient no in the past I was but now I am these
[04:20:17] no in the past I was but now I am these are the words in the past I was past
[04:20:20] are the words in the past I was past tense in the past I was remember the
[04:20:23] tense in the past I was remember the subconscious is listening but now I
[04:20:26] subconscious is listening but now I am but now I am blank blank blank
[04:20:30] am but now I am blank blank blank whatever it happens to be in the past I
[04:20:33] whatever it happens to be in the past I didn't work very effectively but now I
[04:20:35] didn't work very effectively but now I am an effective worker in the past I
[04:20:36] am an effective worker in the past I didn't manage my time well but now I
[04:20:38] didn't manage my time well but now I manage my time well now if you make a
[04:20:40] manage my time well now if you make a mistake and you fall back then what you
[04:20:42] mistake and you fall back then what you do do is you just simply cancel the
[04:20:43] do do is you just simply cancel the mistake by saying well next time I'll
[04:20:47] mistake by saying well next time I'll you show up late for an appointment you
[04:20:49] you show up late for an appointment you say well next time I'll be on time Etc
[04:20:53] say well next time I'll be on time Etc next time I'll those are the words you
[04:20:55] next time I'll those are the words you cancel every mistake you refuse to carry
[04:20:58] cancel every mistake you refuse to carry past labels forward underlining all
[04:21:02] past labels forward underlining all this teach
[04:21:04] this teach others teach what you know to people who
[04:21:07] others teach what you know to people who are interested teach what you know to
[04:21:10] are interested teach what you know to people who are interested
[04:21:12] people who are interested because remember you become what you
[04:21:15] because remember you become what you teach you will find that the more you
[04:21:17] teach you will find that the more you teach other people and share this
[04:21:19] teach other people and share this information with other people the more
[04:21:20] information with other people the more you internalize it yourself you become
[04:21:23] you internalize it yourself you become what you teach does this material work I
[04:21:27] what you teach does this material work I can tell you yes it does work since I
[04:21:29] can tell you yes it does work since I began to teach this material since I
[04:21:31] began to teach this material since I began to lecture on it and tape on it
[04:21:33] began to lecture on it and tape on it since I began to speak to hundreds and
[04:21:34] since I began to speak to hundreds and thousands of people I have internalized
[04:21:37] thousands of people I have internalized all the things that we talk about in
[04:21:38] all the things that we talk about in this course and everything that I talk
[04:21:40] this course and everything that I talk about here when I first began teaching I
[04:21:42] about here when I first began teaching I hope it worked I thought it worked I
[04:21:45] hope it worked I thought it worked I sort of believed it worked but now I
[04:21:47] sort of believed it worked but now I know it works having taught it I've
[04:21:49] know it works having taught it I've internalized it having internalized it I
[04:21:51] internalized it having internalized it I have seen examples of every single bit
[04:21:54] have seen examples of every single bit of this back everything that you do with
[04:21:57] of this back everything that you do with confident
[04:21:59] confident expectations an attitude of confident
[04:22:01] expectations an attitude of confident expectations is the mark of the truly
[04:22:03] expectations is the mark of the truly healthy personality remember we talked
[04:22:05] healthy personality remember we talked about the power of expectations an
[04:22:07] about the power of expectations an attitude of confident expectations means
[04:22:10] attitude of confident expectations means that you confidently expect good things
[04:22:11] that you confidently expect good things to happen you have have an attitude of
[04:22:13] to happen you have have an attitude of positive
[04:22:21] self-excluders
[04:22:23] self-excluders paranoid as you know a paranoid is a
[04:22:25] paranoid as you know a paranoid is a person who is convinced that the world
[04:22:26] person who is convinced that the world is out to get him that the whole world
[04:22:28] is out to get him that the whole world is conspiring to get him an inverse
[04:22:31] is conspiring to get him an inverse paranoid is a person who is convinced
[04:22:33] paranoid is a person who is convinced that the world is conspiring to do him
[04:22:36] that the world is conspiring to do him or her good so become an inverse
[04:22:39] or her good so become an inverse paranoid be absolutely convinced that
[04:22:40] paranoid be absolutely convinced that the world has got a plot out there it's
[04:22:42] the world has got a plot out there it's plotting to do you good it's plotting to
[04:22:45] plotting to do you good it's plotting to somehow get good to you whether you like
[04:22:47] somehow get good to you whether you like it or not that no matter what happens
[04:22:49] it or not that no matter what happens look into it for the good no matter what
[04:22:53] look into it for the good no matter what happens this is the key to becoming an
[04:22:55] happens this is the key to becoming an inverse paranoid look for the good
[04:22:58] inverse paranoid look for the good expect the best and look for the good
[04:23:01] expect the best and look for the good expect the best and look for the good
[04:23:04] expect the best and look for the good Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the
[04:23:07] Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the measure of healthy personality is your
[04:23:09] measure of healthy personality is your ability to look for the good in
[04:23:11] ability to look for the good in everything around you your propensity to
[04:23:13] everything around you your propensity to look for the good you have to ask
[04:23:14] look for the good you have to ask yourself how much of the time do you
[04:23:15] yourself how much of the time do you look for the good how much of the time
[04:23:17] look for the good how much of the time do you expect the bad the degree to
[04:23:18] do you expect the bad the degree to which you look for the good is the
[04:23:20] which you look for the good is the degree to which you are healthy as a
[04:23:22] degree to which you are healthy as a human being and finally remember this
[04:23:25] human being and finally remember this the process of changing from where you
[04:23:27] the process of changing from where you are now here's where you are to here's
[04:23:30] are now here's where you are to here's your goal this is where you want to go
[04:23:32] your goal this is where you want to go the process of getting from here to here
[04:23:35] the process of getting from here to here is Progressive but this is what happens
[04:23:37] is Progressive but this is what happens when you begin to visualize and affirm
[04:23:39] when you begin to visualize and affirm and imagine and write and plan your new
[04:23:42] and imagine and write and plan your new self that is say you want to earn
[04:23:43] self that is say you want to earn $50,000 a year and you began you're
[04:23:46] $50,000 a year and you began you're currently earning $25,000 a year and
[04:23:48] currently earning $25,000 a year and your goal is to earn $50,000 a year what
[04:23:51] your goal is to earn $50,000 a year what happens is this you keep saying you
[04:23:53] happens is this you keep saying you start to affirm and visualize over and
[04:23:55] start to affirm and visualize over and over again I weigh or I earn $50,000 a
[04:23:57] over again I weigh or I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year I earn
[04:23:59] year I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year your subconscious mind
[04:24:02] $50,000 a year your subconscious mind disbelieves it but as you say it over
[04:24:04] disbelieves it but as you say it over and over again your subconscious mind
[04:24:05] and over again your subconscious mind still disbelieves it but as you repeated
[04:24:07] still disbelieves it but as you repeated it I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000
[04:24:09] it I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year the
[04:24:11] a year I earn $50,000 a year the disbelief shrinks and your disbelief
[04:24:14] disbelief shrinks and your disbelief gets smaller and smaller eventually you
[04:24:15] gets smaller and smaller eventually you actually overcome your own skepticism
[04:24:18] actually overcome your own skepticism and finally you reach the position where
[04:24:20] and finally you reach the position where you NE believe nor disbelieve but as you
[04:24:21] you NE believe nor disbelieve but as you keep repeating it and thinking about it
[04:24:23] keep repeating it and thinking about it and reading and studying it and saying
[04:24:24] and reading and studying it and saying over and over again I earn $50,000 a
[04:24:26] over and over again I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year I earn
[04:24:27] year I earn $50,000 a year I earn $50,000 a year eventually you start to
[04:24:30] $50,000 a year eventually you start to believe it just a little bit also you
[04:24:31] believe it just a little bit also you start to get a slight increase in pay
[04:24:33] start to get a slight increase in pay and your salary goes to $26,000 a year
[04:24:36] and your salary goes to $26,000 a year and then you get a bonus and you find
[04:24:37] and then you get a bonus and you find yourself earning 27,000 and so on you
[04:24:39] yourself earning 27,000 and so on you find that the more you repeat it and
[04:24:41] find that the more you repeat it and affirm it and visualize it and plan for
[04:24:43] affirm it and visualize it and plan for it and prepare for it the more it comes
[04:24:45] it and prepare for it the more it comes into your life and you just keep saying
[04:24:47] into your life and you just keep saying I earn $50,000 a year and you begin to
[04:24:49] I earn $50,000 a year and you begin to believe it more and more and you believe
[04:24:51] believe it more and more and you believe it more and more and as you repeat it
[04:24:52] it more and more and as you repeat it and visualize it and affirm it and over
[04:24:54] and visualize it and affirm it and over and over again your belief grows and
[04:24:56] and over again your belief grows and grows and grows and eventually it gets
[04:24:58] grows and grows and eventually it gets to the point where you absolutely
[04:25:00] to the point where you absolutely believe that you earn $50,000 a year and
[04:25:02] believe that you earn $50,000 a year and if somebody were to wake you up at 3:00
[04:25:04] if somebody were to wake you up at 3:00 in the morning give you a check and say
[04:25:05] in the morning give you a check and say how much do you earn you say $50,000 a
[04:25:06] how much do you earn you say $50,000 a year even though still at this point
[04:25:08] year even though still at this point you've never earned more than 27,000 in
[04:25:11] you've never earned more than 27,000 in your whole life
[04:25:13] your whole life now this is the way all our beliefs
[04:25:15] now this is the way all our beliefs change we start off with where we are
[04:25:18] change we start off with where we are now we look at where we want to be in
[04:25:20] now we look at where we want to be in the future and we begin to feed our mind
[04:25:23] the future and we begin to feed our mind with new mental food consistent with
[04:25:25] with new mental food consistent with where we want to be as we feed our mind
[04:25:27] where we want to be as we feed our mind with that new mental food we start off
[04:25:29] with that new mental food we start off with a lot of disbelief and skepticism
[04:25:31] with a lot of disbelief and skepticism as a matter of fact your skepticism and
[04:25:33] as a matter of fact your skepticism and disbelief is the biggest obstacle to
[04:25:35] disbelief is the biggest obstacle to your success but as we repeat it over
[04:25:37] your success but as we repeat it over and over again as we continue to work on
[04:25:40] and over again as we continue to work on ourselves and to work on the situation
[04:25:42] ourselves and to work on the situation we begin to believe more and more that
[04:25:44] we begin to believe more and more that it's possible we begin to impress the
[04:25:45] it's possible we begin to impress the possibility of it deeper and deeper into
[04:25:47] possibility of it deeper and deeper into the subconscious now in propaganda this
[04:25:50] the subconscious now in propaganda this is called the big
[04:25:53] is called the big lie the big lie theory was the discovery
[04:25:56] lie the big lie theory was the discovery that if you repeated anything over and
[04:25:58] that if you repeated anything over and over again often enough that even the
[04:26:00] over again often enough that even the most intelligent person would come to
[04:26:02] most intelligent person would come to believe it with regard to your life and
[04:26:04] believe it with regard to your life and to my life this is called the big truth
[04:26:08] to my life this is called the big truth the big truth is that you can be have
[04:26:10] the big truth is that you can be have and do anything that you want if you
[04:26:13] and do anything that you want if you want it badly enough and are willing to
[04:26:15] want it badly enough and are willing to make the efforts that anything that you
[04:26:17] make the efforts that anything that you can hold in your mind on a continuing
[04:26:19] can hold in your mind on a continuing basis you can be have or do you will
[04:26:22] basis you can be have or do you will become what you think about your only
[04:26:25] become what you think about your only job is to make a very very clear
[04:26:27] job is to make a very very clear decision about the person you want to be
[04:26:30] decision about the person you want to be the things that you want to have the
[04:26:32] the things that you want to have the goals that you want to accomplish and
[04:26:34] goals that you want to accomplish and then make sure that you feed your mind
[04:26:36] then make sure that you feed your mind continuously day by day week by week
[04:26:38] continuously day by day week by week hour by hour with words pictures images
[04:26:41] hour by hour with words pictures images ideas thoughts and information
[04:26:44] ideas thoughts and information consistent with your goals and your
[04:26:46] consistent with your goals and your ideals keep your mind on what you want
[04:26:49] ideals keep your mind on what you want keep it off of what you don't want and
[04:26:52] keep it off of what you don't want and everything is possible for you
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[04:27:19] Brian
[04:27:23] Tracy
[04:27:25] Tracy [Music]
[04:27:35] Phoenix session 12 software for the
[04:27:38] Phoenix session 12 software for the brain what is the most precious resource
[04:27:40] brain what is the most precious resource in your life will if you're like I am
[04:27:43] in your life will if you're like I am your most precious resource is time and
[04:27:45] your most precious resource is time and according to all the recent studies that
[04:27:47] according to all the recent studies that have been done lately adults in America
[04:27:49] have been done lately adults in America and Canada and other countries value
[04:27:52] and Canada and other countries value Time ahead of money in almost every
[04:27:54] Time ahead of money in almost every instance now as a result of what we've
[04:27:57] instance now as a result of what we've talked about in our previous sessions
[04:27:58] talked about in our previous sessions with the fact that if you change your
[04:27:59] with the fact that if you change your internal world you change your external
[04:28:01] internal world you change your external world one of the things that begins to
[04:28:03] world one of the things that begins to well up inside of you is impatience if
[04:28:06] well up inside of you is impatience if you believe that if you do change your
[04:28:08] you believe that if you do change your internal programming your external world
[04:28:10] internal programming your external world will change to conform with it then your
[04:28:12] will change to conform with it then your probably in a hurry to change that
[04:28:14] probably in a hurry to change that internal programming and in this session
[04:28:16] internal programming and in this session we're going to talk about how you can
[04:28:17] we're going to talk about how you can bring about rapid and permanent internal
[04:28:20] bring about rapid and permanent internal programming change we call this session
[04:28:23] programming change we call this session software for the brain now I don't know
[04:28:25] software for the brain now I don't know a lot about computers but I do know this
[04:28:27] a lot about computers but I do know this I do know that a computer has a certain
[04:28:30] I do know that a computer has a certain amount of utility as a piece of Hardware
[04:28:32] amount of utility as a piece of Hardware but what makes a computer work are the
[04:28:34] but what makes a computer work are the programs that you run in it and the more
[04:28:37] programs that you run in it and the more sophisticated and complex and productive
[04:28:40] sophisticated and complex and productive the programs the more value is the
[04:28:42] the programs the more value is the computer so what we're going to do today
[04:28:44] computer so what we're going to do today is we're going to take the things that
[04:28:46] is we're going to take the things that we talked about in terms of mental
[04:28:48] we talked about in terms of mental programming visualization and
[04:28:49] programming visualization and affirmation and so on and we're going to
[04:28:51] affirmation and so on and we're going to combine them into a series of techniques
[04:28:54] combine them into a series of techniques that you can use to multiply or to speed
[04:28:57] that you can use to multiply or to speed up the process at which your new
[04:28:59] up the process at which your new thoughts and ideas are accepted by your
[04:29:02] thoughts and ideas are accepted by your subconscious mind and then go to work
[04:29:04] subconscious mind and then go to work and attract them into your reality and
[04:29:08] and attract them into your reality and the first technique we're going to talk
[04:29:09] the first technique we're going to talk about is what I call written programming
[04:29:12] about is what I call written programming technique it's one of the simplest of
[04:29:14] technique it's one of the simplest of all and yet it is so powerful that it's
[04:29:16] all and yet it is so powerful that it's almost scary again I've said this to
[04:29:18] almost scary again I've said this to many audiences but I'll say it to you is
[04:29:21] many audiences but I'll say it to you is that if you just practice this one
[04:29:23] that if you just practice this one technique it will be worth 10 times the
[04:29:26] technique it will be worth 10 times the time and price of this program if it's
[04:29:28] time and price of this program if it's all you learn is this one technique it
[04:29:30] all you learn is this one technique it will have an astonishing difference on
[04:29:32] will have an astonishing difference on your results when I first learned about
[04:29:33] your results when I first learned about this and applied it some years ago I
[04:29:35] this and applied it some years ago I couldn't believe how effective it was
[04:29:37] couldn't believe how effective it was and all it requires to use is discipline
[04:29:40] and all it requires to use is discipline plus one of these now this is what I use
[04:29:43] plus one of these now this is what I use it's a spiral notebook it costs here
[04:29:45] it's a spiral notebook it costs here $1.99 Walgreens drugs all it has is line
[04:29:49] $1.99 Walgreens drugs all it has is line pages and what you do is you use this to
[04:29:52] pages and what you do is you use this to write and rewrite your goals it's very
[04:29:54] write and rewrite your goals it's very simple you buy one for $1.99 and you use
[04:29:57] simple you buy one for $1.99 and you use this as the basis of written programming
[04:30:00] this as the basis of written programming technique let me explain to you how it
[04:30:02] technique let me explain to you how it works written programming technique is
[04:30:05] works written programming technique is based on the fact that we learn or take
[04:30:07] based on the fact that we learn or take in information three ways we take in
[04:30:10] in information three ways we take in information auditorily in other words we
[04:30:13] information auditorily in other words we hear the information or we speak the
[04:30:15] hear the information or we speak the information we take it in visually we
[04:30:18] information we take it in visually we see the information and we take it in
[04:30:20] see the information and we take it in kinesthetically is we feel the
[04:30:24] kinesthetically is we feel the information now any one of these is a
[04:30:27] information now any one of these is a good way of learning or if you like
[04:30:29] good way of learning or if you like bringing in information to the
[04:30:30] bringing in information to the unconscious mind however the more of
[04:30:32] unconscious mind however the more of them you can combine simultaneously
[04:30:35] them you can combine simultaneously along with some of the other mental
[04:30:36] along with some of the other mental principles and programming techniques
[04:30:38] principles and programming techniques that we've talked about the more rapidly
[04:30:40] that we've talked about the more rapidly the information is accepted sometimes if
[04:30:42] the information is accepted sometimes if you combine information in the right way
[04:30:44] you combine information in the right way it's accepted instantaneously as a
[04:30:46] it's accepted instantaneously as a permanent change in your unconscious
[04:30:48] permanent change in your unconscious programming written programming
[04:30:50] programming written programming technique is based on this as are some
[04:30:53] technique is based on this as are some of the other programming techniques
[04:30:55] of the other programming techniques which we'll talk about in the next few
[04:30:56] which we'll talk about in the next few minutes written programming technique is
[04:30:59] minutes written programming technique is based on the fact that when you write
[04:31:01] based on the fact that when you write something down it requires total
[04:31:04] something down it requires total concentration law of concentration you
[04:31:06] concentration law of concentration you cannot write accurately and correctly
[04:31:09] cannot write accurately and correctly and think of anything else at the same
[04:31:11] and think of anything else at the same time so write writing requires
[04:31:12] time so write writing requires concentration it also requires intensity
[04:31:16] concentration it also requires intensity it also requires visual because you
[04:31:18] it also requires visual because you can't write without looking and when you
[04:31:20] can't write without looking and when you do write you have a tendency to what is
[04:31:22] do write you have a tendency to what is called subvocalize in other words you
[04:31:23] called subvocalize in other words you say the words to yourself as you're
[04:31:25] say the words to yourself as you're writing so even though you can't hear
[04:31:26] writing so even though you can't hear them with a conscious ear you hear them
[04:31:28] them with a conscious ear you hear them internally and kinesthetically you move
[04:31:30] internally and kinesthetically you move and you feel it requires tremendous
[04:31:33] and you feel it requires tremendous mental emotional and physical energy to
[04:31:35] mental emotional and physical energy to write so written programming technique
[04:31:36] write so written programming technique simply says this is that every single
[04:31:40] simply says this is that every single morning without fail you rewrite your
[04:31:42] morning without fail you rewrite your major goals after you've done your
[04:31:44] major goals after you've done your reading you rewrite your major goals now
[04:31:48] reading you rewrite your major goals now this whole process by the way can take
[04:31:50] this whole process by the way can take about 2 minutes maybe five you may get
[04:31:53] about 2 minutes maybe five you may get to the point as I do where you'll write
[04:31:54] to the point as I do where you'll write 10 20 30 sometimes even an hour but you
[04:31:57] 10 20 30 sometimes even an hour but you just rewrite your major goals as
[04:31:59] just rewrite your major goals as positive present tense personal
[04:32:02] positive present tense personal affirmations in other words your P your
[04:32:04] affirmations in other words your P your goals could be I earn X number of
[04:32:06] goals could be I earn X number of dollars per month I weigh X number of
[04:32:09] dollars per month I weigh X number of pounds I am outstanding in my field
[04:32:12] pounds I am outstanding in my field I do this I achieve I accomplish I
[04:32:16] I do this I achieve I accomplish I choose and so on whatever you want to be
[04:32:18] choose and so on whatever you want to be have or do you just write it out in a
[04:32:20] have or do you just write it out in a series of affirmations one at a time now
[04:32:23] series of affirmations one at a time now you'll find and we'll talk about goal
[04:32:24] you'll find and we'll talk about goal setting later on you'll find that as you
[04:32:26] setting later on you'll find that as you write your goals over and over again an
[04:32:28] write your goals over and over again an interesting thing will happen is that
[04:32:30] interesting thing will happen is that your more important goals will tend to
[04:32:32] your more important goals will tend to be Rewritten first and they'll tend to
[04:32:34] be Rewritten first and they'll tend to become clarified and to become sharper
[04:32:37] become clarified and to become sharper and more distinct and every single time
[04:32:38] and more distinct and every single time you rewrite your major goals you are
[04:32:40] you rewrite your major goals you are driving them you are impressing them
[04:32:43] driving them you are impressing them deeper into the subconscious which leads
[04:32:45] deeper into the subconscious which leads to the guarantee that they will be
[04:32:48] to the guarantee that they will be expressed in your reality every time you
[04:32:50] expressed in your reality every time you rewrite your major goals you're
[04:32:52] rewrite your major goals you're programming into them into your
[04:32:53] programming into them into your subconscious and you're setting them as
[04:32:55] subconscious and you're setting them as a directional mechanism the same way you
[04:32:57] a directional mechanism the same way you would set the directional mechanism on a
[04:32:58] would set the directional mechanism on a guided missile so that it will move you
[04:33:01] guided missile so that it will move you uniring in the direction of
[04:33:03] uniring in the direction of accomplishing it number two is close
[04:33:06] accomplishing it number two is close your eyes after you've Rewritten your
[04:33:08] your eyes after you've Rewritten your goals close your eyes and visualize your
[04:33:12] goals close your eyes and visualize your major goal or goals of the day as
[04:33:15] major goal or goals of the day as accomplished visualize them as a reality
[04:33:18] accomplished visualize them as a reality what would they look like now a very
[04:33:20] what would they look like now a very valuable thing to do by the way is cut
[04:33:21] valuable thing to do by the way is cut out cripping from magazines and books
[04:33:23] out cripping from magazines and books and put them in your notebook so that
[04:33:26] and put them in your notebook so that you can actually look at a picture do
[04:33:27] you can actually look at a picture do you want to earn own a brand new car or
[04:33:29] you want to earn own a brand new car or a beautiful house or something like that
[04:33:30] a beautiful house or something like that well then get a picture of it and make a
[04:33:32] well then get a picture of it and make a very clear picture so when you write out
[04:33:33] very clear picture so when you write out the goal you can look at the picture and
[04:33:35] the goal you can look at the picture and then close your eyes and feed that
[04:33:37] then close your eyes and feed that picture into your subconscious mind and
[04:33:40] picture into your subconscious mind and then the third part which is most
[04:33:41] then the third part which is most important is imagine the feeling of
[04:33:44] important is imagine the feeling of pleasure you would have imagine the
[04:33:47] pleasure you would have imagine the feeling of pleasure you would have if
[04:33:50] feeling of pleasure you would have if you already owned it just imagine that
[04:33:53] you already owned it just imagine that it is already a reality the way that you
[04:33:55] it is already a reality the way that you imagine that it's a reality is imagine
[04:33:57] imagine that it's a reality is imagine that you are on a path toward your goal
[04:34:00] that you are on a path toward your goal and your goal is on a path toward you
[04:34:02] and your goal is on a path toward you and that there is a predestined time
[04:34:05] and that there is a predestined time when you are ready and it's ready when
[04:34:07] when you are ready and it's ready when everything is ready that you and the
[04:34:09] everything is ready that you and the goal will meet and that you cannot speak
[04:34:11] goal will meet and that you cannot speak speed up the time you can't make it go
[04:34:13] speed up the time you can't make it go faster and you can't make it go slower
[04:34:15] faster and you can't make it go slower but what you can do is continually
[04:34:17] but what you can do is continually repeat the picture and the feeling and
[04:34:19] repeat the picture and the feeling and the description over and over again and
[04:34:21] the description over and over again and at exactly the right time and place it
[04:34:24] at exactly the right time and place it will meet someday you'll probably write
[04:34:26] will meet someday you'll probably write me a letter and you'll tell me how
[04:34:27] me a letter and you'll tell me how remarkably this has worked in your life
[04:34:29] remarkably this has worked in your life because it's worked remarkably in my
[04:34:31] because it's worked remarkably in my life and the life of many other people
[04:34:33] life and the life of many other people now the second point and let's before we
[04:34:34] now the second point and let's before we go on with this let me give you a key
[04:34:36] go on with this let me give you a key point it's called The Law of relaxation
[04:34:38] point it's called The Law of relaxation the law of relaxation is one of the most
[04:34:40] the law of relaxation is one of the most important mental laws
[04:34:42] important mental laws well the law of relaxation simply says
[04:34:45] well the law of relaxation simply says this that in the physical world if you
[04:34:47] this that in the physical world if you want to drive a nail the harder you hit
[04:34:49] want to drive a nail the harder you hit it the more physical effort or energy
[04:34:52] it the more physical effort or energy you put behind it the faster you
[04:34:54] you put behind it the faster you accomplish something in the physical
[04:34:56] accomplish something in the physical world if you want to drive a car faster
[04:34:57] world if you want to drive a car faster you step on the gas which causes the
[04:34:59] you step on the gas which causes the engine to work harder and propels It
[04:35:01] engine to work harder and propels It Forward however in the mental realm it's
[04:35:04] Forward however in the mental realm it's exactly the opposite the law of
[04:35:06] exactly the opposite the law of relaxation says that in all mental
[04:35:08] relaxation says that in all mental working effort defeats itself in all
[04:35:12] working effort defeats itself in all mental
[04:35:14] mental working effort defeats itself what does
[04:35:17] working effort defeats itself what does this mean it
[04:35:19] this mean it means that the harder you don't try the
[04:35:24] means that the harder you don't try the better it
[04:35:25] better it works now it's interesting I'll give you
[04:35:27] works now it's interesting I'll give you perfect example relationships you will
[04:35:29] perfect example relationships you will notice that in any relationship of yours
[04:35:31] notice that in any relationship of yours that works the harder you try to make a
[04:35:34] that works the harder you try to make a relationship work the more difficult it
[04:35:35] relationship work the more difficult it is because a relationship is basically a
[04:35:37] is because a relationship is basically a Meeting of Minds and and whenever you
[04:35:40] Meeting of Minds and and whenever you just relax and let the relationship flow
[04:35:43] just relax and let the relationship flow the relationship unfolds exactly the way
[04:35:45] the relationship unfolds exactly the way it should if ever you try to speed
[04:35:47] it should if ever you try to speed something up or slow it down out of its
[04:35:49] something up or slow it down out of its own time you create a crisis you create
[04:35:52] own time you create a crisis you create tension stress and anxiety so anything
[04:35:55] tension stress and anxiety so anything that has to do with mental working
[04:35:57] that has to do with mental working anything that has to do with minds and
[04:35:59] anything that has to do with minds and all interactions between people have to
[04:36:01] all interactions between people have to do with Minds anything that has to do
[04:36:03] do with Minds anything that has to do with goals and dreams and plans requires
[04:36:05] with goals and dreams and plans requires that you just relax and let it unfold
[04:36:08] that you just relax and let it unfold that's why we say close your eyes
[04:36:10] that's why we say close your eyes visualize imagine imagine the feeling
[04:36:12] visualize imagine imagine the feeling and just relax without making any effort
[04:36:15] and just relax without making any effort and the more relaxed you are the more
[04:36:17] and the more relaxed you are the more rapidly the idea is accepted by the
[04:36:18] rapidly the idea is accepted by the subconscious mind now the next technique
[04:36:21] subconscious mind now the next technique is what is called the quick affirmation
[04:36:22] is what is called the quick affirmation technique or quick programming
[04:36:25] technique or quick programming technique quick programming
[04:36:27] technique quick programming technique is used specifically before
[04:36:31] technique is used specifically before any non-recurring event of importance
[04:36:33] any non-recurring event of importance before any non-recurring that means an
[04:36:36] before any non-recurring that means an an event that happens only
[04:36:39] an event that happens only once for instance if you're going to be
[04:36:41] once for instance if you're going to be in a sports event or if you're going to
[04:36:44] in a sports event or if you're going to go into an interview for a job or a
[04:36:46] go into an interview for a job or a raise or if you're going to make a sales
[04:36:48] raise or if you're going to make a sales presentation by the way all top
[04:36:50] presentation by the way all top salespeople use this quick programming
[04:36:52] salespeople use this quick programming technique it's very very powerful what
[04:36:54] technique it's very very powerful what it does is it has a temporary effect but
[04:36:58] it does is it has a temporary effect but it sets you up psychologically
[04:36:59] it sets you up psychologically physically mentally it programs your
[04:37:01] physically mentally it programs your self-concept and your subconscious to
[04:37:04] self-concept and your subconscious to give you the words and actions and
[04:37:05] give you the words and actions and behaviors that are perfectly appropriate
[04:37:08] behaviors that are perfectly appropriate to the situation all athletes use this
[04:37:10] to the situation all athletes use this as we'll talk about in in a second now
[04:37:12] as we'll talk about in in a second now how do you use Quick programming
[04:37:13] how do you use Quick programming technique well let us say that you have
[04:37:15] technique well let us say that you have a talk coming up a good friend of mine
[04:37:16] a talk coming up a good friend of mine just gave a a very important talk to
[04:37:19] just gave a a very important talk to 2500 people and he was very tense and
[04:37:21] 2500 people and he was very tense and worried about I said look this all you
[04:37:22] worried about I said look this all you have to do is each time you think about
[04:37:24] have to do is each time you think about this talk that's coming up just close
[04:37:25] this talk that's coming up just close your eyes and use this technique and
[04:37:27] your eyes and use this technique and just think like this first of all
[04:37:32] just think like this first of all visualize the perfect
[04:37:35] visualize the perfect outcome visualize the perfect outcome in
[04:37:38] outcome visualize the perfect outcome in other words visualize if if you could
[04:37:40] other words visualize if if you could script what was coming up the interview
[04:37:43] script what was coming up the interview with your boss the sales presentation
[04:37:45] with your boss the sales presentation visualize the perfect outcome in other
[04:37:47] visualize the perfect outcome in other words the perfect outcome for a
[04:37:49] words the perfect outcome for a discussion about a raise would be the
[04:37:51] discussion about a raise would be the boss giving you the raise the perfect
[04:37:53] boss giving you the raise the perfect outcome of a sales conversation is the
[04:37:54] outcome of a sales conversation is the person signing the sales order the
[04:37:56] person signing the sales order the perfect outcome of a job application is
[04:37:58] perfect outcome of a job application is getting a job in this case my friend's
[04:38:00] getting a job in this case my friend's situation his perfect outcome was a
[04:38:02] situation his perfect outcome was a standing ovation so he visualized a
[04:38:04] standing ovation so he visualized a standing ovation that's what he
[04:38:05] standing ovation that's what he programmed into his mind he saw the
[04:38:07] programmed into his mind he saw the entire audience rising to their feet in
[04:38:09] entire audience rising to their feet in a standing ovation at the end of The
[04:38:11] a standing ovation at the end of The Talk
[04:38:11] Talk then
[04:38:13] then affirm the
[04:38:15] affirm the visualization in other
[04:38:18] visualization in other words it could be as simple as this talk
[04:38:22] words it could be as simple as this talk goes beautifully or this talk is
[04:38:24] goes beautifully or this talk is extremely successful or I feel
[04:38:26] extremely successful or I feel absolutely perfect going into this talk
[04:38:29] absolutely perfect going into this talk or this talk is a complete success in
[04:38:32] or this talk is a complete success in other words give an affirmation that is
[04:38:34] other words give an affirmation that is consistent with it and affirm the
[04:38:36] consistent with it and affirm the visualization and then emotionalize
[04:38:40] visualization and then emotionalize it or or imagine how you would feel if
[04:38:43] it or or imagine how you would feel if you experienced it and release and this
[04:38:46] you experienced it and release and this is the key word and then just release it
[04:38:50] is the key word and then just release it as though it had already happened just
[04:38:52] as though it had already happened just let it go as though it had already
[04:38:54] let it go as though it had already happened as though you were already past
[04:38:56] happened as though you were already past the event and the perfect outcome of the
[04:38:59] the event and the perfect outcome of the event has already occurred as you
[04:39:01] event has already occurred as you release it and let it go it drops like a
[04:39:04] release it and let it go it drops like a computer card into the computer and the
[04:39:06] computer card into the computer and the subconscious computer goes to work on it
[04:39:08] subconscious computer goes to work on it powerful powerful technique and this
[04:39:10] powerful powerful technique and this technique is based on what is called
[04:39:11] technique is based on what is called mental rehearsal now mental rehearsal is
[04:39:15] mental rehearsal now mental rehearsal is a technique that is used by all Peak
[04:39:18] a technique that is used by all Peak Performing men and women it's used by
[04:39:20] Performing men and women it's used by all self-made millionaires all
[04:39:22] all self-made millionaires all outstanding salespeople all top
[04:39:23] outstanding salespeople all top Executives all Olympic athletes all
[04:39:26] Executives all Olympic athletes all world champions and any field use Mental
[04:39:28] world champions and any field use Mental rehearsal and mental rehearsal is the
[04:39:31] rehearsal and mental rehearsal is the process of living the experience inside
[04:39:35] process of living the experience inside before you have it on the outside that
[04:39:38] before you have it on the outside that means before any event of importance
[04:39:40] means before any event of importance long sh term or short term what top
[04:39:43] long sh term or short term what top performers do is they
[04:39:46] performers do is they recall and relive Excellence they recall
[04:39:50] recall and relive Excellence they recall and relive excellence in other words
[04:39:54] and relive excellence in other words they think of the last time that they
[04:39:57] they think of the last time that they engaged in a performance like this and
[04:40:00] engaged in a performance like this and the satisfaction that they had the
[04:40:01] the satisfaction that they had the pleasure that they had the feeling of an
[04:40:03] pleasure that they had the feeling of an excellent performance and they take that
[04:40:06] excellent performance and they take that feeling it's almost like they have a
[04:40:07] feeling it's almost like they have a screen here and here's the screen you
[04:40:09] screen here and here's the screen you take a split screen and and on this side
[04:40:12] take a split screen and and on this side of the screen you recall the last time
[04:40:15] of the screen you recall the last time you did this in an excellent fashion and
[04:40:17] you did this in an excellent fashion and on this side of the screen you imagine
[04:40:19] on this side of the screen you imagine the upcoming event and then when you get
[04:40:21] the upcoming event and then when you get this perfectly clearly in your mind and
[04:40:25] this perfectly clearly in your mind and you can see it with perfect clarity that
[04:40:26] you can see it with perfect clarity that last Triumph that last success the last
[04:40:29] last Triumph that last success the last sale that you closed the last interview
[04:40:31] sale that you closed the last interview that went well the last successful party
[04:40:33] that went well the last successful party or meeting or social engagement then you
[04:40:35] or meeting or social engagement then you transfer this into the new situation
[04:40:39] transfer this into the new situation that's upcoming and you transfer the
[04:40:41] that's upcoming and you transfer the feeling and the experience and you
[04:40:43] feeling and the experience and you overlay the two so that as you
[04:40:46] overlay the two so that as you anticipate the upcoming experience you
[04:40:48] anticipate the upcoming experience you combine it with the feelings of success
[04:40:50] combine it with the feelings of success and pleasure and joy of the previous
[04:40:53] and pleasure and joy of the previous excellent experience what that does is
[04:40:55] excellent experience what that does is it programs the subconscious mind for
[04:40:57] it programs the subconscious mind for you to go into that experience and
[04:40:58] you to go into that experience and engage in the same words actions and
[04:41:00] engage in the same words actions and behaviors you that got you the results
[04:41:02] behaviors you that got you the results of success and winning the last time now
[04:41:05] of success and winning the last time now what is the difference between winners
[04:41:06] what is the difference between winners and losers major difference between
[04:41:07] and losers major difference between winners and losers can you imagine what
[04:41:10] winners and losers can you imagine what it is winners versus losers it's simply
[04:41:13] it is winners versus losers it's simply this is that we all engage in mental
[04:41:15] this is that we all engage in mental rehearsal you me everybody the
[04:41:17] rehearsal you me everybody the difference between winners and losers is
[04:41:18] difference between winners and losers is this is that prior to every event
[04:41:20] this is that prior to every event upcoming event losers think of the last
[04:41:23] upcoming event losers think of the last time they went into an experience like
[04:41:24] time they went into an experience like this and it didn't work out they think
[04:41:27] this and it didn't work out they think of their previous failures they vividly
[04:41:30] of their previous failures they vividly imagine and think about how embarrassed
[04:41:32] imagine and think about how embarrassed humiliated unsuccessful how badly they
[04:41:35] humiliated unsuccessful how badly they felt and the losers relive and recall
[04:41:38] felt and the losers relive and recall failure and poor performance the winner
[04:41:41] failure and poor performance the winner ERS insist upon reliving and recalling
[04:41:44] ERS insist upon reliving and recalling excellence and success so you can tell
[04:41:46] excellence and success so you can tell if you're destined to be a winner or a
[04:41:48] if you're destined to be a winner or a loser simply by looking at what you
[04:41:50] loser simply by looking at what you think about in each coming event and if
[04:41:52] think about in each coming event and if you just make the decision right now to
[04:41:54] you just make the decision right now to think about what you desire ask yourself
[04:41:57] think about what you desire ask yourself am I thinking about what I want to
[04:41:58] am I thinking about what I want to happen or am I thinking about what I'm
[04:42:00] happen or am I thinking about what I'm afraid will happen remember the natural
[04:42:02] afraid will happen remember the natural tendency is to think about what you're
[04:42:04] tendency is to think about what you're afraid of not what you desire so force
[04:42:07] afraid of not what you desire so force your mind using the law of substitution
[04:42:09] your mind using the law of substitution take your mind off of what to fear and
[04:42:12] take your mind off of what to fear and refuse to entertain it there's a
[04:42:14] refuse to entertain it there's a beautiful technique that I learned many
[04:42:15] beautiful technique that I learned many years ago whenever you start to think
[04:42:16] years ago whenever you start to think about something that's causing you to be
[04:42:18] about something that's causing you to be upset or anxious or or tense just say
[04:42:20] upset or anxious or or tense just say this word very very loud to yourself say
[04:42:25] this word very very loud to yourself say stop stop it's very much the same as
[04:42:28] stop stop it's very much the same as knocking the side of a record player and
[04:42:30] knocking the side of a record player and joking the needle off the record player
[04:42:32] joking the needle off the record player or slamming on a tape recorder or
[04:42:34] or slamming on a tape recorder or shouting at a person who's saying
[04:42:35] shouting at a person who's saying something just say stop and what it will
[04:42:37] something just say stop and what it will do is temporarily it will stop your mind
[04:42:40] do is temporarily it will stop your mind and as it stops mind then switch your
[04:42:42] and as it stops mind then switch your attention onto what you desire and
[04:42:45] attention onto what you desire and insist upon thinking about what you
[04:42:46] insist upon thinking about what you desire and every single time you find
[04:42:47] desire and every single time you find your thoughts drifting back to what
[04:42:49] your thoughts drifting back to what you're afraid of say stop and get your
[04:42:52] you're afraid of say stop and get your mind onto what you desire here's a very
[04:42:54] mind onto what you desire here's a very simple uh diagram or graph and it's like
[04:42:58] simple uh diagram or graph and it's like this this is what you desire this is
[04:43:01] this this is what you desire this is what you
[04:43:03] what you fear now here are you on this slope
[04:43:07] fear now here are you on this slope between what you desire and what you
[04:43:08] between what you desire and what you fear going up or going down this however
[04:43:11] fear going up or going down this however is easy the natural tendency of human
[04:43:14] is easy the natural tendency of human nature is to focus on what is negative
[04:43:17] nature is to focus on what is negative and to slide back into what they fear
[04:43:20] and to slide back into what they fear what is the worst possible outcome this
[04:43:24] what is the worst possible outcome this requires
[04:43:25] requires effort it requires a consistent effort
[04:43:28] effort it requires a consistent effort to keep your mind on what you want now
[04:43:30] to keep your mind on what you want now most people are lazy most people are
[04:43:32] most people are lazy most people are undisciplined most people are not
[04:43:33] undisciplined most people are not willing to make the effort so what they
[04:43:35] willing to make the effort so what they do is they have a tendency to slide into
[04:43:37] do is they have a tendency to slide into thinking about what is the worst thing
[04:43:40] thinking about what is the worst thing that can possibly happen they slide into
[04:43:43] that can possibly happen they slide into negativity that's why the great majority
[04:43:45] negativity that's why the great majority of people today are negative and very
[04:43:47] of people today are negative and very few people are positive so be alert to
[04:43:48] few people are positive so be alert to that is that whenever you find yourself
[04:43:51] that is that whenever you find yourself thinking about something that's coming
[04:43:52] thinking about something that's coming up in advance it's natural to be filled
[04:43:54] up in advance it's natural to be filled with doubt and fear are natural human
[04:43:57] with doubt and fear are natural human Tendencies for a variety of reasons that
[04:43:59] Tendencies for a variety of reasons that we talked about before but the superior
[04:44:01] we talked about before but the superior human being keeps their mind on what
[04:44:03] human being keeps their mind on what they want the superior human being stops
[04:44:05] they want the superior human being stops the negative thoughts the superior human
[04:44:07] the negative thoughts the superior human being concentrates on excellent
[04:44:09] being concentrates on excellent performance now somebody will say well
[04:44:11] performance now somebody will say well I've never done it before how can I
[04:44:12] I've never done it before how can I concentrate or how can I recall and
[04:44:14] concentrate or how can I recall and relive Excellence easy in your
[04:44:16] relive Excellence easy in your imagination you can pretend and imagine
[04:44:19] imagination you can pretend and imagine that you've done this before pretend
[04:44:21] that you've done this before pretend that you've already succeeded at this
[04:44:23] that you've already succeeded at this think about how you would act if you
[04:44:24] think about how you would act if you were a superb success in this area walk
[04:44:28] were a superb success in this area walk as though you were a success in neur
[04:44:30] as though you were a success in neur linguistic programming they find that
[04:44:32] linguistic programming they find that there is a physiological state or way of
[04:44:35] there is a physiological state or way of walking talking and acting that is
[04:44:37] walking talking and acting that is consistent with every emotional state
[04:44:39] consistent with every emotional state and that if you walk and talk and act
[04:44:40] and that if you walk and talk and act the same way you would if you felt
[04:44:41] the same way you would if you felt confident as we said earlier you'll
[04:44:43] confident as we said earlier you'll actually feel the feelings of confidence
[04:44:45] actually feel the feelings of confidence that go with the behavior very important
[04:44:47] that go with the behavior very important now here's another technique it's called
[04:44:50] now here's another technique it's called standard programming technique or
[04:44:52] standard programming technique or standard affirmation
[04:44:55] standard affirmation technique and this technique is
[04:44:58] technique and this technique is done with cards uh index cards and or
[04:45:02] done with cards uh index cards and or you can use a series of goals on a piece
[04:45:05] you can use a series of goals on a piece of paper very powerful technique what
[04:45:07] of paper very powerful technique what you do with this is that here's the
[04:45:09] you do with this is that here's the steps to standard affirm techniques you
[04:45:11] steps to standard affirm techniques you set your goals you can set 10 to 15
[04:45:13] set your goals you can set 10 to 15 goals your subconscious mind can work to
[04:45:16] goals your subconscious mind can work to 10 on 10 to 15 goals at a time of course
[04:45:19] 10 on 10 to 15 goals at a time of course you have to have your goals in priority
[04:45:20] you have to have your goals in priority but you don't have to worry about that
[04:45:21] but you don't have to worry about that about 10 to 15 goals number two is you
[04:45:24] about 10 to 15 goals number two is you take twice daily morning and evening
[04:45:26] take twice daily morning and evening twice daily morning and
[04:45:29] twice daily morning and evening you take some time off where
[04:45:32] evening you take some time off where number three you can be with no
[04:45:38] interruptions and then you write out
[04:45:39] interruptions and then you write out your goals again in the form form of
[04:45:41] your goals again in the form form of positive present tense personal
[04:45:43] positive present tense personal affirmations okay goals
[04:45:47] affirmations okay goals as positive present tense personal
[04:45:50] as positive present tense personal affirmations on
[04:45:52] affirmations on cards now many people advise that you
[04:45:55] cards now many people advise that you use index cards so that you can slide
[04:45:57] use index cards so that you can slide the cards back and forth like this um
[04:45:59] the cards back and forth like this um and just put one on top of the other and
[04:46:01] and just put one on top of the other and write your goal in very very large clear
[04:46:04] write your goal in very very large clear letters so that the subconscious mind
[04:46:06] letters so that the subconscious mind can see the goal with Crystal Clarity
[04:46:08] can see the goal with Crystal Clarity and then you sit down with the goals and
[04:46:11] and then you sit down with the goals and you read the goal to yourself you read
[04:46:13] you read the goal to yourself you read the goal or the affirmation to yourself
[04:46:16] the goal or the affirmation to yourself read
[04:46:19] read repeat and then close your
[04:46:22] repeat and then close your eyes so let us say the goal is I earn
[04:46:25] eyes so let us say the goal is I earn $50,000 a year so we say on the card I
[04:46:27] $50,000 a year so we say on the card I earn $50,000 I earn $50,000 a year you
[04:46:30] earn $50,000 I earn $50,000 a year you read it you repeat it I earn $50,000 and
[04:46:33] read it you repeat it I earn $50,000 and you close your eyes and repeat it three
[04:46:35] you close your eyes and repeat it three to five times repeat the goal the goal
[04:46:38] to five times repeat the goal the goal three to five times and the number six
[04:46:40] three to five times and the number six step number six is
[04:46:43] step number six is visualize the outcome in other words if
[04:46:46] visualize the outcome in other words if you earn $50,000 a year what would be
[04:46:49] you earn $50,000 a year what would be the outcome would it be a bigger car
[04:46:51] the outcome would it be a bigger car would it be a bigger house would it be a
[04:46:54] would it be a bigger house would it be a um uh a trip to Tahiti would it be a
[04:46:56] um uh a trip to Tahiti would it be a different wardrobe would it be a Rolex
[04:46:58] different wardrobe would it be a Rolex watch in other words visualize the
[04:46:59] watch in other words visualize the outcome not the process so much as what
[04:47:03] outcome not the process so much as what the result would be or another thing
[04:47:05] the result would be or another thing that you can do by the way is you can
[04:47:06] that you can do by the way is you can visualize the work let us say that you
[04:47:09] visualize the work let us say that you are going to earn $50,000 and you
[04:47:11] are going to earn $50,000 and you imagine you will earn it in your
[04:47:12] imagine you will earn it in your existing profession then visualize
[04:47:14] existing profession then visualize yourself doing the work in such an
[04:47:16] yourself doing the work in such an excellent fashion that will it will
[04:47:18] excellent fashion that will it will actually generate the income and then
[04:47:20] actually generate the income and then step number seven is imagine the feeling
[04:47:24] step number seven is imagine the feeling imagine the feeling that would accompany
[04:47:26] imagine the feeling that would accompany the accomplishment of your goal imagine
[04:47:29] the accomplishment of your goal imagine the feeling close your eyes and as you
[04:47:33] the feeling close your eyes and as you sit there with your cards looking at
[04:47:35] sit there with your cards looking at your cards imagine the feeling of
[04:47:37] your cards imagine the feeling of satisfaction as though the goal is
[04:47:39] satisfaction as though the goal is already accomplished imagine imagine the
[04:47:41] already accomplished imagine imagine the feeling of pleasure imagine the feeling
[04:47:43] feeling of pleasure imagine the feeling of accomplishment let us say that what
[04:47:44] of accomplishment let us say that what you're going to do is you're going to
[04:47:46] you're going to do is you're going to give yourself a trip to Tahiti you're
[04:47:48] give yourself a trip to Tahiti you're going to go to the South Seas you're
[04:47:50] going to go to the South Seas you're going to lay on the beach you're going
[04:47:52] going to lay on the beach you're going to swim in the beautiful surf you're
[04:47:54] to swim in the beautiful surf you're going to soak up the sun and get this
[04:47:56] going to soak up the sun and get this beautiful tan then start thinking about
[04:47:58] beautiful tan then start thinking about that another thing that you can do by
[04:48:00] that another thing that you can do by the way is get brochures on Tahiti get a
[04:48:03] the way is get brochures on Tahiti get a poster of tahti get a poster of a cruise
[04:48:06] poster of tahti get a poster of a cruise ship get pictures of the things that
[04:48:08] ship get pictures of the things that you're going to do and have and enjoy
[04:48:10] you're going to do and have and enjoy that you associate because the more
[04:48:12] that you associate because the more emotions you can associate with the
[04:48:15] emotions you can associate with the accomplishment of the goal the more
[04:48:16] accomplishment of the goal the more rapidly the subconscious accepts it as
[04:48:18] rapidly the subconscious accepts it as an instruction and the more rapidly you
[04:48:20] an instruction and the more rapidly you go to work on it now here's what I use
[04:48:23] go to work on it now here's what I use by the way here's what you can use you
[04:48:24] by the way here's what you can use you can use cards like this which are just
[04:48:26] can use cards like this which are just index cards these ones don't have any
[04:48:28] index cards these ones don't have any lines but you can use cards with lines
[04:48:30] lines but you can use cards with lines and you just sit there and you just
[04:48:32] and you just sit there and you just write out your goal and as you read the
[04:48:34] write out your goal and as you read the goal repeat it three to five times
[04:48:36] goal repeat it three to five times imagine it visualize it see yourself
[04:48:38] imagine it visualize it see yourself doing whatever is necessary visualize
[04:48:40] doing whatever is necessary visualize the outcome and then just change the
[04:48:42] the outcome and then just change the card and go on to the next one the more
[04:48:44] card and go on to the next one the more relaxed you are when you do this
[04:48:46] relaxed you are when you do this exercise because of the law of
[04:48:48] exercise because of the law of relaxation the most more rapidly the
[04:48:49] relaxation the most more rapidly the subconscious accepts it here's something
[04:48:51] subconscious accepts it here's something else that you might want to get it's one
[04:48:53] else that you might want to get it's one of these spiral cards with index cards
[04:48:56] of these spiral cards with index cards throughout it that you can write a
[04:48:58] throughout it that you can write a variety of different affirmations on
[04:49:00] variety of different affirmations on carry it around with you and just flip
[04:49:01] carry it around with you and just flip it write affirmations down whenever you
[04:49:03] it write affirmations down whenever you think of something that you want write
[04:49:04] think of something that you want write it down and then just take some time
[04:49:05] it down and then just take some time every so often to review your
[04:49:07] every so often to review your affirmations now one file technique is
[04:49:10] affirmations now one file technique is what is called Sports Programming
[04:49:11] what is called Sports Programming technique which combines all the others
[04:49:13] technique which combines all the others it's used by all top Olympic athletes it
[04:49:15] it's used by all top Olympic athletes it combines mental rehearsal and relaxation
[04:49:18] combines mental rehearsal and relaxation it's based on what is called autogenic
[04:49:20] it's based on what is called autogenic conditioning which means that if you
[04:49:21] conditioning which means that if you want to become better at a sport the
[04:49:23] want to become better at a sport the technique is very simple first of all
[04:49:26] technique is very simple first of all get some instruction in the sport learn
[04:49:28] get some instruction in the sport learn from an expert study and learn what
[04:49:31] from an expert study and learn what excellent performance in the sport
[04:49:32] excellent performance in the sport constitutes second of all before you go
[04:49:35] constitutes second of all before you go to sleep or sitting in a very relaxed
[04:49:37] to sleep or sitting in a very relaxed position take several deep deep breaths
[04:49:40] position take several deep deep breaths and relax your body and then visualize
[04:49:43] and relax your body and then visualize perfect Sports Performance say you want
[04:49:45] perfect Sports Performance say you want to be a better skier very simple what
[04:49:48] to be a better skier very simple what you do is you learn how to ski you look
[04:49:50] you do is you learn how to ski you look at films and pictures of people skiing
[04:49:53] at films and pictures of people skiing excellently and then you visualize
[04:49:55] excellently and then you visualize yourself actually being the skier you
[04:49:57] yourself actually being the skier you close your eyes and you do two types of
[04:50:00] close your eyes and you do two types of visualization the first type of
[04:50:02] visualization the first type of visualization is where you look at
[04:50:03] visualization is where you look at yourself actually skiing you look at
[04:50:06] yourself actually skiing you look at yourself and you look at your
[04:50:07] yourself and you look at your performance look at yourself going down
[04:50:09] performance look at yourself going down the slope look at yourself turning
[04:50:10] the slope look at yourself turning putting in the poles twisting and so on
[04:50:13] putting in the poles twisting and so on you look at yourself skiing beautifully
[04:50:15] you look at yourself skiing beautifully and watch yourself going almost as
[04:50:17] and watch yourself going almost as though you were a spectator the second
[04:50:20] though you were a spectator the second part of the visualization is you then
[04:50:22] part of the visualization is you then shift your point of attention and you
[04:50:25] shift your point of attention and you look at yourself from your own eyes and
[04:50:28] look at yourself from your own eyes and actually see yourself going down the
[04:50:30] actually see yourself going down the slope Sports affirmation technique is
[04:50:33] slope Sports affirmation technique is used by all the major football teams the
[04:50:36] used by all the major football teams the basketball teams the major figure
[04:50:38] basketball teams the major figure skaters the top golfers virtually all
[04:50:40] skaters the top golfers virtually all Olympic athletes train in their minds
[04:50:43] Olympic athletes train in their minds over and over again for instance skaters
[04:50:47] over and over again for instance skaters will sit down close their eyes put on
[04:50:49] will sit down close their eyes put on their music and then they will go
[04:50:51] their music and then they will go through their entire skating routine in
[04:50:53] through their entire skating routine in their minds while their music is playing
[04:50:56] their minds while their music is playing what happens is of course that in your
[04:50:57] what happens is of course that in your mind you never fall so they program
[04:51:00] mind you never fall so they program their minds over and over again and this
[04:51:03] their minds over and over again and this is based on a very simple fact is that
[04:51:04] is based on a very simple fact is that every time we visualize in action we
[04:51:06] every time we visualize in action we actually send measurable impulses of
[04:51:08] actually send measurable impulses of nerve energy to the legs arms muscles
[04:51:10] nerve energy to the legs arms muscles and nerves
[04:51:11] and nerves that would control the muscles that we
[04:51:13] that would control the muscles that we would use if we actually engaged in that
[04:51:15] would use if we actually engaged in that action if you want to be a better golfer
[04:51:17] action if you want to be a better golfer better skier better tennis player better
[04:51:18] better skier better tennis player better baseball player swimmer better public
[04:51:20] baseball player swimmer better public speaker better anything you can use
[04:51:23] speaker better anything you can use Sports affirmation technique to bring
[04:51:24] Sports affirmation technique to bring about rapid programming changes the key
[04:51:27] about rapid programming changes the key is this repetition visualization
[04:51:31] is this repetition visualization relaxation and Clarity of your goals
[04:51:33] relaxation and Clarity of your goals over and over again until they are
[04:51:36] over and over again until they are accepted by the subconscious mind as
[04:51:38] accepted by the subconscious mind as facts until they begin to become true
[04:51:41] facts until they begin to become true in your reality and if you stick with it
[04:51:43] in your reality and if you stick with it it will work for
[04:51:55] you session 13 rapid learning techniques
[04:51:59] you session 13 rapid learning techniques at the beginning of this seminar we
[04:52:00] at the beginning of this seminar we talked about human potential and about
[04:52:02] talked about human potential and about how the average person uses less than
[04:52:03] how the average person uses less than 10% of their potential how Albert
[04:52:06] 10% of their potential how Albert Einstein's brain was removed from his
[04:52:08] Einstein's brain was removed from his Cranium when he died and it was studied
[04:52:10] Cranium when he died and it was studied at Cornell University and they found
[04:52:11] at Cornell University and they found that he never used more than 15% of his
[04:52:14] that he never used more than 15% of his mental potential in his entire lifetime
[04:52:16] mental potential in his entire lifetime one of the great Geniuses of this
[04:52:17] one of the great Geniuses of this Century what does this mean mental
[04:52:19] Century what does this mean mental potential well it means the ability to
[04:52:21] potential well it means the ability to use our thinking capacity it means the
[04:52:24] use our thinking capacity it means the ability to activate the brain cells in
[04:52:27] ability to activate the brain cells in what is called the neocortex or the
[04:52:29] what is called the neocortex or the thinking brain of mankind and one of the
[04:52:32] thinking brain of mankind and one of the things we're going to talk about in this
[04:52:34] things we're going to talk about in this session is how you can use your brain
[04:52:36] session is how you can use your brain more effectively and some of the things
[04:52:37] more effectively and some of the things that have been done to help people
[04:52:39] that have been done to help people develop and learn rapid learning
[04:52:42] develop and learn rapid learning techniques or what we call whole brain
[04:52:43] techniques or what we call whole brain learning accelerated learning or even
[04:52:46] learning accelerated learning or even super learning one of the things that we
[04:52:47] super learning one of the things that we know is that the average person really
[04:52:50] know is that the average person really uses not much more than 1 or 2% of their
[04:52:52] uses not much more than 1 or 2% of their thinking capacity that we don't use 10%
[04:52:55] thinking capacity that we don't use 10% because if you could use 10% of your
[04:52:57] because if you could use 10% of your brain you could accomplish anything you
[04:52:58] brain you could accomplish anything you could Dream Of on this Earth our role in
[04:53:01] could Dream Of on this Earth our role in this session is to show you how to use
[04:53:03] this session is to show you how to use more of it we know some things about the
[04:53:05] more of it we know some things about the brain we know one thing with regard to
[04:53:08] brain we know one thing with regard to intelligence is that intelligence is not
[04:53:10] intelligence is that intelligence is not a matter of IQ intelligence is a way of
[04:53:13] a matter of IQ intelligence is a way of acting and a way of thinking when we
[04:53:15] acting and a way of thinking when we look at people who are apparently
[04:53:17] look at people who are apparently extremely intelligent we find one thing
[04:53:19] extremely intelligent we find one thing we find that they are not much more
[04:53:21] we find that they are not much more intelligent than you or I but they have
[04:53:23] intelligent than you or I but they have developed their intelligence so let's
[04:53:25] developed their intelligence so let's put it this way intelligence is
[04:53:28] put it this way intelligence is developed through effort intelligence is
[04:53:31] developed through effort intelligence is developed the same way that muscles are
[04:53:33] developed the same way that muscles are developed a person who has an
[04:53:36] developed a person who has an intelligence with regard to a business
[04:53:38] intelligence with regard to a business or a profession a lawyer or a doctor or
[04:53:40] or a profession a lawyer or a doctor or a business bus person does not
[04:53:42] a business bus person does not necessarily is not necessarily A person
[04:53:43] necessarily is not necessarily A person who was born with that genius it's a
[04:53:45] who was born with that genius it's a person who has developed it as a result
[04:53:47] person who has developed it as a result of years and years of study and practice
[04:53:50] of years and years of study and practice so look upon intelligence like a muscle
[04:53:52] so look upon intelligence like a muscle IQ is malleable IQ or percentage points
[04:53:56] IQ is malleable IQ or percentage points or mental ability is malleable over a
[04:53:59] or mental ability is malleable over a broad range remember we talked about the
[04:54:01] broad range remember we talked about the case of positive expectations where one
[04:54:04] case of positive expectations where one student's IQ jumped 25 points in the
[04:54:08] student's IQ jumped 25 points in the course of one school year this is very
[04:54:10] course of one school year this is very we've had many cases on record where IQ
[04:54:12] we've had many cases on record where IQ points in other words the total thinking
[04:54:15] points in other words the total thinking ability of an individual has jumped 10
[04:54:16] ability of an individual has jumped 10 20 30 points as a result of a particular
[04:54:19] 20 30 points as a result of a particular way of learning or a particular way of
[04:54:21] way of learning or a particular way of studying and we'll talk about some of
[04:54:22] studying and we'll talk about some of these ideas so IQ is malleable over a
[04:54:25] these ideas so IQ is malleable over a broad range what I'm saying is that you
[04:54:27] broad range what I'm saying is that you are far smarter than you know you are
[04:54:29] are far smarter than you know you are far more intelligent than you've ever
[04:54:31] far more intelligent than you've ever given yourself credit for we also know
[04:54:33] given yourself credit for we also know that IQ is a matter of
[04:54:36] that IQ is a matter of self-concept there are many people who
[04:54:38] self-concept there are many people who have been found to be extremely
[04:54:41] have been found to be extremely intelligent but because they've been
[04:54:43] intelligent but because they've been brought up in negative environments had
[04:54:45] brought up in negative environments had been convinced at an early age that they
[04:54:47] been convinced at an early age that they weren't particularly bright one
[04:54:49] weren't particularly bright one gentleman who was encouraged to leave
[04:54:51] gentleman who was encouraged to leave school in the 10th grade because they
[04:54:52] school in the 10th grade because they felt he was a complete academic failure
[04:54:55] felt he was a complete academic failure was turned out later to have an IQ of
[04:54:58] was turned out later to have an IQ of 175 when he tried to enlist in the Army
[04:55:01] 175 when he tried to enlist in the Army after he got out of the army he started
[04:55:02] after he got out of the army he started six businesses and became a
[04:55:03] six businesses and became a multi-millionaire by the age of 28
[04:55:06] multi-millionaire by the age of 28 because they proved to him that he was
[04:55:07] because they proved to him that he was brilliant the reason he didn't pay
[04:55:09] brilliant the reason he didn't pay attention in school was not because he
[04:55:11] attention in school was not because he didn't have the intelligence but because
[04:55:13] didn't have the intelligence but because he learned everything the first time it
[04:55:14] he learned everything the first time it was mentioned and he was totally bored
[04:55:17] was mentioned and he was totally bored you find that many people are far
[04:55:20] you find that many people are far smarter than they realize because but as
[04:55:22] smarter than they realize because but as a result of previous experiences their
[04:55:24] a result of previous experiences their self-concept has them functioning at
[04:55:26] self-concept has them functioning at levels far below their intelligence and
[04:55:28] levels far below their intelligence and that is true for you in almost every
[04:55:30] that is true for you in almost every single case now another important point
[04:55:33] single case now another important point is learning ability is malleable
[04:55:36] is learning ability is malleable learning ability is
[04:55:38] learning ability is malleable what does that mean more
[04:55:40] malleable what does that mean more malleable means it can be shaped it can
[04:55:42] malleable means it can be shaped it can be bent it's like a metal that can be
[04:55:44] be bent it's like a metal that can be bent and pounded learning ability is
[04:55:47] bent and pounded learning ability is malleable in that you can learn to learn
[04:55:51] malleable in that you can learn to learn wonderful thing is human beings are
[04:55:53] wonderful thing is human beings are learning creatures you can learn to
[04:55:55] learning creatures you can learn to learn whatever you want and the more you
[04:55:58] learn whatever you want and the more you learn the more we have found the greater
[04:55:59] learn the more we have found the greater capacity you have to learn is that
[04:56:01] capacity you have to learn is that learning ability is like a muscle the
[04:56:03] learning ability is like a muscle the more you stretch it the more you use it
[04:56:05] more you stretch it the more you use it the greater its capacity becomes that
[04:56:07] the greater its capacity becomes that the more you learn math the more capable
[04:56:09] the more you learn math the more capable you are of learning history the more you
[04:56:11] you are of learning history the more you study philosophy the more capable you
[04:56:12] study philosophy the more capable you are of learning psychology that your
[04:56:14] are of learning psychology that your capacity to learn expands as you learn
[04:56:17] capacity to learn expands as you learn any subject now there's another
[04:56:19] any subject now there's another important Point too with regard to
[04:56:20] important Point too with regard to learning is that if you want to earn
[04:56:22] learning is that if you want to earn more you have to learn more if you want
[04:56:25] more you have to learn more if you want to earn more you have to learn more this
[04:56:27] to earn more you have to learn more this is one of the most important simple trit
[04:56:30] is one of the most important simple trit little Expressions that you'll ever hear
[04:56:32] little Expressions that you'll ever hear is that we live in a knowledge-based
[04:56:33] is that we live in a knowledge-based world and your external world of
[04:56:35] world and your external world of earnings will be a direct reflection of
[04:56:38] earnings will be a direct reflection of the amount of useful knowledge that you
[04:56:39] the amount of useful knowledge that you take in so if you're like me you're
[04:56:42] take in so if you're like me you're probably impatient and you probably
[04:56:43] probably impatient and you probably would like to know how to learn more
[04:56:45] would like to know how to learn more faster so that you can earn more faster
[04:56:47] faster so that you can earn more faster and that's what we're going to talk
[04:56:48] and that's what we're going to talk about our third Point by the way is is a
[04:56:51] about our third Point by the way is is a direct relationship between longevity
[04:56:53] direct relationship between longevity and
[04:56:54] and learning is that we find that the more
[04:56:57] learning is that we find that the more active your mind is the longer you live
[04:57:01] active your mind is the longer you live that there whenever you see cases of
[04:57:03] that there whenever you see cases of people beginning to develop senility in
[04:57:05] people beginning to develop senility in their early 60s you see an example of a
[04:57:08] their early 60s you see an example of a person who stopped reading a long time
[04:57:10] person who stopped reading a long time time ago and started watching a lot of
[04:57:12] time ago and started watching a lot of Television senior citizens in America
[04:57:14] Television senior citizens in America watch an average of 7 hours of
[04:57:16] watch an average of 7 hours of Television per day and what it does is
[04:57:19] Television per day and what it does is it makes their mind very very passive
[04:57:21] it makes their mind very very passive their brain begins to atrophy their
[04:57:23] their brain begins to atrophy their reflexes their intelligence their
[04:57:26] reflexes their intelligence their ability to respond and to be alert to
[04:57:27] ability to respond and to be alert to their environment begins to deteriorate
[04:57:29] their environment begins to deteriorate the longer you learn the longer you
[04:57:31] the longer you learn the longer you study the more active you keep mentally
[04:57:33] study the more active you keep mentally the more energy you have the more
[04:57:36] the more energy you have the more Vitality the healthier you are in fact
[04:57:39] Vitality the healthier you are in fact if you look at the lives of the great
[04:57:41] if you look at the lives of the great creative men and women like Guta began
[04:57:43] creative men and women like Guta began the composition of the second part of fa
[04:57:46] the composition of the second part of fa when he was 85 Grandma Moses started
[04:57:48] when he was 85 Grandma Moses started painting at the age of 75 and was still
[04:57:50] painting at the age of 75 and was still painting at the age of 100 Albert
[04:57:52] painting at the age of 100 Albert schwitzer whom I worked with in Africa
[04:57:54] schwitzer whom I worked with in Africa was still working a full day at the age
[04:57:56] was still working a full day at the age of 91 when most of the people if not all
[04:57:58] of 91 when most of the people if not all the people he had grown up with had been
[04:58:00] the people he had grown up with had been in their graves for decades so there's a
[04:58:03] in their graves for decades so there's a there if if for no other reason then the
[04:58:05] there if if for no other reason then the fact that you want to live forever is
[04:58:07] fact that you want to live forever is you must become an active intelligent
[04:58:09] you must become an active intelligent learner you must develop the capacity to
[04:58:11] learner you must develop the capacity to learn you must learn how to learn now a
[04:58:13] learn you must learn how to learn now a few years ago back in the 50s in
[04:58:15] few years ago back in the 50s in Bulgaria a man named giorgi lenov began
[04:58:19] Bulgaria a man named giorgi lenov began some experiments that have had a
[04:58:22] some experiments that have had a tremendous Laz lenov had have had a
[04:58:25] tremendous Laz lenov had have had a tremendous influence on our thinking in
[04:58:28] tremendous influence on our thinking in the Western World in the last couple of
[04:58:30] the Western World in the last couple of decades uh a tremendous book has been
[04:58:32] decades uh a tremendous book has been written on his work called super
[04:58:34] written on his work called super learning talking about the results of
[04:58:36] learning talking about the results of his experiments and lozanov began
[04:58:38] his experiments and lozanov began studying the fact that information was
[04:58:40] studying the fact that information was exploding at such a rate that nobody
[04:58:42] exploding at such a rate that nobody could keep current on their field
[04:58:44] could keep current on their field anymore that no matter what field you
[04:58:46] anymore that no matter what field you were in tens hundreds even thousands of
[04:58:48] were in tens hundreds even thousands of Articles were being written every year
[04:58:50] Articles were being written every year that nobody could absorb the information
[04:58:51] that nobody could absorb the information so he became preoccupied with the need
[04:58:55] so he became preoccupied with the need to create a way for people to learn more
[04:58:58] to create a way for people to learn more rapidly he called his system accelerated
[04:59:00] rapidly he called his system accelerated learning we call it rapid learning some
[04:59:03] learning we call it rapid learning some people call it super learning it means
[04:59:05] people call it super learning it means the same thing it means how can you take
[04:59:07] the same thing it means how can you take in more information at a faster rate and
[04:59:10] in more information at a faster rate and what lzo found was this he began as a
[04:59:13] what lzo found was this he began as a pioneer of whole brain research he found
[04:59:16] pioneer of whole brain research he found that there are really two hemispheres of
[04:59:18] that there are really two hemispheres of the brain and the two hemispheres of the
[04:59:20] the brain and the two hemispheres of the brain perform different functions and
[04:59:22] brain perform different functions and that people who learn the very best are
[04:59:24] that people who learn the very best are capable of harmonizing and using both
[04:59:26] capable of harmonizing and using both hemispheres of the brain if the left
[04:59:29] hemispheres of the brain if the left hemisphere is responsible for certain
[04:59:31] hemisphere is responsible for certain functions the right is responsible for
[04:59:33] functions the right is responsible for certain functions he also found that
[04:59:35] certain functions he also found that there's a massive tissue that divides
[04:59:37] there's a massive tissue that divides the brains called the corus colossum and
[04:59:39] the brains called the corus colossum and that children children up to the age of
[04:59:41] that children children up to the age of 5 or six learn at about 25 times the
[04:59:45] 5 or six learn at about 25 times the adult rate and his thoughts were would
[04:59:47] adult rate and his thoughts were would it be possible to recreate the
[04:59:49] it be possible to recreate the conditions that exist in early childhood
[04:59:52] conditions that exist in early childhood that enable children to learn at a
[04:59:53] that enable children to learn at a fantastic rate of speed in adult life
[04:59:57] fantastic rate of speed in adult life and so he found that in looking at the
[04:59:58] and so he found that in looking at the functions of the brains he found that
[05:00:00] functions of the brains he found that the left hemisphere and the right
[05:00:01] the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere were responsible for very
[05:00:03] hemisphere were responsible for very different ways of thinking let me give
[05:00:05] different ways of thinking let me give you some examples for instance the left
[05:00:06] you some examples for instance the left hemisphere is verbal it thinks in terms
[05:00:09] hemisphere is verbal it thinks in terms of words the right pict the the the
[05:00:11] of words the right pict the the the right hemisphere is pictorial or
[05:00:13] right hemisphere is pictorial or artistic it thinks in terms of pictures
[05:00:16] artistic it thinks in terms of pictures the left hemisphere is um
[05:00:21] the left hemisphere is um analytical whereas the right hemisphere
[05:00:23] analytical whereas the right hemisphere is holistic it sees all the facts and
[05:00:27] is holistic it sees all the facts and information it it sees the big picture
[05:00:29] information it it sees the big picture if you like the left hemisphere is
[05:00:31] if you like the left hemisphere is pragmatic it's very matter of factual
[05:00:34] pragmatic it's very matter of factual the right hemisphere is
[05:00:36] the right hemisphere is intuitive and is the seat of intuition
[05:00:39] intuitive and is the seat of intuition and feelings uh the left hemisphere is
[05:00:41] and feelings uh the left hemisphere is concrete it likes to see things that it
[05:00:43] concrete it likes to see things that it can count touch taste and feel the left
[05:00:46] can count touch taste and feel the left the I'm sorry the left hemisphere the
[05:00:47] the I'm sorry the left hemisphere the right hemisphere is
[05:00:49] right hemisphere is abstract is it's responsible for
[05:00:51] abstract is it's responsible for abstract Concepts scientific Concepts
[05:00:53] abstract Concepts scientific Concepts artistic or philosophic concepts the
[05:00:56] artistic or philosophic concepts the left hemisphere is
[05:00:58] left hemisphere is linear in that it sees things in an
[05:01:01] linear in that it sees things in an orderly row and it is also
[05:01:04] orderly row and it is also sequential and likes to take things one
[05:01:07] sequential and likes to take things one thing at a time the right hemisphere on
[05:01:09] thing at a time the right hemisphere on the the other hand is
[05:01:11] the the other hand is musical and
[05:01:14] musical and artistic if you like and uh spontaneous
[05:01:18] artistic if you like and uh spontaneous and is responsible for humor the left
[05:01:21] and is responsible for humor the left hemisphere is responsible for
[05:01:23] hemisphere is responsible for language the stringing together of words
[05:01:26] language the stringing together of words in logical order to make sentences it's
[05:01:28] in logical order to make sentences it's also responsible for
[05:01:30] also responsible for math the right hemisphere is responsible
[05:01:33] math the right hemisphere is responsible for
[05:01:34] for dance and for
[05:01:37] dance and for poetry and these two hemispheres in
[05:01:39] poetry and these two hemispheres in order to work properly have to be
[05:01:41] order to work properly have to be harmonized but they have very very
[05:01:43] harmonized but they have very very different functions and when as lozanov
[05:01:45] different functions and when as lozanov did his research he found another thing
[05:01:48] did his research he found another thing is that when he studied the way that
[05:01:49] is that when he studied the way that people learned he found that people
[05:01:51] people learned he found that people learned at different levels of brain
[05:01:53] learned at different levels of brain wave activities and a as a result of
[05:01:56] wave activities and a as a result of different things for instance he found
[05:01:57] different things for instance he found that the brain functions at four
[05:01:59] that the brain functions at four different levels and the first level is
[05:02:01] different levels and the first level is what is called the beta level the beta
[05:02:04] what is called the beta level the beta level is 14 Waves per second or above
[05:02:07] level is 14 Waves per second or above the beta level is normal waking this is
[05:02:09] the beta level is normal waking this is is where you and I are whenever our mind
[05:02:11] is where you and I are whenever our mind is very active very intense our brain
[05:02:14] is very active very intense our brain wave activity or what is called Cycles
[05:02:16] wave activity or what is called Cycles our brain wave activity is very frantic
[05:02:18] our brain wave activity is very frantic this is where most of us spend most of
[05:02:20] this is where most of us spend most of our time it's also the time where we
[05:02:23] our time it's also the time where we learn the least efficiently he said he
[05:02:26] learn the least efficiently he said he found that below beta was the alpha
[05:02:29] found that below beta was the alpha level the alpha level was 8 to 13 waves
[05:02:32] level the alpha level was 8 to 13 waves or cycles per second and this was a more
[05:02:36] or cycles per second and this was a more if you like modulated wave level and he
[05:02:38] if you like modulated wave level and he found that we have a tendency to learn
[05:02:40] found that we have a tendency to learn in this stage this is the uh deep
[05:02:42] in this stage this is the uh deep relaxation stage this is the stage that
[05:02:44] relaxation stage this is the stage that we're in when we're sitting deeply
[05:02:46] we're in when we're sitting deeply relaxed when we're daydreaming if you
[05:02:47] relaxed when we're daydreaming if you like or prior to going to sleep we drop
[05:02:50] like or prior to going to sleep we drop into this level just below the alpha
[05:02:52] into this level just below the alpha level is what is called the Theta level
[05:02:54] level is what is called the Theta level the Theta level is five to seven waves
[05:02:56] the Theta level is five to seven waves per second the Theta level has again
[05:02:59] per second the Theta level has again bigger waves and this Theta level is
[05:03:01] bigger waves and this Theta level is where we just are ready starting to drop
[05:03:04] where we just are ready starting to drop into dreaming it's called the uh the
[05:03:06] into dreaming it's called the uh the hallucinatory or illusionary area where
[05:03:10] hallucinatory or illusionary area where we're starting to have dreams just
[05:03:12] we're starting to have dreams just before we fall asleep have you ever had
[05:03:13] before we fall asleep have you ever had the experience of being woken up just as
[05:03:15] the experience of being woken up just as you're falling asleep and being jerked
[05:03:17] you're falling asleep and being jerked out suddenly from this Theta level you
[05:03:19] out suddenly from this Theta level you weren't into Delta you weren't sound
[05:03:21] weren't into Delta you weren't sound asleep and you notice how jarring it is
[05:03:23] asleep and you notice how jarring it is but what Lozan found was the alpha Theta
[05:03:26] but what Lozan found was the alpha Theta level this level in here is where we do
[05:03:28] level this level in here is where we do our best learning and that when we are
[05:03:31] our best learning and that when we are learning at this at this level our
[05:03:34] learning at this at this level our ability to learn is dramatically
[05:03:35] ability to learn is dramatically increased and just below Theta is Delta
[05:03:38] increased and just below Theta is Delta and Delta is 1/2 four Waves per second
[05:03:42] and Delta is 1/2 four Waves per second and these are long waves if you like now
[05:03:45] and these are long waves if you like now of course below half a wave per second
[05:03:47] of course below half a wave per second you are no longer working as a matter of
[05:03:49] you are no longer working as a matter of fact the cessation of brain wave
[05:03:50] fact the cessation of brain wave activity on electroencephalogram is one
[05:03:52] activity on electroencephalogram is one of the clinical definitions of death now
[05:03:55] of the clinical definitions of death now what was La of tried to do was he said
[05:03:57] what was La of tried to do was he said would it be possible to bring people
[05:04:00] would it be possible to bring people down from beta where they're awake into
[05:04:03] down from beta where they're awake into this Alpha Theta level and somehow
[05:04:06] this Alpha Theta level and somehow activate the right and the left brains
[05:04:08] activate the right and the left brains so that they work s simultaneously and
[05:04:10] so that they work s simultaneously and he came up with a method using music
[05:04:13] he came up with a method using music using music and
[05:04:17] relaxation and he began his experiments
[05:04:20] relaxation and he began his experiments back in
[05:04:22] back in 1965 66 in Bulgaria one of the most
[05:04:25] 1965 66 in Bulgaria one of the most interesting experiments he started off
[05:04:27] interesting experiments he started off with language and the language he choose
[05:04:29] with language and the language he choose was the language of French now if you
[05:04:32] was the language of French now if you were to take a French course at your
[05:04:33] were to take a French course at your local University as an adult you would
[05:04:36] local University as an adult you would be expected in a 3-hour period and 3
[05:04:38] be expected in a 3-hour period and 3 hours seems to be the ideal study period
[05:04:40] hours seems to be the ideal study period for a language you'd be expected in 3
[05:04:43] for a language you'd be expected in 3 hours to learn approximately 25 to 40
[05:04:48] hours to learn approximately 25 to 40 words and you'd be expected to have a
[05:04:51] words and you'd be expected to have a retention level up until the final exam
[05:04:54] retention level up until the final exam with due study and so on of about 80% uh
[05:04:58] with due study and so on of about 80% uh and maybe less as a matter of fact what
[05:05:00] and maybe less as a matter of fact what lazan found he said that most of the
[05:05:02] lazan found he said that most of the ways that we learn in our society are so
[05:05:04] ways that we learn in our society are so inefficient as to be deplorable in that
[05:05:06] inefficient as to be deplorable in that the average person who gets a University
[05:05:08] the average person who gets a University degree in our society after 4 years and
[05:05:10] degree in our society after 4 years and $25 to $50,000 of expenses forgets 80 to
[05:05:14] $25 to $50,000 of expenses forgets 80 to 90% of everything they learned at the
[05:05:17] 90% of everything they learned at the University before the summer after the
[05:05:20] University before the summer after the university the final year is over as a
[05:05:22] university the final year is over as a matter of fact as much as 80% is lost in
[05:05:24] matter of fact as much as 80% is lost in the first 30 days it was been postulated
[05:05:27] the first 30 days it was been postulated by a couple of University professors if
[05:05:29] by a couple of University professors if you want to clear out most of the
[05:05:30] you want to clear out most of the universities in the country very simple
[05:05:32] universities in the country very simple very simple way to do it is call
[05:05:34] very simple way to do it is call everybody back 48 hours after final
[05:05:38] everybody back 48 hours after final exams to rewrite without notice and you
[05:05:40] exams to rewrite without notice and you would find that the traditional way of
[05:05:42] would find that the traditional way of learning which is to cram the brain with
[05:05:44] learning which is to cram the brain with as much information as possible and to
[05:05:46] as much information as possible and to rush into the exam room and regurgitate
[05:05:48] rush into the exam room and regurgitate the information onto the exam and then
[05:05:51] the information onto the exam and then go back and recover and do it over again
[05:05:53] go back and recover and do it over again this way of learning is so inefficient
[05:05:55] this way of learning is so inefficient that almost all the information we take
[05:05:57] that almost all the information we take in that way is lost completely that's
[05:05:59] in that way is lost completely that's why if you took a language course in
[05:06:00] why if you took a language course in school and then you ever went to one of
[05:06:02] school and then you ever went to one of the countries where you uh where they
[05:06:05] the countries where you uh where they spoke the language you found that you
[05:06:06] spoke the language you found that you probably couldn't remember more than
[05:06:08] probably couldn't remember more than three or four words and even those you
[05:06:09] three or four words and even those you had wrong well so lozanov decided to use
[05:06:12] had wrong well so lozanov decided to use music and relaxation and this is what he
[05:06:14] music and relaxation and this is what he did under very closely controlled
[05:06:16] did under very closely controlled conditions he brought in uh 60 students
[05:06:19] conditions he brought in uh 60 students these 60 students were drawn from a
[05:06:20] these 60 students were drawn from a variety of occupations none of them had
[05:06:23] variety of occupations none of them had any knowledge of French at all they were
[05:06:25] any knowledge of French at all they were very closely monitored and screened by
[05:06:27] very closely monitored and screened by uh people who were not favorable toward
[05:06:30] uh people who were not favorable toward this experiment so it's very R
[05:06:32] this experiment so it's very R rigorously controlled in 1966 he brought
[05:06:35] rigorously controlled in 1966 he brought in these 60 people and his he felt that
[05:06:38] in these 60 people and his he felt that he would have to greatly in increase the
[05:06:40] he would have to greatly in increase the average level of learning in order to
[05:06:42] average level of learning in order to get approval for the establishment of
[05:06:44] get approval for the establishment of his Institute of
[05:06:46] his Institute of sesty uh The Institute of sesty and
[05:06:48] sesty uh The Institute of sesty and suggestopedia was was subsequently set
[05:06:51] suggestopedia was was subsequently set up in Sophia Bulgaria what he found what
[05:06:53] up in Sophia Bulgaria what he found what he did is he took these people and we
[05:06:55] he did is he took these people and we had 60 people and his goal was to get
[05:06:57] had 60 people and his goal was to get them to 150
[05:06:59] them to 150 words per session 100 to 150 words per
[05:07:02] words per session 100 to 150 words per session with higher levels of
[05:07:04] session with higher levels of retention what they did is they bought
[05:07:06] retention what they did is they bought them in they played gentle relaxing
[05:07:09] them in they played gentle relaxing music they turned down the lights and
[05:07:12] music they turned down the lights and they read them the words on cards with
[05:07:14] they read them the words on cards with the French on one side the Bulgarian on
[05:07:16] the French on one side the Bulgarian on the other and as they read them the
[05:07:18] the other and as they read them the words the students repeated the words in
[05:07:20] words the students repeated the words in a deeply relaxed State and they brought
[05:07:22] a deeply relaxed State and they brought them up to a state of full
[05:07:24] them up to a state of full awareness and reviewed the words and
[05:07:26] awareness and reviewed the words and then tested them on it they found from
[05:07:28] then tested them on it they found from the very beginning three sessions first
[05:07:30] the very beginning three sessions first of all review in aware State second of
[05:07:32] of all review in aware State second of all listening to the words in deep
[05:07:34] all listening to the words in deep relaxation third of all review in an
[05:07:36] relaxation third of all review in an aware State again they found that from
[05:07:38] aware State again they found that from the very first session they were getting
[05:07:40] the very first session they were getting 98% retention in that in testing at the
[05:07:44] 98% retention in that in testing at the end of each session they were
[05:07:45] end of each session they were remembering 98% of what they learned
[05:07:47] remembering 98% of what they learned they conducted this experiment for 6
[05:07:48] they conducted this experiment for 6 weeks and every single student in the
[05:07:50] weeks and every single student in the class got up to a 98% retention rate
[05:07:53] class got up to a 98% retention rate with no experience in the language at
[05:07:54] with no experience in the language at all now before they disbanded this
[05:07:56] all now before they disbanded this experiment in ' 66 he called for
[05:07:58] experiment in ' 66 he called for volunteers and got 15 more 15 of 15 of
[05:08:01] volunteers and got 15 more 15 of 15 of these students volunteered and they said
[05:08:03] these students volunteered and they said what it be possible to learn 500 words
[05:08:06] what it be possible to learn 500 words in one day well they came in on a
[05:08:08] in one day well they came in on a Saturday they worked all day cuz nobody
[05:08:12] Saturday they worked all day cuz nobody in recorded history had ever learned 500
[05:08:14] in recorded history had ever learned 500 words in a day and at the end of the day
[05:08:16] words in a day and at the end of the day they tested out at 98% retention on 500
[05:08:19] they tested out at 98% retention on 500 words now an interesting point is that
[05:08:21] words now an interesting point is that many of these people were suffering
[05:08:23] many of these people were suffering nervous disorders as a matter of fact uh
[05:08:25] nervous disorders as a matter of fact uh 40% of them were drawn from the
[05:08:27] 40% of them were drawn from the registers of psychologists and
[05:08:28] registers of psychologists and psychiatrists and after this six week
[05:08:31] psychiatrists and after this six week learning period learning 150 words a day
[05:08:33] learning period learning 150 words a day almost every one of them was completely
[05:08:35] almost every one of them was completely better that there was no stress in this
[05:08:37] better that there was no stress in this type of learning that it was very very
[05:08:39] type of learning that it was very very Rel relaxing that they found that it
[05:08:40] Rel relaxing that they found that it cleared their minds and they felt
[05:08:42] cleared their minds and they felt wonderful afterwards as opposed to our
[05:08:44] wonderful afterwards as opposed to our current way of learning which is so
[05:08:45] current way of learning which is so stressful and so tension so so tense and
[05:08:47] stressful and so tension so so tense and so competitive they found that after
[05:08:49] so competitive they found that after this 500 words at the end of the day
[05:08:52] this 500 words at the end of the day everybody felt great there was no stress
[05:08:54] everybody felt great there was no stress no fatigue nothing Well he said let's
[05:08:56] no fatigue nothing Well he said let's see if we it's possible to increase this
[05:08:58] see if we it's possible to increase this before we disband the experiment and he
[05:09:00] before we disband the experiment and he called back 12 of the students the best
[05:09:03] called back 12 of the students the best Learners uh two weeks later they got
[05:09:05] Learners uh two weeks later they got together to see if they could learn a
[05:09:07] together to see if they could learn a thousand words in one day a th brand new
[05:09:10] thousand words in one day a th brand new words in one day the sum the result of
[05:09:13] words in one day the sum the result of it was that at the end of the day they
[05:09:15] it was that at the end of the day they were able to learn the thousand words
[05:09:17] were able to learn the thousand words and test out at 98% interesting later on
[05:09:20] and test out at 98% interesting later on about 6 months later they brought these
[05:09:22] about 6 months later they brought these students all back to see how much of the
[05:09:24] students all back to see how much of the language they had retained with no
[05:09:26] language they had retained with no opportunity to read in it no opportunity
[05:09:28] opportunity to read in it no opportunity to speak it they found that they tested
[05:09:31] to speak it they found that they tested out at
[05:09:32] out at 69% recall without any review and with
[05:09:35] 69% recall without any review and with one review the entire class was back up
[05:09:37] one review the entire class was back up to 98% in other words
[05:09:40] to 98% in other words this method of music with deep
[05:09:41] this method of music with deep relaxation dropping into Alpha Theta and
[05:09:44] relaxation dropping into Alpha Theta and activating both brains had led to a
[05:09:46] activating both brains had led to a dramatic increase in learning ability
[05:09:48] dramatic increase in learning ability now in
[05:09:51] 1974 lozanov under controlled experiment
[05:09:54] 1974 lozanov under controlled experiment got the rate up to 18800 words in one
[05:09:57] got the rate up to 18800 words in one day with 98% retention in 1979 in a
[05:10:01] day with 98% retention in 1979 in a special experiment with selected
[05:10:04] special experiment with selected students lozanov got the rate up to
[05:10:07] students lozanov got the rate up to 3,000 words in one one day in other
[05:10:10] 3,000 words in one one day in other words by activating the brain and with
[05:10:12] words by activating the brain and with still 98% retention now this is a
[05:10:15] still 98% retention now this is a phenomenal thing it's almost an it's
[05:10:17] phenomenal thing it's almost an it's almost an unheard of thing to to believe
[05:10:19] almost an unheard of thing to to believe but what lozanov has found is that the
[05:10:21] but what lozanov has found is that the learning capacity of the brain is
[05:10:24] learning capacity of the brain is infinite that the capacity of your brain
[05:10:27] infinite that the capacity of your brain to learn and to take in information for
[05:10:30] to learn and to take in information for example if you speak English well you
[05:10:34] example if you speak English well you probably speak and use about 1,200 to
[05:10:38] probably speak and use about 1,200 to 2,000 words in the course of your
[05:10:39] 2,000 words in the course of your day-to-day life all you need is 2,000
[05:10:42] day-to-day life all you need is 2,000 words to be functionally fluent in any
[05:10:44] words to be functionally fluent in any language the average English-speaking
[05:10:46] language the average English-speaking person uses less than 1200 words as a
[05:10:49] person uses less than 1200 words as a matter of fact some people uh and
[05:10:51] matter of fact some people uh and especially as you go down the
[05:10:52] especially as you go down the educational ladder use sometimes less
[05:10:54] educational ladder use sometimes less than 500 words in their entire language
[05:10:56] than 500 words in their entire language but 2,000 words will enable you to read
[05:10:58] but 2,000 words will enable you to read any newspaper any magazine watch any
[05:11:00] any newspaper any magazine watch any program radio television except
[05:11:02] program radio television except something of a technical nature what
[05:11:04] something of a technical nature what lozanov proved was it's possible for a
[05:11:06] lozanov proved was it's possible for a person to learn one language per day
[05:11:10] person to learn one language per day permanently now this learning technology
[05:11:13] permanently now this learning technology is beginning to change the way that we
[05:11:14] is beginning to change the way that we learn it's beginning to revolutionize
[05:11:17] learn it's beginning to revolutionize all of our understandings about language
[05:11:19] all of our understandings about language lozanov has also developed many other
[05:11:21] lozanov has also developed many other techniques and understandings he found
[05:11:22] techniques and understandings he found that gentle classical music is a
[05:11:26] that gentle classical music is a critical part of this learning that
[05:11:27] critical part of this learning that Baroque music with 60 beat Baroque that
[05:11:30] Baroque music with 60 beat Baroque that slows down the heart rate and slows down
[05:11:32] slows down the heart rate and slows down the brain wave activity rate so that the
[05:11:34] the brain wave activity rate so that the body and the mind get into sync with the
[05:11:36] body and the mind get into sync with the music and the incoming information is
[05:11:39] music and the incoming information is critical that you can learn technical
[05:11:41] critical that you can learn technical subjects you can learn medicine
[05:11:42] subjects you can learn medicine philosophy psychology I have taken
[05:11:44] philosophy psychology I have taken extended courses now in accelerated or
[05:11:46] extended courses now in accelerated or optimal learning to learn these
[05:11:48] optimal learning to learn these methodologies and what I have found is
[05:11:50] methodologies and what I have found is that you can learn even without any of
[05:11:52] that you can learn even without any of the science or technology you can learn
[05:11:54] the science or technology you can learn things very very rapidly if you'll do
[05:11:56] things very very rapidly if you'll do two or three things here are the keys to
[05:11:59] two or three things here are the keys to speeding up the way that you learn
[05:12:01] speeding up the way that you learn number one is Define what it is you want
[05:12:05] number one is Define what it is you want to learn and need to learn in order to
[05:12:07] to learn and need to learn in order to be more successful and more effective
[05:12:09] be more successful and more effective you cannot learn something that you're
[05:12:10] you cannot learn something that you're not interested in you cannot learn
[05:12:12] not interested in you cannot learn something that does not hold your
[05:12:13] something that does not hold your attention you cannot learn something
[05:12:14] attention you cannot learn something that is boring so make sure that what
[05:12:16] that is boring so make sure that what you're studying is important to you so
[05:12:18] you're studying is important to you so number one is to Define it and when you
[05:12:20] number one is to Define it and when you begin to study Define your purpose why
[05:12:23] begin to study Define your purpose why are you learning this subject think it
[05:12:25] are you learning this subject think it through read it through study it and
[05:12:27] through read it through study it and only study things with an aim in mind
[05:12:30] only study things with an aim in mind remember you have to have a goal number
[05:12:32] remember you have to have a goal number two is you must have an intense desire
[05:12:35] two is you must have an intense desire to learn you must have a desire in other
[05:12:38] to learn you must have a desire in other words you cannot learn because somebody
[05:12:39] words you cannot learn because somebody else wants you to learn number three is
[05:12:41] else wants you to learn number three is always study when you can with classical
[05:12:45] always study when you can with classical music gentle classical music with no
[05:12:47] music gentle classical music with no words gentle classical music of any kind
[05:12:50] words gentle classical music of any kind especially music from The Classical
[05:12:52] especially music from The Classical period of Mozart Bach brumms dorek
[05:12:56] period of Mozart Bach brumms dorek Beethoven uh and um uh uh Stravinsky for
[05:13:00] Beethoven uh and um uh uh Stravinsky for instance these these music these these
[05:13:03] instance these these music these these composers have a classical 60 beat
[05:13:06] composers have a classical 60 beat Baroque BackBeat within their music and
[05:13:08] Baroque BackBeat within their music and if if you play with classical music or
[05:13:11] if if you play with classical music or even environmental sounds like the
[05:13:12] even environmental sounds like the sounds of waves or the oceans white
[05:13:14] sounds of waves or the oceans white music as it's called you have that in
[05:13:16] music as it's called you have that in the background it relaxes the brain it
[05:13:18] the background it relaxes the brain it opens the left and the right Hemisphere
[05:13:20] opens the left and the right Hemisphere and it allows information to come
[05:13:23] and it allows information to come in through the left brain and be
[05:13:27] in through the left brain and be internalized into the right brain where
[05:13:29] internalized into the right brain where it is stored in the seat of memory so
[05:13:31] it is stored in the seat of memory so what you want to do is through music you
[05:13:33] what you want to do is through music you want to relax the corpus callosum relax
[05:13:36] want to relax the corpus callosum relax the brain so that information can flow
[05:13:37] the brain so that information can flow in through the left brain
[05:13:39] in through the left brain and into the right a fourth key point is
[05:13:42] and into the right a fourth key point is space
[05:13:48] repetition space repetition is important
[05:13:50] repetition space repetition is important now some people say why is it or how is
[05:13:52] now some people say why is it or how is it that I can give a seminar like this
[05:13:54] it that I can give a seminar like this all day without notes and I sometimes do
[05:13:56] all day without notes and I sometimes do day after day after day of seminars
[05:13:57] day after day after day of seminars without notes I must have a great memory
[05:13:59] without notes I must have a great memory I don't have a great memory I just study
[05:14:01] I don't have a great memory I just study all the time and I use space repetition
[05:14:03] all the time and I use space repetition and I review it over and over again
[05:14:05] and I review it over and over again there's another thing too by the way is
[05:14:07] there's another thing too by the way is that the more you learn the more you
[05:14:08] that the more you learn the more you learn when you start to study remember
[05:14:11] learn when you start to study remember that it takes practice to learn how to
[05:14:12] that it takes practice to learn how to learn it takes practice practice
[05:14:16] learn it takes practice practice practice is that the more you practice
[05:14:18] practice is that the more you practice learning how to learn the more likely it
[05:14:20] learning how to learn the more likely it is that you'll learn the first few days
[05:14:22] is that you'll learn the first few days when you're studying a new subject
[05:14:23] when you're studying a new subject you'll find it takes tremendous effort
[05:14:25] you'll find it takes tremendous effort now here's another important point and
[05:14:27] now here's another important point and that is
[05:14:28] that is variety variety of stimulation is
[05:14:31] variety variety of stimulation is critical the number of different ways
[05:14:34] critical the number of different ways that you stimulate your mind different
[05:14:36] that you stimulate your mind different books different magazines plays
[05:14:38] books different magazines plays different different exposures to
[05:14:40] different different exposures to different conversations different
[05:14:41] different conversations different subjects and so on if you bombard your
[05:14:43] subjects and so on if you bombard your mind continuously with stimuli that
[05:14:46] mind continuously with stimuli that challenges your mind you will find that
[05:14:48] challenges your mind you will find that you'll develop the capacity to learn and
[05:14:50] you'll develop the capacity to learn and remember more and number seven is
[05:14:52] remember more and number seven is remember this it's called attention span
[05:14:55] remember this it's called attention span is the time when you learn the most is
[05:14:57] is the time when you learn the most is at the beginning of a period of study
[05:15:00] at the beginning of a period of study and at the end of a period of study what
[05:15:02] and at the end of a period of study what does this tell you it tells you that
[05:15:04] does this tell you it tells you that instead of studying or reading for a
[05:15:06] instead of studying or reading for a long period of time like this say two or
[05:15:08] long period of time like this say two or two or 3 hours what you do is break it
[05:15:10] two or 3 hours what you do is break it up and take several breaks so that you
[05:15:13] up and take several breaks so that you have a series of breaks and you'll
[05:15:14] have a series of breaks and you'll always remember what you learn at the
[05:15:16] always remember what you learn at the beginning of the break at the beginning
[05:15:18] beginning of the break at the beginning of the period at the end of the period
[05:15:19] of the period at the end of the period the beginning and end so the more breaks
[05:15:21] the beginning and end so the more breaks that you can take the more variety that
[05:15:23] that you can take the more variety that you can put into your studying the
[05:15:25] you can put into your studying the faster you'll learn the key to remember
[05:15:27] faster you'll learn the key to remember this is that everything that you are or
[05:15:29] this is that everything that you are or ever will become is going to be as a
[05:15:31] ever will become is going to be as a result of the information you take into
[05:15:33] result of the information you take into your mind the Practical usable
[05:15:35] your mind the Practical usable information that you can take and use to
[05:15:38] information that you can take and use to bring about something some kind of
[05:15:39] bring about something some kind of improvement in the world around you if
[05:15:41] improvement in the world around you if you want to earn more you have to learn
[05:15:43] you want to earn more you have to learn more if you want to be happier you have
[05:15:44] more if you want to be happier you have to learn more if you want to realize
[05:15:46] to learn more if you want to realize your full potential as a human being you
[05:15:47] your full potential as a human being you have to learn more which means read
[05:15:50] have to learn more which means read study and learn how to learn and if
[05:15:53] study and learn how to learn and if you'll do that you'll be amazed at how
[05:15:55] you'll do that you'll be amazed at how much of your mental potential you can
[05:15:56] much of your mental potential you can release
[05:16:11] session 14 Progressive relaxation with
[05:16:14] session 14 Progressive relaxation with music the work of Georgie lozanov in
[05:16:17] music the work of Georgie lozanov in establishing The Sciences of suggest Loy
[05:16:19] establishing The Sciences of suggest Loy and suggestopedia which is the
[05:16:21] and suggestopedia which is the application of the power of suggestion
[05:16:23] application of the power of suggestion to the process of learning also have
[05:16:26] to the process of learning also have applications with regard to you and I in
[05:16:28] applications with regard to you and I in terms of reprogramming our subconscious
[05:16:30] terms of reprogramming our subconscious mind you see if we can learn a subject
[05:16:32] mind you see if we can learn a subject like French or English if we can learn
[05:16:34] like French or English if we can learn history or mathematics if we can learn
[05:16:36] history or mathematics if we can learn something very very fast as a result of
[05:16:38] something very very fast as a result of deep relax ation with music in a
[05:16:40] deep relax ation with music in a systematic organized process can't we
[05:16:44] systematic organized process can't we also learn new belief systems can't we
[05:16:47] also learn new belief systems can't we also learn new ideas Concepts
[05:16:49] also learn new ideas Concepts characteristics qualities can we develop
[05:16:51] characteristics qualities can we develop confidence Courage the ability to earn
[05:16:53] confidence Courage the ability to earn more money the ability to be better
[05:16:55] more money the ability to be better parents better bosses and so on using
[05:16:58] parents better bosses and so on using the same techniques yes we can now over
[05:17:03] the same techniques yes we can now over the years and over the centuries over
[05:17:04] the years and over the centuries over all the course of mankind great Mystics
[05:17:07] all the course of mankind great Mystics great leaders great religious teachers
[05:17:10] great leaders great religious teachers great philosophers and thinkers have
[05:17:12] great philosophers and thinkers have found that by relaxing deeply even
[05:17:16] found that by relaxing deeply even without music just relaxing deeply and
[05:17:18] without music just relaxing deeply and meditating or dwelling on particular
[05:17:21] meditating or dwelling on particular thoughts or ideas whether it's a quality
[05:17:23] thoughts or ideas whether it's a quality or a mantra or something else deep
[05:17:26] or a mantra or something else deep relaxation and meditation on a
[05:17:28] relaxation and meditation on a particular thought enables us to
[05:17:31] particular thought enables us to internalize the thought let me talk
[05:17:33] internalize the thought let me talk about this for a second the key is deep
[05:17:36] about this for a second the key is deep relaxation remember we talked about the
[05:17:38] relaxation remember we talked about the law
[05:17:39] law of relaxation that says the harder that
[05:17:41] of relaxation that says the harder that you don't try the better it works in all
[05:17:44] you don't try the better it works in all mental working effort defeats itself
[05:17:47] mental working effort defeats itself therefore whenever you present new
[05:17:48] therefore whenever you present new information to your mind in a state of
[05:17:50] information to your mind in a state of deep relaxation it is accepted far more
[05:17:54] deep relaxation it is accepted far more rapidly if you want to become a positive
[05:17:56] rapidly if you want to become a positive outgoing enthusiastic wealthy
[05:17:58] outgoing enthusiastic wealthy influential successful human being you
[05:18:01] influential successful human being you must change your mental programming so
[05:18:03] must change your mental programming so that your internal programming your
[05:18:04] that your internal programming your beliefs your self-concept your essential
[05:18:08] beliefs your self-concept your essential fundamental convictions are consistent
[05:18:10] fundamental convictions are consistent with what you wish to experience in the
[05:18:12] with what you wish to experience in the outside and deep relaxation is the key
[05:18:15] outside and deep relaxation is the key that relaxation is the key to the Vault
[05:18:18] that relaxation is the key to the Vault of riches that relaxation is what
[05:18:21] of riches that relaxation is what unlocks your TAP potential and most of
[05:18:24] unlocks your TAP potential and most of our modern times have been spent on
[05:18:27] our modern times have been spent on finding ways to do things harder to
[05:18:29] finding ways to do things harder to force things to drive things but we're
[05:18:31] force things to drive things but we're finding more and more as we study the
[05:18:33] finding more and more as we study the history of man and the Eastern religions
[05:18:36] history of man and the Eastern religions and the research that's been done in
[05:18:37] and the research that's been done in this field that deep relaxation is the
[05:18:39] this field that deep relaxation is the key even Harvard University has done
[05:18:41] key even Harvard University has done experiments on relaxation and found that
[05:18:43] experiments on relaxation and found that even one process of deep relaxation
[05:18:46] even one process of deep relaxation changes brain wave activity over that of
[05:18:49] changes brain wave activity over that of people who don't now there's several
[05:18:50] people who don't now there's several ways one is meditation well what is
[05:18:53] ways one is meditation well what is meditation meditation is simply closing
[05:18:56] meditation meditation is simply closing your eyes taking a deep breath dropping
[05:18:58] your eyes taking a deep breath dropping into Alpha it's as simple as that as you
[05:19:01] into Alpha it's as simple as that as you take a deep breath and close your eyes
[05:19:02] take a deep breath and close your eyes you drop into Alpha and your brain wave
[05:19:04] you drop into Alpha and your brain wave activity from here just goes here when
[05:19:07] activity from here just goes here when you sit on a park bench and and daydream
[05:19:09] you sit on a park bench and and daydream you're in a form of meditation with your
[05:19:11] you're in a form of meditation with your eyes closed meditation is very very
[05:19:14] eyes closed meditation is very very healthy restful very refreshing and many
[05:19:17] healthy restful very refreshing and many people have gotten into what is called
[05:19:19] people have gotten into what is called Transcendental Meditation which is
[05:19:21] Transcendental Meditation which is really a systematization of the process
[05:19:23] really a systematization of the process of meditation where you take a mantra
[05:19:25] of meditation where you take a mantra and you sit down close your eyes relax
[05:19:28] and you sit down close your eyes relax and you repeat the Mantra now what is a
[05:19:30] and you repeat the Mantra now what is a mantra a mantra is merely a meaningless
[05:19:32] mantra a mantra is merely a meaningless word uh Dr Herbert Benson at the uh
[05:19:36] word uh Dr Herbert Benson at the uh Harvard University found that if you
[05:19:37] Harvard University found that if you just repeat the word once
[05:19:39] just repeat the word once over and over again that'll be good
[05:19:41] over and over again that'll be good enough in terms of closing your eyes
[05:19:44] enough in terms of closing your eyes repeating the word one each time you
[05:19:46] repeating the word one each time you exhale you'll drop into a state of
[05:19:48] exhale you'll drop into a state of meditation in a matter of a few seconds
[05:19:50] meditation in a matter of a few seconds even if you've never done it before now
[05:19:52] even if you've never done it before now meditation is very healthy what does it
[05:19:53] meditation is very healthy what does it do it relaxes the whole body it relaxes
[05:19:56] do it relaxes the whole body it relaxes the mind it integrates the personality
[05:19:59] the mind it integrates the personality it causes you to feel more calm and more
[05:20:01] it causes you to feel more calm and more assured it lowers your flash point in
[05:20:04] assured it lowers your flash point in that it causes you to be more self
[05:20:06] that it causes you to be more self assured and less likely to get angry to
[05:20:08] assured and less likely to get angry to get
[05:20:09] get uh it causes you to sleep better at
[05:20:10] uh it causes you to sleep better at night causes you to digest better it
[05:20:12] night causes you to digest better it causes you to achieve your goals better
[05:20:13] causes you to achieve your goals better and so on so meditation or deep
[05:20:15] and so on so meditation or deep relaxation is an essential part of you
[05:20:17] relaxation is an essential part of you achieving your potential sometimes
[05:20:19] achieving your potential sometimes people say I don't have the time to do
[05:20:20] people say I don't have the time to do this whenever you don't have the time
[05:20:22] this whenever you don't have the time that's the time when you have to do it
[05:20:23] that's the time when you have to do it the most anything that takes you into a
[05:20:25] the most anything that takes you into a state of deep relaxation brings you down
[05:20:28] state of deep relaxation brings you down to the point where your mind can
[05:20:31] to the point where your mind can function in the levels of Alpha and can
[05:20:33] function in the levels of Alpha and can integrate your personality there's a
[05:20:35] integrate your personality there's a whole science called the science of
[05:20:37] whole science called the science of psychosynthesis
[05:20:39] psychosynthesis that says that meditation on any
[05:20:42] that says that meditation on any subject actually synthesizes and
[05:20:44] subject actually synthesizes and integrates and brings together the Mind
[05:20:46] integrates and brings together the Mind well what lozanov also found that if you
[05:20:48] well what lozanov also found that if you combined relaxation with music and this
[05:20:50] combined relaxation with music and this is the second part you can accelerate
[05:20:53] is the second part you can accelerate the process that when you play gentle
[05:20:55] the process that when you play gentle music when you are in a state of deep
[05:20:57] music when you are in a state of deep relaxation you actually go deeper into
[05:21:00] relaxation you actually go deeper into relaxation your mind relaxes even deeper
[05:21:02] relaxation your mind relaxes even deeper and as a result you function better and
[05:21:04] and as a result you function better and if you combinate if you combine
[05:21:06] if you combinate if you combine relaxation plus music plus informational
[05:21:10] relaxation plus music plus informational input or the input of words or ideas
[05:21:14] input or the input of words or ideas that you can learn at an accelerated
[05:21:16] that you can learn at an accelerated rate you can bring about rapid and
[05:21:18] rate you can bring about rapid and permanent behavioral changes on the
[05:21:20] permanent behavioral changes on the market today there's a a great number of
[05:21:22] market today there's a a great number of subliminal tapes where they play Words
[05:21:26] subliminal tapes where they play Words hidden beneath the sounds of music or
[05:21:28] hidden beneath the sounds of music or ocean waves or something like that now
[05:21:30] ocean waves or something like that now there's a tremendous amount of research
[05:21:31] there's a tremendous amount of research that shows that subliminal tapes work
[05:21:33] that shows that subliminal tapes work many of the subliminal tapes that are
[05:21:35] many of the subliminal tapes that are sold are not based on that research
[05:21:37] sold are not based on that research they're based on on other principles and
[05:21:39] they're based on on other principles and I suggest you look at it very carefully
[05:21:41] I suggest you look at it very carefully before you buy them because some of them
[05:21:43] before you buy them because some of them are are completely useless overpriced
[05:21:45] are are completely useless overpriced and useless some of them are are
[05:21:47] and useless some of them are are excellent but Music Plus informational
[05:21:49] excellent but Music Plus informational input causes the conscious mind which is
[05:21:51] input causes the conscious mind which is the mind that says wait a second I'm not
[05:21:53] the mind that says wait a second I'm not taking in that information causes the
[05:21:55] taking in that information causes the conscious mind the guard at the door of
[05:21:56] conscious mind the guard at the door of the subconscious it causes it to relax
[05:21:59] the subconscious it causes it to relax and fall asleep and when the subc
[05:22:01] and fall asleep and when the subc conscious mind falls asleep the words
[05:22:03] conscious mind falls asleep the words with the music combined flow straight
[05:22:05] with the music combined flow straight into the subconscious mind change and
[05:22:07] into the subconscious mind change and revise all previous programming and
[05:22:10] revise all previous programming and bring about permanent behavioral change
[05:22:12] bring about permanent behavioral change we call this the process of taped
[05:22:14] we call this the process of taped affirmation which I'm going to explain
[05:22:16] affirmation which I'm going to explain in a second but let me give you just a
[05:22:18] in a second but let me give you just a brief explanation with regard to musac
[05:22:20] brief explanation with regard to musac there are many systems now that have
[05:22:22] there are many systems now that have been developed musac systems which play
[05:22:24] been developed musac systems which play sort of neutral music as background
[05:22:27] sort of neutral music as background music in offices warehouses and stores
[05:22:29] music in offices warehouses and stores in a Montreal experiment in a Dominion
[05:22:32] in a Montreal experiment in a Dominion uh stores experiment some years ago they
[05:22:35] uh stores experiment some years ago they took and they took and they put un under
[05:22:37] took and they took and they put un under the mus system a series of messages that
[05:22:40] the mus system a series of messages that said do not shoplift shoplifting is bad
[05:22:43] said do not shoplift shoplifting is bad if you shoplift you'll be caught and
[05:22:45] if you shoplift you'll be caught and you'll be prosecuted if you shoplift
[05:22:47] you'll be prosecuted if you shoplift when you're prosecuted you get a
[05:22:49] when you're prosecuted you get a criminal record so shoplifting is
[05:22:50] criminal record so shoplifting is something that you shouldn't do and they
[05:22:51] something that you shouldn't do and they repeated these messages over and over
[05:22:53] repeated these messages over and over again but they were inaudible to the
[05:22:55] again but they were inaudible to the human ear the only thing that Shoppers
[05:22:57] human ear the only thing that Shoppers could hear was music now this was a
[05:22:59] could hear was music now this was a store that was in an area where there
[05:23:01] store that was in an area where there was a lot of shoplifting they found that
[05:23:04] was a lot of shoplifting they found that they played this for a period of 2
[05:23:07] they played this for a period of 2 months for 2 months they played this
[05:23:10] months for 2 months they played this message under the musac system and in
[05:23:12] message under the musac system and in two months the level of shoplifting
[05:23:14] two months the level of shoplifting dropped 50% in that
[05:23:16] dropped 50% in that store they left it on for two months and
[05:23:20] store they left it on for two months and it stayed at that level and then they
[05:23:22] it stayed at that level and then they put back the regular music over the
[05:23:25] put back the regular music over the course of the next two
[05:23:27] course of the next two months the level of shoplifting went
[05:23:30] months the level of shoplifting went right back up to normal they now using
[05:23:33] right back up to normal they now using this same process by the way where they
[05:23:35] this same process by the way where they will put musac their sales messages for
[05:23:37] will put musac their sales messages for instance the sales organizer ation they
[05:23:39] instance the sales organizer ation they will put a whole series of messages
[05:23:40] will put a whole series of messages behind the mus ACC they'll tell
[05:23:41] behind the mus ACC they'll tell everybody that they're there because
[05:23:43] everybody that they're there because they'll say you love to sell you a great
[05:23:45] they'll say you love to sell you a great salesperson you love this product you
[05:23:47] salesperson you love this product you eagerly make calls you are a good closer
[05:23:49] eagerly make calls you are a good closer you're a good prospector you manage your
[05:23:51] you're a good prospector you manage your time well a whole series of messages
[05:23:53] time well a whole series of messages like that which will be played behind
[05:23:55] like that which will be played behind the musac system and they will find that
[05:23:57] the musac system and they will find that sales will go up 10 20 30 40 50% in some
[05:24:01] sales will go up 10 20 30 40 50% in some Warehouse operations they have systems
[05:24:03] Warehouse operations they have systems where they'll have a musac system that
[05:24:05] where they'll have a musac system that says do not steal from your employer do
[05:24:07] says do not steal from your employer do not pill for from the warehouse and so
[05:24:09] not pill for from the warehouse and so on they'll find that theft and pilage
[05:24:11] on they'll find that theft and pilage will drop 20 30 40% in a matter of a
[05:24:13] will drop 20 30 40% in a matter of a very short period of time now this
[05:24:15] very short period of time now this brings us to what we call taped
[05:24:16] brings us to what we call taped affirmation which is Progressive
[05:24:18] affirmation which is Progressive relaxation with music taped airation is
[05:24:21] relaxation with music taped airation is absolutely wonderful taped affirmation
[05:24:23] absolutely wonderful taped affirmation is a way of putting your goals onto a
[05:24:26] is a way of putting your goals onto a tape with music and playing them over
[05:24:29] tape with music and playing them over and over to yourself in a relaxed state
[05:24:31] and over to yourself in a relaxed state so that they bypass the conscious mind
[05:24:33] so that they bypass the conscious mind drop into the subconscious and begin to
[05:24:35] drop into the subconscious and begin to come true in your reality I began using
[05:24:37] come true in your reality I began using taped a several years ago I'm I have now
[05:24:41] taped a several years ago I'm I have now thousands of graduates who use taped
[05:24:42] thousands of graduates who use taped affirmation I'll just tell you this is
[05:24:44] affirmation I'll just tell you this is that every single goal I have ever put
[05:24:46] that every single goal I have ever put on a musical tape and played to myself
[05:24:48] on a musical tape and played to myself over and over again has materialized in
[05:24:50] over and over again has materialized in my reality every single one of them has
[05:24:52] my reality every single one of them has come true and some of them in a
[05:24:53] come true and some of them in a surprisingly short period of time this
[05:24:55] surprisingly short period of time this is one of the most astonishing
[05:24:57] is one of the most astonishing discoveries like taped learning is one
[05:24:59] discoveries like taped learning is one of the most astonishing discoveries in
[05:25:00] of the most astonishing discoveries in education taped affirmation is one of
[05:25:02] education taped affirmation is one of the most astonishing discoveries in the
[05:25:05] the most astonishing discoveries in the whole process of goal setting and goal
[05:25:07] whole process of goal setting and goal achieving you can can change your
[05:25:08] achieving you can can change your personality achieve goals increase your
[05:25:11] personality achieve goals increase your income lose weight quit smoking you can
[05:25:13] income lose weight quit smoking you can do remarkable things with your life and
[05:25:15] do remarkable things with your life and you can do it rapidly and permanently
[05:25:17] you can do it rapidly and permanently using this method now here's some of the
[05:25:19] using this method now here's some of the keys to taped affirmation that you
[05:25:21] keys to taped affirmation that you should understand number one is a form
[05:25:23] should understand number one is a form of progressive relaxation with music
[05:25:25] of progressive relaxation with music Progressive relaxation is a method of
[05:25:28] Progressive relaxation is a method of going through the body with words and
[05:25:30] going through the body with words and relaxing each muscle group so when you
[05:25:33] relaxing each muscle group so when you play the tape you'll hear a voice that
[05:25:34] play the tape you'll hear a voice that will count you down and be more and more
[05:25:36] will count you down and be more and more relaxed and each part of your body
[05:25:38] relaxed and each part of your body relaxes deeper and deeper and deeper and
[05:25:41] relaxes deeper and deeper and deeper and you get more and more and more deeply
[05:25:45] you get more and more and more deeply relaxed you'll find that all the tension
[05:25:47] relaxed you'll find that all the tension is Led out of your whole body as your
[05:25:49] is Led out of your whole body as your body completely relaxes you'll find your
[05:25:51] body completely relaxes you'll find your conscious mind relaxes and you drop into
[05:25:53] conscious mind relaxes and you drop into Alpha now a second is that this is a
[05:25:55] Alpha now a second is that this is a form of what is called heterogenic
[05:25:57] form of what is called heterogenic conditioning now heterogenic
[05:25:59] conditioning now heterogenic conditioning is means hetero means other
[05:26:02] conditioning is means hetero means other and genic means mind so in this we use
[05:26:05] and genic means mind so in this we use the word you it's a conditioning process
[05:26:07] the word you it's a conditioning process so that when you listen to the tape it
[05:26:09] so that when you listen to the tape it always says you you like yourself very
[05:26:13] always says you you like yourself very much you really like yourself or you
[05:26:15] much you really like yourself or you accept complete responsibility for your
[05:26:18] accept complete responsibility for your life it uses affirmations that are very
[05:26:21] life it uses affirmations that are very simple and clear positive present tense
[05:26:24] simple and clear positive present tense but they in the U case why it's because
[05:26:27] but they in the U case why it's because whenever we listen to another voice even
[05:26:29] whenever we listen to another voice even if you make your own tape with your own
[05:26:30] if you make your own tape with your own voice you always use youu whenever we
[05:26:33] voice you always use youu whenever we take in information with from another
[05:26:34] take in information with from another voice we are accustomed from infancy to
[05:26:37] voice we are accustomed from infancy to our parents or someone else saying you
[05:26:39] our parents or someone else saying you now there are some people who say that
[05:26:41] now there are some people who say that you're supposed to to put on the tape
[05:26:43] you're supposed to to put on the tape the words I earn or I weigh or I like
[05:26:47] the words I earn or I weigh or I like myself but whenever we listen to
[05:26:48] myself but whenever we listen to somebody else talking about thems it
[05:26:50] somebody else talking about thems it makes no impression on our subconscious
[05:26:53] makes no impression on our subconscious so when you make a tape that you listen
[05:26:54] so when you make a tape that you listen to It's always you taking the message in
[05:26:58] to It's always you taking the message in when you speak to yourself it's always I
[05:27:01] when you speak to yourself it's always I I am I can I do a third point is that
[05:27:05] I am I can I do a third point is that this is
[05:27:06] this is healthy this is
[05:27:10] relaxing and this is refreshing you will
[05:27:13] relaxing and this is refreshing you will find that if you play this tape which is
[05:27:15] find that if you play this tape which is about 20 minutes and we're going to give
[05:27:16] about 20 minutes and we're going to give you this tape in a little while uh if
[05:27:18] you this tape in a little while uh if you play this tape when you come home in
[05:27:21] you play this tape when you come home in the evening if you play it in the middle
[05:27:22] the evening if you play it in the middle of the day it's better than a nap it's
[05:27:24] of the day it's better than a nap it's better than taking a sleep it's better
[05:27:26] better than taking a sleep it's better than a steam bath because it will relax
[05:27:28] than a steam bath because it will relax you it will refresh you and you'll feel
[05:27:30] you it will refresh you and you'll feel healthy and even if it does nothing else
[05:27:33] healthy and even if it does nothing else it makes you feel great our third or
[05:27:35] it makes you feel great our third or fourth requirement is that you do it
[05:27:37] fourth requirement is that you do it twice daily I Optimum is to do it twice
[05:27:40] twice daily I Optimum is to do it twice daily morning and
[05:27:42] daily morning and evening and do it on an empty stomach
[05:27:45] evening and do it on an empty stomach the very best time to play this tape is
[05:27:47] the very best time to play this tape is in the morning before you have breakfast
[05:27:49] in the morning before you have breakfast and the evening after you come home but
[05:27:51] and the evening after you come home but before you have dinner if you can only
[05:27:52] before you have dinner if you can only do it once a day do it in the evening
[05:27:54] do it once a day do it in the evening it's better than a drink it's better
[05:27:56] it's better than a drink it's better than a Valium it's better than a Librium
[05:27:58] than a Valium it's better than a Librium it will refresh you pick you up smooth
[05:28:00] it will refresh you pick you up smooth your personality make you feel just
[05:28:02] your personality make you feel just great about yourself so do it twice
[05:28:04] great about yourself so do it twice daily number five is that we use
[05:28:07] daily number five is that we use relaxing gentle music now you can use
[05:28:10] relaxing gentle music now you can use almost any music you like the slower the
[05:28:12] almost any music you like the slower the more relaxing the more classical music
[05:28:15] more relaxing the more classical music that you use you can use Baroque you can
[05:28:17] that you use you can use Baroque you can use the sound of the ocean you can use
[05:28:20] use the sound of the ocean you can use gentle classical music from any piece
[05:28:22] gentle classical music from any piece that you like uh but relaxing gentle
[05:28:24] that you like uh but relaxing gentle music in the background is what causes
[05:28:27] music in the background is what causes the mind to relax and relax and relax
[05:28:30] the mind to relax and relax and relax you can use flute music you can use
[05:28:32] you can use flute music you can use guitar you can use violin you can use
[05:28:34] guitar you can use violin you can use anything that is relaxing to cause you
[05:28:36] anything that is relaxing to cause you to calm and settle down but not music or
[05:28:39] to calm and settle down but not music or anything that has words to it now
[05:28:41] anything that has words to it now another characteristic of this is that
[05:28:45] another characteristic of this is that uh the position that you
[05:28:47] uh the position that you use we call this assuming the position
[05:28:50] use we call this assuming the position is to sit
[05:28:53] is to sit erect
[05:28:55] erect relaxed
[05:28:56] relaxed relaxed eyes
[05:28:58] relaxed eyes closed we call this assuming the
[05:29:01] closed we call this assuming the position and basically the position is
[05:29:04] position and basically the position is you sit in a chair you sit completely
[05:29:06] you sit in a chair you sit completely erect you put your hands on your lap not
[05:29:09] erect you put your hands on your lap not touching close your eyes take a deep
[05:29:12] touching close your eyes take a deep breath and just listen to the tape the
[05:29:15] breath and just listen to the tape the tape is complete all you have to do is
[05:29:17] tape is complete all you have to do is put it on and it will count you down
[05:29:19] put it on and it will count you down into a state of deep relaxation very
[05:29:21] into a state of deep relaxation very much like this into a state of deep
[05:29:23] much like this into a state of deep relaxation while you're in that state of
[05:29:25] relaxation while you're in that state of relaxation it will play a series of 10
[05:29:27] relaxation it will play a series of 10 affirmations five each and at the end of
[05:29:30] affirmations five each and at the end of the 10 affirmations it will then count
[05:29:32] the 10 affirmations it will then count you back out to a state of full
[05:29:34] you back out to a state of full awareness the entire process takes 21
[05:29:37] awareness the entire process takes 21 minutes max
[05:29:38] minutes max maximum very simple it's completely
[05:29:41] maximum very simple it's completely harmless you don't have to worry about
[05:29:42] harmless you don't have to worry about it now it's very important with regard
[05:29:44] it now it's very important with regard to this position that you be sitting
[05:29:46] to this position that you be sitting erect some people say well can I do it
[05:29:47] erect some people say well can I do it before I go to sleep but what happens if
[05:29:49] before I go to sleep but what happens if you try to do it in bed or laying down
[05:29:52] you try to do it in bed or laying down is one of two things either you'll fall
[05:29:53] is one of two things either you'll fall asleep and when you fall asleep the
[05:29:55] asleep and when you fall asleep the message stops going into the
[05:29:56] message stops going into the subconscious mind or number two is
[05:29:59] subconscious mind or number two is you'll become so relaxed and refreshed
[05:30:01] you'll become so relaxed and refreshed that you'll wake up and you'll be unable
[05:30:03] that you'll wake up and you'll be unable to sleep the best time to do this is not
[05:30:05] to sleep the best time to do this is not before you go to bed unless of course
[05:30:06] before you go to bed unless of course you're having difficulty sleeping we've
[05:30:08] you're having difficulty sleeping we've had many people who've been going
[05:30:09] had many people who've been going through stressful periods in their life
[05:30:11] through stressful periods in their life who have found that by playing this
[05:30:13] who have found that by playing this sometimes five six seven times a day
[05:30:16] sometimes five six seven times a day they've been able to completely calm
[05:30:17] they've been able to completely calm down get over their insomnia and sleep
[05:30:20] down get over their insomnia and sleep deeply for the first time so number
[05:30:22] deeply for the first time so number seven is do it with no interruptions go
[05:30:25] seven is do it with no interruptions go somewhere where you can play it with
[05:30:27] somewhere where you can play it with where there's no
[05:30:28] where there's no interruptions if you're near near a
[05:30:30] interruptions if you're near near a telephone disconnect the phone or go
[05:30:31] telephone disconnect the phone or go away from the phone there's nothing
[05:30:33] away from the phone there's nothing worse than playing this tape and having
[05:30:35] worse than playing this tape and having a telephone go off in the middle or
[05:30:37] a telephone go off in the middle or having somebody walk skin on you
[05:30:39] having somebody walk skin on you sometimes people say well can I play it
[05:30:40] sometimes people say well can I play it in my car I say yes you can play it in
[05:30:42] in my car I say yes you can play it in your car as long as you drive your car
[05:30:44] your car as long as you drive your car with your eyes closed people say well
[05:30:46] with your eyes closed people say well can I do it when I'm jogging yes if you
[05:30:48] can I do it when I'm jogging yes if you jog with your eyes closed because if
[05:30:50] jog with your eyes closed because if your eyes are open this is critical if
[05:30:52] your eyes are open this is critical if your eyes are open your your eyes are
[05:30:55] your eyes are open your your eyes are bombarded with so much stimulation that
[05:30:57] bombarded with so much stimulation that you do not drop into Alpha so it's
[05:31:00] you do not drop into Alpha so it's important for to remember that remember
[05:31:02] important for to remember that remember no interruptions do it twice a day do it
[05:31:04] no interruptions do it twice a day do it on an empty stomach don't do it after
[05:31:06] on an empty stomach don't do it after drinking anything don't do it after
[05:31:08] drinking anything don't do it after eating anything and uh don't do it after
[05:31:10] eating anything and uh don't do it after smoking anything stronger than a
[05:31:13] smoking anything stronger than a cigarette now what will happen as a
[05:31:15] cigarette now what will happen as a result of this this process takes just
[05:31:17] result of this this process takes just two things it takes discipline which is
[05:31:20] two things it takes discipline which is what most people lack which is what most
[05:31:22] what most people lack which is what most why most people fail and it takes
[05:31:24] why most people fail and it takes repetition it's very
[05:31:26] repetition it's very simple
[05:31:30] repetition what will happen well the
[05:31:33] repetition what will happen well the first time that you use this you will
[05:31:35] first time that you use this you will notice a deep relaxation as a matter of
[05:31:36] notice a deep relaxation as a matter of fact many people have said they've relax
[05:31:38] fact many people have said they've relax more deeply with this tape than with any
[05:31:40] more deeply with this tape than with any other process they ever tried and these
[05:31:41] other process they ever tried and these are people who've tried meditation and
[05:31:43] are people who've tried meditation and tried a lot of other things second of
[05:31:45] tried a lot of other things second of all you will find that in a very short
[05:31:47] all you will find that in a very short period of time about two or 3 days you
[05:31:48] period of time about two or 3 days you will find yourself feeling far calmer
[05:31:51] will find yourself feeling far calmer you feel far more relaxed you feel sort
[05:31:53] you feel far more relaxed you feel sort of good about yourself and you find that
[05:31:55] of good about yourself and you find that your flash point your levels of tension
[05:31:57] your flash point your levels of tension have dropped within a week the people
[05:32:00] have dropped within a week the people around you will know the difference
[05:32:01] around you will know the difference they'll say you're doing something
[05:32:02] they'll say you're doing something different within a month people who only
[05:32:05] different within a month people who only know you marginally will notice that
[05:32:07] know you marginally will notice that there is a difference in your
[05:32:08] there is a difference in your personality a good friend of mine who's
[05:32:10] personality a good friend of mine who's a psychologist pointed out to me that
[05:32:12] a psychologist pointed out to me that the way that he first noticed the effect
[05:32:14] the way that he first noticed the effect of this tape was that he used to get
[05:32:16] of this tape was that he used to get very very tense in traffic he'd be
[05:32:18] very very tense in traffic he'd be driving along in traffic and somebody
[05:32:19] driving along in traffic and somebody would cut him off or he'd be uh stuck in
[05:32:22] would cut him off or he'd be uh stuck in traffic he' get very very angry what he
[05:32:23] traffic he' get very very angry what he would do is he found when he played the
[05:32:26] would do is he found when he played the tape is he didn't get tense anymore he
[05:32:28] tape is he didn't get tense anymore he would just relax and uh found that he
[05:32:32] would just relax and uh found that he might get angry but he' be only angry
[05:32:33] might get angry but he' be only angry for a few seconds and he'd be calm again
[05:32:35] for a few seconds and he'd be calm again so it's very very healthy by the way you
[05:32:37] so it's very very healthy by the way you can cannot play this tape and be a
[05:32:39] can cannot play this tape and be a stressful type of person now how many
[05:32:41] stressful type of person now how many goals can you work on well you make your
[05:32:42] goals can you work on well you make your own tape and you can work on 10 to 15
[05:32:44] own tape and you can work on 10 to 15 goals on your tape when you write out
[05:32:47] goals on your tape when you write out the goals what you do is you repeat at
[05:32:51] the goals what you do is you repeat at the beginning of each goal which is a
[05:32:52] the beginning of each goal which is a positive present tense affirmation you
[05:32:54] positive present tense affirmation you repeat yes I agree or yes that's
[05:33:01] repeat yes I agree or yes that's true what this does is it reinforces the
[05:33:04] true what this does is it reinforces the affirmation and drives it deeper into
[05:33:05] affirmation and drives it deeper into the subconscious for instance you're
[05:33:07] the subconscious for instance you're listening to tape You Close Your Eyes
[05:33:08] listening to tape You Close Your Eyes the tape says you like yourself
[05:33:10] the tape says you like yourself unconditionally you really like yourself
[05:33:12] unconditionally you really like yourself and you say yes that's true yes I agree
[05:33:15] and you say yes that's true yes I agree So when you say that to your mind you're
[05:33:16] So when you say that to your mind you're acknowledging to your subconscious that
[05:33:19] acknowledging to your subconscious that this is a true statement remember in
[05:33:21] this is a true statement remember in affirmations the most powerful effect on
[05:33:23] affirmations the most powerful effect on your subconscious is what you say to
[05:33:25] your subconscious is what you say to yourself and believe if a person were to
[05:33:28] yourself and believe if a person were to say say to you you sure look good today
[05:33:30] say say to you you sure look good today and you say yes I do notice how much
[05:33:32] and you say yes I do notice how much better you would feel about that than if
[05:33:34] better you would feel about that than if you say ah no I don't I I look a little
[05:33:36] you say ah no I don't I I look a little bit ragged so always agree and accept it
[05:33:39] bit ragged so always agree and accept it repeat it the uh number
[05:33:42] repeat it the uh number 11 important point on this is to do it
[05:33:45] 11 important point on this is to do it over and over again until it becomes a
[05:33:47] over and over again until it becomes a habit put your own
[05:33:49] habit put your own affirmations take your own affirmations
[05:33:53] affirmations take your own affirmations with regard to your goals take your for
[05:33:55] with regard to your goals take your for instance if you want to lose weight put
[05:33:57] instance if you want to lose weight put your ideal weight on there if you want
[05:33:58] your ideal weight on there if you want to increase your income put your ideal
[05:34:00] to increase your income put your ideal income on there if you want to change
[05:34:02] income on there if you want to change your temperament put your temper if you
[05:34:04] your temperament put your temper if you want to be a better time manager put
[05:34:06] want to be a better time manager put better time management if you want to be
[05:34:07] better time management if you want to be more creative then put creativity on
[05:34:09] more creative then put creativity on there do you want to have more energy
[05:34:12] there do you want to have more energy then put energy on there do you want to
[05:34:13] then put energy on there do you want to sleep at night then put sleep at night
[05:34:15] sleep at night then put sleep at night on there anything that you desire in
[05:34:18] on there anything that you desire in life you can you can accomplish using
[05:34:21] life you can you can accomplish using this method and using the instructions
[05:34:22] this method and using the instructions that we've given you if you want to make
[05:34:24] that we've given you if you want to make your own tape it's very simple pick a
[05:34:26] your own tape it's very simple pick a piece of relaxing music play it on your
[05:34:28] piece of relaxing music play it on your record player put a cassette on a
[05:34:31] record player put a cassette on a separate cassette rep recorder and with
[05:34:34] separate cassette rep recorder and with the music in the background read the
[05:34:36] the music in the background read the script onto the Cass set program and
[05:34:39] script onto the Cass set program and then read your own affirmations and
[05:34:40] then read your own affirmations and repeat each of them five times if you'll
[05:34:43] repeat each of them five times if you'll do that and then read the whole script
[05:34:44] do that and then read the whole script then you have your own tape and as you
[05:34:46] then you have your own tape and as you achieve your goals what you can do is
[05:34:47] achieve your goals what you can do is make a new tape and make a du tape the
[05:34:49] make a new tape and make a du tape the tape that we Supply you with this
[05:34:51] tape that we Supply you with this program is good enough to last you for a
[05:34:52] program is good enough to last you for a long time because it's been developed
[05:34:54] long time because it's been developed over years of experimenting with other
[05:34:56] over years of experimenting with other people and we find that the 10 goals on
[05:34:58] people and we find that the 10 goals on this tape are the 10 most important if
[05:35:01] this tape are the 10 most important if you use this method of taped affirmation
[05:35:03] you use this method of taped affirmation in a very short period of time you'll
[05:35:05] in a very short period of time you'll notice changes in your life changes in
[05:35:07] notice changes in your life changes in your results changes in your health
[05:35:09] your results changes in your health changes in your temperament changes in
[05:35:11] changes in your temperament changes in your personality and I repeat what I
[05:35:13] your personality and I repeat what I said before I have never set a goal on
[05:35:16] said before I have never set a goal on taped affirmation that I have not
[05:35:18] taped affirmation that I have not accomplished exactly at the right time
[05:35:20] accomplished exactly at the right time exactly in the right way and it will
[05:35:22] exactly in the right way and it will work for you as it has worked for me
[05:35:25] work for you as it has worked for me good luck
[05:35:41] [Music]
[05:35:46] Brian Tracy
[05:35:50] present
[05:35:52] present [Music]
[05:36:01] [Music] Phoenix session 15 five keys to goal
[05:36:04] Phoenix session 15 five keys to goal setting we started this seminar asking
[05:36:07] setting we started this seminar asking the question why is it that some people
[05:36:09] the question why is it that some people are more successful than others and a
[05:36:11] are more successful than others and a friend of mine who's been working in
[05:36:12] friend of mine who's been working in this industry for many years told me a
[05:36:13] this industry for many years told me a story that I think you'll enjoy and
[05:36:15] story that I think you'll enjoy and which I found very relevant he said that
[05:36:17] which I found very relevant he said that he invited as the Deacon of his church
[05:36:20] he invited as the Deacon of his church he invited a Jewish gentleman to come to
[05:36:22] he invited a Jewish gentleman to come to his church Christian church and speak to
[05:36:25] his church Christian church and speak to the congregation on comparative religion
[05:36:27] the congregation on comparative religion how the Jewish religion compared with
[05:36:29] how the Jewish religion compared with the Christian religion well the Jewish
[05:36:30] the Christian religion well the Jewish gentleman came after several weeks and
[05:36:32] gentleman came after several weeks and he stood up and he began his talk and he
[05:36:34] he stood up and he began his talk and he said ladies and gentlemen he said I've
[05:36:35] said ladies and gentlemen he said I've examined your books and I've examined
[05:36:37] examined your books and I've examined our books he said I've examined your
[05:36:38] our books he said I've examined your basic teachings and I've examined our
[05:36:40] basic teachings and I've examined our basic teachings and I've come to this
[05:36:42] basic teachings and I've come to this conclusion he
[05:36:44] conclusion he said the Bible and the talmud and all of
[05:36:47] said the Bible and the talmud and all of our books say that the two great rules
[05:36:50] our books say that the two great rules of Life are to love God and to love your
[05:36:53] of Life are to love God and to love your neighbor as yourself he said ladies and
[05:36:55] neighbor as yourself he said ladies and gentlemen all else is
[05:36:58] gentlemen all else is commentary all else is commentary he
[05:37:01] commentary all else is commentary he said we've been working in the field of
[05:37:03] said we've been working in the field of success for 25 years and we sat down
[05:37:04] success for 25 years and we sat down around the table not too long ago and we
[05:37:06] around the table not too long ago and we said what is SU success what are the
[05:37:08] said what is SU success what are the determinants of success and the
[05:37:10] determinants of success and the unanimous conclusion was simply this
[05:37:13] unanimous conclusion was simply this ladies and gentlemen success is goals
[05:37:16] ladies and gentlemen success is goals and all else is commentary success is
[05:37:19] and all else is commentary success is goals and all else is commentary and I
[05:37:23] goals and all else is commentary and I don't think there's anything that you'll
[05:37:25] don't think there's anything that you'll ever learn that is truer than that
[05:37:26] ever learn that is truer than that during the course of this seminar we've
[05:37:28] during the course of this seminar we've talked about many different laws The Law
[05:37:29] talked about many different laws The Law of Attraction law of Correspondence law
[05:37:31] of Attraction law of Correspondence law of belief expectation and so on but you
[05:37:33] of belief expectation and so on but you find that the only way to utilize all of
[05:37:36] find that the only way to utilize all of those laws or the easiest way to utilize
[05:37:38] those laws or the easiest way to utilize all of those laws is just to Simply set
[05:37:40] all of those laws is just to Simply set a goal when you set a goal what do you
[05:37:42] a goal when you set a goal what do you believe in a goal what do you expect to
[05:37:44] believe in a goal what do you expect to happen a goal what do you attract into
[05:37:46] happen a goal what do you attract into your life people and circumstances in
[05:37:48] your life people and circumstances in harmony with your goal uh What uh does
[05:37:50] harmony with your goal uh What uh does the law of Correspondence affect your
[05:37:52] the law of Correspondence affect your outer world will harmonize with your
[05:37:54] outer world will harmonize with your inner world with your goal what do you
[05:37:56] inner world with your goal what do you concentrate on your goal what do you
[05:37:57] concentrate on your goal what do you plan in your subconscious your goal what
[05:37:58] plan in your subconscious your goal what do you use for the law of substitution a
[05:38:01] do you use for the law of substitution a goal a goal makes it possible for you to
[05:38:05] goal a goal makes it possible for you to bring to bear all the laws of the
[05:38:07] bring to bear all the laws of the Universe to help to make you successful
[05:38:10] Universe to help to make you successful without even thinking about any of the
[05:38:12] without even thinking about any of the laws that's why in every single study of
[05:38:14] laws that's why in every single study of successful men and women you find
[05:38:16] successful men and women you find intense goal orientation and yet even
[05:38:19] intense goal orientation and yet even knowing that even knowing that success
[05:38:21] knowing that even knowing that success is dependent upon goals crucial uh
[05:38:24] is dependent upon goals crucial uh crucially dependent upon goals we find
[05:38:26] crucially dependent upon goals we find that less than 5% of the population have
[05:38:29] that less than 5% of the population have goals at all I once wrote a paper or
[05:38:33] goals at all I once wrote a paper or article for a newspaper and the quote
[05:38:36] article for a newspaper and the quote they pulled out of the newspaper was
[05:38:38] they pulled out of the newspaper was those who do not have goals are
[05:38:39] those who do not have goals are condemned forever to work for those who
[05:38:41] condemned forever to work for those who do if you don't have goals for your life
[05:38:43] do if you don't have goals for your life you are condemned forever to help other
[05:38:45] you are condemned forever to help other people achieve their goals in fact in
[05:38:47] people achieve their goals in fact in 1953 one of the famous studies in 1953
[05:38:51] 1953 one of the famous studies in 1953 at y University they did a survey
[05:38:53] at y University they did a survey amongst the graduating class of seniors
[05:38:55] amongst the graduating class of seniors and they asked them amongst other
[05:38:57] and they asked them amongst other questions do you have goals and have you
[05:38:59] questions do you have goals and have you made plans for their accomplishment they
[05:39:00] made plans for their accomplishment they found that only 3% of the graduating
[05:39:02] found that only 3% of the graduating seniors of one of the most favored
[05:39:03] seniors of one of the most favored classes that ever graduated from an i
[05:39:05] classes that ever graduated from an i League college in America had goals well
[05:39:08] League college in America had goals well they went back in 1973 20 years later
[05:39:11] they went back in 1973 20 years later and they asked them amongst other things
[05:39:13] and they asked them amongst other things how much money are you worth today
[05:39:15] how much money are you worth today versus how much you were worth in 197
[05:39:17] versus how much you were worth in 197 1953 and they found that the 3% who had
[05:39:20] 1953 and they found that the 3% who had set goals at the beginning of their
[05:39:22] set goals at the beginning of their careers were worth more in financial
[05:39:25] careers were worth more in financial terms than the entire other 97% put
[05:39:28] terms than the entire other 97% put together now this is a phenomenal
[05:39:31] together now this is a phenomenal accomplishment but it is not unusual as
[05:39:33] accomplishment but it is not unusual as a matter of fact every statistic that
[05:39:35] a matter of fact every statistic that I've looked at in studying goal setting
[05:39:36] I've looked at in studying goal setting and I have been a atic on the subject of
[05:39:38] and I have been a atic on the subject of goal setting for years shows that only
[05:39:40] goal setting for years shows that only 3% one in 30 has clear specific written
[05:39:44] 3% one in 30 has clear specific written goals with action plans for their
[05:39:46] goals with action plans for their accomplishment now let me say this is
[05:39:49] accomplishment now let me say this is that the ability to set goals and the
[05:39:51] that the ability to set goals and the ability to make action plans for their
[05:39:53] ability to make action plans for their accomplishment is the master skill of
[05:39:55] accomplishment is the master skill of success it is the master skill it is the
[05:39:59] success it is the master skill it is the most important single skill that you can
[05:40:01] most important single skill that you can ever learn and through the course of
[05:40:02] ever learn and through the course of what we're going to talk about now if
[05:40:04] what we're going to talk about now if you can learn to set and accomplish one
[05:40:06] you can learn to set and accomplish one major goal it can be the most important
[05:40:08] major goal it can be the most important thing that you ever discover more
[05:40:09] thing that you ever discover more important than math more important than
[05:40:11] important than math more important than science more important than computer
[05:40:13] science more important than computer technology more important than sales
[05:40:14] technology more important than sales skills is the ability to set goals
[05:40:17] skills is the ability to set goals because once you have set goals you
[05:40:19] because once you have set goals you trigger into Force what is called the
[05:40:21] trigger into Force what is called the cybernetic goal seeking mechanism of the
[05:40:25] cybernetic goal seeking mechanism of the brain the cybernetic goal-seeking
[05:40:27] brain the cybernetic goal-seeking mechanism is this mechanism that once
[05:40:28] mechanism is this mechanism that once you've programmed the brain or impressed
[05:40:31] you've programmed the brain or impressed the brain into your subconscious you
[05:40:33] the brain into your subconscious you tend to move automatically and uniring
[05:40:36] tend to move automatically and uniring toward the goal and the goal tends to
[05:40:38] toward the goal and the goal tends to move toward you it's almost as if you
[05:40:40] move toward you it's almost as if you set into motion a whole series of cosmic
[05:40:42] set into motion a whole series of cosmic forces that cause you to move uniring
[05:40:45] forces that cause you to move uniring even though you do not know where the
[05:40:46] even though you do not know where the goal is and we'll talk about that uh and
[05:40:48] goal is and we'll talk about that uh and why that works a little bit later it is
[05:40:50] why that works a little bit later it is to say that within you is a mechanism
[05:40:53] to say that within you is a mechanism that will lead you unerringly toward
[05:40:55] that will lead you unerringly toward what you want to accomplish as long as
[05:40:57] what you want to accomplish as long as you know what it is the great HL hunt
[05:40:59] you know what it is the great HL hunt the oil billionaire was asked his
[05:41:01] the oil billionaire was asked his secrets of success on a television
[05:41:03] secrets of success on a television program some years ago and he said
[05:41:05] program some years ago and he said there's only two things you need to know
[05:41:06] there's only two things you need to know to be successful he said number one he
[05:41:08] to be successful he said number one he said decide exactly what you want he
[05:41:10] said decide exactly what you want he said number two determine the price
[05:41:12] said number two determine the price you're going to have to pay and then
[05:41:14] you're going to have to pay and then resolve to pay that price but the
[05:41:16] resolve to pay that price but the problem is that most people don't know
[05:41:18] problem is that most people don't know what they want in our civilization in
[05:41:21] what they want in our civilization in our society you can have anything that
[05:41:23] our society you can have anything that you want in life but 95% of the
[05:41:26] you want in life but 95% of the population has either a vague idea of
[05:41:28] population has either a vague idea of what they want or no idea at all and by
[05:41:32] what they want or no idea at all and by the time this session is over I'm sure
[05:41:33] the time this session is over I'm sure that will be changed a little bit for
[05:41:35] that will be changed a little bit for you setting goals is the master skill of
[05:41:37] you setting goals is the master skill of success I think that goal setting should
[05:41:39] success I think that goal setting should be taught in kindergarten and first
[05:41:41] be taught in kindergarten and first grade and second grade right up to every
[05:41:43] grade and second grade right up to every single year of school there should be
[05:41:45] single year of school there should be some module and some process of teaching
[05:41:49] some module and some process of teaching young people to set goals it would
[05:41:50] young people to set goals it would guarantee greater success faster and
[05:41:53] guarantee greater success faster and easier in life than any other single
[05:41:55] easier in life than any other single skill that a person can develop no
[05:41:56] skill that a person can develop no matter how old you are no matter where
[05:41:58] matter how old you are no matter where you are today the sooner you learn to
[05:42:00] you are today the sooner you learn to develop the master skill of success by
[05:42:02] develop the master skill of success by practice and repetition over and over
[05:42:04] practice and repetition over and over again until you become completely
[05:42:07] again until you become completely focused as a goal achieving human being
[05:42:09] focused as a goal achieving human being the sooner you learn it the faster you
[05:42:11] the sooner you learn it the faster you will accomplish great things in your
[05:42:12] will accomplish great things in your life now an interesting point each of us
[05:42:14] life now an interesting point each of us has what we call a failure mechanism in
[05:42:17] has what we call a failure mechanism in life the failure
[05:42:20] life the failure mechanism goes off automatically the
[05:42:23] mechanism goes off automatically the vast majority of people fail to live up
[05:42:25] vast majority of people fail to live up to their potential they fail to become
[05:42:26] to their potential they fail to become everything they're capable of becoming
[05:42:28] everything they're capable of becoming over 80% and the failure mechanism is
[05:42:31] over 80% and the failure mechanism is what we call the comfort zone it's the
[05:42:34] what we call the comfort zone it's the tendency to fall into a comfort zone to
[05:42:36] tendency to fall into a comfort zone to do what is easy not to to avoid making
[05:42:39] do what is easy not to to avoid making the efforts necessary to succeed now
[05:42:41] the efforts necessary to succeed now this failure mechanism goes off
[05:42:42] this failure mechanism goes off automatically from the time we are
[05:42:44] automatically from the time we are infants we talked earlier about the
[05:42:45] infants we talked earlier about the Pleasure Principle we always move toward
[05:42:47] Pleasure Principle we always move toward what is pleasurable what is easy what is
[05:42:50] what is pleasurable what is easy what is fun what is enjoyable and we move away
[05:42:52] fun what is enjoyable and we move away from what is uncomfortable what is
[05:42:54] from what is uncomfortable what is difficult what requires discipline what
[05:42:56] difficult what requires discipline what requires effort and so on however the
[05:42:58] requires effort and so on however the only way to override this failure
[05:43:00] only way to override this failure mechanism is by activating your success
[05:43:04] mechanism is by activating your success mechanism and your success mechanism is
[05:43:07] mechanism and your success mechanism is triggered by a goal whenever you write
[05:43:10] triggered by a goal whenever you write out a goal you override the failure
[05:43:13] out a goal you override the failure mechanism whenever you think about a
[05:43:14] mechanism whenever you think about a goal you override the failure mechanism
[05:43:16] goal you override the failure mechanism you see when you set a goal it releases
[05:43:19] you see when you set a goal it releases positive energy it builds up drive and
[05:43:22] positive energy it builds up drive and desire it gives you persistence it gives
[05:43:24] desire it gives you persistence it gives you Clarity of thought it gives you
[05:43:26] you Clarity of thought it gives you intensity of purpose and it moves you
[05:43:28] intensity of purpose and it moves you forward toward your objective the only
[05:43:31] forward toward your objective the only way you can break out of the comfort
[05:43:32] way you can break out of the comfort zone is by setting goals that are
[05:43:34] zone is by setting goals that are progressively higher than anything that
[05:43:36] progressively higher than anything that you've accomplished and all leaders in
[05:43:38] you've accomplished and all leaders in every study that I've looked at in the
[05:43:39] every study that I've looked at in the last few years make a habit a conscious
[05:43:42] last few years make a habit a conscious habit of not getting stuck in a comfort
[05:43:44] habit of not getting stuck in a comfort zone they're always aware natural
[05:43:47] zone they're always aware natural tendency is to slide to take it easy so
[05:43:49] tendency is to slide to take it easy so they're always setting goals that are
[05:43:51] they're always setting goals that are just a little bit higher than they've
[05:43:53] just a little bit higher than they've ever accomplished before they're always
[05:43:54] ever accomplished before they're always striving always reaching out beyond
[05:43:57] striving always reaching out beyond anything they've done before and that's
[05:43:58] anything they've done before and that's what keeps them growing that keeps them
[05:44:00] what keeps them growing that keeps them alive it keeps them alert it keeps them
[05:44:03] alive it keeps them alert it keeps them bright and it keeps them successful now
[05:44:06] bright and it keeps them successful now we know by the way that achieving goals
[05:44:10] we know by the way that achieving goals is automatic you have this cybernetic
[05:44:12] is automatic you have this cybernetic mechanism that once you've programmed a
[05:44:14] mechanism that once you've programmed a goal into your mind you go off toward it
[05:44:16] goal into your mind you go off toward it automatically the problem is not in
[05:44:18] automatically the problem is not in achieving in achieving goals as human
[05:44:20] achieving in achieving goals as human beings you are a goal achieving organism
[05:44:22] beings you are a goal achieving organism the only time you're happy is when you
[05:44:23] the only time you're happy is when you have a goal the only time that you are
[05:44:25] have a goal the only time that you are fully Alive is when you're working
[05:44:27] fully Alive is when you're working towards something that's really
[05:44:27] towards something that's really important to you to you you need that
[05:44:30] important to you to you you need that sense of meaning and purpose that sense
[05:44:31] sense of meaning and purpose that sense of direction that sense of significance
[05:44:34] of direction that sense of significance in your life the question is not why is
[05:44:36] in your life the question is not why is it that people don't achieve goals
[05:44:37] it that people don't achieve goals because achieving goals is automatic the
[05:44:40] because achieving goals is automatic the question is why is it that people don't
[05:44:41] question is why is it that people don't set goals now I've heard for years
[05:44:44] set goals now I've heard for years before I began working in this subject
[05:44:46] before I began working in this subject you're supposed to set goals you're
[05:44:46] you're supposed to set goals you're supposed to set goals and yet I talked
[05:44:48] supposed to set goals and yet I talked to people who read the books and taken
[05:44:50] to people who read the books and taken the course they said do you have written
[05:44:51] the course they said do you have written goals they don't have any written goals
[05:44:53] goals they don't have any written goals so I began to look into the psychology
[05:44:55] so I began to look into the psychology of goal setting and I found that there
[05:44:57] of goal setting and I found that there are four major reasons why people don't
[05:44:59] are four major reasons why people don't set goals even though they know they
[05:45:01] set goals even though they know they should they know they're important
[05:45:03] should they know they're important they've been told over and over again
[05:45:05] they've been told over and over again four major reasons until you understand
[05:45:07] four major reasons until you understand these four reasons and how they work on
[05:45:09] these four reasons and how they work on you unconsciously we can't go on to the
[05:45:11] you unconsciously we can't go on to the next step so let's talk about them why
[05:45:13] next step so let's talk about them why don't people set goals number one reason
[05:45:15] don't people set goals number one reason why people don't set goals is they don't
[05:45:18] why people don't set goals is they don't realize the importance of
[05:45:20] realize the importance of goals they don't realize the importance
[05:45:23] goals they don't realize the importance of
[05:45:25] goals now what does this mean well it
[05:45:27] goals now what does this mean well it means that you and I are the products of
[05:45:30] means that you and I are the products of our upbringing you and I are the
[05:45:31] our upbringing you and I are the products of uh our parental influences
[05:45:33] products of uh our parental influences our brothers or sisters our friends or
[05:45:35] our brothers or sisters our friends or family and so on if you you grew up in a
[05:45:37] family and so on if you you grew up in a home where your parents did not
[05:45:39] home where your parents did not emphasize goals did not talk about goals
[05:45:43] emphasize goals did not talk about goals did not encourage you to set goals at an
[05:45:45] did not encourage you to set goals at an early age do you know what happens is
[05:45:47] early age do you know what happens is that you can grow up and you can become
[05:45:48] that you can grow up and you can become an adult and you cannot even be aware
[05:45:50] an adult and you cannot even be aware that there's such a thing as goals out
[05:45:51] that there's such a thing as goals out there in the studies on who gets ahead
[05:45:53] there in the studies on who gets ahead in America they found an interesting
[05:45:55] in America they found an interesting thing they found that the conversation
[05:45:57] thing they found that the conversation around the family dinner table is a
[05:45:58] around the family dinner table is a major determinant of the character of
[05:46:01] major determinant of the character of the children who grow and come out of
[05:46:02] the children who grow and come out of that home that if the conversation
[05:46:04] that home that if the conversation around the dinner table is achievement
[05:46:06] around the dinner table is achievement oriented success oriented goal oriented
[05:46:09] oriented success oriented goal oriented then young people will grow up believing
[05:46:12] then young people will grow up believing and working toward goals as naturally as
[05:46:14] and working toward goals as naturally as they eat with a knife and fork or wash
[05:46:15] they eat with a knife and fork or wash their hands after dinner so people don't
[05:46:18] their hands after dinner so people don't realize the importance of goal setting
[05:46:20] realize the importance of goal setting please understand that goal setting is
[05:46:21] please understand that goal setting is critical it is the vital skill of
[05:46:23] critical it is the vital skill of success and the kindest thing that a
[05:46:25] success and the kindest thing that a person could ever do for their children
[05:46:27] person could ever do for their children is to help them set worthwhile and
[05:46:29] is to help them set worthwhile and realistic goals from an early age and
[05:46:31] realistic goals from an early age and then give them all the encouragement
[05:46:32] then give them all the encouragement possible to accomplish those goals
[05:46:35] possible to accomplish those goals second reason why people don't set goals
[05:46:37] second reason why people don't set goals see if this applies to you is they don't
[05:46:39] see if this applies to you is they don't know
[05:46:40] know how surprisingly enough and when I
[05:46:43] how surprisingly enough and when I started studying this subject I found
[05:46:45] started studying this subject I found that everybody said to set goals very
[05:46:47] that everybody said to set goals very important to set goals got to set goals
[05:46:49] important to set goals got to set goals got to have goals got to put a timeline
[05:46:51] got to have goals got to put a timeline on goals but the fact is that there were
[05:46:54] on goals but the fact is that there were no really good goal setting
[05:46:56] no really good goal setting methodologies and in this course I'm
[05:46:58] methodologies and in this course I'm going to teach you a goal setting
[05:46:59] going to teach you a goal setting methodology that is absolute Dynamite
[05:47:02] methodology that is absolute Dynamite considered one of the best goal setting
[05:47:04] considered one of the best goal setting methodologies anybody's ever seen But if
[05:47:06] methodologies anybody's ever seen But if you don't know how to set goals I can
[05:47:07] you don't know how to set goals I can tell you how to set goals to tell you
[05:47:09] tell you how to set goals to tell you two set goals all day and it wouldn't do
[05:47:10] two set goals all day and it wouldn't do you any good you can go through 12 to 15
[05:47:13] you any good you can go through 12 to 15 years of school in our society and never
[05:47:16] years of school in our society and never get one hour on goal setting imagine 12
[05:47:19] get one hour on goal setting imagine 12 to 15 years I've taken a postgraduate
[05:47:22] to 15 years I've taken a postgraduate degree in Business from a major
[05:47:24] degree in Business from a major university and never once did they spend
[05:47:26] university and never once did they spend one hour talking about how to set and
[05:47:29] one hour talking about how to set and Achieve goals never once did they
[05:47:31] Achieve goals never once did they discuss the master skill of success well
[05:47:33] discuss the master skill of success well after this course you're going to know
[05:47:35] after this course you're going to know how to set goals so that won't be a
[05:47:37] how to set goals so that won't be a problem now the third reason why people
[05:47:38] problem now the third reason why people don't set goals and this is in order of
[05:47:40] don't set goals and this is in order of increasing importance is fear of
[05:47:43] increasing importance is fear of rejection the fear of rejections we
[05:47:45] rejection the fear of rejections we talked about before one of the most
[05:47:48] talked about before one of the most profound and Powerful fears in our life
[05:47:50] profound and Powerful fears in our life is the fear of being criticized or
[05:47:53] is the fear of being criticized or ridiculed by other people and every one
[05:47:55] ridiculed by other people and every one of us as children When We Were Young we
[05:47:58] of us as children When We Were Young we said I want to do this I want to be a
[05:47:59] said I want to do this I want to be a fireman I want to go here I want to go
[05:48:01] fireman I want to go here I want to go there and we had somebody say a that's
[05:48:03] there and we had somebody say a that's stupid or you can't accomplish that or
[05:48:05] stupid or you can't accomplish that or or don't be silly or you're too small
[05:48:07] or don't be silly or you're too small and so on and what we learned at a very
[05:48:09] and so on and what we learned at a very early age is that if we talked about a
[05:48:11] early age is that if we talked about a goal or something that we wanted that
[05:48:13] goal or something that we wanted that was bigger than we were the most
[05:48:15] was bigger than we were the most important people in our lives would
[05:48:17] important people in our lives would ridicule us and would criticize us and
[05:48:19] ridicule us and would criticize us and make us feel bad and small so
[05:48:21] make us feel bad and small so unconsciously we made a decision if you
[05:48:23] unconsciously we made a decision if you want to get along you've got to go along
[05:48:26] want to get along you've got to go along so we don't talk about our goals that
[05:48:28] so we don't talk about our goals that way nobody criticizes us now as adults
[05:48:31] way nobody criticizes us now as adults we fall into the trap an unconscious
[05:48:33] we fall into the trap an unconscious habit we fall into the Trap of not
[05:48:35] habit we fall into the Trap of not setting goals at all and not talking
[05:48:37] setting goals at all and not talking about goals and not thinking about goals
[05:48:38] about goals and not thinking about goals can then nobody can criticize you and I
[05:48:40] can then nobody can criticize you and I will tell you this that 80 90% of the
[05:48:41] will tell you this that 80 90% of the people around you if you decide you're
[05:48:44] people around you if you decide you're going to do anything from finding a new
[05:48:46] going to do anything from finding a new parking spot to finding a new job or a
[05:48:48] parking spot to finding a new job or a new marriage they will tell you that it
[05:48:50] new marriage they will tell you that it can't be done they'll tell you all the
[05:48:52] can't be done they'll tell you all the reasons and they'll line them up and
[05:48:54] reasons and they'll line them up and they'll try to discourage you from doing
[05:48:56] they'll try to discourage you from doing anything different than you're doing so
[05:48:57] anything different than you're doing so here's the key keep your goals
[05:49:01] here's the key keep your goals confidential keep goals confidential
[05:49:05] confidential keep goals confidential don't discuss your goals with anybody
[05:49:06] don't discuss your goals with anybody body except that the great majority of
[05:49:09] body except that the great majority of people are threatened by anybody who has
[05:49:11] people are threatened by anybody who has a goal they're worried that makes it
[05:49:13] a goal they're worried that makes it makes them feel inferior and inadequate
[05:49:15] makes them feel inferior and inadequate because they don't have goals of their
[05:49:16] because they don't have goals of their own so only discuss your goals with
[05:49:19] own so only discuss your goals with people who also have goals of their own
[05:49:21] people who also have goals of their own discuss them with the people close to
[05:49:23] discuss them with the people close to you whose help you need to accomplish
[05:49:24] you whose help you need to accomplish them but just don't discuss your goals
[05:49:26] them but just don't discuss your goals with people at random and don't give
[05:49:28] with people at random and don't give them a chance to shoot the goals down
[05:49:30] them a chance to shoot the goals down now the
[05:49:31] now the fourth reason why people don't set goals
[05:49:34] fourth reason why people don't set goals this is the top of the list this is the
[05:49:36] this is the top of the list this is the worst of all it's our old friend our old
[05:49:38] worst of all it's our old friend our old enemy if you like fear of
[05:49:43] failure the fear of failure is the
[05:49:46] failure the fear of failure is the number one reason why people fail in
[05:49:48] number one reason why people fail in adult life the fear of failure the fear
[05:49:50] adult life the fear of failure the fear that I can't I might lose my money I
[05:49:53] that I can't I might lose my money I might lose my time I might lose my
[05:49:55] might lose my time I might lose my investment I can't I can't it causes us
[05:49:58] investment I can't I can't it causes us to get become tense and stressed it
[05:50:00] to get become tense and stressed it causes our heart to pound and our
[05:50:01] causes our heart to pound and our stomach to turn this fear of failure is
[05:50:04] stomach to turn this fear of failure is the number one reason why people
[05:50:05] the number one reason why people underachieve and fail life is because
[05:50:07] underachieve and fail life is because the fear of failure holds them back from
[05:50:09] the fear of failure holds them back from ever trying the reason why people fear
[05:50:12] ever trying the reason why people fear failure is they don't understand failure
[05:50:14] failure is they don't understand failure they don't understand this critical
[05:50:16] they don't understand this critical point if you can understand this point
[05:50:17] point if you can understand this point it can turn your whole attitude around
[05:50:19] it can turn your whole attitude around it's simply this is that it's impossible
[05:50:21] it's simply this is that it's impossible to succeed without failing that failure
[05:50:25] to succeed without failing that failure is an indispensable part of success
[05:50:28] is an indispensable part of success failure is essential to success that if
[05:50:31] failure is essential to success that if you avoid failing you cannot succeed
[05:50:34] you avoid failing you cannot succeed that every single great success in in
[05:50:36] that every single great success in in human history has been a failure up
[05:50:39] human history has been a failure up until the moment of their success that
[05:50:41] until the moment of their success that the key to success is to fail and fail
[05:50:44] the key to success is to fail and fail in a forward direction is to continue to
[05:50:46] in a forward direction is to continue to learn from everything that goes wrong to
[05:50:48] learn from everything that goes wrong to every setep back every obstacle every
[05:50:50] every setep back every obstacle every disappointment step back and say what
[05:50:53] disappointment step back and say what can I learn from this situation use the
[05:50:55] can I learn from this situation use the law of substitution and derive a
[05:50:58] law of substitution and derive a valuable lesson from every single
[05:51:01] valuable lesson from every single failure remember we talked about U the
[05:51:04] failure remember we talked about U the becoming an inverse paranoid confident
[05:51:06] becoming an inverse paranoid confident expectations every time something goes
[05:51:08] expectations every time something goes wrong look into it and say now I wonder
[05:51:10] wrong look into it and say now I wonder why this is happening to help me and
[05:51:13] why this is happening to help me and you'll find that in every single setback
[05:51:15] you'll find that in every single setback or disadvantage as Napoleon Hill said in
[05:51:17] or disadvantage as Napoleon Hill said in his book there's a valuable lesson an
[05:51:19] his book there's a valuable lesson an opportunity or a benefit that you can
[05:51:21] opportunity or a benefit that you can find if you look for it that successful
[05:51:24] find if you look for it that successful people leaders are people who never use
[05:51:26] people leaders are people who never use the word failure they never think of the
[05:51:28] the word failure they never think of the word failure Thomas J Watson the founder
[05:51:30] word failure Thomas J Watson the founder of IBM was once asked by a young man he
[05:51:32] of IBM was once asked by a young man he said Mr Watson what can I do to be more
[05:51:35] said Mr Watson what can I do to be more successful and Watson said without
[05:51:36] successful and Watson said without hesitating he said double your failure
[05:51:39] hesitating he said double your failure rate double your failure rate why it's
[05:51:44] rate double your failure rate why it's because let me put this down it's
[05:51:47] because let me put this down it's because if you look at the life stories
[05:51:50] because if you look at the life stories of successful men and women if you look
[05:51:52] of successful men and women if you look at the life story of a person like
[05:51:55] at the life story of a person like Thomas Edison one of the greatest
[05:51:57] Thomas Edison one of the greatest failures in history Thomas Edison in the
[05:51:59] failures in history Thomas Edison in the course of his lifetime patented 1,052
[05:52:02] course of his lifetime patented 1,052 devices at the US patent office over a
[05:52:04] devices at the US patent office over a thousand of those devices were actually
[05:52:06] thousand of those devices were actually turned into commercial products that
[05:52:08] turned into commercial products that made enormous amounts of money Watson or
[05:52:11] made enormous amounts of money Watson or Edison was also the greatest failure in
[05:52:13] Edison was also the greatest failure in the history of invention he failed
[05:52:15] the history of invention he failed 177,000 times to come up with a plant
[05:52:18] 177,000 times to come up with a plant that from
[05:52:20] that from which from which natural latex could be
[05:52:22] which from which natural latex could be drawn he failed thousands of times in
[05:52:24] drawn he failed thousands of times in other experiments failed over 11,000
[05:52:27] other experiments failed over 11,000 times in his attempt to come up with a
[05:52:28] times in his attempt to come up with a filament for the electric light bulb
[05:52:30] filament for the electric light bulb after he had failed 5,000 times and it
[05:52:32] after he had failed 5,000 times and it was in the newspaper it was called
[05:52:34] was in the newspaper it was called Edison's Folly this attempt to somehow
[05:52:37] Edison's Folly this attempt to somehow light the world with an incandescent
[05:52:38] light the world with an incandescent light bulb everybody knew the world
[05:52:40] light bulb everybody knew the world people were supposed to light their way
[05:52:41] people were supposed to light their way through the world with a kerosene
[05:52:43] through the world with a kerosene lantern reporter came to him young
[05:52:45] lantern reporter came to him young reporter said Mr Edison why do you
[05:52:46] reporter said Mr Edison why do you persist in spending all of this time and
[05:52:48] persist in spending all of this time and money after you failed 5,000 times and
[05:52:51] money after you failed 5,000 times and it said young man he said you don't
[05:52:53] it said young man he said you don't understand how the world Works he said I
[05:52:55] understand how the world Works he said I haven't failed at all he said I've just
[05:52:56] haven't failed at all he said I've just successfully discovered 5,000 ways that
[05:52:58] successfully discovered 5,000 ways that will not work he said that puts me just
[05:53:00] will not work he said that puts me just 5,000 ways closer to the way that will
[05:53:03] 5,000 ways closer to the way that will work it was over 11,000 experiments
[05:53:06] work it was over 11,000 experiments before he found the tungsten or the
[05:53:08] before he found the tungsten or the carbon impregnated impregnated filament
[05:53:11] carbon impregnated impregnated filament that Lit the first electric light bulb
[05:53:13] that Lit the first electric light bulb and changed the world Colonel Sanders
[05:53:15] and changed the world Colonel Sanders went to over a thousand restaurants a
[05:53:17] went to over a thousand restaurants a 66y old man went to over a thousand
[05:53:20] 66y old man went to over a thousand restaurants to try to sell his recipe
[05:53:22] restaurants to try to sell his recipe initially before he found one restaurant
[05:53:25] initially before he found one restaurant that would pay him a 5cent a chicken
[05:53:27] that would pay him a 5cent a chicken royalty but he kept on would you keep on
[05:53:30] royalty but he kept on would you keep on after 100 200 500 a thousand people had
[05:53:34] after 100 200 500 a thousand people had told you no Sanders did and became one
[05:53:37] told you no Sanders did and became one of the richest and most well-known and
[05:53:39] of the richest and most well-known and well most respected men in America so
[05:53:41] well most respected men in America so you have to understand that success and
[05:53:43] you have to understand that success and failure go handin hand that wherever
[05:53:45] failure go handin hand that wherever there's is a possibility for Success
[05:53:47] there's is a possibility for Success there's also the possibility for failure
[05:53:49] there's also the possibility for failure there is nothing wrong with failing as
[05:53:50] there is nothing wrong with failing as long as you learn from every lesson and
[05:53:53] long as you learn from every lesson and remember if you have a certain number of
[05:53:55] remember if you have a certain number of failures that you have to go through in
[05:53:56] failures that you have to go through in order to learn the lessons and gain the
[05:53:58] order to learn the lessons and gain the experience in order to achieve your
[05:54:00] experience in order to achieve your great success the sooner you do it the
[05:54:02] great success the sooner you do it the faster you get on with it the more
[05:54:03] faster you get on with it the more mistakes you make the more times you
[05:54:05] mistakes you make the more times you fall on your face and pick your up and
[05:54:06] fall on your face and pick your up and learn from it the faster you're going to
[05:54:08] learn from it the faster you're going to achieve what you're capable of achieving
[05:54:11] achieve what you're capable of achieving all right this brings us to the second
[05:54:13] all right this brings us to the second part of goal setting and these are what
[05:54:15] part of goal setting and these are what I call the five Keys now these five keys
[05:54:18] I call the five Keys now these five keys are five key parts of the process of
[05:54:21] are five key parts of the process of goal setting for you to keep in mind on
[05:54:23] goal setting for you to keep in mind on a regular basis the first key part
[05:54:25] a regular basis the first key part number one is this is that the scariest
[05:54:28] number one is this is that the scariest thing in human life today is change we
[05:54:31] thing in human life today is change we know however that change is inevitable
[05:54:33] know however that change is inevitable that change is a part of progress that
[05:54:35] that change is a part of progress that there's no progress without change that
[05:54:37] there's no progress without change that your life cannot even improve with
[05:54:39] your life cannot even improve with change we know that change is scary and
[05:54:42] change we know that change is scary and there's a natural tendency what we call
[05:54:44] there's a natural tendency what we call homeostasis there's a natural tendency
[05:54:46] homeostasis there's a natural tendency for people to resist change to to to
[05:54:48] for people to resist change to to to push it back to to avoid it to dig in
[05:54:51] push it back to to avoid it to dig in their heels to get into that comfort
[05:54:52] their heels to get into that comfort zone and as I've said before the comfort
[05:54:54] zone and as I've said before the comfort zone is the greatest single enemy of
[05:54:56] zone is the greatest single enemy of human potential change is scary unless
[05:55:00] human potential change is scary unless it is goal directed unless it is goal
[05:55:05] it is goal directed unless it is goal directed and this this is the key is
[05:55:07] directed and this this is the key is that we can overcome this persistent
[05:55:10] that we can overcome this persistent unconscious fear of Change by one simple
[05:55:13] unconscious fear of Change by one simple technique is by taking control of it
[05:55:15] technique is by taking control of it remember we said that the law of control
[05:55:18] remember we said that the law of control is the critical law of human Harmony
[05:55:19] is the critical law of human Harmony that you only feel positive about
[05:55:21] that you only feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel
[05:55:23] yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life well
[05:55:25] you are in control of your own life well goals allow us to control the direction
[05:55:28] goals allow us to control the direction of change we know that life never goes
[05:55:30] of change we know that life never goes on in a straight line for any period of
[05:55:32] on in a straight line for any period of time life is either getting
[05:55:35] time life is either getting better and improving or life is getting
[05:55:37] better and improving or life is getting worse and deteriorating that just
[05:55:40] worse and deteriorating that just happens to be the fact however when we
[05:55:43] happens to be the fact however when we set goals we can control the direction
[05:55:45] set goals we can control the direction of change and controlling the direction
[05:55:47] of change and controlling the direction of change is the key to our success so
[05:55:51] of change is the key to our success so that all everything that happens in our
[05:55:52] that all everything that happens in our life is goal directed it is toward
[05:55:54] life is goal directed it is toward something that we want it is toward
[05:55:56] something that we want it is toward Improvement it is in the direction of
[05:55:58] Improvement it is in the direction of our highest ideals rather than random
[05:56:00] our highest ideals rather than random see nobody fears change if it's in the
[05:56:03] see nobody fears change if it's in the direction of something that they want
[05:56:04] direction of something that they want the only change that we fear is fear is
[05:56:07] the only change that we fear is fear is changed that leaves us worse off than we
[05:56:09] changed that leaves us worse off than we were before and this brings us to our
[05:56:11] were before and this brings us to our second key Concept in goal setting it's
[05:56:14] second key Concept in goal setting it's what we call
[05:56:15] what we call the area of Excellence now the area of
[05:56:19] the area of Excellence now the area of Excellence concept is very simple what
[05:56:21] Excellence concept is very simple what it says is that
[05:56:23] it says is that everybody has talents that rotate around
[05:56:27] everybody has talents that rotate around the average these are average talents we
[05:56:30] the average these are average talents we are better at cooking better worse at
[05:56:32] are better at cooking better worse at math better at communicating worse at
[05:56:34] math better at communicating worse at selling better at speaking wor set
[05:56:36] selling better at speaking wor set history and so on we all have talents
[05:56:38] history and so on we all have talents but it also says that every one of us
[05:56:40] but it also says that every one of us has talents somewhere that are in the
[05:56:43] has talents somewhere that are in the exceptional range that every single
[05:56:45] exceptional range that every single human being has an area of excellence in
[05:56:48] human being has an area of excellence in which they are extremely capable if they
[05:56:51] which they are extremely capable if they can find it that every single person
[05:56:53] can find it that every single person we'll talk about this earlier has genius
[05:56:55] we'll talk about this earlier has genius in some area and one of the great jobs
[05:56:57] in some area and one of the great jobs of adult life is to find your area of
[05:57:00] of adult life is to find your area of excellence and to throw your whole heart
[05:57:01] excellence and to throw your whole heart and soul into that area of excellence
[05:57:03] and soul into that area of excellence and into becoming very good in the area
[05:57:06] and into becoming very good in the area where you have unique gifts and
[05:57:08] where you have unique gifts and abilities for instance three keys to
[05:57:11] abilities for instance three keys to your area of Excellence three critical
[05:57:13] your area of Excellence three critical Keys number one is
[05:57:17] Keys number one is attention attention the things that hold
[05:57:19] attention attention the things that hold your attention are a very very good
[05:57:21] your attention are a very very good indicator of where your area of
[05:57:23] indicator of where your area of Excellence might be what do you like to
[05:57:24] Excellence might be what do you like to read about what do you like to talk
[05:57:25] read about what do you like to talk about what do you like to think about
[05:57:26] about what do you like to think about what do you like to study what do you
[05:57:28] what do you like to study what do you like to learn more about
[05:57:30] like to learn more about also uh interest what are you interested
[05:57:33] also uh interest what are you interested in what has held you or been a
[05:57:35] in what has held you or been a fascinating subject for you throughout
[05:57:37] fascinating subject for you throughout your life sometimes we are programmed
[05:57:39] your life sometimes we are programmed internally to be interested and drawn
[05:57:41] internally to be interested and drawn towards things that are the very best
[05:57:43] towards things that are the very best for us and finally absorption what could
[05:57:46] for us and finally absorption what could you become totally absorbed in what
[05:57:49] you become totally absorbed in what absorbs your attention completely when
[05:57:51] absorbs your attention completely when you're working at it when you're
[05:57:52] you're working at it when you're thinking about it when you're reading
[05:57:53] thinking about it when you're reading about it it absorbs your attention
[05:57:55] about it it absorbs your attention completely attention interest and
[05:57:57] completely attention interest and absorption are the three keys to finding
[05:57:59] absorption are the three keys to finding your area of excellence and one of the
[05:58:01] your area of excellence and one of the most important responsibilities of adult
[05:58:03] most important responsibilities of adult life is to find your area of Excellence
[05:58:05] life is to find your area of Excellence because until you do that and commit
[05:58:07] because until you do that and commit yourself to it you will never achieve
[05:58:08] yourself to it you will never achieve your full potential and everybody has an
[05:58:11] your full potential and everybody has an area of Excellence now the next key
[05:58:13] area of Excellence now the next key number three area of Excellence is
[05:58:14] number three area of Excellence is number two next next key is what we call
[05:58:17] number two next next key is what we call Acres of
[05:58:18] Acres of diamonds and the Acres of diamonds
[05:58:21] diamonds and the Acres of diamonds Theory comes from a story about an old
[05:58:25] Theory comes from a story about an old farmer who went off seeking diamonds in
[05:58:28] farmer who went off seeking diamonds in Africa sold his farm wrapped up
[05:58:30] Africa sold his farm wrapped up everything went off seeking diamonds ran
[05:58:33] everything went off seeking diamonds ran out of money and finally died poor
[05:58:35] out of money and finally died poor impoverished and alone
[05:58:36] impoverished and alone and meanwhile back on his farm the new
[05:58:39] and meanwhile back on his farm the new owner went out and discovered some of
[05:58:40] owner went out and discovered some of the biggest diamonds in history the
[05:58:42] the biggest diamonds in history the Acres of diamonds philosophy says that
[05:58:44] Acres of diamonds philosophy says that under your own feet right now in almost
[05:58:47] under your own feet right now in almost all cases is everything that you're
[05:58:49] all cases is everything that you're looking for right now contained within
[05:58:51] looking for right now contained within your own talents your own abilities your
[05:58:54] your own talents your own abilities your own experience your own wisdom your own
[05:58:56] own experience your own wisdom your own knowledge your industry your family your
[05:58:57] knowledge your industry your family your contacts that somewhere right now under
[05:59:00] contacts that somewhere right now under your own
[05:59:01] your own feet is the opportunity that you're
[05:59:04] feet is the opportunity that you're looking for you don't have to go across
[05:59:06] looking for you don't have to go across the world you don't have to move to
[05:59:08] the world you don't have to move to another city you don't have to change
[05:59:10] another city you don't have to change all you have to do is mine your own
[05:59:12] all you have to do is mine your own Acres of diamonds but the interesting
[05:59:14] Acres of diamonds but the interesting thing is that diamonds don't look like
[05:59:16] thing is that diamonds don't look like diamonds in their rough form diamonds or
[05:59:19] diamonds in their rough form diamonds or opportunities always come disguised as
[05:59:22] opportunities always come disguised as hard work the reason why people are
[05:59:25] hard work the reason why people are always looking somewhere else is because
[05:59:27] always looking somewhere else is because they don't recognize that your great
[05:59:29] they don't recognize that your great opportunities always come disguised as
[05:59:31] opportunities always come disguised as hard work and they take a tremendous
[05:59:33] hard work and they take a tremendous amount of work and effort to develop and
[05:59:35] amount of work and effort to develop and to realize so look under your own feet
[05:59:37] to realize so look under your own feet for your Acres of diamonds look into
[05:59:39] for your Acres of diamonds look into your own unique talents for your area of
[05:59:41] your own unique talents for your area of Excellence absolutely critical to goal
[05:59:43] Excellence absolutely critical to goal setting now the fourth is the importance
[05:59:46] setting now the fourth is the importance of balance in life in order to be truly
[05:59:49] of balance in life in order to be truly successful you must have balanced goals
[05:59:52] successful you must have balanced goals you can't have just goals that are all
[05:59:54] you can't have just goals that are all money you can't have goals that are all
[05:59:56] money you can't have goals that are all in any One Direction you need a balance
[05:59:57] in any One Direction you need a balance of goals and here are the three key
[05:59:59] of goals and here are the three key areas number one is you need personal
[06:00:02] areas number one is you need personal and family
[06:00:03] and family goals now your personal and family goals
[06:00:06] goals now your personal and family goals are the goals that more than anything
[06:00:08] are the goals that more than anything else determine the quality of your
[06:00:09] else determine the quality of your emotional life determine how good you
[06:00:12] emotional life determine how good you feel about yourself and life and your
[06:00:15] feel about yourself and life and your personal and family goals you need about
[06:00:16] personal and family goals you need about three to five these are the reasons why
[06:00:20] three to five these are the reasons why these are the why of your life this is
[06:00:22] these are the why of your life this is why you're alive in the first place
[06:00:24] why you're alive in the first place which is to achieve a life that is
[06:00:26] which is to achieve a life that is significant and important and
[06:00:27] significant and important and pleasurable to you and you must never
[06:00:29] pleasurable to you and you must never sacrifice these for anything else the
[06:00:32] sacrifice these for anything else the second set of goals are business and
[06:00:34] second set of goals are business and career goals now your business and
[06:00:36] career goals now your business and career goals are the way that you earn
[06:00:38] career goals are the way that you earn the wherewithal they're the way that you
[06:00:39] the wherewithal they're the way that you fulfill your potential as a productive
[06:00:41] fulfill your potential as a productive member of society they're they're the
[06:00:43] member of society they're they're the way you make a contribution these are
[06:00:45] way you make a contribution these are the what goals but remember these are
[06:00:48] the what goals but remember these are not as important as the why the natural
[06:00:50] not as important as the why the natural tendency for us if we're not careful is
[06:00:52] tendency for us if we're not careful is we get so caught up in the what the
[06:00:55] we get so caught up in the what the business and career goals that we forget
[06:00:57] business and career goals that we forget the personal and family which are the
[06:00:58] the personal and family which are the reasons why we started in the first
[06:01:00] reasons why we started in the first place and you need three to five goals
[06:01:02] place and you need three to five goals in the business and career area and
[06:01:04] in the business and career area and number three is the self self
[06:01:06] number three is the self self improvement goals now self-improvement
[06:01:08] improvement goals now self-improvement goals means that you look upon yourself
[06:01:11] goals means that you look upon yourself as a do- it to yourself project it means
[06:01:14] as a do- it to yourself project it means that you look into
[06:01:16] that you look into yourself as a person who has infinite
[06:01:20] yourself as a person who has infinite capacity but it has to be developed and
[06:01:21] capacity but it has to be developed and you need three to five self-improvement
[06:01:23] you need three to five self-improvement goals too now your self-improvement
[06:01:25] goals too now your self-improvement goals are what we call the means
[06:01:26] goals are what we call the means self-improvement are the means to get
[06:01:29] self-improvement are the means to get the what which is the what you need in
[06:01:33] the what which is the what you need in order to accomplish your why one more
[06:01:35] order to accomplish your why one more point and that's this and it's Point
[06:01:38] point and that's this and it's Point number five and that is the need for a
[06:01:40] number five and that is the need for a major definite
[06:01:43] major definite purpose a major definite purpose is the
[06:01:47] purpose a major definite purpose is the number one goal in life and every single
[06:01:50] number one goal in life and every single study that we have looked at every
[06:01:52] study that we have looked at every single study I looked at in Peak
[06:01:54] single study I looked at in Peak Performance high achievement and so on
[06:01:56] Performance high achievement and so on comes back to this very simple equation
[06:01:58] comes back to this very simple equation this very simple factor is that your
[06:02:00] this very simple factor is that your life only begins to become great when
[06:02:02] life only begins to become great when you fix upon a major definite purpose
[06:02:05] you fix upon a major definite purpose one goal
[06:02:06] one goal One mission one goal that is bigger than
[06:02:09] One mission one goal that is bigger than any other single goal in your life now
[06:02:11] any other single goal in your life now it doesn't mean you can't have several
[06:02:12] it doesn't mean you can't have several goals you can have 10 to 15 goals going
[06:02:15] goals you can have 10 to 15 goals going you can have two to 300 if you want but
[06:02:17] you can have two to 300 if you want but you have to have one if somebody were to
[06:02:20] you have to have one if somebody were to wake you up in the middle of the night
[06:02:21] wake you up in the middle of the night and give you a shake and say what is
[06:02:23] and give you a shake and say what is your major definite purpose you should
[06:02:24] your major definite purpose you should be able to open your eyes and be able to
[06:02:26] be able to open your eyes and be able to tell them just like that your major
[06:02:28] tell them just like that your major definite purpose must be measurable in
[06:02:31] definite purpose must be measurable in other words you can't have a major
[06:02:32] other words you can't have a major definite purpose to be happy my I had
[06:02:36] definite purpose to be happy my I had one woman come up to me and she said her
[06:02:37] one woman come up to me and she said her major definite purpose was world
[06:02:40] major definite purpose was world peace and I said well your major
[06:02:42] peace and I said well your major definite purpose in order for it to have
[06:02:44] definite purpose in order for it to have any meaning for you in order for it to
[06:02:47] any meaning for you in order for it to give purpose and direction to your life
[06:02:50] give purpose and direction to your life has to be under your own control it has
[06:02:52] has to be under your own control it has to be measurable it has to be specific
[06:02:55] to be measurable it has to be specific it has to be tangible it has to be
[06:02:58] it has to be tangible it has to be something that you can do or have or be
[06:03:01] something that you can do or have or be it has to be something that when you've
[06:03:03] it has to be something that when you've accomplished it you can look at it and
[06:03:04] accomplished it you can look at it and say here it is it's achieved it can't be
[06:03:07] say here it is it's achieved it can't be something nebulous because setting a big
[06:03:09] something nebulous because setting a big broad unbounded goal is a way that we
[06:03:13] broad unbounded goal is a way that we trick ourselves into setting no goals at
[06:03:16] trick ourselves into setting no goals at all and with regard to your major
[06:03:19] all and with regard to your major definite purpose and your other goals
[06:03:20] definite purpose and your other goals two points you can have tangible and
[06:03:22] two points you can have tangible and intangible goals in other words you can
[06:03:24] intangible goals in other words you can have qualitative goals that have to do
[06:03:26] have qualitative goals that have to do with the quality of your life and you
[06:03:27] with the quality of your life and you can have quantitative goals or tangible
[06:03:29] can have quantitative goals or tangible goals that have to do with your income
[06:03:31] goals that have to do with your income weight loss bigger car bigger house and
[06:03:33] weight loss bigger car bigger house and so on and you need a balance of those
[06:03:36] so on and you need a balance of those and finally you need short-term and
[06:03:38] and finally you need short-term and long-term goals now your short-term
[06:03:40] long-term goals now your short-term goals ideally are about 90 days for
[06:03:43] goals ideally are about 90 days for maximum motivation your long-term goals
[06:03:45] maximum motivation your long-term goals should be about 2 to three years for
[06:03:47] should be about 2 to three years for maximum motivation and your major
[06:03:49] maximum motivation and your major definite purpose or your major goals
[06:03:51] definite purpose or your major goals should be two to threeyear goals maybe
[06:03:52] should be two to threeyear goals maybe shorter maybe longer broken down into
[06:03:55] shorter maybe longer broken down into 90-day
[06:03:56] 90-day periods that having been said I'm going
[06:03:58] periods that having been said I'm going to give you a brief goal setting
[06:04:00] to give you a brief goal setting exercise I'm going to ask you seven
[06:04:02] exercise I'm going to ask you seven quick questions I'm going to give you
[06:04:04] quick questions I'm going to give you between 30 and 60 seconds to answer
[06:04:06] between 30 and 60 seconds to answer these questions and what I want you to
[06:04:08] these questions and what I want you to do is write as quickly as you possibly
[06:04:11] do is write as quickly as you possibly can the very first things that come to
[06:04:13] can the very first things that come to your mind now the first question is this
[06:04:16] your mind now the first question is this are you ready get out a pencil of paper
[06:04:18] are you ready get out a pencil of paper pencil clean sheet of paper goal setting
[06:04:21] pencil clean sheet of paper goal setting exercise here it is question number one
[06:04:25] exercise here it is question number one is what are your five basic values in
[06:04:28] is what are your five basic values in life what five things do you value most
[06:04:31] life what five things do you value most in
[06:04:32] in life number one question you have 60
[06:04:34] life number one question you have 60 seconds to answer this question counting
[06:04:36] seconds to answer this question counting right
[06:04:37] right now what things do you value most in
[06:04:41] now what things do you value most in life your home your car your family your
[06:04:45] life your home your car your family your income your job your career your
[06:04:48] income your job your career your Spiritual Development your health your
[06:04:50] Spiritual Development your health your wealth your stereo set your new
[06:04:53] wealth your stereo set your new hubcaps your intelligence your
[06:04:55] hubcaps your intelligence your intellectual growth what five things do
[06:04:58] intellectual growth what five things do you value most in
[06:05:00] you value most in life 30 seconds write the first five
[06:05:03] life 30 seconds write the first five things that come to mind
[06:05:06] things that come to mind and once you've written the answer to
[06:05:07] and once you've written the answer to this question your five basic values
[06:05:10] this question your five basic values organize them in order of priority what
[06:05:12] organize them in order of priority what are the what is the first one what would
[06:05:14] are the what is the first one what would be number one if you had to throw away
[06:05:16] be number one if you had to throw away the other four what would be number two
[06:05:18] the other four what would be number two if you had to throw away the other three
[06:05:20] if you had to throw away the other three what would be number three and so on
[06:05:22] what would be number three and so on organize them in order of priority
[06:05:24] organize them in order of priority number one through number
[06:05:26] number one through number five right 5 Seconds 4 3 2 1 question
[06:05:32] five right 5 Seconds 4 3 2 1 question number two is write your three most
[06:05:35] number two is write your three most important goals in life right now you
[06:05:37] important goals in life right now you have 30 seconds what your three most
[06:05:39] have 30 seconds what your three most important goals in life right
[06:05:42] important goals in life right now
[06:05:44] now counting 25 seconds left write the first
[06:05:48] counting 25 seconds left write the first three goals that pop into your
[06:05:49] three goals that pop into your mind if you can't think of anything else
[06:05:52] mind if you can't think of anything else write money money
[06:05:54] write money money money but write the first three goals
[06:05:56] money but write the first three goals that pop into mind
[06:05:58] that pop into mind quickly okay 10 seconds this is an easy
[06:06:02] quickly okay 10 seconds this is an easy question
[06:06:06] 5 4 3 2 1 question number three you have
[06:06:13] 5 4 3 2 1 question number three you have one minute what would you do how would
[06:06:15] one minute what would you do how would you spend your time if you found today
[06:06:17] you spend your time if you found today that you only had 6 months to live how
[06:06:20] that you only had 6 months to live how would you spend the last 6 months of
[06:06:21] would you spend the last 6 months of your life if you only had six months to
[06:06:23] your life if you only had six months to live write everything that you do in the
[06:06:25] live write everything that you do in the last 6 months time is counting now write
[06:06:28] last 6 months time is counting now write it as though everything you put on this
[06:06:29] it as though everything you put on this list you can do in that last six months
[06:06:31] list you can do in that last six months but if you don't write it down you can't
[06:06:33] but if you don't write it down you can't do it how would you spend your time
[06:06:36] do it how would you spend your time who would you spend your time with where
[06:06:38] who would you spend your time with where would you go what would you do what
[06:06:41] would you go what would you do what would you want to finish up what would
[06:06:42] would you want to finish up what would you want to start who would you want to
[06:06:44] you want to start who would you want to see what phone calls would you
[06:06:47] see what phone calls would you make what bills would you run up on your
[06:06:49] make what bills would you run up on your on your charge
[06:06:53] cards okay in other words what would you
[06:06:57] cards okay in other words what would you do if you had six months to
[06:07:03] live all right 10 seconds write
[06:07:05] live all right 10 seconds write everything you can think of remember if
[06:07:07] everything you can think of remember if it's written
[06:07:08] it's written down on this sheet in front of you you
[06:07:10] down on this sheet in front of you you can do it if you forget to write it you
[06:07:11] can do it if you forget to write it you won't be able to do it 5 Seconds 4 3 2 1
[06:07:17] won't be able to do it 5 Seconds 4 3 2 1 question number four what would you do
[06:07:20] question number four what would you do how would you change your life if you
[06:07:21] how would you change your life if you won a million dollars in the lottery
[06:07:23] won a million dollars in the lottery tomorrow if you became an instant
[06:07:25] tomorrow if you became an instant millionaire what would you do
[06:07:26] millionaire what would you do differently from what you're doing today
[06:07:28] differently from what you're doing today if you became an instant millionaire
[06:07:30] if you became an instant millionaire what would you do differently you've got
[06:07:31] what would you do differently you've got one minute to write everything that you
[06:07:33] one minute to write everything that you write you'll be able to do with that
[06:07:34] write you'll be able to do with that million dollar
[06:07:36] million dollar if you don't write it down you won't be
[06:07:37] if you don't write it down you won't be able to spend it the million dollars
[06:07:39] able to spend it the million dollars won't be given to
[06:07:41] won't be given to you interestingly enough when most
[06:07:43] you interestingly enough when most people are ask this question the average
[06:07:44] people are ask this question the average amount that they can spend is about
[06:07:46] amount that they can spend is about $200,000 they can't get their mind
[06:07:48] $200,000 they can't get their mind around a million but what would you do
[06:07:50] around a million but what would you do differently good question would you
[06:07:52] differently good question would you continue working at the job you're
[06:07:53] continue working at the job you're working at if you want a million dollars
[06:07:56] working at if you want a million dollars if the answer is no it means you're in
[06:07:58] if the answer is no it means you're in the wrong job for you and you are
[06:07:59] the wrong job for you and you are wasting your life would you stay in the
[06:08:02] wasting your life would you stay in the relationship that you're
[06:08:04] relationship that you're in would you continue spending your time
[06:08:06] in would you continue spending your time the way you spend
[06:08:08] the way you spend it what would you do if you want a
[06:08:10] it what would you do if you want a million
[06:08:12] million dollars all right 5 seconds left write
[06:08:15] dollars all right 5 seconds left write down everything you can think
[06:08:17] down everything you can think of I had a farmer in one of my courses
[06:08:20] of I had a farmer in one of my courses once he said he' just keep on farming
[06:08:22] once he said he' just keep on farming till it was all
[06:08:24] till it was all gone anyway number
[06:08:26] gone anyway number five have to be a farmer to appreciate
[06:08:29] five have to be a farmer to appreciate that number five is what have you always
[06:08:31] that number five is what have you always wanted to do but been afraid to attempt
[06:08:33] wanted to do but been afraid to attempt got 30 seconds what have you always
[06:08:35] got 30 seconds what have you always wanted to do in life but been afraid to
[06:08:39] attempt 30 seconds right the first thing
[06:08:41] attempt 30 seconds right the first thing that pops into mind run for public
[06:08:43] that pops into mind run for public office give a professional talk start a
[06:08:46] office give a professional talk start a new relationship start your own business
[06:08:48] new relationship start your own business half the population would like to start
[06:08:50] half the population would like to start their own business did you know that
[06:08:51] their own business did you know that over half the population but they don't
[06:08:53] over half the population but they don't do it because they're afraid of failure
[06:08:55] do it because they're afraid of failure or rejection or something
[06:08:57] or rejection or something else 10 seconds left what have you
[06:08:59] else 10 seconds left what have you always wanted to do but been afraid to
[06:09:00] always wanted to do but been afraid to attempt this is a very revealing
[06:09:02] attempt this is a very revealing question write whatever comes down on
[06:09:04] question write whatever comes down on the page
[06:09:07] the page all right question number six what sort
[06:09:09] all right question number six what sort of activities in life give you your
[06:09:11] of activities in life give you your greatest feeling of importance what sort
[06:09:13] greatest feeling of importance what sort of activities give you the greatest
[06:09:15] of activities give you the greatest feeling of pleasure self-esteem
[06:09:17] feeling of pleasure self-esteem Happiness joy and fulfillment what do
[06:09:19] Happiness joy and fulfillment what do you really like to do look back over
[06:09:22] you really like to do look back over your life and ask yourself when have you
[06:09:23] your life and ask yourself when have you been the happiest 30 seconds left 30
[06:09:25] been the happiest 30 seconds left 30 seconds to go in this question when have
[06:09:27] seconds to go in this question when have you been the happiest in life when have
[06:09:28] you been the happiest in life when have you been the most fulfilled when have
[06:09:30] you been the most fulfilled when have you felt the very best about yourself
[06:09:32] you felt the very best about yourself when have you had the greatest amount of
[06:09:34] when have you had the greatest amount of peace and personal satis action what
[06:09:36] peace and personal satis action what sort of circumstances what were you
[06:09:38] sort of circumstances what were you doing at the time who were you doing it
[06:09:40] doing at the time who were you doing it with where were you going what were your
[06:09:42] with where were you going what were your goals what were the circumstances and so
[06:09:44] goals what were the circumstances and so on very very important
[06:09:47] on very very important question all right five more seconds and
[06:09:50] question all right five more seconds and then here is the key question in
[06:09:52] then here is the key question in determining your major definite purpose
[06:09:55] determining your major definite purpose is this imagine that I could give you a
[06:09:57] is this imagine that I could give you a pill that was a magic pill and if you
[06:09:59] pill that was a magic pill and if you took this magic pill you could
[06:10:00] took this magic pill you could accomplish any one thing in the whole
[06:10:02] accomplish any one thing in the whole world and the question is simply this
[06:10:03] world and the question is simply this what one great thing would you dare to
[06:10:05] what one great thing would you dare to to dream if you knew you could not fail
[06:10:07] to dream if you knew you could not fail what one great thing would you dare to
[06:10:10] what one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail all
[06:10:13] dream if you knew you could not fail all right 45
[06:10:15] right 45 seconds what one great thing what one
[06:10:22] goal would you dare to
[06:10:25] goal would you dare to dream if you knew beyond a shadow of a
[06:10:30] doubt that you could not fail you
[06:10:33] doubt that you could not fail you absolutely guaranteed of success what
[06:10:36] absolutely guaranteed of success what would it
[06:10:44] be 5 Seconds now in almost every case by
[06:10:48] be 5 Seconds now in almost every case by the way the answers to these questions
[06:10:50] the way the answers to these questions will Spring to your lips some people
[06:10:52] will Spring to your lips some people however have been able to go through
[06:10:53] however have been able to go through this whole exercise and not been able to
[06:10:55] this whole exercise and not been able to answer a single question and there's
[06:10:57] answer a single question and there's nothing wrong with that the whole
[06:10:58] nothing wrong with that the whole purpose of this exercise is to help you
[06:11:01] purpose of this exercise is to help you begin crystallizing your goals and
[06:11:03] begin crystallizing your goals and especially your major definite purpose
[06:11:06] especially your major definite purpose let's look at these goals let's look at
[06:11:07] let's look at these goals let's look at these questions and I suggest that you
[06:11:09] these questions and I suggest that you take this exercise every single month
[06:11:11] take this exercise every single month until you can pop out the answers to
[06:11:13] until you can pop out the answers to every one of these questions and they
[06:11:14] every one of these questions and they begin to improve and crystallize five
[06:11:16] begin to improve and crystallize five basic values in life we said that
[06:11:18] basic values in life we said that self-esteem is the key to Peak
[06:11:20] self-esteem is the key to Peak Performance while self-esteem only comes
[06:11:22] Performance while self-esteem only comes when your goals and your values fit like
[06:11:25] when your goals and your values fit like a hand in a glove that the most
[06:11:26] a hand in a glove that the most successful men and women in our society
[06:11:28] successful men and women in our society are people who know what they believe
[06:11:30] are people who know what they believe who know what their values are and they
[06:11:33] who know what their values are and they organize their time so that it's
[06:11:35] organize their time so that it's consistent with their values and you'll
[06:11:37] consistent with their values and you'll find that most stress most unhappiness
[06:11:39] find that most stress most unhappiness most irritability most health problems
[06:11:41] most irritability most health problems most burnout comes from living a life
[06:11:43] most burnout comes from living a life that is inconsistent with your basic
[06:11:46] that is inconsistent with your basic values so always be asking yourself what
[06:11:48] values so always be asking yourself what are my values what do I believe in and
[06:11:51] are my values what do I believe in and make sure that your outer life is
[06:11:52] make sure that your outer life is consistent with your inner life it's the
[06:11:54] consistent with your inner life it's the key to Peak Performance the key to
[06:11:56] key to Peak Performance the key to self-esteem the key to happiness number
[06:11:58] self-esteem the key to happiness number two what are your three most important
[06:12:00] two what are your three most important goals in life whenever you're given only
[06:12:02] goals in life whenever you're given only 30 seconds to answer that question the
[06:12:04] 30 seconds to answer that question the three goals that the sub not just pops
[06:12:05] three goals that the sub not just pops to your mind will almost invariably be
[06:12:07] to your mind will almost invariably be the three most important concerns or
[06:12:09] the three most important concerns or goals that you have right now this is a
[06:12:12] goals that you have right now this is a very revealing question and you can give
[06:12:14] very revealing question and you can give it to yourself and give it to other
[06:12:15] it to yourself and give it to other people what would you do if you had six
[06:12:16] people what would you do if you had six months to live if you only have six
[06:12:19] months to live if you only have six months to
[06:12:20] months to live it refers you back to your basic
[06:12:22] live it refers you back to your basic values it tells you what you really
[06:12:24] values it tells you what you really value in life and an important question
[06:12:27] value in life and an important question is this is that how much of your current
[06:12:29] is this is that how much of your current life is consistent with what you would
[06:12:31] life is consistent with what you would do if you only had 6 months to live
[06:12:33] do if you only had 6 months to live would you spend more time with your
[06:12:34] would you spend more time with your family if you would are you spending
[06:12:36] family if you would are you spending more time with your family now remember
[06:12:38] more time with your family now remember you never know when you only have 6
[06:12:40] you never know when you only have 6 months to live what would you do if you
[06:12:42] months to live what would you do if you became an instant millionaire perfect
[06:12:44] became an instant millionaire perfect question that simply asks you what would
[06:12:46] question that simply asks you what would you do if you had all the time and money
[06:12:48] you do if you had all the time and money in the world what would you do if you
[06:12:49] in the world what would you do if you had no fear of failure and no fear of
[06:12:52] had no fear of failure and no fear of rejection what would you do if you were
[06:12:54] rejection what would you do if you were free to choose if you had complete
[06:12:57] free to choose if you had complete freedom to choose the fact is that
[06:12:58] freedom to choose the fact is that anything that you could write down as an
[06:13:00] anything that you could write down as an answer to question number four you can
[06:13:01] answer to question number four you can accomplish you don't need a million
[06:13:03] accomplish you don't need a million dollars all you need to do is has set it
[06:13:05] dollars all you need to do is has set it as a goal and make a plan and start
[06:13:07] as a goal and make a plan and start working toward work you may not get it
[06:13:09] working toward work you may not get it as fast as if you were a millionaire but
[06:13:10] as fast as if you were a millionaire but you'll get it nonetheless asking the
[06:13:13] you'll get it nonetheless asking the question simply frees your mind question
[06:13:15] question simply frees your mind question number five what are you afraid to
[06:13:16] number five what are you afraid to attempt that may tell you what the
[06:13:18] attempt that may tell you what the self-limiting belief or block is that's
[06:13:21] self-limiting belief or block is that's holding you back from achieving your
[06:13:23] holding you back from achieving your full potential question number six what
[06:13:26] full potential question number six what gives you your greatest feeling of
[06:13:27] gives you your greatest feeling of importance this is simply asks you what
[06:13:30] importance this is simply asks you what gives you a feeling of self-esteem and
[06:13:32] gives you a feeling of self-esteem and this will lead you uniring to your area
[06:13:34] this will lead you uniring to your area of Excellence
[06:13:35] of Excellence because you will always and only become
[06:13:37] because you will always and only become Excellence doing what gives you a
[06:13:40] Excellence doing what gives you a tremendous feeling of importance and
[06:13:42] tremendous feeling of importance and question number seven what one great
[06:13:44] question number seven what one great thing would you dare to dream if you
[06:13:46] thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail let me just say
[06:13:48] knew you could not fail let me just say this as we close that whatever you wrote
[06:13:51] this as we close that whatever you wrote as an answer to that question whatever
[06:13:53] as an answer to that question whatever you wrote as an answer to the question
[06:13:55] you wrote as an answer to the question what one great thing would you dare to
[06:13:57] what one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail you
[06:14:00] dream if you knew you could not fail you can be have or do the only question is
[06:14:03] can be have or do the only question is how badly do you want it
[06:14:05] how badly do you want it and are you willing to pay the price
[06:14:07] and are you willing to pay the price because if you are and you're willing to
[06:14:09] because if you are and you're willing to pay the price and work toward it you can
[06:14:12] pay the price and work toward it you can accomplish everything on that list and
[06:14:15] accomplish everything on that list and sometimes far faster than you can
[06:14:16] sometimes far faster than you can possibly imagine the question is how
[06:14:19] possibly imagine the question is how badly do you want
[06:14:31] it session 16 12 steps to go
[06:14:35] it session 16 12 steps to go achieving one of the wisest men I ever
[06:14:38] achieving one of the wisest men I ever met gave me a success secret some years
[06:14:40] met gave me a success secret some years ago that would made a real impression on
[06:14:41] ago that would made a real impression on me and it was simply this he said one of
[06:14:44] me and it was simply this he said one of the most important things he found in 50
[06:14:46] the most important things he found in 50 years of research was the need to use
[06:14:48] years of research was the need to use proven success methods he said your life
[06:14:52] proven success methods he said your life is too short to try to reinvent the
[06:14:54] is too short to try to reinvent the wheel or to learn it all by yourself so
[06:14:56] wheel or to learn it all by yourself so the smartest thing that you can do is
[06:14:58] the smartest thing that you can do is what is called creative imitation which
[06:15:01] what is called creative imitation which is to go out and find what other people
[06:15:03] is to go out and find what other people have done that works and do what they do
[06:15:05] have done that works and do what they do until you get it to the point where you
[06:15:07] until you get it to the point where you really know it well and then improve
[06:15:09] really know it well and then improve upon it what I want to tell you about in
[06:15:11] upon it what I want to tell you about in this session is a proven success method
[06:15:14] this session is a proven success method it's a 12-step method for goal setting
[06:15:16] it's a 12-step method for goal setting and goal achieving which I've taught to
[06:15:18] and goal achieving which I've taught to over 100,000 people I've had many men
[06:15:21] over 100,000 people I've had many men and women come back to me and say
[06:15:22] and women come back to me and say they've accomplished more in a month
[06:15:24] they've accomplished more in a month with this program than they have in a
[06:15:26] with this program than they have in a year without it I've had people who've
[06:15:28] year without it I've had people who've accomplished more than two or three
[06:15:29] accomplished more than two or three years than they'd accomplished in 10 or
[06:15:31] years than they'd accomplished in 10 or 20 years using this very simple
[06:15:33] 20 years using this very simple methodology it is a proven success
[06:15:35] methodology it is a proven success method I urge you to try it I urge you
[06:15:38] method I urge you to try it I urge you to use it incorporate it into your life
[06:15:40] to use it incorporate it into your life use it as an automatic process and
[06:15:42] use it as an automatic process and whenever you start thinking about your
[06:15:44] whenever you start thinking about your direction your meaning your purpose
[06:15:46] direction your meaning your purpose where you want to go sit down and work
[06:15:48] where you want to go sit down and work it through these 12 steps until it
[06:15:50] it through these 12 steps until it becomes automatic remember the ability
[06:15:52] becomes automatic remember the ability to set and set goals and to make plans
[06:15:55] to set and set goals and to make plans for their accomplishment is the master
[06:15:57] for their accomplishment is the master skill of success which can only be learn
[06:15:59] skill of success which can only be learn through practice and repetition over and
[06:16:02] through practice and repetition over and over and over again now let's go to the
[06:16:05] over and over again now let's go to the board and let's talk about these 12
[06:16:07] board and let's talk about these 12 Steps step number one starting point of
[06:16:10] Steps step number one starting point of all success and by the way let me step
[06:16:11] all success and by the way let me step back just for one second we talked a
[06:16:13] back just for one second we talked a little bit earlier about the importance
[06:16:14] little bit earlier about the importance of the major definite purpose your major
[06:16:17] of the major definite purpose your major definite purpose the major goal the
[06:16:19] definite purpose the major goal the number one goal in your life and many
[06:16:21] number one goal in your life and many people come to me and write to me and
[06:16:22] people come to me and write to me and phone me and they say how do I pick my
[06:16:25] phone me and they say how do I pick my major definite purpose and the only
[06:16:27] major definite purpose and the only solution I can give you is go through
[06:16:29] solution I can give you is go through the seven-step goal setting exercise
[06:16:31] the seven-step goal setting exercise which we did in the previous session and
[06:16:33] which we did in the previous session and also if you can't come up with with it
[06:16:35] also if you can't come up with with it then make it your major definite purpose
[06:16:37] then make it your major definite purpose to find your major definite purpose
[06:16:39] to find your major definite purpose dwell upon your major definite purpose
[06:16:42] dwell upon your major definite purpose ask yourself what could it be what
[06:16:44] ask yourself what could it be what should it be what will it be what ought
[06:16:46] should it be what will it be what ought it to be and keep running this over and
[06:16:49] it to be and keep running this over and over in your mind seek information look
[06:16:51] over in your mind seek information look discover and you will find that with the
[06:16:54] discover and you will find that with the inexorability of a law of nature that
[06:16:56] inexorability of a law of nature that your major definite purpose will come to
[06:16:58] your major definite purpose will come to you and it'll be so clear so obvious so
[06:17:01] you and it'll be so clear so obvious so right and it will happen in exactly the
[06:17:03] right and it will happen in exactly the right time well this that when we talk
[06:17:05] right time well this that when we talk about the superconscious mind a little
[06:17:07] about the superconscious mind a little bit later but for now if you don't have
[06:17:09] bit later but for now if you don't have a major definite purpose make finding
[06:17:11] a major definite purpose make finding your major definite purpose your major
[06:17:13] your major definite purpose your major definite purpose and when you do find it
[06:17:15] definite purpose and when you do find it run it through this exercise the same
[06:17:17] run it through this exercise the same way you would run something through a
[06:17:18] way you would run something through a computer to get an answer at the bottom
[06:17:20] computer to get an answer at the bottom step number one in goal setting is
[06:17:24] step number one in goal setting is desire and the more intense the desire
[06:17:27] desire and the more intense the desire the more burning the desire the more you
[06:17:29] the more burning the desire the more you want something the more likely it is
[06:17:31] want something the more likely it is that you'll accomplish it as a matter of
[06:17:33] that you'll accomplish it as a matter of fact it's been said over and over again
[06:17:35] fact it's been said over and over again that burning desire is the starting
[06:17:37] that burning desire is the starting point of all great accomplishment why is
[06:17:39] point of all great accomplishment why is that so important well burning desire is
[06:17:42] that so important well burning desire is the desire that drives you ahead over
[06:17:44] the desire that drives you ahead over all the difficulties disappointments
[06:17:47] all the difficulties disappointments temporary failures obstacles because if
[06:17:49] temporary failures obstacles because if your goal is worthy of you you're going
[06:17:51] your goal is worthy of you you're going to fall on your face over and over and
[06:17:53] to fall on your face over and over and over again you're going to make mistakes
[06:17:55] over again you're going to make mistakes it's going to cost you money it's going
[06:17:57] it's going to cost you money it's going to cost you time it's going to cost you
[06:17:59] to cost you time it's going to cost you anxiety as a matter of fact if you're
[06:18:00] anxiety as a matter of fact if you're not laying in bed at night staring at
[06:18:02] not laying in bed at night staring at the ceiling with your heart pounding at
[06:18:04] the ceiling with your heart pounding at least nights a week you're probably not
[06:18:06] least nights a week you're probably not trying hard enough so burning desire is
[06:18:10] trying hard enough so burning desire is the starting point of all great goal
[06:18:12] the starting point of all great goal attainment now burning desire is always
[06:18:15] attainment now burning desire is always personal it's always personal which
[06:18:19] personal it's always personal which means that when it comes to setting
[06:18:21] means that when it comes to setting goals whatever the goal is it has to be
[06:18:23] goals whatever the goal is it has to be your goal you cannot want a goal for
[06:18:27] your goal you cannot want a goal for someone else and someone else cannot
[06:18:29] someone else and someone else cannot want a goal for you when we talk about
[06:18:32] want a goal for you when we talk about desire make it first somebody says I
[06:18:34] desire make it first somebody says I want to get a race at my job that's my
[06:18:36] want to get a race at my job that's my goal that's setting a desire for your
[06:18:38] goal that's setting a desire for your boss I had a young man say to me I want
[06:18:40] boss I had a young man say to me I want to marry this particular girl that's
[06:18:42] to marry this particular girl that's setting a goal for the girl only you can
[06:18:45] setting a goal for the girl only you can set goals for yourself but be very
[06:18:47] set goals for yourself but be very certain that the goals that you do set
[06:18:49] certain that the goals that you do set are yours that the goals that you do set
[06:18:51] are yours that the goals that you do set are ones that turn you on not goals that
[06:18:54] are ones that turn you on not goals that somebody else wants for you or goals
[06:18:56] somebody else wants for you or goals that you think you should do or you
[06:18:58] that you think you should do or you ought to do or they'd be good for you to
[06:19:00] ought to do or they'd be good for you to do think through yourself and be
[06:19:02] do think through yourself and be perfectly honest be perfectly honest ask
[06:19:05] perfectly honest be perfectly honest ask yourself what is it that you
[06:19:08] yourself what is it that you want now interestingly enough it takes
[06:19:11] want now interestingly enough it takes tremendous
[06:19:12] tremendous courage to be perfectly honest and
[06:19:14] courage to be perfectly honest and perfectly selfish in goal setting but if
[06:19:16] perfectly selfish in goal setting but if you are not perfectly honest at this
[06:19:18] you are not perfectly honest at this stage and asking yourself what you
[06:19:19] stage and asking yourself what you really want what is it deep in your
[06:19:22] really want what is it deep in your heart you really want to be have or do
[06:19:24] heart you really want to be have or do if you're not honest at this stage the
[06:19:26] if you're not honest at this stage the whole rest of the process falls apart if
[06:19:28] whole rest of the process falls apart if you are honest at this stage it's like a
[06:19:30] you are honest at this stage it's like a rocket launch you can go there from
[06:19:32] rocket launch you can go there from there you can go anywhere step number
[06:19:34] there you can go anywhere step number number two is belief remember we said
[06:19:38] number two is belief remember we said before that your external world will
[06:19:40] before that your external world will always be a representation of your
[06:19:43] always be a representation of your internal world and that your internal
[06:19:45] internal world and that your internal world is made up of your beliefs your
[06:19:47] world is made up of your beliefs your convictions if you like another word is
[06:19:50] convictions if you like another word is Faith it's what you believe or what you
[06:19:53] Faith it's what you believe or what you have faith in deep down inside there's a
[06:19:56] have faith in deep down inside there's a great uh talk by Reverend Ike where he
[06:19:58] great uh talk by Reverend Ike where he talks about Fascination and he says that
[06:20:01] talks about Fascination and he says that what you are fascinated by becomes your
[06:20:04] what you are fascinated by becomes your reality because you are drawn toward it
[06:20:06] reality because you are drawn toward it and it is drawn toward you what you
[06:20:09] and it is drawn toward you what you believe in what you have faith in what
[06:20:11] believe in what you have faith in what interests you what draws you what
[06:20:13] interests you what draws you what fascinates you is critical and another
[06:20:15] fascinates you is critical and another word is conviction you have to believe
[06:20:18] word is conviction you have to believe that it is possible for you to
[06:20:20] that it is possible for you to accomplish the goal you have to believe
[06:20:22] accomplish the goal you have to believe that it is possible for you to achieve
[06:20:24] that it is possible for you to achieve it for that reason it's very important
[06:20:26] it for that reason it's very important that you make your goal
[06:20:28] that you make your goal believable many people when they learn
[06:20:31] believable many people when they learn these new ideas about goal setting they
[06:20:33] these new ideas about goal setting they make a mistake they think wow wow I'm
[06:20:35] make a mistake they think wow wow I'm going to go out and I'm going to make a
[06:20:36] going to go out and I'm going to make a million dollars in a year and the fact
[06:20:38] million dollars in a year and the fact of the matter is is that a million
[06:20:40] of the matter is is that a million dollars if you're making whatever you're
[06:20:42] dollars if you're making whatever you're making now to jump to a million dollars
[06:20:44] making now to jump to a million dollars in most cases is so big that your
[06:20:47] in most cases is so big that your conscious mind rejects it as being
[06:20:49] conscious mind rejects it as being illogical not acceptable impossible and
[06:20:52] illogical not acceptable impossible and if your conscious mind rejects it it
[06:20:54] if your conscious mind rejects it it never gets to the subconscious mind
[06:20:56] never gets to the subconscious mind remember your subconscious mind can only
[06:20:58] remember your subconscious mind can only accept as a command something that you
[06:21:01] accept as a command something that you totally believe in the conscious mind so
[06:21:03] totally believe in the conscious mind so make it a believable and make it
[06:21:05] make it a believable and make it achievable it's better to set a smaller
[06:21:09] achievable it's better to set a smaller goal at first and accomplish that and
[06:21:11] goal at first and accomplish that and then a larger goal and accomplish that
[06:21:13] then a larger goal and accomplish that and a larger goal and accomplish that
[06:21:14] and a larger goal and accomplish that for instance two examples if you want to
[06:21:17] for instance two examples if you want to lose weight don't say I'm going to lose
[06:21:18] lose weight don't say I'm going to lose 20 PBS or 30 pounds lose 5 pounds you
[06:21:22] 20 PBS or 30 pounds lose 5 pounds you see 5 pounds you can believe you can get
[06:21:25] see 5 pounds you can believe you can get your mind around 5 pounds if you want to
[06:21:26] your mind around 5 pounds if you want to increase your income increase your
[06:21:28] increase your income increase your income by 50%
[06:21:34] question mark plus increase your income
[06:21:36] question mark plus increase your income by 50% if you're earning $10,000 a year
[06:21:38] by 50% if you're earning $10,000 a year say my goal is to earn $155,000 a year I
[06:21:42] say my goal is to earn $155,000 a year I earn $155,000 per year you can get your
[06:21:45] earn $155,000 per year you can get your mind around 50% that's less than 4% a
[06:21:48] mind around 50% that's less than 4% a month compounded you can get your mind
[06:21:49] month compounded you can get your mind around5 pounds and as you begin to move
[06:21:52] around5 pounds and as you begin to move your income up or begin to move your
[06:21:53] your income up or begin to move your weight down then adjust the goal and
[06:21:56] weight down then adjust the goal and make it five more pounds make it 50%
[06:21:58] make it five more pounds make it 50% more and so on but keep your goals
[06:22:00] more and so on but keep your goals believable according to the work at
[06:22:02] believable according to the work at Harvard University your goals should
[06:22:04] Harvard University your goals should have a 50/50 probability of success
[06:22:07] have a 50/50 probability of success 50/50 probability and each goal should
[06:22:10] 50/50 probability and each goal should be aimed at what is called your next
[06:22:13] be aimed at what is called your next step your next logical step on the road
[06:22:16] step your next logical step on the road to
[06:22:18] accomplishment so if you want to run a
[06:22:20] accomplishment so if you want to run a marathon and you've never run before the
[06:22:22] marathon and you've never run before the first thing is to run a mile and run a
[06:22:24] first thing is to run a mile and run a mile without pain and then run two miles
[06:22:26] mile without pain and then run two miles and then run three miles but to go from
[06:22:28] and then run three miles but to go from zero to running a marathon has been
[06:22:30] zero to running a marathon has been found to be a self-defeating exercise
[06:22:32] found to be a self-defeating exercise it'll actually hurt you more than will
[06:22:34] it'll actually hurt you more than will at you remember in order for a goal to
[06:22:37] at you remember in order for a goal to unlock the motivational capacity that
[06:22:40] unlock the motivational capacity that lies within you you must be able to
[06:22:42] lies within you you must be able to believe that it's possible of
[06:22:43] believe that it's possible of accomplishment so better to set it lower
[06:22:45] accomplishment so better to set it lower to start with and then raise the
[06:22:46] to start with and then raise the standard than set it so high that it
[06:22:48] standard than set it so high that it defeats you right at the beginning
[06:22:50] defeats you right at the beginning number three is write it
[06:22:53] number three is write it down now this is very important because
[06:22:56] down now this is very important because most people don't write their goals down
[06:22:59] most people don't write their goals down only 3% of the population have written
[06:23:01] only 3% of the population have written goals only 5% of goals at all only 3% of
[06:23:05] goals only 5% of goals at all only 3% of written goals and I venture to say that
[06:23:06] written goals and I venture to say that probably you don't have any written
[06:23:07] probably you don't have any written goals either and if you do have written
[06:23:09] goals either and if you do have written goals you probably don't have them
[06:23:10] goals you probably don't have them written out in any detail write the goal
[06:23:12] written out in any detail write the goal down remember the reasons why people
[06:23:14] down remember the reasons why people don't set goals one of the reasons why
[06:23:16] don't set goals one of the reasons why they don't write the goals down is that
[06:23:17] they don't write the goals down is that when you write a goal down you make it
[06:23:21] when you write a goal down you make it concrete suddenly your subconscious
[06:23:24] concrete suddenly your subconscious wakes up and says ha you mean business
[06:23:27] wakes up and says ha you mean business when you don't write it down you are
[06:23:29] when you don't write it down you are avoiding making a commitment
[06:23:31] avoiding making a commitment unconsciously the reason why people
[06:23:33] unconsciously the reason why people don't write their goals down is because
[06:23:35] don't write their goals down is because of the fear of failure the reason they
[06:23:37] of the fear of failure the reason they don't write their goals down is they
[06:23:38] don't write their goals down is they don't want to make a commitment to it
[06:23:39] don't want to make a commitment to it you see if you never write it down then
[06:23:40] you see if you never write it down then nobody can ever tell you you didn't
[06:23:41] nobody can ever tell you you didn't accomplish it if you don't write it down
[06:23:43] accomplish it if you don't write it down well then you're not really locked into
[06:23:44] well then you're not really locked into anything you keep your options open if
[06:23:46] anything you keep your options open if you like and you go on to fail and
[06:23:48] you like and you go on to fail and underachieve in life all the successful
[06:23:51] underachieve in life all the successful people have written goals and if you
[06:23:53] people have written goals and if you want to be successful you really have no
[06:23:55] want to be successful you really have no choice so write the goals down make it
[06:23:56] choice so write the goals down make it concrete make a commitment a 100%
[06:23:59] concrete make a commitment a 100% commitment to accomplishing your goal
[06:24:01] commitment to accomplishing your goal will do more to drive you towards your
[06:24:02] will do more to drive you towards your goal than you can possibly imagine now
[06:24:04] goal than you can possibly imagine now when you write it down make it
[06:24:06] when you write it down make it clear don't make it fuzzy so don't say I
[06:24:08] clear don't make it fuzzy so don't say I want to be happy or I want to be rich
[06:24:10] want to be happy or I want to be rich make it clear make it
[06:24:13] make it clear make it specific if you want to earn a certain
[06:24:15] specific if you want to earn a certain amount of money make it a specific
[06:24:17] amount of money make it a specific amount of money make it after tax
[06:24:19] amount of money make it after tax dollars if you want to start a business
[06:24:21] dollars if you want to start a business make it a profitable business if you
[06:24:23] make it a profitable business if you want to get into a relationship make it
[06:24:25] want to get into a relationship make it a happy relationship but make it clear
[06:24:28] a happy relationship but make it clear specific and use vivid words or vivid
[06:24:32] specific and use vivid words or vivid language because the more Vivid the
[06:24:33] language because the more Vivid the language is the more rapidly the
[06:24:37] language is the more rapidly the subconscious accepts it emotional words
[06:24:39] subconscious accepts it emotional words like warm exciting powerful loving happy
[06:24:42] like warm exciting powerful loving happy Dynamic these are the kind of words that
[06:24:44] Dynamic these are the kind of words that drive the goal into the subconscious
[06:24:46] drive the goal into the subconscious mind it's absolutely essential that it
[06:24:48] mind it's absolutely essential that it be a written goal this is by the way
[06:24:51] be a written goal this is by the way where the winners part from the losers
[06:24:55] where the winners part from the losers because the losers always have a reason
[06:24:57] because the losers always have a reason not to write out their goals number four
[06:25:00] not to write out their goals number four is ask yourself this critical question
[06:25:03] is ask yourself this critical question why do you want it
[06:25:05] why do you want it why do you want
[06:25:07] why do you want it this is one of the most important of
[06:25:09] it this is one of the most important of all questions because it will as it will
[06:25:12] all questions because it will as it will answer three things first of all it will
[06:25:14] answer three things first of all it will make sure that it's your goal and not
[06:25:15] make sure that it's your goal and not somebody else's second of all it will
[06:25:17] somebody else's second of all it will intensify your desire because the more
[06:25:20] intensify your desire because the more reasons that you have these are what is
[06:25:22] reasons that you have these are what is called your reasons why your reasons why
[06:25:25] called your reasons why your reasons why in most cases are more important than
[06:25:28] in most cases are more important than the goal itself the goals can change the
[06:25:31] the goal itself the goals can change the reasons why stay the same do you want it
[06:25:35] reasons why stay the same do you want it because it will make you happier
[06:25:36] because it will make you happier healthier more popular do you want it
[06:25:38] healthier more popular do you want it because it will fulfill your deepest
[06:25:41] because it will fulfill your deepest needs it will give you a sense of
[06:25:42] needs it will give you a sense of meaning and purpose in life why do you
[06:25:44] meaning and purpose in life why do you want it you see if the more reasons you
[06:25:47] want it you see if the more reasons you have to want something and if you make a
[06:25:49] have to want something and if you make a list of them list the reasons the more
[06:25:52] list of them list the reasons the more reasons you have the more desire you'll
[06:25:54] reasons you have the more desire you'll have because reasons are the fuel in the
[06:25:57] have because reasons are the fuel in the furnace of achievement reasons are the
[06:26:00] furnace of achievement reasons are the fuel in the furnace of achievement the
[06:26:02] fuel in the furnace of achievement the more reasons you have for accomplishing
[06:26:04] more reasons you have for accomplishing something the more likely it is you'll
[06:26:05] something the more likely it is you'll accomplish it for instance if you say
[06:26:07] accomplish it for instance if you say well I like to earn $50,000 a year or
[06:26:10] well I like to earn $50,000 a year or 30,000 or 100,000 doesn't matter person
[06:26:13] 30,000 or 100,000 doesn't matter person says why and if you just say well just
[06:26:14] says why and if you just say well just so that I can earn that kind of money it
[06:26:17] so that I can earn that kind of money it has almost no motivating power but if
[06:26:19] has almost no motivating power but if you say so I could get a car so I could
[06:26:21] you say so I could get a car so I could take care of my family so I could take
[06:26:22] take care of my family so I could take my wife or my husband on a trip so I
[06:26:24] my wife or my husband on a trip so I could buy things for my children so I
[06:26:25] could buy things for my children so I could change my wardrobe get a different
[06:26:27] could change my wardrobe get a different house buy a different car the more
[06:26:29] house buy a different car the more things that you list under there the
[06:26:31] things that you list under there the more likely it is that you're going to
[06:26:33] more likely it is that you're going to accomplish it because when you list your
[06:26:35] accomplish it because when you list your reasons you intensify your belief your
[06:26:38] reasons you intensify your belief your faith and your conviction that it's
[06:26:40] faith and your conviction that it's possible number five step in goal
[06:26:43] possible number five step in goal setting is to analyze your
[06:26:47] setting is to analyze your position analyze your starting point now
[06:26:51] position analyze your starting point now this is
[06:26:52] this is important because in analyzing your
[06:26:54] important because in analyzing your starting point you know what your next
[06:26:56] starting point you know what your next step is when we say analyzing our
[06:26:58] step is when we say analyzing our starting point what do we mean well let
[06:27:00] starting point what do we mean well let me give you a couple of examples
[06:27:05] in analyzing your starting point you
[06:27:06] in analyzing your starting point you have to ask yourself what are your
[06:27:08] have to ask yourself what are your strengths what are your basic strengths
[06:27:10] strengths what are your basic strengths and what are your basic weaknesses what
[06:27:12] and what are your basic weaknesses what is it that you need to learn what is it
[06:27:14] is it that you need to learn what is it that you need to improve you see before
[06:27:16] that you need to improve you see before you accomplish any big goals major
[06:27:19] you accomplish any big goals major efforts are necessary before you bring
[06:27:21] efforts are necessary before you bring about any major change in your life
[06:27:22] about any major change in your life you're going to have to bring about
[06:27:24] you're going to have to bring about major changes in you before you
[06:27:27] major changes in you before you accomplish anything extraordinary you're
[06:27:29] accomplish anything extraordinary you're going to have to do a lot of ordinary
[06:27:31] going to have to do a lot of ordinary things so you have to ask this question
[06:27:33] things so you have to ask this question if if you want to lose weight what's the
[06:27:35] if if you want to lose weight what's the first thing you do is you weigh yourself
[06:27:36] first thing you do is you weigh yourself if you want to increase your income the
[06:27:37] if you want to increase your income the first thing you do is you figure out how
[06:27:39] first thing you do is you figure out how much did you make last year how much are
[06:27:40] much did you make last year how much are you making right now and then if you
[06:27:42] you making right now and then if you want to increase your income and you're
[06:27:43] want to increase your income and you're in the business of sales then you say
[06:27:45] in the business of sales then you say how many calls am I making on a daily
[06:27:48] how many calls am I making on a daily basis how many closes am I making what
[06:27:50] basis how many closes am I making what is my average sales volume uh what is my
[06:27:53] is my average sales volume uh what is my average sale how many of those do I have
[06:27:55] average sale how many of those do I have to have how much do I have to increase
[06:27:57] to have how much do I have to increase it and so on if you want to build a
[06:27:59] it and so on if you want to build a bigger business you analyze your
[06:28:00] bigger business you analyze your starting point and you say Where am I in
[06:28:02] starting point and you say Where am I in the marketplace how am I fixing with
[06:28:04] the marketplace how am I fixing with regard to capital resources how am I
[06:28:06] regard to capital resources how am I fixed with regard to Manpower how am I
[06:28:08] fixed with regard to Manpower how am I fixed with regard to Market
[06:28:09] fixed with regard to Market opportunities and credit and you sit
[06:28:11] opportunities and credit and you sit down and you do a very very clear
[06:28:13] down and you do a very very clear analysis exactly the way a military
[06:28:15] analysis exactly the way a military commander would do a strategic analysis
[06:28:17] commander would do a strategic analysis of his or her position before a
[06:28:19] of his or her position before a launching a major battle campaign one of
[06:28:22] launching a major battle campaign one of the big mistakes that people make in
[06:28:23] the big mistakes that people make in goal setting is they launch without
[06:28:25] goal setting is they launch without taking the time to think through what
[06:28:27] taking the time to think through what their launching pad is and when they
[06:28:29] their launching pad is and when they find themselves driven back if you like
[06:28:31] find themselves driven back if you like or falling on their face they don't have
[06:28:33] or falling on their face they don't have a found Foundation underneath it so
[06:28:35] a found Foundation underneath it so those are the six starting points
[06:28:37] those are the six starting points determine what it is that you desire I'm
[06:28:39] determine what it is that you desire I'm sorry the five starting points determine
[06:28:41] sorry the five starting points determine what it is that you desire believe that
[06:28:43] what it is that you desire believe that you can accomplish it write it down
[06:28:45] you can accomplish it write it down determine the reasons why analyze your
[06:28:47] determine the reasons why analyze your starting point and number
[06:28:50] starting point and number six set a
[06:28:53] six set a deadline set a
[06:28:56] deadline set a deadline you see a goal without a
[06:28:59] deadline you see a goal without a deadline is not really a goal at all a
[06:29:01] deadline is not really a goal at all a goal without a deadline is an exercise
[06:29:03] goal without a deadline is an exercise in self delusion so be very alert to
[06:29:05] in self delusion so be very alert to that set a deadline on your total goal
[06:29:08] that set a deadline on your total goal and then set many
[06:29:09] and then set many deadlines not many but
[06:29:12] deadlines not many but many
[06:29:15] many so if you have a one-year goal then set
[06:29:18] so if you have a one-year goal then set 12 one month goals WR two six months
[06:29:22] 12 one month goals WR two six months goals Four 3 month goals 12 one month
[06:29:25] goals Four 3 month goals 12 one month goals and then four onee goals set many
[06:29:28] goals and then four onee goals set many deadlines and establish a reward
[06:29:31] deadlines and establish a reward schedule this is one of the most
[06:29:34] schedule this is one of the most important findings in Psychology is
[06:29:36] important findings in Psychology is establish a reward
[06:29:38] establish a reward schedule is that if you will give
[06:29:40] schedule is that if you will give yourself a small reward and we find that
[06:29:43] yourself a small reward and we find that many many of the most successful men and
[06:29:45] many many of the most successful men and women that we've studied have little
[06:29:47] women that we've studied have little games with themselves if if it's nothing
[06:29:49] games with themselves if if it's nothing more than every three phone calls they
[06:29:50] more than every three phone calls they give them a Jelly Bean or every two
[06:29:53] give them a Jelly Bean or every two appointments that they get they give
[06:29:55] appointments that they get they give themselves a cup of coffee or a walk
[06:29:57] themselves a cup of coffee or a walk outside it really doesn't matter what it
[06:29:59] outside it really doesn't matter what it is but establish a reward schedule so
[06:30:01] is but establish a reward schedule so that every time you achieve a mini
[06:30:03] that every time you achieve a mini deadline for a mini goal on the path to
[06:30:06] deadline for a mini goal on the path to your bigger goal you give yourself a
[06:30:08] your bigger goal you give yourself a reward and you'll find that people who
[06:30:10] reward and you'll find that people who have not been able to motivate
[06:30:11] have not been able to motivate themselves for years if they have little
[06:30:13] themselves for years if they have little rewards one after the other you see you
[06:30:15] rewards one after the other you see you see it's not enough to have a big reward
[06:30:17] see it's not enough to have a big reward at the end of the road as human beings
[06:30:20] at the end of the road as human beings we're almost like uh kids we have to
[06:30:22] we're almost like uh kids we have to have a whole lot of little rewards on
[06:30:24] have a whole lot of little rewards on the way a whole lot of little jelly
[06:30:25] the way a whole lot of little jelly beans on the way to the birthday cake or
[06:30:27] beans on the way to the birthday cake or the birthday party so set yourself a
[06:30:29] the birthday party so set yourself a reward schedule it may be buying a new
[06:30:31] reward schedule it may be buying a new article of clothing it may be taking a
[06:30:33] article of clothing it may be taking a trip it may be going out to dinner it
[06:30:35] trip it may be going out to dinner it may be any anything that you like you
[06:30:37] may be any anything that you like you can have little rewards for small
[06:30:39] can have little rewards for small achievements mediumsized rewards for
[06:30:41] achievements mediumsized rewards for mediumsized achievements big rewards for
[06:30:43] mediumsized achievements big rewards for big achievements and make sure that that
[06:30:45] big achievements and make sure that that why is there because it intensifies the
[06:30:47] why is there because it intensifies the desire it keeps up your excitement and
[06:30:49] desire it keeps up your excitement and enthusiasm and it unconsciously
[06:30:51] enthusiasm and it unconsciously reinforces you and drives you forward
[06:30:53] reinforces you and drives you forward into the next action step number seven
[06:30:56] into the next action step number seven this is where we come down into the
[06:30:58] this is where we come down into the planning step step number seven is this
[06:31:00] planning step step number seven is this is
[06:31:02] is identify the obstacles
[06:31:05] identify the obstacles you will have to overcome identify the
[06:31:07] you will have to overcome identify the obstacles one of the things that we know
[06:31:10] obstacles one of the things that we know is that obstacles equal success success
[06:31:14] is that obstacles equal success success means obstacles that there is no success
[06:31:17] means obstacles that there is no success without obstacles as a matter of fact
[06:31:19] without obstacles as a matter of fact obstacles come to
[06:31:21] obstacles come to instruct not to
[06:31:24] instruct not to obstruct instruct versus obstruct
[06:31:27] obstruct instruct versus obstruct remember this every obstacle or
[06:31:29] remember this every obstacle or difficulty that you meet on the way to
[06:31:30] difficulty that you meet on the way to your goal has come to instruct you in s
[06:31:33] your goal has come to instruct you in s in some way way so identify the
[06:31:35] in some way way so identify the obstacles you're going to have to
[06:31:36] obstacles you're going to have to overcome on the way to your goal one of
[06:31:38] overcome on the way to your goal one of the things that holds people back from
[06:31:40] the things that holds people back from great accomplishment is that they see
[06:31:42] great accomplishment is that they see that there's an enormous number of
[06:31:44] that there's an enormous number of obstacles that they have to overcome
[06:31:46] obstacles that they have to overcome it's like the settlers coming across the
[06:31:47] it's like the settlers coming across the Prairies a 100 years ago saw those
[06:31:50] Prairies a 100 years ago saw those enormous enormous Rocky Mountains and so
[06:31:52] enormous enormous Rocky Mountains and so how are they ever going to get through
[06:31:54] how are they ever going to get through that massive mountain range of mountains
[06:31:56] that massive mountain range of mountains until some of the Trappers and some of
[06:31:58] until some of the Trappers and some of the scouts found that there were valleys
[06:32:01] the scouts found that there were valleys that they could find that would lead
[06:32:02] that they could find that would lead them through the mountain and all they
[06:32:04] them through the mountain and all they needed was one Valley through one set of
[06:32:07] needed was one Valley through one set of mountains in order to be on the other
[06:32:08] mountains in order to be on the other side so look at identify the obstacles
[06:32:11] side so look at identify the obstacles and then list the obstacles ask yourself
[06:32:14] and then list the obstacles ask yourself what are all the things that are holding
[06:32:16] what are all the things that are holding you
[06:32:17] you back from accomplishing the goal right
[06:32:19] back from accomplishing the goal right now why aren't you at the goal right now
[06:32:21] now why aren't you at the goal right now you see if there aren't any obstacles
[06:32:23] you see if there aren't any obstacles it's not a goal at all it's just an
[06:32:24] it's not a goal at all it's just an activity so what's standing between you
[06:32:26] activity so what's standing between you and the obstacles also be well be
[06:32:28] and the obstacles also be well be grateful for obstacles because it's
[06:32:30] grateful for obstacles because it's obstacles that assure that there is
[06:32:32] obstacles that assure that there is Success at the other end where there are
[06:32:33] Success at the other end where there are no obstacles where there are no
[06:32:34] no obstacles where there are no difficulties where there are no
[06:32:35] difficulties where there are no challenges to overcome there's no
[06:32:37] challenges to overcome there's no possibility of success either then set
[06:32:40] possibility of success either then set priorities on your obstacles in other
[06:32:43] priorities on your obstacles in other words look at them and say of all the
[06:32:44] words look at them and say of all the things that are standing between me and
[06:32:46] things that are standing between me and my goal which one is number one which is
[06:32:50] my goal which one is number one which is the number one obstacle imagine that
[06:32:52] the number one obstacle imagine that this is you okay hope you can see that
[06:32:55] this is you okay hope you can see that that this is you and here is your
[06:32:58] that this is you and here is your goal well now on the way to your goal
[06:33:00] goal well now on the way to your goal there's a road and the road twists and
[06:33:03] there's a road and the road twists and turns and on the way to the goal there's
[06:33:04] turns and on the way to the goal there's a little few obstacles and there's
[06:33:06] a little few obstacles and there's pitfalls and there's deadfalls and so on
[06:33:08] pitfalls and there's deadfalls and so on but somewhere on the way to this goal
[06:33:09] but somewhere on the way to this goal there's also what we call the Rock now
[06:33:12] there's also what we call the Rock now your rock is your major obstacle the
[06:33:15] your rock is your major obstacle the rock is the major thing that is stopping
[06:33:18] rock is the major thing that is stopping you from achieving your goal and the
[06:33:19] you from achieving your goal and the quality and the quantity that you desire
[06:33:22] quality and the quantity that you desire one of the most important things that
[06:33:23] one of the most important things that you can do is ask yourself what is your
[06:33:26] you can do is ask yourself what is your rock what is the major bowler what is
[06:33:29] rock what is the major bowler what is the big obstruction that stops you from
[06:33:31] the big obstruction that stops you from getting to from here to there
[06:33:33] getting to from here to there identifying the rock is one of the marks
[06:33:36] identifying the rock is one of the marks of the Strategic thinker and identifying
[06:33:38] of the Strategic thinker and identifying the rock is one of the key things you do
[06:33:40] the rock is one of the key things you do why because if you get rid of all of
[06:33:42] why because if you get rid of all of these other little obstacles on the way
[06:33:43] these other little obstacles on the way to the goal the rock is still going to
[06:33:45] to the goal the rock is still going to be there and you're still not going to
[06:33:47] be there and you're still not going to accomplish the goal if you're not very
[06:33:48] accomplish the goal if you're not very careful if you don't set priorities on
[06:33:50] careful if you don't set priorities on your obstacles you'll tend to work on a
[06:33:52] your obstacles you'll tend to work on a whole lot of irrelevant things and leave
[06:33:54] whole lot of irrelevant things and leave this rock undisturbed however the
[06:33:56] this rock undisturbed however the intelligent person focuses on the Rock
[06:34:00] intelligent person focuses on the Rock the intelligent person says this is the
[06:34:01] the intelligent person says this is the major obstacle and they go to work on
[06:34:04] major obstacle and they go to work on that rock and they work day and night
[06:34:06] that rock and they work day and night they work as long as is necessary
[06:34:08] they work as long as is necessary there's a beautiful expression that says
[06:34:10] there's a beautiful expression that says swarm all over it when you have a major
[06:34:13] swarm all over it when you have a major problem a major obstacle a major
[06:34:15] problem a major obstacle a major difficulty that's in your way swarm all
[06:34:17] difficulty that's in your way swarm all over it concentrate all of your effort
[06:34:19] over it concentrate all of your effort and attention work at it day and night
[06:34:22] and attention work at it day and night week in and week out to get rid of it
[06:34:24] week in and week out to get rid of it because getting rid of that one obstacle
[06:34:25] because getting rid of that one obstacle will get you further towards your goal
[06:34:28] will get you further towards your goal than getting rid of all of the other
[06:34:29] than getting rid of all of the other obstacles put together so in terms of
[06:34:32] obstacles put together so in terms of your major definite purpose
[06:34:34] your major definite purpose what is your rock what is your major
[06:34:37] what is your rock what is your major obstacle what's stopping you from going
[06:34:38] obstacle what's stopping you from going ahead it could be internal it could be
[06:34:41] ahead it could be internal it could be lack of self-confidence it's very could
[06:34:43] lack of self-confidence it's very could be self-doubt it could be fear of loss
[06:34:45] be self-doubt it could be fear of loss it could be a lot of things that's quite
[06:34:47] it could be a lot of things that's quite normal or it could be external it could
[06:34:49] normal or it could be external it could be lack of money it could be lack of
[06:34:51] be lack of money it could be lack of information or knowledge it could be
[06:34:53] information or knowledge it could be lack of support from other people it
[06:34:54] lack of support from other people it could be Health it could be a variety of
[06:34:56] could be Health it could be a variety of things but whatever it is if you're
[06:34:58] things but whatever it is if you're determined to accomplish your goal find
[06:35:00] determined to accomplish your goal find out what it is and go to work to remove
[06:35:02] out what it is and go to work to remove it now number eight
[06:35:04] it now number eight is
[06:35:06] is identify the knowledge you're going to
[06:35:09] identify the knowledge you're going to require identify the knowledge that
[06:35:11] require identify the knowledge that you're going to require you see we live
[06:35:15] you're going to require you see we live in a knowledge-based society there's no
[06:35:17] in a knowledge-based society there's no question about that is that no matter
[06:35:20] question about that is that no matter what it is that you want to accomplish
[06:35:21] what it is that you want to accomplish you're going to need more knowledge than
[06:35:23] you're going to need more knowledge than you have now the basic rule of life is
[06:35:26] you have now the basic rule of life is that to the to a greater or lesser
[06:35:27] that to the to a greater or lesser extent you have gone as far as you can
[06:35:30] extent you have gone as far as you can go in your life at this moment with what
[06:35:33] go in your life at this moment with what you now know that's why I've emphasized
[06:35:35] you now know that's why I've emphasized so strongly the need for in continuous
[06:35:38] so strongly the need for in continuous self-development reading learning taking
[06:35:40] self-development reading learning taking in new information because you need more
[06:35:42] in new information because you need more knowledge now there's two ways that you
[06:35:43] knowledge now there's two ways that you can get knowledge you can go out and get
[06:35:45] can get knowledge you can go out and get original knowledge which is to read
[06:35:47] original knowledge which is to read research and find it yourself or you can
[06:35:49] research and find it yourself or you can get Knowledge from other people but in
[06:35:51] get Knowledge from other people but in any case identify the knowledge you
[06:35:53] any case identify the knowledge you require what do you need to
[06:35:56] require what do you need to know for instance if you want to be
[06:35:58] know for instance if you want to be successful in business one of the things
[06:36:00] successful in business one of the things that you have to know is marketing and
[06:36:02] that you have to know is marketing and sales if you want to be successful UC in
[06:36:03] sales if you want to be successful UC in your own business the critical skill in
[06:36:06] your own business the critical skill in entrepreneurial success is salesmanship
[06:36:08] entrepreneurial success is salesmanship the critical skill in executive success
[06:36:10] the critical skill in executive success is the ability to sell your ideas to
[06:36:13] is the ability to sell your ideas to others and to persuade others so maybe
[06:36:14] others and to persuade others so maybe what you need maybe the critical
[06:36:16] what you need maybe the critical knowledge you need is persuasion skills
[06:36:18] knowledge you need is persuasion skills or it could be the knowledge that you
[06:36:20] or it could be the knowledge that you need has to do with the law it has to do
[06:36:22] need has to do with the law it has to do with accounting has to do with
[06:36:23] with accounting has to do with technology two points is set priorities
[06:36:27] technology two points is set priorities on your
[06:36:29] on your knowledge you see when you set
[06:36:31] knowledge you see when you set priorities and you determine what's the
[06:36:32] priorities and you determine what's the number one piece of knowledge that you
[06:36:34] number one piece of knowledge that you need what's the one number one piece of
[06:36:36] need what's the one number one piece of knowledge that more than anything else
[06:36:37] knowledge that more than anything else can hold you back from accomplishing
[06:36:40] can hold you back from accomplishing your goal and you'll find that if you
[06:36:42] your goal and you'll find that if you concentrate on the number one piece of
[06:36:44] concentrate on the number one piece of knowledge it's like The Rock in terms of
[06:36:46] knowledge it's like The Rock in terms of obstacles the number one piece of
[06:36:47] obstacles the number one piece of knowledge once acquired will catapult
[06:36:50] knowledge once acquired will catapult you toward your goal whereas if you
[06:36:52] you toward your goal whereas if you accomplish a whole lot of other
[06:36:53] accomplish a whole lot of other knowledge it won't help you at all now
[06:36:56] knowledge it won't help you at all now finally and this is the the last part
[06:36:58] finally and this is the the last part with regard to knowledge is ask your way
[06:36:59] with regard to knowledge is ask your way to
[06:37:00] to success ask your way to success
[06:37:06] this is one of the pieces of advice by a
[06:37:08] this is one of the pieces of advice by a great success counselor is ask ask ask
[06:37:12] great success counselor is ask ask ask what he said and what every person who's
[06:37:14] what he said and what every person who's ever studied this has said is that this
[06:37:16] ever studied this has said is that this three-letter word ask is the key to your
[06:37:20] three-letter word ask is the key to your success in life ask the people who have
[06:37:22] success in life ask the people who have the knowledge if you need hire the
[06:37:24] the knowledge if you need hire the lawyers hire the Consultants hire the
[06:37:27] lawyers hire the Consultants hire the Specialists hire the accountants ask
[06:37:29] Specialists hire the accountants ask your way to success find other people
[06:37:31] your way to success find other people who are in your field find people who
[06:37:33] who are in your field find people who have success find people who are
[06:37:34] have success find people who are experienced and go to them and ask why
[06:37:37] experienced and go to them and ask why is it that people don't ask very simple
[06:37:39] is it that people don't ask very simple reason most people are afraid of
[06:37:40] reason most people are afraid of rejection but the key to getting the
[06:37:42] rejection but the key to getting the things that you want in life is first of
[06:37:43] things that you want in life is first of all you going have to learn it all
[06:37:45] all you going have to learn it all yourself or second is you can ask other
[06:37:48] yourself or second is you can ask other people and surprisingly enough if you
[06:37:49] people and surprisingly enough if you ask other people they'll tell you if you
[06:37:51] ask other people they'll tell you if you ask successful people what they did
[06:37:53] ask successful people what they did right they'll tell you if you ask
[06:37:55] right they'll tell you if you ask successful people for their advice
[06:37:56] successful people for their advice they'll tell you as a matter of fact I
[06:37:58] they'll tell you as a matter of fact I was studying the life of a self-made
[06:37:59] was studying the life of a self-made millionaire and he said one of the keys
[06:38:01] millionaire and he said one of the keys to success in business is to become a
[06:38:03] to success in business is to become a negative thinker and I thought that was
[06:38:05] negative thinker and I thought that was astonishing because I teach that you
[06:38:06] astonishing because I teach that you should be a positive thinker and as I
[06:38:07] should be a positive thinker and as I read on what he said is by that I mean
[06:38:10] read on what he said is by that I mean is that once you come up with a great
[06:38:12] is that once you come up with a great idea take it to experts who can tear
[06:38:15] idea take it to experts who can tear your idea apart who can point out holes
[06:38:18] your idea apart who can point out holes and weaknesses and flaws now if you
[06:38:20] and weaknesses and flaws now if you cannot plug the holes weaknesses and
[06:38:22] cannot plug the holes weaknesses and flaws it probably means the idea isn't
[06:38:24] flaws it probably means the idea isn't good enough but if you are not willing
[06:38:26] good enough but if you are not willing to subject your idea to the scrutiny of
[06:38:30] to subject your idea to the scrutiny of critical people whose job is to find
[06:38:32] critical people whose job is to find fatal flaw in something then the idea is
[06:38:34] fatal flaw in something then the idea is probably not good enough so seeking out
[06:38:37] probably not good enough so seeking out negative people asking people their
[06:38:38] negative people asking people their opinion ask your way to success remember
[06:38:41] opinion ask your way to success remember in order to succeed you need knowledge
[06:38:43] in order to succeed you need knowledge you need more knowledge than you've got
[06:38:45] you need more knowledge than you've got you don't have very much time you've got
[06:38:47] you don't have very much time you've got to get the knowledge the fastest
[06:38:49] to get the knowledge the fastest cheapest way possible if necessary buy
[06:38:51] cheapest way possible if necessary buy the knowledge you require don't be cheap
[06:38:53] the knowledge you require don't be cheap when it comes to knowledge number
[06:38:55] when it comes to knowledge number nine step in goal setting is identify
[06:38:59] nine step in goal setting is identify and ask yourself who is your
[06:39:01] and ask yourself who is your customer who is your your
[06:39:06] customer this means that you have to
[06:39:09] customer this means that you have to identify the
[06:39:10] identify the people the
[06:39:13] people the groups and the
[06:39:15] groups and the organizations whose cooperation you
[06:39:18] organizations whose cooperation you require in order to be successful who
[06:39:21] require in order to be successful who are the people who are the groups who
[06:39:22] are the people who are the groups who are the organizations you see in life we
[06:39:24] are the organizations you see in life we have a very simple equation is that
[06:39:25] have a very simple equation is that everybody makes their living by
[06:39:27] everybody makes their living by satisfying or serving somebody that you
[06:39:31] satisfying or serving somebody that you and me have a customer
[06:39:34] and me have a customer and that we move ahead in life to the
[06:39:36] and that we move ahead in life to the degree to which we satisfy our customers
[06:39:38] degree to which we satisfy our customers so we are all in the business of
[06:39:40] so we are all in the business of customer satisfaction now if you work
[06:39:42] customer satisfaction now if you work for a company your customer may be your
[06:39:44] for a company your customer may be your boss if you're a salesperson your
[06:39:46] boss if you're a salesperson your customer may be your boss on the inside
[06:39:48] customer may be your boss on the inside and the person who buys your product or
[06:39:49] and the person who buys your product or service on the outside if you're a nurse
[06:39:51] service on the outside if you're a nurse your customer is the head nurse whoever
[06:39:53] your customer is the head nurse whoever you are there is somebody in your
[06:39:55] you are there is somebody in your environment if you have a business
[06:39:56] environment if you have a business person you have to expand one of your
[06:39:58] person you have to expand one of your customers is your Banker another one of
[06:40:00] customers is your Banker another one of your customers is your staff your
[06:40:02] your customers is your staff your employees another customer may be your
[06:40:04] employees another customer may be your family but there are always people that
[06:40:06] family but there are always people that you have to work with in order to
[06:40:08] you have to work with in order to accomplish your goals now why should
[06:40:10] accomplish your goals now why should people work with you in order to help
[06:40:12] people work with you in order to help you accomplish your goals there's only
[06:40:14] you accomplish your goals there's only one way and that is what we call the law
[06:40:18] one way and that is what we call the law of compensation the law of compensation
[06:40:21] of compensation the law of compensation which comes from Ralph wallow Emerson's
[06:40:24] which comes from Ralph wallow Emerson's wonderful essay called compensation
[06:40:26] wonderful essay called compensation simply says that for every force in life
[06:40:29] simply says that for every force in life there's an equal and opposite Force we
[06:40:30] there's an equal and opposite Force we call it the law of sewing and reaping
[06:40:32] call it the law of sewing and reaping but it says this it says that you are
[06:40:34] but it says this it says that you are always compensated in equal measure for
[06:40:37] always compensated in equal measure for what you do in fact it always says that
[06:40:39] what you do in fact it always says that you are compensated in more than equal
[06:40:41] you are compensated in more than equal measure so if you sow good you reap more
[06:40:44] measure so if you sow good you reap more good than you sow if you sow bad you
[06:40:46] good than you sow if you sow bad you reap more bad than you sow the law of
[06:40:49] reap more bad than you sow the law of compensation says that as long as you
[06:40:51] compensation says that as long as you are doing good things for other people
[06:40:53] are doing good things for other people people other people will do good things
[06:40:55] people other people will do good things for you so you ask this question and
[06:40:57] for you so you ask this question and this is everybody's favorite radio
[06:40:58] this is everybody's favorite radio station it's called wi if FM what's in
[06:41:02] station it's called wi if FM what's in it for me
[06:41:04] it for me wi FM what's in it for me if you want to
[06:41:07] wi FM what's in it for me if you want to be successful in life the most
[06:41:09] be successful in life the most successful people are what are called
[06:41:11] successful people are what are called go-givers as opposed to go-getters
[06:41:14] go-givers as opposed to go-getters go-givers are people who are always
[06:41:16] go-givers are people who are always asking what can I do to please my
[06:41:19] asking what can I do to please my customers what can I do to give value
[06:41:21] customers what can I do to give value what can I do to earn their cooperation
[06:41:24] what can I do to earn their cooperation and their help to accomplish my goals
[06:41:26] and their help to accomplish my goals they're always trying to put themselves
[06:41:28] they're always trying to put themselves on the side of this law of compensation
[06:41:30] on the side of this law of compensation knowing that if they put in they'll get
[06:41:33] knowing that if they put in they'll get out all the best companies in America or
[06:41:36] out all the best companies in America or Canada anywhere in the world are built
[06:41:37] Canada anywhere in the world are built on the law of compensation built on the
[06:41:39] on the law of compensation built on the law of sewing good seed and reaping good
[06:41:42] law of sewing good seed and reaping good harvests all unsuccessful laws or all
[06:41:45] harvests all unsuccessful laws or all unsuccessful individuals and companies
[06:41:47] unsuccessful individuals and companies are built on the premise of taking as
[06:41:50] are built on the premise of taking as much as you can get putting in back or
[06:41:52] much as you can get putting in back or as little as you can put in now a second
[06:41:55] as little as you can put in now a second law which ties in with this is what it's
[06:41:58] law which ties in with this is what it's called The
[06:41:59] called The Law of
[06:42:00] Law of service the law of service says that you
[06:42:04] service the law of service says that you will always be rewarded in life in exact
[06:42:08] will always be rewarded in life in exact proportion to the value of your service
[06:42:11] proportion to the value of your service to other people to your customer whoever
[06:42:14] to other people to your customer whoever your customer or customers are the law
[06:42:17] your customer or customers are the law of service says that your returns will
[06:42:19] of service says that your returns will always equal your service that if you
[06:42:21] always equal your service that if you want to increase the value of your
[06:42:23] want to increase the value of your returns you have to increase the value
[06:42:24] returns you have to increase the value of your service but it also says this
[06:42:26] of your service but it also says this wonderful thing is that the great
[06:42:28] wonderful thing is that the great satisfactions in life the great Joys
[06:42:30] satisfactions in life the great Joys that you will enjoy in life will always
[06:42:31] that you will enjoy in life will always come from serving other people it'll
[06:42:33] come from serving other people it'll always come from doing a good job from
[06:42:35] always come from doing a good job from contributing something of value to
[06:42:37] contributing something of value to others and the more work you do on
[06:42:39] others and the more work you do on yourself to increase the value of your
[06:42:41] yourself to increase the value of your contribution the happier you will be and
[06:42:44] contribution the happier you will be and the bigger your rewards will be it also
[06:42:46] the bigger your rewards will be it also triggers the third law which is the law
[06:42:49] triggers the third law which is the law of return the law of return says that
[06:42:52] of return the law of return says that whatever you put in in terms of service
[06:42:54] whatever you put in in terms of service you will get back in terms of return and
[06:42:57] you will get back in terms of return and it brings us to one more law again from
[06:42:59] it brings us to one more law again from Napoleon Hill called The Law of
[06:43:02] Napoleon Hill called The Law of overcompensation the law of
[06:43:03] overcompensation the law of overcompensation to me and to many
[06:43:06] overcompensation to me and to many people is the key to success in life and
[06:43:08] people is the key to success in life and it simply says this it says always do
[06:43:12] it simply says this it says always do more than you're paid for always put in
[06:43:14] more than you're paid for always put in more than you take out always go the
[06:43:17] more than you take out always go the extra mile always do more than you're
[06:43:19] extra mile always do more than you're paid for you can never be paid more than
[06:43:21] paid for you can never be paid more than you're getting now until you do more
[06:43:24] you're getting now until you do more than you're being paid now and you put
[06:43:26] than you're being paid now and you put yourself on the side of the Angels when
[06:43:28] yourself on the side of the Angels when you put in more and more than you're
[06:43:30] you put in more and more than you're being paid for number 10
[06:43:33] being paid for number 10 is make a
[06:43:36] is make a plan make a plan and make the plan over
[06:43:41] plan make a plan and make the plan over and
[06:43:42] and over all successful men and women are
[06:43:45] over all successful men and women are successful planners and how do you make
[06:43:47] successful planners and how do you make a plan simple a plan is a list of
[06:43:51] a plan simple a plan is a list of activities in other words you just
[06:43:53] activities in other words you just identify from everything that we've
[06:43:54] identify from everything that we've talked about what are the activities
[06:43:56] talked about what are the activities that you have to engage in to achieve
[06:43:58] that you have to engage in to achieve your goal and then you organize the list
[06:44:01] your goal and then you organize the list just like a ladder you organize the list
[06:44:03] just like a ladder you organize the list in terms of
[06:44:05] in terms of priorities and in terms of time what you
[06:44:07] priorities and in terms of time what you have to do first what do you have to do
[06:44:09] have to do first what do you have to do second what's more important what's less
[06:44:12] second what's more important what's less important and then you take action and
[06:44:15] important and then you take action and get going on your plan and continually
[06:44:17] get going on your plan and continually revise the plan number 11 is
[06:44:21] revise the plan number 11 is visualization visualization is worth all
[06:44:25] visualization visualization is worth all of the other 10 visualization is create
[06:44:27] of the other 10 visualization is create a clear mental picture of the goal that
[06:44:31] a clear mental picture of the goal that you desire create a clear mental picture
[06:44:34] you desire create a clear mental picture and then
[06:44:36] and then imagine or
[06:44:39] imagine or image the
[06:44:41] image the result get a clear mental picture and
[06:44:44] result get a clear mental picture and see your goal as already realized see it
[06:44:47] see your goal as already realized see it as a reality and play that picture over
[06:44:49] as a reality and play that picture over and over again on the screen of your
[06:44:52] and over again on the screen of your mind play that picture on the screen of
[06:44:54] mind play that picture on the screen of your mind until you can see it with
[06:44:57] your mind until you can see it with perfect clarity design it draw it out do
[06:44:59] perfect clarity design it draw it out do whatever is necessary in order to create
[06:45:02] whatever is necessary in order to create that metal picture and then think about
[06:45:04] that metal picture and then think about that mental picture think about your
[06:45:05] that mental picture think about your goal as a reality over and over again
[06:45:08] goal as a reality over and over again repeat it until you impress it deeper
[06:45:10] repeat it until you impress it deeper and deeper and deeper into your
[06:45:11] and deeper and deeper into your subconscious number 12 is back your plan
[06:45:16] subconscious number 12 is back your plan with determination and persistence back
[06:45:19] with determination and persistence back your plan with determination and
[06:45:21] your plan with determination and persistence in the final analysis the
[06:45:24] persistence in the final analysis the key to your success is your ability to
[06:45:27] key to your success is your ability to hang in longer than anybody else in all
[06:45:31] hang in longer than anybody else in all the studies that we've looked at of when
[06:45:33] the studies that we've looked at of when of Peak Performance we find that the
[06:45:35] of Peak Performance we find that the quality of persistence is to the
[06:45:37] quality of persistence is to the character of a man or woman as carbon is
[06:45:40] character of a man or woman as carbon is to Steel that persistence is only
[06:45:43] to Steel that persistence is only necessary when the going gets rough that
[06:45:45] necessary when the going gets rough that persistence is only comes to the four
[06:45:48] persistence is only comes to the four when everything falls apart around you
[06:45:50] when everything falls apart around you and you feel like quitting that
[06:45:51] and you feel like quitting that persistence has no value at all when
[06:45:53] persistence has no value at all when things are going well persistence only
[06:45:55] things are going well persistence only has value when you are willing to press
[06:45:58] has value when you are willing to press on in the face of obstacles difficulties
[06:46:03] on in the face of obstacles difficulties disappointments falling on your face
[06:46:05] disappointments falling on your face losing your money and so on uh in the
[06:46:08] losing your money and so on uh in the studies of self-made millionaires we
[06:46:09] studies of self-made millionaires we find that the average self-made
[06:46:10] find that the average self-made millionaire in America has been broke or
[06:46:12] millionaire in America has been broke or nearly broke 3.2 times but irrespective
[06:46:16] nearly broke 3.2 times but irrespective of anything that they face male or
[06:46:18] of anything that they face male or female they kept on struggling and
[06:46:20] female they kept on struggling and that's one of the reasons why they
[06:46:21] that's one of the reasons why they became successful we also know this by
[06:46:23] became successful we also know this by the way that in order for you to achieve
[06:46:25] the way that in order for you to achieve great success you have no choice but to
[06:46:28] great success you have no choice but to be willing to face temporary setbacks
[06:46:31] be willing to face temporary setbacks temporary defeats temporary obstacles
[06:46:34] temporary defeats temporary obstacles Winston Churchill in one of the great
[06:46:35] Winston Churchill in one of the great stories of human history was asked in
[06:46:39] stories of human history was asked in speaking to a boy school if he could
[06:46:41] speaking to a boy school if he could summarize the lessons of his life in a
[06:46:44] summarize the lessons of his life in a few words and he stood up and he said I
[06:46:46] few words and he stood up and he said I could summarize the major lesson of my
[06:46:48] could summarize the major lesson of my life in seven words he said and he stood
[06:46:50] life in seven words he said and he stood there leaning on his Cane and he said
[06:46:52] there leaning on his Cane and he said they are these words young man he said
[06:46:55] they are these words young man he said never give up
[06:46:58] never give up never never give up and I think that
[06:47:02] never never give up and I think that more than anything else from every study
[06:47:04] more than anything else from every study I've read That's critical if you resolve
[06:47:06] I've read That's critical if you resolve in advance that once you have set off to
[06:47:08] in advance that once you have set off to achieve your goal that you will never
[06:47:10] achieve your goal that you will never give up that you will never quit that
[06:47:12] give up that you will never quit that nothing can stop you that every single
[06:47:15] nothing can stop you that every single difficulty will just be a Spur to drive
[06:47:17] difficulty will just be a Spur to drive you on that you will become an inverse
[06:47:19] you on that you will become an inverse paranoid and you look into every problem
[06:47:22] paranoid and you look into every problem and you look for the good in the problem
[06:47:23] and you look for the good in the problem you look for the lesson that you can
[06:47:24] you look for the lesson that you can learn you look for the way you can turn
[06:47:26] learn you look for the way you can turn the situation to your advantage if you
[06:47:28] the situation to your advantage if you keep on doing that if you keep
[06:47:30] keep on doing that if you keep optimistic if you keep this attitude of
[06:47:33] optimistic if you keep this attitude of confident expectation going you must you
[06:47:37] confident expectation going you must you will be successful and finally with
[06:47:38] will be successful and finally with regard to persistence the iron quality
[06:47:41] regard to persistence the iron quality that determines all your success let me
[06:47:42] that determines all your success let me just say this is that your persistence
[06:47:46] just say this is that your persistence is your measure of your belief in
[06:47:49] is your measure of your belief in yourself your persistence is your
[06:47:52] yourself your persistence is your measure of your belief in yourself and
[06:47:54] measure of your belief in yourself and every time you persist in the face of
[06:47:56] every time you persist in the face of adversity your belief in yourself
[06:47:59] adversity your belief in yourself increases until it reaches the point
[06:48:01] increases until it reaches the point where you become un stoppable on the
[06:48:04] where you become un stoppable on the road and on the pathway to your
[06:48:15] goals session 17 time management
[06:48:19] goals session 17 time management strategies at the beginning of the
[06:48:20] strategies at the beginning of the seminar we talked about mental laws and
[06:48:22] seminar we talked about mental laws and we talked about the law of control we
[06:48:24] we talked about the law of control we said that you feel positive about
[06:48:26] said that you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel
[06:48:28] yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your life and you
[06:48:30] you are in control of your life and you feel negative about yourself to the
[06:48:31] feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in
[06:48:33] degree to which you feel you are not in control or the degree to which you feel
[06:48:34] control or the degree to which you feel you are controlled by external events
[06:48:37] you are controlled by external events now there's no place where this is more
[06:48:38] now there's no place where this is more important as part of the discussion than
[06:48:41] important as part of the discussion than in the subject of time management
[06:48:43] in the subject of time management Charles Hobbs the time management
[06:48:45] Charles Hobbs the time management specialist has come up with a great
[06:48:46] specialist has come up with a great definition of time management he says
[06:48:48] definition of time management he says time management is the control of the
[06:48:51] time management is the control of the sequence of events that most of your
[06:48:54] sequence of events that most of your stress in life comes from a feeling that
[06:48:56] stress in life comes from a feeling that you are out of control of the sequence
[06:48:59] you are out of control of the sequence of events now all successful people
[06:49:02] of events now all successful people practice good time management skills all
[06:49:05] practice good time management skills all unsuccessful people do not period that
[06:49:09] unsuccessful people do not period that each one of us has 24 hours a day you
[06:49:11] each one of us has 24 hours a day you have 24 hours a day and I have 24 hours
[06:49:13] have 24 hours a day and I have 24 hours a day yet the top 20% of every
[06:49:16] a day yet the top 20% of every graduating class the top 20% of every
[06:49:19] graduating class the top 20% of every industry the top 20% of every social
[06:49:22] industry the top 20% of every social grouping accomplish and Achieve 80% of
[06:49:25] grouping accomplish and Achieve 80% of the rewards not because they have more
[06:49:27] the rewards not because they have more Talent not because they have more skill
[06:49:29] Talent not because they have more skill not because they have more ability or
[06:49:31] not because they have more ability or intelligence or education or opportunity
[06:49:33] intelligence or education or opportunity or anything else it's because they use
[06:49:35] or anything else it's because they use their time better we've talked
[06:49:37] their time better we've talked throughout this course about keys to
[06:49:39] throughout this course about keys to success we said over and over again that
[06:49:41] success we said over and over again that one of the most important keys to
[06:49:43] one of the most important keys to success is
[06:49:44] success is self-discipline
[06:49:46] self-discipline self-discipline and we know that none of
[06:49:48] self-discipline and we know that none of us have enough self-discipline but
[06:49:51] us have enough self-discipline but self-discipline has a specific
[06:49:53] self-discipline has a specific application it means self-mastery it
[06:49:56] application it means self-mastery it means many things it means keeping your
[06:49:58] means many things it means keeping your mind on what you want and off of what
[06:50:00] mind on what you want and off of what you don't want but it also means self
[06:50:02] you don't want but it also means self control it means self-control in terms
[06:50:05] control it means self-control in terms of time in terms of controlling the
[06:50:08] of time in terms of controlling the sequence of events if you cannot master
[06:50:11] sequence of events if you cannot master your time then the seeds of greatness
[06:50:14] your time then the seeds of greatness are not in you if you cannot master your
[06:50:17] are not in you if you cannot master your time then it's not likely that you'll
[06:50:19] time then it's not likely that you'll ever accomplish what you are capable of
[06:50:21] ever accomplish what you are capable of accomplishing in life in this session I
[06:50:23] accomplishing in life in this session I want to give you seven keys to time
[06:50:26] want to give you seven keys to time management now I do entire one and two
[06:50:28] management now I do entire one and two day time management programs I can speak
[06:50:30] day time management programs I can speak for hours on time management without
[06:50:32] for hours on time management without referring to to a note I have studied
[06:50:34] referring to to a note I have studied countless books I've listened to all the
[06:50:35] countless books I've listened to all the tapes I've been to the courses I'm going
[06:50:37] tapes I've been to the courses I'm going to give you seven keys if you will
[06:50:39] to give you seven keys if you will follow these seven keys until they
[06:50:41] follow these seven keys until they become automatic you can double your
[06:50:43] become automatic you can double your time efficiency in almost no time at all
[06:50:46] time efficiency in almost no time at all so without further Ado let's go on but
[06:50:49] so without further Ado let's go on but remember time management is essential we
[06:50:51] remember time management is essential we all have the same time the only question
[06:50:53] all have the same time the only question is what do we do with the time and in
[06:50:56] is what do we do with the time and in that and out of that comes the stuff of
[06:50:59] that and out of that comes the stuff of Life starting point of time management
[06:51:02] Life starting point of time management number one which I've been repeating
[06:51:04] number one which I've been repeating over and over again is clear specific
[06:51:07] over and over again is clear specific goals clear specific goals do you know
[06:51:10] goals clear specific goals do you know how many people waste their time because
[06:51:14] how many people waste their time because they do not have clear specific goals
[06:51:16] they do not have clear specific goals they don't know what they're doing at
[06:51:18] they don't know what they're doing at least 80% of all time wastage or more is
[06:51:23] least 80% of all time wastage or more is because people aren't sure of what
[06:51:25] because people aren't sure of what they're supposed to be doing they're not
[06:51:27] they're supposed to be doing they're not sure of what they want to do and if they
[06:51:28] sure of what they want to do and if they work for a company they're not sure of
[06:51:30] work for a company they're not sure of what the company wants them to do as a
[06:51:31] what the company wants them to do as a matter of fact the first thing do when I
[06:51:32] matter of fact the first thing do when I go into a company is I say what you have
[06:51:35] go into a company is I say what you have to do is you have to clearly Define the
[06:51:37] to do is you have to clearly Define the expectations of each person in each
[06:51:38] expectations of each person in each position and you know in most cases they
[06:51:40] position and you know in most cases they are not sure how to do that clear
[06:51:42] are not sure how to do that clear specific goals if you work for a company
[06:51:45] specific goals if you work for a company if you work for a boss the first thing
[06:51:46] if you work for a boss the first thing that you should do is go to your boss
[06:51:48] that you should do is go to your boss and ask your boss exactly what he
[06:51:50] and ask your boss exactly what he expects you to do what are the most
[06:51:52] expects you to do what are the most important things that you have been
[06:51:54] important things that you have been hired to accomplish clear specific goals
[06:51:57] hired to accomplish clear specific goals defined in terms of outputs in terms of
[06:52:02] defined in terms of outputs in terms of results what results do you want in fact
[06:52:07] results what results do you want in fact when you set your goals you should
[06:52:08] when you set your goals you should always ask yourself what outcomes do you
[06:52:11] always ask yourself what outcomes do you desire rather than goals ask yourself
[06:52:14] desire rather than goals ask yourself what outcomes now what do I mean by
[06:52:16] what outcomes now what do I mean by outcomes well here's a perfect example
[06:52:18] outcomes well here's a perfect example person says I want to be successful in
[06:52:21] person says I want to be successful in my job what does that mean well what it
[06:52:23] my job what does that mean well what it means the outcome that they desire is
[06:52:25] means the outcome that they desire is they want interesting challenging work
[06:52:27] they want interesting challenging work that pays well and sometimes we find
[06:52:29] that pays well and sometimes we find ourselves working at a job where it's
[06:52:31] ourselves working at a job where it's not interesting or challenging and we
[06:52:32] not interesting or challenging and we can't understand why we can't get any
[06:52:34] can't understand why we can't get any satisfaction out of it or a person says
[06:52:36] satisfaction out of it or a person says I want my relationship to work however
[06:52:39] I want my relationship to work however what are they saying what they're saying
[06:52:40] what are they saying what they're saying is the outcome I desire is I want to be
[06:52:43] is the outcome I desire is I want to be happy in my relationship and it doesn't
[06:52:46] happy in my relationship and it doesn't matter who you're happy with if the
[06:52:48] matter who you're happy with if the outcome is clear that you want to be
[06:52:49] outcome is clear that you want to be happy in a relationship that's very
[06:52:51] happy in a relationship that's very different from insisting upon being
[06:52:53] different from insisting upon being happy in this relationship another thing
[06:52:56] happy in this relationship another thing person say I want to be rich but you say
[06:52:58] person say I want to be rich but you say what does rich mean what would Rich look
[06:53:01] what does rich mean what would Rich look like what would your out come be if you
[06:53:03] like what would your out come be if you were Rich how much would it take to
[06:53:05] were Rich how much would it take to accomplish that outcome and then you
[06:53:06] accomplish that outcome and then you start looking you say well if I had a
[06:53:08] start looking you say well if I had a certain amount of money I'd be able to
[06:53:09] certain amount of money I'd be able to do this I'd be able to do this I'd be
[06:53:11] do this I'd be able to do this I'd be able to do this and sometimes you find
[06:53:13] able to do this and sometimes you find that it's possible to achieve that
[06:53:15] that it's possible to achieve that outcome without accomplishing that kind
[06:53:17] outcome without accomplishing that kind of financial acquisition sometimes you
[06:53:20] of financial acquisition sometimes you find you cannot achieve the outcome you
[06:53:21] find you cannot achieve the outcome you desire in life from the work that you're
[06:53:24] desire in life from the work that you're in so be alert to outcomes CER specific
[06:53:26] in so be alert to outcomes CER specific goals written down step number two is
[06:53:30] goals written down step number two is clear written plans
[06:53:32] clear written plans as we talked about before clear written
[06:53:35] as we talked about before clear written plans and organize your plans if you
[06:53:39] plans and organize your plans if you like in a list of activities so that you
[06:53:42] like in a list of activities so that you know all the things that you have to do
[06:53:44] know all the things that you have to do these two alone taking the time to plan
[06:53:47] these two alone taking the time to plan they say every minute spent in planning
[06:53:49] they say every minute spent in planning will save you 5 to 15 minutes in
[06:53:51] will save you 5 to 15 minutes in execution and action without planning is
[06:53:55] execution and action without planning is the cause of almost every failure action
[06:53:58] the cause of almost every failure action without planning is the cause of almost
[06:54:01] without planning is the cause of almost every failure so clear written plans and
[06:54:04] every failure so clear written plans and clear list of activities to work on as
[06:54:05] clear list of activities to work on as we talked about in previous
[06:54:07] we talked about in previous sessions step number
[06:54:10] sessions step number three is make a
[06:54:13] three is make a list all successful time managers work
[06:54:17] list all successful time managers work from lists all unsuccessful people don't
[06:54:21] from lists all unsuccessful people don't bother to write lists make a list for
[06:54:24] bother to write lists make a list for every day make a list for every week
[06:54:27] every day make a list for every week make a list for every month be a chronic
[06:54:31] make a list for every month be a chronic list maker when you have a series of
[06:54:33] list maker when you have a series of things to do the first thing you do is
[06:54:34] things to do the first thing you do is grab a piece of paper and write a list
[06:54:36] grab a piece of paper and write a list think on paper all good time managers
[06:54:38] think on paper all good time managers think on paper they make a list of
[06:54:40] think on paper they make a list of everything that has to be done they
[06:54:41] everything that has to be done they don't try to carry it around in their
[06:54:43] don't try to carry it around in their minds consolidate all of your thinking
[06:54:45] minds consolidate all of your thinking if you have to accomplish something
[06:54:46] if you have to accomplish something write down every single thing that
[06:54:47] write down every single thing that you're going to have to do in order to
[06:54:48] you're going to have to do in order to accomplish it and then begin working on
[06:54:51] accomplish it and then begin working on your list call it a to-do list by the
[06:54:54] your list call it a to-do list by the way the best time to make a daily list
[06:54:56] way the best time to make a daily list is the night before because if you make
[06:54:57] is the night before because if you make a list the night before the subconscious
[06:54:59] a list the night before the subconscious goes to work on it while you're asleep
[06:55:01] goes to work on it while you're asleep and in the morning sometimes the
[06:55:02] and in the morning sometimes the subconscious has organized it processed
[06:55:05] subconscious has organized it processed it and gives it back to you and solves
[06:55:07] it and gives it back to you and solves problems for you while you're asleep
[06:55:09] problems for you while you're asleep step number four once you've made a list
[06:55:11] step number four once you've made a list and this is the key to time management
[06:55:13] and this is the key to time management is set priorities you see there's never
[06:55:15] is set priorities you see there's never enough time to do everything if you're
[06:55:17] enough time to do everything if you're living A busy life but there's always
[06:55:19] living A busy life but there's always enough time to do the important things
[06:55:21] enough time to do the important things if you can decide what they are setting
[06:55:24] if you can decide what they are setting priorities means using the 8020 rule the
[06:55:27] priorities means using the 8020 rule the 8020 rule says that 80% of the value of
[06:55:29] 8020 rule says that 80% of the value of what you do comes from 20% of what do if
[06:55:33] what you do comes from 20% of what do if you have a list of 10 things to do that
[06:55:35] you have a list of 10 things to do that two of those things will be worth all
[06:55:37] two of those things will be worth all the rest put together setting priorities
[06:55:39] the rest put together setting priorities means always looking at what is called
[06:55:41] means always looking at what is called the vital few versus the trivial many
[06:55:45] the vital few versus the trivial many the vital few versus the trivial many
[06:55:47] the vital few versus the trivial many the one or two things that you can do
[06:55:49] the one or two things that you can do that make a real difference now most
[06:55:51] that make a real difference now most people waste their time not because
[06:55:53] people waste their time not because they're not working hard or not because
[06:55:54] they're not working hard or not because they're not busy is because they're
[06:55:55] they're not busy is because they're working on the trivial many no matter
[06:55:57] working on the trivial many no matter how many of them they do it doesn't make
[06:55:58] how many of them they do it doesn't make any difference the truly successful
[06:56:01] any difference the truly successful people do few things they do the right
[06:56:04] people do few things they do the right things they do things one at a time and
[06:56:06] things they do things one at a time and they stay with them until they're
[06:56:08] they stay with them until they're complete so set priorities a very simple
[06:56:11] complete so set priorities a very simple time management system is what is called
[06:56:12] time management system is what is called the ABCDE system the ABCDE is very
[06:56:17] the ABCDE system the ABCDE is very simple a stands for top priority tasks
[06:56:20] simple a stands for top priority tasks number one must be done B is secondary
[06:56:23] number one must be done B is secondary priority tasks things that should be
[06:56:25] priority tasks things that should be done C are not particularly important
[06:56:27] done C are not particularly important tasks which could be done if you have
[06:56:29] tasks which could be done if you have enough time after you've done your A's
[06:56:31] enough time after you've done your A's and B's and D is delegate and E is
[06:56:34] and B's and D is delegate and E is eliminate then what you do is you take
[06:56:36] eliminate then what you do is you take and you list all of your a goals from
[06:56:39] and you list all of your a goals from your list and then you WR write A1 which
[06:56:41] your list and then you WR write A1 which is the most important of all and then
[06:56:43] is the most important of all and then you write A2 which is the second a goal
[06:56:45] you write A2 which is the second a goal and so on and then you begin to work and
[06:56:48] and so on and then you begin to work and you work on your A1 and you never work
[06:56:50] you work on your A1 and you never work on an A2 or a B of any order until your
[06:56:52] on an A2 or a B of any order until your A1 is complete very simple now here's
[06:56:55] A1 is complete very simple now here's the key question for time management
[06:56:57] the key question for time management this can be worth a fortune to you it's
[06:56:59] this can be worth a fortune to you it's been worth a fortune to me ask yourself
[06:57:01] been worth a fortune to me ask yourself over and over again repeat it and repeat
[06:57:03] over and over again repeat it and repeat it and repeat it until it rings in the
[06:57:05] it and repeat it until it rings in the back of your brain what is the most
[06:57:07] back of your brain what is the most valuable use of my time right now what
[06:57:10] valuable use of my time right now what is the most valuable use of my time
[06:57:13] is the most valuable use of my time right now what is the most valuable use
[06:57:16] right now what is the most valuable use of my time right now every time before
[06:57:18] of my time right now every time before you start any new task ask yourself this
[06:57:21] you start any new task ask yourself this question and then discipline yourself to
[06:57:24] question and then discipline yourself to do only what is the most valuable use of
[06:57:27] do only what is the most valuable use of your time
[06:57:28] your time remember Benjamin Franklin had a
[06:57:30] remember Benjamin Franklin had a beautiful line he said do you value life
[06:57:34] beautiful line he said do you value life then waste not time for it is the stuff
[06:57:37] then waste not time for it is the stuff of which life is
[06:57:38] of which life is made if you are not working on the most
[06:57:41] made if you are not working on the most valuable use of your time just exchange
[06:57:44] valuable use of your time just exchange the word time for life and say what is
[06:57:48] the word time for life and say what is the most valuable use of my life right
[06:57:50] the most valuable use of my life right now and remember if you are working on a
[06:57:53] now and remember if you are working on a second order priority you are relatively
[06:57:56] second order priority you are relatively speaking wasting your time and wasting
[06:58:00] speaking wasting your time and wasting your life number
[06:58:02] your life number five is
[06:58:06] five is concentration of power again a beautiful
[06:58:09] concentration of power again a beautiful word from Charles
[06:58:11] word from Charles Hobbs concentration of power means that
[06:58:15] Hobbs concentration of power means that you do first things first and second
[06:58:18] you do first things first and second things not at all do first things
[06:58:21] things not at all do first things first and stay with them until they're
[06:58:24] first and stay with them until they're complete surprisingly enough in the
[06:58:27] complete surprisingly enough in the studies of every effective man or woman
[06:58:29] studies of every effective man or woman whose lifestyle has been examined we
[06:58:31] whose lifestyle has been examined we find they are always doing first things
[06:58:33] find they are always doing first things first they do things one at a time and
[06:58:36] first they do things one at a time and they stay with them until they are 100%
[06:58:40] they stay with them until they are 100% complete they don't do a lot of things
[06:58:44] complete they don't do a lot of things but they do the most important things
[06:58:46] but they do the most important things they do them right and they carry them
[06:58:48] they do them right and they carry them through to completion you know one of
[06:58:50] through to completion you know one of the most valuable attributes of
[06:58:52] the most valuable attributes of executive life is the ability to carry a
[06:58:55] executive life is the ability to carry a task through to completion so once it's
[06:58:57] task through to completion so once it's been assigned to you the person who's
[06:58:58] been assigned to you the person who's assigned it to you never has to think
[06:59:01] assigned it to you never has to think about it again
[06:59:03] about it again concentration and single handling single
[06:59:05] concentration and single handling single handling means once You' picked it up
[06:59:07] handling means once You' picked it up don't put it down most of our time
[06:59:09] don't put it down most of our time wastage comes from picking up things and
[06:59:11] wastage comes from picking up things and putting them down and starting them over
[06:59:13] putting them down and starting them over and putting them down and starting them
[06:59:14] and putting them down and starting them over and putting them down so
[06:59:16] over and putting them down so concentrate single-mindedly 100% stay
[06:59:19] concentrate single-mindedly 100% stay with it until it's finished as in my
[06:59:22] with it until it's finished as in my estimation the ability to concentrate is
[06:59:25] estimation the ability to concentrate is one of the most important abilities of
[06:59:26] one of the most important abilities of success because no success is possible
[06:59:29] success because no success is possible unless you can concentrate
[06:59:30] unless you can concentrate single-mindedly on your most important
[06:59:32] single-mindedly on your most important task number
[06:59:34] task number six number six is overcome
[06:59:37] six number six is overcome procrastination overcome procrastination
[06:59:40] procrastination overcome procrastination it's not the thief of time it's the
[06:59:41] it's not the thief of time it's the thief of life and the way that you
[06:59:43] thief of life and the way that you overcome procrastination is by using
[06:59:45] overcome procrastination is by using affirmations and the most powerful
[06:59:47] affirmations and the most powerful affirmation of all is do it now do it
[06:59:51] affirmation of all is do it now do it now W Clement Stone built a billion
[06:59:53] now W Clement Stone built a billion dollar Fortune by rehearsing and then
[06:59:55] dollar Fortune by rehearsing and then getting everybody in his company to say
[06:59:57] getting everybody in his company to say 50 times every morning do it now do it
[07:00:01] 50 times every morning do it now do it now do it now now do it now do it now
[07:00:04] now do it now now do it now do it now drive that impress that into your mind
[07:00:06] drive that impress that into your mind when I first learned this simple
[07:00:08] when I first learned this simple technique I used to find myself
[07:00:10] technique I used to find myself procrastinating just like we all do but
[07:00:12] procrastinating just like we all do but the more I repeated this do it now do it
[07:00:14] the more I repeated this do it now do it now do it now do it now do it now do it
[07:00:16] now do it now do it now do it now do it now the more you repeat it the more you
[07:00:18] now the more you repeat it the more you find that eventually it works
[07:00:20] find that eventually it works automatically and it has a tendency to
[07:00:22] automatically and it has a tendency to drive you to start a task when your
[07:00:24] drive you to start a task when your natural tendency is to put it off or
[07:00:26] natural tendency is to put it off or procrastinate the most important quality
[07:00:29] procrastinate the most important quality that you can develop with regard to this
[07:00:31] that you can develop with regard to this is what is called a sense of urgency a
[07:00:34] is what is called a sense of urgency a sense of urgency means that you get on
[07:00:36] sense of urgency means that you get on with it and you do the job fast we said
[07:00:39] with it and you do the job fast we said earlier that time is your most precious
[07:00:42] earlier that time is your most precious resource time is the scarcest and most
[07:00:44] resource time is the scarcest and most precious resource of accomplishment in
[07:00:47] precious resource of accomplishment in our civilization and that people who
[07:00:49] our civilization and that people who have a sense of urgency are always the
[07:00:52] have a sense of urgency are always the most valued people in our society
[07:00:54] most valued people in our society develop what is called fast tempo fast
[07:00:58] develop what is called fast tempo fast tempo is essential to success fast tempo
[07:01:02] tempo is essential to success fast tempo is essential to success what that means
[07:01:06] is essential to success what that means is that the harder and the faster you
[07:01:08] is that the harder and the faster you work the more energy you have the harder
[07:01:10] work the more energy you have the harder and the faster you work the more drive
[07:01:13] and the faster you work the more drive you have the more you get accomplished
[07:01:15] you have the more you get accomplished the more you get accomplished by the way
[07:01:16] the more you get accomplished by the way the more tasks you conclude the more
[07:01:19] the more tasks you conclude the more energy and self-esteem you have because
[07:01:21] energy and self-esteem you have because every time you finish a task you get a
[07:01:22] every time you finish a task you get a jolt of positive energy every time you
[07:01:25] jolt of positive energy every time you procrastinate on a task it tires you out
[07:01:28] procrastinate on a task it tires you out and makes you depressed so whenever you
[07:01:30] and makes you depressed so whenever you find yourself procrastinating say to me
[07:01:32] find yourself procrastinating say to me say to yourself I have to develop a
[07:01:34] say to yourself I have to develop a sense of urgency I have to develop a
[07:01:35] sense of urgency I have to develop a sense of urgency do it now do it now do
[07:01:38] sense of urgency do it now do it now do it now and then work fast work fast work
[07:01:41] it now and then work fast work fast work quick you will find that if you will
[07:01:43] quick you will find that if you will just pick up your Tempo you can get to a
[07:01:45] just pick up your Tempo you can get to a Tempo that will enable you to go through
[07:01:47] Tempo that will enable you to go through more in two hours and the average person
[07:01:49] more in two hours and the average person goes through in an entire
[07:01:51] goes through in an entire day in a study done by h a Business
[07:01:55] day in a study done by h a Business Journal amongst 104 chief executive
[07:01:58] Journal amongst 104 chief executive officers in of major American
[07:02:00] officers in of major American corporations not long ago they found a
[07:02:02] corporations not long ago they found a interesting thing they asked them what
[07:02:03] interesting thing they asked them what qualities would put a person most
[07:02:05] qualities would put a person most rapidly onto the fast track in their
[07:02:07] rapidly onto the fast track in their corporations they said the two most
[07:02:09] corporations they said the two most qualities 84% of them agreed the two
[07:02:11] qualities 84% of them agreed the two most important qualities number one the
[07:02:13] most important qualities number one the ability to set priorities number two is
[07:02:15] ability to set priorities number two is a sense of urgency to get on with it and
[07:02:17] a sense of urgency to get on with it and get the job done and number seven the
[07:02:20] get the job done and number seven the seventh key to success is balance keep
[07:02:23] seventh key to success is balance keep your life in Balance make sure that you
[07:02:26] your life in Balance make sure that you take time every day to spend with the
[07:02:28] take time every day to spend with the people who are close to you make sure
[07:02:30] people who are close to you make sure that you take time every day to think
[07:02:32] that you take time every day to think through your values what is it that you
[07:02:34] through your values what is it that you really care about why are you doing what
[07:02:36] really care about why are you doing what you're doing what is it that you believe
[07:02:38] you're doing what is it that you believe in that is relevant and who are the
[07:02:40] in that is relevant and who are the people that you love who are the people
[07:02:42] people that you love who are the people that you care about and who care about
[07:02:44] that you care about and who care about you keep your life in Balance don't let
[07:02:47] you keep your life in Balance don't let it get all work don't let it get all
[07:02:49] it get all work don't let it get all play don't let it get all anything keep
[07:02:51] play don't let it get all anything keep your life in Balance spend time with the
[07:02:53] your life in Balance spend time with the people that you care about work hard
[07:02:55] people that you care about work hard when you work play hard when you play
[07:02:58] when you work play hard when you play manage your time well control the
[07:03:01] manage your time well control the sequence of EV and you can become
[07:03:03] sequence of EV and you can become anything that you want to
[07:03:29] become Brian Tracy
[07:03:32] become Brian Tracy [Music]
[07:03:44] [Music] Phoenix and in the next module I'm going
[07:03:47] Phoenix and in the next module I'm going to tell you why and how this
[07:03:53] works session 19 tapping your inner
[07:03:56] works session 19 tapping your inner genius another reason that I can say
[07:03:58] genius another reason that I can say with complete confidence that you are a
[07:04:00] with complete confidence that you are a genius is that you have access to a mind
[07:04:03] genius is that you have access to a mind that is far greater than anything that
[07:04:05] that is far greater than anything that you could ever devise or develop on your
[07:04:07] you could ever devise or develop on your own throughout all of human history
[07:04:09] own throughout all of human history going back 4,000 years to the ancient
[07:04:11] going back 4,000 years to the ancient Egyptian writings there has been
[07:04:13] Egyptian writings there has been discussion of mankind having access to a
[07:04:16] discussion of mankind having access to a greater mind and this mind has been
[07:04:17] greater mind and this mind has been called things like the universal
[07:04:19] called things like the universal subconscious mind or the uh Collective
[07:04:23] subconscious mind or the uh Collective unconscious or the superconscious
[07:04:25] unconscious or the superconscious Napoleon Hill calls it infinite
[07:04:26] Napoleon Hill calls it infinite intelligence Ralph Waldo Emerson says we
[07:04:29] intelligence Ralph Waldo Emerson says we lie in the lap of an immense
[07:04:30] lie in the lap of an immense intelligence like a cork floating in the
[07:04:33] intelligence like a cork floating in the ocean and that we have access to this
[07:04:35] ocean and that we have access to this intelligence at any time to bring us the
[07:04:37] intelligence at any time to bring us the answers we need and to solve the
[07:04:38] answers we need and to solve the problems that face us Carl Young called
[07:04:41] problems that face us Carl Young called it the superconscious mind the mind that
[07:04:43] it the superconscious mind the mind that is above other minds and we call it for
[07:04:46] is above other minds and we call it for the purposes of this talk we called the
[07:04:49] the purposes of this talk we called the superconscious you have a superconscious
[07:04:52] superconscious you have a superconscious mind which you use in a random and
[07:04:54] mind which you use in a random and halfhazard way all the time as a matter
[07:04:56] halfhazard way all the time as a matter of fact your superconscious mind is the
[07:04:58] of fact your superconscious mind is the source of all inspiration it's the
[07:05:00] source of all inspiration it's the source of motiv a it's the source of
[07:05:03] source of motiv a it's the source of enthusiasm it's the source of excitement
[07:05:05] enthusiasm it's the source of excitement it's the source of hunches it's the
[07:05:07] it's the source of hunches it's the source of insights it's the source of
[07:05:08] source of insights it's the source of flashes of intuition it's a source of
[07:05:11] flashes of intuition it's a source of creativity and Innovation it's the
[07:05:13] creativity and Innovation it's the source of all brand new ideas or
[07:05:16] source of all brand new ideas or thoughts or information that come into
[07:05:18] thoughts or information that come into the world for instance Mozart was able
[07:05:21] the world for instance Mozart was able to hear in a single second he was able
[07:05:24] to hear in a single second he was able to hear an entire concerto an entire
[07:05:26] to hear an entire concerto an entire Symphony would be come into his mind
[07:05:28] Symphony would be come into his mind complete in one instant and all he would
[07:05:31] complete in one instant and all he would do was sit and transcribe it and write
[07:05:33] do was sit and transcribe it and write it out of his mind on the paper they
[07:05:35] it out of his mind on the paper they said that he used to write his music
[07:05:37] said that he used to write his music note perfect the first time Beethoven
[07:05:40] note perfect the first time Beethoven came up with one of his great concerts
[07:05:42] came up with one of his great concerts or his great symphonies in a single
[07:05:44] or his great symphonies in a single instant although it took him six weeks
[07:05:46] instant although it took him six weeks to write it down the entire concert was
[07:05:49] to write it down the entire concert was perfect complete in his mind in a second
[07:05:52] perfect complete in his mind in a second many of the Great Inventions many of the
[07:05:54] many of the Great Inventions many of the great discoveries many of the Great
[07:05:55] great discoveries many of the Great breakthroughs in history in literature
[07:05:58] breakthroughs in history in literature in art in music have been the result of
[07:06:00] in art in music have been the result of a flash that is come in a moment of
[07:06:03] a flash that is come in a moment of daydreaming while asleep while in the
[07:06:05] daydreaming while asleep while in the middle of a conversation and you have
[07:06:07] middle of a conversation and you have access to this mind as well let me tell
[07:06:10] access to this mind as well let me tell you some of the characteristics of the
[07:06:12] you some of the characteristics of the superconscious Mind as I said imagine
[07:06:14] superconscious Mind as I said imagine you have your intelligence which is your
[07:06:16] you have your intelligence which is your IQ your knowledge your experience your
[07:06:17] IQ your knowledge your experience your wisdom and so on but in addition to that
[07:06:20] wisdom and so on but in addition to that you are a genius because you have access
[07:06:22] you are a genius because you have access to this incredible mind that has every
[07:06:25] to this incredible mind that has every idea and every bit of intelligence ever
[07:06:28] idea and every bit of intelligence ever known or available to the universe is
[07:06:30] known or available to the universe is available to you at virtually every
[07:06:32] available to you at virtually every instant of time the discovery of the
[07:06:35] instant of time the discovery of the superconscious and your understanding of
[07:06:37] superconscious and your understanding of the superconscious can and will change
[07:06:40] the superconscious can and will change your life the superconscious mind or
[07:06:42] your life the superconscious mind or superconscious capacity makes your
[07:06:44] superconscious capacity makes your capacities unlimited you are no longer
[07:06:47] capacities unlimited you are no longer restricted to what you know what you can
[07:06:50] restricted to what you know what you can access what you can do physically and
[07:06:51] access what you can do physically and mentally you have an external source
[07:06:53] mentally you have an external source that you can draw on like an energy
[07:06:55] that you can draw on like an energy source to bring you answers to your
[07:06:58] source to bring you answers to your questions and to move you towards your
[07:06:59] questions and to move you towards your goals now one of the characteristics of
[07:07:02] goals now one of the characteristics of the superconscious mind for instance
[07:07:03] the superconscious mind for instance that when it computes on a problem or a
[07:07:06] that when it computes on a problem or a difficulty that you have it has access
[07:07:08] difficulty that you have it has access to all data stored in your subconscious
[07:07:10] to all data stored in your subconscious mind it takes access to all data stored
[07:07:13] mind it takes access to all data stored in the subconscious that means
[07:07:14] in the subconscious that means everything that you've ever learned in
[07:07:16] everything that you've ever learned in your life every bit of information
[07:07:18] your life every bit of information you've ever read every experience you've
[07:07:20] you've ever read every experience you've had every conversation every movie
[07:07:22] had every conversation every movie television Radio Magazine it's all
[07:07:24] television Radio Magazine it's all stored in your subconscious mind
[07:07:26] stored in your subconscious mind permanently as they say we have
[07:07:28] permanently as they say we have permanent memory but we have lousy
[07:07:30] permanent memory but we have lousy recall every experence you've ever had
[07:07:32] recall every experence you've ever had in your life has been permanently stored
[07:07:34] in your life has been permanently stored however when the superconscious Mind
[07:07:36] however when the superconscious Mind calculates or computes it has access to
[07:07:38] calculates or computes it has access to everything you've ever learned however
[07:07:40] everything you've ever learned however it can discriminate between valid and
[07:07:43] it can discriminate between valid and invalid data in other words when
[07:07:46] invalid data in other words when you when the superconscious mind
[07:07:49] you when the superconscious mind computes on a problem that you are
[07:07:50] computes on a problem that you are working with it will give you an answer
[07:07:53] working with it will give you an answer that is based only on valid information
[07:07:55] that is based only on valid information there are many things that you have in
[07:07:56] there are many things that you have in your mind which you can think to be true
[07:07:57] your mind which you can think to be true but they're not true at all you may have
[07:07:59] but they're not true at all you may have read them you may have heard them you
[07:08:00] read them you may have heard them you may have surmised them or concluded that
[07:08:02] may have surmised them or concluded that a certain thing was true but the
[07:08:04] a certain thing was true but the superconscious in bringing you an answer
[07:08:06] superconscious in bringing you an answer knows the difference between what is
[07:08:08] knows the difference between what is true and what is not true sometimes
[07:08:10] true and what is not true sometimes you'll come up with an idea or a
[07:08:11] you'll come up with an idea or a solution that will seem to be
[07:08:12] solution that will seem to be inconsistent with what you thought was
[07:08:14] inconsistent with what you thought was the truth or what you thought was
[07:08:15] the truth or what you thought was reality but when you pursue it a little
[07:08:17] reality but when you pursue it a little bit you'll find that what you thought
[07:08:19] bit you'll find that what you thought was true was not true and your answer is
[07:08:21] was true was not true and your answer is correct now a second characteristic of
[07:08:23] correct now a second characteristic of the superconscious mind is it has access
[07:08:25] the superconscious mind is it has access to data outside your experience it has
[07:08:28] to data outside your experience it has access to data outside outside your
[07:08:32] access to data outside outside your experience that means that you can get
[07:08:37] experience that means that you can get answers outside your own experience you
[07:08:40] answers outside your own experience you don't have to know everything or have
[07:08:41] don't have to know everything or have everything in your mind that it has
[07:08:43] everything in your mind that it has access to data it can bring you ideas
[07:08:45] access to data it can bring you ideas information and insights for instance
[07:08:47] information and insights for instance with regard to this we reckon in
[07:08:50] with regard to this we reckon in calculating that every single person has
[07:08:53] calculating that every single person has on the way to and from work about four
[07:08:55] on the way to and from work about four ideas per year is the estimate done by
[07:08:57] ideas per year is the estimate done by one researcher four ideas per year any
[07:09:00] one researcher four ideas per year any one of which could make you a
[07:09:01] one of which could make you a millionaire you''ll be driving along how
[07:09:03] millionaire you''ll be driving along how many times have you had the experience
[07:09:04] many times have you had the experience were you're driving along are you going
[07:09:06] were you're driving along are you going about your day-to-day business and you
[07:09:08] about your day-to-day business and you see the need for a product or a service
[07:09:10] see the need for a product or a service and you say now why doesn't somebody do
[07:09:11] and you say now why doesn't somebody do that or why doesn't somebody make that
[07:09:13] that or why doesn't somebody make that or sell that and you say well must be a
[07:09:16] or sell that and you say well must be a good reason and you forget all about it
[07:09:17] good reason and you forget all about it then a year or two later somebody comes
[07:09:19] then a year or two later somebody comes out with that same product or service
[07:09:21] out with that same product or service and makes a million dollars and you say
[07:09:23] and makes a million dollars and you say I thought of that I thought of that a
[07:09:25] I thought of that I thought of that a couple of years ago the difference was
[07:09:27] couple of years ago the difference was that the person who came up with the
[07:09:28] that the person who came up with the idea may have come up with it the same
[07:09:30] idea may have come up with it the same time you did maybe you tapped into this
[07:09:31] time you did maybe you tapped into this energy source simultaneously but that
[07:09:34] energy source simultaneously but that person had confidence or faith in their
[07:09:37] person had confidence or faith in their ideas and you did not there's a funny
[07:09:40] ideas and you did not there's a funny line from Groucho marks and grouo marks
[07:09:41] line from Groucho marks and grouo marks once said I would never join a club that
[07:09:44] once said I would never join a club that would have a person like me for a member
[07:09:46] would have a person like me for a member very often we turn down our own ideas
[07:09:49] very often we turn down our own ideas because there are ideas we say that's my
[07:09:51] because there are ideas we say that's my idea it can't be any good listen to the
[07:09:54] idea it can't be any good listen to the ideas that come to you on a day-to-day
[07:09:56] ideas that come to you on a day-to-day basis because very often if one of your
[07:09:58] basis because very often if one of your goals is to Achieve Financial
[07:09:59] goals is to Achieve Financial Independence this mind will send send
[07:10:01] Independence this mind will send send you the ideas that you need to Achieve
[07:10:03] you the ideas that you need to Achieve Financial Independence here's the third
[07:10:06] Financial Independence here's the third characteristic of the superconscious
[07:10:07] characteristic of the superconscious mind is it functions on a non-conscious
[07:10:09] mind is it functions on a non-conscious basis 24 hours a day it functions 24
[07:10:13] basis 24 hours a day it functions 24 hours per day when you are going about
[07:10:15] hours per day when you are going about your normal business that means that
[07:10:17] your normal business that means that once you have programmed a goal or a
[07:10:21] once you have programmed a goal or a problem or a difficulty or any question
[07:10:23] problem or a difficulty or any question at all into the superconscious by
[07:10:25] at all into the superconscious by thinking about it dwelling upon it
[07:10:27] thinking about it dwelling upon it getting it clearly defined in your mind
[07:10:29] getting it clearly defined in your mind you can put it aside and go with the
[07:10:31] you can put it aside and go with the rest of your work and what will happen
[07:10:33] rest of your work and what will happen is that it will compute and compute and
[07:10:36] is that it will compute and compute and work and then it will bring you exactly
[07:10:38] work and then it will bring you exactly the answer you need we'll come to that
[07:10:40] the answer you need we'll come to that in a second in a second the
[07:10:41] in a second in a second the superconscious Mind automatically and
[07:10:44] superconscious Mind automatically and continuously solves every problem on the
[07:10:46] continuously solves every problem on the way to your goal automatically and
[07:10:50] way to your goal automatically and continuously solves every
[07:10:54] problem put a line here solves every
[07:10:58] problem put a line here solves every problem
[07:11:01] problem that's why you don't have to be able to
[07:11:02] that's why you don't have to be able to see your
[07:11:04] see your goal you only have to take the first
[07:11:07] goal you only have to take the first step and is you take each step and
[07:11:10] step and is you take each step and resolve the difficulty that is
[07:11:11] resolve the difficulty that is immediately facing you in the Bible this
[07:11:13] immediately facing you in the Bible this beautiful line that says this one thing
[07:11:16] beautiful line that says this one thing I do forsaking all others if you just do
[07:11:19] I do forsaking all others if you just do one thing the superconscious will
[07:11:22] one thing the superconscious will resolve the next and the next and the
[07:11:24] resolve the next and the next and the next you take them one step at a time
[07:11:25] next you take them one step at a time like a hurdler takes one hurdle at a
[07:11:27] like a hurdler takes one hurdle at a time like a journey is one step at a
[07:11:29] time like a journey is one step at a time the superconscious mind will
[07:11:31] time the superconscious mind will automatically and continuously solve
[07:11:33] automatically and continuously solve every problem on the path to your goal
[07:11:35] every problem on the path to your goal exactly as you meet it and exactly in
[07:11:37] exactly as you meet it and exactly in the way you require now the fifth
[07:11:39] the way you require now the fifth quality of the superconscious mind is
[07:11:41] quality of the superconscious mind is that it is capable of goal oriented
[07:11:46] that it is capable of goal oriented motivation sometimes people say well I'm
[07:11:48] motivation sometimes people say well I'm not motivated and invariably when you
[07:11:50] not motivated and invariably when you talk to a person who is not motivated
[07:11:52] talk to a person who is not motivated you find that there's nothing that they
[07:11:54] you find that there's nothing that they want very badly when you decide upon a
[07:11:56] want very badly when you decide upon a goal or an objective something you want
[07:11:58] goal or an objective something you want to be have or do the superconscious mind
[07:12:01] to be have or do the superconscious mind releases motivation it is the
[07:12:03] releases motivation it is the superconscious mind that gives you the
[07:12:05] superconscious mind that gives you the energy and the enthusiasm and the
[07:12:07] energy and the enthusiasm and the excitement that moves you toward it but
[07:12:09] excitement that moves you toward it but it pre requires a goal that you
[07:12:12] it pre requires a goal that you intensely desire that's why we talked so
[07:12:14] intensely desire that's why we talked so much about goals in this course goal
[07:12:15] much about goals in this course goal oriented motivation it releases ideas
[07:12:18] oriented motivation it releases ideas and energy for goal
[07:12:20] and energy for goal attainment the superconscious mind is a
[07:12:23] attainment the superconscious mind is a source of what is called free energy in
[07:12:27] source of what is called free energy in other words you can actually tap into
[07:12:29] other words you can actually tap into this energy and when you're excited
[07:12:31] this energy and when you're excited about a goal it doesn't matter how
[07:12:32] about a goal it doesn't matter how physically fatigued you are you seem to
[07:12:34] physically fatigued you are you seem to be able to tap into a source of energy
[07:12:37] be able to tap into a source of energy outside yourself that can run you and
[07:12:39] outside yourself that can run you and Propel you sometimes day after day week
[07:12:42] Propel you sometimes day after day week after week on only a few hours sleep at
[07:12:43] after week on only a few hours sleep at night everybody's had the experience of
[07:12:45] night everybody's had the experience of being caught up and involved in
[07:12:46] being caught up and involved in something that's really important really
[07:12:48] something that's really important really exciting really driving requiring
[07:12:50] exciting really driving requiring tremendous commitment and you just have
[07:12:52] tremendous commitment and you just have energy flowing continuously Nicola Tesla
[07:12:55] energy flowing continuously Nicola Tesla the great electrical genius was actually
[07:12:57] the great electrical genius was actually able to tap this free energy to run the
[07:12:59] able to tap this free energy to run the electric lights and the electric uh
[07:13:02] electric lights and the electric uh appliances in his home in a way that we
[07:13:04] appliances in his home in a way that we still don't understand but in order for
[07:13:06] still don't understand but in order for in order for goal oriented motivation to
[07:13:09] in order for goal oriented motivation to be released by The superconscious you
[07:13:11] be released by The superconscious you must have
[07:13:12] must have clear specific goals this is the key the
[07:13:16] clear specific goals this is the key the goals must be
[07:13:18] goals must be clear clear specific goals are what
[07:13:21] clear clear specific goals are what release this motivation there's an old
[07:13:23] release this motivation there's an old saying which is a little bit trit it
[07:13:25] saying which is a little bit trit it says feeling listless make a list what
[07:13:28] says feeling listless make a list what it means is if you're feeling listless
[07:13:29] it means is if you're feeling listless and you make a list of 10 things that
[07:13:31] and you make a list of 10 things that you want to accomplish in the next year
[07:13:33] you want to accomplish in the next year you will find that just writing that
[07:13:34] you will find that just writing that list of 10 things will give you a jolt
[07:13:36] list of 10 things will give you a jolt of energy almost like a Detonator going
[07:13:38] of energy almost like a Detonator going off now a sixth characteristic of the
[07:13:40] off now a sixth characteristic of the superconscious mind is that it responds
[07:13:43] superconscious mind is that it responds to clear authoritative commands responds
[07:13:46] to clear authoritative commands responds to
[07:13:47] to clear authoritative commands now what
[07:13:50] clear authoritative commands now what are clear authoritative
[07:13:52] are clear authoritative commands well one example of clear
[07:13:54] commands well one example of clear authoritative commands is positive
[07:13:59] authoritative commands is positive affirmations whenever you use a positive
[07:14:02] affirmations whenever you use a positive affirmation whenever you say I earn X
[07:14:04] affirmation whenever you say I earn X number of dollars I weigh X number of
[07:14:06] number of dollars I weigh X number of pounds I like myself I am responsible I
[07:14:09] pounds I like myself I am responsible I feel terrific whenever you use these
[07:14:11] feel terrific whenever you use these commands and you emotionalize the
[07:14:13] commands and you emotionalize the commands that's why they must be
[07:14:14] commands that's why they must be authoritative and they must be
[07:14:16] authoritative and they must be emotionalized you drive this message
[07:14:19] emotionalized you drive this message from the conscious into the subconscious
[07:14:21] from the conscious into the subconscious and the subconscious accesses the
[07:14:24] and the subconscious accesses the superconscious so emotionalize your
[07:14:27] superconscious so emotionalize your words use Clear authoritative commands
[07:14:29] words use Clear authoritative commands and every time you use a clear
[07:14:31] and every time you use a clear authoritative command it drives the idea
[07:14:34] authoritative command it drives the idea deeper it activates your superconscious
[07:14:37] deeper it activates your superconscious abilities it also responds to
[07:14:41] abilities it also responds to decisiveness it's very
[07:14:43] decisiveness it's very interesting there's an expression which
[07:14:45] interesting there's an expression which I like to share with you and it's simply
[07:14:47] I like to share with you and it's simply this it is get
[07:14:50] this it is get serious I have met men and women all
[07:14:53] serious I have met men and women all over the country over the last few years
[07:14:55] over the country over the last few years and I noticed there's an interesting
[07:14:56] and I noticed there's an interesting thing that successful people say when I
[07:14:58] thing that successful people say when I ask them how did you come to become so
[07:15:01] ask them how did you come to become so successful I mean what was the turning
[07:15:02] successful I mean what was the turning point where where did it change you know
[07:15:04] point where where did it change you know the words they use over and over again
[07:15:05] the words they use over and over again are these they say well I finally
[07:15:06] are these they say well I finally decided to get serious I finally decided
[07:15:09] decided to get serious I finally decided to get serious you see we talked earlier
[07:15:11] to get serious you see we talked earlier about desire and decision that there's a
[07:15:13] about desire and decision that there's a lot of people have desires a lot of
[07:15:14] lot of people have desires a lot of people want things and they want to be
[07:15:16] people want things and they want to be things and they want things to change
[07:15:17] things and they want things to change for them they want things to be better
[07:15:19] for them they want things to be better but they never make the decision to do
[07:15:21] but they never make the decision to do something they are going to make the
[07:15:22] something they are going to make the decision and they hope to make the
[07:15:24] decision and they hope to make the decision and they plan to make the
[07:15:25] decision and they plan to make the decision but they just haven't quite
[07:15:27] decision but they just haven't quite gotten around to it yet and an important
[07:15:29] gotten around to it yet and an important part of this is commitment I can put
[07:15:32] part of this is commitment I can put this down here is that nothing great in
[07:15:34] this down here is that nothing great in life happens until you make a commitment
[07:15:37] life happens until you make a commitment and a commitment means you decide to do
[07:15:39] and a commitment means you decide to do one thing to the exclusion of almost
[07:15:42] one thing to the exclusion of almost everything else you get serious you make
[07:15:44] everything else you get serious you make a total commitment and when you take
[07:15:46] a total commitment and when you take that make that total commitment when you
[07:15:48] that make that total commitment when you become decisive when you start using
[07:15:50] become decisive when you start using clear positive words I will do it I do
[07:15:53] clear positive words I will do it I do do it I can I shall I choose I want I
[07:15:56] do it I can I shall I choose I want I earn I am when you start using commands
[07:15:59] earn I am when you start using commands like this you trigger the superconscious
[07:16:01] like this you trigger the superconscious mind and sometimes more can happen for
[07:16:02] mind and sometimes more can happen for you in a matter of a few weeks than it's
[07:16:04] you in a matter of a few weeks than it's happened for you in a few years and many
[07:16:06] happened for you in a few years and many of you know exactly what I'm talking
[07:16:07] of you know exactly what I'm talking about numers number seven the
[07:16:10] about numers number seven the superconscious mind in a way is like a
[07:16:12] superconscious mind in a way is like a muscle it
[07:16:14] muscle it grows in
[07:16:18] capability as it is used and believed
[07:16:24] in it grows in capability as it is used
[07:16:27] in it grows in capability as it is used and believed in that means that you can
[07:16:29] and believed in that means that you can actually get it to the point as I have
[07:16:31] actually get it to the point as I have in my own life as many of my graduates
[07:16:33] in my own life as many of my graduates have you can get it to the point where
[07:16:35] have you can get it to the point where you're plugged into this superconscious
[07:16:37] you're plugged into this superconscious mind continuously and you just go with
[07:16:39] mind continuously and you just go with the flow of life that all the things
[07:16:41] the flow of life that all the things that you require the answers that you
[07:16:43] that you require the answers that you need the solutions the people the
[07:16:45] need the solutions the people the circumstances will be drawn into your
[07:16:47] circumstances will be drawn into your life in exactly the order exactly the
[07:16:49] life in exactly the order exactly the sequence that you require and the people
[07:16:51] sequence that you require and the people that you don't need the circumstances
[07:16:52] that you don't need the circumstances that are old the circumstan have nothing
[07:16:54] that are old the circumstan have nothing to do with where you're going they fall
[07:16:56] to do with where you're going they fall off as exactly as they are no longer
[07:16:58] off as exactly as they are no longer needed and the more you use it the more
[07:17:01] needed and the more you use it the more you believe in it the more you trust to
[07:17:02] you believe in it the more you trust to it the more rapidly and dependably and
[07:17:05] it the more rapidly and dependably and predictably it works now let me tell you
[07:17:07] predictably it works now let me tell you this in all my studying of the
[07:17:09] this in all my studying of the biographies and autobiographies of great
[07:17:11] biographies and autobiographies of great men and women I found one thing is that
[07:17:13] men and women I found one thing is that you only begin to become great as a
[07:17:16] you only begin to become great as a human being to the degree to which you
[07:17:19] human being to the degree to which you tap into and go with the flow of this
[07:17:22] tap into and go with the flow of this superconscious energy other than that
[07:17:24] superconscious energy other than that life is always a struggle but once you
[07:17:26] life is always a struggle but once you get into the flow of this energy life
[07:17:29] get into the flow of this energy life seems to be on the downhill side you
[07:17:31] seems to be on the downhill side you seem to be going with the current a an
[07:17:34] seem to be going with the current a an eighth characteristic is that the
[07:17:35] eighth characteristic is that the superconscious Mind functions best or
[07:17:38] superconscious Mind functions best or operates best with an attitude of
[07:17:40] operates best with an attitude of confident expectations operates best
[07:17:44] confident expectations operates best with an
[07:17:45] with an attitude of confident
[07:17:49] attitude of confident expectations you see confident
[07:17:51] expectations you see confident expectations is an attitude of positive
[07:17:53] expectations is an attitude of positive emotion when we talked about before
[07:17:56] emotion when we talked about before becoming an inverse paranoid always
[07:17:58] becoming an inverse paranoid always looking for the good always expecting
[07:18:00] looking for the good always expecting the best always believing trusting being
[07:18:02] the best always believing trusting being absolutely convinced that something good
[07:18:03] absolutely convinced that something good is going to come out of everything that
[07:18:05] is going to come out of everything that happens to you this attitude of
[07:18:06] happens to you this attitude of confident expectation seems to be what
[07:18:09] confident expectation seems to be what puts your the foot on the accelerator of
[07:18:11] puts your the foot on the accelerator of the superconscious mind and bring things
[07:18:13] the superconscious mind and bring things brings things into your life and people
[07:18:15] brings things into your life and people and what you need into your life faster
[07:18:17] and what you need into your life faster and faster and
[07:18:19] and faster and faster another characteristic of the
[07:18:21] faster another characteristic of the superconscious mind uh number nine is
[07:18:25] superconscious mind uh number nine is that it operates best under two
[07:18:27] that it operates best under two conditions
[07:18:30] operates
[07:18:33] operates best under two
[07:18:37] conditions uh condition number one is
[07:18:40] conditions uh condition number one is when you are concentrating 100% of your
[07:18:44] when you are concentrating 100% of your time and attention on the problem 100%
[07:18:47] time and attention on the problem 100% concentration on the
[07:18:52] problem and the other time when it works
[07:18:55] problem and the other time when it works best is when you are concentrating 0%
[07:18:58] best is when you are concentrating 0% when your mind is busy elsewhere
[07:19:06] those are the two things but somehow the
[07:19:08] those are the two things but somehow the superc conscious mind does not function
[07:19:10] superc conscious mind does not function in
[07:19:11] in between so the key or the solution to
[07:19:14] between so the key or the solution to activating the superconscious mind is to
[07:19:16] activating the superconscious mind is to try consciously to solve the problem now
[07:19:19] try consciously to solve the problem now here is a very simple way to do it you
[07:19:21] here is a very simple way to do it you start to solve the problem by number one
[07:19:23] start to solve the problem by number one defining clearly what it is Define your
[07:19:25] defining clearly what it is Define your problem or Define your goal write it
[07:19:27] problem or Define your goal write it down discuss it get it very clear in
[07:19:29] down discuss it get it very clear in your mind what is it that you're trying
[07:19:31] your mind what is it that you're trying to achieve avoid or preserve number two
[07:19:35] to achieve avoid or preserve number two is do some research gather information
[07:19:38] is do some research gather information look around read talk to people go to
[07:19:41] look around read talk to people go to the library call people who know call
[07:19:43] the library call people who know call experts or Authorities on the subject
[07:19:46] experts or Authorities on the subject get as much information as you possibly
[07:19:47] get as much information as you possibly can almost all good decision- making
[07:19:50] can almost all good decision- making comes from getting information I've had
[07:19:51] comes from getting information I've had experiences where I have had a clearly
[07:19:53] experiences where I have had a clearly defined problem or situation and as I'm
[07:19:56] defined problem or situation and as I'm thinking about I say where can I get
[07:19:57] thinking about I say where can I get some information and bang the name of a
[07:19:59] some information and bang the name of a person you may not have spoken to for a
[07:20:00] person you may not have spoken to for a year will pop into your mind you pick up
[07:20:03] year will pop into your mind you pick up the telephone you call them up and you
[07:20:04] the telephone you call them up and you say hi I'm thinking of doing this or not
[07:20:07] say hi I'm thinking of doing this or not doing this what do you think about that
[07:20:09] doing this what do you think about that and they have exactly the piece of
[07:20:11] and they have exactly the piece of information that you need to do it or
[07:20:13] information that you need to do it or not do it be very very alert to that the
[07:20:16] not do it be very very alert to that the third thing that you do is you try
[07:20:17] third thing that you do is you try consciously to solve the problem now
[07:20:19] consciously to solve the problem now that You' got the information you asked
[07:20:21] that You' got the information you asked questions you've done the reading and
[07:20:22] questions you've done the reading and the research you've got clear in your
[07:20:23] the research you've got clear in your mind you try as hard as you possibly can
[07:20:26] mind you try as hard as you possibly can with your conscious mind to solve the
[07:20:27] with your conscious mind to solve the problem and if that doesn't work then
[07:20:29] problem and if that doesn't work then you simply turn it over to the
[07:20:31] you simply turn it over to the superconscious Mind almost as though you
[07:20:33] superconscious Mind almost as though you are submitting it to a large computer
[07:20:35] are submitting it to a large computer turn it over to the superconscious mind
[07:20:37] turn it over to the superconscious mind and get your mind busy elsewhere get
[07:20:39] and get your mind busy elsewhere get your mind busy doing something else and
[07:20:41] your mind busy doing something else and just get on with something else
[07:20:43] just get on with something else completely for instance we'll talk about
[07:20:45] completely for instance we'll talk about this you could work on another project
[07:20:47] this you could work on another project go for a walk do physical exercise go
[07:20:49] go for a walk do physical exercise go out for dinner get your mind busy
[07:20:51] out for dinner get your mind busy elsewhere and at exactly the right time
[07:20:53] elsewhere and at exactly the right time what will happen is that the answer will
[07:20:55] what will happen is that the answer will come to you it'll just suddenly be there
[07:20:59] come to you it'll just suddenly be there which brings us to another
[07:21:00] which brings us to another characteristic of the
[07:21:01] characteristic of the superconscious and it is this is that
[07:21:03] superconscious and it is this is that the superconscious mind and this is
[07:21:05] the superconscious mind and this is number 10 the superconscious Mind brings
[07:21:08] number 10 the superconscious Mind brings you exactly the answer you require at
[07:21:11] you exactly the answer you require at exactly the right time for you brings
[07:21:14] exactly the right time for you brings you exactly the answer you require at
[07:21:17] you exactly the answer you require at exactly the right
[07:21:19] exactly the right time now one important point with regard
[07:21:22] time now one important point with regard to superconscious creativity is that
[07:21:25] to superconscious creativity is that when you get this answer at exactly the
[07:21:27] when you get this answer at exactly the right time you must act immediately a
[07:21:30] right time you must act immediately a super conscious answer is time
[07:21:33] super conscious answer is time dated that
[07:21:37] means that it may if you get the answer
[07:21:40] means that it may if you get the answer on Thursday at noon at 12:00 the answer
[07:21:43] on Thursday at noon at 12:00 the answer may not be valid at 9:00 on Thursday it
[07:21:45] may not be valid at 9:00 on Thursday it may not be valid at 3:00 on Thursday so
[07:21:48] may not be valid at 3:00 on Thursday so when you get the answer when it comes
[07:21:49] when you get the answer when it comes into your mind that this is what you
[07:21:51] into your mind that this is what you should do and you'll feel a very very
[07:21:52] should do and you'll feel a very very strong feeling of rightness about a
[07:21:55] strong feeling of rightness about a superconscious solution act immediately
[07:21:57] superconscious solution act immediately sometime you'd be working on a problem
[07:21:59] sometime you'd be working on a problem have you ever had this situation you
[07:22:00] have you ever had this situation you work on a problem and and you get this
[07:22:02] work on a problem and and you get this feeling you should phone somebody and
[07:22:03] feeling you should phone somebody and you say I should phone so and so but
[07:22:05] you say I should phone so and so but I'll do it later and you do it later the
[07:22:08] I'll do it later and you do it later the next day or the next week and you call
[07:22:09] next day or the next week and you call them up and they say I wish you'd phone
[07:22:12] them up and they say I wish you'd phone me last week because I had exactly the
[07:22:14] me last week because I had exactly the answer you needed or I had the person or
[07:22:16] answer you needed or I had the person or I had the situation or I had the job for
[07:22:18] I had the situation or I had the job for you and so on so when you get this I
[07:22:20] you and so on so when you get this I know a man who built a billion- dooll
[07:22:22] know a man who built a billion- dooll business and he built a billion doll
[07:22:23] business and he built a billion doll business by fully understanding what
[07:22:25] business by fully understanding what we're talking about here and doing just
[07:22:27] we're talking about here and doing just one thing very limited business Acumen
[07:22:30] one thing very limited business Acumen but always followed his superconscious
[07:22:32] but always followed his superconscious instincts whatever he felt was the right
[07:22:34] instincts whatever he felt was the right thing to do at any instant he acted
[07:22:36] thing to do at any instant he acted immediately he immediately took action
[07:22:39] immediately he immediately took action and his action orientation was enough
[07:22:42] and his action orientation was enough for him to open doors of opportunity to
[07:22:44] for him to open doors of opportunity to get feedback and information to
[07:22:46] get feedback and information to self-correct to draw to himself the
[07:22:48] self-correct to draw to himself the people that he needed to um maximize the
[07:22:50] people that he needed to um maximize the opportunities and so on and he went from
[07:22:52] opportunities and so on and he went from selling cars to a billion dollar
[07:22:54] selling cars to a billion dollar business in less than 10 years simply by
[07:22:56] business in less than 10 years simply by following his superconscious intuition
[07:22:59] following his superconscious intuition and following it Contin ously now
[07:23:01] and following it Contin ously now another characteristic of the
[07:23:02] another characteristic of the superconscious
[07:23:03] superconscious mind is that it will um bring you the
[07:23:08] mind is that it will um bring you the experiences you need to be successful it
[07:23:11] experiences you need to be successful it brings
[07:23:12] brings you the experiences you need to be
[07:23:15] you the experiences you need to be successful this is one of the most
[07:23:17] successful this is one of the most incredible things I've ever found in my
[07:23:19] incredible things I've ever found in my life brings you the experiences you you
[07:23:22] life brings you the experiences you you need to be successful and it'll bring
[07:23:25] need to be successful and it'll bring you a whole
[07:23:28] bunch of a different experiences now
[07:23:31] bunch of a different experiences now imagine that this is you here all right
[07:23:34] imagine that this is you here all right and let's say that you decide that you
[07:23:36] and let's say that you decide that you want to increase your income by 50% a
[07:23:39] want to increase your income by 50% a year for the next 5 years let us say
[07:23:41] year for the next 5 years let us say over the course of your lifetime you
[07:23:42] over the course of your lifetime you decide you want to become financially
[07:23:44] decide you want to become financially independent well now you normally if
[07:23:45] independent well now you normally if you're working at a job or in a field
[07:23:48] you're working at a job or in a field your line of sight as they say is that
[07:23:50] your line of sight as they say is that you will somehow find a way to do it in
[07:23:53] you will somehow find a way to do it in your existing field within your existing
[07:23:55] your existing field within your existing experience and knowledge however once
[07:23:56] experience and knowledge however once you have set this clear goal in your
[07:23:59] you have set this clear goal in your mind once you had this idea of what your
[07:24:01] mind once you had this idea of what your goal or your star is as you start off
[07:24:04] goal or your star is as you start off you'll often find that your life will go
[07:24:06] you'll often find that your life will go into a almost like a crazy obstacle
[07:24:09] into a almost like a crazy obstacle course it'll seem to go through a whole
[07:24:11] course it'll seem to go through a whole series of of convolutions over and over
[07:24:14] series of of convolutions over and over and very often you will find a year two
[07:24:16] and very often you will find a year two years 5 years you will find your goal in
[07:24:19] years 5 years you will find your goal in a totally different place doing
[07:24:21] a totally different place doing something totally different something
[07:24:22] something totally different something you never expected in studying self-made
[07:24:25] you never expected in studying self-made millionaires in America we find that
[07:24:26] millionaires in America we find that almost half of them made their fortunes
[07:24:29] almost half of them made their fortunes doing something totally different from
[07:24:30] doing something totally different from what they started off doing is as they
[07:24:32] what they started off doing is as they moved down the road of Life they found
[07:24:34] moved down the road of Life they found there was an insurmountable obstacle or
[07:24:37] there was an insurmountable obstacle or barrier in that direction the market
[07:24:40] barrier in that direction the market collapsed the technology changed the
[07:24:42] collapsed the technology changed the interest rates went up it didn't matter
[07:24:43] interest rates went up it didn't matter what it was and they found that they had
[07:24:45] what it was and they found that they had to change course and change direction
[07:24:47] to change course and change direction and they had to go over a hurdle now
[07:24:48] and they had to go over a hurdle now imagine that you're running a race and
[07:24:50] imagine that you're running a race and you have to go over a hurdle and each
[07:24:51] you have to go over a hurdle and each one of these hurdles big hurdles and
[07:24:53] one of these hurdles big hurdles and small hurdles when you look back on it
[07:24:56] small hurdles when you look back on it and look back on anything that you've
[07:24:58] and look back on anything that you've ever accomplished that's required a
[07:24:59] ever accomplished that's required a tremendous amount of of time and effort
[07:25:01] tremendous amount of of time and effort and as you look back you will say you
[07:25:03] and as you look back you will say you will see that a whole series of
[07:25:06] will see that a whole series of different things happen to you that
[07:25:08] different things happen to you that looked like setbacks at the time but in
[07:25:11] looked like setbacks at the time but in retrospect you say wasn't it good that
[07:25:12] retrospect you say wasn't it good that that happened cuz if that hadn't
[07:25:14] that happened cuz if that hadn't happened then this wouldn't have
[07:25:15] happened then this wouldn't have happened and this wouldn't happened that
[07:25:16] happened and this wouldn't happened that wouldn't have happened and so on and
[07:25:18] wouldn't have happened and so on and you'll find that your whole life is a
[07:25:20] you'll find that your whole life is a series of remarkable coincidences that
[07:25:23] series of remarkable coincidences that initially look like difficulties or
[07:25:25] initially look like difficulties or setbacks but in retrospect they
[07:25:27] setbacks but in retrospect they contained within them valuable lessons
[07:25:29] contained within them valuable lessons that you needed to learn
[07:25:30] that you needed to learn in order to achieve the goals that
[07:25:32] in order to achieve the goals that you've achieved perfect example in
[07:25:34] you've achieved perfect example in relationships when we start going out
[07:25:36] relationships when we start going out with members of the opposite sex and
[07:25:37] with members of the opposite sex and we're growing up we have a lot of
[07:25:39] we're growing up we have a lot of relationships that don't work out trial
[07:25:41] relationships that don't work out trial and error we experiment we learn what
[07:25:43] and error we experiment we learn what it's like to get along with other people
[07:25:44] it's like to get along with other people and not to get along and we think at the
[07:25:46] and not to get along and we think at the time that relationships are not working
[07:25:47] time that relationships are not working out that this is a terrible situation
[07:25:49] out that this is a terrible situation it's very emotionally stressful but then
[07:25:51] it's very emotionally stressful but then when we finally find a relationship
[07:25:53] when we finally find a relationship that's right for us we look back and we
[07:25:54] that's right for us we look back and we say boy wasn't it good that we had all
[07:25:57] say boy wasn't it good that we had all those difficult problems because if we
[07:25:58] those difficult problems because if we hadn't we'd have never reached the point
[07:26:00] hadn't we'd have never reached the point where I am now which is being in the
[07:26:02] where I am now which is being in the relationship that you wanted I think the
[07:26:04] relationship that you wanted I think the way they say it is you have to kiss a
[07:26:05] way they say it is you have to kiss a lot of horny toads before you meet the
[07:26:06] lot of horny toads before you meet the handsome prince uh or princess so each
[07:26:10] handsome prince uh or princess so each time we go over one of these lessons we
[07:26:12] time we go over one of these lessons we learn a valuable each time we go over
[07:26:14] learn a valuable each time we go over one of these hurdles we learn a valuable
[07:26:15] one of these hurdles we learn a valuable lesson now let me tell you this too is
[07:26:18] lesson now let me tell you this too is that very often your greatest success
[07:26:20] that very often your greatest success comes just before or just after I'm
[07:26:23] comes just before or just after I'm sorry your greatest failure in Napoleon
[07:26:26] sorry your greatest failure in Napoleon Hill's study of over 500 successful men
[07:26:29] Hill's study of over 500 successful men and women he found that almost every one
[07:26:31] and women he found that almost every one of them had faced their greatest failure
[07:26:34] of them had faced their greatest failure the point where they felt they should
[07:26:35] the point where they felt they should have quit there was no point in going on
[07:26:37] have quit there was no point in going on everybody else told them it was
[07:26:39] everybody else told them it was ridiculous at that point they persisted
[07:26:41] ridiculous at that point they persisted a little bit further and Wham they made
[07:26:44] a little bit further and Wham they made the greatest success you notice Thomas
[07:26:46] the greatest success you notice Thomas Edison one of the greatest inventors of
[07:26:47] Edison one of the greatest inventors of the century was broke or nearly broke
[07:26:50] the century was broke or nearly broke many times Henry Ford went bankrupt
[07:26:52] many times Henry Ford went bankrupt almost three times uh in the course of
[07:26:54] almost three times uh in the course of building his fortune many of the most
[07:26:56] building his fortune many of the most successful men and women have fallen on
[07:26:58] successful men and women have fallen on their faces over and over over and over
[07:27:01] their faces over and over over and over again until they have finally arrived
[07:27:04] again until they have finally arrived where they wanted to arrive now what
[07:27:05] where they wanted to arrive now what does this mean it means that you have to
[07:27:08] does this mean it means that you have to adopt the attitude that every single
[07:27:11] adopt the attitude that every single time you run into a roadblock every
[07:27:13] time you run into a roadblock every single time you fall down every single
[07:27:15] single time you fall down every single time you lose some money you lose some
[07:27:17] time you lose some money you lose some emotion you lose some time as a result
[07:27:20] emotion you lose some time as a result of a temporary setback you have to
[07:27:22] of a temporary setback you have to believe that this has been sent to you
[07:27:24] believe that this has been sent to you as a valuable experience that is moving
[07:27:26] as a valuable experience that is moving you toward accomplishing your good and
[07:27:29] you toward accomplishing your good and here is a very very simple technique
[07:27:31] here is a very very simple technique that you can use and I call it the movie
[07:27:34] that you can use and I call it the movie technique all right now imagine that you
[07:27:37] technique all right now imagine that you go to the movie and you get there and
[07:27:40] go to the movie and you get there and you're very it's very very late all
[07:27:43] you're very it's very very late all right and you get in and they let you
[07:27:45] right and you get in and they let you get in even though it's toward the end
[07:27:46] get in even though it's toward the end of the picture and the new picture is
[07:27:47] of the picture and the new picture is going to be starting in a little while
[07:27:49] going to be starting in a little while and you go in and you watch the last 10
[07:27:51] and you go in and you watch the last 10 minutes so we call this the last 10
[07:27:53] minutes so we call this the last 10 minute technique all right you watch the
[07:27:56] minute technique all right you watch the last 10
[07:27:58] last 10 minutes you see how the movie ends you
[07:28:01] minutes you see how the movie ends you see how everything comes together you
[07:28:03] see how everything comes together you see how the hero advances you see how
[07:28:06] see how the hero advances you see how everybody achieves you see how it all
[07:28:07] everybody achieves you see how it all falls together and everybody ends up
[07:28:09] falls together and everybody ends up happy and so on now having seen the last
[07:28:12] happy and so on now having seen the last 10 minutes you then sit through the
[07:28:14] 10 minutes you then sit through the whole movie however now you sit through
[07:28:16] whole movie however now you sit through the whole movie and you see the uh the
[07:28:18] the whole movie and you see the uh the danger the drama uh the tragedy the
[07:28:20] danger the drama uh the tragedy the unhappiness you see the
[07:28:21] unhappiness you see the misunderstandings and so on however you
[07:28:23] misunderstandings and so on however you see as you watch the movie You Know How
[07:28:26] see as you watch the movie You Know How It Ends you know that there's a happy
[07:28:28] It Ends you know that there's a happy ending cuz you've seen the last 10
[07:28:30] ending cuz you've seen the last 10 minutes now this is the critical
[07:28:31] minutes now this is the critical attitude as you look at the difficulties
[07:28:33] attitude as you look at the difficulties that you face on a day-to-day basis have
[07:28:36] that you face on a day-to-day basis have this attitude that these are just what
[07:28:38] this attitude that these are just what happens but in the last 10 minutes
[07:28:40] happens but in the last 10 minutes everything comes out right and you
[07:28:41] everything comes out right and you achieve your goal so take a look and
[07:28:43] achieve your goal so take a look and take this philosophic attitude toward
[07:28:45] take this philosophic attitude toward every difficulty as this is this is part
[07:28:47] every difficulty as this is this is part of the movie but I know that in the last
[07:28:49] of the movie but I know that in the last 10 minutes it's all result just pretend
[07:28:51] 10 minutes it's all result just pretend that you already know the end of the
[07:28:53] that you already know the end of the picture and that pretending will make
[07:28:56] picture and that pretending will make the movie come out exactly as you desire
[07:28:59] the movie come out exactly as you desire and probably better for for you number
[07:29:01] and probably better for for you number 12 the superconscious Mind makes all
[07:29:04] 12 the superconscious Mind makes all your words and actions makes your words
[07:29:08] your words and actions makes your words what you say and your
[07:29:11] what you say and your actions and their effects and this is
[07:29:14] actions and their effects and this is the critical word and their
[07:29:17] the critical word and their effects in other
[07:29:19] effects in other words the result of your words and
[07:29:22] words the result of your words and actions fit a pattern
[07:29:24] actions fit a pattern consistent with your self-concept and
[07:29:27] consistent with your self-concept and your dominant goals fit a pattern
[07:29:29] your dominant goals fit a pattern consistent
[07:29:33] with your
[07:29:35] with your self-concept and your dominant
[07:29:38] self-concept and your dominant goals what does that mean that means
[07:29:41] goals what does that mean that means that the subconscious mind which is a
[07:29:44] that the subconscious mind which is a mechanical part of your thinking makes
[07:29:46] mechanical part of your thinking makes your words and actions fit a pattern
[07:29:47] your words and actions fit a pattern consistent with your self-concept if you
[07:29:49] consistent with your self-concept if you feel good about yourself your words and
[07:29:51] feel good about yourself your words and actions will be consistent with that if
[07:29:52] actions will be consistent with that if you feel negative or tired or fatigued
[07:29:54] you feel negative or tired or fatigued your words and actions will be
[07:29:55] your words and actions will be consistent with that however the
[07:29:57] consistent with that however the superconscious Mind once you have
[07:29:58] superconscious Mind once you have planted it with a very clear goal or set
[07:30:00] planted it with a very clear goal or set of instructions will make your words and
[07:30:02] of instructions will make your words and actions and the effect of those words
[07:30:04] actions and the effect of those words and actions conspire together to bring
[07:30:06] and actions conspire together to bring you toward your goal you've all had
[07:30:08] you toward your goal you've all had experiences where in the middle of a
[07:30:09] experiences where in the middle of a conversation you will something will
[07:30:11] conversation you will something will just pop out of your mouth and you'll
[07:30:13] just pop out of your mouth and you'll just say it and you never thought to say
[07:30:14] just say it and you never thought to say it and it will turn out to be exactly
[07:30:17] it and it will turn out to be exactly the right thing to say in that situation
[07:30:19] the right thing to say in that situation it may be in a in in a date with a
[07:30:22] it may be in a in in a date with a member of the opposite sex it may be in
[07:30:23] member of the opposite sex it may be in a business medum maybe on a sales call
[07:30:26] a business medum maybe on a sales call but you'll find that you'll just
[07:30:27] but you'll find that you'll just naturally say exactly the thing or the
[07:30:30] naturally say exactly the thing or the words that are appropriate for the
[07:30:31] words that are appropriate for the situation and you'll find that if you
[07:30:33] situation and you'll find that if you just trust to this and you have this
[07:30:35] just trust to this and you have this feeling that you should say something or
[07:30:37] feeling that you should say something or let me tell you this also every so often
[07:30:39] let me tell you this also every so often you'll be in a conversation where you're
[07:30:40] you'll be in a conversation where you're planning to say something you're
[07:30:41] planning to say something you're planning to bring out a particular Point
[07:30:43] planning to bring out a particular Point you're planning to make a particular
[07:30:44] you're planning to make a particular presentation but something inside you
[07:30:46] presentation but something inside you will be saying no it'll be blocking it
[07:30:48] will be saying no it'll be blocking it or the other person will keep saying
[07:30:50] or the other person will keep saying things that stop you from making this
[07:30:51] things that stop you from making this what you do then is a superconscious
[07:30:53] what you do then is a superconscious Mind Is Telling You don't say this
[07:30:54] Mind Is Telling You don't say this because it's not consistent with your
[07:30:56] because it's not consistent with your ultimate aims and desires so whenever
[07:30:58] ultimate aims and desires so whenever you feel that you're you're not sure
[07:31:00] you feel that you're you're not sure whether or not you should say something
[07:31:01] whether or not you should say something or bring something up the best rule is
[07:31:04] or bring something up the best rule is don't do it at all just hold off and
[07:31:06] don't do it at all just hold off and you'll find out it was the best thing to
[07:31:08] you'll find out it was the best thing to do now there's two words by the way that
[07:31:11] do now there's two words by the way that which are very popular today one is
[07:31:13] which are very popular today one is called Serendipity
[07:31:15] called Serendipity Serendipity is the process of making
[07:31:18] Serendipity is the process of making happy
[07:31:19] happy discoveries it's found that there are
[07:31:21] discoveries it's found that there are certain people who have the capacity to
[07:31:24] certain people who have the capacity to always find the things they need the
[07:31:26] always find the things they need the people they need they find the book they
[07:31:28] people they need they find the book they need the the particular spice they need
[07:31:30] need the the particular spice they need the particular piece of cloth or
[07:31:31] the particular piece of cloth or furniture and so on but they're always
[07:31:34] furniture and so on but they're always stumbling across the things that they
[07:31:36] stumbling across the things that they need and there this is called
[07:31:38] need and there this is called Serendipity or serendipitous Behavior
[07:31:40] Serendipity or serendipitous Behavior the interesting point is when we've
[07:31:42] the interesting point is when we've discovered people when we when we we've
[07:31:44] discovered people when we when we we've studied people who have this
[07:31:45] studied people who have this serendipitous uh capacity we find that
[07:31:48] serendipitous uh capacity we find that the discoveries that they make are all
[07:31:49] the discoveries that they make are all consistent with goals that they have set
[07:31:51] consistent with goals that they have set in other words you only find things when
[07:31:53] in other words you only find things when you're looking for things that people
[07:31:55] you're looking for things that people don't make happy discoveries unless they
[07:31:57] don't make happy discoveries unless they are looking for something to contribute
[07:31:59] are looking for something to contribute toward their goal their goals and
[07:32:00] toward their goal their goals and there's another word called
[07:32:01] there's another word called synchronicity and
[07:32:03] synchronicity and synchronicity is the process or The
[07:32:06] synchronicity is the process or The Coincidence of
[07:32:09] events where two or three things that
[07:32:13] events where two or three things that are totally unrelated happen
[07:32:15] are totally unrelated happen simultaneously and we call this
[07:32:17] simultaneously and we call this synchronicity or or synchronizing of
[07:32:19] synchronicity or or synchronizing of events and the interesting and only
[07:32:22] events and the interesting and only factor in synchronicity is that all
[07:32:24] factor in synchronicity is that all three of the events conspire together to
[07:32:26] three of the events conspire together to help you achieve your goal now there's
[07:32:28] help you achieve your goal now there's some interesting work done on
[07:32:29] some interesting work done on synchronicity it says that there is a
[07:32:31] synchronicity it says that there is a higher order or a higher organization of
[07:32:35] higher order or a higher organization of events where events are organized on the
[07:32:37] events where events are organized on the basis of meaning and the meaning that
[07:32:40] basis of meaning and the meaning that they have the significance that they
[07:32:42] they have the significance that they have is defined by you and what your
[07:32:45] have is defined by you and what your goals are so very often you'll get a
[07:32:47] goals are so very often you'll get a phone call read a book hear about an
[07:32:49] phone call read a book hear about an article and visit a person and all of
[07:32:51] article and visit a person and all of those simultaneously will come together
[07:32:53] those simultaneously will come together to bring you what you're after be very
[07:32:56] to bring you what you're after be very alert to these two Happening Now number
[07:32:58] alert to these two Happening Now number 13 is the superconscious ious mind
[07:33:00] 13 is the superconscious ious mind contains all monitor
[07:33:02] contains all monitor circuits contains all monitor circuits
[07:33:04] circuits contains all monitor circuits that means that you can pre-program the
[07:33:06] that means that you can pre-program the superconscious mind and it will work for
[07:33:09] superconscious mind and it will work for you two ways that people pre-program the
[07:33:12] you two ways that people pre-program the superconscious mind all the time is
[07:33:13] superconscious mind all the time is parking spaces many people find that by
[07:33:17] parking spaces many people find that by confidently expecting there to be a
[07:33:18] confidently expecting there to be a parking space wherever they're going
[07:33:19] parking space wherever they're going there always is that you can pre-program
[07:33:21] there always is that you can pre-program your mind sometimes 10 out of 10 20 out
[07:33:24] your mind sometimes 10 out of 10 20 out of 20 to get a parking space even on a
[07:33:26] of 20 to get a parking space even on a busy street even in a busy shopping
[07:33:28] busy street even in a busy shopping center and if if you get there and
[07:33:30] center and if if you get there and they're all full you'll find that
[07:33:31] they're all full you'll find that somebody is holding your space and they
[07:33:33] somebody is holding your space and they back out just as you arrive just as you
[07:33:36] back out just as you arrive just as you pull up you'll find that their tail
[07:33:37] pull up you'll find that their tail lights will go on and they'll back up
[07:33:39] lights will go on and they'll back up not one car earlier not one car later
[07:33:41] not one car earlier not one car later but exactly where you are I thousands of
[07:33:44] but exactly where you are I thousands of people come back to me and say that
[07:33:45] people come back to me and say that after learning this they get parking
[07:33:47] after learning this they get parking spaces wherever they want the key is you
[07:33:49] spaces wherever they want the key is you must believe that it works if you don't
[07:33:50] must believe that it works if you don't believe that it works it doesn't work
[07:33:51] believe that it works it doesn't work for you the second is uh waking up there
[07:33:54] for you the second is uh waking up there are many people who wake
[07:33:57] are many people who wake up with no uh alarm clock many people
[07:34:00] up with no uh alarm clock many people don't need alarm clock at all I haven't
[07:34:02] don't need alarm clock at all I haven't used an alarm clock for years why you
[07:34:04] used an alarm clock for years why you can just program your mind to wake up
[07:34:05] can just program your mind to wake up almost to the minute any given time all
[07:34:07] almost to the minute any given time all you have to do is do this three times
[07:34:09] you have to do is do this three times you'll develop the habit for life and by
[07:34:10] you'll develop the habit for life and by the way this is something the alarm
[07:34:11] the way this is something the alarm clock industry keeps quite secret mind
[07:34:14] clock industry keeps quite secret mind you because nobody needs an alarm clock
[07:34:16] you because nobody needs an alarm clock you can wake up at any time you can wake
[07:34:17] you can wake up at any time you can wake up with 3 hours sleep or with 13 hour
[07:34:19] up with 3 hours sleep or with 13 hour sleep you can wake up in pitch black
[07:34:21] sleep you can wake up in pitch black darkness you can sleep for 20 minutes or
[07:34:23] darkness you can sleep for 20 minutes or 2 hours just simply by programming your
[07:34:25] 2 hours just simply by programming your mind you can also program your mind to
[07:34:28] mind you can also program your mind to remember to do something remember not to
[07:34:30] remember to do something remember not to do something uh and so on and I'll tell
[07:34:33] do something uh and so on and I'll tell you this so that you can write it down
[07:34:34] you this so that you can write it down it's what we call the law of
[07:34:36] it's what we call the law of superconscious activity the law of
[07:34:39] superconscious activity the law of superconscious activity and it is this
[07:34:42] superconscious activity and it is this is that because of the power of the
[07:34:44] is that because of the power of the superconscious Mind any thought plan
[07:34:48] superconscious Mind any thought plan goal or idea that you can hold in your
[07:34:51] goal or idea that you can hold in your mind your conscious mind on a continuing
[07:34:54] mind your conscious mind on a continuing basis must be brought into reality by
[07:34:57] basis must be brought into reality by your superconscious mind and any thought
[07:35:00] your superconscious mind and any thought plan goal or idea that you hold
[07:35:03] plan goal or idea that you hold continuously in your conscious mind and
[07:35:05] continuously in your conscious mind and that you intensely desire or intensely
[07:35:08] that you intensely desire or intensely fear must be brought into reality by
[07:35:11] fear must be brought into reality by your superconscious mind whether
[07:35:14] your superconscious mind whether positive or negative good or bad for you
[07:35:17] positive or negative good or bad for you if you can hold it continuously if you
[07:35:19] if you can hold it continuously if you can emotionalize it if you can visualize
[07:35:21] can emotionalize it if you can visualize it in your conscious mind the
[07:35:23] it in your conscious mind the superconscious mind will begin to
[07:35:25] superconscious mind will begin to organize the entire universe of
[07:35:27] organize the entire universe of experience around you to draw into your
[07:35:30] experience around you to draw into your life the people and circumstances
[07:35:32] life the people and circumstances necessary to make that idea come true
[07:35:35] necessary to make that idea come true what we've been saying throughout this
[07:35:36] what we've been saying throughout this entire program is that your thoughts are
[07:35:39] entire program is that your thoughts are extremely powerful that your thoughts
[07:35:41] extremely powerful that your thoughts objectify themselves that your thoughts
[07:35:44] objectify themselves that your thoughts become your reality and it is this
[07:35:47] become your reality and it is this understanding of this superconscious
[07:35:48] understanding of this superconscious capability that makes it a fact that
[07:35:51] capability that makes it a fact that your thoughts do become your reality so
[07:35:54] your thoughts do become your reality so keep your mind on what you want keep it
[07:35:56] keep your mind on what you want keep it off of what you don't want think
[07:35:58] off of what you don't want think continuously think nonstop think all the
[07:36:01] continuously think nonstop think all the time only about what it is that you want
[07:36:04] time only about what it is that you want and keep your mind completely off of the
[07:36:06] and keep your mind completely off of the things that you don't want the reason
[07:36:07] things that you don't want the reason why so many people are unsuccessful and
[07:36:09] why so many people are unsuccessful and unhappy today is because they think
[07:36:10] unhappy today is because they think continuously about the things that they
[07:36:12] continuously about the things that they don't want the reason that a very few
[07:36:14] don't want the reason that a very few people the elite are successful happy
[07:36:18] people the elite are successful happy prosperous growing and so on is because
[07:36:20] prosperous growing and so on is because they keep their mind on what they desire
[07:36:22] they keep their mind on what they desire and the Bible it says the rich get
[07:36:24] and the Bible it says the rich get richer and the poor get poor or it says
[07:36:26] richer and the poor get poor or it says I'm sorry in the Bible it says from him
[07:36:29] I'm sorry in the Bible it says from him who has
[07:36:30] who has even that which she has shall be taken
[07:36:31] even that which she has shall be taken away but to him who ha even more shall
[07:36:33] away but to him who ha even more shall be given the rich get richer and the
[07:36:35] be given the rich get richer and the poor get poor what do the rich think
[07:36:36] poor get poor what do the rich think about what do the rich dwell upon what
[07:36:38] about what do the rich dwell upon what do the rich concentrate on what do the
[07:36:40] do the rich concentrate on what do the rich attract to themselves what is the
[07:36:41] rich attract to themselves what is the law of correspondence with regard to the
[07:36:43] law of correspondence with regard to the rich it is the rich are always thinking
[07:36:45] rich it is the rich are always thinking of production affluence money wealth and
[07:36:47] of production affluence money wealth and so on what do the poor think about all
[07:36:49] so on what do the poor think about all the time yes the poor think about
[07:36:51] the time yes the poor think about poverty lock La lack loss limitation
[07:36:55] poverty lock La lack loss limitation your health how little money they have
[07:36:57] your health how little money they have and whatever you think about on a
[07:36:58] and whatever you think about on a continuing basis you draw into your life
[07:37:01] continuing basis you draw into your life and you make into your reality because
[07:37:03] and you make into your reality because of this superconscious capability no
[07:37:05] of this superconscious capability no matter how big your goals are no matter
[07:37:07] matter how big your goals are no matter how far away they are if you can hold
[07:37:09] how far away they are if you can hold them in your mind on a continuing basis
[07:37:11] them in your mind on a continuing basis you can make them your reality well how
[07:37:14] you can make them your reality well how do you activate the superconscious Mind
[07:37:16] do you activate the superconscious Mind here is the most powerful of all we call
[07:37:18] here is the most powerful of all we call this the ma Master method of activation
[07:37:20] this the ma Master method of activation it is called
[07:37:23] it is called Solitude you activate the superconscious
[07:37:25] Solitude you activate the superconscious mind with Solitude now how do you use
[07:37:28] mind with Solitude now how do you use solitude
[07:37:30] solitude we call this go into the silence go and
[07:37:33] we call this go into the silence go and sit down
[07:37:34] sit down quietly by yourself for 30 to 60 Minutes
[07:37:39] quietly by yourself for 30 to 60 Minutes 30 to 60 Minutes most people in our
[07:37:41] 30 to 60 Minutes most people in our society have never sat quietly for 30 to
[07:37:43] society have never sat quietly for 30 to 60 Minutes in their entire lives yet I
[07:37:46] 60 Minutes in their entire lives yet I will tell you this this method works
[07:37:48] will tell you this this method works 100% of the time that any problem that
[07:37:50] 100% of the time that any problem that you have any difficulty any challenge
[07:37:52] you have any difficulty any challenge any goal that you want to accomplish if
[07:37:54] any goal that you want to accomplish if you'll go into the silence and sit
[07:37:56] you'll go into the silence and sit quietly and then listen to the still
[07:37:59] quietly and then listen to the still Small Voice Within listen to The Still
[07:38:02] Small Voice Within listen to The Still Small Voice
[07:38:04] Small Voice Within the still Small Voice Within this
[07:38:08] Within the still Small Voice Within this is the
[07:38:09] is the key you will find that at a certain
[07:38:12] key you will find that at a certain point probably at about 25 to 30 minutes
[07:38:15] point probably at about 25 to 30 minutes your mind will go completely clear and
[07:38:18] your mind will go completely clear and then a flow of ideas will start to flow
[07:38:20] then a flow of ideas will start to flow into your mind you'll feel energy
[07:38:21] into your mind you'll feel energy welling up inside you and at a precise
[07:38:24] welling up inside you and at a precise moment as you sit there in complete
[07:38:25] moment as you sit there in complete silence no cigarettes no coffee no music
[07:38:28] silence no cigarettes no coffee no music nothing just complete silence
[07:38:29] nothing just complete silence at a particular moment your mind will go
[07:38:32] at a particular moment your mind will go clear and Wham exactly the answer you
[07:38:35] clear and Wham exactly the answer you need will come at exactly the right time
[07:38:37] need will come at exactly the right time and if you will get up and go and carry
[07:38:39] and if you will get up and go and carry out that answer it will turn out to be
[07:38:42] out that answer it will turn out to be exactly perfect there's a lot of things
[07:38:44] exactly perfect there's a lot of things that you can do to stimulate the
[07:38:45] that you can do to stimulate the superconscious Mind aside from Solitude
[07:38:48] superconscious Mind aside from Solitude visualization affirmation daydreaming
[07:38:51] visualization affirmation daydreaming relaxing classical music natural
[07:38:53] relaxing classical music natural environments meditation tape affirmation
[07:38:56] environments meditation tape affirmation all activate the superconscious mind now
[07:38:59] all activate the superconscious mind now there's three sources of a
[07:39:00] there's three sources of a superconscious solution three critical
[07:39:03] superconscious solution three critical sources number one is intuition it'll
[07:39:06] sources number one is intuition it'll come from inside you get a very very
[07:39:08] come from inside you get a very very strong feeling that this is the answer
[07:39:10] strong feeling that this is the answer number two
[07:39:12] number two is um chance encounters you will meet
[07:39:15] is um chance encounters you will meet people or you will meet books
[07:39:18] people or you will meet books information material ideas that will
[07:39:21] information material ideas that will give you the critical answers that you
[07:39:22] give you the critical answers that you require and number three is unexpected
[07:39:25] require and number three is unexpected events unexpected events things will
[07:39:28] events unexpected events things will happen that are totally unexpected
[07:39:30] happen that are totally unexpected either within your life or in your
[07:39:32] either within your life or in your external environment and if you look
[07:39:34] external environment and if you look into them very closely you find that
[07:39:35] into them very closely you find that very often they contain exactly the
[07:39:37] very often they contain exactly the answer exactly the Insight that you're
[07:39:39] answer exactly the Insight that you're looking for so be very alert to
[07:39:41] looking for so be very alert to intuition be very alert to chance
[07:39:43] intuition be very alert to chance encounters be very alert to unexpected
[07:39:45] encounters be very alert to unexpected events now how do you tell a
[07:39:47] events now how do you tell a superconscious solution this is this is
[07:39:49] superconscious solution this is this is how you tell it number one is that when
[07:39:51] how you tell it number one is that when the answer comes it will be 100%
[07:39:55] the answer comes it will be 100% complete it will answer every aspect of
[07:39:58] complete it will answer every aspect of the problem it will be that's it that's
[07:40:01] the problem it will be that's it that's the answer it'll be so clear and it will
[07:40:03] the answer it'll be so clear and it will be
[07:40:05] be simple this is a wonderful thing it'll
[07:40:07] simple this is a wonderful thing it'll be very very simple number two it'll be
[07:40:09] be very very simple number two it'll be a blinding flash of the obvious you'll
[07:40:11] a blinding flash of the obvious you'll say to yourself why didn't I think of
[07:40:14] say to yourself why didn't I think of that why didn't I think of that that's
[07:40:15] that why didn't I think of that that's so obvious it's so logical a blinding
[07:40:19] so obvious it's so logical a blinding flash of the obvious now one
[07:40:23] flash of the obvious now one other one other key is the emotional
[07:40:26] other one other key is the emotional component is that when you get a
[07:40:28] component is that when you get a superconscious solution that means
[07:40:30] superconscious solution that means exactly the right answer for you it is
[07:40:32] exactly the right answer for you it is always accompanied by a burst of
[07:40:35] always accompanied by a burst of joy and energy your self-esteem goes up
[07:40:39] joy and energy your self-esteem goes up you feel positive you feel happy you
[07:40:42] you feel positive you feel happy you have what is called a feeling of
[07:40:45] have what is called a feeling of elation you feel great that you say wow
[07:40:49] elation you feel great that you say wow this is perfect this is the answer you
[07:40:51] this is perfect this is the answer you get so excited sometimes you have to run
[07:40:52] get so excited sometimes you have to run and go to the bathroom but you want to
[07:40:54] and go to the bathroom but you want to call and tell somebody you want to do
[07:40:55] call and tell somebody you want to do something you a superconscious solution
[07:40:57] something you a superconscious solution always comes with the energy necessary
[07:41:00] always comes with the energy necessary to implement it for instance if you get
[07:41:02] to implement it for instance if you get a superconscious solution just as you're
[07:41:04] a superconscious solution just as you're going to sleep or in the middle of the
[07:41:05] going to sleep or in the middle of the night you will wake up with your heart
[07:41:07] night you will wake up with your heart pounding and your mind racing and your
[07:41:09] pounding and your mind racing and your and and your uh your blood streaming and
[07:41:11] and and your uh your blood streaming and you won't be able to get back to sleep
[07:41:13] you won't be able to get back to sleep again so let me conclude by saying this
[07:41:15] again so let me conclude by saying this again the law of superconscious activity
[07:41:18] again the law of superconscious activity the most important single law that
[07:41:20] the most important single law that determines your destiny and everything
[07:41:21] determines your destiny and everything that you do and everything that you'll
[07:41:23] that you do and everything that you'll ever accomplish is that any thought any
[07:41:26] ever accomplish is that any thought any plan any goal any idea that you can hold
[07:41:30] plan any goal any idea that you can hold continuously in your
[07:41:32] continuously in your mind must be brought into reality by the
[07:41:35] mind must be brought into reality by the superconscious this is the reason for
[07:41:37] superconscious this is the reason for the greatness of every man and woman who
[07:41:39] the greatness of every man and woman who ever lived every great leader writer
[07:41:41] ever lived every great leader writer author poet or business person and you
[07:41:44] author poet or business person and you can tap into this at will simply by
[07:41:47] can tap into this at will simply by defining with Crystal Clarity exactly
[07:41:49] defining with Crystal Clarity exactly what it is you want and then thinking
[07:41:52] what it is you want and then thinking only about what you want keeping your
[07:41:55] only about what you want keeping your mind only on what you desire and keep it
[07:41:58] mind only on what you desire and keep it off of everything else until it comes
[07:42:00] off of everything else until it comes into your
[07:42:12] reality session 20 creative problem
[07:42:15] reality session 20 creative problem solving techniques remember when we
[07:42:17] solving techniques remember when we talked about that survey that was done
[07:42:19] talked about that survey that was done where they checked the IQ of a thousand
[07:42:21] where they checked the IQ of a thousand people at random and they found the
[07:42:22] people at random and they found the difference in IQ between the least
[07:42:24] difference in IQ between the least intelligent and the most intelligent was
[07:42:26] intelligent and the most intelligent was only 2 and a half times and we talked
[07:42:28] only 2 and a half times and we talked about regard to income how people
[07:42:30] about regard to income how people earning $250,000 a year are not 10 times
[07:42:33] earning $250,000 a year are not 10 times Smarter Than People earning $25,000 a
[07:42:36] Smarter Than People earning $25,000 a year well this subject has fascinated me
[07:42:38] year well this subject has fascinated me for years and I've put together courses
[07:42:39] for years and I've put together courses which I've taught to Major Fortune 500
[07:42:43] which I've taught to Major Fortune 500 Executives and administrators and I've
[07:42:45] Executives and administrators and I've come up with some really interesting
[07:42:46] come up with some really interesting ideas with regard to intelligence and IQ
[07:42:48] ideas with regard to intelligence and IQ and I'd like to just sort of impress
[07:42:50] and I'd like to just sort of impress upon you one thought which is this is
[07:42:52] upon you one thought which is this is that intelligence is a way of acting
[07:42:55] that intelligence is a way of acting intelligence is not a matter of IQ it's
[07:42:58] intelligence is not a matter of IQ it's not a matter of education it's not a
[07:43:00] not a matter of education it's not a matter of background contacts grades or
[07:43:02] matter of background contacts grades or anything else there are many extremely
[07:43:04] anything else there are many extremely intelligent people who can't make a
[07:43:05] intelligent people who can't make a living there are many people with
[07:43:07] living there are many people with extended University degrees who are
[07:43:08] extended University degrees who are unemployed but there are also people who
[07:43:11] unemployed but there are also people who didn't finish High School who are
[07:43:12] didn't finish High School who are running major corporations because
[07:43:14] running major corporations because intelligence is a way of acting what I
[07:43:17] intelligence is a way of acting what I found was that if you study the way
[07:43:20] found was that if you study the way intelligent people which by which I mean
[07:43:22] intelligent people which by which I mean people who can get the results they want
[07:43:25] people who can get the results they want act and you act or you use your mind the
[07:43:28] act and you act or you use your mind the way they use their mind you will
[07:43:30] way they use their mind you will actually start to function with the same
[07:43:32] actually start to function with the same level of intelligence that they function
[07:43:33] level of intelligence that they function at irrespective of your IQ or anything
[07:43:36] at irrespective of your IQ or anything else so let's start off with this basic
[07:43:38] else so let's start off with this basic sentence intelligence is a way of acting
[07:43:42] sentence intelligence is a way of acting in other words if you act intelligently
[07:43:45] in other words if you act intelligently then you are intelligent if you do not
[07:43:47] then you are intelligent if you do not act intelligently then you are not
[07:43:49] act intelligently then you are not intelligent irrespective of how smart
[07:43:52] intelligent irrespective of how smart you are or how well educated you are
[07:43:55] you are or how well educated you are with regard to this one of the studies
[07:43:56] with regard to this one of the studies that I conducted a couple of years ago
[07:43:58] that I conducted a couple of years ago was looking at some research on Geniuses
[07:44:01] was looking at some research on Geniuses what are the characteristics of geniuses
[07:44:03] what are the characteristics of geniuses people who perform by the Judgment of
[07:44:06] people who perform by the Judgment of their peers at exceptional levels of
[07:44:08] their peers at exceptional levels of intelligence people who were over 140 IQ
[07:44:11] intelligence people who were over 140 IQ and going up right to 150 160 170 180
[07:44:14] and going up right to 150 160 170 180 and so on and I found that there are
[07:44:15] and so on and I found that there are four keys to genius and all four of
[07:44:18] four keys to genius and all four of these keys are learnable behaviors if
[07:44:20] these keys are learnable behaviors if you learn the Four Keys you can function
[07:44:23] you learn the Four Keys you can function at a level of intelligence that is
[07:44:25] at a level of intelligence that is double your level today so what are the
[07:44:27] double your level today so what are the Four Keys number one key to genius is
[07:44:31] Four Keys number one key to genius is Clarity Clarity is absolutely essential
[07:44:35] Clarity Clarity is absolutely essential as a matter of fact I find over and over
[07:44:36] as a matter of fact I find over and over again the reason people fail in life is
[07:44:38] again the reason people fail in life is because they don't know what they want
[07:44:39] because they don't know what they want they're unclear about where they're
[07:44:41] they're unclear about where they're going their goals are vague their values
[07:44:43] going their goals are vague their values are vague their their their Alternatives
[07:44:45] are vague their their their Alternatives and their options are kind of fuzzy
[07:44:47] and their options are kind of fuzzy whereas all successful people have
[07:44:49] whereas all successful people have tremendous Clarity imagine that you have
[07:44:51] tremendous Clarity imagine that you have a camera and every single time you bring
[07:44:53] a camera and every single time you bring your camera into Focus so that the
[07:44:55] your camera into Focus so that the subject is perfectly clear you're on the
[07:44:58] subject is perfectly clear you're on the beam that means every single time
[07:45:00] beam that means every single time somebody asks you or you think about
[07:45:01] somebody asks you or you think about your goals your goals should be
[07:45:04] your goals your goals should be particularly clear that's what we've
[07:45:05] particularly clear that's what we've talked about write them down clearly
[07:45:07] talked about write them down clearly describe them make them time bounded
[07:45:09] describe them make them time bounded make them measurable make them specific
[07:45:12] make them measurable make them specific use vivid language to accomplish them
[07:45:13] use vivid language to accomplish them because the more clear your goals are
[07:45:15] because the more clear your goals are the sharper your mind is in
[07:45:17] the sharper your mind is in accomplishing or achieving those goals
[07:45:19] accomplishing or achieving those goals another thing that you have to be clear
[07:45:20] another thing that you have to be clear about is what are your problems remember
[07:45:22] about is what are your problems remember we said identifying the obstacles that
[07:45:24] we said identifying the obstacles that stand between you and your goals and
[07:45:26] stand between you and your goals and finding out what are the big obstacles
[07:45:27] finding out what are the big obstacles what are the small obstacles and being
[07:45:29] what are the small obstacles and being crystal clear in medicine what do you do
[07:45:31] crystal clear in medicine what do you do in medicine in medicine you just simply
[07:45:33] in medicine in medicine you just simply go through a process of diagnosis until
[07:45:35] go through a process of diagnosis until you find specifically the problem that's
[07:45:37] you find specifically the problem that's causing the ailment and the more clear
[07:45:39] causing the ailment and the more clear you are about the problem the easier the
[07:45:41] you are about the problem the easier the solution is the pro people who are
[07:45:43] solution is the pro people who are unhappy and unsuccessful today are not
[07:45:45] unhappy and unsuccessful today are not people who are not intelligent or not
[07:45:46] people who are not intelligent or not capable but they're very fuzzy about
[07:45:48] capable but they're very fuzzy about their goals and they're equally fuzzy
[07:45:50] their goals and they're equally fuzzy about their problems and finally more
[07:45:51] about their problems and finally more important than anything else is your
[07:45:54] important than anything else is your outcomes this requires more
[07:45:57] outcomes this requires more thought than either of the other two
[07:46:00] thought than either of the other two what is the outcome you desire where do
[07:46:03] what is the outcome you desire where do you want to be at the end of this
[07:46:05] you want to be at the end of this process in other words what will it look
[07:46:06] process in other words what will it look like what will it feel like not the
[07:46:08] like what will it feel like not the process of getting there but what is the
[07:46:11] process of getting there but what is the outcome that you're after and the focus
[07:46:13] outcome that you're after and the focus on outcomes is often a superior Focus
[07:46:16] on outcomes is often a superior Focus than that of focusing on goals because
[07:46:18] than that of focusing on goals because believe it or not sometimes your goals
[07:46:19] believe it or not sometimes your goals may be wrong sometimes the problems may
[07:46:21] may be wrong sometimes the problems may not be the right problems but if you
[07:46:22] not be the right problems but if you know what the outcome is if you know
[07:46:24] know what the outcome is if you know what you want it to look like if you
[07:46:25] what you want it to look like if you know that you want a 3500t home that's
[07:46:28] know that you want a 3500t home that's modern has all the amenities and has a
[07:46:30] modern has all the amenities and has a study for yourself and a family room for
[07:46:31] study for yourself and a family room for the children and double garage and so on
[07:46:33] the children and double garage and so on if that's the outcome you desire then
[07:46:35] if that's the outcome you desire then the neighborhood that you live in the
[07:46:37] the neighborhood that you live in the terms upon which you get the house
[07:46:39] terms upon which you get the house rental lease purchase and so on those
[07:46:40] rental lease purchase and so on those can take care of themselves long as
[07:46:42] can take care of themselves long as you're clear about the outcome so the
[07:46:43] you're clear about the outcome so the second key to functioning as a genius is
[07:46:48] second key to functioning as a genius is concentration concentration all Geniuses
[07:46:51] concentration concentration all Geniuses all highly intelligent people are people
[07:46:54] all highly intelligent people are people who have the ability to concentrate 100%
[07:46:57] who have the ability to concentrate 100% on one thing at a time and concentrate
[07:46:59] on one thing at a time and concentrate on the most important thing all non-
[07:47:01] on the most important thing all non- Geniuses all people of limited
[07:47:03] Geniuses all people of limited intelligence are people who try to do a
[07:47:05] intelligence are people who try to do a whole lot of different things they're
[07:47:06] whole lot of different things they're all focused on a whole lot of different
[07:47:08] all focused on a whole lot of different things and because they can't bring
[07:47:10] things and because they can't bring their intelligence to bear like a fist
[07:47:12] their intelligence to bear like a fist on a single problem they never seem to
[07:47:14] on a single problem they never seem to get anything really resolved so the
[07:47:17] get anything really resolved so the ability to concentrate and we talked
[07:47:19] ability to concentrate and we talked about that in time management making a
[07:47:20] about that in time management making a list of all your goals or all the
[07:47:22] list of all your goals or all the problems stand in your way picking the
[07:47:24] problems stand in your way picking the one or two that are the most important
[07:47:26] one or two that are the most important picking number one and then going to
[07:47:28] picking number one and then going to work on number one and staying with it
[07:47:29] work on number one and staying with it single-mindedly till it's finished
[07:47:31] single-mindedly till it's finished absolute key to genius because the more
[07:47:33] absolute key to genius because the more you concentrate like a laser beam the
[07:47:35] you concentrate like a laser beam the more you concentrate the more of your
[07:47:37] more you concentrate the more of your intelligence is directed like that beam
[07:47:40] intelligence is directed like that beam that particle beam more of your
[07:47:42] that particle beam more of your intelligence is directed on blasting the
[07:47:44] intelligence is directed on blasting the problem out of the way or moving you
[07:47:46] problem out of the way or moving you towards your goal now the third quality
[07:47:48] towards your goal now the third quality of Genius which you can develop is the
[07:47:50] of Genius which you can develop is the ability to keep an open
[07:47:52] ability to keep an open mind you see we find that people who are
[07:47:54] mind you see we find that people who are very intelligent tend to be open-minded
[07:47:57] very intelligent tend to be open-minded in that they are willing to look at a
[07:47:59] in that they are willing to look at a variety of different approaches they're
[07:48:01] variety of different approaches they're willing to stand back from the situation
[07:48:03] willing to stand back from the situation they're willing to ask a lot of
[07:48:05] they're willing to ask a lot of questions they willing to ask questions
[07:48:07] questions they willing to ask questions like why and questions like why not and
[07:48:10] like why and questions like why not and questions like what are our assumptions
[07:48:12] questions like what are our assumptions we're having this problem what are our
[07:48:14] we're having this problem what are our assumption could it be that our
[07:48:15] assumption could it be that our assumptions are wrong what if our
[07:48:16] assumptions are wrong what if our assumptions were wrong you know that
[07:48:18] assumptions were wrong you know that that that that errant assumptions lie at
[07:48:21] that that that errant assumptions lie at the root root of most failures I some as
[07:48:24] the root root of most failures I some as some shouldn't what are your
[07:48:27] some shouldn't what are your assumptions we find when I go in and do
[07:48:30] assumptions we find when I go in and do research or or or Consulting for large
[07:48:32] research or or or Consulting for large companies or even small companies you
[07:48:33] companies or even small companies you find that wherever they're having
[07:48:34] find that wherever they're having problem in the market there's an
[07:48:35] problem in the market there's an assumption is wrong assumption is wrong
[07:48:37] assumption is wrong assumption is wrong with regard to the product with regard
[07:48:38] with regard to the product with regard to the service with regard to the
[07:48:39] to the service with regard to the competition with regard to the customer
[07:48:41] competition with regard to the customer or so on so what are your assumptions
[07:48:43] or so on so what are your assumptions keep an open mind and look at a whole
[07:48:45] keep an open mind and look at a whole variety of different ways of approaching
[07:48:48] variety of different ways of approaching whatever problem it is another good
[07:48:50] whatever problem it is another good question to ask is what else might be
[07:48:52] question to ask is what else might be the problem we think this is a problem
[07:48:54] the problem we think this is a problem what if something else is the problem
[07:48:55] what if something else is the problem completely different from what we're
[07:48:57] completely different from what we're looking at so keep an open mind mind be
[07:48:59] looking at so keep an open mind mind be flexible be fluid willing to be willing
[07:49:01] flexible be fluid willing to be willing to look at a variety of different
[07:49:02] to look at a variety of different approaches and then the fourth
[07:49:05] approaches and then the fourth characteristic of all Geniuses
[07:49:06] characteristic of all Geniuses surprisingly enough is that they have a
[07:49:07] surprisingly enough is that they have a systematic method they or they have
[07:49:10] systematic method they or they have systematic methodology if you like or
[07:49:12] systematic methodology if you like or systematic methods of problem solving
[07:49:16] systematic methods of problem solving they just don't run off half now
[07:49:18] they just don't run off half now finally once a genius has gone through a
[07:49:20] finally once a genius has gone through a series of systematic methods very often
[07:49:22] series of systematic methods very often as a result of this process of
[07:49:23] as a result of this process of concentration they just dro the the
[07:49:26] concentration they just dro the the subject out of their mind and at a
[07:49:28] subject out of their mind and at a certain point the superconscious will
[07:49:29] certain point the superconscious will give them the answer that they're
[07:49:30] give them the answer that they're looking for but prior to that they go
[07:49:32] looking for but prior to that they go through systematic methods if you like
[07:49:34] through systematic methods if you like of organized
[07:49:36] of organized thinking now most people don't do this
[07:49:39] thinking now most people don't do this what they do is they throw themselves at
[07:49:41] what they do is they throw themselves at a problem the same way a dog throws
[07:49:43] a problem the same way a dog throws itself at a car going past and they go
[07:49:46] itself at a car going past and they go ruu and they chase after the dog or they
[07:49:48] ruu and they chase after the dog or they throw themselves after a blanket like a
[07:49:50] throw themselves after a blanket like a puppy does and they tear the blanket
[07:49:53] puppy does and they tear the blanket round and round and they throw it away
[07:49:55] round and round and they throw it away intelligent people approach every
[07:49:57] intelligent people approach every problem logically
[07:49:59] problem logically systematically organized fashion so
[07:50:02] systematically organized fashion so let's talk about three methods of
[07:50:04] let's talk about three methods of creative thinking that you can use to
[07:50:07] creative thinking that you can use to like a particle beam Smasher that you
[07:50:10] like a particle beam Smasher that you can use to smash through about 90 95% of
[07:50:14] can use to smash through about 90 95% of any problem that you'll ever face any
[07:50:16] any problem that you'll ever face any obstacle anything that stands in your
[07:50:17] obstacle anything that stands in your way and the first is what I call mind
[07:50:20] way and the first is what I call mind storming now mind storming is a very
[07:50:23] storming now mind storming is a very simple technique it was developed many
[07:50:25] simple technique it was developed many many years ago it can be done by
[07:50:27] many years ago it can be done by yourself or can be done with other
[07:50:29] yourself or can be done with other people more people have become wealthy
[07:50:32] people more people have become wealthy and successful using this technique than
[07:50:34] and successful using this technique than any other technique I've ever seen I've
[07:50:36] any other technique I've ever seen I've used this myself for years and it is
[07:50:39] used this myself for years and it is absolutely devastating in how rapidly
[07:50:42] absolutely devastating in how rapidly you can come up with great solutions to
[07:50:44] you can come up with great solutions to even the most complex problems mind
[07:50:46] even the most complex problems mind storming is often called the 20 idea
[07:50:49] storming is often called the 20 idea method the only thing that's necessary
[07:50:52] method the only thing that's necessary to use this 20 idea method is a piece of
[07:50:55] to use this 20 idea method is a piece of paper a pen and disci
[07:50:59] paper a pen and disci why is it that people don't use this
[07:51:00] why is it that people don't use this method more often a they don't know it B
[07:51:03] method more often a they don't know it B they're not disciplined enough to use it
[07:51:05] they're not disciplined enough to use it but if you use this on a systematic
[07:51:06] but if you use this on a systematic basis you will be astonished at the
[07:51:09] basis you will be astonished at the results from the very first time well
[07:51:10] results from the very first time well the 20 idea method simply says this take
[07:51:12] the 20 idea method simply says this take a sheet of
[07:51:14] a sheet of paper best time to do this is first
[07:51:16] paper best time to do this is first thing in the morning and write your
[07:51:18] thing in the morning and write your major goal or objective at the top of
[07:51:23] major goal or objective at the top of the page in the form of a question let
[07:51:25] the page in the form of a question let us say that you want to increase your
[07:51:27] us say that you want to increase your income from $30,000 to $45,000 over the
[07:51:30] income from $30,000 to $45,000 over the next 12 months so what you do is you
[07:51:32] next 12 months so what you do is you might write at the top of the page what
[07:51:34] might write at the top of the page what can I do to earn
[07:51:36] can I do to earn $45,000 over the next 12 months that
[07:51:39] $45,000 over the next 12 months that would be the question or let us say it's
[07:51:40] would be the question or let us say it's a time management question what can I do
[07:51:42] a time management question what can I do to get two more hours of productive time
[07:51:44] to get two more hours of productive time every day or let's say it's a health
[07:51:46] every day or let's say it's a health question what can I do to lose pounds a
[07:51:48] question what can I do to lose pounds a month until I get down to my ideal
[07:51:50] month until I get down to my ideal weight you put that at the top of the
[07:51:52] weight you put that at the top of the page in the form of a question and then
[07:51:54] page in the form of a question and then you force yourself to write 20 different
[07:51:57] you force yourself to write 20 different answers you just keep forcing yourself
[07:51:59] answers you just keep forcing yourself to write 20 different answers now the
[07:52:01] to write 20 different answers now the first three to five answers that you'll
[07:52:03] first three to five answers that you'll come up with are pretty easy the next
[07:52:05] come up with are pretty easy the next three to five are more difficult the
[07:52:07] three to five are more difficult the last 10 will be like squeezing blood
[07:52:09] last 10 will be like squeezing blood from a stone because your mind if you
[07:52:11] from a stone because your mind if you haven't been using it on a regular basis
[07:52:13] haven't been using it on a regular basis will be very slow to respond to this
[07:52:16] will be very slow to respond to this demand just like a muscle if you went
[07:52:17] demand just like a muscle if you went into a weight room and began to pump
[07:52:20] into a weight room and began to pump iron your muscles would respond very
[07:52:22] iron your muscles would respond very very slowly but after a week a month two
[07:52:25] very slowly but after a week a month two 3 months you could go in and you could
[07:52:26] 3 months you could go in and you could work out all afternoon so put it at the
[07:52:28] work out all afternoon so put it at the top of the page and generate 20 answers
[07:52:30] top of the page and generate 20 answers and then at the end of this pick one
[07:52:33] and then at the end of this pick one answer and implement it immediately just
[07:52:35] answer and implement it immediately just simple as that if you'll do this this
[07:52:37] simple as that if you'll do this this technique is so astonishingly powerful
[07:52:39] technique is so astonishingly powerful it's amazing you will come up with ideas
[07:52:42] it's amazing you will come up with ideas out of your mind that absolutely
[07:52:43] out of your mind that absolutely astonish you things will come out on the
[07:52:45] astonish you things will come out on the paper underneath your pen that you never
[07:52:47] paper underneath your pen that you never believed were in your brain I have given
[07:52:49] believed were in your brain I have given this exercise to many groups of
[07:52:50] this exercise to many groups of Executives and I found they've come up
[07:52:52] Executives and I found they've come up to me and said you know sometimes it's
[07:52:54] to me and said you know sometimes it's the 20th answer that's worth all the
[07:52:56] the 20th answer that's worth all the other 19 put together people come up to
[07:52:58] other 19 put together people come up to me and said that 20th answer by forcing
[07:53:00] me and said that 20th answer by forcing yourself to write 20 answers that 20th
[07:53:02] yourself to write 20 answers that 20th answer sometimes is the answer they've
[07:53:04] answer sometimes is the answer they've been looking for for 6 months so using
[07:53:06] been looking for for 6 months so using this exercise then take one and apply it
[07:53:08] this exercise then take one and apply it immediately why it's because that locks
[07:53:10] immediately why it's because that locks into the subconscious and the
[07:53:12] into the subconscious and the superconscious that you are serious
[07:53:14] superconscious that you are serious about this process well if you were to
[07:53:15] about this process well if you were to do this 5 days a week every morning
[07:53:17] do this 5 days a week every morning before you start off and you were to
[07:53:19] before you start off and you were to generate 20 ideas every single morning
[07:53:21] generate 20 ideas every single morning before you start off and you were to do
[07:53:23] before you start off and you were to do this times 50 weeks a year taking two
[07:53:26] this times 50 weeks a year taking two weeks off for uh holidays and taking
[07:53:28] weeks off for uh holidays and taking weekends off where you don't have to
[07:53:29] weekends off where you don't have to think at all you would end up with about
[07:53:32] think at all you would end up with about 5,000 ideas per year if you were to take
[07:53:35] 5,000 ideas per year if you were to take one idea per year or one idea per day
[07:53:38] one idea per year or one idea per day times 5 days per week
[07:53:42] times 5 days per week times yes times 50 weeks per year it
[07:53:45] times yes times 50 weeks per year it would equal 250 ideas perom that you
[07:53:49] would equal 250 ideas perom that you would be applying in your life in a
[07:53:51] would be applying in your life in a world where the average person doesn't
[07:53:53] world where the average person doesn't use one do you think if you use this
[07:53:55] use one do you think if you use this method on a systematic basis it would
[07:53:57] method on a systematic basis it would change your result do you think if you
[07:53:59] change your result do you think if you use this method of creative thinking on
[07:54:01] use this method of creative thinking on a regular basis you would start to see
[07:54:03] a regular basis you would start to see some progress or some changes the
[07:54:05] some progress or some changes the interesting thing is that if you use
[07:54:06] interesting thing is that if you use this method every day now I I must tell
[07:54:08] this method every day now I I must tell you quite honestly personally I cannot
[07:54:10] you quite honestly personally I cannot use this method for more than three days
[07:54:12] use this method for more than three days in a row and the reason is that by the
[07:54:15] in a row and the reason is that by the third day I am coming up with so many
[07:54:17] third day I am coming up with so many ideas that I do not have enough time in
[07:54:19] ideas that I do not have enough time in the day to implement all the ideas and
[07:54:22] the day to implement all the ideas and they are good ideas they are sound ideas
[07:54:24] they are good ideas they are sound ideas they are practical ideas in many cases
[07:54:26] they are practical ideas in many cases they are superconscious solutions that
[07:54:28] they are superconscious solutions that pour out onto the page they are insights
[07:54:31] pour out onto the page they are insights that are worth sometimes hundreds
[07:54:33] that are worth sometimes hundreds sometimes thousands and I've had ideas
[07:54:35] sometimes thousands and I've had ideas that have been worth tens of thousands
[07:54:36] that have been worth tens of thousands even hundreds of thousands of dollars I
[07:54:38] even hundreds of thousands of dollars I do Consulting for corporations
[07:54:40] do Consulting for corporations occasionally I'll come up with an idea
[07:54:41] occasionally I'll come up with an idea when I'm doing a Consulting assignment
[07:54:43] when I'm doing a Consulting assignment for corporations with this exercise that
[07:54:45] for corporations with this exercise that will be worth hundreds of thousands of
[07:54:46] will be worth hundreds of thousands of dollars to them because it will be a
[07:54:48] dollars to them because it will be a unique distillation of a series of
[07:54:51] unique distillation of a series of factors that suddenly crystallize like a
[07:54:53] factors that suddenly crystallize like a flash bulb catches the photograph with
[07:54:55] flash bulb catches the photograph with all the details it'll suddenly
[07:54:57] all the details it'll suddenly crystallize in a superconscious this way
[07:54:58] crystallize in a superconscious this way and bang there will be the idea so I
[07:55:01] and bang there will be the idea so I strongly urge you to use this method
[07:55:02] strongly urge you to use this method starting today take any goal any problem
[07:55:05] starting today take any goal any problem any difficulty write it in the form of a
[07:55:07] any difficulty write it in the form of a question and try it once and you will be
[07:55:09] question and try it once and you will be astonished how effectively it works as a
[07:55:12] astonished how effectively it works as a matter of fact I've come had many people
[07:55:13] matter of fact I've come had many people come back hundreds of people come back
[07:55:14] come back hundreds of people come back from my seminars and say that idea
[07:55:16] from my seminars and say that idea changed their whole career changed their
[07:55:18] changed their whole career changed their whole business changed their whole
[07:55:19] whole business changed their whole family life changed many many aspects of
[07:55:22] family life changed many many aspects of their life all right now the second
[07:55:23] their life all right now the second method that I want to teach you is a
[07:55:24] method that I want to teach you is a method that you can use by yourself but
[07:55:26] method that you can use by yourself but you can also use it with groups you can
[07:55:28] you can also use it with groups you can also use it as a sort of a form of group
[07:55:30] also use it as a sort of a form of group problem solving and it's a systematic
[07:55:32] problem solving and it's a systematic method part of which was was developed
[07:55:34] method part of which was was developed at Harvard University and part of which
[07:55:36] at Harvard University and part of which was developed by a series of other
[07:55:37] was developed by a series of other creative thinkers and in think tanks and
[07:55:39] creative thinkers and in think tanks and which I've combined into one method this
[07:55:42] which I've combined into one method this method is absolutely amazing it's like
[07:55:45] method is absolutely amazing it's like firing a Canon at tissue paper I have
[07:55:47] firing a Canon at tissue paper I have never seen a problem that cannot be
[07:55:49] never seen a problem that cannot be dealt with with this simple method all
[07:55:51] dealt with with this simple method all right it's got about nine steps step
[07:55:53] right it's got about nine steps step number one starting point is confident
[07:55:57] number one starting point is confident expectations
[07:55:59] expectations confident expectations seems to open up
[07:56:02] confident expectations seems to open up the Mind relax the right brain activate
[07:56:07] the Mind relax the right brain activate the superconscious and seems to tune you
[07:56:10] the superconscious and seems to tune you in to solving a problem or difficulty at
[07:56:13] in to solving a problem or difficulty at a higher level so confident expectations
[07:56:16] a higher level so confident expectations are very simple assume a logical
[07:56:18] are very simple assume a logical solution whenever you're faced with any
[07:56:20] solution whenever you're faced with any kind of difficulty assume a logical
[07:56:23] kind of difficulty assume a logical workable solution say to yourself well
[07:56:26] workable solution say to yourself well there's a logical workable solution here
[07:56:28] there's a logical workable solution here no problem as it says what do they what
[07:56:30] no problem as it says what do they what does the Australians say uh no worry
[07:56:32] does the Australians say uh no worry mate just say the same thing no worry
[07:56:34] mate just say the same thing no worry mate no problem there's got to be a
[07:56:36] mate no problem there's got to be a solution here somewhere this attitude of
[07:56:38] solution here somewhere this attitude of confident expectation seems to open up
[07:56:41] confident expectation seems to open up the creative mind and make it work far
[07:56:44] the creative mind and make it work far far better step number two in order to
[07:56:47] far better step number two in order to keep your mind positive and optimistic
[07:56:49] keep your mind positive and optimistic use positive
[07:56:51] use positive language use positive language now what
[07:56:55] language use positive language now what do we mean by that well there are
[07:56:57] do we mean by that well there are certain words in the English language or
[07:56:59] certain words in the English language or any language that can raise or lower
[07:57:01] any language that can raise or lower blood temperature that cause us to be
[07:57:02] blood temperature that cause us to be anxious or fearful or happy or related
[07:57:04] anxious or fearful or happy or related so word usage is important using the
[07:57:08] so word usage is important using the proper words is important for instance
[07:57:10] proper words is important for instance the word problem the word problem is a
[07:57:12] the word problem the word problem is a negative word it has negative
[07:57:14] negative word it has negative connotations it causes us to become
[07:57:16] connotations it causes us to become stressful and anxious and tense it
[07:57:18] stressful and anxious and tense it causes our minds to actually shut down
[07:57:20] causes our minds to actually shut down instead use the word situation situation
[07:57:23] instead use the word situation situation wonderfully enough is a neutral word
[07:57:25] wonderfully enough is a neutral word it's neither positive or negative a
[07:57:27] it's neither positive or negative a problem is something you struggle with a
[07:57:28] problem is something you struggle with a situation is something you deal with
[07:57:31] situation is something you deal with right problem equals struggle setback
[07:57:34] right problem equals struggle setback cost difficulty
[07:57:37] disappointment but a situation is just
[07:57:40] disappointment but a situation is just something you deal with and when you
[07:57:41] something you deal with and when you suddenly start describing things as
[07:57:43] suddenly start describing things as situations well we have an interesting
[07:57:44] situations well we have an interesting situation here the car has been stolen
[07:57:46] situation here the car has been stolen well this is an interesting situation
[07:57:48] well this is an interesting situation our house has burned down well this is
[07:57:49] our house has burned down well this is an interesting situation that triggers
[07:57:52] an interesting situation that triggers your mind into dealing with it rather
[07:57:53] your mind into dealing with it rather than being overcome by it now a better
[07:57:56] than being overcome by it now a better word of course is challenge and many
[07:57:58] word of course is challenge and many many companies and many individuals now
[07:58:00] many companies and many individuals now only use the word challenge because it's
[07:58:02] only use the word challenge because it's positive a challenge is something that
[07:58:04] positive a challenge is something that you rise to a challenge is something
[07:58:06] you rise to a challenge is something positive that you woo that you rise
[07:58:09] positive that you woo that you rise to so instead of calling it a problem
[07:58:11] to so instead of calling it a problem call it a challenge hey we have an
[07:58:12] call it a challenge hey we have an interesting challenge here or we facing
[07:58:14] interesting challenge here or we facing some interesting challenges this year or
[07:58:16] some interesting challenges this year or it looks like we're going to have
[07:58:17] it looks like we're going to have challenges that we didn't expect this
[07:58:19] challenges that we didn't expect this year or we've come up with a pretty big
[07:58:20] year or we've come up with a pretty big challenge but a challenge described as a
[07:58:23] challenge but a challenge described as a challenge is something that brings out
[07:58:25] challenge is something that brings out the best in you your mind starts to race
[07:58:27] the best in you your mind starts to race to think you can deal with it and best
[07:58:29] to think you can deal with it and best of all is the word
[07:58:30] of all is the word opportunity the word
[07:58:33] opportunity the word opportunity is a very positive word the
[07:58:35] opportunity is a very positive word the word opportunity is something that you
[07:58:37] word opportunity is something that you take advantage of now the interesting
[07:58:39] take advantage of now the interesting thing is that in all of our research we
[07:58:41] thing is that in all of our research we find that within every setback or
[07:58:44] find that within every setback or difficulty within every problem within
[07:58:46] difficulty within every problem within every situation or challenge there is a
[07:58:48] every situation or challenge there is a hidden opportunity there is something
[07:58:50] hidden opportunity there is something that you can learn there's something
[07:58:52] that you can learn there's something that you can gain there's an advantage
[07:58:53] that you can gain there's an advantage there's a benefit there is something and
[07:58:55] there's a benefit there is something and we know because of the law of
[07:58:56] we know because of the law of substitution that if we are looking for
[07:58:58] substitution that if we are looking for the opportunity in any situation we
[07:59:01] the opportunity in any situation we cannot at the same time think about what
[07:59:04] cannot at the same time think about what would cause us to become stressed and
[07:59:05] would cause us to become stressed and anxious you cannot think of it as a
[07:59:07] anxious you cannot think of it as a problem and as an opportunity at the
[07:59:09] problem and as an opportunity at the same time the one thought the positive
[07:59:11] same time the one thought the positive thought knocks out the negative thought
[07:59:12] thought knocks out the negative thought so when we look at successful people we
[07:59:14] so when we look at successful people we find the successful people are those who
[07:59:16] find the successful people are those who keep their minds on what they want and
[07:59:18] keep their minds on what they want and they look for the opportunity they look
[07:59:19] they look for the opportunity they look for the challenge they look for the
[07:59:21] for the challenge they look for the positive part of any setback or
[07:59:23] positive part of any setback or difficulty remember we talked about the
[07:59:24] difficulty remember we talked about the superconscious mind is it setbacks and
[07:59:27] superconscious mind is it setbacks and difficulties very often come to us to
[07:59:29] difficulties very often come to us to tell us to change course or direction to
[07:59:31] tell us to change course or direction to get onto the right track to get to where
[07:59:33] get onto the right track to get to where we're going so instead of becoming
[07:59:34] we're going so instead of becoming frustrated or upset let's look upon it
[07:59:36] frustrated or upset let's look upon it as a great possibility and look into it
[07:59:39] as a great possibility and look into it for the advantage or benefit now the
[07:59:41] for the advantage or benefit now the third step in dealing with any situation
[07:59:44] third step in dealing with any situation or challenge is to Define it clearly
[07:59:48] or challenge is to Define it clearly Define it
[07:59:50] Define it clearly now I use this method by the way
[07:59:52] clearly now I use this method by the way all the time I just simply take any goal
[07:59:54] all the time I just simply take any goal or difficulty that I have and I run it
[07:59:56] or difficulty that I have and I run it through this whole thing and I run down
[07:59:59] through this whole thing and I run down and I just go through the analysis and I
[08:00:00] and I just go through the analysis and I always come out at the end with a
[08:00:01] always come out at the end with a solution Define it clearly think on
[08:00:04] solution Define it clearly think on paper do it in writing think on paper
[08:00:07] paper do it in writing think on paper all successful people think on paper
[08:00:10] all successful people think on paper unsuccessful people don't think on paper
[08:00:12] unsuccessful people don't think on paper why don't unsuccessful people think on
[08:00:13] why don't unsuccessful people think on paper because they're too lazy to think
[08:00:16] paper because they're too lazy to think on paper think on paper write it down
[08:00:19] on paper think on paper write it down say what is it that I'm worried about
[08:00:20] say what is it that I'm worried about what is the difficulty what is the
[08:00:22] what is the difficulty what is the situation and Define it clearly remember
[08:00:25] situation and Define it clearly remember we said before a Hallmark of Genius is
[08:00:27] we said before a Hallmark of Genius is clarity
[08:00:28] clarity a Hallmark of failure is fuzziness
[08:00:31] a Hallmark of failure is fuzziness number
[08:00:32] number four is ask yourself what are all the
[08:00:35] four is ask yourself what are all the possible causes what are all the
[08:00:38] possible causes what are all the possible causes the natural tendency in
[08:00:41] possible causes the natural tendency in our impatient Society is for us to if we
[08:00:44] our impatient Society is for us to if we get to the point of defining the
[08:00:46] get to the point of defining the difficulty or the challenge is to LEAP
[08:00:48] difficulty or the challenge is to LEAP to a conclusion and say let's do this
[08:00:50] to a conclusion and say let's do this instead what a doctor does for instance
[08:00:52] instead what a doctor does for instance is a doctor steps back and says all
[08:00:54] is a doctor steps back and says all right you have this pain you have this
[08:00:57] right you have this pain you have this difficulty you have this ailment that's
[08:00:58] difficulty you have this ailment that's being manifested in these symptoms now
[08:01:00] being manifested in these symptoms now let's look at what all the possible
[08:01:02] let's look at what all the possible causes may be what do you eat what do
[08:01:05] causes may be what do you eat what do you drink what is your lifestyle like
[08:01:06] you drink what is your lifestyle like what sort of stresses exist in your life
[08:01:08] what sort of stresses exist in your life and so on sometimes you'll find that 50%
[08:01:11] and so on sometimes you'll find that 50% of all of your difficulties can be
[08:01:13] of all of your difficulties can be resolved by defining them clearly
[08:01:16] resolved by defining them clearly another 25% of your difficulties can be
[08:01:18] another 25% of your difficulties can be resolved by determining the causes
[08:01:21] resolved by determining the causes sometimes if you can determine what the
[08:01:22] sometimes if you can determine what the causes are then you say well if that's
[08:01:24] causes are then you say well if that's the cause then you eliminate the cause
[08:01:26] the cause then you eliminate the cause the situation is resolved the fifth step
[08:01:29] the situation is resolved the fifth step if at this if you have not resolved it
[08:01:30] if at this if you have not resolved it at step three or step four the next step
[08:01:33] at step three or step four the next step is you say what are all the possible
[08:01:36] is you say what are all the possible solutions what are all the possible
[08:01:39] solutions what are all the possible solutions now not just the logical
[08:01:41] solutions now not just the logical Solutions but go P beyond that if you
[08:01:45] Solutions but go P beyond that if you come up with a solution very quickly
[08:01:48] come up with a solution very quickly that seems like the logical solution
[08:01:50] that seems like the logical solution then ask yourself what if that didn't
[08:01:52] then ask yourself what if that didn't work then what else would we do the
[08:01:54] work then what else would we do the Roger Von Oak says always look for what
[08:01:56] Roger Von Oak says always look for what is called the second right answer
[08:01:58] is called the second right answer once you have one right answer and you
[08:02:00] once you have one right answer and you say well this looks like the answer to
[08:02:02] say well this looks like the answer to this difficulty ask yourself what is the
[08:02:04] this difficulty ask yourself what is the second right answer very very good
[08:02:06] second right answer very very good exercise because if the first solution
[08:02:08] exercise because if the first solution doesn't work you've already got a second
[08:02:09] doesn't work you've already got a second solution already developed so you ask
[08:02:11] solution already developed so you ask what are all the possible solutions what
[08:02:13] what are all the possible solutions what is the solution what's the opposite of
[08:02:15] is the solution what's the opposite of the solution what if we just did nothing
[08:02:17] the solution what if we just did nothing what if we did it twice as hard what if
[08:02:19] what if we did it twice as hard what if we tried something else completely what
[08:02:21] we tried something else completely what if we used lateral thinking instead of
[08:02:22] if we used lateral thinking instead of trying to dig this hole deeper we went
[08:02:24] trying to dig this hole deeper we went and dug another hole what if we got out
[08:02:26] and dug another hole what if we got out of this Market completely what if we got
[08:02:27] of this Market completely what if we got out of this this job or this
[08:02:28] out of this this job or this relationship completely rather than
[08:02:30] relationship completely rather than trying to solve the job or the
[08:02:31] trying to solve the job or the relationship what if we went somebody
[08:02:33] relationship what if we went somebody somewhere else and started over what
[08:02:35] somewhere else and started over what would be the second right answer now
[08:02:37] would be the second right answer now here's a critical point from this point
[08:02:39] here's a critical point from this point onward once you've gotten to number five
[08:02:43] onward once you've gotten to number five think and talk only about the solutions
[08:02:46] think and talk only about the solutions think and talk only about the solutions
[08:02:51] think and talk only about the solutions you see because of the law of
[08:02:52] you see because of the law of concentration because of the law of
[08:02:54] concentration because of the law of substitution because of the Law of
[08:02:56] substitution because of the Law of Attraction what happens
[08:02:58] Attraction what happens well I'll tell you what happens most
[08:03:00] well I'll tell you what happens most people talk about the problems all the
[08:03:01] people talk about the problems all the time they think about the problems they
[08:03:03] time they think about the problems they worry about the problems they vividly
[08:03:04] worry about the problems they vividly imagine the problems they discuss the
[08:03:06] imagine the problems they discuss the problems and they have more and more and
[08:03:07] problems and they have more and more and more problems the law of substitution
[08:03:09] more problems the law of substitution says if you think and talk about the
[08:03:10] says if you think and talk about the problems that's your mind is going to
[08:03:12] problems that's your mind is going to become preoccupied with negativity The
[08:03:14] become preoccupied with negativity The Law of Attraction says you think and
[08:03:15] Law of Attraction says you think and talk about the problems you're going to
[08:03:16] talk about the problems you're going to attract more problems into your life the
[08:03:18] attract more problems into your life the law of Correspondence says that the more
[08:03:20] law of Correspondence says that the more you think and talk about problems the
[08:03:21] you think and talk about problems the more they preoccupy your mind the more
[08:03:23] more they preoccupy your mind the more your external world is going to be
[08:03:24] your external world is going to be characterized by problems the difference
[08:03:26] characterized by problems the difference between winners and losers
[08:03:29] between winners and losers Heroes and non-h heroes successes and
[08:03:31] Heroes and non-h heroes successes and failures is this is that successful
[08:03:34] failures is this is that successful people winners are solution oriented
[08:03:37] people winners are solution oriented they are solution oriented they think
[08:03:39] they are solution oriented they think about the solutions they talk about the
[08:03:41] about the solutions they talk about the solutions they're always asking this
[08:03:43] solutions they're always asking this question here is the big question what
[08:03:46] question here is the big question what what do we do from here what can we do
[08:03:51] what do we do from here what can we do from here in other words they are always
[08:03:54] from here in other words they are always future oriented always oriented toward
[08:03:57] future oriented always oriented toward the future losers are always oriented
[08:04:00] the future losers are always oriented toward the past losers always want to
[08:04:02] toward the past losers always want to know who did it who's to blame who's
[08:04:05] know who did it who's to blame who's responsible how do we cut our losses the
[08:04:08] responsible how do we cut our losses the winner always looks forward and says
[08:04:09] winner always looks forward and says Where Do We Go From Here what do we do
[08:04:11] Where Do We Go From Here what do we do from here what's the solution from here
[08:04:13] from here what's the solution from here how can we improve this situation how
[08:04:15] how can we improve this situation how can we adjust adapt modify and so on
[08:04:18] can we adjust adapt modify and so on once you get here the next step is
[08:04:20] once you get here the next step is pretty simple number six is make a
[08:04:22] pretty simple number six is make a decision make a decision now any
[08:04:25] decision make a decision now any decision is better than no decision 80%
[08:04:28] decision is better than no decision 80% of all difficulties should be resolved
[08:04:30] of all difficulties should be resolved and the decision should be made at this
[08:04:32] and the decision should be made at this step at this at exactly the time that
[08:04:35] step at this at exactly the time that they come up in other words whenever you
[08:04:37] they come up in other words whenever you have a difficulty now is the time to
[08:04:38] have a difficulty now is the time to make 80% of your decisions indecision by
[08:04:41] make 80% of your decisions indecision by the way indecisiveness is a major reason
[08:04:43] the way indecisiveness is a major reason for failure indecisive people don't
[08:04:45] for failure indecisive people don't succeed in life being decisive is more
[08:04:47] succeed in life being decisive is more important than being correct because the
[08:04:49] important than being correct because the more decisions that you make the more
[08:04:51] more decisions that you make the more feedback you get the smarter you become
[08:04:53] feedback you get the smarter you become the more accurate your decisions become
[08:04:55] the more accurate your decisions become the fewer decisions you make the less
[08:04:57] the fewer decisions you make the less feedback you get the less learning takes
[08:04:59] feedback you get the less learning takes place the more poor the poorer a
[08:05:02] place the more poor the poorer a decision maker you become so make a
[08:05:03] decision maker you become so make a decision remember 80% should be made
[08:05:05] decision remember 80% should be made right now and the others can be made
[08:05:07] right now and the others can be made simply by saying all right I can't make
[08:05:09] simply by saying all right I can't make the decision now I need more information
[08:05:12] the decision now I need more information I'll set a deadline Thursday at noon
[08:05:13] I'll set a deadline Thursday at noon I'll make the decision no matter what
[08:05:15] I'll make the decision no matter what information I have number seven by the
[08:05:17] information I have number seven by the way this is a great tension reliever
[08:05:19] way this is a great tension reliever great tension relievers make decision
[08:05:21] great tension relievers make decision indecisiveness is a major source of
[08:05:22] indecisiveness is a major source of stress number seven is assign
[08:05:25] stress number seven is assign responsibility
[08:05:28] responsibility assign responsibility in other words ask
[08:05:30] assign responsibility in other words ask yourself this
[08:05:31] yourself this question this is the big question who is
[08:05:35] question this is the big question who is going to do
[08:05:36] going to do it who is going to do it very often
[08:05:39] it who is going to do it very often people will go through this exercise
[08:05:41] people will go through this exercise they'll make the decision they'll be
[08:05:42] they'll make the decision they'll be happy they'll be elated distress and
[08:05:44] happy they'll be elated distress and difficulty is gone and then they all go
[08:05:46] difficulty is gone and then they all go back to work and they come back to a
[08:05:47] back to work and they come back to a meeting two weeks later and nothing has
[08:05:48] meeting two weeks later and nothing has been done because nobody has been
[08:05:50] been done because nobody has been assigned specific and that's probably
[08:05:52] assigned specific and that's probably the word assign specific responsibility
[08:05:55] the word assign specific responsibility who is going to do what exactly and that
[08:05:57] who is going to do what exactly and that brings us to number eight set a
[08:06:00] brings us to number eight set a deadline say I want this done by such
[08:06:03] deadline say I want this done by such and such a day well let's agree that
[08:06:05] and such a day well let's agree that it's going to be done by such and such a
[08:06:08] it's going to be done by such and such a day Thursday 12:00 noon we will review
[08:06:10] day Thursday 12:00 noon we will review it again and of course once you set a
[08:06:12] it again and of course once you set a deadline number nine is take action
[08:06:16] deadline number nine is take action launch do you know an interesting time
[08:06:19] launch do you know an interesting time management study I read recently says
[08:06:21] management study I read recently says that
[08:06:22] that 20% of the work the first 20% usually
[08:06:26] 20% of the work the first 20% usually accounts for 80%
[08:06:28] accounts for 80% of the value of the job if you can
[08:06:30] of the value of the job if you can launch it they say well be well begun is
[08:06:33] launch it they say well be well begun is half done and number 10 is inspect what
[08:06:37] half done and number 10 is inspect what you
[08:06:38] you expect inspect what you expect one of
[08:06:41] expect inspect what you expect one of the most important rules of success in
[08:06:44] the most important rules of success in life is once you have made an agreement
[08:06:46] life is once you have made an agreement that something is going to be done
[08:06:47] that something is going to be done inspect it check on it control it
[08:06:49] inspect it check on it control it monitor it keep in touch uh I have a
[08:06:52] monitor it keep in touch uh I have a good friend that says that delegation is
[08:06:55] good friend that says that delegation is essential but not abdication make a
[08:06:57] essential but not abdication make a decision once you have assigned somebody
[08:06:59] decision once you have assigned somebody you've asked somebody to do it keep in
[08:07:01] you've asked somebody to do it keep in touch with them if it's important enough
[08:07:03] touch with them if it's important enough for you to have it done by that deadline
[08:07:05] for you to have it done by that deadline it's important enough for you to follow
[08:07:07] it's important enough for you to follow up and check all right there's one final
[08:07:10] up and check all right there's one final method of creative thinking which you
[08:07:13] method of creative thinking which you can use with your husband or wife with
[08:07:15] can use with your husband or wife with your co-workers with your friends with
[08:07:17] your co-workers with your friends with your Associates one of the most powerful
[08:07:19] your Associates one of the most powerful methods ever developed first written
[08:07:21] methods ever developed first written about by Alex Osborne in his book
[08:07:23] about by Alex Osborne in his book applied imagination in 1946 and it's
[08:07:25] applied imagination in 1946 and it's called brainstorming now
[08:07:29] called brainstorming now brainstorming is terrific I won't write
[08:07:31] brainstorming is terrific I won't write it all out on the board but I'll just
[08:07:33] it all out on the board but I'll just give you the description of what you
[08:07:34] give you the description of what you have to do to be a good brainstormer
[08:07:37] have to do to be a good brainstormer number one the very best group for
[08:07:39] number one the very best group for brainstorming is four to seven people uh
[08:07:42] brainstorming is four to seven people uh below four you're not getting the the
[08:07:44] below four you're not getting the the potential Synergy and above seven the
[08:07:46] potential Synergy and above seven the group starts to get a bit unwieldy so
[08:07:48] group starts to get a bit unwieldy so four to seven people sitting together in
[08:07:50] four to seven people sitting together in a Spirit of
[08:07:52] a Spirit of Harmony step number two is to clearly
[08:07:55] Harmony step number two is to clearly Define the question and the more simple
[08:07:58] Define the question and the more simple and precise the question and the more
[08:08:00] and precise the question and the more concrete the answers that you're looking
[08:08:02] concrete the answers that you're looking for the better the brainstorming
[08:08:04] for the better the brainstorming Exercise Works for instance you could
[08:08:05] Exercise Works for instance you could say in a sales organization you wouldn't
[08:08:08] say in a sales organization you wouldn't say what can we do to increase sales
[08:08:10] say what can we do to increase sales because the qu the question is very
[08:08:12] because the qu the question is very vague it's fuzzy remember Clarity what
[08:08:14] vague it's fuzzy remember Clarity what we would say is what can we do to
[08:08:15] we would say is what can we do to increase our sales by 20% over the next
[08:08:18] increase our sales by 20% over the next 90 days then everybody can bring their
[08:08:21] 90 days then everybody can bring their minds to bear on the question now the
[08:08:23] minds to bear on the question now the third step with regard to brainstorming
[08:08:26] third step with regard to brainstorming is time the the best period for
[08:08:28] is time the the best period for brainstorming is between 15 and 45
[08:08:30] brainstorming is between 15 and 45 minutes 30 is ideal so what you do is
[08:08:33] minutes 30 is ideal so what you do is you say we're going to brainstorm this
[08:08:34] you say we're going to brainstorm this question what can we do to increase our
[08:08:36] question what can we do to increase our sales by 20% over the next 90 days and
[08:08:39] sales by 20% over the next 90 days and we're going to do it from 4:15 to
[08:08:42] we're going to do it from 4:15 to 445 next step is idea generation now
[08:08:45] 445 next step is idea generation now this is really critical instead of
[08:08:48] this is really critical instead of generating ideas and then evaluating
[08:08:50] generating ideas and then evaluating them what you do is this and this is
[08:08:51] them what you do is this and this is what Osborne found he said what blocks
[08:08:53] what Osborne found he said what blocks brainstorming is that you have the idea
[08:08:56] brainstorming is that you have the idea generation process and somebody comes up
[08:08:57] generation process and somebody comes up with an idea and somebody say ah that
[08:08:58] with an idea and somebody say ah that wouldn't work that's stupid that's
[08:08:59] wouldn't work that's stupid that's ridiculous we tried that once before and
[08:09:02] ridiculous we tried that once before and as soon as somebody says anything
[08:09:03] as soon as somebody says anything critical about an idea everybody just
[08:09:05] critical about an idea everybody just shuts up and so you sit there and
[08:09:07] shuts up and so you sit there and everybody becomes a little bit hesitant
[08:09:08] everybody becomes a little bit hesitant why it's because when you criticize an
[08:09:10] why it's because when you criticize an idea you trigger the deep down fear of
[08:09:12] idea you trigger the deep down fear of rejection that goes back to Early
[08:09:13] rejection that goes back to Early Childhood so what you do is you divide
[08:09:15] Childhood so what you do is you divide you have idea
[08:09:17] you have idea evaluation this section and idea
[08:09:20] evaluation this section and idea generation separated by a wall of time
[08:09:23] generation separated by a wall of time so that you put time between the two and
[08:09:26] so that you put time between the two and here you go for quantity of ideas so in
[08:09:29] here you go for quantity of ideas so in a 30 minute session say 30 minutes you
[08:09:32] a 30 minute session say 30 minutes you say let's see how many ideas we can
[08:09:34] say let's see how many ideas we can generate focused on how we can increase
[08:09:37] generate focused on how we can increase our sales by 20% over the next 90 days
[08:09:40] our sales by 20% over the next 90 days and over here you can take more time and
[08:09:43] and over here you can take more time and here you do here you go for
[08:09:47] Quality now what is the role of the
[08:09:49] Quality now what is the role of the leader in a brainstorming session the
[08:09:51] leader in a brainstorming session the leader is not to dominate The Leader is
[08:09:54] leader is not to dominate The Leader is to stimulate a good business person by
[08:09:57] to stimulate a good business person by by the way will bring their staff or
[08:09:59] by the way will bring their staff or their Associates in on a regular basis
[08:10:01] their Associates in on a regular basis to stimulate them into brainstorming at
[08:10:03] to stimulate them into brainstorming at least once per week but don't dominate
[08:10:05] least once per week but don't dominate the
[08:10:06] the conversation record all
[08:10:10] conversation record all answers record all answers very often
[08:10:13] answers record all answers very often somebody will come up with an answer in
[08:10:15] somebody will come up with an answer in a brainstorming session which will be a
[08:10:17] a brainstorming session which will be a superconscious solution the
[08:10:19] superconscious solution the superconscious solution may be so
[08:10:21] superconscious solution may be so excellent that even the person who came
[08:10:22] excellent that even the person who came up with it and the people at the
[08:10:23] up with it and the people at the brainstorming session are not aware that
[08:10:25] brainstorming session are not aware that it is a brilliant breakthrough but when
[08:10:26] it is a brilliant breakthrough but when you take the ideas and evaluate them
[08:10:28] you take the ideas and evaluate them later or somebody else looks at the
[08:10:30] later or somebody else looks at the ideas they may say that's what we're
[08:10:31] ideas they may say that's what we're looking for this is exactly right so
[08:10:34] looking for this is exactly right so with regard to creative thinking
[08:10:36] with regard to creative thinking remember this let let me repeat that
[08:10:38] remember this let let me repeat that intelligence is a way of acting that you
[08:10:40] intelligence is a way of acting that you can function at at least twice the
[08:10:42] can function at at least twice the intelligence you're currently using by
[08:10:44] intelligence you're currently using by doing what Geniuses do be clear about
[08:10:47] doing what Geniuses do be clear about what you want concentrate
[08:10:48] what you want concentrate single-mindedly on the goal the problem
[08:10:51] single-mindedly on the goal the problem the situation or the outcome you desire
[08:10:54] the situation or the outcome you desire keep an open mind be flexible and look
[08:10:56] keep an open mind be flexible and look at all Poss
[08:10:57] at all Poss abilities and then use systematic
[08:11:01] abilities and then use systematic methods of problem solving like we've
[08:11:02] methods of problem solving like we've discussed try any one of these methods
[08:11:05] discussed try any one of these methods use them on a regular and systematic
[08:11:07] use them on a regular and systematic basis and I can guarantee you you will
[08:11:09] basis and I can guarantee you you will be astonished at how smart you really
[08:11:13] be astonished at how smart you really are this is the end of side two please
[08:11:16] are this is the end of side two please fast forward the tape to the end to
[08:11:18] fast forward the tape to the end to queue up side one for your next
[08:11:19] queue up side one for your next listening
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[08:11:41] ran Tracy
[08:11:44] presenta
[08:11:46] presenta [Music]
[08:11:56] [Music] pH session 24 developing a success
[08:11:59] pH session 24 developing a success personality the great steel magnet
[08:12:01] personality the great steel magnet Andrew Carnegie who accumulated a
[08:12:03] Andrew Carnegie who accumulated a Fortune of over 500 million dollars at
[08:12:05] Fortune of over 500 million dollars at the beginning of this Century starting
[08:12:07] the beginning of this Century starting as a penniless immigrant once said that
[08:12:09] as a penniless immigrant once said that I will pay more for the ability to get
[08:12:12] I will pay more for the ability to get along with others than for any other
[08:12:14] along with others than for any other single skill and today in our society
[08:12:17] single skill and today in our society your ability to get along with other
[08:12:18] your ability to get along with other people your social intelligence is the
[08:12:21] people your social intelligence is the most valuable most precious single asset
[08:12:23] most valuable most precious single asset that you have not only in terms of your
[08:12:24] that you have not only in terms of your career not only in terms of your
[08:12:26] career not only in terms of your marriage and your relationship
[08:12:27] marriage and your relationship but in terms of your own mental
[08:12:29] but in terms of your own mental well-being in this session we're going
[08:12:30] well-being in this session we're going to talk about developing a success
[08:12:33] to talk about developing a success personality we're going to talk about
[08:12:35] personality we're going to talk about developing the quintessence of mental
[08:12:37] developing the quintessence of mental health which is a positive personality a
[08:12:40] health which is a positive personality a positive mental attitude the kind of
[08:12:42] positive mental attitude the kind of person that everybody likes to be around
[08:12:44] person that everybody likes to be around the kind of person who is welcome
[08:12:45] the kind of person who is welcome everywhere we said very early in this
[08:12:48] everywhere we said very early in this seminar that 85% of everything that you
[08:12:51] seminar that 85% of everything that you ever accomplish in life will be as a
[08:12:53] ever accomplish in life will be as a direct result of how well you get along
[08:12:55] direct result of how well you get along with other people that today even the
[08:12:57] with other people that today even the biggest companies in America are hiring
[08:13:00] biggest companies in America are hiring on the basis of personality and attitude
[08:13:03] on the basis of personality and attitude rather than on the basis of grades
[08:13:05] rather than on the basis of grades proficiency skills and experience why
[08:13:07] proficiency skills and experience why it's because if the person has the right
[08:13:10] it's because if the person has the right personality skills they can learn
[08:13:11] personality skills they can learn anything else they need in order to be
[08:13:13] anything else they need in order to be successful but if the person has all the
[08:13:15] successful but if the person has all the skills in the world and a lousy
[08:13:16] skills in the world and a lousy personality there's no way that they can
[08:13:18] personality there's no way that they can take the responsibility of changing it
[08:13:20] take the responsibility of changing it so 85% of our happiness in life
[08:13:23] so 85% of our happiness in life according to the research comes from
[08:13:25] according to the research comes from Happy involvement with other people
[08:13:28] Happy involvement with other people also 85% of all of our problems in life
[08:13:32] also 85% of all of our problems in life come from unhappy involvement with other
[08:13:34] come from unhappy involvement with other people the other 15% in case you're
[08:13:36] people the other 15% in case you're interested comes from
[08:13:38] interested comes from Achievement so it is possible for us to
[08:13:41] Achievement so it is possible for us to get a certain amount of satisfaction in
[08:13:42] get a certain amount of satisfaction in life from Achievement From Success from
[08:13:45] life from Achievement From Success from making money building businesses and
[08:13:47] making money building businesses and careers and so on but most of our
[08:13:49] careers and so on but most of our happiness is going to come from our
[08:13:51] happiness is going to come from our relationships so in this session we're
[08:13:52] relationships so in this session we're going to show you how you can
[08:13:54] going to show you how you can dramatically improve the quality of your
[08:13:56] dramatically improve the quality of your relationships doing some very very
[08:13:58] relationships doing some very very simple
[08:13:59] simple things we know with regard to your
[08:14:01] things we know with regard to your relationships that there is a direct
[08:14:03] relationships that there is a direct relationship between how well you get
[08:14:04] relationship between how well you get along with other people and the health
[08:14:06] along with other people and the health of your personality in fact everybody
[08:14:08] of your personality in fact everybody wants to have a more healthy personality
[08:14:10] wants to have a more healthy personality so let's look at how you measure healthy
[08:14:12] so let's look at how you measure healthy personality what are some of the simple
[08:14:13] personality what are some of the simple measures we've talked about several of
[08:14:15] measures we've talked about several of them in the course of this seminar
[08:14:17] them in the course of this seminar number one measure of healthy
[08:14:18] number one measure of healthy personality of course is how much you
[08:14:21] personality of course is how much you like
[08:14:22] like yourself how much you like yourself is
[08:14:26] yourself how much you like yourself is the core
[08:14:28] the core of your personality people who like
[08:14:30] of your personality people who like themselves a lot have very healthy
[08:14:31] themselves a lot have very healthy personalities number two measure of
[08:14:34] personalities number two measure of healthy personality is how much
[08:14:36] healthy personality is how much responsibility you accept people who
[08:14:39] responsibility you accept people who accept a lot of responsibility for
[08:14:41] accept a lot of responsibility for themselves who look upon themselves as
[08:14:43] themselves who look upon themselves as being the key agents in their lives
[08:14:44] being the key agents in their lives people who refuse to blame other people
[08:14:46] people who refuse to blame other people have very healthy
[08:14:48] have very healthy personalities another example of healthy
[08:14:51] personalities another example of healthy personality is how easily you
[08:14:52] personality is how easily you forgive one of the things we know is a
[08:14:55] forgive one of the things we know is a direct relationship one to one
[08:14:57] direct relationship one to one relationship between how freely you
[08:14:59] relationship between how freely you forgive and forget when somebody hurts
[08:15:01] forgive and forget when somebody hurts you and how healthy your personality is
[08:15:03] you and how healthy your personality is number four measure of healthy
[08:15:05] number four measure of healthy personality is what is called positive
[08:15:08] personality is what is called positive expectations the degree to which you
[08:15:10] expectations the degree to which you look for the good in everything and
[08:15:13] look for the good in everything and everybody around you people who have a
[08:15:15] everybody around you people who have a propensity to look for the good are
[08:15:17] propensity to look for the good are truly healthy people and the fourth
[08:15:20] truly healthy people and the fourth measure or the fifth measure of healthy
[08:15:22] measure or the fifth measure of healthy personalities what we're talking about
[08:15:24] personalities what we're talking about today is how well you get along with
[08:15:27] today is how well you get along with others how well you get along with
[08:15:30] others how well you get along with others as a matter of fact you really
[08:15:32] others as a matter of fact you really cannot have a healthy personality in
[08:15:35] cannot have a healthy personality in isolation of your relationships with
[08:15:37] isolation of your relationships with other human beings wonderfully enough
[08:15:40] other human beings wonderfully enough there is a law of reciprocity in this is
[08:15:43] there is a law of reciprocity in this is that the more you like yourself the more
[08:15:44] that the more you like yourself the more you like others the more responsibility
[08:15:46] you like others the more responsibility you accept the better you get along with
[08:15:47] you accept the better you get along with them the more you freely forgive and
[08:15:49] them the more you freely forgive and forget and refuse to hold grudges the
[08:15:50] forget and refuse to hold grudges the more it improves the quality of your
[08:15:52] more it improves the quality of your relationships the more you look for the
[08:15:54] relationships the more you look for the good in people and situations the better
[08:15:56] good in people and situations the better you get along with yourself and them and
[08:15:58] you get along with yourself and them and the better you get along with other
[08:15:59] the better you get along with other people surprise surprise the more you
[08:16:02] people surprise surprise the more you like yourself so it's a wonderful series
[08:16:05] like yourself so it's a wonderful series of reciprocal
[08:16:06] of reciprocal relationships and this brings us to an
[08:16:08] relationships and this brings us to an important law one of the last laws we'll
[08:16:10] important law one of the last laws we'll talk about probably the last it's called
[08:16:11] talk about probably the last it's called The Law of indirect effort and the law
[08:16:14] The Law of indirect effort and the law of indirect effort simply says that in
[08:16:16] of indirect effort simply says that in our
[08:16:17] our relationships with other people we have
[08:16:20] relationships with other people we have a tendency to get the things that we
[08:16:22] a tendency to get the things that we want indirectly faster than directly now
[08:16:25] want indirectly faster than directly now I can give you a very simple for example
[08:16:27] I can give you a very simple for example if you try to go after things directly
[08:16:29] if you try to go after things directly in your relationships often you'll be
[08:16:31] in your relationships often you'll be frustrated often you'll be humiliated
[08:16:32] frustrated often you'll be humiliated you'll be embarrassed and so on let me
[08:16:34] you'll be embarrassed and so on let me give you a couple of example for
[08:16:35] give you a couple of example for instance if you want to impress other
[08:16:37] instance if you want to impress other people okay you want to impress other
[08:16:39] people okay you want to impress other people have you ever tried to impress
[08:16:41] people have you ever tried to impress someone else you some somebody you
[08:16:43] someone else you some somebody you thought was important or valuable and
[08:16:44] thought was important or valuable and you tried to impress them they try to
[08:16:46] you tried to impress them they try to impress someone else what you end up
[08:16:48] impress someone else what you end up doing what you end up doing is exactly
[08:16:49] doing what you end up doing is exactly the opposite but the way that you
[08:16:51] the opposite but the way that you impress other people is simply this is
[08:16:53] impress other people is simply this is be impressed by them be impressed by
[08:16:56] be impressed by them be impressed by them
[08:16:57] them if you want other people to be
[08:16:58] if you want other people to be interested in you what is the way using
[08:17:01] interested in you what is the way using the law of indirect effort what is the
[08:17:03] the law of indirect effort what is the way that you get people to be interested
[08:17:05] way that you get people to be interested in you is of course be interested in
[08:17:07] in you is of course be interested in them if you want people to like you
[08:17:10] them if you want people to like you what's the best way is to like them if
[08:17:12] what's the best way is to like them if you want people to respect you what is
[08:17:14] you want people to respect you what is the best way to respect them in every
[08:17:16] the best way to respect them in every case this law of indirect effort Works
[08:17:19] case this law of indirect effort Works in building our human relationships one
[08:17:21] in building our human relationships one final Point we've talked about some of
[08:17:23] final Point we've talked about some of the mental laws and I'd like to just
[08:17:24] the mental laws and I'd like to just refer you to three one is the law of
[08:17:26] refer you to three one is the law of sewing and reaping the law of sewing and
[08:17:28] sewing and reaping the law of sewing and reaping says the quality of your
[08:17:30] reaping says the quality of your relationships what you are reaping in
[08:17:32] relationships what you are reaping in your relationships at any given moment
[08:17:34] your relationships at any given moment is a result of what you have sewn in
[08:17:36] is a result of what you have sewn in those relationships what you are getting
[08:17:38] those relationships what you are getting your relationships has very little to do
[08:17:40] your relationships has very little to do with the other person or with fate or
[08:17:42] with the other person or with fate or with background or or nature what it has
[08:17:46] with background or or nature what it has to do with what you have sewn is with
[08:17:48] to do with what you have sewn is with what you have sewn law of Correspondence
[08:17:49] what you have sewn law of Correspondence says that your external world will
[08:17:51] says that your external world will correspond to your internal world as
[08:17:53] correspond to your internal world as within so without especially in your
[08:17:55] within so without especially in your relationships and of course the Law of
[08:17:57] relationships and of course the Law of Attraction says you always attract to
[08:17:58] Attraction says you always attract to you people who are very much like you
[08:18:01] you people who are very much like you are inside if you want to change the
[08:18:03] are inside if you want to change the quality of your relationships the
[08:18:05] quality of your relationships the starting point is to change the quality
[08:18:06] starting point is to change the quality of your relationships with yourself and
[08:18:08] of your relationships with yourself and your external relationships will mirror
[08:18:10] your external relationships will mirror that now when we talk about this how
[08:18:12] that now when we talk about this how well you get along with others let's
[08:18:15] well you get along with others let's show a very very simple graph this is
[08:18:18] show a very very simple graph this is the graph of human personality from the
[08:18:20] the graph of human personality from the most introverted to the most extroverted
[08:18:24] most introverted to the most extroverted or if you like from an in-direct person
[08:18:27] or if you like from an in-direct person to an outer directed person and the
[08:18:29] to an outer directed person and the person who has a truly healthy
[08:18:30] person who has a truly healthy personality can get along with a great
[08:18:33] personality can get along with a great variety of people going from the median
[08:18:35] variety of people going from the median and the median of course is the average
[08:18:37] and the median of course is the average personality not introverted or
[08:18:38] personality not introverted or extroverted now we can superimpose on
[08:18:41] extroverted now we can superimpose on this I guess this is the center we can
[08:18:42] this I guess this is the center we can superimpose on this another graph and
[08:18:45] superimpose on this another graph and this is the graph of self-esteem from
[08:18:48] this is the graph of self-esteem from high self-esteem to low
[08:18:51] high self-esteem to low self-esteem and we find a very
[08:18:52] self-esteem and we find a very interesting thing and this graph is my
[08:18:54] interesting thing and this graph is my own creation we find that the graph is
[08:18:56] own creation we find that the graph is like
[08:18:58] like this that if you have a low level of
[08:19:01] this that if you have a low level of self-esteem say down here you don't
[08:19:04] self-esteem say down here you don't particularly like yourself or you're
[08:19:06] particularly like yourself or you're have have feelings of inferiority or
[08:19:07] have have feelings of inferiority or negativity then the number of people
[08:19:09] negativity then the number of people that you can get along with will be
[08:19:11] that you can get along with will be limited to people who are pretty much in
[08:19:14] limited to people who are pretty much in the middle of the spectrum people who
[08:19:16] the middle of the spectrum people who have if you might you might call them
[08:19:18] have if you might you might call them very easy to get along with neutral
[08:19:20] very easy to get along with neutral Bland personalities however as you go up
[08:19:23] Bland personalities however as you go up the ladder of self-esteem as you like
[08:19:26] the ladder of self-esteem as you like and respect and accept yourself more and
[08:19:28] and respect and accept yourself more and more the number of people that you can
[08:19:30] more the number of people that you can get along with
[08:19:32] get along with expands as your level of self-esteem
[08:19:34] expands as your level of self-esteem goes up you can get along with more and
[08:19:36] goes up you can get along with more and more people across this spectrum if you
[08:19:38] more people across this spectrum if you like and as you get to the point where
[08:19:40] like and as you get to the point where you have high levels of self-esteem and
[08:19:42] you have high levels of self-esteem and self-acceptance you find you can get
[08:19:44] self-acceptance you find you can get along with almost anybody that you meet
[08:19:48] along with almost anybody that you meet and since of course the great business
[08:19:49] and since of course the great business of life is getting along with as many
[08:19:51] of life is getting along with as many people as possible because the more
[08:19:52] people as possible because the more people you can get along with the more
[08:19:54] people you can get along with the more opportunities you have to live an
[08:19:55] opportunities you have to live an interesting fascinating exciting life
[08:19:57] interesting fascinating exciting life wonderful thing is as your self-esteem
[08:19:59] wonderful thing is as your self-esteem goes up by working on yourself the
[08:20:02] goes up by working on yourself the quality of your relationships with
[08:20:03] quality of your relationships with others expands so what is the key to
[08:20:06] others expands so what is the key to raising your own self-esteem wonderfully
[08:20:08] raising your own self-esteem wonderfully enough because of the law of reciprocity
[08:20:11] enough because of the law of reciprocity every single thing that you do that
[08:20:12] every single thing that you do that raises the self-esteem of someone else
[08:20:16] raises the self-esteem of someone else raises your own self-esteem at the same
[08:20:19] raises your own self-esteem at the same time that means you cannot do anything
[08:20:21] time that means you cannot do anything genuinely kind or generous to raise the
[08:20:24] genuinely kind or generous to raise the self-esteem of other people without
[08:20:26] self-esteem of other people without raising your own at the same time if you
[08:20:27] raising your own at the same time if you want to have a truly healthy personality
[08:20:30] want to have a truly healthy personality then you you use the law of
[08:20:32] then you you use the law of reversibility the law of reversability
[08:20:34] reversibility the law of reversability in one of its applications is simply
[08:20:37] in one of its applications is simply this is that everything that you do to
[08:20:39] this is that everything that you do to boost the self-esteem of others boost
[08:20:41] boost the self-esteem of others boost your self-esteem simultaneously and so
[08:20:44] your self-esteem simultaneously and so that what we're going to look at in the
[08:20:45] that what we're going to look at in the rest of this session are what are some
[08:20:46] rest of this session are what are some of the things that you can do to raise
[08:20:49] of the things that you can do to raise the self-esteem of other people and
[08:20:51] the self-esteem of other people and simultaneously raise your own so that
[08:20:53] simultaneously raise your own so that you become a healthier personality and
[08:20:55] you become a healthier personality and by the way there's a direct relationship
[08:20:57] by the way there's a direct relationship between happy involvement with other
[08:20:59] between happy involvement with other people and long life Health Energy
[08:21:02] people and long life Health Energy Vitality resistance to disease longevity
[08:21:05] Vitality resistance to disease longevity and everything else and the key the key
[08:21:07] and everything else and the key the key to raising the self-esteem of others is
[08:21:09] to raising the self-esteem of others is to make others feel important make
[08:21:12] to make others feel important make others feel
[08:21:14] others feel important this is and always has been
[08:21:18] important this is and always has been the key to successful Human
[08:21:19] the key to successful Human Relationships uh Mary K Ash has a
[08:21:22] Relationships uh Mary K Ash has a beautiful little analogy she says she
[08:21:24] beautiful little analogy she says she imagines that every person she meets has
[08:21:27] imagines that every person she meets has a sign around their neck that says make
[08:21:30] a sign around their neck that says make me feel important every person she meets
[08:21:32] me feel important every person she meets has this sign it says make me feel
[08:21:34] has this sign it says make me feel important and what she does is she
[08:21:36] important and what she does is she responds to that sign make others feel
[08:21:38] responds to that sign make others feel important treat others well make them
[08:21:42] important treat others well make them feel important and surprisingly enough
[08:21:43] feel important and surprisingly enough you will feel important too the
[08:21:45] you will feel important too the reciprocal principle words now how do we
[08:21:46] reciprocal principle words now how do we make others feel important number one
[08:21:49] make others feel important number one top of the list is eliminate destructive
[08:21:53] top of the list is eliminate destructive criticism eliminate destructive
[08:21:55] criticism eliminate destructive criticism
[08:21:58] criticism there is nothing that causes a person's
[08:22:00] there is nothing that causes a person's self-esteem to go down faster than
[08:22:02] self-esteem to go down faster than destructive criticism remember it is
[08:22:04] destructive criticism remember it is destructive criticism in childhood that
[08:22:06] destructive criticism in childhood that sets us up for Fears of failure fears of
[08:22:08] sets us up for Fears of failure fears of rejection feelings of inferiority
[08:22:10] rejection feelings of inferiority inadequate undeserving guilt and
[08:22:12] inadequate undeserving guilt and everything else and most of us are still
[08:22:14] everything else and most of us are still struggling to get over those feelings
[08:22:16] struggling to get over those feelings because of the inadvertent remarks and
[08:22:19] because of the inadvertent remarks and comments that are parents made to us
[08:22:21] comments that are parents made to us when we were young so eliminate
[08:22:23] when we were young so eliminate destructive criticism never criticize
[08:22:25] destructive criticism never criticize anybody because it de values them it
[08:22:27] anybody because it de values them it kicks the chair out from underneath
[08:22:28] kicks the chair out from underneath their self-esteem and makes them feel
[08:22:30] their self-esteem and makes them feel terrible just doing that making that one
[08:22:33] terrible just doing that making that one change in your life eliminating
[08:22:36] change in your life eliminating destructive criticism will make you a
[08:22:37] destructive criticism will make you a far more attractive person than you can
[08:22:39] far more attractive person than you can possibly imagine if you have a tendency
[08:22:41] possibly imagine if you have a tendency toward
[08:22:42] toward criticism number two is be agreeable be
[08:22:47] criticism number two is be agreeable be agreeable be agreeable that means don't
[08:22:52] agreeable be agreeable that means don't argue I remember when I was a young
[08:22:55] argue I remember when I was a young man I was very fast mou if you like and
[08:22:59] man I was very fast mou if you like and I used to win arguments I used to win
[08:23:01] I used to win arguments I used to win any argument I would do my reading I
[08:23:03] any argument I would do my reading I would do my research and I would be
[08:23:04] would do my research and I would be excellent I got to the point where
[08:23:06] excellent I got to the point where nobody could beat me in an argument you
[08:23:07] nobody could beat me in an argument you know something I also got to the point
[08:23:09] know something I also got to the point where I didn't have anybody to argue
[08:23:10] where I didn't have anybody to argue with I got to the point where nobody
[08:23:11] with I got to the point where nobody wanted to talk to me nobody wanted to
[08:23:13] wanted to talk to me nobody wanted to have anything to do with me I never got
[08:23:15] have anything to do with me I never got invited to anybody's house people
[08:23:16] invited to anybody's house people wouldn't play with me at school because
[08:23:18] wouldn't play with me at school because I was always arguing and even though I
[08:23:20] I was always arguing and even though I was winning I was losing so don't argue
[08:23:23] was winning I was losing so don't argue and the way that you avoid arguing is a
[08:23:26] and the way that you avoid arguing is a very very simple technique it's this it
[08:23:29] very very simple technique it's this it is try first to understand rather than
[08:23:33] is try first to understand rather than to be understood use this law of
[08:23:36] to be understood use this law of indirect effort and try first to
[08:23:38] indirect effort and try first to understand the other person's point of
[08:23:41] understand the other person's point of view what is it that causes the other
[08:23:43] view what is it that causes the other person to think and feel the way they do
[08:23:46] person to think and feel the way they do if you disagree with them the natural
[08:23:48] if you disagree with them the natural tendency of the immature personality is
[08:23:51] tendency of the immature personality is to try to overwhelm the other person
[08:23:53] to try to overwhelm the other person with argument however the tendency of
[08:23:55] with argument however the tendency of the mature personality is to take the
[08:23:57] the mature personality is to take the time to try to understand why the other
[08:23:59] time to try to understand why the other person thinks and feels the way they do
[08:24:01] person thinks and feels the way they do it could very well be that their
[08:24:03] it could very well be that their reasoning is superior to yours at the
[08:24:05] reasoning is superior to yours at the very least there's a beautiful line that
[08:24:07] very least there's a beautiful line that says a man convinced against his will is
[08:24:10] says a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still one of the
[08:24:12] of the same opinion still one of the most important principles in the
[08:24:14] most important principles in the development of human personality is the
[08:24:17] development of human personality is the principle of
[08:24:18] principle of non-resistance the principle of
[08:24:20] non-resistance the principle of non-resistance was if you like brought
[08:24:22] non-resistance was if you like brought to a head by Mahatma Gandhi in India
[08:24:27] to a head by Mahatma Gandhi in India this year or in in this century when he
[08:24:29] this year or in in this century when he was able if you like to defeat the
[08:24:31] was able if you like to defeat the entire British Empire and take India out
[08:24:34] entire British Empire and take India out of the Empire and put it under home rule
[08:24:37] of the Empire and put it under home rule simply by a process of
[08:24:40] simply by a process of non-resistance Jesus said in the Bible
[08:24:42] non-resistance Jesus said in the Bible he said the New Testament he said agree
[08:24:44] he said the New Testament he said agree with thine adversary quickly now there's
[08:24:48] with thine adversary quickly now there's several reasons for this the number one
[08:24:49] several reasons for this the number one reason is the very best way to keep a
[08:24:51] reason is the very best way to keep a positive mind to be enthusiastic to be
[08:24:53] positive mind to be enthusiastic to be liked and to like other people is not to
[08:24:55] liked and to like other people is not to get into arguments with them to do
[08:24:57] get into arguments with them to do everything possible to avoid an argument
[08:24:59] everything possible to avoid an argument when I first got married I found that
[08:25:02] when I first got married I found that the natural tendency for people when
[08:25:05] the natural tendency for people when they live together is to get into
[08:25:07] they live together is to get into arguments because you disagree about
[08:25:08] arguments because you disagree about times and things and so on but I also
[08:25:10] times and things and so on but I also found a very neat little thing that has
[08:25:12] found a very neat little thing that has served me well and that is to agree
[08:25:15] served me well and that is to agree quickly if when you see an argument
[08:25:16] quickly if when you see an argument coming back off from it agree and try to
[08:25:19] coming back off from it agree and try to see the other person's point of view the
[08:25:21] see the other person's point of view the place to start with being agreeable and
[08:25:24] place to start with being agreeable and refusing to criticize is where
[08:25:27] refusing to criticize is where of course it's at home the interesting
[08:25:29] of course it's at home the interesting thing is and EMT fox say it beautifully
[08:25:31] thing is and EMT fox say it beautifully he says if you must be rude be rude to
[08:25:33] he says if you must be rude be rude to strangers but save your company manners
[08:25:36] strangers but save your company manners for your family naturally we have a
[08:25:38] for your family naturally we have a tendency to go out and be very polite to
[08:25:40] tendency to go out and be very polite to people that we've never seen before and
[08:25:41] people that we've never seen before and we'll never see again and then we come
[08:25:43] we'll never see again and then we come home and we criticize and complain and
[08:25:45] home and we criticize and complain and argue with the people that we love the
[08:25:47] argue with the people that we love the most all right the third principle in
[08:25:51] most all right the third principle in making other people feel important now
[08:25:52] making other people feel important now you don't criticize now you don't argue
[08:25:55] you don't criticize now you don't argue you've now a pleasant positive
[08:25:57] you've now a pleasant positive personality the third thing is
[08:25:59] personality the third thing is acceptance the third Behavior now
[08:26:01] acceptance the third Behavior now acceptance satisfies one of the deep
[08:26:04] acceptance satisfies one of the deep deepest of all subconscious Cravings
[08:26:06] deepest of all subconscious Cravings remember when we come into the world
[08:26:07] remember when we come into the world what we want more than anything else is
[08:26:08] what we want more than anything else is to be accepted by our parents to be
[08:26:10] to be accepted by our parents to be unconditionally loved and approved of
[08:26:12] unconditionally loved and approved of and accepted by our parents and when we
[08:26:14] and accepted by our parents and when we grow up as adults we still need that
[08:26:17] grow up as adults we still need that love and approval and the way that we
[08:26:18] love and approval and the way that we convey acceptance is very simply this
[08:26:21] convey acceptance is very simply this smile whenever you smile at another
[08:26:23] smile whenever you smile at another person you convey acceptance as a matter
[08:26:25] person you convey acceptance as a matter of fact working interpersonal psychology
[08:26:27] of fact working interpersonal psychology and interpersonal Dynamics suggests that
[08:26:29] and interpersonal Dynamics suggests that when two people meet for the first time
[08:26:32] when two people meet for the first time and every subsequent time the very first
[08:26:34] and every subsequent time the very first thing that takes place is a relationship
[08:26:37] thing that takes place is a relationship of acceptance or non-acceptance occurs
[08:26:41] of acceptance or non-acceptance occurs it's conveyed by Body Language by facial
[08:26:43] it's conveyed by Body Language by facial expressions by tone of voice but until
[08:26:45] expressions by tone of voice but until that relationship is established no
[08:26:48] that relationship is established no other communication takes place and you
[08:26:50] other communication takes place and you can trigger that relationship just
[08:26:52] can trigger that relationship just simply by smiling and unconditionally
[08:26:54] simply by smiling and unconditionally accepting another person no matter who
[08:26:56] accepting another person no matter who they are step number four is
[08:27:02] they are step number four is appreciation appreciation like
[08:27:04] appreciation appreciation like acceptance whenever you engage in any
[08:27:06] acceptance whenever you engage in any kind of appreciation you raise the
[08:27:08] kind of appreciation you raise the self-esteem of the other person when you
[08:27:10] self-esteem of the other person when you smile by the way so interesting research
[08:27:13] smile by the way so interesting research seems to suggest that when you smile not
[08:27:14] seems to suggest that when you smile not only do you cause the other person to
[08:27:16] only do you cause the other person to feel positive but the smiling the effort
[08:27:19] feel positive but the smiling the effort of smiling actually triggers endorphins
[08:27:22] of smiling actually triggers endorphins in the brain and gives you a generalized
[08:27:24] in the brain and gives you a generalized sense of well-being and they say even an
[08:27:27] sense of well-being and they say even an insincere smile is better than a sincere
[08:27:29] insincere smile is better than a sincere frown so smile force yourself to smile
[08:27:32] frown so smile force yourself to smile and you you will find that you can act
[08:27:34] and you you will find that you can act your way into feeling like smiling just
[08:27:36] your way into feeling like smiling just by making a habit of smiling at other
[08:27:38] by making a habit of smiling at other people with regard to appreciation how
[08:27:40] people with regard to appreciation how do we express appreciation we use the
[08:27:42] do we express appreciation we use the word thank you over and over again
[08:27:44] word thank you over and over again saying thank you to your spouse saying
[08:27:46] saying thank you to your spouse saying thank you to your children saying thank
[08:27:48] thank you to your children saying thank you to your co-workers and your
[08:27:49] you to your co-workers and your subordinates saying thank you to people
[08:27:51] subordinates saying thank you to people in restaurants saying thank you on a
[08:27:53] in restaurants saying thank you on a regular basis when you feel it
[08:27:56] regular basis when you feel it expressing gratitude raises people's
[08:27:58] expressing gratitude raises people's self-esteem like the Mercury inner
[08:27:59] self-esteem like the Mercury inner thermometer on a hot day and you'll find
[08:28:02] thermometer on a hot day and you'll find that the most powerful men and women the
[08:28:05] that the most powerful men and women the most successful men and women tend to be
[08:28:07] most successful men and women tend to be very
[08:28:09] very gracious and they tend to be very
[08:28:12] gracious and they tend to be very courteous the
[08:28:14] courteous the television characterizations or cariz of
[08:28:18] television characterizations or cariz of men and women who are powerful but who
[08:28:20] men and women who are powerful but who are peremptory and push people around
[08:28:22] are peremptory and push people around are not very close to the real world
[08:28:25] are not very close to the real world because people become powerful and
[08:28:26] because people become powerful and successful to the degree to which they
[08:28:29] successful to the degree to which they get the cooperation of other people and
[08:28:31] get the cooperation of other people and people only have a tendency to cooperate
[08:28:33] people only have a tendency to cooperate with others if the
[08:28:35] with others if the others are the type of people that they
[08:28:37] others are the type of people that they like to work with so be gracious be
[08:28:39] like to work with so be gracious be courteous be appreciative say thank you
[08:28:42] courteous be appreciative say thank you Thomas Carlile once said that you can
[08:28:44] Thomas Carlile once said that you can tell a big person by the way they treat
[08:28:46] tell a big person by the way they treat little people and that's very true
[08:28:49] little people and that's very true number
[08:28:50] number five is
[08:28:52] five is admiration admiration means admir ing
[08:28:56] admiration admiration means admir ing the traits of another person if the
[08:28:58] the traits of another person if the person is industrious or punctual or
[08:29:02] person is industrious or punctual or hardworking or accurate or admiring the
[08:29:05] hardworking or accurate or admiring the possessions of another
[08:29:07] possessions of another person you see we get emotionally
[08:29:10] person you see we get emotionally involved and bound up in our characters
[08:29:12] involved and bound up in our characters and our personalities and when somebody
[08:29:14] and our personalities and when somebody recognizes and acknowledges it and
[08:29:17] recognizes and acknowledges it and admires it we feel tremendous we get
[08:29:19] admires it we feel tremendous we get caught up in our possession we're proud
[08:29:21] caught up in our possession we're proud of our homes our cars we're proud of our
[08:29:24] of our homes our cars we're proud of our watches our shoes we're proud of our our
[08:29:26] watches our shoes we're proud of our our children we're proud of our offices and
[08:29:28] children we're proud of our offices and if a person says boy that looks nice or
[08:29:30] if a person says boy that looks nice or that's a great looking car or that's a
[08:29:32] that's a great looking car or that's a beautiful house or this is a lovely
[08:29:33] beautiful house or this is a lovely living room or that's an excellent suit
[08:29:35] living room or that's an excellent suit anything that we say as long as it is
[08:29:38] anything that we say as long as it is sincere I never say anything that's
[08:29:39] sincere I never say anything that's insincere because people are very very
[08:29:42] insincere because people are very very smart they can detect insincerity
[08:29:44] smart they can detect insincerity remember Abraham Lincoln said everybody
[08:29:47] remember Abraham Lincoln said everybody likes a compliment everybody likes a
[08:29:50] likes a compliment everybody likes a compliment I have worked with
[08:29:52] compliment I have worked with billionaires and I have worked with very
[08:29:54] billionaires and I have worked with very powerful and successful heads of large
[08:29:56] powerful and successful heads of large corporations and conglomerates and I
[08:29:59] corporations and conglomerates and I have found that saying something that I
[08:30:01] have found that saying something that I truly feel that is complimentary to them
[08:30:02] truly feel that is complimentary to them about themselves their businesses their
[08:30:04] about themselves their businesses their work and so on is always responded to as
[08:30:07] work and so on is always responded to as positiv as positively as if you were
[08:30:09] positiv as positively as if you were admiring the trader possession of
[08:30:11] admiring the trader possession of someone who had low self-esteem some
[08:30:13] someone who had low self-esteem some sometimes people who have the highest
[08:30:14] sometimes people who have the highest self-esteem and success are the ones who
[08:30:15] self-esteem and success are the ones who are most in need of admiration and
[08:30:18] are most in need of admiration and appreciation now the sixth thing that
[08:30:21] appreciation now the sixth thing that you can do to raise the self-esteem of
[08:30:24] you can do to raise the self-esteem of others and remember every every time you
[08:30:26] others and remember every every time you raise somebody else's self-esteem you
[08:30:27] raise somebody else's self-esteem you raise your own every time you increase
[08:30:29] raise your own every time you increase the health of somebody else's
[08:30:30] the health of somebody else's personality by the law of indirect
[08:30:32] personality by the law of indirect effort you increase the health of your
[08:30:33] effort you increase the health of your own personality is
[08:30:36] own personality is approval approval satisfies one of the
[08:30:38] approval approval satisfies one of the deepest Cravings of the human psyche the
[08:30:41] deepest Cravings of the human psyche the the the craving to be valued the craving
[08:30:43] the the craving to be valued the craving to be valuable in fact one of the
[08:30:45] to be valuable in fact one of the definitions of self-esteem is the degree
[08:30:48] definitions of self-esteem is the degree to which an individual considers
[08:30:49] to which an individual considers themselves to be praiseworthy a person
[08:30:52] themselves to be praiseworthy a person who considers himself to be praiseworthy
[08:30:54] who considers himself to be praiseworthy has high self-esteem so so when you give
[08:30:56] has high self-esteem so so when you give approval or praise it's been
[08:30:58] approval or praise it's been demonstrated I think it was uh Napoleon
[08:31:01] demonstrated I think it was uh Napoleon who said I have made an incredible
[08:31:02] who said I have made an incredible Discovery men will die for ribbons in
[08:31:06] Discovery men will die for ribbons in other words he found that soldiers who
[08:31:07] other words he found that soldiers who would not give their life for any amount
[08:31:09] would not give their life for any amount of money would risk their lives in
[08:31:11] of money would risk their lives in battle for the praise and approval
[08:31:13] battle for the praise and approval represented by the ribbons and the
[08:31:15] represented by the ribbons and the metals that he handed out key to keys to
[08:31:18] metals that he handed out key to keys to approval number one is be immediate the
[08:31:22] approval number one is be immediate the closer the praise is to the thing that
[08:31:25] closer the praise is to the thing that you pray the more likely it is the
[08:31:27] you pray the more likely it is the person will repeat it if you want your
[08:31:28] person will repeat it if you want your children or your employees to continue
[08:31:30] children or your employees to continue doing something as soon as they do it
[08:31:31] doing something as soon as they do it say boy that's a good job number two is
[08:31:33] say boy that's a good job number two is be specific say boy you did a wonderful
[08:31:36] be specific say boy you did a wonderful job on that lawn that house that letter
[08:31:38] job on that lawn that house that letter whatever it happens to be the more
[08:31:40] whatever it happens to be the more immediate and specific the praise the
[08:31:41] immediate and specific the praise the more rapidly it raises self-esteem the
[08:31:43] more rapidly it raises self-esteem the more likely it is that the behavior will
[08:31:45] more likely it is that the behavior will be repeated and third of all uh be
[08:31:48] be repeated and third of all uh be public with your
[08:31:49] public with your praise whenever you give recognition in
[08:31:54] praise whenever you give recognition in public it doubles or triples the impact
[08:31:56] public it doubles or triples the impact because the effect of other people's
[08:31:59] because the effect of other people's opinions on our behavior is tremendous
[08:32:01] opinions on our behavior is tremendous in fact there's a lot of evidence that
[08:32:03] in fact there's a lot of evidence that suggests that we are who we are and we
[08:32:05] suggests that we are who we are and we do what we do because of the way we
[08:32:07] do what we do because of the way we think other people think of us we're
[08:32:09] think other people think of us we're strongly affected by other people's
[08:32:11] strongly affected by other people's opinions all right number seven is
[08:32:13] opinions all right number seven is attention now attention is one of the
[08:32:16] attention now attention is one of the most powerful ways to raise self-esteem
[08:32:18] most powerful ways to raise self-esteem attention means listening why is
[08:32:22] attention means listening why is attention and listening so powerful is
[08:32:24] attention and listening so powerful is because we always pay attention
[08:32:25] because we always pay attention attention to that which we value and we
[08:32:28] attention to that which we value and we always ignore that which we do not value
[08:32:31] always ignore that which we do not value so if you want to tell a person that you
[08:32:34] so if you want to tell a person that you value them that they are in effect
[08:32:36] value them that they are in effect valuable pay close attention to them
[08:32:39] valuable pay close attention to them listen to them spend time with them now
[08:32:42] listen to them spend time with them now here's some of the keys to attention
[08:32:44] here's some of the keys to attention number one is listen attentively listen
[08:32:47] number one is listen attentively listen attentively listen without
[08:32:50] attentively listen without interruptions listen patiently listen
[08:32:53] interruptions listen patiently listen closely number two is
[08:32:56] closely number two is pause before
[08:32:58] pause before replying pause before replying don't
[08:33:02] replying pause before replying don't interrupt let the person say everything
[08:33:04] interrupt let the person say everything that they have to say and pause wait
[08:33:06] that they have to say and pause wait show them that you are really
[08:33:07] show them that you are really considering what they're saying number
[08:33:09] considering what they're saying number three is question for clarification
[08:33:12] three is question for clarification instead of rushing in to speak question
[08:33:14] instead of rushing in to speak question to
[08:33:15] to clarify what the person has said which
[08:33:17] clarify what the person has said which is a way of telling them for sure that
[08:33:20] is a way of telling them for sure that you're really listening and here's the
[08:33:21] you're really listening and here's the best of all questions how do you
[08:33:24] best of all questions how do you mean when you're listening to a person
[08:33:26] mean when you're listening to a person speak and you want to fully understand
[08:33:27] speak and you want to fully understand and you want to tell them that you're
[08:33:28] and you want to tell them that you're listening say how do you mean exactly
[08:33:30] listening say how do you mean exactly and ask for them to explain to you
[08:33:32] and ask for them to explain to you clearly and finally remember the
[08:33:35] clearly and finally remember the boomerang and the boomerang says simply
[08:33:38] boomerang and the boomerang says simply this it says that
[08:33:41] this it says that any genuine emotion expressed by you
[08:33:45] any genuine emotion expressed by you toward any other
[08:33:47] toward any other person is going to Boomerang back on you
[08:33:50] person is going to Boomerang back on you just like the law of sewing and reaping
[08:33:52] just like the law of sewing and reaping the law of cause and effect the Law of
[08:33:54] the law of cause and effect the Law of Attraction the law of correspondent says
[08:33:56] Attraction the law of correspondent says that any genuine emotion now that's a
[08:33:58] that any genuine emotion now that's a genuine emotion in other words if you
[08:34:00] genuine emotion in other words if you say something positive about someone
[08:34:02] say something positive about someone else it's going to go out to that person
[08:34:04] else it's going to go out to that person and it's going to come back and it's
[08:34:05] and it's going to come back and it's going to Boomerang on you so say only
[08:34:08] going to Boomerang on you so say only good things when you talk about other
[08:34:10] good things when you talk about other people talk about them as though what
[08:34:11] people talk about them as though what you were saying was going to be printed
[08:34:13] you were saying was going to be printed in the paper when you think about other
[08:34:15] in the paper when you think about other people send out positive thoughts and
[08:34:18] people send out positive thoughts and positive
[08:34:19] positive ideas think all the time about how you
[08:34:23] ideas think all the time about how you can make other people feel important
[08:34:25] can make other people feel important treat other people as though they were
[08:34:27] treat other people as though they were the most valuable people in the world
[08:34:29] the most valuable people in the world because to them they believe they are
[08:34:31] because to them they believe they are and the final rule with regard to
[08:34:33] and the final rule with regard to Superior human relations is what we call
[08:34:35] Superior human relations is what we call the Golden
[08:34:36] the Golden Rule Rule simply says love your neighbor
[08:34:40] Rule Rule simply says love your neighbor as yourself like your neighbor as
[08:34:43] as yourself like your neighbor as yourself treat your neighbor as yourself
[08:34:46] yourself treat your neighbor as yourself ask yourself in any situation how would
[08:34:48] ask yourself in any situation how would I like to be treated in this situation
[08:34:50] I like to be treated in this situation ask yourself when you're in a difficult
[08:34:53] ask yourself when you're in a difficult situation with someone or an argument or
[08:34:55] situation with someone or an argument or a disagreement
[08:34:56] a disagreement say if I if the conditions were reversed
[08:34:59] say if I if the conditions were reversed how would I like to be treated in this
[08:35:00] how would I like to be treated in this situation and here's something that you
[08:35:02] situation and here's something that you can do pick a role model pick the person
[08:35:05] can do pick a role model pick the person that you admire more than anybody else
[08:35:07] that you admire more than anybody else in the world in terms of their
[08:35:09] in the world in terms of their personality and whenever you're in a
[08:35:11] personality and whenever you're in a situation with someone else pretend you
[08:35:13] situation with someone else pretend you are like that person many years ago when
[08:35:16] are like that person many years ago when I was traveling in Africa I worked with
[08:35:18] I was traveling in Africa I worked with Dr Albert schwitzer one of the most
[08:35:20] Dr Albert schwitzer one of the most beautiful men who ever lived and so very
[08:35:21] beautiful men who ever lived and so very often when I'm in a situation with other
[08:35:23] often when I'm in a situation with other people I think how would Albert schweit
[08:35:26] people I think how would Albert schweit act in this situation or I think how
[08:35:28] act in this situation or I think how would Jesus of Nazareth act in this
[08:35:30] would Jesus of Nazareth act in this situation and if you use that as your
[08:35:33] situation and if you use that as your role model and if you use the Credo of
[08:35:35] role model and if you use the Credo of making other people feel important as
[08:35:37] making other people feel important as your Guiding Light you will develop a
[08:35:40] your Guiding Light you will develop a success personality that will lead you
[08:35:42] success personality that will lead you to accomplishing everything that you
[08:35:44] to accomplishing everything that you want in life in a world filled with
[08:35:46] want in life in a world filled with other people
[08:35:59] session 25 building Superior
[08:36:02] session 25 building Superior relationships one of the oldest cliches
[08:36:04] relationships one of the oldest cliches is that be it ever so humble there's no
[08:36:06] is that be it ever so humble there's no place like home Benjamin disra the great
[08:36:08] place like home Benjamin disra the great Prime Minister of England once said that
[08:36:10] Prime Minister of England once said that no success in public life can compensate
[08:36:13] no success in public life can compensate for failure in the home and when we
[08:36:15] for failure in the home and when we started this seminar uh several sessions
[08:36:17] started this seminar uh several sessions ago we talked about the importance of
[08:36:18] ago we talked about the importance of the power of love and that how you and I
[08:36:21] the power of love and that how you and I as human beings are love Tropic
[08:36:23] as human beings are love Tropic organisms that everything that we do is
[08:36:25] organisms that everything that we do is either to get love or to compensate for
[08:36:28] either to get love or to compensate for the lack of love and there's no place
[08:36:30] the lack of love and there's no place where this is more important than in the
[08:36:32] where this is more important than in the quality of the intimate relationships
[08:36:34] quality of the intimate relationships that we form with other people in fact
[08:36:36] that we form with other people in fact one of the measures of mental health
[08:36:38] one of the measures of mental health according to Abraham maslo is your
[08:36:40] according to Abraham maslo is your ability to enter into long-term intimate
[08:36:43] ability to enter into long-term intimate loving relationships with other members
[08:36:46] loving relationships with other members of the human race and I want to talk in
[08:36:48] of the human race and I want to talk in this session about some of the things
[08:36:50] this session about some of the things that might help you which have helped me
[08:36:52] that might help you which have helped me to enjoy a higher quality of loving
[08:36:54] to enjoy a higher quality of loving relationship with your mate or your
[08:36:56] relationship with your mate or your spouse or the person that is most
[08:36:58] spouse or the person that is most important to you first of all let's talk
[08:37:01] important to you first of all let's talk about the idea of the of what makes a
[08:37:04] about the idea of the of what makes a relationship successful and I think that
[08:37:05] relationship successful and I think that there are six keys that make a
[08:37:07] there are six keys that make a relationship successful six keys to
[08:37:10] relationship successful six keys to successful relationships let me explain
[08:37:12] successful relationships let me explain them to you one at a time number one is
[08:37:15] them to you one at a time number one is of course similarities
[08:37:18] of course similarities attract similarities
[08:37:21] attract similarities attract similarities attract in almost
[08:37:24] attract similarities attract in almost all areas but especially in the areas of
[08:37:27] all areas but especially in the areas of values in the areas of attitudes toward
[08:37:30] values in the areas of attitudes toward the critical things like
[08:37:32] the critical things like children like money do you know that and
[08:37:35] children like money do you know that and like sex for instance that arguments
[08:37:37] like sex for instance that arguments over money are not one of the number one
[08:37:40] over money are not one of the number one reasons why marriages break down young
[08:37:42] reasons why marriages break down young marriages break down and probably older
[08:37:44] marriages break down and probably older marriages too arguments over sex are
[08:37:46] marriages too arguments over sex are number two arguments over Leisure Time
[08:37:48] number two arguments over Leisure Time what we're going to do when we're not
[08:37:50] what we're going to do when we're not working are the number three reason why
[08:37:53] working are the number three reason why relationships break down so similarities
[08:37:56] relationships break down so similarities are very very important it's sort of
[08:37:58] are very very important it's sort of like the when when you meet the person
[08:38:00] like the when when you meet the person who is right for you there will be a
[08:38:01] who is right for you there will be a chemistry they call it a right chemistry
[08:38:04] chemistry they call it a right chemistry it feels good it feels right because you
[08:38:06] it feels good it feels right because you will be in accord or in
[08:38:08] will be in accord or in Harmony on almost all of the critical
[08:38:11] Harmony on almost all of the critical areas of life we find that virtually all
[08:38:14] areas of life we find that virtually all of your difficulties come is when you CL
[08:38:16] of your difficulties come is when you CL from clashing with people who have
[08:38:18] from clashing with people who have different opinions and ideas from you
[08:38:19] different opinions and ideas from you now with regard to similarities the most
[08:38:21] now with regard to similarities the most important part of you as a human being
[08:38:24] important part of you as a human being is yourself concept your central belief
[08:38:27] is yourself concept your central belief system and your central belief system
[08:38:28] system and your central belief system with regard to your relationship to the
[08:38:30] with regard to your relationship to the world is summarized in your values what
[08:38:33] world is summarized in your values what you think is right what you think is
[08:38:35] you think is right what you think is wrong what you think is good what you
[08:38:37] wrong what you think is good what you think is unacceptable your values are
[08:38:39] think is unacceptable your values are very important and any Clash with your
[08:38:42] very important and any Clash with your values in life will be destructive to
[08:38:44] values in life will be destructive to your mental health outside your values
[08:38:46] your mental health outside your values you have your mental life these are your
[08:38:48] you have your mental life these are your ideas they may be your political
[08:38:50] ideas they may be your political opinions they may have to do with
[08:38:51] opinions they may have to do with philosophy and so on they're not as
[08:38:53] philosophy and so on they're not as important as your values because they
[08:38:54] important as your values because they change far more readily outside that you
[08:38:57] change far more readily outside that you have your emotional life or your
[08:38:59] have your emotional life or your emotional temperament you'll find that
[08:39:01] emotional temperament you'll find that people with similar emotional
[08:39:02] people with similar emotional temperaments seem to get along the best
[08:39:04] temperaments seem to get along the best and finally on the outer ring the least
[08:39:07] and finally on the outer ring the least important is the
[08:39:10] important is the physical is the physical attraction or
[08:39:13] physical is the physical attraction or physical similarity or physical
[08:39:14] physical similarity or physical comparisons however there's a lot of
[08:39:16] comparisons however there's a lot of research that show us that people tend
[08:39:18] research that show us that people tend to marry people who look very similar to
[08:39:20] to marry people who look very similar to themselves that the highest form of
[08:39:22] themselves that the highest form of flattery is marriage that we tend to be
[08:39:24] flattery is marriage that we tend to be attracted to people who have facial
[08:39:26] attracted to people who have facial features very similar to our own that's
[08:39:28] features very similar to our own that's why they say when people grow older they
[08:39:30] why they say when people grow older they start to look like each other well if
[08:39:31] start to look like each other well if they examine the wedding photographs
[08:39:33] they examine the wedding photographs they find that they started off looking
[08:39:35] they find that they started off looking like each other and that's why they look
[08:39:36] like each other and that's why they look like each other more when they gow older
[08:39:38] like each other more when they gow older number two key to successful
[08:39:40] number two key to successful relationships is that Opposites
[08:39:43] relationships is that Opposites Attract Opposites Attract but Opposites
[08:39:46] Attract Opposites Attract but Opposites Attract in only one area and this is
[08:39:49] Attract in only one area and this is important and that's in
[08:39:50] important and that's in temperament you see
[08:39:53] temperament you see nature requires balance in all things
[08:39:57] nature requires balance in all things yin and yang active and passive so
[08:40:00] yin and yang active and passive so nature requires that there be a balance
[08:40:02] nature requires that there be a balance in temperament and extroverted person
[08:40:04] in temperament and extroverted person will be most compatible with an
[08:40:05] will be most compatible with an introverted person two people who are
[08:40:07] introverted person two people who are equally introverted or extroverted will
[08:40:09] equally introverted or extroverted will be most compatible but here's a very
[08:40:11] be most compatible but here's a very simple test for relationships male or
[08:40:13] simple test for relationships male or female male male female female is what
[08:40:15] female male male female female is what we call the conversation test in any
[08:40:18] we call the conversation test in any conversation between two people who are
[08:40:21] conversation between two people who are temperamentally suited there will be the
[08:40:24] temperamentally suited there will be the entire period of time allocated for
[08:40:26] entire period of time allocated for conversation will be full of easy
[08:40:29] conversation will be full of easy conversation plus about 10% of easy
[08:40:32] conversation plus about 10% of easy silences so that if a person each person
[08:40:35] silences so that if a person each person will have an opportunity to talk all
[08:40:36] will have an opportunity to talk all they want to talk and each person will
[08:40:38] they want to talk and each person will have an opportunity to listen all they
[08:40:39] have an opportunity to listen all they want to listen and there'll be 10% of
[08:40:41] want to listen and there'll be 10% of comfortable silences now you may have a
[08:40:44] comfortable silences now you may have a person who gets all their talking done
[08:40:45] person who gets all their talking done in 30% of the time and you may have
[08:40:48] in 30% of the time and you may have another person who gets all their
[08:40:49] another person who gets all their talking done in 60% of the time with
[08:40:51] talking done in 60% of the time with that 10% Gap and these people will be
[08:40:53] that 10% Gap and these people will be very compatible however where you have
[08:40:56] very compatible however where you have problems in relationships is you have
[08:40:58] problems in relationships is you have people who only like to talk 30% on the
[08:41:01] people who only like to talk 30% on the one side and a person only likes to talk
[08:41:02] one side and a person only likes to talk 30% on the other side so you have big
[08:41:04] 30% on the other side so you have big gaps of uncomfortable silence where
[08:41:07] gaps of uncomfortable silence where neither has anything to say or the other
[08:41:09] neither has anything to say or the other example is where you have two people
[08:41:11] example is where you have two people each of whom have to talk 70% of the
[08:41:13] each of whom have to talk 70% of the time so you have a big Clash over
[08:41:15] time so you have a big Clash over airtime everybody there's always a clash
[08:41:18] airtime everybody there's always a clash over who's going to be able to speak the
[08:41:19] over who's going to be able to speak the most and you'll find that this
[08:41:21] most and you'll find that this relationship will be incompatible too so
[08:41:23] relationship will be incompatible too so opposites attracts but only in
[08:41:24] opposites attracts but only in temperament in all other Essentials
[08:41:27] temperament in all other Essentials similarities attract this brings us to
[08:41:29] similarities attract this brings us to number three number three key to success
[08:41:32] number three number three key to success in relationships is
[08:41:34] in relationships is commitment commitment is very important
[08:41:37] commitment commitment is very important and in order for a relationship to work
[08:41:40] and in order for a relationship to work a person should have a total commitment
[08:41:42] a person should have a total commitment to the relationship why mean which me
[08:41:43] to the relationship why mean which me means 100% and we'll talk about this a
[08:41:46] means 100% and we'll talk about this a little bit later but one of the most
[08:41:48] little bit later but one of the most beautiful definitions of love in
[08:41:50] beautiful definitions of love in relationships that I ever read was from
[08:41:51] relationships that I ever read was from Dr Scott peek where he said that love is
[08:41:53] Dr Scott peek where he said that love is the total commitment to the full
[08:41:56] the total commitment to the full development of the potential of the
[08:41:58] development of the potential of the other love is your total commitment to
[08:42:01] other love is your total commitment to the full development of the potential of
[08:42:03] the full development of the potential of the other person and this to me lays to
[08:42:06] the other person and this to me lays to rest all the arguments over male female
[08:42:08] rest all the arguments over male female women's lib and so on and so forth
[08:42:09] women's lib and so on and so forth because if a person truly loves another
[08:42:11] because if a person truly loves another person they want that person to develop
[08:42:14] person they want that person to develop their full potential as a human being
[08:42:15] their full potential as a human being and they will do everything possible to
[08:42:17] and they will do everything possible to make that possible commitment is really
[08:42:19] make that possible commitment is really I have a good friend named Charlie Jones
[08:42:21] I have a good friend named Charlie Jones who talks about divorce he said the way
[08:42:23] who talks about divorce he said the way to deal with divorce is very simple he
[08:42:24] to deal with divorce is very simple he says never consider it he said don't
[08:42:26] says never consider it he said don't even think about it don't talk about it
[08:42:28] even think about it don't talk about it never even consider the possibility of
[08:42:30] never even consider the possibility of divorce he says murder yes but never
[08:42:32] divorce he says murder yes but never divorce now and maybe that's a little
[08:42:34] divorce now and maybe that's a little bit stringent but the key to a
[08:42:37] bit stringent but the key to a successful relationship is the depth of
[08:42:39] successful relationship is the depth of commitment that each person has most
[08:42:41] commitment that each person has most dangerous thing in a relationship is
[08:42:43] dangerous thing in a relationship is when people start thinking in terms of
[08:42:44] when people start thinking in terms of well if it doesn't work out I can go
[08:42:45] well if it doesn't work out I can go somewhere else if it doesn't work out we
[08:42:47] somewhere else if it doesn't work out we always get a divorce relationships like
[08:42:49] always get a divorce relationships like that almost invariably end in a divorce
[08:42:52] that almost invariably end in a divorce number four key to a successful
[08:42:54] number four key to a successful relationship
[08:42:55] relationship is similar self-concepts
[08:42:58] is similar self-concepts attract similar self-concepts
[08:43:01] attract similar self-concepts attract now this means when we talk
[08:43:03] attract now this means when we talk about similar self- Concepts we talk
[08:43:05] about similar self- Concepts we talk about how much you like yourself how
[08:43:07] about how much you like yourself how much you value yourself we talk about
[08:43:09] much you value yourself we talk about what you might call the happiness scale
[08:43:11] what you might call the happiness scale the happiness scale means how happy are
[08:43:14] the happiness scale means how happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10 that's the
[08:43:18] you on a scale of 1 to 10 that's the basic question you will find that you
[08:43:19] basic question you will find that you will always be most compatible with a
[08:43:21] will always be most compatible with a person who is just about as happy as you
[08:43:24] person who is just about as happy as you are if ever you get involved in a
[08:43:26] are if ever you get involved in a relationship with a person who is
[08:43:27] relationship with a person who is unhappy and you allow yourself to be
[08:43:29] unhappy and you allow yourself to be diluted into believing that you're going
[08:43:31] diluted into believing that you're going to bring them up and they're going to be
[08:43:33] to bring them up and they're going to be happy at your level because you're going
[08:43:35] happy at your level because you're going to help them you're entering into a
[08:43:36] to help them you're entering into a Fool's game because most people who are
[08:43:38] Fool's game because most people who are unhappy are quite happy being unhappy
[08:43:40] unhappy are quite happy being unhappy and they have no intention of changing
[08:43:43] and they have no intention of changing there as a matter of fact the unhappiest
[08:43:44] there as a matter of fact the unhappiest relationships I've ever seen in my life
[08:43:46] relationships I've ever seen in my life are when a generally happy positive
[08:43:48] are when a generally happy positive person gets involved with a negative
[08:43:50] person gets involved with a negative person and tries to bring them up to
[08:43:52] person and tries to bring them up to their level because it never works so
[08:43:55] their level because it never works so ask yourself this how happy is the
[08:43:57] ask yourself this how happy is the person that you're thinking about
[08:43:58] person that you're thinking about getting involved with and understand
[08:44:00] getting involved with and understand that is very rare except by tremendous
[08:44:02] that is very rare except by tremendous effort that people change their level of
[08:44:04] effort that people change their level of Happiness this brings us to number
[08:44:06] Happiness this brings us to number five key to success in relationships is
[08:44:11] five key to success in relationships is liking now liking which has to do with
[08:44:14] liking now liking which has to do with respect is more important than being in
[08:44:17] respect is more important than being in love and more permanently satisfying
[08:44:20] love and more permanently satisfying because being in love although it comes
[08:44:23] because being in love although it comes and goes is a passing condition ition
[08:44:26] and goes is a passing condition ition being in love is something that es and
[08:44:28] being in love is something that es and flows as a matter of fact you can be
[08:44:30] flows as a matter of fact you can be furiously angry with your mate or with
[08:44:32] furiously angry with your mate or with your spouse and still have an excellent
[08:44:34] your spouse and still have an excellent relationship and you can still never
[08:44:35] relationship and you can still never consider breaking up as long as you like
[08:44:38] consider breaking up as long as you like and respect them but if the liking and
[08:44:40] and respect them but if the liking and the respecting goes out of a
[08:44:41] the respecting goes out of a relationship the being in love or the
[08:44:43] relationship the being in love or the infatuation is never enough to hold it
[08:44:45] infatuation is never enough to hold it together now here's a simple test with
[08:44:47] together now here's a simple test with regard to liking it's what I call the
[08:44:49] regard to liking it's what I call the best friend test the best friend test
[08:44:52] best friend test the best friend test simply says that if you are ideally
[08:44:55] simply says that if you are ideally suited to your mate your mate will be
[08:44:58] suited to your mate your mate will be your best friend that there will be
[08:45:00] your best friend that there will be nobody that you would rather spend time
[08:45:01] nobody that you would rather spend time with there will be nobody that you trust
[08:45:03] with there will be nobody that you trust more there will be nobody that you would
[08:45:05] more there will be nobody that you would be more open honest candid and Frank
[08:45:08] be more open honest candid and Frank with that your mate or your spouse will
[08:45:10] with that your mate or your spouse will be your best friend it's the simplest
[08:45:12] be your best friend it's the simplest measure of all because you cannot force
[08:45:14] measure of all because you cannot force being best friends best friends just
[08:45:16] being best friends best friends just happens naturally when everything is
[08:45:18] happens naturally when everything is right on the other hand if you are in a
[08:45:21] right on the other hand if you are in a situation where you could not tell your
[08:45:23] situation where you could not tell your spouse or your mate all a lot of the
[08:45:25] spouse or your mate all a lot of the things that are important to you where
[08:45:26] things that are important to you where you talk to other people more than you
[08:45:28] you talk to other people more than you talk to them where you have a lot of
[08:45:29] talk to them where you have a lot of secrets that you keep from them or a lot
[08:45:31] secrets that you keep from them or a lot of things that you keep inside yourself
[08:45:33] of things that you keep inside yourself then generally speaking you are probably
[08:45:35] then generally speaking you are probably not involved with your best friend and
[08:45:38] not involved with your best friend and the prognosis for your relationship is
[08:45:40] the prognosis for your relationship is not very good number
[08:45:43] not very good number six uh requirement for happiness and
[08:45:47] six uh requirement for happiness and relationships
[08:45:49] relationships is
[08:45:51] is Communications now Communications
[08:45:55] Communications now Communications or communicating back and forth in a
[08:45:57] or communicating back and forth in a relationship is the Elixir that keeps a
[08:46:00] relationship is the Elixir that keeps a relationship alive without it a
[08:46:02] relationship alive without it a relationship dies without it the
[08:46:04] relationship dies without it the relationship has no possibility and good
[08:46:06] relationship has no possibility and good Communications in a relationship not
[08:46:08] Communications in a relationship not only require speaking and listening not
[08:46:11] only require speaking and listening not only require trying to understand give
[08:46:12] only require trying to understand give and take but they require time and they
[08:46:16] and take but they require time and they require a high
[08:46:18] require a high quality and a high quantity of
[08:46:21] quality and a high quantity of time very important quality and quantity
[08:46:24] time very important quality and quantity of time
[08:46:25] of time what my wife and I do on a regular basis
[08:46:28] what my wife and I do on a regular basis is we will go on a trip and sometimes
[08:46:30] is we will go on a trip and sometimes we'll go on a trip to a place that takes
[08:46:31] we'll go on a trip to a place that takes three or 4 hours and we'll leave the
[08:46:32] three or 4 hours and we'll leave the children with a housekeeper or someone
[08:46:34] children with a housekeeper or someone else and we will drive in that car no
[08:46:36] else and we will drive in that car no radio no tapes for three or four hours
[08:46:38] radio no tapes for three or four hours and just talk and we'll get some of the
[08:46:40] and just talk and we'll get some of the highest quality and quantity of talk and
[08:46:42] highest quality and quantity of talk and conversation and so if you use that
[08:46:44] conversation and so if you use that analogy what what what you might call a
[08:46:46] analogy what what what you might call a car trip analogy which is uninterrupted
[08:46:50] car trip analogy which is uninterrupted conversation with your spouse over an
[08:46:53] conversation with your spouse over an extended period of time you find the
[08:46:55] extended period of time you find the most remarkable things will happen but
[08:46:57] most remarkable things will happen but if you're not spending a high quality
[08:46:58] if you're not spending a high quality and quantity of time with your spouse or
[08:47:00] and quantity of time with your spouse or your mate the relationship is going to
[08:47:02] your mate the relationship is going to suffer and many relationships will die
[08:47:03] suffer and many relationships will die as a result now two critical points with
[08:47:06] as a result now two critical points with regard to this from my point of view as
[08:47:08] regard to this from my point of view as a man number one is remember that men
[08:47:11] a man number one is remember that men are not mind readers one of the hardest
[08:47:14] are not mind readers one of the hardest things for women to understand is that
[08:47:16] things for women to understand is that men are not mind readers they do not
[08:47:19] men are not mind readers they do not know what women mean or what women want
[08:47:22] know what women mean or what women want them to think half the time and it is
[08:47:24] them to think half the time and it is not fair for women to expect men to know
[08:47:28] not fair for women to expect men to know what is bothering them or what they want
[08:47:30] what is bothering them or what they want or what they need and number two
[08:47:32] or what they need and number two remember this that men are direct women
[08:47:35] remember this that men are direct women are
[08:47:36] are indirect what does this
[08:47:38] indirect what does this mean
[08:47:40] mean well if a man and a woman are driving
[08:47:42] well if a man and a woman are driving down the street and the woman is thirsty
[08:47:46] down the street and the woman is thirsty she might say as they pass a McDonald's
[08:47:48] she might say as they pass a McDonald's she might say honey are you thirsty and
[08:47:51] she might say honey are you thirsty and he'll say nope I keep on driving what
[08:47:53] he'll say nope I keep on driving what she was trying to say was she was
[08:47:55] she was trying to say was she was thirsty why don't they stop now the man
[08:47:56] thirsty why don't they stop now the man on the other hand if he saw the
[08:47:58] on the other hand if he saw the McDonald's and was thirsty says I'm
[08:47:59] McDonald's and was thirsty says I'm thirsty let's stop so women tend to be
[08:48:02] thirsty let's stop so women tend to be indirect and they get really angry when
[08:48:03] indirect and they get really angry when men don't understand what they were
[08:48:05] men don't understand what they were trying to say so one of the best things
[08:48:07] trying to say so one of the best things that you can do in Communications is be
[08:48:08] that you can do in Communications is be a little bit more direct be a little bit
[08:48:10] a little bit more direct be a little bit more um a little bit more clear a little
[08:48:13] more um a little bit more clear a little bit more specific now an important point
[08:48:15] bit more specific now an important point with regard to men according to recent
[08:48:17] with regard to men according to recent survey recent study it shows that men
[08:48:20] survey recent study it shows that men are 95% more likely to interrupt a woman
[08:48:23] are 95% more likely to interrupt a woman in a conversation than a woman is likely
[08:48:25] in a conversation than a woman is likely to interrupt a man and one of the best
[08:48:28] to interrupt a man and one of the best things that you can do in a relationship
[08:48:30] things that you can do in a relationship you men out there is take time to listen
[08:48:32] you men out there is take time to listen to your spouses one of the gentlemen who
[08:48:34] to your spouses one of the gentlemen who went through my seminar said the most
[08:48:36] went through my seminar said the most valuable thing he got from this part on
[08:48:37] valuable thing he got from this part on human relations was when you you go home
[08:48:40] human relations was when you you go home at night before you the man the direct
[08:48:42] at night before you the man the direct person the extrovert starts telling your
[08:48:45] person the extrovert starts telling your woman all about everything that went on
[08:48:47] woman all about everything that went on during the course of the day ask her how
[08:48:50] during the course of the day ask her how her day has been ask her how her day has
[08:48:52] her day has been ask her how her day has unfolding what has happened to her how
[08:48:54] unfolding what has happened to her how things going with her try doing that as
[08:48:56] things going with her try doing that as a discipline and you'll be literally
[08:48:58] a discipline and you'll be literally astonished at what it will do for your
[08:48:59] astonished at what it will do for your relationship and then listen without
[08:49:01] relationship and then listen without interruptions listen and pause before
[08:49:03] interruptions listen and pause before replying listen and ask questions for
[08:49:05] replying listen and ask questions for clarification listen and give positive
[08:49:07] clarification listen and give positive feedback all right now let's talk about
[08:49:10] feedback all right now let's talk about some of the problems in
[08:49:18] relationships problems in relationships
[08:49:20] relationships problems in relationships number one problem in
[08:49:21] number one problem in relationship lack of commitment now lack
[08:49:25] relationship lack of commitment now lack of commitment is amazingly common
[08:49:27] of commitment is amazingly common because we live in a society today where
[08:49:29] because we live in a society today where it is considered clever to protect
[08:49:31] it is considered clever to protect yourself by not making too deep a
[08:49:32] yourself by not making too deep a commitment to anybody so what people do
[08:49:34] commitment to anybody so what people do is they often get involved in
[08:49:35] is they often get involved in relationships but they only get involved
[08:49:37] relationships but they only get involved up to their toes lack of commitment is
[08:49:39] up to their toes lack of commitment is often expressed in a trading
[08:49:40] often expressed in a trading relationships a trading relationship is
[08:49:43] relationships a trading relationship is a relationship where one says you do
[08:49:45] a relationship where one says you do your share and I'll do my share you put
[08:49:46] your share and I'll do my share you put in your amount I'll put in my amount and
[08:49:48] in your amount I'll put in my amount and neither one of them wants to get in 100%
[08:49:52] neither one of them wants to get in 100% neither one of them wants to run the
[08:49:53] neither one of them wants to run the risk of being rejected so by both of
[08:49:57] risk of being rejected so by both of them not running the risk of being
[08:49:58] them not running the risk of being rejected they both end up being rejected
[08:50:00] rejected they both end up being rejected and the key to resolving this as I said
[08:50:03] and the key to resolving this as I said before is for each individually to make
[08:50:06] before is for each individually to make a 100% commitment to this relationship
[08:50:09] a 100% commitment to this relationship and say that no matter what happens I
[08:50:10] and say that no matter what happens I will never leave this relationship make
[08:50:12] will never leave this relationship make that decision to get in either get in or
[08:50:15] that decision to get in either get in or get out now if you feel that you can't
[08:50:16] get out now if you feel that you can't make the commitment that will tell you
[08:50:17] make the commitment that will tell you something that's very important for you
[08:50:19] something that's very important for you to know if your spouse feels that he or
[08:50:21] to know if your spouse feels that he or she can't make the commitment or mate
[08:50:23] she can't make the commitment or mate feels that he or she can't make make a
[08:50:24] feels that he or she can't make make a commitment that will tell them something
[08:50:27] commitment that will tell them something too but in either case either get in or
[08:50:29] too but in either case either get in or get out it will relieve an enormous
[08:50:30] get out it will relieve an enormous amount of tension and stress in a
[08:50:32] amount of tension and stress in a relationship now number two is trying to
[08:50:34] relationship now number two is trying to change the other or expecting the other
[08:50:37] change the other or expecting the other to change you see when we try to change
[08:50:39] to change you see when we try to change another person you know what we're
[08:50:41] another person you know what we're saying we're saying in effect that
[08:50:44] saying we're saying in effect that you're not good enough the way you are
[08:50:46] you're not good enough the way you are you don't come up to my standards how
[08:50:48] you don't come up to my standards how many times to people enter into
[08:50:49] many times to people enter into marriages with one or the other saying
[08:50:51] marriages with one or the other saying well I'll change him or her as time goes
[08:50:53] well I'll change him or her as time goes on they'll come they'll shape up more
[08:50:55] on they'll come they'll shape up more into the model that I desire or I
[08:50:58] into the model that I desire or I approve of whenever you try to change
[08:51:00] approve of whenever you try to change another person and why do we try to
[08:51:01] another person and why do we try to change another person we keep
[08:51:03] change another person we keep disapproving of the person they are and
[08:51:05] disapproving of the person they are and the things that they do we keep asking
[08:51:07] the things that they do we keep asking them to be different we want them to be
[08:51:08] them to be different we want them to be more of this or less of that now that
[08:51:12] more of this or less of that now that great American philosopher Flip Wilson
[08:51:14] great American philosopher Flip Wilson had a wonderful expression which he used
[08:51:15] had a wonderful expression which he used to cover this and it's simply this he
[08:51:17] to cover this and it's simply this he says what you sees is what you
[08:51:21] says what you sees is what you get don't enter into a relationship
[08:51:24] get don't enter into a relationship with the intention of changing the other
[08:51:26] with the intention of changing the other person because what you sees is what you
[08:51:29] person because what you sees is what you get people don't change unless they
[08:51:31] get people don't change unless they intensely desire to change and are
[08:51:33] intensely desire to change and are willing to practice some of the things
[08:51:35] willing to practice some of the things we talked about in this seminar however
[08:51:37] we talked about in this seminar however if you just stop trying to change the
[08:51:39] if you just stop trying to change the other person and accept them
[08:51:41] other person and accept them unconditionally with unconditional love
[08:51:43] unconditionally with unconditional love acceptance and approval often they will
[08:51:46] acceptance and approval often they will bend over backwards to change for you
[08:51:49] bend over backwards to change for you but there's something within every human
[08:51:50] but there's something within every human being that resists being changed by
[08:51:53] being that resists being changed by another person
[08:51:56] another person number three cause of problems or in
[08:51:59] number three cause of problems or in relationships
[08:52:00] relationships is
[08:52:04] jealousy now jealousy has to do with the
[08:52:08] jealousy now jealousy has to do with the fear of failure why do where where does
[08:52:10] fear of failure why do where where does jealousy come from it comes from deep
[08:52:12] jealousy come from it comes from deep down inside we don't feel that we're
[08:52:14] down inside we don't feel that we're good enough it comes from this old
[08:52:15] good enough it comes from this old feeling of low self-esteem I'm not good
[08:52:18] feeling of low self-esteem I'm not good enough this is something by the way that
[08:52:22] enough this is something by the way that is rooted in our inferiority complex
[08:52:24] is rooted in our inferiority complex Alfred Adler the great psychologist the
[08:52:27] Alfred Adler the great psychologist the disciple of Freud said that the natural
[08:52:29] disciple of Freud said that the natural human condition is that of feeling
[08:52:31] human condition is that of feeling inferior the reason for that is because
[08:52:33] inferior the reason for that is because we grow up as children in a world of
[08:52:34] we grow up as children in a world of giants where we are made to feel
[08:52:36] giants where we are made to feel inferior because we're so small and that
[08:52:39] inferior because we're so small and that as adults we are continually struggling
[08:52:40] as adults we are continually struggling against this inferiority complex this
[08:52:43] against this inferiority complex this feeling that I'm not good enough leads
[08:52:44] feeling that I'm not good enough leads to feelings of jealousy the feeling is
[08:52:46] to feelings of jealousy the feeling is that that other person could never love
[08:52:48] that that other person could never love me unconditionally therefore I'm not
[08:52:50] me unconditionally therefore I'm not safe I'm not okay in this relationship
[08:52:54] safe I'm not okay in this relationship and the way that you get over this
[08:52:55] and the way that you get over this feeling of jealousy is work on your own
[08:52:58] feeling of jealousy is work on your own self-concept and say over and over again
[08:53:00] self-concept and say over and over again I like myself I like myself or I love
[08:53:03] I like myself I like myself or I love myself because the more you boost your
[08:53:05] myself because the more you boost your own self-esteem remember there's an
[08:53:06] own self-esteem remember there's an inverse relationship between these
[08:53:09] inverse relationship between these fears and how much you like yourself the
[08:53:11] fears and how much you like yourself the more you like yourself the more your
[08:53:12] more you like yourself the more your self-esteem goes
[08:53:14] self-esteem goes up the more your fears of jealousy fears
[08:53:17] up the more your fears of jealousy fears of rejection fears of loss of love and
[08:53:19] of rejection fears of loss of love and so on go down so be alert to jealousy
[08:53:21] so on go down so be alert to jealousy and remember though it has nothing to do
[08:53:23] and remember though it has nothing to do with the other person
[08:53:24] with the other person it has only to do with the person
[08:53:26] it has only to do with the person experiencing it and I'll say one more
[08:53:28] experiencing it and I'll say one more thing is that it is not clever to make
[08:53:30] thing is that it is not clever to make somebody feel jealous it is not smart it
[08:53:32] somebody feel jealous it is not smart it is not clever it is not fashionable it
[08:53:35] is not clever it is not fashionable it is just an unkind and cruel thing to do
[08:53:37] is just an unkind and cruel thing to do especially if it is successful now
[08:53:40] especially if it is successful now number four is
[08:53:41] number four is self-pity where does self-pity come from
[08:53:44] self-pity where does self-pity come from well there's several sources almost
[08:53:46] well there's several sources almost invariably self-pity comes from having
[08:53:47] invariably self-pity comes from having had a parent who was very good at
[08:53:49] had a parent who was very good at self-pity so what we did is we imitated
[08:53:51] self-pity so what we did is we imitated the parent as we grow up we find
[08:53:53] the parent as we grow up we find Opportunities to experience self-pity
[08:53:54] Opportunities to experience self-pity ourselves self-pity is also rooted in
[08:53:57] ourselves self-pity is also rooted in low self-esteem it's not liking
[08:53:59] low self-esteem it's not liking ourselves very much now what is the
[08:54:01] ourselves very much now what is the solution for self-pity very simple very
[08:54:04] solution for self-pity very simple very simply this is get busy get busy people
[08:54:08] simply this is get busy get busy people who are busy people who are working on
[08:54:10] who are busy people who are working on something that's important people who
[08:54:12] something that's important people who have a worthwhile purpose in life do not
[08:54:15] have a worthwhile purpose in life do not experience self-pity it is only people
[08:54:19] experience self-pity it is only people who are going around in circles drifting
[08:54:21] who are going around in circles drifting waiting for someone else and so on so
[08:54:23] waiting for someone else and so on so you can overcome self pity simply by
[08:54:25] you can overcome self pity simply by working on your self-concept and set
[08:54:28] working on your self-concept and set some goals set clear specific goals and
[08:54:30] some goals set clear specific goals and get going on them remember the law of
[08:54:32] get going on them remember the law of substitution says you can't feel sorry
[08:54:34] substitution says you can't feel sorry for yourself you can't even feel jealous
[08:54:36] for yourself you can't even feel jealous you can't even feel angry if you're busy
[08:54:38] you can't even feel angry if you're busy working on goals that are important to
[08:54:40] working on goals that are important to you conscious mind can only hold one
[08:54:42] you conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time positive or negative
[08:54:45] thought at a time positive or negative and then we come to number six number
[08:54:47] and then we come to number six number six is a major reason which sort of
[08:54:48] six is a major reason which sort of summarizes everything that we've talked
[08:54:50] summarizes everything that we've talked about up to now as a major problem in
[08:54:52] about up to now as a major problem in relationships and it is called in in
[08:54:55] relationships and it is called in in compatibility incompatibility means that
[08:54:58] compatibility incompatibility means that you and the other
[08:54:59] you and the other person are not compatible now this is
[08:55:03] person are not compatible now this is very very hard for us to accept because
[08:55:05] very very hard for us to accept because of fears of rejection and failure we
[08:55:06] of fears of rejection and failure we often stay in relationships long past
[08:55:09] often stay in relationships long past the point where it's clear that we no
[08:55:11] the point where it's clear that we no longer have anything in common and we do
[08:55:13] longer have anything in common and we do that for a variety of different reasons
[08:55:15] that for a variety of different reasons one we do that because we don't want
[08:55:17] one we do that because we don't want people to think that we have failed
[08:55:19] people to think that we have failed another the reason that we do it is that
[08:55:20] another the reason that we do it is that it's our comfort zone and we don't want
[08:55:22] it's our comfort zone and we don't want to go through all the difficulty of of
[08:55:24] to go through all the difficulty of of seating but what happens is this when
[08:55:26] seating but what happens is this when two people meet they're like two dinner
[08:55:28] two people meet they're like two dinner plates and what they have is they have
[08:55:30] plates and what they have is they have areas where they are separate here's the
[08:55:32] areas where they are separate here's the man here's the woman they have areas
[08:55:34] man here's the woman they have areas where they're separate and different and
[08:55:35] where they're separate and different and they have areas that they have in common
[08:55:37] they have areas that they have in common now as a relationship develops sometimes
[08:55:39] now as a relationship develops sometimes these areas
[08:55:41] these areas grow and so when they finally get
[08:55:43] grow and so when they finally get married they find that they have an
[08:55:44] married they find that they have an enormous amount in common and sometimes
[08:55:46] enormous amount in common and sometimes they have areas out here that they have
[08:55:49] they have areas out here that they have which are separate as the French say
[08:55:51] which are separate as the French say Viva difference or you know long live
[08:55:53] Viva difference or you know long live the difference between men and women
[08:55:55] the difference between men and women however especially in our 20s as we grow
[08:55:58] however especially in our 20s as we grow and evolve and change rapidly what can
[08:56:00] and evolve and change rapidly what can happen is that we can grow apart and we
[08:56:03] happen is that we can grow apart and we can reach the point where the man and
[08:56:05] can reach the point where the man and the woman now have a great gap between
[08:56:07] the woman now have a great gap between them they have very little in common how
[08:56:09] them they have very little in common how can you tell when incompatibility is set
[08:56:12] can you tell when incompatibility is set into a relationship number one the first
[08:56:14] into a relationship number one the first thing that goes is the
[08:56:16] thing that goes is the laughter is people stop laughing
[08:56:19] laughter is people stop laughing together and the second thing that goes
[08:56:21] together and the second thing that goes is the
[08:56:22] is the Friendship is they don't look upon on
[08:56:24] Friendship is they don't look upon on themselves as friends anymore they look
[08:56:25] themselves as friends anymore they look upon themselves as sort of people that
[08:56:27] upon themselves as sort of people that are forced together now if
[08:56:29] are forced together now if incompatibility has set into a
[08:56:30] incompatibility has set into a relationship the natural thing to do the
[08:56:33] relationship the natural thing to do the best thing to do is to try to patch it
[08:56:34] best thing to do is to try to patch it up try to find some kind of a bridge try
[08:56:36] up try to find some kind of a bridge try to try to put it back together if you
[08:56:38] to try to put it back together if you like try to bind it together especially
[08:56:40] like try to bind it together especially if there's children and a lot of other
[08:56:41] if there's children and a lot of other things involved however please
[08:56:44] things involved however please understand this if incompatibility has
[08:56:46] understand this if incompatibility has developed and incompatibility is the
[08:56:47] developed and incompatibility is the rule you have to go through dozens and
[08:56:49] rule you have to go through dozens and dozens of men or members of the opposite
[08:56:51] dozens of men or members of the opposite sex before you ever find one that you
[08:56:52] sex before you ever find one that you can settle down with incompatibility has
[08:56:55] can settle down with incompatibility has happened accept
[08:56:57] happened accept it as a reality because if you do not
[08:57:01] it as a reality because if you do not you're going to enter into the phenomena
[08:57:03] you're going to enter into the phenomena of denial and the denial is going to
[08:57:05] of denial and the denial is going to cause tremendous stress and resistance
[08:57:07] cause tremendous stress and resistance and unhappiness number two is remember
[08:57:10] and unhappiness number two is remember that if it has happened no one is guilty
[08:57:14] that if it has happened no one is guilty just because you are no longer
[08:57:16] just because you are no longer compatible with the other person doesn't
[08:57:17] compatible with the other person doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with
[08:57:19] mean that there's anything wrong with the other person and it doesn't mean
[08:57:20] the other person and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you it means
[08:57:22] there's anything wrong with you it means it's just incompatibility has set in
[08:57:24] it's just incompatibility has set in remember it just happens it's like the
[08:57:27] remember it just happens it's like the rain when it rains nobody is guilty it
[08:57:30] rain when it rains nobody is guilty it just happens it is the most common
[08:57:32] just happens it is the most common phenomena in relationships is
[08:57:35] phenomena in relationships is incompatibility and one final point with
[08:57:37] incompatibility and one final point with incompatibility is this in my experience
[08:57:40] incompatibility is this in my experience I find the major reason why people stay
[08:57:42] I find the major reason why people stay in relationships that they're no longer
[08:57:44] in relationships that they're no longer happy in that there's no love there's no
[08:57:46] happy in that there's no love there's no music there's no laughter there's no
[08:57:48] music there's no laughter there's no future to the relationship it's because
[08:57:51] future to the relationship it's because of what others might say it's because of
[08:57:54] of what others might say it's because of what others might
[08:57:57] what others might say and this is really amazing to me
[08:58:00] say and this is really amazing to me because whenever I speak to people and
[08:58:02] because whenever I speak to people and I've been in the same situation I've
[08:58:03] I've been in the same situation I've I've never been through a marriage that
[08:58:05] I've never been through a marriage that didn't work out but I Was A Bachelor for
[08:58:07] didn't work out but I Was A Bachelor for 35 years and so I've been through
[08:58:09] 35 years and so I've been through relationships that didn't work out and
[08:58:11] relationships that didn't work out and I've been amazed at how much Social
[08:58:13] I've been amazed at how much Social pressure there is created in our own
[08:58:15] pressure there is created in our own minds to stay in a relationship that we
[08:58:17] minds to stay in a relationship that we don't enjoy because we think others will
[08:58:20] don't enjoy because we think others will disapprove of us we think that others
[08:58:22] disapprove of us we think that others will be upset we think that others will
[08:58:24] will be upset we think that others will be saddened and the fact of the matter
[08:58:26] be saddened and the fact of the matter is as everybody eventually finds out is
[08:58:28] is as everybody eventually finds out is that nobody cares as much about your
[08:58:30] that nobody cares as much about your relationship as you do and if you
[08:58:32] relationship as you do and if you sacrifice your peace of mind for what
[08:58:33] sacrifice your peace of mind for what you think others might
[08:58:35] you think others might say you will never never be happy
[08:58:40] say you will never never be happy incompatibility is a reality if it you
[08:58:43] incompatibility is a reality if it you cannot repair it if you cannot overcome
[08:58:45] cannot repair it if you cannot overcome it then deal with it honestly deal with
[08:58:47] it then deal with it honestly deal with it graciously face it in a
[08:58:49] it graciously face it in a straightforward way deal with it in a
[08:58:52] straightforward way deal with it in a respectful dignified way and find some
[08:58:54] respectful dignified way and find some way to resolve the relationship so that
[08:58:57] way to resolve the relationship so that it doesn't hurt anybody more than it has
[08:58:59] it doesn't hurt anybody more than it has to remember this with regard to loving
[08:59:02] to remember this with regard to loving relationships that your objective your
[08:59:05] relationships that your objective your responsibility is to set joy and
[08:59:07] responsibility is to set joy and fulfillment in your relationships as
[08:59:09] fulfillment in your relationships as your minimum standard set peace of mind
[08:59:12] your minimum standard set peace of mind Happiness joy fulfillment Tranquility
[08:59:16] Happiness joy fulfillment Tranquility make your home and your loving
[08:59:17] make your home and your loving relationship the crown jewel of your
[08:59:19] relationship the crown jewel of your emotional life and settle for nothing
[08:59:22] emotional life and settle for nothing less keep working at it keep striving
[08:59:25] less keep working at it keep striving keep chopping keep changing do whatever
[08:59:27] keep chopping keep changing do whatever is necessary but you owe it to yourself
[08:59:30] is necessary but you owe it to yourself you owe it to your life you owe it to
[08:59:31] you owe it to your life you owe it to your character your integrity your peace
[08:59:33] your character your integrity your peace of mind your health and your future to
[08:59:35] of mind your health and your future to settle for nothing less than a
[08:59:37] settle for nothing less than a relationship that is a joy to be a part
[08:59:39] relationship that is a joy to be a part of
[08:59:54] session 26 how to raise Super Kids
[08:59:57] session 26 how to raise Super Kids perhaps the most permanent relationship
[08:59:58] perhaps the most permanent relationship that you ever enter into in life is that
[09:00:00] that you ever enter into in life is that of bringing a child into the world it
[09:00:02] of bringing a child into the world it outlasts many marriages IT outlasts jobs
[09:00:05] outlasts many marriages IT outlasts jobs and careers it outlasts money and
[09:00:07] and careers it outlasts money and locations and businesses it lasts until
[09:00:09] locations and businesses it lasts until one or the other of you passes on and
[09:00:12] one or the other of you passes on and most of us come into this world without
[09:00:14] most of us come into this world without any idea of how to raise children we
[09:00:15] any idea of how to raise children we come in without any basic parenting
[09:00:17] come in without any basic parenting skills and the great tragedy is that
[09:00:19] skills and the great tragedy is that most people don't make any effort to
[09:00:20] most people don't make any effort to pick up any skills it's possible today
[09:00:23] pick up any skills it's possible today for you to learned so much about how to
[09:00:25] for you to learned so much about how to raise happy healthy self-confident
[09:00:27] raise happy healthy self-confident wonderful loving vibrant fulfilled
[09:00:30] wonderful loving vibrant fulfilled children there's so much information
[09:00:32] children there's so much information available on and you know that about 80
[09:00:33] available on and you know that about 80 to 90% of parents never bother to buy a
[09:00:36] to 90% of parents never bother to buy a book on the subject or consult an expert
[09:00:38] book on the subject or consult an expert or even seek advice except from their
[09:00:40] or even seek advice except from their mother-in-law or from the person in the
[09:00:43] mother-in-law or from the person in the backyard very important today in this
[09:00:46] backyard very important today in this session we're going to talk about how to
[09:00:47] session we're going to talk about how to raise super kids and I'm going to give
[09:00:49] raise super kids and I'm going to give you some key ideas that you can use and
[09:00:50] you some key ideas that you can use and I have three kids who I think are super
[09:00:52] I have three kids who I think are super kids I have Christina who who's seven I
[09:00:54] kids I have Christina who who's seven I have Michael who's five and I have
[09:00:56] have Michael who's five and I have little David who's 1 year old and these
[09:00:58] little David who's 1 year old and these kids are just great and everything that
[09:00:59] kids are just great and everything that I'm going to tell you we use on them
[09:01:02] I'm going to tell you we use on them 7even days a week and I can promise you
[09:01:04] 7even days a week and I can promise you this the law of sewing and reaping is
[09:01:06] this the law of sewing and reaping is true with Children what you sew in your
[09:01:08] true with Children what you sew in your children you reap in your children
[09:01:10] children you reap in your children everything that you put into your
[09:01:11] everything that you put into your children you're going to get out
[09:01:13] children you're going to get out positive or negative but if you put good
[09:01:15] positive or negative but if you put good into your children the wonderful thing
[09:01:17] into your children the wonderful thing is that they will Blossom like flowers
[09:01:20] is that they will Blossom like flowers so this starts us off with a basic
[09:01:21] so this starts us off with a basic question what is the role of parenting
[09:01:24] question what is the role of parenting what is the key role of
[09:01:27] what is the key role of parenting the answer to that question in
[09:01:29] parenting the answer to that question in my estimation is very simple the role of
[09:01:32] my estimation is very simple the role of parenting most important job that we
[09:01:34] parenting most important job that we enter into the role of parenting is to
[09:01:38] enter into the role of parenting is to nurture
[09:01:39] nurture children that's all the role of
[09:01:41] children that's all the role of parenting is to nurture children until
[09:01:44] parenting is to nurture children until they're 18 years of age until they reach
[09:01:46] they're 18 years of age until they reach the age of maturity and to build High
[09:01:49] the age of maturity and to build High self-esteem in those children to build
[09:01:52] self-esteem in those children to build High self-esteem in my estimation this
[09:01:55] High self-esteem in my estimation this is the key role of being a parent
[09:01:57] is the key role of being a parent nothing else is significant or important
[09:02:00] nothing else is significant or important next to the building of self-esteem why
[09:02:01] next to the building of self-esteem why is that because if you can raise a child
[09:02:03] is that because if you can raise a child to the age of 18 where they love
[09:02:05] to the age of 18 where they love themselves they respect themselves they
[09:02:07] themselves they respect themselves they unconditionally accept themselves they
[09:02:09] unconditionally accept themselves they consider themselves to be valuable and
[09:02:10] consider themselves to be valuable and worthwhile and important young people
[09:02:12] worthwhile and important young people they're self-reliant self-responsible
[09:02:14] they're self-reliant self-responsible and capable of making their own
[09:02:15] and capable of making their own decisions that no matter what life can
[09:02:17] decisions that no matter what life can throw at them in the years to follow
[09:02:19] throw at them in the years to follow you've set them off on a solid rockard
[09:02:22] you've set them off on a solid rockard psychological Foundation and they can
[09:02:24] psychological Foundation and they can make their own way and make a wonderful
[09:02:26] make their own way and make a wonderful life for themselves and other people if
[09:02:29] life for themselves and other people if however you give children everything
[09:02:30] however you give children everything else in the world but you leave them
[09:02:31] else in the world but you leave them without this self-esteem if you leave
[09:02:33] without this self-esteem if you leave them without this self-confidence
[09:02:35] them without this self-confidence without this belief in themselves
[09:02:37] without this belief in themselves without this conviction that they can do
[09:02:38] without this conviction that they can do whatever is necessary to be successful
[09:02:40] whatever is necessary to be successful if you leave them anything except
[09:02:42] if you leave them anything except self-esteem to that degree you have not
[09:02:44] self-esteem to that degree you have not succeeded as a parent so raising
[09:02:47] succeeded as a parent so raising children and building High self-esteem
[09:02:48] children and building High self-esteem in children becomes the organizing
[09:02:51] in children becomes the organizing principle of parenting the organizing
[09:02:53] principle of parenting the organizing princi principle means that you
[09:02:55] princi principle means that you continually ask knowing that everything
[09:02:58] continually ask knowing that everything counts you continually ask does this
[09:03:00] counts you continually ask does this build self-esteem in my child is this
[09:03:04] build self-esteem in my child is this situation is this issue is my response
[09:03:07] situation is this issue is my response contributing toward building and
[09:03:08] contributing toward building and nurturing this little human being that's
[09:03:10] nurturing this little human being that's been entrusted to me or is it not uh
[09:03:13] been entrusted to me or is it not uh with Christina my first child wonderful
[09:03:16] with Christina my first child wonderful little
[09:03:17] little girl I have explained to her at a very
[09:03:19] girl I have explained to her at a very early age that she came to me as Khalil
[09:03:23] early age that she came to me as Khalil Jabron explains in his book The Prophet
[09:03:25] Jabron explains in his book The Prophet she came to Barbara and I from God and
[09:03:28] she came to Barbara and I from God and that our job is to take care of her and
[09:03:30] that our job is to take care of her and to love her until she grows up and that
[09:03:33] to love her until she grows up and that she doesn't belong to us and we don't
[09:03:35] she doesn't belong to us and we don't own her and our job is not to shape her
[09:03:38] own her and our job is not to shape her the way we want her to be shaped our job
[09:03:40] the way we want her to be shaped our job is to nurture her and discipline her and
[09:03:42] is to nurture her and discipline her and train her and give her every opportunity
[09:03:44] train her and give her every opportunity to grow and expand and develop but our
[09:03:47] to grow and expand and develop but our job is just to take care of her until
[09:03:48] job is just to take care of her until she grows up and she understands that
[09:03:51] she grows up and she understands that very clearly that we are there to
[09:03:53] very clearly that we are there to nurture her and to build High
[09:03:55] nurture her and to build High self-esteem and that she came from God
[09:03:58] self-esteem and that she came from God and she thinks of herself as being
[09:04:00] and she thinks of herself as being really really special because surprise
[09:04:02] really really special because surprise surprise none of her friends have been
[09:04:04] surprise none of her friends have been told that so these are the organizing
[09:04:06] told that so these are the organizing principles that we use with our children
[09:04:08] principles that we use with our children now no parent is perfect parents make
[09:04:11] now no parent is perfect parents make mistakes parents get tired parents get
[09:04:13] mistakes parents get tired parents get irritable parents shout at their kids
[09:04:14] irritable parents shout at their kids parents spank their kids and punish
[09:04:16] parents spank their kids and punish their kids but generally speaking if we
[09:04:18] their kids but generally speaking if we use the organizing principle of building
[09:04:20] use the organizing principle of building High self-esteem in our children these
[09:04:22] High self-esteem in our children these are the things to remember number one is
[09:04:26] are the things to remember number one is destructive criticism is extremely
[09:04:28] destructive criticism is extremely painful to a child destructive criticism
[09:04:31] painful to a child destructive criticism sets children up for a lifetime of
[09:04:33] sets children up for a lifetime of inferiority complex low self-esteem
[09:04:36] inferiority complex low self-esteem fears of failure and rejection so never
[09:04:39] fears of failure and rejection so never use destructive criticism on your
[09:04:41] use destructive criticism on your children never run your children down
[09:04:44] children never run your children down never use destructive
[09:04:46] never use destructive criticism on your
[09:04:49] criticism on your children instead do everything possible
[09:04:52] children instead do everything possible to build them up that doesn't mean that
[09:04:53] to build them up that doesn't mean that you don't discipline them it doesn't
[09:04:55] you don't discipline them it doesn't mean that you don't control them but you
[09:04:56] mean that you don't control them but you never say you're a bad boy or you're a
[09:04:58] never say you're a bad boy or you're a bad girl or you're a little brat or
[09:05:00] bad girl or you're a little brat or you're no good or you never tell the
[09:05:02] you're no good or you never tell the truth you never say anything to your
[09:05:04] truth you never say anything to your children about themselves that you do
[09:05:07] children about themselves that you do not want to become part of their
[09:05:08] not want to become part of their personalities because remember it goes
[09:05:10] personalities because remember it goes straight past the conscious mind into
[09:05:12] straight past the conscious mind into the subconscious and it's programmed
[09:05:14] the subconscious and it's programmed away and accepted as a truth because you
[09:05:17] away and accepted as a truth because you said it even in a moment of anger so
[09:05:19] said it even in a moment of anger so never use destructive criticism on your
[09:05:20] never use destructive criticism on your children children are very vulnerable to
[09:05:22] children children are very vulnerable to destructive criticism ISM number two
[09:05:24] destructive criticism ISM number two remember that lack of Love or love
[09:05:27] remember that lack of Love or love withheld is the major reason for
[09:05:30] withheld is the major reason for psychological physical and emotional
[09:05:33] psychological physical and emotional problems in life that children need love
[09:05:37] problems in life that children need love and if you deprive children of love and
[09:05:39] and if you deprive children of love and it is not by the way what you think
[09:05:42] it is not by the way what you think inside it is the child's perception
[09:05:44] inside it is the child's perception everything is perception now the child
[09:05:47] everything is perception now the child is pretty shallow at in the formative
[09:05:50] is pretty shallow at in the formative years the child doesn't know that you
[09:05:52] years the child doesn't know that you really love the child unless you tell
[09:05:54] really love the child unless you tell the child show the child demonstrate to
[09:05:56] the child show the child demonstrate to the child over and over and over again
[09:05:59] the child over and over and over again many children have grown up and found
[09:06:01] many children have grown up and found themselves visiting psychiatrists and
[09:06:03] themselves visiting psychiatrists and psychologists and trying to wrestle
[09:06:04] psychologists and trying to wrestle through the problem that they never
[09:06:06] through the problem that they never believe that their parents love them and
[09:06:08] believe that their parents love them and if you talk to the parents they say well
[09:06:09] if you talk to the parents they say well of course I love my kids they say well
[09:06:11] of course I love my kids they say well did you tell my kids well no I didn't
[09:06:13] did you tell my kids well no I didn't tell them but they know I love them no
[09:06:15] tell them but they know I love them no children don't know they as they say
[09:06:17] children don't know they as they say they need the words number
[09:06:20] they need the words number three is remember that children need a
[09:06:22] three is remember that children need a continuous flow of love and approval
[09:06:26] continuous flow of love and approval love and approval is the emotional
[09:06:28] love and approval is the emotional psychological Lifeline that children
[09:06:30] psychological Lifeline that children have to have in order to grow just
[09:06:33] have to have in order to grow just imagine that your children are on a
[09:06:35] imagine that your children are on a intravenous and this intravenous has the
[09:06:37] intravenous and this intravenous has the critical nutrients for the development
[09:06:39] critical nutrients for the development of their personality and the critical
[09:06:41] of their personality and the critical nutrient in that intravenous is the
[09:06:43] nutrient in that intravenous is the words and gestures that of love and
[09:06:45] words and gestures that of love and approval and a continuous flow and if
[09:06:47] approval and a continuous flow and if you cut off the flow it's like cutting
[09:06:49] you cut off the flow it's like cutting off the flow of nutrients or cutting off
[09:06:51] off the flow of nutrients or cutting off the oxygen flow to the emotional brain
[09:06:54] the oxygen flow to the emotional brain they need it every day they need it
[09:06:56] they need it every day they need it every night they need it morning noon
[09:06:57] every night they need it morning noon and night they need it continuously when
[09:06:59] and night they need it continuously when they're growing they're very much like
[09:07:01] they're growing they're very much like growing children need a lot of food got
[09:07:02] growing children need a lot of food got to have a lot of food because they're
[09:07:03] to have a lot of food because they're growing they need a lot of emotional
[09:07:05] growing they need a lot of emotional support when they're growing too a
[09:07:07] support when they're growing too a fourth thing to remember is children
[09:07:09] fourth thing to remember is children need praise praise is what grows
[09:07:11] need praise praise is what grows children as a matter of fact they found
[09:07:13] children as a matter of fact they found that when you praise a child their their
[09:07:15] that when you praise a child their their physiological system actually vibrates
[09:07:18] physiological system actually vibrates with new energy they need encouragement
[09:07:20] with new energy they need encouragement remember children are afraid because
[09:07:22] remember children are afraid because they're little kids in a big world they
[09:07:25] they're little kids in a big world they need encouragement all the time you can
[09:07:26] need encouragement all the time you can do it you can do it sure you can do it
[09:07:28] do it you can do it sure you can do it go ahead give it a try also they need
[09:07:31] go ahead give it a try also they need reinforcement sometimes they fall in
[09:07:32] reinforcement sometimes they fall in their face sometimes they do it right
[09:07:34] their face sometimes they do it right they need to be told hey you did a great
[09:07:36] they need to be told hey you did a great job that's wonderful they need to be
[09:07:37] job that's wonderful they need to be praised and reinforced they need
[09:07:39] praised and reinforced they need patience children need a lot of patience
[09:07:42] patience children need a lot of patience because they're seem to be slow in
[09:07:43] because they're seem to be slow in learning the kindest thing you can do
[09:07:45] learning the kindest thing you can do for your children is to be patient be
[09:07:47] for your children is to be patient be supportive also to be um uh uh loving
[09:07:53] supportive also to be um uh uh loving and also to be kind children need an
[09:07:57] and also to be kind children need an enormous amount of kindness and they
[09:07:59] enormous amount of kindness and they need caring they need tenderness they
[09:08:01] need caring they need tenderness they need gentleness they need especially
[09:08:04] need gentleness they need especially though they need patience when they are
[09:08:05] though they need patience when they are the least patient when they are the most
[09:08:08] the least patient when they are the most exasperating is when they need the most
[09:08:10] exasperating is when they need the most patience from you the most kindness the
[09:08:13] patience from you the most kindness the most understanding the most compassion
[09:08:15] most understanding the most compassion now the fifth Point here is to tell your
[09:08:18] now the fifth Point here is to tell your children you love them every day tell
[09:08:21] children you love them every day tell them you love them every day
[09:08:24] them you love them every day I have been surprised I've been
[09:08:27] I have been surprised I've been surprised tell them you love them every
[09:08:29] surprised tell them you love them every day how many parents don't tell their
[09:08:31] day how many parents don't tell their children that they love them they say
[09:08:34] children that they love them they say well now a kid knows I love them I've
[09:08:36] well now a kid knows I love them I've had arguments they say well they know I
[09:08:37] had arguments they say well they know I love them I don't have to tell them the
[09:08:39] love them I don't have to tell them the fact is that kids need to know and the
[09:08:41] fact is that kids need to know and the reason of course that we don't is why
[09:08:42] reason of course that we don't is why it's CU our parents never told us that
[09:08:43] it's CU our parents never told us that they loved us if we grew up in a
[09:08:45] they loved us if we grew up in a household where our parents never said I
[09:08:46] household where our parents never said I love you and I care for you and I wish
[09:08:48] love you and I care for you and I wish the very best for you and they never
[09:08:50] the very best for you and they never gave us praise and encouragement we'll
[09:08:51] gave us praise and encouragement we'll grow up being very uncomfortable but
[09:08:53] grow up being very uncomfortable but I'll tell you this that if you'll tell
[09:08:55] I'll tell you this that if you'll tell your kids you love them on a regular
[09:08:56] your kids you love them on a regular basis they'll tell you back and they
[09:08:58] basis they'll tell you back and they will teach you how to love so learn to
[09:09:01] will teach you how to love so learn to use the words over and over again now
[09:09:02] use the words over and over again now here's four behaviors that parents can
[09:09:05] here's four behaviors that parents can use to tell their children that they
[09:09:07] use to tell their children that they really love them behavior number one is
[09:09:10] really love them behavior number one is the greatest gift that a parent can give
[09:09:12] the greatest gift that a parent can give to a child it's called unconditional
[09:09:14] to a child it's called unconditional love make sure that the child knows that
[09:09:16] love make sure that the child knows that you love them 100% no matter what they
[09:09:19] you love them 100% no matter what they do no matter what happens that nothing
[09:09:22] do no matter what happens that nothing in the world can ever stop you from
[09:09:24] in the world can ever stop you from loving them 100% it's absolutely
[09:09:27] loving them 100% it's absolutely Critical with my little girl and my
[09:09:29] Critical with my little girl and my little boy I have a little game with
[09:09:31] little boy I have a little game with them that I play with him called The
[09:09:32] them that I play with him called The Love Game and I asked them how much do I
[09:09:35] Love Game and I asked them how much do I love you and we go through a game and
[09:09:36] love you and we go through a game and they say well this much I say come on
[09:09:38] they say well this much I say come on now I say this much come on if this much
[09:09:40] now I say this much come on if this much and finally they say this much and I
[09:09:42] and finally they say this much and I said well what about when I shout at you
[09:09:44] said well what about when I shout at you they say well you still love me this
[09:09:45] they say well you still love me this much I say what about when I put you in
[09:09:48] much I say what about when I put you in your bedroom they say you still love us
[09:09:50] your bedroom they say you still love us this much I say what about when I shout
[09:09:52] this much I say what about when I shout at you and put you in your your bedroom
[09:09:53] at you and put you in your your bedroom make you stand in the corner they say
[09:09:56] make you stand in the corner they say you still love us this much daddy cuz no
[09:09:58] you still love us this much daddy cuz no matter what we do you love us all the
[09:10:00] matter what we do you love us all the time now that's the very kindest thing
[09:10:03] time now that's the very kindest thing that you can ever convince your kids of
[09:10:05] that you can ever convince your kids of I do this to condition them I do this
[09:10:07] I do this to condition them I do this because I want it driven so down deep
[09:10:09] because I want it driven so down deep into their subconscious mind that they
[09:10:11] into their subconscious mind that they are so totally loved that they can go
[09:10:13] are so totally loved that they can go throughout their life as little kids
[09:10:15] throughout their life as little kids growing up and never never never
[09:10:17] growing up and never never never question that their mommy and daddy
[09:10:19] question that their mommy and daddy really love them remember the phenomenon
[09:10:21] really love them remember the phenomenon of conditional love is what breeds the
[09:10:23] of conditional love is what breeds the fear of rejection which breeds feelings
[09:10:24] fear of rejection which breeds feelings of inferiority and insecurity children
[09:10:27] of inferiority and insecurity children by the way who are not brought up with
[09:10:29] by the way who are not brought up with enough love in their formative years
[09:10:31] enough love in their formative years develop what is called a deficiency need
[09:10:34] develop what is called a deficiency need and they spend the rest of their lives
[09:10:36] and they spend the rest of their lives like deanes with his lamp looking for an
[09:10:38] like deanes with his lamp looking for an honest man they spend the rest of their
[09:10:39] honest man they spend the rest of their lives looking for the love that they
[09:10:42] lives looking for the love that they were deprived of in childhood be very
[09:10:44] were deprived of in childhood be very alert to that you cannot give a child
[09:10:46] alert to that you cannot give a child too much love in the formative years you
[09:10:49] too much love in the formative years you cannot love a child too much you can
[09:10:51] cannot love a child too much you can give them buckets and buckets and
[09:10:53] give them buckets and buckets and buckets of love give them all the love
[09:10:56] buckets of love give them all the love they can absorb so number two way that
[09:10:58] they can absorb so number two way that you show your love is with eye contact
[09:11:00] you show your love is with eye contact children have emotional fuel tanks and
[09:11:03] children have emotional fuel tanks and they drink in the love of their parents
[09:11:06] they drink in the love of their parents through their parents' eyes and when you
[09:11:08] through their parents' eyes and when you look at your child with love and you say
[09:11:11] look at your child with love and you say I love you I love you very much the
[09:11:14] I love you I love you very much the child just feels wonderful all over so
[09:11:18] child just feels wonderful all over so say I love you but look them in the eye
[09:11:19] say I love you but look them in the eye do you know that most parents only look
[09:11:21] do you know that most parents only look their children in the eye when they're
[09:11:22] their children in the eye when they're scolding them
[09:11:24] scolding them that most children grow up today with a
[09:11:26] that most children grow up today with a very distinct uneasiness about direct
[09:11:28] very distinct uneasiness about direct eye contact from adults that in our
[09:11:30] eye contact from adults that in our society direct eye contact is considered
[09:11:33] society direct eye contact is considered a sign of hostility because so many of
[09:11:35] a sign of hostility because so many of us have grown up with our parents only
[09:11:36] us have grown up with our parents only looking at us when they're scolding us
[09:11:38] looking at us when they're scolding us and when they're speaking nicely to us
[09:11:40] and when they're speaking nicely to us sometimes they just watch the television
[09:11:41] sometimes they just watch the television or read the paper so look the child
[09:11:43] or read the paper so look the child right in the eye the third is physical
[09:11:47] right in the eye the third is physical contact remember children are very
[09:11:50] contact remember children are very emotional and very visceral they're very
[09:11:53] emotional and very visceral they're very physical and they need physical contact
[09:11:55] physical and they need physical contact they need to be hugged they need to be
[09:11:57] they need to be hugged they need to be kissed they need to be embraced they
[09:11:59] kissed they need to be embraced they need to be patted they need to be
[09:12:00] need to be patted they need to be carried and every single time that you
[09:12:02] carried and every single time that you hold your child with warmth and love
[09:12:04] hold your child with warmth and love starting from infancy all the way up to
[09:12:07] starting from infancy all the way up to when they become grown-ups and you Pat
[09:12:09] when they become grown-ups and you Pat them on the back or put your arm around
[09:12:11] them on the back or put your arm around them or Pat them on the head physical
[09:12:13] them or Pat them on the head physical contact as it says in the song touch my
[09:12:15] contact as it says in the song touch my hair when you pass my chair little
[09:12:17] hair when you pass my chair little things mean a lot contact with your
[09:12:20] things mean a lot contact with your children is one of the ways that you
[09:12:21] children is one of the ways that you tell them that you love them now
[09:12:22] tell them that you love them now interesting enough in in studies that
[09:12:24] interesting enough in in studies that were done in the late 40s they found
[09:12:26] were done in the late 40s they found that infants who were not held in
[09:12:28] that infants who were not held in hospitals and very and embraced while
[09:12:31] hospitals and very and embraced while they were being fed actually began to
[09:12:34] they were being fed actually began to atrophy shrivel up stop taking nutrition
[09:12:37] atrophy shrivel up stop taking nutrition and many of them died of a dis disease
[09:12:40] and many of them died of a dis disease called marasmus where they lack that
[09:12:42] called marasmus where they lack that physical warmth and contact so physical
[09:12:44] physical warmth and contact so physical contact is absolutely essential to a
[09:12:46] contact is absolutely essential to a child's healthy well-being and number
[09:12:49] child's healthy well-being and number four is focused
[09:12:51] four is focused attention by the the way it's
[09:12:55] attention by the the way it's interesting many many fathers have this
[09:12:58] interesting many many fathers have this idea that if you give a child too much
[09:13:00] idea that if you give a child too much hugging a male child a boy too much
[09:13:02] hugging a male child a boy too much hugging too much kissing at an early age
[09:13:04] hugging too much kissing at an early age you'll make them a in fact it's
[09:13:07] you'll make them a in fact it's exactly the opposite The More Hugging
[09:13:08] exactly the opposite The More Hugging the more kissing the more physical
[09:13:10] the more kissing the more physical contact that a little boy has with his
[09:13:12] contact that a little boy has with his mother and father and especially his
[09:13:13] mother and father and especially his father the more masculine the more self
[09:13:16] father the more masculine the more self assured the more self-confident he grows
[09:13:18] assured the more self-confident he grows up the less he gets the more insecure
[09:13:20] up the less he gets the more insecure the more Angry the more stressed he is
[09:13:23] the more Angry the more stressed he is so remember that you can't give a child
[09:13:25] so remember that you can't give a child male or female more physical too much
[09:13:27] male or female more physical too much physical contact and focused attention
[09:13:29] physical contact and focused attention means that you spend time with the child
[09:13:31] means that you spend time with the child every day just you and the child walking
[09:13:34] every day just you and the child walking talking listening no television no
[09:13:36] talking listening no television no newspaper no one else just a few minutes
[09:13:38] newspaper no one else just a few minutes a day that tells the child that the
[09:13:40] a day that tells the child that the child is really valuable you see parents
[09:13:43] child is really valuable you see parents children whose parents don't spend time
[09:13:45] children whose parents don't spend time with them alone are convinced that the
[09:13:47] with them alone are convinced that the reason mommy and daddy is not doing it
[09:13:49] reason mommy and daddy is not doing it is because there's something wrong with
[09:13:51] is because there's something wrong with me they don't know that the parents are
[09:13:53] me they don't know that the parents are busy or doing something else they just
[09:13:55] busy or doing something else they just feel that there's something defective
[09:13:57] feel that there's something defective about them and that's why the parents
[09:13:59] about them and that's why the parents don't spend the time with them so be
[09:14:01] don't spend the time with them so be very careful it's the perception of the
[09:14:02] very careful it's the perception of the child not the reality all right now the
[09:14:05] child not the reality all right now the next number six is positive
[09:14:08] next number six is positive expectations positive expectations were
[09:14:10] expectations positive expectations were found by Dr David mclen of Harvard
[09:14:12] found by Dr David mclen of Harvard University to be one of the best single
[09:14:15] University to be one of the best single determinants of Peak Performance as a
[09:14:18] determinants of Peak Performance as a young person positive expectations of
[09:14:21] young person positive expectations of the child by the parent causes the child
[09:14:23] the child by the parent causes the child to do everything possible to grow up and
[09:14:26] to do everything possible to grow up and fulfill the parents' expectations as a
[09:14:29] fulfill the parents' expectations as a matter of fact he found that there were
[09:14:30] matter of fact he found that there were two things one was a democratic
[09:14:32] two things one was a democratic household that in a democratic household
[09:14:34] household that in a democratic household where the child was expected to
[09:14:36] where the child was expected to contribute his or her opinion at an
[09:14:38] contribute his or her opinion at an early age and in a democrat in a
[09:14:41] early age and in a democrat in a household where the parents said in
[09:14:42] household where the parents said in effect I believe in you no matter what
[09:14:45] effect I believe in you no matter what you do I believe in you I believe you're
[09:14:47] you do I believe in you I believe you're going to do well that these two factors
[09:14:50] going to do well that these two factors alone LED children to becoming High
[09:14:52] alone LED children to becoming High achievers in their teens and in their
[09:14:54] achievers in their teens and in their early 20s sometimes 10 20 years ahead of
[09:14:57] early 20s sometimes 10 20 years ahead of children who were not brought up in
[09:14:59] children who were not brought up in Democratic households where their
[09:15:00] Democratic households where their opinions were contributed were were
[09:15:02] opinions were contributed were were solicited and and valued and where their
[09:15:05] solicited and and valued and where their parents expressed negative expectations
[09:15:08] parents expressed negative expectations like remember that you've heard many
[09:15:09] like remember that you've heard many times kid works hard comes home with
[09:15:11] times kid works hard comes home with five A's and a b first thing the parent
[09:15:13] five A's and a b first thing the parent says is what's this B not look how great
[09:15:15] says is what's this B not look how great the A's are but what's the be what this
[09:15:18] the A's are but what's the be what this does is it completely demoralizes the
[09:15:20] does is it completely demoralizes the child so positive expectations are
[09:15:22] child so positive expectations are critical to the growth of a healthy
[09:15:23] critical to the growth of a healthy personality number seven is teach your
[09:15:25] personality number seven is teach your children to say I like myself from an
[09:15:27] children to say I like myself from an early age teach your children to say I
[09:15:30] early age teach your children to say I like myself from an early age I like
[09:15:33] like myself from an early age I like myself I like myself I like myself you
[09:15:35] myself I like myself I like myself you see high con High self-concept children
[09:15:37] see high con High self-concept children High self-esteemed children like
[09:15:40] High self-esteemed children like themselves too much to get into trouble
[09:15:41] themselves too much to get into trouble at school they get better grades they're
[09:15:43] at school they get better grades they're more popular they're better liked by
[09:15:45] more popular they're better liked by their schoolmates and by their teachers
[09:15:47] their schoolmates and by their teachers they have much less a tendency to use
[09:15:49] they have much less a tendency to use drugs they have much more resistance to
[09:15:51] drugs they have much more resistance to peer pressure they don't get into
[09:15:53] peer pressure they don't get into trouble they don't vandalize so teach
[09:15:55] trouble they don't vandalize so teach your children to say I like myself I
[09:15:56] your children to say I like myself I like myself I like myself with our
[09:15:58] like myself I like myself with our children we taught them as soon as they
[09:16:00] children we taught them as soon as they could talk to say I like myself and I
[09:16:02] could talk to say I like myself and I love myself I love myself I love myself
[09:16:05] love myself I love myself I love myself and they stand in front of the mirror
[09:16:06] and they stand in front of the mirror and they look in the mirror and they say
[09:16:07] and they look in the mirror and they say I love myself I love myself and they act
[09:16:10] I love myself I love myself and they act like they love themselves people come up
[09:16:11] like they love themselves people come up to us on the street and they say and
[09:16:13] to us on the street and they say and this is great they say to us those kids
[09:16:16] this is great they say to us those kids aren't afraid of anything those kids
[09:16:18] aren't afraid of anything those kids aren't afraid of anything and that was
[09:16:21] aren't afraid of anything and that was our great desire after we came from very
[09:16:24] our great desire after we came from very negative childhoods and very
[09:16:25] negative childhoods and very destructively critical parents we wanted
[09:16:27] destructively critical parents we wanted our kids to grow up not to be afraid so
[09:16:30] our kids to grow up not to be afraid so this is these are the things that you do
[09:16:32] this is these are the things that you do the seven key things to cause your
[09:16:34] the seven key things to cause your children to grow up and feel terrific
[09:16:36] children to grow up and feel terrific about
[09:16:37] about themselves now this brings us to an
[09:16:40] themselves now this brings us to an important Point many parents who have
[09:16:43] important Point many parents who have been through our course at this point
[09:16:45] been through our course at this point and earlier in this course feel very
[09:16:47] and earlier in this course feel very guilty and uneasy they feel a little bit
[09:16:50] guilty and uneasy they feel a little bit tense because they know they've shouted
[09:16:51] tense because they know they've shouted at their kids they've been critical of
[09:16:53] at their kids they've been critical of their kids they've hurt their kids their
[09:16:55] their kids they've hurt their kids their kids are sometimes having personality
[09:16:57] kids are sometimes having personality problems their kids having problems with
[09:16:59] problems their kids having problems with grades schools friends their kids have
[09:17:01] grades schools friends their kids have low self-esteem or feelings of
[09:17:02] low self-esteem or feelings of inferiority and the parents are uneasy
[09:17:05] inferiority and the parents are uneasy and tense because they realize that
[09:17:07] and tense because they realize that they've done to their children what
[09:17:09] they've done to their children what their parents did to them and now
[09:17:11] their parents did to them and now they're looking at the they now they are
[09:17:13] they're looking at the they now they are reaping the Harvest if you like they're
[09:17:15] reaping the Harvest if you like they're looking at their children and they
[09:17:16] looking at their children and they realize that what your children are is
[09:17:19] realize that what your children are is more a result of what you have done and
[09:17:21] more a result of what you have done and said to them than any other reason so
[09:17:25] said to them than any other reason so here is the solution to that absolutely
[09:17:27] here is the solution to that absolutely amazing it is possible for you to undo
[09:17:30] amazing it is possible for you to undo the past with this very simple technique
[09:17:33] the past with this very simple technique first thing you do when you go home from
[09:17:36] first thing you do when you go home from this course is you gather your children
[09:17:38] this course is you gather your children around you you bring them around you and
[09:17:41] around you you bring them around you and you sit them down and you apologize to
[09:17:44] you sit them down and you apologize to them for all of your hitherto
[09:17:46] them for all of your hitherto destructive criticism you say to them
[09:17:49] destructive criticism you say to them I've been to a course I understand the
[09:17:51] I've been to a course I understand the effect of destructive criticism
[09:17:53] effect of destructive criticism and I'm sorry for every single thing I
[09:17:57] and I'm sorry for every single thing I ever said or ever did that caused you to
[09:17:59] ever said or ever did that caused you to feel bad about yourself and I apologize
[09:18:03] feel bad about yourself and I apologize and I ask you to accept my apology now
[09:18:06] and I ask you to accept my apology now this is the most incredible thing that a
[09:18:08] this is the most incredible thing that a parent can do for a child because
[09:18:11] parent can do for a child because children want to love their parents and
[09:18:13] children want to love their parents and they want their parents to love them but
[09:18:15] they want their parents to love them but it is the destructive criticism that
[09:18:16] it is the destructive criticism that builds a wall of distrust and fear and
[09:18:19] builds a wall of distrust and fear and insecurity and when you as the parent
[09:18:21] insecurity and when you as the parent and only you can do it when you as the
[09:18:23] and only you can do it when you as the parent apologize and say I'm sorry will
[09:18:27] parent apologize and say I'm sorry will you accept my apology the children feel
[09:18:31] you accept my apology the children feel suddenly liberated like a great weight
[09:18:33] suddenly liberated like a great weight has been removed from them now why do
[09:18:35] has been removed from them now why do you do this well because the purpose is
[09:18:37] you do this well because the purpose is for you to accept 100% responsibility
[09:18:40] for you to accept 100% responsibility for everything guilt producing that
[09:18:42] for everything guilt producing that you've ever done or said to them except
[09:18:45] you've ever done or said to them except 100% responsibility and say I am
[09:18:49] 100% responsibility and say I am responsible I'm sorry I apolog apologize
[09:18:53] responsible I'm sorry I apolog apologize will you accept my apology and your
[09:18:55] will you accept my apology and your children will be absolutely amazed we've
[09:18:58] children will be absolutely amazed we've seen children whose entire lives have
[09:19:02] seen children whose entire lives have been transformed 15 16 year old children
[09:19:04] been transformed 15 16 year old children in reformatories and boys or girls home
[09:19:07] in reformatories and boys or girls home problem children that have been in
[09:19:09] problem children that have been in trouble for years literally transformed
[09:19:12] trouble for years literally transformed overnight in personality I had a couple
[09:19:16] overnight in personality I had a couple of parents go through this course not
[09:19:17] of parents go through this course not long ago and they went home and they had
[09:19:19] long ago and they went home and they had a 16-year-old daughter and there was no
[09:19:21] a 16-year-old daughter and there was no communication she was withdrawn she was
[09:19:23] communication she was withdrawn she was shy she did not talk to the parents and
[09:19:25] shy she did not talk to the parents and her parents went home and sat her down
[09:19:27] her parents went home and sat her down and apologized to her they realized that
[09:19:29] and apologized to her they realized that they' been complaining and complaining
[09:19:31] they' been complaining and complaining and complaining do you know the average
[09:19:32] and complaining do you know the average parent in America complains and
[09:19:35] parent in America complains and criticizes their child eight times for
[09:19:38] criticizes their child eight times for every one time they praise the child
[09:19:40] every one time they praise the child eight times eight psychological lashes
[09:19:43] eight times eight psychological lashes across the developing psyche or emotions
[09:19:45] across the developing psyche or emotions of that child they realized they'd
[09:19:47] of that child they realized they'd gotten into a habit of criticizing and
[09:19:49] gotten into a habit of criticizing and complaining they went home and they
[09:19:51] complaining they went home and they apologized and they said she came down
[09:19:53] apologized and they said she came down to breakfast the next day and she was
[09:19:54] to breakfast the next day and she was transformed they said she was like like
[09:19:57] transformed they said she was like like like a nighting gale she was happy she
[09:19:59] like a nighting gale she was happy she was laughing she was extroverted she and
[09:20:01] was laughing she was extroverted she and her mother became tremendous friends
[09:20:03] her mother became tremendous friends that she and her mother and her father
[09:20:05] that she and her mother and her father began going out for dinner I mean it was
[09:20:06] began going out for dinner I mean it was just like like a miracle I saw a family
[09:20:09] just like like a miracle I saw a family once where the father had raised 10
[09:20:11] once where the father had raised 10 children he'd come from a negatively
[09:20:13] children he'd come from a negatively destructively critical environment and
[09:20:15] destructively critical environment and he had been destructively critical of
[09:20:16] he had been destructively critical of his all his children many of them had
[09:20:18] his all his children many of them had serious marital problems some of them
[09:20:20] serious marital problems some of them had serious psychological problems
[09:20:22] had serious psychological problems problems with with their spouses the
[09:20:23] problems with with their spouses the oldest one was over 30 the youngest one
[09:20:25] oldest one was over 30 the youngest one was 14 at the end of the seminar they're
[09:20:27] was 14 at the end of the seminar they're all in there all the children all the
[09:20:29] all in there all the children all the spouses the father and mother at the end
[09:20:31] spouses the father and mother at the end of the seminar he got up in the room and
[09:20:34] of the seminar he got up in the room and turned around and went from child to
[09:20:36] turned around and went from child to child and said I apologize will you
[09:20:39] child and said I apologize will you forgive me and as he went to each child
[09:20:42] forgive me and as he went to each child each child broke down in tears and
[09:20:44] each child broke down in tears and started crying and by the time that
[09:20:47] started crying and by the time that Circle had been made everybody in the
[09:20:49] Circle had been made everybody in the room was crying it was absolutely
[09:20:50] room was crying it was absolutely phenomenal and the family lit
[09:20:53] phenomenal and the family lit transformed overnight then the next
[09:20:55] transformed overnight then the next thing you do so logical so obvious
[09:20:58] thing you do so logical so obvious promise never to do it again promise
[09:21:01] promise never to do it again promise never to do it
[09:21:04] again
[09:21:08] why to make sure that it's clear and
[09:21:11] why to make sure that it's clear and then finally give them permission to
[09:21:13] then finally give them permission to remind you when you forget give them
[09:21:15] remind you when you forget give them permission to remind you when you forget
[09:21:19] permission to remind you when you forget because you will forget or when you slip
[09:21:22] because you will forget or when you slip from time to
[09:21:23] from time to time and make it let them
[09:21:26] time and make it let them say daddy is that destructive criticism
[09:21:28] say daddy is that destructive criticism or mommy is that destructive criticism
[09:21:31] or mommy is that destructive criticism and you say yes it is you're right I
[09:21:34] and you say yes it is you're right I apologize you will find that if you make
[09:21:36] apologize you will find that if you make it a game to abolish destructive
[09:21:39] it a game to abolish destructive criticism this is your goal in your
[09:21:41] criticism this is your goal in your household do not allow destructive
[09:21:44] household do not allow destructive criticism in your household abolish
[09:21:46] criticism in your household abolish destructive criticism do not allow
[09:21:48] destructive criticism do not allow anybody in your household to
[09:21:50] anybody in your household to destructively criticize anybody else
[09:21:52] destructively criticize anybody else make it absolutely clear that you can
[09:21:54] make it absolutely clear that you can argue you can fight you can disagree All
[09:21:56] argue you can fight you can disagree All Families do that but nobody is allowed
[09:21:59] Families do that but nobody is allowed to devalue or run down the other person
[09:22:02] to devalue or run down the other person make it a game and make sure that you
[09:22:04] make it a game and make sure that you catch each other and get it to the point
[09:22:06] catch each other and get it to the point where a person says is that destructive
[09:22:07] where a person says is that destructive criticism or a person can say I don't
[09:22:10] criticism or a person can say I don't accept that and if you made a mistake
[09:22:11] accept that and if you made a mistake you back off and you say I'm sorry now
[09:22:14] you back off and you say I'm sorry now with my little kids I learned this idea
[09:22:18] with my little kids I learned this idea before my kids came along with my little
[09:22:20] before my kids came along with my little kids what I said to them was what I say
[09:22:22] kids what I said to them was what I say to him is do you forgive me I'm sorry I
[09:22:24] to him is do you forgive me I'm sorry I apologize do you forgive me and now
[09:22:26] apologize do you forgive me and now sometimes we'll have an argument I'll
[09:22:27] sometimes we'll have an argument I'll send them to my bedroom their bedrooms
[09:22:29] send them to my bedroom their bedrooms and Michael will come to me and he came
[09:22:31] and Michael will come to me and he came to me the other day and he said Daddy he
[09:22:33] to me the other day and he said Daddy he said I forgive you for sending me to my
[09:22:35] said I forgive you for sending me to my bedroom and it was the cutest thing you
[09:22:38] bedroom and it was the cutest thing you could imagine I said Michael I'm sorry
[09:22:40] could imagine I said Michael I'm sorry thank you very much I apologize and if
[09:22:42] thank you very much I apologize and if you apologize all the time you keep the
[09:22:44] you apologize all the time you keep the decks open now one final point that I
[09:22:46] decks open now one final point that I don't want to forget is this is that in
[09:22:47] don't want to forget is this is that in order to apologize to your children
[09:22:50] order to apologize to your children you've got to get your ego out of the
[09:22:51] you've got to get your ego out of the way you have to put the mental health of
[09:22:53] way you have to put the mental health of your children ahead of anything else
[09:22:55] your children ahead of anything else when you apologize you it takes courage
[09:22:59] when you apologize you it takes courage and character for you to
[09:23:02] and character for you to apologize it takes courage and character
[09:23:04] apologize it takes courage and character it takes tremendous strength for an
[09:23:06] it takes tremendous strength for an adult to apologize to a child but when
[09:23:08] adult to apologize to a child but when you lead by example you build courage
[09:23:12] you lead by example you build courage and character in your children do you
[09:23:14] and character in your children do you know how many people spent half of their
[09:23:16] know how many people spent half of their times half of their life trying to avoid
[09:23:19] times half of their life trying to avoid admitting I was wrong I made a mistake
[09:23:22] admitting I was wrong I made a mistake when you demonstrate courage and
[09:23:24] when you demonstrate courage and character to your children by saying I'm
[09:23:26] character to your children by saying I'm sorry I made a mistake we don't use
[09:23:28] sorry I made a mistake we don't use destructive criticism in this house you
[09:23:31] destructive criticism in this house you demonstrate to them that they too can
[09:23:34] demonstrate to them that they too can demonstrate courage and character they
[09:23:35] demonstrate courage and character they too can say I'm sorry I was wrong I made
[09:23:37] too can say I'm sorry I was wrong I made a mistake they too can apologize when
[09:23:40] a mistake they too can apologize when they say or do something that hurts
[09:23:42] they say or do something that hurts someone else and setting that example
[09:23:44] someone else and setting that example for your children sets them off on a
[09:23:46] for your children sets them off on a foundation of high self-esteem of high
[09:23:49] foundation of high self-esteem of high self- value and enables them to spend
[09:23:51] self- value and enables them to spend their entire lives realizing their
[09:23:54] their entire lives realizing their potential rather than compensating for
[09:23:56] potential rather than compensating for their deficiencies it is the kindest
[09:23:58] their deficiencies it is the kindest thing that you can do for a child and I
[09:24:00] thing that you can do for a child and I hope you do it for
[09:24:12] yours session 27 finding true purpose in
[09:24:15] yours session 27 finding true purpose in life now we come to the final question
[09:24:18] life now we come to the final question what is the purpose of life what is the
[09:24:20] what is the purpose of life what is the purpose of your life why are you here
[09:24:23] purpose of your life why are you here why do you exist at all why do you get
[09:24:25] why do you exist at all why do you get up in the morning why do you have a life
[09:24:27] up in the morning why do you have a life why are you on the earth is it simply to
[09:24:30] why are you on the earth is it simply to uh be born to grow up to work to
[09:24:32] uh be born to grow up to work to reproduce to die or is there something
[09:24:35] reproduce to die or is there something else in my estimation there is something
[09:24:38] else in my estimation there is something else something far more important in
[09:24:40] else something far more important in this session I want to talk to you about
[09:24:42] this session I want to talk to you about my discoveries and my thoughts about
[09:24:43] my discoveries and my thoughts about what the true purpose of life is the
[09:24:45] what the true purpose of life is the true purpose of life in my estimation is
[09:24:49] true purpose of life in my estimation is to find a mission some of the wisest men
[09:24:52] to find a mission some of the wisest men and women of this century and of
[09:24:53] and women of this century and of previous centuries have looked at this
[09:24:55] previous centuries have looked at this whole idea of why a human being is put
[09:24:58] whole idea of why a human being is put on this Earth and they've come to the
[09:24:59] on this Earth and they've come to the conclusion that we have put on this
[09:25:01] conclusion that we have put on this Earth to fulfill our potential by
[09:25:04] Earth to fulfill our potential by finding our true mission in life EMT Fox
[09:25:07] finding our true mission in life EMT Fox calls this your heart's desire what is
[09:25:10] calls this your heart's desire what is your heart's
[09:25:11] your heart's desire your heart's desire is something
[09:25:14] desire your heart's desire is something that is placed deep down inside you
[09:25:16] that is placed deep down inside you maybe even before you're born and it's
[09:25:18] maybe even before you're born and it's something that calls to you and sings to
[09:25:20] something that calls to you and sings to you and lures you on throughout your
[09:25:22] you and lures you on throughout your life and the reason that we say that
[09:25:24] life and the reason that we say that only one or two or five out of a 100
[09:25:27] only one or two or five out of a 100 people fulfill their potential in any
[09:25:29] people fulfill their potential in any given generation is because most people
[09:25:31] given generation is because most people ignore the callings of this heart's
[09:25:33] ignore the callings of this heart's desire they push it aside they ignore it
[09:25:35] desire they push it aside they ignore it they pretend it isn't there they get
[09:25:37] they pretend it isn't there they get involved in bills and families and
[09:25:38] involved in bills and families and business and careers and this tugs at
[09:25:41] business and careers and this tugs at them sometimes they don't get into it
[09:25:43] them sometimes they don't get into it until later on in life but every single
[09:25:45] until later on in life but every single person has the ability to establish for
[09:25:48] person has the ability to establish for themselves a mission so then let's look
[09:25:51] themselves a mission so then let's look at the men women who have affected
[09:25:53] at the men women who have affected Mankind in the most positive and
[09:25:56] Mankind in the most positive and profound way throughout all of history
[09:25:58] profound way throughout all of history in our civilization in our culture the
[09:26:01] in our civilization in our culture the most powerful person was Jesus of
[09:26:04] most powerful person was Jesus of Nazareth a humble Carpenter who preached
[09:26:08] Nazareth a humble Carpenter who preached for 3 years in Galilee and then died in
[09:26:11] for 3 years in Galilee and then died in Jerusalem but has had more of an impact
[09:26:13] Jerusalem but has had more of an impact on more people in this world than any
[09:26:15] on more people in this world than any other man who ever lived than all the
[09:26:17] other man who ever lived than all the other kings and all the other monarchs
[09:26:18] other kings and all the other monarchs and dictators of History one simple man
[09:26:21] and dictators of History one simple man who never wrote a word never appeared on
[09:26:23] who never wrote a word never appeared on television never cut a record was the
[09:26:25] television never cut a record was the man who has had more influence than
[09:26:27] man who has had more influence than anyone else and Beyond Jesus there was
[09:26:30] anyone else and Beyond Jesus there was Buddha the followers of Buddha and
[09:26:32] Buddha the followers of Buddha and interestingly enough Buddha taught a
[09:26:34] interestingly enough Buddha taught a very similar message to Jesus he taught
[09:26:36] very similar message to Jesus he taught the message of universal love he taught
[09:26:39] the message of universal love he taught the message of the Brotherhood of all
[09:26:42] the message of the Brotherhood of all mankind that all of us are united in
[09:26:45] mankind that all of us are united in loving each other and also Muhammad and
[09:26:48] loving each other and also Muhammad and Muhammad has followers that number in
[09:26:51] Muhammad has followers that number in the hundreds of Millions Buddha
[09:26:52] the hundreds of Millions Buddha followers number almost a billion the
[09:26:54] followers number almost a billion the followers of Jesus number probably two
[09:26:57] followers of Jesus number probably two billion and if you look down the people
[09:26:59] billion and if you look down the people who have been affected by them you have
[09:27:01] who have been affected by them you have St Francis of
[09:27:03] St Francis of aisi has had a profound influence
[09:27:05] aisi has had a profound influence establishing The Franciscan order you
[09:27:07] establishing The Franciscan order you have in our day you have Mother Teresa
[09:27:09] have in our day you have Mother Teresa of
[09:27:11] of Kolkata having a profound influence you
[09:27:13] Kolkata having a profound influence you have my mentor Albert schwitzer of
[09:27:18] have my mentor Albert schwitzer of Africa s schwier DB t schwitzer and you
[09:27:23] Africa s schwier DB t schwitzer and you have people like Florence Nightingale
[09:27:25] have people like Florence Nightingale and others what is the unifying theme of
[09:27:27] and others what is the unifying theme of these people a man named Ralph Waldo
[09:27:29] these people a man named Ralph Waldo Trine wrote a wonderful book many years
[09:27:31] Trine wrote a wonderful book many years ago called what the whole world's a
[09:27:34] ago called what the whole world's a seeking what the whole world is looking
[09:27:36] seeking what the whole world is looking for and his conclusion very wisely that
[09:27:38] for and his conclusion very wisely that what the whole world is looking for what
[09:27:40] what the whole world is looking for what you and I are looking for is some
[09:27:42] you and I are looking for is some mission that we can lose ourselves in
[09:27:46] mission that we can lose ourselves in that somehow enriches and in Nobles and
[09:27:49] that somehow enriches and in Nobles and benefits the lives of other people in
[09:27:51] benefits the lives of other people in fact we have found that we only become
[09:27:53] fact we have found that we only become great to the degree to which we are you
[09:27:56] great to the degree to which we are you are able to lose yourself in something
[09:28:00] are able to lose yourself in something bigger and grander and better than
[09:28:03] bigger and grander and better than yourself that's why selfish people for
[09:28:05] yourself that's why selfish people for instance people who think only of
[09:28:07] instance people who think only of themselves are only to be pied because
[09:28:09] themselves are only to be pied because they never have any Joy or happiness or
[09:28:11] they never have any Joy or happiness or fulfillment now Mother Teresa or Albert
[09:28:13] fulfillment now Mother Teresa or Albert schwier or some of these people maybe
[09:28:14] schwier or some of these people maybe they never made very much money but the
[09:28:16] they never made very much money but the contribution that they made the model
[09:28:19] contribution that they made the model that they set the example that they set
[09:28:20] that they set the example that they set for us has affected more people than
[09:28:23] for us has affected more people than perhaps all the people who may have made
[09:28:24] perhaps all the people who may have made money throughout all of history it's
[09:28:27] money throughout all of history it's only when you find a mission in which
[09:28:29] only when you find a mission in which you can lose
[09:28:31] you can lose yourself that you achieve true greatness
[09:28:33] yourself that you achieve true greatness in life from the time we began this
[09:28:35] in life from the time we began this seminar to now we have been aiming it at
[09:28:38] seminar to now we have been aiming it at this one simple conclusion that the
[09:28:40] this one simple conclusion that the purpose of life your purpose your
[09:28:43] purpose of life your purpose your Earthly purpose is simply this it is to
[09:28:47] Earthly purpose is simply this it is to develop and become a totally loving
[09:28:50] develop and become a totally loving person it is to look at the great models
[09:28:52] person it is to look at the great models of mankind and you'll find that the
[09:28:54] of mankind and you'll find that the great models of mankind the ones who
[09:28:57] great models of mankind the ones who have had an impact far beyond their
[09:28:59] have had an impact far beyond their times Jesus and Buddha and Muhammad and
[09:29:02] times Jesus and Buddha and Muhammad and the teachers and Scholars of all the
[09:29:03] the teachers and Scholars of all the religions have been those who have
[09:29:05] religions have been those who have strived toward becoming totally loving
[09:29:08] strived toward becoming totally loving toward other people they have given
[09:29:09] toward other people they have given their entire lives in service and
[09:29:12] their entire lives in service and service is the word how can you tell if
[09:29:16] service is the word how can you tell if you're a loving person you can tell by
[09:29:18] you're a loving person you can tell by the value and the quality and the
[09:29:20] the value and the quality and the quantity of the service
[09:29:22] quantity of the service that you give to others unselfishly from
[09:29:25] that you give to others unselfishly from your heart with no hope of reward now be
[09:29:27] your heart with no hope of reward now be by becoming totally loving persons
[09:29:29] by becoming totally loving persons there's a very simple measure we develop
[09:29:31] there's a very simple measure we develop loving
[09:29:32] loving relationships that's why we talk about
[09:29:34] relationships that's why we talk about how important it is with regard to our
[09:29:37] how important it is with regard to our marriages there are many people who want
[09:29:39] marriages there are many people who want to go out in the world and develop
[09:29:41] to go out in the world and develop loving relationships but they haven't
[09:29:43] loving relationships but they haven't yet developed those beautiful loving
[09:29:45] yet developed those beautiful loving relationships at home with their spouses
[09:29:47] relationships at home with their spouses and with their children with their close
[09:29:49] and with their children with their close friends so developing loveing
[09:29:50] friends so developing loveing relationships is the highest order of
[09:29:53] relationships is the highest order of human life how can you tell because at
[09:29:55] human life how can you tell because at any single time in your life if you want
[09:29:56] any single time in your life if you want to take stock of your assets if you want
[09:29:59] to take stock of your assets if you want to take stock of your accomplishments
[09:30:01] to take stock of your accomplishments your most precious resources you will
[09:30:04] your most precious resources you will find that they will always be caught up
[09:30:06] find that they will always be caught up in the people that you love and have
[09:30:08] in the people that you love and have loved and the people who love you and
[09:30:11] loved and the people who love you and who have loved you that when you look
[09:30:13] who have loved you that when you look back over the landscape of your life as
[09:30:15] back over the landscape of your life as and an adult or as an older person you
[09:30:17] and an adult or as an older person you look back and you'll find that you won't
[09:30:19] look back and you'll find that you won't remember the money that you made or the
[09:30:21] remember the money that you made or the careers that you or the jobs that you
[09:30:23] careers that you or the jobs that you have what you'll remember is the people
[09:30:25] have what you'll remember is the people you loved and the people who loved you
[09:30:26] you loved and the people who loved you and the people who still do so
[09:30:28] and the people who still do so developing a high quality in quantity of
[09:30:30] developing a high quality in quantity of loving relationships is the great
[09:30:33] loving relationships is the great business of Life the people like Jesus
[09:30:35] business of Life the people like Jesus and Buddha and Muhammad and St Francis
[09:30:37] and Buddha and Muhammad and St Francis and others of this day and previous days
[09:30:39] and others of this day and previous days are men and women who committed their
[09:30:41] are men and women who committed their lives to serving others and they did it
[09:30:44] lives to serving others and they did it because they had this tremendous love to
[09:30:46] because they had this tremendous love to give away to mankind now how do you
[09:30:48] give away to mankind now how do you become a totally loving person it's not
[09:30:50] become a totally loving person it's not that complicated it's not easy but it is
[09:30:53] that complicated it's not easy but it is simple number one is accept yourself
[09:30:56] simple number one is accept yourself unconditionally accept yourself as a
[09:30:59] unconditionally accept yourself as a valuable and worthwhile human beings
[09:31:01] valuable and worthwhile human beings don't be the type of person who doesn't
[09:31:03] don't be the type of person who doesn't feel that they're good enough just
[09:31:04] feel that they're good enough just accept yourself unconditionally
[09:31:06] accept yourself unconditionally recognize that you were put here on this
[09:31:08] recognize that you were put here on this Earth for a specific purpose a valuable
[09:31:11] Earth for a specific purpose a valuable purpose that God doesn't make anybody
[09:31:13] purpose that God doesn't make anybody extra then God Don't Make No Junk that
[09:31:15] extra then God Don't Make No Junk that there is nobody on this earth that is
[09:31:17] there is nobody on this earth that is here for no reason everybody has a
[09:31:19] here for no reason everybody has a purpose and your purpose is to find your
[09:31:21] purpose and your purpose is to find your purpose your purpose is to find your
[09:31:23] purpose your purpose is to find your mission the place where you can make a
[09:31:25] mission the place where you can make a significant contribution the second part
[09:31:28] significant contribution the second part of becoming a totally loving person is
[09:31:30] of becoming a totally loving person is to accept total responsibility for
[09:31:33] to accept total responsibility for everything that you are and everything
[09:31:34] everything that you are and everything that you become accept total
[09:31:36] that you become accept total responsibility which means no blaming no
[09:31:41] responsibility which means no blaming no excuses just get on with it number three
[09:31:45] excuses just get on with it number three is learn to
[09:31:47] is learn to forgive again the key to the kingdom of
[09:31:51] forgive again the key to the kingdom of heaven is forgiveness the key to the
[09:31:54] heaven is forgiveness the key to the kingdom of heaven the key to all
[09:31:55] kingdom of heaven the key to all Spiritual Development the Straight Gate
[09:31:58] Spiritual Development the Straight Gate is forgiveness the ability to freely
[09:32:01] is forgiveness the ability to freely forgive other people no grudges no anger
[09:32:05] forgive other people no grudges no anger no frustration no grudges just let go of
[09:32:08] no frustration no grudges just let go of all grievances against you that's why it
[09:32:10] all grievances against you that's why it says in the Lord's Prayer it says and
[09:32:12] says in the Lord's Prayer it says and forgive us our sins as we forgive those
[09:32:15] forgive us our sins as we forgive those who who have sinned against us number
[09:32:17] who who have sinned against us number four is feed your mind with Loving
[09:32:20] four is feed your mind with Loving Thoughts feed your mind with loving
[09:32:23] Thoughts feed your mind with loving positive thoughts don't feed your mind
[09:32:26] positive thoughts don't feed your mind with mental candy don't feed your mind
[09:32:27] with mental candy don't feed your mind with mental junk feed your mind with a
[09:32:30] with mental junk feed your mind with a kind of thoughts that are consistent
[09:32:32] kind of thoughts that are consistent with you becoming the very best person
[09:32:34] with you becoming the very best person that you can possibly be number five is
[09:32:37] that you can possibly be number five is set noble goals and work toward them set
[09:32:41] set noble goals and work toward them set noble goals and ideals to be the guiding
[09:32:44] noble goals and ideals to be the guiding lights of your life Noble ideals and
[09:32:46] lights of your life Noble ideals and values say to yourself are these the
[09:32:49] values say to yourself are these the values are these the goals are these the
[09:32:51] values are these the goals are these the ideals of the very best person that you
[09:32:53] ideals of the very best person that you could possibly be number six is take
[09:32:56] could possibly be number six is take good care of your body take good care of
[09:32:59] good care of your body take good care of your body remember the body is the
[09:33:01] your body remember the body is the Temple of the Soul take good care of
[09:33:03] Temple of the Soul take good care of your body put into it good food give it
[09:33:06] your body put into it good food give it good exercise give it good rest give it
[09:33:08] good exercise give it good rest give it good nutrition take good care of your
[09:33:10] good nutrition take good care of your body and number seven practice the
[09:33:12] body and number seven practice the Golden Rule practice the golden rule in
[09:33:15] Golden Rule practice the golden rule in that practice kindness patience
[09:33:18] that practice kindness patience tolerance more than anything else
[09:33:20] tolerance more than anything else tolerance of the diversity and
[09:33:21] tolerance of the diversity and difference of other
[09:33:23] difference of other people toward others love understanding
[09:33:27] people toward others love understanding compassion remember everybody in the
[09:33:29] compassion remember everybody in the world is carrying a heavy load now as
[09:33:31] world is carrying a heavy load now as you practice these principles you will
[09:33:35] you practice these principles you will start to become a more and more loving
[09:33:37] start to become a more and more loving person as you practice these principles
[09:33:39] person as you practice these principles you will find yourself drawn almost
[09:33:42] you will find yourself drawn almost inevitably almost inexorably you'll find
[09:33:45] inevitably almost inexorably you'll find yourself drawn toward your mission
[09:33:47] yourself drawn toward your mission you'll find yourself drawn toward the
[09:33:49] you'll find yourself drawn toward the area of service now believe me one of
[09:33:52] area of service now believe me one of the best areas of service in the whole
[09:33:54] the best areas of service in the whole world is the business world because our
[09:33:56] world is the business world because our free enterprise system is based on
[09:33:58] free enterprise system is based on serving other human beings but you can
[09:34:00] serving other human beings but you can serve other people in any profession in
[09:34:03] serve other people in any profession in any capacity you'll have an opportunity
[09:34:05] any capacity you'll have an opportunity to give and to increase the quality and
[09:34:07] to give and to increase the quality and quantity of your service to others to
[09:34:09] quantity of your service to others to enhance and enrich and uplift the lives
[09:34:12] enhance and enrich and uplift the lives of other people remember you're put on
[09:34:14] of other people remember you're put on this Earth to do something for other
[09:34:16] this Earth to do something for other people the measure of how well you're
[09:34:18] people the measure of how well you're doing as a human being is very simply
[09:34:21] doing as a human being is very simply this is that you only have love to the
[09:34:24] this is that you only have love to the degree to which you express love to
[09:34:27] degree to which you express love to others you only have love to the degree
[09:34:30] others you only have love to the degree to which you express love to others in
[09:34:33] to which you express love to others in other words you do not have love in
[09:34:35] other words you do not have love in isolation of other human beings you
[09:34:38] isolation of other human beings you cannot say I am a loving person without
[09:34:40] cannot say I am a loving person without having loving relationships as the proof
[09:34:43] having loving relationships as the proof if you like you can only have love to
[09:34:45] if you like you can only have love to the degree to which you feel love for
[09:34:49] the degree to which you feel love for other persons so the more you express
[09:34:51] other persons so the more you express love to other people and that's why we
[09:34:53] love to other people and that's why we are given families and that's why we are
[09:34:55] are given families and that's why we are given intimate relationships and that's
[09:34:57] given intimate relationships and that's why children are sent to us to teach us
[09:34:59] why children are sent to us to teach us to develop our breadth and depth and
[09:35:01] to develop our breadth and depth and capacity for love in such a way that we
[09:35:03] capacity for love in such a way that we could never learn otherwise so we
[09:35:06] could never learn otherwise so we express love to others and then once you
[09:35:09] express love to others and then once you develop love for yourself by accepting
[09:35:12] develop love for yourself by accepting yourself unconditionally practice giving
[09:35:14] yourself unconditionally practice giving your love away practice giving your love
[09:35:18] your love away practice giving your love away you see an interesting thing about
[09:35:20] away you see an interesting thing about love is that
[09:35:23] love is that love only Grows by sharing that love
[09:35:27] love only Grows by sharing that love only Grows by sharing you cannot have
[09:35:28] only Grows by sharing you cannot have any more love than you have right at
[09:35:30] any more love than you have right at this moment in your life except to the
[09:35:32] this moment in your life except to the degree to which you give it away to
[09:35:34] degree to which you give it away to other people so love only Grows by
[09:35:41] sharing now the wonderful thing is that
[09:35:44] sharing now the wonderful thing is that the more you give away the more you have
[09:35:47] the more you give away the more you have the more You Give Love Away the more you
[09:35:49] the more You Give Love Away the more you have so the more you give the more you
[09:35:52] have so the more you give the more you have to give the less you give the less
[09:35:55] have to give the less you give the less you have to give this is where the law
[09:35:58] you have to give this is where the law the more you give the more you have you
[09:36:01] the more you give the more you have you can never give it
[09:36:02] can never give it away this is where the law of sewing and
[09:36:05] away this is where the law of sewing and reaping comes in more than anything else
[09:36:08] reaping comes in more than anything else the law of compensation in that you if
[09:36:10] the law of compensation in that you if you give just a little bit of love away
[09:36:14] you give just a little bit of love away just a little bit it's enough because
[09:36:17] just a little bit it's enough because that alone will cause a flow to start
[09:36:20] that alone will cause a flow to start coming back to you if you give a little
[09:36:21] coming back to you if you give a little bit more more will come back to you
[09:36:23] bit more more will come back to you until you get onto the upward spiral of
[09:36:25] until you get onto the upward spiral of life now many years ago I met a
[09:36:28] life now many years ago I met a beautiful grandmother who had come up in
[09:36:29] beautiful grandmother who had come up in a home where her parents had taught her
[09:36:32] a home where her parents had taught her to be kind and compassionate and loving
[09:36:35] to be kind and compassionate and loving to others and when her parents died she
[09:36:39] to others and when her parents died she went back and met with her other
[09:36:41] went back and met with her other brothers and sisters to divide up their
[09:36:43] brothers and sisters to divide up their possessions and there only one thing
[09:36:44] possessions and there only one thing that she wanted she'd married a very
[09:36:46] that she wanted she'd married a very rich industrialist the only one thing
[09:36:47] rich industrialist the only one thing she wanted was a little plaque that hung
[09:36:49] she wanted was a little plaque that hung over the fireplace of that loving home
[09:36:51] over the fireplace of that loving home home all the time she was growing up and
[09:36:53] home all the time she was growing up and on the plaque was a little quatrain or
[09:36:55] on the plaque was a little quatrain or little verse and I when she told it to
[09:36:57] little verse and I when she told it to me I wrote it down and I'll share it
[09:36:59] me I wrote it down and I'll share it with you and it said this it
[09:37:00] with you and it said this it said only one life that soon has
[09:37:04] said only one life that soon has passed only what's done with love will
[09:37:08] passed only what's done with love will last only one life that soon is passed
[09:37:12] last only one life that soon is passed only what's done with love will last now
[09:37:16] only what's done with love will last now if you understand that you realize if
[09:37:18] if you understand that you realize if you look back over your life you'll find
[09:37:19] you look back over your life you'll find that only the things that you did with
[09:37:20] that only the things that you did with love have lasted only the things that
[09:37:23] love have lasted only the things that were done with love have had any lasting
[09:37:25] were done with love have had any lasting value and if you use that as your
[09:37:27] value and if you use that as your guiding organizing principle in life
[09:37:29] guiding organizing principle in life that only what's done with love will
[09:37:31] that only what's done with love will last you will start to move and evolve
[09:37:34] last you will start to move and evolve more surely toward the Stars the
[09:37:36] more surely toward the Stars the opposite of Love is fear the opposite of
[09:37:40] opposite of Love is fear the opposite of fear is love if fear is the great
[09:37:42] fear is love if fear is the great obstacle that holds us back from
[09:37:43] obstacle that holds us back from fulfilling our potential love is the
[09:37:46] fulfilling our potential love is the great doorway that kicks open all the
[09:37:48] great doorway that kicks open all the possibilities of the universe for us and
[09:37:50] possibilities of the universe for us and if you will practice this first of all
[09:37:52] if you will practice this first of all learn to love and accept yourself
[09:37:54] learn to love and accept yourself unconditionally you are valuable you are
[09:37:57] unconditionally you are valuable you are a valuable and worthwhile human being no
[09:38:00] a valuable and worthwhile human being no matter what happens you are still a
[09:38:02] matter what happens you are still a valuable and worthwhile human being love
[09:38:05] valuable and worthwhile human being love yourself unconditionally accept full
[09:38:07] yourself unconditionally accept full responsibility for your life freely
[09:38:10] responsibility for your life freely forgive others look for the best take
[09:38:12] forgive others look for the best take care of yourself work on goals that are
[09:38:14] care of yourself work on goals that are worthy of you set a mission that is
[09:38:17] worthy of you set a mission that is challenging for you and practice giving
[09:38:19] challenging for you and practice giving your love away to others and you will
[09:38:21] your love away to others and you will develop more surely toward the Stars I
[09:38:25] develop more surely toward the Stars I wish you luck I wish you success I wish
[09:38:29] wish you luck I wish you success I wish you love thank you very
[09:38:32] you love thank you very much this is the end of side two please
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